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Intentions determine attraction?

When someone is just looking to hook up, obviously there is a different approach involved in what appeals to them. You’re not that concerned about intelligence, sense of humor, or kindness. It’s pretty much all about whether or not they “do it for you” in terms of attraction.

If you actually want to meet someone that has potential, hopefully your attraction will go beyond the superficial things like their body or their face. Interestingly enough there was a study published that described the way we select mates when we want short-term or long-term connections.

Do you consider a person’s body (height, stature, etc.) before you look at their face? What if you are looking for a real relationship? Do you prioritize importance of body and face in a different way?

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Simple Man!!!

October 22nd, 2010
8:25 am

Moring…
Wow its amazing how early I can get in when I work from home….
On topic….The face is key for me…More specific, Eyes and teeth….These ar followed closely by her hands. Can’t be pyhsical with a woman that has hands that are bigger and rougher than mine….

2CPTG©

October 22nd, 2010
8:29 am

good morning fellow inmates…..

“Do you consider a person’s body (height, stature, etc.) before you look at their face?”
Depends……if you see them from the front or the back…if you spot ‘em from the back, then I’m sure “something” about her back side is what caught your attention in the first place…If you saw her from the front, then I’m sure you did an “up-down” inspection….

“What if you are looking for a real relationship? Do you prioritize importance of body and face in a different way?”
hunh? different way like what? I wanna be attracted to ALL of her, not just some of her! ..however, and I will admit, I can tolerate a not-so-pretty chic thats fine as hell, over one that’s pretty, and bad bodied…. Ain’t nothin worse than a pretty chic with a bad body..

Kym

October 22nd, 2010
8:31 am

Good Morning All,

The height is key for me.. it is the first thing I notice..I have tried..tried tried but I just can’t get pass it. Even if I am looking for a real relationship..I have to consider it first I am not one to be in the shallow end of the pool but on this..I am floating in shallow waters.

I am whatever you say I am

October 22nd, 2010
8:31 am

When you are looking to settle down, the physical will attract you for a minute and then you start to focus on what’s inside a person (their spirit, soul, etc)

When you are looking to hookup, you look at the physical and you keep looking at the physical. If the sex is the bomb, you may or may not start to fall in love (most common with females then males)

I’m past the hookup age- I want something longterm, solidified, meaningfull, etc……
Hookfup have you feeling great for 30 mins-1hr. But the meaningful relationship focused on much much more can last a lifetime

I am whatever you say I am

October 22nd, 2010
8:32 am

“…good morning fellow inmates………”

LOL

singing like Akon ” I’m locked up…….”

Simple Man!!!

October 22nd, 2010
8:35 am

Morning Kym , I am….Kym, How tall are you??

2CPTG©

October 22nd, 2010
8:36 am

“The height is key for me.. it is the first thing I notice.”

Kym

I am whatever you say I am

October 22nd, 2010
8:36 am

features, I’m attracted to
Height
Big Guns
Eyes maybe…usually if there is something about them: different color than mine, mysterious, etc…
Yes… I also look at shoe size :lol:

Features that turn me off:

Dirty fingernails (that means you obviously don’t wash. Eeeewww!)
Long fingernails.
Dirty long fingernails
Jacked up teeth
Bad BO (haven’t encountered that thank God!)

I am whatever you say I am

October 22nd, 2010
8:37 am

Sup Simple dude!

Kym

October 22nd, 2010
8:37 am

@Simple..I am 5′10.

Purple Rain

October 22nd, 2010
8:38 am

Sometimes, we just want to conquer someone who is a challenge to us, we see someone that we are attracted to and we must have them…in those situation some standards are lowered, and after it’s over it’s over. But if she is to be long term the body and face have to be excellent.

If she doesn’t have a fit body the face doesn’t matter because she is not for me. If she doesn’t have a face that I like the body doesn’t matter because she is not for me. In addition to that she nneds to know how to maintain herself and not saying get dolled up for me but make an effort to be presentable for yourself, even if you are just around the house.

blue®

October 22nd, 2010
8:39 am

Morning people,

inmates, lol, i see a topic today, are we no longer running the asylum?

