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Intentions determine attraction?

When someone is just looking to hook up, obviously there is a different approach involved in what appeals to them. You’re not that concerned about intelligence, sense of humor, or kindness. It’s pretty much all about whether or not they “do it for you” in terms of attraction.

If you actually want to meet someone that has potential, hopefully your attraction will go beyond the superficial things like their body or their face. Interestingly enough there was a study published that described the way we select mates when we want short-term or long-term connections.

Do you consider a person’s body (height, stature, etc.) before you look at their face? What if you are looking for a real relationship? Do you prioritize importance of body and face in a different way?

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Simple Man!!!

October 22nd, 2010
9:20 am

Purp…Thats right…. I am wounded and my ego has been shattered….( still following you lead)

Wise Diva

October 22nd, 2010
9:20 am

*gasp* now you didn’t have to bring Warrick into this! LOL

Kym

October 22nd, 2010
9:20 am

Random Thought: I miss the Arsenio Hall show.

YesSheIsCute

October 22nd, 2010
9:21 am

@ 2CPTG, we can’t fly to ECP :’( but I can get to PNS! LOL Not that its all that close…. :D

Kym

October 22nd, 2010
9:22 am

@Wisey I know we all got issues..but short men..they have all their issues..pressed down and tied up in a pint size package..

Simple Man!!!

October 22nd, 2010
9:22 am

Damn Kym…That really was random!!!!

Purple Rain

October 22nd, 2010
9:25 am

Random Thought: The show was called “Welcome Back Kotter” not “Welcome back Carter”

2CPTG©

October 22nd, 2010
9:25 am

“but I can get to PNS! LOL Not that its all that close….”

hour and a half max, and I’m there!!!!!

some’n bout you, just got me wanting to meet you…

ummm, Kym….you’re broadstroking, lil mama….

blue®

October 22nd, 2010
9:28 am

@Kym – us short people take offense to “pint size”, we prefer “fun size”, like the little 3 Musketteer minis that everybody loves :)

Kym

October 22nd, 2010
9:30 am

@blue..I apologize..fun size it is..but I reserve the right to use the words..midgets, munchkins, and Keebler elf.

Simple Man!!!

October 22nd, 2010
9:33 am

There are lots of advantages to dating a short person…Half price at the movies….They can order off the kids menu…You can put them in your pocket and sneak them into six flaggs….

YesSheIsCute

October 22nd, 2010
9:33 am

@ 2CPTG what’s broadstroaking?

2CPTG©

October 22nd, 2010
9:37 am

“@ 2CPTG what’s broadstroaking?”

when one takes a few, and lump ‘em as a whole…

blue®

October 22nd, 2010
9:37 am

@Kym – alright, for now…..
@Simple Man – the only advantage ive found so far to being short is that its blessed me with small feet, lol. the cutest shoes come in the small sizes, lol

Blackfoote

October 22nd, 2010
9:40 am

Morning:

Are we talking about size?
Hello blog wife Leggs: You like my size women do the same as men look you up and down make decisions whether or not your’e suitable to capture the goods.

i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)

October 22nd, 2010
9:41 am

Simple Man!!!

October 22nd, 2010
9:43 am

Blue…Thats why you and I are >>>>>> here<<<<<<<!!!! I think I have said a hundred times..I will take a woman shoe shopping in a New York Minute!!!!

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October 22nd, 2010
9:44 am

i'm swiss™

October 22nd, 2010
9:44 am

Tsk, tsk, tsk…

YesSheIsCute

October 22nd, 2010
9:46 am

@ blue actually the cutest shoes come in a lot of sizes. It’s there’s more availability in sizes that are not common (such as 6’s). I used to wonder why I could never find shoes in my size until my friend who worked in retail said the most common sizes sell out the most…. must be nice to get be able to get those shoes that most people can’t buy! I bet you get them for the sale prices too! :)

Blackfoote

October 22nd, 2010
9:47 am

That………….hmmm looks familiar

czBrat

October 22nd, 2010
9:47 am

HiYas!

the way we select mates when we want short-term or long-term connections.
absolutely! s/o and i just revisited this topic last night over dinner. the more he gets to know me, the harder it is for him to understand that i specifically chose a man i was not physically attracted to for a buck fuddy. in that situation, the logical me took over and simply decided i needed a distraction that could not possibly lead to anything serious. had i been thinking long-term, the aesthetic package would definitely have played a much bigger role in my selection.

looks like today’s gonna be a fun one. lemme try to read up on ya’ll.

Wise Diva

October 22nd, 2010
9:48 am

don’t start none, won’t be none

i'm swiss™

October 22nd, 2010
9:51 am

[Editor's Note] To avoid having this post removed, I will replace any potentially offensive words with pig Latin:

On topic: I think most would prefer a combination of physical and non-physical attraction when looking for a long-term prospect. My personal aesthetic checklist: skin tone, hair, smile, ooteybay, muscle tone… I think that’ll do… :lol:

“Ok…Now I guess Noone is going to admit that they have, at the very least, Done the deed with someone that was not high on the attraction meter…….”

Simple — Man, I’m not too proud to admit it. I have partaken of one or two slump busters, mercy uckfays, hogging expeditions — whatever you want to call it… I’m not proud of it, but sometimes you just need a quick uttnay.

:lol:

Purple Rain

October 22nd, 2010
9:51 am

Which one of the women here had the big feet? I Am?

Raqi

October 22nd, 2010
9:52 am

and tall men are issue free?

Only a tall man and a woman that never dated a tall man would say YES. LOL

Kym

October 22nd, 2010
9:52 am

@Wisey..did Mr.Goodnight come in testing you..Mr.G..its a full moon right now..you don’t wanna test us moonchildren during a full moon.

