Do single men feel pressure to marry?
I was lamenting with a friend of mine about no longer being eligible to donate my eggs to infertile couples. For some random reason this bummed me out! Normal single women have biological clocks that inch them towards marriage. Yours truly? I want to cling to the option of donating eggs. I know, I’ve always been a little strange, but I digress.
My friend consoled me by saying I may not be the perfect candidate to donate eggs but I would still make a great wife. He said that as a man, even with the option to have children at a later age, he has felt pressure to become a husband.
Awesome compliment aside (thanks Greg!), what he said me wonder about pressure single men have about relationships and marriage. Is it the same kind of pressure society places on women (and our ovaries!) and how do men handle it?
When men see their friends and peers getting married, do they get the feeling as if they are being left behind?
Ladies, do you think that a man past a certain age that has remain unmarried is still marriage material?
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YESSHEISCUTE
September 29th, 2010
8:09 am
FIRST
YESSHEISCUTE
September 29th, 2010
8:10 am
but now that that’s out the way the only men I think may not be suitable for marriage are men that have been married more than 2x, immature men, men who don’t have their priorities straight, men who act inhuman, etc. Other than that there can be hope for all
DC Rose
September 29th, 2010
8:41 am
Good morning blog folks!
do you think that a man past a certain age that has remain unmarried is still marriage material? – I don’t think age is the criteria for whether or not a man or woman is marriage material. Some people just don’t have what it takes to think and be a couple. When you’re only capable of putting your needs first – IMO you’re not good marriage material.
Beautiful
September 29th, 2010
8:44 am
y’all have got to see this:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e3ghX644NIk
I am whatever you say I am
September 29th, 2010
8:54 am
Egg donation has often been linked to the rapid increase of cancer cells so I do not feel bad one bit about not being able to donate (I pondered that idea before)
I don’t think single men feel pressure to marry but what do I know, I’m not a man.
I will say this though, if a man can get just about everything he wants without having to marry, what’s the incentive for him to marry?
Big Brother AL-MI-TEE
September 29th, 2010
8:56 am
no mans feels pressure to marry….period
I am whatever you say I am
September 29th, 2010
8:57 am
Random: the trick that sits next to me is so immature.
She basically tried to pull my card for “interrupting” her but how is it interrupting when no one was speaking?
I wish someone would walk by and just yank her weave off.
blue™
September 29th, 2010
9:00 am
Morning All,
@i am – lmao….too early in the morning…but still, lmao
on topic:do you think that a man past a certain age that has remain unmarried is still marriage material? no, i do think it would make me ask the question tho why he hadnt married already. my opinion of whether or not he was still marriage material would depend on how he answered the question, not on his age..
Dirty Diana ♠ Going Green, one fish, two fish, red fish, blue fish
September 29th, 2010
9:03 am
Hola!
Ladies, do you think that a man past a certain age that has remain unmarried is still marriage material?
I go back and forth on this one. Part of me believes that a man past a certain age with certain accomplishments that has remain unmarried does not want to be married, or there is some kind of barrier there. My thinking on this is traditional, because the man is in “charge” of the relationship, (per se) as it relates to popping the question, and finding a wife.
Dirty Diana ♠ Going Green, one fish, two fish, red fish, blue fish
September 29th, 2010
9:04 am
Off topic: I see one of EL’s accusers came out and spoke with the media.
I am whatever you say I am
September 29th, 2010
9:07 am
Do I think a man past a certain age unmarried in not marriage material?
No.
Do I think a man past a certain age unmarried in not marriage material?
Only if he is still living at his momma’s house
*Swan Dive*!
I am whatever you say I am
September 29th, 2010
9:07 am
If people file a lawsuit for a certain dollar amount how is it now about the money when they are seeking a certain dollar amount
I am whatever you say I am
September 29th, 2010
9:08 am
typo: not
I am whatever you say I am
September 29th, 2010
9:09 am
you know, I could post this trick’s number online if she continue to act like an arse
mwahahahahah!!!!!
Plate of Fresh Booger Sandwiches for Everyone
September 29th, 2010
9:10 am
In a word…No.
Eddie The Longshanks
September 29th, 2010
9:12 am
Eddie is goin down. The ConnedGregation will probably still back him because they are blind, ignorant or their arrogance will not allow them to admit they were hoodwinked.
Nonetheless Eddie is guilty. GUIILTY I SAY!
It's me....lurker
September 29th, 2010
9:12 am
I guess my question is what’s considered marriage material?