Do you consider a person’s body (height, stature, etc.) before you look at their face? i think its all in how yu meet the person, a lot is determined simply by are the at your or away from you, lol. im not sure what i look at first, its kind of a round about look, do they meet enough criteria to keep looking lol.

I am whatever you say I am

October 22nd, 2010
8:39 am

The challenge thing that Purple is talking about….
That has been my downfall on many occasion :-( … attracted to the challenge
Feelins get hurt

Purple Rain

October 22nd, 2010
8:42 am

I Am, here is one ticket to the “gun show” (as I strike a pose flexing my guns)

2CPTG©

October 22nd, 2010
8:43 am

Purp, Simple Man, what up fellas….I tried to holla at y’all last night, but Warden Diva made me go back to my cell and locked the doors…..I tried to tell her I was a trustee, and I was allowed to roam the halls, but she said, “not no ‘mo” we don’ changed things ’round here…..

Simple Man!!!

October 22nd, 2010
8:44 am

Ok…Now I guess Noone is going to admit that they have, at the very least, Done the deed with someone that was not high on the attraction meter…….

I am whatever you say I am

October 22nd, 2010
8:46 am

Purple Rain

October 22nd, 2010
8:46 am

2CPTG, what’s up! You know the Warden has her Tea Party on Friday’s, so us trustee’s can roam free and make our collections. I heard C-Block just got their commissary, I need to go collect some debts.

I am whatever you say I am

October 22nd, 2010
8:46 am

“Now I guess Noone is going to admit that they have, at the very least, Done the deed with someone that was not high on the attraction meter……….”

NEVER!!!! if your appearance doesn’t get me hot, don’t expect anything else to either

I am whatever you say I am

October 22nd, 2010
8:47 am

…..unless you have the bomb personality and your swag it tight!
But only an elite few possess those traits

Purple Rain

October 22nd, 2010
8:49 am

I Am, I am not muscle bound like that picture. LOL

Simple Man, Well, I will pull a card from the way women omit sexual partners, my answer is “no”

Simple Man!!!

October 22nd, 2010
8:50 am

Ok…Dude is Butt ass Uckey…But he is a gym rat and ripped to the nines…..You passing on him??

YesSheIsCute

October 22nd, 2010
8:50 am

Good morning everybody! Happy Friday! Can’t wait til later this afternoon! :)

Well, I look at height and then the overall picture (smile, eyes, face stature whatever). I mean there are certain features about a person that just draw them to you, even though they may not be overall that attractive….I think it just depends at that moment. You can help what you notice first but you can’t help what draws you to that person.

Kym

October 22nd, 2010
8:50 am

@Simple I have had sex with a short guy..it wasn’t horrible..but again..I am not trying any more. Seriously who wants to pal around with some guy who looks like my little brother?

Simple Man!!!

October 22nd, 2010
8:51 am

(Reading between the lines)…Ok Purple…Got ya!!

Simple Man!!!

October 22nd, 2010
8:52 am

Kym, you 5′10′…What was dude like 5′8 short or 5′4 short???

YesSheIsCute

October 22nd, 2010
8:53 am

@ I am, What does the shoe size tell you? Because so far it hasn’t been telling me a GD thing….lol

Wise Diva

October 22nd, 2010
8:54 am

Good morning, good morning, it’s FRIDAY!!

Leggs ™

October 22nd, 2010
8:55 am

Good morning! Need all inmates to stand against the wall…strip search in 10 mins (male inmates only)!

Height
Teeth
Physique = then I do that roundabout look blue speaks of and look at attire, shoes, smell, etc.

Kym

October 22nd, 2010
8:55 am

There has been more than one Simple..again I have tried..one was 5′8 one was 5′6 and one was 5′7….but everythang ain’t for everybody..and I am official done with fooling with those who are height challenged.

blue®

October 22nd, 2010
8:55 am

@I Am – im with you, either im attracted to you or im not, end of story…i aint attracted to you, then you aint getting none. and me being drunk aint gonna help you either, just makes it more likely i’ll tell what aint working…”sweety, sweety, why are your fingernails longer than mine?”