Leggs ™

October 22nd, 2010
9:52 am

@Kym ~ I am laughing at you, and I’m keeping my eyes on YOU!

@blackfoote ~ murning. How the heck does a hmmmmmm look familiar…you are crazy.

East Point's Own

October 22nd, 2010
9:55 am

When looking for a relationship personality and ambition are the key factors for me. Its not hard to find a physically attractive women who is in shape and maintains a relatively healthy lifestyle, so it comes down to the personality traits when seeking a long term mate.

http://hispointofview.com

i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)

October 22nd, 2010
9:55 am

C’mon now, Wise, admit it… Vulgar though it may have been, my post from yesterday afternoon had to have at least made you chuckle… ;-)

Kym

October 22nd, 2010
9:55 am

@Leggs..I am being as close to good today as possible. Remember I am a work in progress.

Simple Man!!!

October 22nd, 2010
9:56 am

Whats good Leggs??? Working from home to day So I got plenty of time to activity search!!! LOL

Melo!

October 22nd, 2010
9:56 am

Do u consider a person’s body be4 u look at their face? What if u looking for a real relationship?

Good freaky one folks?!

I ain’t getting inside u if I ain’t attracted. That means I have to like your dark complexion,your legs and your butt.
Coz after we done wiping,we still gotta talk. So that won’t work if all I liked about you was the bright red ripe cherry!

Do I prioritize between body and face? Yes!

Body(legs,butt and tatas) have to be to be tight and aligned and that determines the face rating! Then personality!

I don’t mind being in a long term/bed with a chic with tight body and nice personality but so so to ugly face.

I know our progeny will look good anyway due to my influence.
:lol:

Good morning!

Purple Rain

October 22nd, 2010
9:56 am

I am always good :)

blue®

October 22nd, 2010
9:56 am

@Simple Man – sooo, when we going shoe shopping, lol?
@Yes – there is some truth to that, those common sizes selling out. im not as uncommon as a 6, more like a 7.5-8.5 depending on the cut, but i can find some good ones that they dont seem to have in any other size!

czBrat

October 22nd, 2010
9:57 am

Eyes maybe…usually if there is something about them: different color than mine,
I AM gurl, i had no idea there were so many green and hazel eyed puerto ricans! s/o gave me some space right after we landed and said ‘imma just let you get that outta your system’.

Purple Rain

October 22nd, 2010
9:58 am

Melo’s post made me thing. I don’t like baby teeth, dirty teeth, crooked teeth, or teeth with spaces.

i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)

October 22nd, 2010
10:00 am

Kym — Now you know your boy can’t be shut down that easily… The swiss is with you always… ;-) :lol:

Blackfoote

October 22nd, 2010
10:03 am

Hi Kym:

Stay on your best behaviour, but you can hold your own no doubt on that.

Leggs:

Hi darlin that hmmmm is a directive for someone mind wandering, thinking, or lusting……LOL

YesSheIsCute

October 22nd, 2010
10:03 am

@blue. I can attest to that. I’ve been to Ross so many times and I found a pair of cute heels in my size for once. They usually have shoes in my size but they are always just a smidgeon too small if they are cute and fit just right if they are ugly :lol: . I only go to the Ross on Old National not far from my job…apparently they cater to us, and I usually end up finding stuff that I like.

2CPTG©

October 22nd, 2010
10:03 am

Raqi…..what time did you get in last night????

kimmie

October 22nd, 2010
10:04 am

Good day mates!!

I guess if all you want to do is hook up, any old thing will do with some folk. Personally, if you are just going to be my “toy”, which for me was back in college days, you had to be super-fine. I would definitely play my “shallow” card! Because for me to “go there”, there has to be something to get my motor running. Ugly just will not do it, sorry! Hey, you asked!!LOL!! The things I find unattractive:

Jacked-up teeth, 10-months pregnant stomach, man-boobs, big hips, shorter than me in heels, jheri curl, poor hygiene, blood-shot and mean eyes

For those I’m considering a relationship with, average looks, decently fit body, nice teeth, impeccable hygiene habits and style would cover the gamet as far as more shallow things – just the basics, man. But what will keep me interested, the mind and personality stuff – is far more extensive. There just has to be an almost spiritual connection. We have to “click”. If we don’t, he could be the nicest ever but we’d probably remain in the friend zone.

YesSheIsCute

October 22nd, 2010
10:04 am

@ PR what are baby teeth?

Raqi

October 22nd, 2010
10:04 am

That initial attraction is what it is but when you do want something more aaaaalllll the other stuff start to matter more.

No one wants to be with a person they don’t find attractive however we all at some time find out and realize that a pretty face or banging body are not indicators of good relationship material. Mentally, emotionally, nor physically.

How a person looks does shed some light on how well they take of themselves so looks in that way matters.

Kym

October 22nd, 2010
10:04 am

Random Thought #2: I put my hand upon your hip when I dip ..you dip..I dip..we dip.

Wise Diva

October 22nd, 2010
10:05 am

I won’t confirm or deny *smh*

Raqi

October 22nd, 2010
10:05 am

A little before 11.

Blackfoote

October 22nd, 2010
10:05 am

Melo:

You are man.

Purple Rain

October 22nd, 2010
10:08 am

YesSheIsCute, baby teeth are adults who have small little teeth

I am whatever you say I am

October 22nd, 2010
10:08 am

yessheis: I don’t know…maybe it’s a gift I have.
But for as long as I can remember, I’ve been spot on when it comes to shoe size.