Falling for the forbidden
It’s such a huge inconvenience when your heart and your head are not on the same page. I wish there were some way to control this so that that we didn’t have to end up falling for the people we know we shouldn’t be falling for.
Why do you think the people who are not good for us end up having the strongest hold over us? Are we a glutton for punishment? Do you think it’s human nature to want what we can’t/shouldn’t have?
Have you ever realized that the person you were getting caught up in was the wrong person to fall for? Perhaps it was bad timing or something about them that told you to stay away. How did you handle it?
When do you take the risk and when do you decide they are forbidden for a reason and walk away?
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I am whatever you say I am™
October 6th, 2010
8:38 am
…unlocking doors, turning off alarm….turning on lights….
Okay…what should we have for coffee.
Ooh… How about this Columbian Cronic?
Guaranteed to wake your arses up!
Simple Man!!!
October 6th, 2010
8:38 am
Yaaaaaawn!!! This last man out, first man in thing is getting old!! But I guess thats the price yu pay…… I hope someone brings breakfast……
Simple Man!!!
October 6th, 2010
8:40 am
Morning I am!!! You know if folks catch us in here alone there are going to be rumors…..
I am whatever you say I am™
October 6th, 2010
8:40 am
I don’t know why I fall for the wrong.
Yes, I am a gluten for punishment.
I realize that this is hindering my goal of getting married oneday.
When I turned my life over to Christ, I decided that I had to let go of certain things.
I’m not perfect at it, but I practice it.
I’m building a better relationship with GOD and recognizing things I will not put up with. Recognizing early that certain people are not good for me and willingly letting go of those ideas, lust,etc…
I am whatever you say I am™
October 6th, 2010
8:42 am
Simple Man: Please put your pants on.
it is true, you do wear those leg garters that hold your dress socks up!If someone catches you like this, we won’t be able to stop the rumors.
Simple Man!!!
October 6th, 2010
8:43 am
But I happen to like my sock garters……..
I am whatever you say I am™
October 6th, 2010
8:46 am
Why are they pink?
Kym
October 6th, 2010
8:47 am
Good Morning All,
The heart is not so smart..can’t always trust it no..the heart is not so smart..goes where it should not go… I can relate to this topic..and to answer your first question I have absolutely no idea…. I am going with the answer of “He put roots on me.”..but seriously going back over and over the situation I still can not explain nor justify reason for throwing caution to the wind. It was what it was.. and for that time..it worked just fine. The hold was only broken when I decided to let go and walk away…and there was no rhyme or reason for the timing.
I am whatever you say I am™
October 6th, 2010
8:55 am
Mernin’ Kym!
Random: Why on earth would anyone want to wear a meat dress? Ode to Lady Gaga
Simple Man!!!
October 6th, 2010
8:56 am
I am… Come on now…I told You I olny do Pink on Thursday… Today, Its the classic Lavender….With patterns….
Simple Man!!!
October 6th, 2010
8:56 am
hey Kym…..
Kym
October 6th, 2010
8:58 am
Hi Simple and I am..I see ya’ll are apart of the early morning crew..
blue™
October 6th, 2010
8:58 am
Morning all,
Simple Man – you didnt leave a mess in here last night did you?
I am – can i have a cup of tea please? i have thin mints
Kym – hii!
Kym
October 6th, 2010
9:00 am
Howdy blue..dang everyone all friendly and happy this morning..ya’ll drinking this morning?
2CPTG©
October 6th, 2010
9:02 am
g’morning….
“Do you think it’s human nature to want what we can’t/shouldn’t have?”
of course, ask Adam and Eve…the allure is too strong to overcome; Our human nature always tell us to question “why” we can’t have this or that, and when we finally obtain the “forbidden fruit” we see why it was bad for us…hindsight is 20/20, not foresight.
Simple Man!!!
October 6th, 2010
9:02 am
Whats Good blue??? No mess…Even remembered to get the baby oil off of the copier….
DC Rose
October 6th, 2010
9:09 am
Good morning all!
Yesterday’s cat fight was quite entertaining!
