Top 3 reasons men don’t call back
In a completely unscientific poll taken among male friends and family, I narrowed down the top reasons men don’t bother calling back. While I heard an earful of some pretty frightening behavior men have put up with, I was a little surprised to see the most common complaints.
Negativity. A positive attitude goes a long way, especially on a first date. If a woman shows early on she has the propensity to complain about every single thing she doesn’t like, she pretty much seals her fate. Her “stock drops” significantly.
Profanity. Although some men like edge, they aren’t really into women who cuss a lot. This one is pretty self-explanatory. So stop it with the F-bombs, ladies.
Gossip. First of all, what woman gossips on a date? Anyway, men who think their date is a major gossiper get turned off. They want to know that she invests her time in doing more meaningful things, like watch football.
So, ladies does this surprise you? Would you agree that these things could be deal breakers for guys? What are the top reasons you don’t call a guy back?
Guys, would you agree? What would you add to the list of reasons you don’t want to have a second date?
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YESSHEISCUTE
October 11th, 2010
8:51 am
FIRST
Simple Man!!!
October 11th, 2010
8:53 am
Morning Cuteness….How was your weekend??
YESSHEISCUTE
October 11th, 2010
8:54 am
But seriously like MEN don’t gossip. They love to talk about something they seen or something they think they know or think their opinion on is relevant. I used to think Men didn’t like gossip but they call it “talking trash” or some other euphemism.
Besides, the whole ‘maybe something’s wrong with his phone’ or, ‘he’s probably been really busy’. Anyway, the #1 reason a guy doesn’t call back which encompasses all of that is “he’s just not that into you”. If any woman is all or one of those things it will come out at any point and he will not call back if that’s not something he can overlook.
But even more interesting is, have guys ever taken into consideration that maybe WE didn’t call YOU back? They automatically assume b/c they didn’t call us we are scrambling to find reasons why they didn’t call back….maybe we weren’t that into you either.
Lady-Confidence is Sexy, Awareness is Key~
October 11th, 2010
8:54 am
Good Morning MIA Crew!
YESSHEISCUTE
October 11th, 2010
8:55 am
Good morning simple man! My weekend was alright. I spent it working though (I worked for someone else) so it was as good as it could be. How was yours?
Simple Man!!!
October 11th, 2010
9:01 am
Weekend was great thanks…I hsted a dinner party yesterday for about 15 people…Spent all day Saturday at hthe Farmers Maket and shopping to get ready!LOL… Surprised at how welll it turned out!
YESSHEISCUTE
October 11th, 2010
9:04 am
wow so how does the farmers market work? is the produce and meat substantially cheaper or just a little bit? My friend raves about the farmers market but I went to the forest park one and was discouraged by how disheveled it looked. I’m glad you had a successful dinner party. I need to throw one of those!
2CPTG©
October 11th, 2010
9:07 am
G’morning….
If you bore me, I’m not calling back
If you can’t properly pronounce your words, I’m not calling back
If I hear a bunch of kids screaming in the background, I’m not calling back
If you put me on hold to take another call, and stay gone too long, I’m not calling back
If you tell me you’re not seeing anyone, but “got friends,” I’m not calling back
If you tell me what you “expect” outta me, I’m not calling back
If you ask me to take you somewhere you’ve never been, or can’t take yourself, I’m not calling back
As you can see, theres a lot of reasons a dude may not call you back…..
I am whatever you say I am™
October 11th, 2010
9:09 am
Men are not that complicated at all
You could have everything going on : pretty, educated, well mannered, don’t swear, polite, etc and still they guy may not call back.
It could just be a matter of he thought you were a nice person but he’s just not into you.
We do the same thing to guys we are not into so why should it be a surprise when guys act the same way?
Simple Man!!!
October 11th, 2010
9:11 am
I go to the Dekalb Farmers market and While the Veggies are cheaper, and freshers, The Meats and seafood are fresher and more expensive. I LOVE it there!!! So much variety…..Funny things is, I have folks over akll of the time,but this was one of the very few times I have had a real life dinner party, and the first that I have hosted by myself since my mom passed 4 years ago!! I was so much fun!! Great food, smart intelligent conversation, and a few laughs…
Realistic
October 11th, 2010
9:11 am
Easy answer- she’s UGLY.
kimmie
October 11th, 2010
9:11 am
Morning peeps!
On topic – I agree with YES on this – basically he’s just not into you. And “frightening behavior”? It works both ways!
YES – Try Dekalb Farmers Market – that’s the one all the local chefs use.
Simple – What did you serve at your party?
Simple Man!!!
October 11th, 2010
9:12 am
LOL @ 2can…. On point Bother , on Point….
Good Morning I am….How are you today?
kimmie
October 11th, 2010
9:14 am
Realistic – But you knew that when you asked her out!
I am whatever you say I am™
October 11th, 2010
9:17 am
Hey simple dude!
Simple Man!!!
October 11th, 2010
9:19 am
Morning kimmie….
