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Dig That
October 21st, 2010
10:32 am
@kym–baby you so right. my bad
blue®
October 21st, 2010
10:32 am
@Leggs – thats deserving of a bytch slap….nice big one, leaving a handprint behind….what kind a mess is that, all the women out there trying to be good women and find good men, and shes gonna send another one out into the world with a woman complex…poor dude…guess thats why i dont do too many female friends, cause at a time like that i would have to break the woman solidarity, bytch slap her and tell him exactly whah he has on his hands….
czBrat
October 21st, 2010
10:33 am
Leggs, i hope to God your coworker is VERY young. smdh
mornin mama
Simple Man!!!!
October 21st, 2010
10:33 am
Morning ARED…..How are you today???
“How many of us could actually make a man or woman become completely smitten without knowing what you look like?”
“Would you ever be willing to date in the dark?”
AmazonRed™
October 21st, 2010
10:34 am
you’re not a Que are you? I’m not allowed to mingle with them anymore.
You do know Purple is white right?
And why can’t you mix with the Bruhs? Did the oil get ya?
PrincessNik
October 21st, 2010
10:34 am
@PrincessNik ~ you’ve been missed!
Hey Leggs, thanks, i’ve just been really busy………
Trevor0529
October 21st, 2010
10:34 am
Of course. Someone will want to raise some heck (not sure if hell could be said. Damn I said it!! Oh well!!) in Blogsville.
czBrat
October 21st, 2010
10:35 am
and i find it hilarious that she had to “go get it”. she accepted it without intent to marry him AND no intentions of wearing the ring. what then? she already have plans to sell it? just ugh!!!
I am whatever you say I am- Fly like a G6
October 21st, 2010
10:35 am
“i’ve done my share of internet dating, but i will admit that if there is no pic i do not respond. ”
Preach on sista!
YesSheIsCute
October 21st, 2010
10:36 am
@ I am Yes girl I am loving that my man lives in Decatur. I hate driving but I’ve become more comfortable with driving since I do the back and forth to his house. I also try to drive him around since he drives a truck for a living…you know, being considerate and all that ish.
@ 2CPTG© If I didn’t have a bf I’d probably fly down there for the day. I did that one time I flew to SAT to meet someone….I do some crazy stuff but when I can fly for free why not? I mean I’ve never been to SAT before so another notch on my travel belt.
@ WD If I were you I wouldn’t date a blogger either. I can only imagine how disastrous. I’ve seen some disastrous results when I was a moderator at another forum….and CPIXEL if any of you know what that is….
Luvbug
October 21st, 2010
10:36 am
2CPTG – So this has recently been or may start being the standard rate (if not higher)??
Yeah, it’s good you have the job and hustle skills!!!
I am whatever you say I am- Fly like a G6
October 21st, 2010
10:36 am
My brother and uncle are ques
I can’t mingle with ques either, they all know my brother
Doesn’t matter if I’m in Mozambique and meet a que, word will get to my brother
Leggs ™
October 21st, 2010
10:38 am
Mornin my dear child (LOL).
@blue/czB ~ she’s 39 and he’s 38. She and the other co-worker laughing telling me he’s has a little money, but has no doubt he’s still paying for the ring. Truly, my heart panged watching her laugh and giggle that she has such a gorgeous ring. I remember just last year her saying she doesn’t ever want to marry again. Of course, we can all change our minds, but to change your mind over the ring itself is shallow, mean spirited and TACKY! Seems like so many has lost focus on the true meaning of “marriage,” and it ain’t the size of the freaking ring!
I am whatever you say I am- Fly like a G6
October 21st, 2010
10:39 am
“……She and another person looke at me laughing saying…”Girl, I would be a fool not to accept the ring. Not sure if I’m going to marry him, but I’m taking the ring…….”
She is wrong on so many levels
That poor guy
AmazonRed™
October 21st, 2010
10:39 am
“How many of us could actually make a man or woman become completely smitten without knowing what you look like?”
Morning Simple Man!
Okay, I have to admit this has somewhat happened to me. I used to moderate a greek message board and there was this guy who always made me laugh and seemed pretty smart.
So we started talking off line and he sent a pic. He was pretty cute and we ended up meeting when I came to visit my sister in Atlanta. He is one of the reasons I made the move here.