I have never figured out why I’m attracted to the worse possible people for me. I don’t know if it’s because they’re forbidden. I’m definitely not a glutton for punishment. NOW when I meet them, and I can instantly recognize THEM, I run in the opposite direction. I don’t need to figure them out. Running is the best thing for me. Unfortunately, that leaves the ones that are just not as appealing to me and I have to make an effort to find something that will be keep me coming back. Humor, adventure, knowledge, couriosity…something.
I am – may I please have a cup of your brew? extra cream thank you.
blue™
October 6th, 2010
9:09 am
Kym – i was wondering that too, their all bright and sunny, lol
Simple Man – good job, good job….
on topic – simply put, the heart wants what the heart wants, no not always good for us, but sometimes the heart is the one doing the thinking for you at the moment. When do you take the risk? you take the risk while you still think the cons in your pro v. con list can be gotten around, or reasoned away because something in that pro column is pulling you so strongly. and when do you decide they are forbidden for a reason and walk away? when something in that con column finally becomes the elephant in the room and you cant ignore it anymore…..
DC Rose
October 6th, 2010
9:12 am
Blue – how’s Fred?
It's me....lurker
October 6th, 2010
9:13 am
Do you think it’s human nature to want what we can’t/shouldn’t have?
Always. I bet it’s safe to assume everybody have experienced at least once in their life time, an encounter or meeting of the perfect person. Wrong, place, wrong time.
DC Rose
October 6th, 2010
9:14 am
Blue – From my past experiences, I wish that elephant was more like a monkey traveling on someone’s back. You would be able to spot the “why I shouldn’t” a lot faster.
It's me....lurker
October 6th, 2010
9:14 am
Do you think it’s human nature to want what we can’t/shouldn’t have?
Always. I’m going to venture to say it’s safe to assume everybody have experienced at least once in their lifetime, meeting the perfect person. Wrong place, wrong time.
DreamsMaterialize
October 6th, 2010
9:15 am
Morning
I think there are two problems.
One is that we’re not honest with ourselves about what we want. We tell the whole world (and ourselves) that we want a person with all these ideal qualities when it may not really be true. Truth is sometimes we genuinely want want what’s considered taboo. We’ve just let the world convince us that those things should be forbidden.
The other issue is that people tend to make more of something than it needs to be. If you like someone for their “forbidden” qualities, but know you don’t want that long term, then don’t try to treat that relationship like it is long term. It’s a fling; enjoy it and treat it that way.
I am whatever you say I am™
October 6th, 2010
9:20 am
and by patterns you mean lipstick lips and hearts?
It's me....lurker
October 6th, 2010
9:20 am
Wanting what you can have? But of
course
It's me....lurker
October 6th, 2010
9:20 am
tryna ban me
Dirty Diana ♠ Green, again...XXXIV?
October 6th, 2010
9:22 am
Hola!
On topic: When the head and heart are in sync you know you are on to something good and that is what makes love a beautiful thing.
As for the heart tugging you in a direction that is harmful or not good for you it is called discipline and courage. IMO, you should move on because nothing good is going to come out of that situation. I saw Judge Karen’s show and she ask this lady was he unemployed when you met him and the lady said “yes.” Judge Karen was like well then you have your answer you knew what you were getting into. That is my stance when the heart leads you to someone’s spouse, baby daddy of five (different mothers), office player etc. you must have discipline to keep going.
Kym
October 6th, 2010
9:23 am
Wait..what did I miss yesterday..someone tried to ban you it’s me..what the hell did ya’ll do up in here yesterday?
I am whatever you say I am™
October 6th, 2010
9:25 am
thin mints :check!
Okay Blue, how about my speciality orange tea.
IndigoLuv
October 6th, 2010
9:25 am
GM All .. I agree with 2CPTG. Hindsight is definitely 20/20! We definitely want what we can’t have, simply for the excitement and challenge.
It's me....lurker
October 6th, 2010
9:26 am
Kym – Same ole.
I am whatever you say I am™
October 6th, 2010
9:26 am
Here you are DC.
Extra cream as requested.
Simple Man!!!
October 6th, 2010
9:26 am
Dreams, Morning Bruh…I think you are right on point with this, most notably your point about allowing a fling to just be a fling…
I am…strawberry drops and candy canes…. They make me feel hard..Like Ice Cube before he went commercial….
