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The agony and ecstasy of singledom

Please forgive me dear readers, I forgot to blog about National Singles Week last month! It was the third week in September and during that time you are to declare that there is NO shame in being single.

Well, obviously there isn’t a need to prove to others that there is no shame. Just like married life, there are good days and bad days of being single, unmarried, and unattached.

I have to say that a lot of my life is really really great. I definitely have my lonely moments when I wish to have someone special. These are the moments when I have to take a break from dating.

When you have a desire to be married or in a relationship sometimes the “desire” turns to desperation, which can be a turn off.

What would you say is the best part of being single? What do you enjoy about it the most?

What is the hardest part? How do you deal with it?

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2CPTG©

October 19th, 2010
8:52 am

G’morning….

“What would you say is the best part of being single?” — no stress! when I come home there’s no noise, nothing broke, everything’s just how I left it!

“What do you enjoy about it the most?” — I do as I please….

“What is the hardest part?” — As Morris Day said, “Gigolos get lonely too!”

“How do you deal with it?” — Keep it movin, baby! keep it movin!

SlimNumeroUno

October 19th, 2010
8:55 am

Good morning….in walks Slim, turning on TWO BEERS & JUMP over the loud speaker…

Best part of being single? – Um, not sure if there is necessarily a BEST thing, but some perks are being free to mix, mingle and meet new folks…come and go as you please w/o explanation and not having to feel accountable or having to consider someone else.

Hardest part? – Um, not having that one person you connect with, that understands you that you can experience life with….create memories with…try new things with…tell your hard day stories to…build something with…etc.

blue®

October 19th, 2010
8:55 am

Mornin all!
Morning 2C! are we the early bird crew today?

I am whatever you say I am

October 19th, 2010
9:00 am

This reminds me a lot like that Sex in the City episode where Carrie went to a party and the hostess lost her Manolos. The hostess would not pay for the shoes (she had required that Carrie remove them prior to entering the house). So, Carrie created a gift registry at Manolo Blonik to celebrate her singlehood since we already celebrate engagements, weddings, b-days, births, etc…
She told the hostess that she is celebrating her singlehood and where she was registered (to get the shoes)

Even though my life is really really good right now- It’s hard for me to identify the best part of singlehood because I have everything I ever wanted except that special something.

I guess if I think really long and hard about it maybe the best part of being single is not having anyone to argue with, not worrying if your mate is still into you (I never had that fear until it was obvious the relationship was over), if you get hit on by guys you don’t have to worry about an insecure boyfriend to deal with.

2CPTG©

October 19th, 2010
9:01 am

morning, Blue….I’m always in the office, or up, pretty early….

blue®

October 19th, 2010
9:01 am

Morning Slim!
best part of being single: being free to do as i liked, not having to worry about what someone else thought about my “off kilter attitude”.
worst part: that “aww, poor blue” look from my friends…

I am whatever you say I am

October 19th, 2010
9:02 am

Typo: meant to say special someone.

Simple Man!!!!

October 19th, 2010
9:05 am

Morning FAM!!!!

Best part about being single…. Do I really need to say it???? OK the best part about being single is the chancce to “sample” new coochie on a regular basis! :D :D :D

Worst part??? Having to start over every few months…
All things being equal, I am sure that being married is great, but I love my single life!!!!

For Real (Vote http://www.sos.ga.gov/mvp/)

October 19th, 2010
9:05 am

What up 2C’s:

What would you say is the best part of being single? – PEACE!!!

What do you enjoy about it the most? – OPPORTUNITIES!!!!!

What is the hardest part? – Getting chicks to understand that what I don’t want has nothing to do with them and that they cannot change my mind.

How do you deal with it? – If I believe for an exasecond that a chick is going to disrupt my PEACE I’m ghost.

MissMoni

October 19th, 2010
9:06 am

Good Morning Blog Fam! I hope everyone is having a TERRIFIC Tuesday!