Leggs ™
October 21st, 2010
10:41 am
@CZb ~ EXACTLY! She has it in her desk drawer because she’s not ready to tell the guy in the bldg that has a crush on her. Well, if she’s concerned about that, then she must have helped him along with that crush…scheming a$$ women! That should be our blog topic for the day. Awww, neva mind, there’s enuf bashing on here toward females!!!
Wise Diva
October 21st, 2010
10:42 am
Yeah Ared, I was being facetious LOL…but I know some white Ques. I plead the “fiff” on the oil question
Simple Man!!!!
October 21st, 2010
10:42 am
Ok….I hear a lot of Greek references on this blog, I am gotta ask…Why is that such a draw for ladies????
2CPTG©
October 21st, 2010
10:44 am
“@ 2CPTG© If I didn’t have a bf I’d probably fly down there for the day.”
see, that’s what I’m talkin bout…..^^^^^ right there!
LuvBug….yeah, they’re trippin’ hard…..but it’s all good; I researched and saw that one can install their own solar panels….so that’s what I’m leaning towards…..da hell if I’mma go to work just to pay bills….
Kym
October 21st, 2010
10:44 am
@Simple..now when it comes to Greek stuff I avoid them like the plague.
Kym
October 21st, 2010
10:45 am
sorry stuff should be guys..I am not into Greek guys..again I avoid them like the plague.
kimmie
October 21st, 2010
10:45 am
Leggs – That is heartbreaking. Because usually if a guy goes to the trouble of getting a ring, especially if he’s still paying on it, he’s serious. She obviously isn’t. But that’s who usually has no trouble attracting good men. They go for women like that all the time – wonder why.
Life can be so unfair sometimes!
blue®
October 21st, 2010
10:47 am
@Leggs/cz – not ready to tell the guy in the bldg that has a crush on her. – WTH, ok, not even the guy she has a crush on, but he has a crush on her….so still playing the field, enjoying the attention and all, but id be a fool not to accept the ring…maybe remind her of how many women end up in court over that there ring that they wanna show off, but dont actually want to get married. does she not realize it that she gave her word to this man? smdh….
AmazonRed™
October 21st, 2010
10:47 am
Why is that such a draw for ladies????
I don’t know what you mean by this question….
2CPTG©
October 21st, 2010
10:48 am
Kym…..why not (into Greek guys)….I mean it’s a college thing…..I seriously doubt a grown man is still behaving like he’s “on the yard.”
If I didn’t say it, noone would know my civic activities…..they have their place.
Purple Rain
October 21st, 2010
10:49 am
I am not white and what is a Que?
AmazonRed™
October 21st, 2010
10:49 am
We need to fix WiseDiva up. She’s been on this blog for 5 or so years, comes from a good home life, and seems like cool peoples. I don’t know why she isn’t wifed up yet. I haven’t gotten a report that she’s an ugmo either.
AmazonRed™
October 21st, 2010
10:50 am
2Can – Non greeks are usually anti greek.
kimmie
October 21st, 2010
10:50 am
Simple – About Greek guys – when I was in college they always appeared to be the most outgoing. They were always the campus leaders, best looking, fun, etc. Rarely was there a guy that had all that going for him that was not greek.
Of course, now that I’m out of school, they mean nothing to me. Maybe if I were not seeing someone and they had a convention in town or something.
Did you pledge?
Wise Diva
October 21st, 2010
10:50 am
I’m on the floor LOL @ Amazon Red!! how sweet…and generous but No fixups please.
I’m good.
PrincessNik
October 21st, 2010
10:51 am
I seriously doubt a grown man is still behaving like he’s “on the yard.”
*raised eyebrow* sadly I have to say I disagree
czBrat
October 21st, 2010
10:51 am
I can’t mingle with ques either
you aint missin much. trust.
LMAO @ Ared pointing out PR can’t be a cue cuz he’s not a brotha. it could happen.
blue, perhaps she should be reminded how many women get strangled for such shenanigans.
Purple Rain
October 21st, 2010
10:52 am
Wise Diva, can you add a rule that people explain what they hell they are talking about? What is a Que?
Raqi
October 21st, 2010
10:52 am
This is a first, no topic. Not that we even stay on topic most days.
I have a topic for ya!!!! It’s called……
AmazonRed™
October 21st, 2010
10:53 am
Ared pointing out PR can’t be a cue cuz he’s not a brotha. it could happen.