Dirty Diana ♠ Going Green, one fish, two fish, red fish, blue fish
September 29th, 2010
9:15 am
I mentioned this when we had this discussion the last time. In my family, they ask the men and the women that same dreadful question, “When are you getting married…what are you waiting on…are you dating seriously?” I guess you can say the men in my family are feeling the heat as well.
V103 did an excellent job with fox 5 this morning discussing the EL’s case…this thing is going to be like the Paulk scandal.
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
9:22 am
Women take offense when they are a certain age and asked why they are not married so why apply that standard to men? I don’t think men feel pressure to get married, if they want to marry they marry if they don’t they don’t. Some people love being single and the freedom that comes with it. There will always be someone of the opposite sex to supply whatever level of companionship you need.
Eddie The Longshanks
September 29th, 2010
9:27 am
Baked beans and tater salad!!
Dirty Diana ♠ Going Green, one fish, two fish, red fish, blue fish
September 29th, 2010
9:28 am
**I meant questions….**
SexyCool
September 29th, 2010
9:32 am
Three Words Daily – All is well.
Breakingofdawn
September 29th, 2010
9:33 am
I feel that sometimes if the mom and dad want to be grandparents the pressure might be there. Esp if its been a few long term relationships introduced with no output.
I think people are ready when they are ready it has nothing to do with age more so a person’s mindset.
2CPTG©
September 29th, 2010
9:33 am
g’morning….
as one that has been married before, here’s my take on it…and true, I may sound kinda jaded, but oh well….yeah, when I see my peers married and what not, and I do get that “left out” feeling SOMETIMES, because we all want someone to call our own; but for someone like me, who felt he had the “midas touch,” when you fail at something it fvcks with your ego…and that’s how it is/was for me…Am I hubby material? Damn right I am….
Kym
September 29th, 2010
9:36 am
Good Morning All,
Hmmm I am gonna say yes..I think if a person no matter the age is still willing to get married then yes he is marriage material. I am learning age is all about your state of mind. Now having kids..yeah that’s a whole other Oprah.
Blackfoote
September 29th, 2010
9:36 am
Good Morning Beautiful People: Since I have walked that walk before I now feel no pressure to do again, but I will never say never. Believe me it is blisfull to know someone has your back for how ever long it last.
SexyCool
September 29th, 2010
9:37 am
Donating eggs?!?! Hilarious. I have never fir the demographics for any ad that I’ve ever seen about egg donation. (However, I’m not particularly relishing the thought of my eggs turning to dust or having eggs that are so old that I have an *old* baby. LOL!)
Are men past a certain age marriage material? Depends on that man. (And that is at any age.)
With my sister’s wedding having occurred just ten short days ago and with TheDude and I having passed the one year mark, it seems as if I can barely get through a conversation with friends and family without the words “ring, broom, or invitation” or a host of other wedding/marriage related words coming up. (No pressure.)
Beautiful
September 29th, 2010
9:37 am
do you think that a man past a certain age that has remain unmarried is still marriage material? SURE!
When men see their friends and peers getting married, do they get the feeling as if they are being left behind? UH, NO! *chuckles*
TAKE A LISTEN. VERY NICE! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JRVicpXxv_c
Kym
September 29th, 2010
9:40 am
@I am no dollar amount was mention in the complaint..I know they asked for lawyer fees..but I don’t remember seeing specfic amounts.
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
9:45 am
I am trying to stay away from this but do they just want to punish that pastor for hurting their feelings and coercion? Seriously the single mothers of those kids need to be brought up on charges of neglect or something similar. Plenty of single mom’s out there who have taught their sons what a good touch and a bad touch is and that love is between the opposite sex.
blue™
September 29th, 2010
9:46 am
did kim zolciak(sp?) really do a song called “google me”?? alrightee then…..
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
9:46 am
If someone other than a parent has a larger influence over your child than you do…….
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
9:48 am
How do I trademark or copyright my alias? Nevermind the real Purple One may sue me.
Kym
September 29th, 2010
9:48 am
“do they just want to punish that pastor for hurting their feelings and coercion?”
Yep that is what the complaint is all about.
Leggs
September 29th, 2010
9:49 am
Good morning.
@Blackfoote, FYI, your 2 week probation period started 9/28/10!
Ladies, do you think that a man past a certain age that has remain unmarried is still marriage material? Sure, but being “set in your ways” may prove problematic given the age when that man decides to get married.
Simple Man!!!!!
September 29th, 2010
9:50 am
Morning All…..