Dirty Diana ♠ Green, again...XXXIV?
October 6th, 2010
9:27 am
Perhaps it was bad timing or something about them that told you to stay away?
There were times in my life that I did not want to have someone in my life per se. I did not have time for a relationship, but I would always meet good men. Also there were times when my heart was so ready, and the guy was so perfect, but he just did not have his mess together. I did not have the time or patience to date someone that did not have the basics inorder.
I am whatever you say I am™
October 6th, 2010
9:29 am
er? how do strawberry drops and candy canes make you hard?
Kym-moving at twice the speed of life.
October 6th, 2010
9:30 am
Ohh….eams tyhsullb….tnereffid..yad.
Breakingofdawn
October 6th, 2010
9:31 am
I’ve tried to pride myself to stay away from things/men that I know are not good for me. Leaving your heart out of things is key I believe.
As *Dreams said, some time we are not honest with ourself first, and I’m very guilty of that. Saying to the world and myself that I was cool accepting something when I knew it was not so. But we do live and we learn and hopefully grow. The older I get the more I am able to take things in a factual manner. It is exactly what it is, and people are who they show you they are.
It's me....lurker
October 6th, 2010
9:31 am
The notion of not having the forbidden is not limited to love. We can look at our kids and see. Anything you tell them they can’t have or do, that’s the thing they want the most.
Simple Man!!!
October 6th, 2010
9:31 am
Put you hand over here…let me show you…..LOL
DC Rose
October 6th, 2010
9:32 am
Mmmm – I am – delicious!
Kym-moving at twice the speed of life.
October 6th, 2010
9:33 am
Wow Wisey..did know we couldn’t type backwards on the blog…for record nothing bad was said.
DC Rose
October 6th, 2010
9:34 am
Dreams – It’s a fling; enjoy it and treat it that way.
At what point do you think this attitude is a flaw if all your relationships are just flings?
Kym
October 6th, 2010
9:36 am
Good grief blog police..let my comments go.
DreamsMaterialize
October 6th, 2010
9:47 am
At what point do you think this attitude is a flaw if all your relationships are just flings?
DC Rose If all you’re really looking for is a fling, then it’s never a flaw. The flaw is when you really want a long term relationship, and you try to force the fling to be that.
blue™
October 6th, 2010
9:49 am
off topic: question now is what in the he!! happened in here yesterday? catfights and banning folks?
@DC – Freds maintaining for the time being, got a permanent shadow now with his sponsor following him everywhere, he doesnt seem too thrilled about it to be honest…
@Dreams – Truth is sometimes we genuinely want want what’s considered taboo. i think thats true to a point, we tend to be so caught up in others opinions of us that we dont admit that we are truly into whatever our friends view as toxic…
@I am – specialty orange: is it good for headaches, cause i cant shake this d@mn migraine thats trying to take me out of commission…
Breakingofdawn
October 6th, 2010
9:54 am
Going back to read what happened yesterday.
*blue I used to suffer from migraines, like taking a shot to make to the white lights go away. I’m migraine free now, acupuncture was my cure then added some yoga with a diet change helped.
It's me....lurker
October 6th, 2010
9:55 am
blue – Excedrin Migraine. I have prescribed for my migraines Maxalt but it NEVER works or I have to take 2 dosages which then makes me more sick.
Melo!
October 6th, 2010
9:55 am
Good morning!
2C@Dreams!
I agree! I think it is part if human growth. You can’t learn if you can’t allow yourself to make mistakes.
The kicker is when you are in your late 30s to 40s and you still can’t figure boys or chics out. Then you have a chronic relationship problem.
And some of you’ll need to be honest with yourselves. Come on now,you grown.
Don’t continue lying to yourself saying you want a longterm relationship when you aren’t relationship worthy.
Just stick to the short term Dzzle!
It’s good for your blood pressure!
Off topic:
Ared and Simple…u need to wipe the mess u left in the basement!
It's me....lurker
October 6th, 2010
9:57 am
blue – Excedrin Migraine I have Maxalt but it NEVER works
It's me....lurker
October 6th, 2010
9:59 am
It’s the caffeine, aspirin and acetaminophen that works