I didn’t say he COULDN’T be a Que. I know there are white Ques.
But I also know that PR isn’t one of them. That much is apparent.
Purple Rain
October 21st, 2010
10:53 am
And I googled it already:
http://www.google.com/search?sourceid=chrome&ie=UTF-8&q=que
Simple Man!!!!
October 21st, 2010
10:54 am
Ared…I have been out of college for nearly 20 years and even on the right side of 40, I meet women that ask “What did you pledge?” I never understood the draw.I guess because I was an athlete, I never felt the need to join a frat, but I am curious as to why a person 30+ would care about greek affiliation…..
PrincessNik
October 21st, 2010
10:54 am
Non greeks are usually anti greek
@Ared, usually its non greeks who wanted to be greek that are the most anti greek {shrug}
I have a homegirl ( a soror of yours actually) who has little or no affiliation with the organization now for whatever reason. Pays her member at large dues and that’s about it……
AmazonRed™
October 21st, 2010
10:54 am
I’m on the floor LOL @ Amazon Red!! how sweet…and generous but No fixups please. I’m good.
Folks on here are always trying to fix me up
… I could use the company, WiseDiva. 
kimmie
October 21st, 2010
10:55 am
Brat – I’ve known of caucasian Alpha’s and Kappas, so yes, a non-brotha Que(Omega Psi Phi, Purple Olive) could happen.
Purple, we are talking about AA greek/fraternity organizations.
AmazonRed™
October 21st, 2010
10:56 am
I am curious as to why a person 30+ would care about greek affiliation…..
Clearly because it’s a part of who they are. I’m 30+ and still active in my Sorority. Folks probably ask just to see if there is any affinity there. I see people who went to HBCUs ask the same things… there is a bond there.
Kym
October 21st, 2010
10:57 am
@2C..Amazon is correct I am non-greek..but you can blame Spike Lee or the run in with the Greek guys I have met both in college and out..but I normally go with the belief that I am not much of a follower..and I found the whole Greek thing to be all about following. I am sure there will be those who are offended but I always felt like the whole Greek thing..white and black alike was almost cult like. I have my own mind and I am not one for blindly following any group without question.
Melo!
October 21st, 2010
10:58 am
Leggs?
I personally don’t blame the chic but the lame dude.
Obviously he has no clue on figuring out women,proly he’s a late bloomer.
He got what he deserves.
Somebody will be :;$&7(4?!?,(,whilst she carries his ring!
LAME!
(sorry for the symbols,that’s the closest to suggestive meaning I could muster due to house cleanig,new rules)
AmazonRed™
October 21st, 2010
10:59 am
I am not one for blindly following any group without question.
Neither are most greeks.
2CPTG©
October 21st, 2010
10:59 am
“I have a homegirl ( a soror of yours actually) who has little or no affiliation with the organization now for whatever reason. Pays her member at large dues and that’s about it……”
know the feeling…..got a letter from my frat tombout I need to pay my dues…..ain’t found a grad chapter where I can kick it….I’mma renegade SphinxMan!
PrincessNik
October 21st, 2010
11:00 am
@2CPTG
kimmie
October 21st, 2010
11:00 am
Amred – They are a great way to network too, but I don’t have to tell you that. I agree with you about the bonds of such organizations though. Greek affiliations, HBCU’s & other college alums, other organizations – all part of the mix that create bonds.
Leggs ™
October 21st, 2010
11:01 am
@kimmie ~ yes it is…all the while skinning and grinning from ear to ear that she has an engagement ring! Hell, she works for the GBI. I need to have her arrested for posing as a caring woman and expose her mask of greed and deceit!
2CPTG©
October 21st, 2010
11:04 am
Kym….I understand….don’t necessarily agree, but I understand…
I never saw it as being a “follower”….shoot, the toughest part only lasts for a semester (at most); after that, it’s a lifetime of benefits, and connections……but oh well, to each his own……
tell ya what tho, sure comes in handy if you’re in a bind, or a courtroom!!!!
AmazonRed™
October 21st, 2010
11:04 am
@kimmie – Right.
I was driving home the other day, after hearing story #11539 about my friends trifling baby daddy, and thought about all the wise decisions I’ve made in my life. Joining Delta was definitely one of them.