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Spooky single behavior

I know we all like to think that we are perfect and have absolutely no problem at all getting a date. The reality is that every one of us have our own set of unique issues. Sometimes we are the reason a relationship doesn’t work out. Yes, we are the misadventure for someone else.

Don’t believe me? Just take a couple of hours and interview your last three exes. I’m sure you will be enlightened! We are flawed and beautifully human and that’s a great thing. Sometimes taking a little self-inventory and doing a self-assessment can go along way. Are you showing some scary spooky behavior that may be ruining your chances at romance?

Halloween is just days away, so what better time to figure out your own scary behavior! I’ll start: I think a lot of men get spooked when I get all argumentative. I admit that I can get too caught up in being right (um, when I’m right, that is.) and I don’t know when to shut up and listen. My ex gave me a little advice about that “too passionate” about what you believe in and as hard as it was to hear it, I got what he was saying.

Now I won’t just keep quiet to appear as if I have no opinion, but I have learned to pick my battles, and communicate more effectively. I don’t always get it right but I’m making an effort so I think it counts for something.

What about you? What do you think you have done or are doing now, that could spook a potential?

373 comments Add your comment

evy

October 18th, 2010
3:04 pm

@simple: sure you want me to email you? i think the nsa is bugging my comm…

Melo!

October 18th, 2010
3:05 pm

Sexxyc?
not u but Swiss.

he says he poked u…thoght u were a taken single lady!

Simple Man!!!!

October 18th, 2010
3:05 pm

evy…I guess we just need to find someplace other than behind the authorized door….

Kym

October 18th, 2010
3:05 pm

@Sexy you were missed.. Happy Birthday! I will not mention how I am very bitter about not being included in any birthday shindigs.

@ blue..there you go bring up trains again..it will only give Mr..Goodnight and For Real ideas.

SexyCool

October 18th, 2010
3:07 pm

LOL! Oh. Okay. LOL! Gotcha. Yeah. I’m taken. Really, really taken. :)

Kym

October 18th, 2010
3:10 pm

Okay even I have to say that anyone reading half of what we type would say what a bunch of Nutters..but you guys are a pretty cool bunch of coconuts.

SexyCool

October 18th, 2010
3:11 pm

K-to-tha-Y.M. – for all intents and purposes the social on Saturday night was supposed to have been a surprise. At the last minute, I got word that I needed to invite more folk to come hang out on Saturday. However…in my defense (although it’s a rather paltry defense I know), I did post, on FB, a general message about hanging out Saturday night.

However, I actually plan on putting together something else there *SOON*. It’s a great spot. It would even work as one of the spots for the standing meet and greets y’all were talking about earlier.

evy

October 18th, 2010
3:13 pm

@leggs 2:36: oopsie! so sorry – didn’t mean ta kill ya…& ty – would be pleased to attend your next soiree…will we all be looking down blue’s blouse? should i bring props?

Leggs ™

October 18th, 2010
3:13 pm

@Kym, why you have to say coconuts…I can see Melo banging his nuts together doing the happy dance!

Mo (aka Moeisha )

October 18th, 2010
3:14 pm

I see we are still talking about the gathering! LOL! I hate that I missed but know ya’ll had fun!

So what else is good? We decide when th next gathering is yet?

evy

October 18th, 2010
3:15 pm

and will fred be coming? i’ve never seen a pygmy pony…

kimmie- back home

October 18th, 2010
3:16 pm

SCool – Did you see the dude outside of your party place with an Omega shirt on? That dude went to UGA! He was about 3 years ahead of me and looks like he has not aged much since! He was one of those people that has always looked “mature”. He was always wearing that Omega shirt. Looks like not much has changed!!LOL!!!

Leggs ™

October 18th, 2010
3:16 pm

@evy ~ props in most things are a good thing! Sure, bring ‘em.

blue®

October 18th, 2010
3:16 pm

@Kym – oh sorry, forgot about them and the whole train thing…and i dont like coconut, can we be something else please?

Kym

October 18th, 2010
3:16 pm

@Sexy..I was just messing with ya…I was so worn out Saturday night..I might have hit someone with my corrective shoe..I hope you had Big Fun!

evy

October 18th, 2010
3:20 pm

@ leggs: agreed, i like props…rifling thru my collection for something appropriate…or perhaps something inappropriate would be more entertaining…hmmmmm…

For Real

October 18th, 2010
3:20 pm

evy: “i did not comment on the dude’s lack of intelligence” – You said ” how do the guys feel about hangin out with women who are smarter than you” – “Smarter than” mean the dudes you date are lacking in intelligence.

And you then you said “i commented on having to dumb down b/c he makes it clear that he perceives the challenge to be not in the conversation but to his manhood”: “dumb down” means you have to lower your intelligence to meet ole boys level. So, you may not intended to express the fact that you’ve dated some dumb dudes but that what you wrote.