@SlimNumeroUno: You hit the nail on the head!

Overall, being single has its pros and cons just like any other state of being. The catch is to embrace it and have FUN!!! :-D

I am whatever you say I am

October 19th, 2010
9:07 am

okay: I thought about it and here are some things that can be added to the why it’s great to be single list

1) you can poop with the door open (provided noone else is in your house).
2)you can do disgusting single behavior that you wouldn’t dare do in front of your mate.
Example: Guys can pick their butts and smell thier finger. Girls can tweeze, wax, and shave in areas that might freak their man out such as their mustache, beard, etc… :lol:
3) you can walk around your house with your feet in dire need of a pedicure
4)if you are a guy, no need to keep your place clean and no need to feel guilty or worry about being nagged about where you throw your balled up socks or underwear
5) It is cost effective- no need to worry about spending money on Valentine’s day, Birthdays, Christmas, getting the I messed up so here’s some flowers gift, I want some booty so here’s some lingerie, a

2CPTG©

October 19th, 2010
9:09 am

What up, For Real….

and how’s my blog wifey doin’ this morning?

I am whatever you say I am

October 19th, 2010
9:09 am

Worst part of being single:
When someone asks you why are you still single? What’s wrong with you
:sad:

For Real (Vote http://www.sos.ga.gov/mvp/)

October 19th, 2010
9:11 am

Dang.. I thought me and 2Cs were the only ones in the blog. Morning Blog Fam!!

For Real (Vote http://www.sos.ga.gov/mvp/)

October 19th, 2010
9:13 am

slim: do you need just one person for the second part of your post? I have friends all over that I have built relationship with and created memories.

czBrat

October 19th, 2010
9:13 am

HiYas!

best part is definitely the freedom to do as you please and the peace that comes from not dealing with another person’s issues. throughout my single years i really enjoyed getting to know ME.

hardest part for me is the isolation. i have a very small, tightly-knit circle that is my comfort zone. when i’m unattached i tend to not get out and do/see/experience new things. that’s something i really enjoy, but it takes a s/o to get me out there.

i’ve always said that if i’m not married, my relationship status is ’single’. now, as i read today’s topic i realize i’m not single. not married … but not quite single either. not sure how i feel about that.

time to go play in traffic. catch up with yas on the other side.

Simple Man!!!!

October 19th, 2010
9:14 am

Morning I Am…. I feel some of your points, but for the record, If you are a single dude, your gift budget better be on point!!! Xmas, Birthdays, ect are a lot more of a chore when you are buying to keep a squad together than it is when you are shopping out of love!!! LOL

I am whatever you say I am

October 19th, 2010
9:16 am

Morning simple dude.
but if your single, it gives you time to build up gift budget, no?

blue®

October 19th, 2010
9:17 am

@i am – someone asks you why are you still single? What’s wrong with you
- i feel ya :( . why does there have to be something wrong with me to be single? need to strike that question from the vocab…

I am whatever you say I am

October 19th, 2010
9:20 am

the worst part of being single can also depend on what time of year it is.
Being single during the summer, not so bad. Plenty of half nekkid eye candy to look at and for some reason, I get more dates in the summer.
Being single during the winter, sucks like a muuuuggg. It’s cold, no warm body to lay up with to keep you warm, holidays are more for couples it seems, holidays seem to have peoplel suddenly engaged, the ackwardness of who do you take to your office party- If you have a man, it’s a no brainer; if you are mad cool with someone-you don’t want the office to gossip if you bring him, worse if next year you all ain’t cool no more and you end up bringing someone else to the party.

SlimNumeroUno

October 19th, 2010
9:20 am

2C – morning sweetie. Did you sleep well last night? You must’ve forgotten I was in bed with you because you rolled over and hit me in my forehead. It’s all good tho, I actually thought it was sort of cute (being that we are still in the honeymoon phase & all lol)

4Treal – I too have friends that I have a certain report with…however, I still desire to have that one special person tho.