In my best G. Garvin voice…. I started with a veggie tray of Broccoli, cauliflower, baby carrots,cherry tomatos and a lemon pepper vingarette dressing. Served seafood skewers with scallops, and shrimp with Stop light peppers… For the main course, we had grilled salmon and Jazmine rice with a mixed greens salad. And fresh fruit tarts for desert! LOL
Timeless
October 11th, 2010
9:23 am
If a woman gives me a laundry list of what she expects in a man but has still not shown me what she has to offer, I’m not calling back.
kimmie
October 11th, 2010
9:27 am
Simple – Well excuse me! Sounds divine!!!
kimmie
October 11th, 2010
9:28 am
Timeless – And all this would occur on the first date?
Whew, makes me tired just thinking about it!!LOL!!!
I am whatever you say I am™
October 11th, 2010
9:29 am
I don’t feel like it’s necessary to tell a man what you expect from them unless you want to see their representative.
In your head, you should have what you will put up with and what you won’t. If they guy does not meet your expectations, then you have to choose whether or not you want to deal with him.
I am whatever you say I am™
October 11th, 2010
9:30 am
First date for me is all about having fun and getting to know a person.
Those that list their expecatations, etc….turns the date more into a chore.
Simple Man!!!
October 11th, 2010
9:34 am
kimmie…. It was so much fun…I did not even mind cleaning up when everyone left..LOL I am… I agree..first dates should be nice and easy. When a persons satrs to lay out expectations, the dynamic changes and I mentally go right to the beach!!
I am whatever you say I am™
October 11th, 2010
9:36 am
Simple dude: I have never had a dude tell me his expectations on a first date which is a blessing.
I have had discussions on what we like and what we don’t but that’s too be expected. The minute you start laying down demands, that’s when you need to call it a night and start over with someone new
kimmie
October 11th, 2010
9:37 am
Simple – I know what you mean. I LOVE to entertain and everything about it – shopping beforehand, preparing the food, etc. Cool!
And I agree, folks really need to keep it light & easy those first few dates! It’s not that hard, people!
Simple Man!!!
October 11th, 2010
9:39 am
I am …True that… I always plan on putting in some work, but I do not want the first date to turn into a Job interview..LOL
Dirty Diana ♠ Green, again...XXXIV?
October 11th, 2010
9:40 am
Hola!
On topic: I agree with the poll 100 and one %. I’ve had several men tell me that they did not call a certain lady back or put her in a BC status because of the cussing. Also on the flip side, I have heard of women saying the same thing. As for being positive that is the truth, however I will take someone that states reality over someone that is being positive living on fantasy island and dining at candyland.
Personally, there are several reasons I don’t call men back please see list below:
1. If the man is on the rebound.
2. Dudes that I didn’t want to talk to in the first place.
3. Dudes with multiple kids by multiple women.
4. Dudes with roommates.
5. Dudes that are aggressive and like to debate on the phone.
6. Men that don’t listen.
7. Men with jobs/careers that don’t suit my “taste.”
8. Men that are broke…yes I said it.
9. Men that complains about the ex doing them wrong.
10. Dudes that are ready to jump in a relationship
11. Talking about s-e-x too soon.
12 Asking me personal questions that are not his business i.e. # or partners, am I a virgin (I got this question last week), or how much I make or weight.
AmazonRed™
October 11th, 2010
9:40 am
Morning all! Happy Columbus Day! Celebrate by walking into someone else’s house and telling them you live there now. LOL
Simple Man – Check you out! That dinner party sounded great. Glad it all went well!
Simple Man!!!
October 11th, 2010
9:42 am
kimmie..One of my buddies laughed at me because I had fresh flowers candles and Jazz music to kinda work the mood…LOL he told me I had either had a woman help put it together or I was a closet Metrosexual!!!
Simple Man!!!
October 11th, 2010
9:43 am
Mornning ARED… All that was missing was you!
Dirty Diana ♠ Green, again...XXXIV?
October 11th, 2010
9:44 am
Lady, if you are still in here giggling under your rock, a big SHELLO to ya!
AmazonRed™
October 11th, 2010
9:47 am
he told me I had either had a woman help put it together or I was a closet Metrosexual!!!
Well, which one is it… *whistling* lol
kimmie
October 11th, 2010
9:48 am
DD – I spoke on here awhile back about a lady I used to work with. We got to be good friends outside of work. I set her up with a good friend of mine and another friend set her up with a guy. BOTH guys came back saying she cursed too much! I would have never guessed that because she was so reserved otherwise.
Some folks talk and act a good game, but are totally different in their interactions with the opposite sex!
Melo!
October 11th, 2010
9:49 am
Hope uall had a nice weekend
We partied for two days in a row,had sooo much fun.
Why men don’t call back?
If u give him a sign or explicitly spell it out militantly that it will take a minute for him to get the draws!
If u downright angry in demeanor
Your perfume is awful
You seem too thirsty that he sees a trap
You start talking about your water or gas bill
……..marinate on these for now!
Simple Man!!!
October 11th, 2010
9:51 am
ARED… So you got jokes too…LOL In all honesty, neither…. I like what I like and have been to enough grown folks functions to know how they are supposed to flow. Besides, I get a kick out of flipping it around and going a little “buppie” on occasions.
kimmie
October 11th, 2010
9:53 am
I like what I like and have been to enough grown folks functions to know how they are supposed to flow.