“he perceives the challenge to be not in the conversation but to his manhood” – I just don’t understand how that can be unless you being each sentence with Bytch Please!! Then I got say ole boy had a point.

“i was referring to guys who want their woman to be less so that they can be more without having to reach.” – Again, I do not understand this; if my chick is less then that means I will have work extra hard while caring a grown azz woman around on my back. But if mean less as in caring you around while you straddle me, then again I got say ole boy had a point.

“as for quiet, i appreciate quiet as well, and have been known to retreat to my inner, inner, ineer self to meditate whilst the dude decides whether or not he wants to make a decision.” – Well, well, wellll, so your inner self is deep huh? I like that there… I can see why it took ole boy a few minutes. Spelunking is a craft.

“and with regard to poking me, if quiet is what you are after, perhaps you’d better not – i am generally noisier when poked. “ – Lookie here peach my Paw-Paw didn’t raise no fool. For Real now pulling out his QuietComfort 15 Acoustic.

Simple Man!!!!

October 18th, 2010
3:21 pm

“perhaps something inappropriate would be more entertaining”

fallimg deeeeeply in lust with evy………..

Leggs ™

October 18th, 2010
3:21 pm

@kimmie ~ I asked that dude for directions and he immediately asked if I was going to see SexyC (but using her slave name). He said he thought he was underdressed….

DreamsMaterialize

October 18th, 2010
3:23 pm

dreams: oooo! no! i’m afeared…your…intellect…may be more than i can handle…
evy are you a grown woman or a little girl? you better take this intellect!

SexyCool

October 18th, 2010
3:23 pm

LOL! kimmie – that was my gf’s boyfriend. LMAO! He came because she was supposed to be there. He was *truly* confused when he showed up and she wasn’t there.

And you’re right, some things about seem to not have changed since back then. That dude keeps me laughing and keeps her………challenged.

However, I really and truly hope that at least that purple tee was not quite that old.

i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)

October 18th, 2010
3:23 pm

“…just saying, fmp’s, the right headboard, and a flexible chick make for some good times…”

blue — Very true, very true… Although… I am a foot person, so if the tootsies are cute enough, those FMPs will be coming off so I can suck on some toes while those legs are in the air… :shock: :lol:

SexyCool

October 18th, 2010
3:24 pm

K-to tha….yes…that is exactly what I had….BIG FUN…as if I’d gone “all the way to Ball-tee-more!” LOL!

SexyCool

October 18th, 2010
3:25 pm

Leggs – the whole time he was there, he kept saying that he was going to go change and come back. I was like, “Really, dude, you don’t have to.”

Simple Man!!!!

October 18th, 2010
3:26 pm

SCool..You from Baltimore???

Leggs ™

October 18th, 2010
3:27 pm

@Kym ~ I am now very sleepy and not sure if I’ve said this. I enjoyed meeting you, thanks for coming as quickly as you did. Love your quick wit!

kimmie- back home

October 18th, 2010
3:28 pm

SCool – It is indeed a VERY small world!! He was a mess back in the day – but a good “mess”! He was kind of a leader on campus! He looks great though! Those Omegas were wild but kinda undercover smart. A lot became entrepreneurs. One of his frat has a car dealership here that I see the commercials for sometimes on tv, at least I used to. He was one of the wildest ones.

Good peeps, though!LOL!!!

SexyCool

October 18th, 2010
3:29 pm

Simple – No. That is a reference to an episode of The Cosby Show when Vanessa and her friends went to The Wretched, down there in Baltimore. Yeah…I’m cracking myself up over here.

Kym

October 18th, 2010
3:31 pm

@Leggs..it only took me like what 4 years..heck that is quick for me.

blue®

October 18th, 2010
3:31 pm

Having a tough love moment: just saw this clip linked to an article i was reading, headline says “Dealy Teen Trend: Car Surfing” with what appears to be a video of a teen doing just that…now may feel differently when i have official teenagesrs, but right now im going “what in the he!! made you think that was a good idea?”

blue®

October 18th, 2010
3:35 pm

another tough love moment : woman is sueing Tyra Banks saying she flew her 15yr old girl from GA to NY to be on a show where the child claimed to be a sex addict, and this is Tyras fault cause she as the parent had not given consent, in fact new nothing about it :| – WTH … idk which is worse, your kid is a sex addict and you dont know or your kid flying to NYC and you dont know…1st ? for me is where the he!! were you all this time?

Mo (aka Moeisha )

October 18th, 2010
3:36 pm

SexyCool – I LOVE that episode of the Cosby Show! Claire almost had me scared! LOL!

I am whatever you say I am

October 18th, 2010
3:37 pm

Random:

Reading the blog….I can’t tell if you are are using your original monikers of if the blog is hijacked again

This guy I work with is so hot but I can’t figure out whose team he plays for. yep…that might be a problem.

I WANT CHOCOLATE!!!!!!!!!!!!