Wise Diva

October 22nd, 2010
8:56 am

short men get a bad rap!

Purple Rain

October 22nd, 2010
8:57 am

Good Morning Wise Diva :) , I see you are in a good mood this morning, you must have been having awesome dreams about me.

I am whatever you say I am

October 22nd, 2010
8:57 am

“Dude is Butt ass Uckey…But he is a gym rat and ripped to the nines…..You passing on him??”

Yes! Especially if he looks like this
http://www.pynkcelebrity.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/06/jamie-wanda.jpg

I am whatever you say I am

October 22nd, 2010
8:58 am

I am whatever you say I am

October 22nd, 2010
9:00 am

Yessheis:

The shoe size is like a sixth sense to me and I have yet to be wrong.
:lol:

Are you sure you are not looking at little dude with big feet? THat will throw you off right there. Don’t expect much but if you get what you are looking for , it is a great surprise.

blue®

October 22nd, 2010
9:00 am

features im looking for:
Height
And im specifically a shoulders and back kind of person…
nice haircut
Eyes maybe…windows to the soul

Features that turn me off:
Long fingernails.
hair longer than mine, or kept badly (fuzzy braids/dreads, unbrushed, uncut, cr@p)
looking like i can lift more than you (not a good look)

Simple Man!!!

October 22nd, 2010
9:01 am

Ok Kym…. I feel ya… We have all been there….I use to go thru these secret phases where I would creep with ladies that were out side on my “type”… I had my really skinny girl phase once LOL I even had a 200 pounder that was on my team for about 4 years!!! (Now she had special circumstances, So she should not count!!! LOL)

I am whatever you say I am

October 22nd, 2010
9:03 am

I’m about 5′9- taller with 6 inch heels on.

I’ve dated short guys before but by the level of confidence they carried (notice I said confidence and not arrogance) it was just like dating a dude that was 6′4 only better.
I have found that short dudes actually treat me better- almost like they are putting me on a pedestal.
Tall dudes treat me well but they are not gushing over you like short dudes. It’s almost like tall dudes already expect that you will be with them (arrogance)

Wise Diva

October 22nd, 2010
9:07 am

Yes Purple, that’s exactly right, you’re the reason. THANK YOU

YesSheIsCute

October 22nd, 2010
9:08 am

@ I am, I have seen big feet a couple of times with 5′10 5′11 height still nothing. I am not worried about it. Can’t miss what you never had.

Purple Rain

October 22nd, 2010
9:09 am

I Am, you are “Sofa King Retarded” LOL

Of course short guy put you on a pedestal because it seems like you are on a pedestal to them. I don’t care about height. I just like everything firm and smooth.

Purple Rain

October 22nd, 2010
9:11 am

Wise Diva, You are welcome. ( blushing and feeling all shy because the Queen actually talked to me)

2CPTG©

October 22nd, 2010
9:11 am

Cutie….

I’m short….but I promise you…..and I repeat, I promise you…..after one mind altering weekend with me, you won’t even think about it!!! matta fact, next time ol dude starts trippin, hop a flight to ECP (the airline code for Panama City), and come holla at me….

Kym

October 22nd, 2010
9:12 am

@Simple I am full figure. so seriously how does that look..no thank you..I will stick with the tall teddy bears. @Diva..no they don’t they all have short dude issues.

Kym

October 22nd, 2010
9:13 am

Even Warrick Dunn..Wisey..even Warrick Dunn.

Simple Man!!!

October 22nd, 2010
9:15 am

Note to self….Look for teddy bear outfit when I go shopping….

Purple Rain

October 22nd, 2010
9:16 am

Oh man, I forgot that I denounced my throne yesterday. No more flirting from me, women give me headaches. LOL

Purple Rain

October 22nd, 2010
9:18 am

Wise Diva, Kym and the rest I release you all from my sexiness, be free!

Wise Diva

October 22nd, 2010
9:19 am

and tall men are issue free? Honey, everybody has issues and you are going to have to contend with something.