Simple – That’s what I’m talking about right there!
Dirty Diana ♠ Green, again...XXXIV?
October 11th, 2010
9:57 am
@Kimmie I agree, and the thing about cursing is this it is offensive and one has to wonder if you will go into a cursing rage and leave them shame in public, or curse around their elderly relatives.
I am whatever you say I am™
October 11th, 2010
10:02 am
Random: I am so handy. I got the dents out of my car using a hair dyer.
Shout out that guy in church that shared that tip with me.
Leggs ™
October 11th, 2010
10:03 am
Good morning!
@SimpleMan ~ sounds delicious…nice and light!
I just had this conversation with a gf yesterday. Only she was the one not calling back. I had to tell her she did everything men complain about us. She saw him in the cleaners and asked the lady behind the counter (she’s been going there for years) to get the guys number. She did and gave her the number. It took her a month to call him. She thought he was moving too fast in that he asked to see her. She had the advantage, she knew what he looked like but he didn’t her. She told him it was too soon (WTH). Anyway, a month went by and he texted her saying “guess the timing was off.” She opted to ignore the text. I chided her for making the initial contact by asking for his number, then waiting a month and then ignoring his text. I knew why, but desperately wanted her to say w/o me pointing out the obvious. She finally said she wasn’t happy with her weight and wasn’t ready to meet him. I told her she never should have asked for his number. She did everything wrong!! Women sabatoge themselves on so many levels.
Dirty Diana ♠ Green, again...XXXIV?
October 11th, 2010
10:04 am
I meant to add this to my list, Kimmie’s comment made me think about a time when I set up a friend with a guy. I really thought they would make a cute couple due to their height (both are really tall), similar hobbies, etc. Long story short, we were suppose to do a double date, which I thought was good. However at the last minute she called me and requested that my BF and I back out of the date, because she wanted to go alone. I was like ok,
so I told my BF that we could just do something else. She went out with dude alone and he never called her back. She thought the date went exceptionally well, and was waiting for a call back, and she even called him several times after the date. Anyway my BF told me she scared dude with all the talk about relationships, marriage etc. Apparently she told him, she could tell they were meant to be and she saw some good things coming out of this in the long term.
Dirty Diana ♠ Green, again...XXXIV?
October 11th, 2010
10:07 am
While reading that post I knew the lady was “through dealing.” Something had to be wrong BMI, face, etc.
LOL
I am whatever you say I am™
October 11th, 2010
10:09 am
Random: the guy at home depot that rang me up yesterday was sooo hot!
Why Why Why didn’t I ask for a number?
AmazonRed™
October 11th, 2010
10:14 am
There is a guy who has taken me out a couple of times. I know I am due to call him. And it’s no real reason why I haven’t, maybe laziness. Maybe because we pretty much only talk by text unless we’re out. I don’t know.
SexyCool
October 11th, 2010
10:15 am
Three Words Daily – Handle ya’ BIZness.
Leggs ™
October 11th, 2010
10:17 am
“Negativity. A positive attitude goes a long way, especially on a first date. If a woman shows early on she has the propensity to complain about every single thing she doesn’t like, she pretty much seals her fate. Her “stock drops” significantly.”
100% agree. If you’re going to mop and not smile a lot…simply stay home and ask for a raincheck.
Simple Man!!!
October 11th, 2010
10:18 am
Ared…So I got some dude in the front of my line and you won’t even call him back??? This might take longer than I expected…..
AmazonRed™
October 11th, 2010
10:25 am
Hey, I’m a popular gal….
Simple Man!!!
October 11th, 2010
10:28 am
Exhale…..SMH….Guess I should get comfortable…..
Toney
October 11th, 2010
10:28 am
I thought this forum was about men not calling back? Why are there post’s about the farmers market and how was your weekend.Some people just don’t get it,and I know who you are.
SexyCool
October 11th, 2010
10:29 am
I swear…and I’m okay with it. If there was ever a guy that had an issue with it, it just meant that he was not for me. No use in me trying to act like I don’t curse that would be me sending the infamous *Representative* and not my true self.
As to the gossip of it all…if we’re talking discussing celebrity relationships/issues, these days, that falls along the lines of *current events*…in my opinion (and even that should be limited). As to what I consider true gossip, I can’t see airing the dirty laundry of folk he’s probably not going to know anyway, especially early in the relationship. Makes no sense to me…unless we travel in the same circles and know the same folk. But then too, why spend time focused on what others do when I can be telling you how fabulous I am and learning about you?
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SlimNumeroUno
October 11th, 2010
10:33 am
Morning, this morning, hiyou dis morning?
Melo – I can’t even disagree with you on that stank perfume deal because i am the same way about men and their cologne. I went out with this dude once and his choice of cologne was awful. Smelled like an old man and it bothered me the whole time we were out. Not to mention he kept brushing his hair like Joe Tory in that movie Poetic Justice talking about all his ‘waves’ in his head. I wanted to throw that brush out of the window.