A reader emailed me because she is in a bit of pickle with her new guy. This weekend he caught her going through his cell phone. She claims her curiosity got the best of her because he is one of those “heavy texters” and she wanted to know if any of them were dirty texts with other women.
This is one of those awkward situations that is really tough to recover from. Most men don’t want to think you are an insecure woman who has trust issues. Even if this is the actual truth, you just can’t convince them you won’t let it be an ongoing problem after you have shown this side of you.
Have you ever made a really stupid mistake with someone in the “honeymoon phase” of a new dating relationship? Were you able to dial it back and make things better?
How forgiving should we be when someone has shown bad judgment?
What is the best way to show someone that your one slip-up shouldn’t be the deal breaker that torpedoes your chances with them?