Recovering from dating mistakes
A reader emailed me because she is in a bit of pickle with her new guy. This weekend he caught her going through his cell phone. She claims her curiosity got the best of her because he is one of those “heavy texters” and she wanted to know if any of them were dirty texts with other women.
This is one of those awkward situations that is really tough to recover from. Most men don’t want to think you are an insecure woman who has trust issues. Even if this is the actual truth, you just can’t convince them you won’t let it be an ongoing problem after you have shown this side of you.
Have you ever made a really stupid mistake with someone in the “honeymoon phase” of a new dating relationship? Were you able to dial it back and make things better?
How forgiving should we be when someone has shown bad judgment?
What is the best way to show someone that your one slip-up shouldn’t be the deal breaker that torpedoes your chances with them?
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473 comments Add your comment
Blackfoote
September 30th, 2010
1:55 pm
It’s me…..lurker
You’re right on too when it’s put out here it is fair game and it’s good ole fun and love for all.
Lady-Ebony Eyes!
September 30th, 2010
1:55 pm
Good Afternoon Crew!
I am whatever you say I am™
September 30th, 2010
1:55 pm
I got balls!!!!!
It's me....lurker
September 30th, 2010
1:55 pm
Blackfoote – okay
Melo – Okay
you’re alright with me
Simple Man –
Gon ‘head though for real in your pursuit. Take it offline, you might get lucky. I would be hesitant all out in the open too.
TheJourney
September 30th, 2010
1:58 pm
Recovering from one right now – some 15 months later.
Simple Man!!!!!
September 30th, 2010
1:59 pm
I am… LOL….Did You get balls for control or distance????
Melo!
September 30th, 2010
1:59 pm
We love the variety!
pheeeeeeew…….
I am having a hard time with the imagination on that one!
Flavor
September 30th, 2010
1:59 pm
So I take it nobody other than white man would get statisfaction from an open releationship?
It's me....lurker
September 30th, 2010
2:01 pm
“open relationship” is oxymoronic
Melo!
September 30th, 2010
2:02 pm
I am?
I like u but I think u need go skin the goat today……make sure u put the oysters on the grill!
Leggs ~ Smiling
September 30th, 2010
2:03 pm
@Flavor ~ not I.
kimmie
September 30th, 2010
2:03 pm
Brat – I actual thought the same thing! No it’s not just you.
Lady-Ebony Eyes!
September 30th, 2010
2:06 pm
geesh much has been said……..lol
SlimNumeroUno
September 30th, 2010
2:07 pm
I feel like someone is squeezing my eye balls together. Is it the biometric pressure or what bc I really just want to crawl in a hole for the rest of the day.
White Man
September 30th, 2010
2:10 pm
I am back
Breakingofdawn
September 30th, 2010
2:11 pm
Slim that’s been me for the last two days. I want to nap so bad its not even productive being at work. I stay sleepy and that’s not even me. I’m going to blame it on the fall like weather.
White Man
September 30th, 2010
2:12 pm
I could curl up in bed right now as well.
Blackfoote
September 30th, 2010
2:15 pm
Leggs lurker
Ditto on that one.
I would cause plenty of damage if someone touched my wife or girl friend.
SlimNumeroUno
September 30th, 2010
2:17 pm
BOD – Maybe it is the fall-like weather and I DEFINITELy could take me a long 2hr nap. I’m sitting at my desk trying to get motivated but it really isn’t working for me at the moment. The thing that makes it so bad is the view from my window faces the parking lot where my car is. Car is sitting out there all alone whispering for me to leave. lol
White Man
September 30th, 2010
2:17 pm
So you are more worried about possessiveness versus happiness? Interesting.
Melo!
September 30th, 2010
2:18 pm
Does anyone know of anybody who makes money all year exclusively doing Primerica stuff??
Anybody!!
Their motivation and recruitment events smell like an EL congregation in worship!
White Man
September 30th, 2010
2:18 pm
So you are worried more about being possessive versus being happy?
I am whatever you say I am™
September 30th, 2010
2:19 pm
Uh… Simple dude.
Um…..I just grabbed some balls.
I hope they do the job
Herpes Dating Sites
September 30th, 2010
2:25 pm
Do not forget that when you approach a woman; she’s likely to be just as nervous as you’re. So, start carefully.
White Man
September 30th, 2010
2:26 pm
Herpes, that is true. She could also be just as horny as you are as well.
Simple Man!!!!!
September 30th, 2010
2:27 pm
Thats the ticket…Just grab some balls and hope they work!! LOL
In your hands, I am sure they will!!!
All jokes aside what ever you got should be fine…. The type will matter more once you start to play.
Kym
September 30th, 2010
2:30 pm
Mr. Goodnight are you out there? For Real..