It seems as if Ms. Diva has been reading my mind lately???? I can’t speak for all men, but I am 41 years old, have achieved a nice amount of my professional goals, Don’t have children, own a home and am not married…I am surprised at how often In the course of conversation I get told, that there because has to be a problem and that i can’t be trusted because I am post 40 and not married. It seems as if the later it gets, the less the likely hood I will ever find teh person to share my life with….
Dirty Diana ♠ Going Green, one fish, two fish, red fish, blue fish
September 29th, 2010
9:51 am
It is amazing to me that Parrish admitted that he went to EL first before taking the lawsuit public. No matter how you slice it these ~boys~ are mad that they got played and they want money. At this time, they are suing for a brokenheart. If they really wanted justice they would have tried to do a criminal case. All of claimants are saying they thought they were the only one.
M. (pronouced M dot)
September 29th, 2010
9:54 am
Good day all
“When men see their friends and peers getting married, do they get the feeling as if they are being left behind?”
This is interesting because in the last year, I have been invited, a member of the bridal party, or heard of ALOT of my friends being engaged.
I honestly don’t feel left behind, inferior, or that I am not a good candidate for marriage. I feel like the timing is different for everybody.
I think a lot of guys meet women they like and they think this is the best woman they will get in their entire LIFE so they lock her down. I think a lot of it is guys not wanting to feel like they are missing out on a potentially good woman so they go all in and lock her down.
I do believe there is a lot of pressure on guys for marriage but I also think we put a lot of the pressure on ourselves because we allow society to do this to us.
My goal is to stay balanced and if I want to pursue marriage, I want to do it when I am ready, not because her clock is ticking, or her dad HIGHLY RECOMMENDED that I marry his daughter. If I am not feeling it, I wont do it. Simple & Plain!
i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)
September 29th, 2010
9:55 am
Purple™ — See this cheat-sheet. Scroll down a bit to find the copyright and/or trademark codes.
I am whatever you say I am
September 29th, 2010
9:56 am
The part that seems to be a red flag to me is how that boy (on TV about the EL lawsuit) said that man turned his back on him in time of need.
Sounds to me more like a scorned lover.
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
9:56 am
How are you to file a lawsuit against someone for talking you out of the booty?
Simple Man!!!!!
September 29th, 2010
9:56 am
Good morning I Am…. How are You today??
blue…how is my cool PLATONIC friend this morning????
I am whatever you say I am
September 29th, 2010
9:56 am
THANKS SWISS!
†
I am whatever you say I am
September 29th, 2010
9:57 am
THat looks more like a cross than a dagger
Forgive me LORD
Leggs
September 29th, 2010
9:57 am
@SimpleMan ~ you’ll probably find your “wife.” Personally, I think you’re at a great age to marry. Most of your “wild oats” have died off (LOL), you respect life and woman much more than you did in your 20’s, and you probably understands reciprocity more than you use to. Hell, I don’t know, but 41 seems to be a good age to marry for the first time.
I am whatever you say I am
September 29th, 2010
9:58 am
Shout outs to Swiss, Kym, Simple Man, M., Carlito
I am whatever you say I am
September 29th, 2010
9:58 am
Hey Leggs!
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
9:59 am
Swiss, Thank You.
I am whatever you say I am
September 29th, 2010
9:59 am
Simple dude: I think you’ll get married one day if you want it.
Find one woman and focus on her versus throwing out a net and trying to catch as many fish as you can.
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
10:00 am
I Am, Hello
Dirty Diana ♠ Going Green, one fish, two fish, red fish, blue fish
September 29th, 2010
10:00 am
If you look at the FB letter one of the guys wrote to Bishop and he said in his suicide letter that he loved Bishop and all he wanted was for Bishop to love him. He mentioned he gave himself in ways he never thought he would. I really feel sorry for him, but at the end of the day sometimes you never catch what you are chasing i.e money, power, love, respect, etc.
I am whatever you say I am™
September 29th, 2010
10:01 am
I’m doing well Simple dude, how are you?
Blackfoote
September 29th, 2010
10:01 am
@ Leggs: How are you this morning? I don’t even get credit for time served? I humbly bow to the line drawn in the sand.
whydoit
September 29th, 2010
10:05 am
I dont see why a man that has it going on “financially” would get married & risk losing it all just because he got married & had a youngin and I am a female.
M. (pronouced M dot)
September 29th, 2010
10:06 am
@I am what How is everything?
@Blog
Here is a couple of funny stories for your entertainment:
1. Yesterday I was out with this new girl, first time meeting up. So we are having drinks and just talking then she asks, I have an inappropriate question for you.
Her: How long have you been in Atlanta?
Me: 4.5 years
Her: Ok, so since you been here, how many women have you ran through since you been here?