SexyCool

October 18th, 2010
3:37 pm

Mo – I’ve got the clipped linked on my FB page. Check it out. I watch it sometimes…just to laugh.

Simple Man!!!!

October 18th, 2010
3:39 pm

blue, I saw the article regarding your 3:35 thsi morning, and i had teh same thought….is she made cause her 15 year old is a ‘hoe or is she pissed cause she went to NYC and she did not know, or because she just figured out that her freaky daughter most likly went to the city and got her head knock off on Tyra’s dime, or all of the above????

I am whatever you say I am

October 18th, 2010
3:41 pm

Blue: I can understand the mom being upset about the show featuring her daugher without her except but my questions would be

1) As a parent, how could you not know your child snuck out of state on a plane. Yes, kids can lie but if you have that type of relationship with your child where they do understand that there will be consequences and reprecussions should they pull a stunt like that- most kids with a soft head and a hard behind might not want to that
2) there is a huge possibility that the child forged their parental consent to the show.
3) Tyra should not be held responsible- this really is an area that is addressed to the production team.

I am whatever you say I am

October 18th, 2010
3:41 pm

typo: without her consent

Melo!

October 18th, 2010
3:44 pm

I am??

Isn’t every man ‘hot’ especially when your cobwebs are sagging under the heavy weight of long looong unharvested honey???

me’ thinks u just need a quickie to fix your eyes.

:lol:

I am whatever you say I am

October 18th, 2010
3:45 pm

random: why do people waste your time when you are trying to do something for them

Me: I need such and such so that I can complete your request
colleague: I already gave that to you.

Um…. If I had it why would I be asking your for it!! :twisted:

blue®

October 18th, 2010
3:46 pm

@Simple Man – too many choices…she doesnt seem to touch the h0e thing at all, or the fact that the child flew out of state unsupervised or anything else, she says her thing is “This show was undoubtedly watched by sexual deviants, perverts and pedophiles alike,” – yeah, and guess what, if you had kept an eye on your kid, youd have a lot less room to complain…seems to me the kid is a little on the deviant side, but what do i know, dont have teens yet, maybe your attitude or your relationship changes then in a way i dont yet understand…
@i am – your #1 was my first question, how did you miss that? she had to have been gone at least 2 or 3 days!

Leggs ™

October 18th, 2010
3:46 pm

Car Surfing? Is that akin to running a train but it’s being done willingly???

I am whatever you say I am

October 18th, 2010
3:46 pm

Melo must not have ever gotten that memo I sent a long time ago that stated I am ignoring hsi comments.

evy

October 18th, 2010
3:48 pm

@simple 3:21: simple! shame on you! and you a blog-married man!

Mo (aka Moeisha )

October 18th, 2010
3:49 pm

SexyCool – OMG Im about to LMAO!

I am whatever you say I am

October 18th, 2010
3:49 pm

Yep blue: I concur with you!!
Also, I wonder if the mom knows that apples don’t fall far from trees.
The way children act out, usually means something is not right in the home.
And for the mom not to know her daughter went to NY to talk about her sex addiction let’s me know right away the mom dropped the ball somewhere.
I bet the father is not in the picture- so sad.

blue®

October 18th, 2010
3:51 pm

@i am – heres a question, how are you a sex addict at 15? seems to me your still playing with what parts go where…too many things wrong with this picture….

evy

October 18th, 2010
3:52 pm

@for real 3:20:

sigh. my, but someone’s argumentative.

1. my asking a general question of the men in the room does not mean that the dudes i date are anything in particular.

2. dumb down does not mean lower your intelligence, but rather your way of expressing yourself.

3. while i agree that if a woman uses a phrase such as ‘bytch, please’, a man is certainly justified in taking the defensive, i do not see that your inability to understand a thing means that it does not exist.

4. while i agree that you would have to work harder if you were carrying a grown azz woman around your back, it does not follow that you would be required to do so b/c she does not express herself as eruditely with you as she might with others. as to your inability to understand –
please see point # 3.

5. the innerer you go, the deeper you get. you might consider giving your sense of humor a spa day or some such – it seems to be a little tight.

6. well, PEACH – a little quality time with yourself might be just what you need. enjoy.

Simple Man!!!!

October 18th, 2010
3:52 pm

evy….What????? I think my blog wife would encourage me to expand my horizons…..

Melo!

October 18th, 2010
3:53 pm

I am?

What’s the point of ignoring me’ when its eating you from the inside?
and u won’t be the last tho…..
anyhow, hope u find somebody to nurse ur udder!

:lol:

i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)

October 18th, 2010
3:54 pm

“heres a question, how are you a sex addict at 15?”

If it’s a 15 yr old girl, it’s not called “sex addict” — it’s called “attention wh0re”

If it’s a 15 yr old boy, it’s not called “sex addict” — it’s called a 15 yr old boy… :lol: