Spooky single behavior
I know we all like to think that we are perfect and have absolutely no problem at all getting a date. The reality is that every one of us have our own set of unique issues. Sometimes we are the reason a relationship doesn’t work out. Yes, we are the misadventure for someone else.
Don’t believe me? Just take a couple of hours and interview your last three exes. I’m sure you will be enlightened! We are flawed and beautifully human and that’s a great thing. Sometimes taking a little self-inventory and doing a self-assessment can go along way. Are you showing some scary spooky behavior that may be ruining your chances at romance?
Halloween is just days away, so what better time to figure out your own scary behavior! I’ll start: I think a lot of men get spooked when I get all argumentative. I admit that I can get too caught up in being right (um, when I’m right, that is.) and I don’t know when to shut up and listen. My ex gave me a little advice about that “too passionate” about what you believe in and as hard as it was to hear it, I got what he was saying.
Now I won’t just keep quiet to appear as if I have no opinion, but I have learned to pick my battles, and communicate more effectively. I don’t always get it right but I’m making an effort so I think it counts for something.
What about you? What do you think you have done or are doing now, that could spook a potential?
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Eddie
October 18th, 2010
11:22 am
I’m very blunt and sometimes say things that are hurtful without thinking. I have to learn to think before I talk. Found a great blog for date night in Atlanta. http://datenightgurus.blogspot.com/
blue®
October 18th, 2010
11:24 am
@cz – told yall i like shoes! lol…had to make sure i lived up to the pic ive painted of myself on here lmao…lance vs neal, now thats funny
@evy – i didnt build the site, i just sent it! now if you like, i can set you up with my assistant Fred and he can get you into my Hackers ‘R Us class, held ever 3rd Tuesday of every 2nd month….
@Delight – im with you, time for Lysa to “rub one out”
Leggs ™
October 18th, 2010
11:27 am
@czB ~ that was funny. His name is Neil Armstrong
blue®
October 18th, 2010
11:29 am
@Leggs – Blue’s shoes were FIERCE!!! got tons of those at the house, already got in mind what boots im gonna wear next time
lol
and speaking of vests, what with evy and hers reminding me, how do i get a vest for Fred? cause he got knicked in that last catfight last week, and the only thing worse than an injured pygmy pony is an injured/sick man…wait, that came out backwards…or did it…idk….
lysa
October 18th, 2010
11:29 am
@Simple Man; 2.5 + years
Simple Man!!!!
October 18th, 2010
11:32 am
For Real
October 18th, 2010
11:18 am
LOL…I can just see it now..
Simple Man and Ared on a date….
ARED : I was just in the ladies room and I think there is a girl in there rubbing one out!!!
Simple : What????
Ared : Yeah, she is in the stall moaning all loud….
Simple : Whaaaaaat????
Ared : There I think thats her right there….
Simple : You mean the girl over there breathing hard sitting with the guy thats wondering what the hell just happened????
Leggs ™
October 18th, 2010
11:35 am
@blue ~ had to do some thinking…I took 2 small vests and stitched together so it go around his midsection. His is the only vest in dark brown I will issue. Want it to look more like a saddle. Since you tend to take Fred home (when you’re not farming him out to be stud at the Pink Pony), please look on the top shelf, right hand side of your closet for his vest!
@blackfoote, you can post your email address here if it’s not a secret. If you don’t want to do that, let me know.
BlackMagicWoman
October 18th, 2010
11:38 am
Good morning guys!!!!
So let’s see….my spooky behavior…where do I begin?
Ok, well a lot of guys think I am weird because of my style of dress sometimes (a bit Goth Glam). I also love spiders, bugs, reptiles and amphibians. I am also very blunt and it sometimes take guys by suprise (don’t know why…they know I’m a NY’er and a Sagittarius) 
. I mean why waste time dancing around a topic. Just say it. I march to the beat of my own drum and I don’t give a dayum!
Off topic….how are the Dusty Birds fans felling right now?
Delight23
October 18th, 2010
11:39 am
DreamsMaterialize
October 18th, 2010
11:40 am
Iysa why would liking him be <em<deterrent from giving him some. After all these years that still sounds like bullshyte to me. You’ll let the random loser beat it up, but make me wait ’cause “you like me”. In that case I rather you don’t like me. lol
2CPTG© -- lookin' for new blog friends!
October 18th, 2010
11:41 am
For Real, you went too?
For RealLeggsSexyCoolLeggs ™
October 18th, 2010
11:43 am
Any topic about “spooky” will bring BMW out.
Hey there!
