When I see a happy couple get engaged and married I sort of marvel at the things that had to happen to get to that point. I know some people (the “smug and married) like to think that it is oh so easy to meet someone, fall in love (more importantly, like), and start building a life together..I’m not sure I agree.
I just believe that the timing has to be key. It doesn’t matter if I meet 46 great looking men with the same background as mine. If neither of us share the same priorities in close or similar order, then things probably won’t progress very far.
You can pretty much tell who is looking for a good time and who is looking for a good time with the potential for something meaningful. A lot of times women are looking for the potential husband when the guy is looking for the potentially naked woman in his bed the next morning. Or vice versa. I’ve seen plenty of single women perfectly content with having their flavor for the month with no ideas of marriage or a future with the men they date.
I’m not knocking either situation because that is the reality of our so called “modern day” dating scene. I’m only pointing out that when you are lucky enough to want the same thing as the person you are dating, you should be thankful.
So how do we ever get our priorities to coincide? Do you see now how truly amazing and awesome it is when people get married and are happy to do it? It’s like a dating miracle!
Do you think that in order to find single people with the same priorities we should be willing to do something different? Should we meet and date against our normal type? Maybe go younger/older than we normally do?
When you first meet someone, how do you figure out if their priorities would mesh with yours? How much would you be willing to adjust them for the right person?