Now this man is the Daddy!
http://www.nydailynews.com/news/national/2010/09/30/2010-09-30_howard_veal_michigan_father_of_23_kids_with_14_women_jailed_after_owing_500k_in_.html
i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)
September 30th, 2010
2:35 pm
You rang, Kym?
D@mn… that dude seriously needs to wrap it up…
White Man
September 30th, 2010
2:35 pm
I am sorry but the women that slept with him are just as stupid as he is.
Breakingofdawn
September 30th, 2010
2:36 pm
The other day we were in here talking about cuddling. And granted I don’t want it after a good session. But since that convo in here all I can think about is just letting the windows up then crawling on the sofa next to a man, getting in a good nook positon and drifting off to sleep.
At lunch yesterday, dude gave me a hug, he held on a little too long I think I took a 10 second nap standing up.
Blackfoote
September 30th, 2010
2:36 pm
White Man
She could also be just as horny as you are as well.
That’s funny White Man also true.
White Man
September 30th, 2010
2:39 pm
VERY TRUE….Women talk about sex much more than we do. Sometimes if you just tell them what you want to do, they will respect you more and possibly accomdate your needs.
Melo!
September 30th, 2010
2:43 pm
Kym?
just to be fair on the sexes, below that article there is a caption on a story about a mum boning her own son she gave up for adoption long back!
Horny people all round!
Simple Man!!!!!
September 30th, 2010
2:43 pm
BOD…Could you cuddle with someone you were not sexual with???
Breakingofdawn
September 30th, 2010
2:46 pm
Simple Man of course…that would be just fine with me. It’s not about sex at all. It’s comfort, body fit(not really but sorta), smells good and doesn’t move around too much. I’m a very light sleeper.
Mo (aka Moeisha )
September 30th, 2010
2:46 pm
Kym – well dayum…..thats beyond a shame….smdh
Kym
September 30th, 2010
2:47 pm
@Melo..I was not bashing..I was just posting…@ DWhiteMan you are right everyone involve got issues.
White Man
September 30th, 2010
2:48 pm
Breakingofdawn likes to “spoon”.
Raqi
September 30th, 2010
2:48 pm
Could you cuddle with someone you were not sexual with?
SimpleMan, my ex-best guy friend and I used to cuddle at one time and I never had even the faintest of desire to get busy with him. He and I were just good friends.
(that answered without the slightest idea of what the conversation is right now)
For Real
September 30th, 2010
2:49 pm
On topic: Go thru my ish and we done. End of story!
Ared: You will love Chile but I not sure what its situation after the earthquake. It’s one the most beautiful places in the world.
Married people fuggin other people, why get married?
Kym: Dayum! Dudes need a government sponsored vasectomy. But riddle me this how can a dude making 23k per year owe 500k? Why didn’t the judge punish those 14 women?
Simple Man!!!!!
September 30th, 2010
2:50 pm
BOD…Cool…I know that kind of thing can be uncomfortable for some women, And this time of year there are only acouple of things better… LOL
White Man
September 30th, 2010
2:50 pm
Those women deserve what they get…they are as guilty as he is.
Melo!
September 30th, 2010
2:52 pm
Speaking of lady on the street and a freak in bed:
Before her famed Texas video I had always slept on Erica Badu coz her dressing was all long and wrapped up!
But the sight of that bootey had me’
at her phone bootey!
Makes you wonder what all these other closeted chics have on the inside,when unwrapped!
Andre Benjamin is da man!
i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)
September 30th, 2010
2:52 pm
“…my ex-best guy friend and I used to cuddle at one time and I never had even the faintest of desire to get busy with him. He and I were just good friends.”
Raqi — In your mind. In his mind, he was hoping one day you’d have one of those Ambien dreams involving mechanical bull riding & he could be the mechanical bull…
White Man
September 30th, 2010
2:54 pm
Swiss….Now THAT was funny!
For Real
September 30th, 2010
2:54 pm
Breaking: Which good nook position do you like the best missionary or slide straddle?
Raqi: “SimpleMan, my ex-best guy friend and I used to cuddle at one time and I never had even the faintest of desire to get busy with him. He and I were just good friends.” – Oh now I’m an ex-best friend huh??? Well for the record while we were “Friend” cuddling, I used rub one off on your knee.
Raqi
September 30th, 2010
2:54 pm
Well you know Gouda I later found that out. Hence “ex-best friend”.
i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)
September 30th, 2010
2:55 pm
Melo — You ain’t lying… Ms. Badu does have a fine booty….
White Man
September 30th, 2010
2:57 pm
All men who have female friends think about having sex with them at some point.
2CPTG©
September 30th, 2010
2:57 pm
I gotta give a shout out to abc; I was just browsing another blog, and saw his name and comments; he’s as big a dyckhead elsewhere, as he is here…..but he’s consistent…and I say this with luv, blogmate…