DNG

October 19th, 2010
9:28 am

I would definitely say the Freedom is the best part of being single. Once you get hitched, it’s no longer about you. The worst is spending time alone, no consistency, and juggling around different people going from the one person to the next. But once you get hitched you may get bored?! Everyone thinks they want what they don’t have but I suggest being happy and secure in the stage you’re in for the moment! http://datenightgurus.blogspot.com/

Mo (aka Moeisha )

October 19th, 2010
9:30 am

Morning Everybody!

Benefit to being single – Im a loner at times and just because I have a man does NOT mean that I want you in my space all the time. As mentioned, the coming-and-going with no accountability, not having to worry about ‘entertaining’ the SO. Mainly, being able to hang with my BFF (who is a guy) and it not being an issue.

Benefit to having someone – the longterm possibilities.

YesSheIsCute

October 19th, 2010
9:33 am

Best thing about being single is I can completely focus on me, my goals and what I want to do for myself. I have more time for my friends, work, and school

Hardest part about being single are those days when your friends are all occupied and you are just home surfing the net or watching movies bored and lonely. Also those days you want to be wined and dined or just want to chill out with someone you like :D .

Delight23

October 19th, 2010
9:34 am

Morning all. My $.15 (yep, not $.02; got it like that…today anyway) has pretty much been spent:

Good: Peace and freedom
Bad: Assumption that something is wrong (especially being single female w/no kids), and the Holiday/Office Party scenario I AM mentioned.

OMG. I do not bring my personal life to work so when we have functions it’s haaard. Because my sweetie and I are still kinda new (in my eyes) and the nosey azzes I work with def take his presence as something real serious since I don’t talk about him. Ugh, fam is the same way.

Simple Man!!!!

October 19th, 2010
9:40 am

Laughing at I am’s 9:20!!! I have take a different person to EVERY holiday party I have been to for the last 9 years!!! LOL

I am whatever you say I am

October 19th, 2010
9:40 am

Blue at your 9:17- I concur

For Real (Vote http://www.sos.ga.gov/mvp/)

October 19th, 2010
9:43 am

I having an hard time understanding the problem chicks seem to having about office parties.

Blackfoote

October 19th, 2010
9:44 am

Good Morning:

I’m single because of no drama, no one to answer to, able to see more people till you meet some body you like. It do have draw backs but be strong and you can make it through anything.

Melo!

October 19th, 2010
9:45 am

Good morning!

Being single…best part is the ability to sample like Simple said.

Worst part is as long as you single you always over value cootie until u nutt inside it. So u tend to have an inflated value of all those chics u ain’t slept with yet. :lol: ever noticed how cootie’s value plummets once u hit?
We married folks know it’s real value coz we got the option to hit everday but we never do….

Best part of being married:getting asked ‘what u need for dinner big daddy? :lol:

I am whatever you say I am

October 19th, 2010
9:45 am

Simple dude: it is more than palpable that you relish singlehood :-)

2CPTG©

October 19th, 2010
9:48 am

“I having an hard time understanding the problem chicks seem to having about office parties.”

Kinfolk, it’s all about appearances! Alot of ‘em wanna seem as though they’re happy, and got all the trappings….so it’s imperative they have a date for the company shindig…if they go solo, now how would that look????

i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)

October 19th, 2010
9:50 am

Worst part of being single: the cats. [channeling my inner Stanley Steamer] :lol:

Simple Man!!!!

October 19th, 2010
9:50 am

LOL….I am, I really do love being single, but I would be lying if I said that at some point I don’t want to have a simple Lady to compliment me….When we finally come to terms, ( And I am not rushing) I am sure it will be magical!

For Real (Vote http://www.sos.ga.gov/mvp/)

October 19th, 2010
9:51 am

2C: I hear you, hell I am the go to date for office parties for some of my female friends. I guess at the end of day or the end of the year all that I.N.D.E.P.E.N.D.A.N.T talk has to be validated with a dude. Dayum!!! Talk about ironies……

For Real (Vote http://www.sos.ga.gov/mvp/)

October 19th, 2010
9:52 am

Worst part of being single: the cats. [channeling my inner Melo]

Leggs ™

October 19th, 2010
9:54 am

Good morning everyone!

The best part of being single is definitely the lack of stress, an abundance of peace and quiet and not having to think about another’s feelings (minimizig drama).

The hardest part of being single is not having someone to share certain parts of your life with. That connection that a man a woman is suppose to have. To have someone to nestle with, someone to mingle with. In all actuality, I think the truly hardest part is knowing you haven’t connected emotionally with another being!

Mr. Moe

October 19th, 2010
9:55 am

Morning everyone

I’m gonna piggyback off what mostly everyone is saying. The good part of single life is the freedom, you don’t have anyone to answer to. The hard part is the unpredictability. You never truly know whether you’re gonna be hot or cold so to speak that night when it comes to a date, etc.

Blackfoote

October 19th, 2010
9:55 am

Swiss:

The cats…..LOL……I prefer dogs

Mo (aka Moeisha )

October 19th, 2010
9:55 am

For Real – I dont like my co-workers like that to go to office parties. LOL! See I work with a lot of older people….that equates to nosiness. I despise nosiness, so me at an office party wouldnt work. I could give a rats azz what they think! And if I were to go, I would go alone….cause Im not staying long

For Real (Vote http://www.sos.ga.gov/mvp/)

October 19th, 2010
9:55 am

I am noticing a trend among the blog ladies concern being single. Their “good” appears to also be their “bad”. Example: It’s good to be free but it’s bad to be free.

For Real (Vote http://www.sos.ga.gov/mvp/)

October 19th, 2010
9:58 am

Mo: I feel you but what do you do about those office socials/I can’t make it mandatory but it’s frowned upon with the up most if you don’t attend situation. If you have those type situations that is.

Simple Man!!!!

October 19th, 2010
9:59 am

Say Mo…if you want to really get the old floks talking, I will go to the party with you…. :D :D

Chink

October 19th, 2010
9:59 am

What would you say is the best part of being single?
Independence

What do you enjoy about it the most?
Don’t remember…Funny as much as I can complain about being in a relationship having to deal with the ups and downs I still treasure him and if feels good knowing that we have a connection.

What is the hardest part?
Feeling Alone.

How do you deal with it?
Work on the person that I am through physical fitness/faith/hobbies.

blue®

October 19th, 2010
9:59 am

@For Real – You moon the wrong person at an office party and suddenly you’re not “professional” any more”
Jeff Foxworthy
– thats whats wrong with office parties, lol

I am whatever you say I am

October 19th, 2010
9:59 am

here’s the thing about office parties
Officeparty101: if you are a girl, most of your office buddies are going to bring their SO so it’s like being the 3rd wheel on a double date if you go solo.
If you bring a dude that is not your man, people are going to talk the next day in the office. Is that your beau? How long have you been together? When’s the wedding? How many kids are you going to have etc….
If you don’t go to the following years office party with the same dude and show up wiht someone new, peopel are really going to talk(which is exactly why I didn’t go at all to last years event)
So for this year, I think I’ll go for maybe an hour long enough to partake in free food and libations and then put up the deuces

Melo!

October 19th, 2010
10:01 am

How can u not be stressed when the con we s are inducing anger in yourself. Some of the single folks(women) are the most lonely,dour and the ones to explode in anger at the tiniest of triggers.

Leggs,I don’t get that!

Blackfoote

October 19th, 2010
10:01 am

Morning to the blog wife! How did you like the breakfast I made before I left for work?

I am whatever you say I am

October 19th, 2010
10:01 am

typos: too many to count. My bad!

Melo!

October 19th, 2010
10:03 am

Cobwbs inducing anger