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Recovering from dating mistakes

A reader emailed me because she is in a bit of  pickle with her new guy.  This weekend he caught her going through his cell phone.  She claims her curiosity got the best of her because he is one of those “heavy texters” and she wanted to know if any of them were dirty texts with other women.

This is one of those awkward situations that is really tough to recover from.  Most men don’t want to think you are an insecure woman who has trust issues.  Even if this is the actual truth, you just can’t convince them you won’t let it be an ongoing problem after you have shown this side of you.

Have you ever made a really stupid mistake with someone in the “honeymoon phase” of a new dating relationship?  Were you able to dial it back and make things better?

How forgiving should we be when someone has shown bad judgment?

What is the best way to show someone that your one slip-up shouldn’t be the deal breaker that torpedoes your chances with them?

473 comments Add your comment

Leggs ~ Smiling

September 30th, 2010
4:52 pm

@i’m swiss ~ Yes. More like same tastebuds….:wink:

Melo!

September 30th, 2010
4:54 pm

Yes we Can

@Swiss!

Leggs ~ Smiling

September 30th, 2010
4:55 pm

Hello BOD! Loving life I am! Thanks. Hope you’re doing well. Sorry about the firing…lay low, reflect, assess and then get back out there!

Breakingofdawn

September 30th, 2010
4:57 pm

SC 100% true statement..season and reason.

kimmie

September 30th, 2010
4:59 pm

SCool – Your 4:50 – So true. I would like to keep up with everybody and everything but I just can’t. Some stuff and people must take priority. Some will not be wiped off the map, just moved to the outer edges!

Luv you guys! Read ya tomorrow! Be safe going home!

Leggs ~ Smiling

September 30th, 2010
4:59 pm

“Some friends come and go like a season. Others are arranged in our lives for good reason.”

Good nite!

Breakingofdawn

September 30th, 2010
4:59 pm

Leggs its cool, we recently had a discussion where I told him the job wasn’t getting done. I think he was taken back by my honesty for a minute then he came back extra cocky. I had to twist my face at that one, like really your not that hot. So I had to put him in a box, the only reason you here dude is because I don’t have the energy for someone new in my life right now.

Simple Man!!!!!

September 30th, 2010
5:02 pm

BOD…How long had he been in the rotation??

i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)

September 30th, 2010
5:08 pm

Mail call, Melo

Breakingofdawn

September 30th, 2010
5:10 pm

About 7-8 months off and on. We’ve known each other for 17 almost 18 years. We dated in HS, and when I moved back home; he was single and free and sometimes you need some thing without the politics.

Breakingofdawn

September 30th, 2010
5:11 pm

nite nite….there’s a bar with a drink on it waiting for me.

Simple Man!!!!!

September 30th, 2010
5:12 pm

BOD, Are you from here?

Leggs ~ Smiling

September 30th, 2010
5:14 pm

@BOD ~ WOW…now, that’s honesty.

White Man

September 30th, 2010
5:17 pm

BOD very nice.

It's me....lurker

September 30th, 2010
5:17 pm

Friends. Only a couple. I’ve found out folks you’re breaking bread with and having in-depth conversation can be as shady as an enemy. I had a friend or one I thought was true blue. Been there through my good times bad times, woes, when my child working my nerves, man troubles…everything and vice versa. I seen, listened dried her tears as well as share in her happy moments. She’s such a friend, she’ll buy and mail anything chic and classy…just because. Shoes, clothes, bags whatever. Well, we parted ways. She had a situation where she was getting derailed on a position (we work for same company, was in the same group but always different states) and I know it was dirty and lowdown. She wanted to go half cocked to personnel blasting folks and at this point with accusations. I was telling her be smart before making that kind of move. I’m not scary and not once did I suggest she be but I do know this, you better have hard evidence when accusing. She said to me, I’ve listened to you and been there for you and when I want to do something you’re not in my corner. Ummm, for something stupid and carefully thought through…nope can’t do it. When I told her friendship ain’t based on me agreeing for the sake of but an extension of you…eyes when you can’t see, thinking when you’re past the point of rationale and she just didn’t get it. First she sent an apology for snapping cause I snapped back and then it sort of fizzed from there. She’ll call but it’s light banter.

It's me....lurker

September 30th, 2010
5:19 pm

Yes, time and chance will weed out true blues from those that just exists.

White Man

September 30th, 2010
5:22 pm

White Man

September 30th, 2010
5:22 pm

Did you guys see where 50 cent said if “a man doesnt eat p—y he should just go ahead and kill himself”? hahaha

Simple Man!!!!!

September 30th, 2010
5:30 pm

White Man… 50 is a effin Clown!!! He speaks like he can’t open his mouth wide enough to really be good like that….

White Man

September 30th, 2010
5:33 pm

haha good point.

Simple Man!!!!!

September 30th, 2010
5:55 pm

Well hell…..I think they have left me by myself again….. What to do..What to do….

It's me....lurker

September 30th, 2010
6:00 pm

Simple Man, you still here? Guess we’re the only 2 working last. If past 6:00 just you cause I’m out.

Simple Man!!!!!

September 30th, 2010
6:33 pm

Have a Great weekend Blog Family!!! Off to Destin for a Weekend of Golf and relaxation!!!! ARED…Still not to late to join me………. Have a good one!