Blackfoote
October 18th, 2010
11:44 am
I knew something wasn’t right………
Leggs:
rlrobins3@comcast.net I can do my phone too it’s not a secret either but I’ll reserve that for a reply e-mail…….LOL
Me and 2C still was done wrong.
Trevor0529
October 18th, 2010
11:45 am
Good Morning everyone,
Hope everybody had a great weekend and a good time at the blog meet. Sorry I could not be there.
blue®
October 18th, 2010
11:45 am
@Leggs – aww, sweet! will see how it fits him when we get home, no pockets or anywhere to hide stuff tho right? you know how he gets…now just for the record, I am not the one farming him out, thats DD and her accomplices, think i foiled her evil plot tho…had to get a restraining order…contributing to the delinquancy of a ….um…well…you get the jist…
@Dreams – lmao, my guess is goes back to what us ladies were saying last week, our experience is that guys talk about/and categorize women who give it up too soon, so the guys you want to keep around you’re overly cautious with and the guy that you could have come or go is the one who reaps the benefits, lmao
Trevor0529
October 18th, 2010
11:47 am
Why is Fred getting a blog vest??
For Real
October 18th, 2010
11:47 am
Simple you left out….
Ared: OMG! Look at that dude that just came out of the ladies room. And look his shirt is sticking out of his zipper.
2C: Yeah I was there but I just observed. You know I’m low key.
If you spell spooky backwards it spells BMW.
Dan - simply...Superior
October 18th, 2010
11:47 am
Quit ya whining.
As far as I know, Leggs invited everyone she has an email addy for.
Kym, CZ, Blue (and Mr. Blue), it was nice to meet y’all. And Leggs, always good to see you.
@SC
Happy Birfday Mz. Lady!! Hope you have a great one!
Dan now George Jefferson strutting from the room…
Leggs ™
October 18th, 2010
11:49 am
@2C ~ you are funny! I’m still your friend, even if you’re questioning whether you want to remain friends with me (LOLOL).
For Real
October 18th, 2010
11:50 am
DM: Funny as hell but you right. Not only will she make you wait but she will try to pass it off as a brand new, used Ashton Martin.
czBrat
October 18th, 2010
11:51 am
2, you have to keep us posted on when you’re in town.
BlackMagicWoman
October 18th, 2010
11:52 am
LEGGS & FOR REAL….you are guys are so funny!
I’m not spooky…just a wee bit different!
Off topic…I saw a guy at Fox walking around drinking Moscato from the bottle….with a really long straw!
Who does that? 
What?
October 18th, 2010
11:52 am
Is this blog dedicated only to ignorant people who can’t use the English language correctly? What is it with you people that think it’s cute to grossly misuse a perfectly good language? It’s not cute, it makes you look stupid!
Mo (aka Moeisha )
October 18th, 2010
11:54 am
BMW – how do chica! LOL @ you and the spooky stuff! You arent weird but you most def march to the beat of your own drum!
It makes you, you!
Leggs ™
October 18th, 2010
11:55 am
Thank you Dan! You are a riot!
Does AJC have a dating blog for White people?
October 18th, 2010
11:56 am
Obviously the the Wise Diva is black and so are her friends that blog here. Is there a blog for white people or is that a big no no in Atlanta?
Leggs ™
October 18th, 2010
11:57 am
@BMW ~ you are not spooking and you are YOU. BTW, was that dude lightskinnededed, tall and lanky? I went to a party a few months back and he was walking around the party with a 40oz drinking from a straw. I have never seen anything like that in my life.
Blackfoote
October 18th, 2010
11:57 am
Trevor:
Good Question.
I had to walk across lava rocks, swim while strapped to a great white shark, retrieve the coveted snapster egg off an island in the Pacific to get my vest. What’s up with this? No hate on you blue.
Leggs ™
October 18th, 2010
11:58 am
@What? ~ you do realize it’s done on purpose and not because one doesn’t know any better!!
2CPTG© -- lookin' for new blog friends!
October 18th, 2010
11:59 am
“2, you have to keep us posted on when you’re in town.”
excuse me…it takes me 3.5, maybe 4 hours to get to Atl….don’t matter if I’m in town….I can get there in no time…….neva mind…
czBratLeggs ™
October 18th, 2010
11:59 am
Oops, I just typed “lightskinnededed” after What> complained about botching up the English language…
Leggs ™
October 18th, 2010
12:01 pm
For Real
October 18th, 2010
12:01 pm
“I’m not spooky…just a wee bit different!” – Said while wearing an Isis costume and Johnny Quest decoder ring.
Leggs ™
October 18th, 2010
12:02 pm
@blackfoote ~ my email to you bounced back!!
czBrat
October 18th, 2010
12:03 pm
likewise, Dan. *smiling @ the “simply…Superior” story*
is that a big no no in Atlanta? YES!
now stop being an @ss.
why do i have a feeling the room is going on lockdown again? smdh
you’re right, 2. you should be on the guest list no matter what. he!!, it took me nearly that long to get there from the northside so ….. next time for sure. muah!
For Real
October 18th, 2010
12:03 pm
“blackfoote ~ my email to you bounced back!!” – Somebody just got phone jacked
For Real
October 18th, 2010
12:05 pm
2C: Don’t worry bruh I’ll hit you next time but I could swear Leggs and Brat told me they invited you.
Blackfoote
October 18th, 2010
12:06 pm
Need to be reset. Try this one robert.robinson@bobbydodd.org
Leggs ™
October 18th, 2010
12:10 pm
@Trevor ~ I granted the request for Fred to don a vest because he’s been abused with candy and other items, someone turned him into a klepto, he’s been dancing on the poles ruining his coat, and, to top matters off, someone is looking at him strange, much like the man in the news with the dog. He needs a vest! This blog mascot is entirely too popular!
Leggs ™
October 18th, 2010
12:14 pm
@2C ~ I went back to the evite. I see an evite was sent to you but you didn’t respond.
2CPTG© -- lookin' for new blog friends!
October 18th, 2010
12:20 pm
It’s ok, Leggs….
I’m doin like Paris Hilton, I’m screening for new friends as we speak….
Da_Man!
October 18th, 2010
12:23 pm
It’ll be a while b4 I find out from my exes what were/are my faults that turns out to be infamous “SPOOKY”. Too busy trying to move past our ordeal … not that it was horrible but It’s definitley over. If the Lady I’m currently with knew I was kicking it with them, then I guess that would be the “SPOOKY” … vicious cycle, aint it???
blue®
October 18th, 2010
12:23 pm
@Dan – Dannnn!!!
@BMW – just a wee bit different – im with you, it works for some folk, not all…im just a wee bit different myself…
@Trevor – shame on you, you got a hit out on poor Fred or something?
@Blackfoote – lmao, dont think Fred got the egg (cause he cant swim ya know) but he has seen some rough times…
czBrat
October 18th, 2010
12:24 pm
@2C ~ I went back to the evite. I see an evite was sent to you but you didn’t respond.
2CPTGLOL
BlackMagicWoman
October 18th, 2010
12:26 pm
MO…Awwww thank you girl!
LEGSS….no he was dark, tall and lanky.
FOR REAL….you know I have an Isis costume! And I had a Johnny Quest obsession as a kid!
WHAT needs to get a life! If they are that humorless and dull….go play in traffic! It may be the only exciting thing in their pathetic little life!
“Does AJC have a dating blog for White people?” ….Why the hell must you segregate everything? The blog has people of all races on here. But not everyone comes on screaming, “Incoming message from a White lady” before posting. If you could get your panties out of your butt you may have fun on the blog with all the craziness that goes on here. It’s just entertainment.
Blackfoote
October 18th, 2010
12:30 pm
blue:
Allright I’m good with it, tell Fred to hang in there.
blue®
October 18th, 2010
12:31 pm
@BMW – ok, was sipping on my water here, and literally almost spit it over the keyboard at that “Incoming message from a White Lady”…too d@mn funny….
czBrat
October 18th, 2010
12:31 pm
eeeewwww, leggs. just EEEEEWWWW!
Blackfoote
October 18th, 2010
12:34 pm
Leggs:
Yes you are……..I’m Mr. Whipple now……LOL
DreamsMaterialize
October 18th, 2010
12:39 pm
the guys you want to keep around you’re overly cautious with and the guy that you could have come or go is the one who reaps the benefits, lmao
blue have the guys said they think differently about a woman who does this, or is this just what women THINK guys do? Oh and also let me go on record as saying that I now do not want any woman to “like” me. Please treat me as the random loser dude from now on. lol
It’s not cute, it makes you look stupid!
what? Note that the above
sentenceseries of words is not properly punctuated. This series of words should either be represented as two stand-alone sentences (”It’s not cute. It makes you look stupid.”) or have the comma followed by a conjunction, properly linking the two phrases (It’s not cute, and it makes you look stupid.). Additionally, the word “it” should explicitly reference a well defined subject/object within the same sentence. The meaning of “it” above is ambiguous because it is not properly used. Misusing the “perfectly good language” while disparaging others for not doing so is not cute, and it makes you look stupid.