Me: :-O!!! Speechless
2. My friend caught a girl he was “Dating” in the pool at her house with another guy and he played me the voicemail with her trying to explain why her and this guy were in her pool @ 10 PM in their Swim Suits……SMH~!
Mr. Moe
September 29th, 2010
10:07 am
In my case there’s not really pressure, but it gets annoying….at least one of my friends has gotten married every year for the last 3 years. The convo turns to who in the clique is next, then heads turn to me, and I turn also turn my head too b/c there’s obviously someone behind me they’re talking about…..haven’t seen anyone behind me yet….
blue™
September 29th, 2010
10:08 am
@Simple – heyyy!! you sufficiently recovered from your beating yesterday?
@Leggs – i agree. i think theres a solid case for men marrying older rather than younger. gives more time for them to gain some maturity, respect for women, and a firm sense of what they are looking for and what they bring to the table.
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
10:09 am
M., I think when people have to many options some can not maintain discipline.
Mr. Moe
September 29th, 2010
10:10 am
@M. LOL I know that VM was hilarious
Blackfoote
September 29th, 2010
10:10 am
@ SimpleMan: Yes I feel your plight bro I turn 46 this December, married once now divorced but has acclomplished many things. I’ll tell you there’s nothing like having a foundation based upon true things such as companionship.
Leggs
September 29th, 2010
10:13 am
@Beautiful ~ thanks for the link because GMA only had the last part on. Interesting. He’s hurt that he’s been discarded, but desperately needing/wanting the love of his “daddy” kept him quiet. Possibly, but the threat of losing all those perks probably helped in him remaining silent as well. It seems to be a no win situation for all parties involved as far as character is concerned.
Big Brother AL-MI-TEE
September 29th, 2010
10:13 am
@m – That would have been the end of the date….or better yet…i would have asked her…is she trying to join the list tonight
…dead
2. – your friend walked in to HER house and found her with another dude….know the difference between a g.tool and lady…hell he should have joined in…and they both split that g.tool…lol
M. (pronouced M dot)
September 29th, 2010
10:14 am
@Mr. Moe
LOL The voicemails were hilarious! She sounded like Mel Gibson!
Dan - simply...
September 29th, 2010
10:16 am
Pressure? Sure. But as a Black man in America that’s an everyday fact, you learn to live with it.
For me, I’m only gittin married when I feel like it – not a moment sooner. While my boys are dropping like flies I feel no pressure to follow suit.
Always followed my tune, this issue is no different
Dirty Diana ♠ Going Green, one fish, two fish, red fish, blue fish
September 29th, 2010
10:17 am
@Simple Man on your 9:20 it sounds great and I truly understand where you are coming from. However when women list those same things out it is perceived that she is too “independent.” This leads me to question, how important is financial stability for men, and is financial stability a most before you seek marriage. I askswiss a similar question before as it related to him popping the question. Most of the men I know do not want to move in the “woman’s house.”
Simple Man!!!!!
September 29th, 2010
10:19 am
blue™
September 29th, 2010
10:08 am
@Simple – heyyy!! you sufficiently recovered from your beating yesterday?
LOL…I went home early and sat in the hot tube to massage my battered body…But its all good, I am back in the game today!!!
Kym
September 29th, 2010
10:20 am
@Leggs..I am bias..I am not feeling no sympathy for Eddie Longat all..the young men yes..because they were in essence “turned out” but Eddie..needs his azz beat until hell won’t have him.
Melo!
September 29th, 2010
10:21 am
Good morning!
DD?
So one of the EL dudes has committed suicide?
I think EL is done too and will take his own life!
I might get all that real estate at a song.
On topic:
I felt pressure when I first married at 29. A little just prior to my second.
Like 2Can said,when most of your friends and peers are taken you want to do the do as well. It kinda feels empty showing up at their parties and events and introducing a girlfriend or going solo.
In my next solo life I ain’t going to get married tho.
And absolutely no pressure there sowing my slow swimming oats!
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
10:21 am
Morning all –
Good grief, more EL talk? It’s not even 10:30 am yet.
Personally, I don’t care if a man feels pressure to marry. It’s nothing compared to what women get.
I’m just glad I don’t have this desperate need to have a baby. A lot of women are making the dumbest choices just to make sure they can have a kid. Messing a lot of things up.
I think a little pressure on these guys isn’t necessarily a bad thing. Some of em need to get off the bench. I’ll never understand how you can have a kid by somone, and then get all aghast when you bring up marriage. Just sad.
Mr. Moe
September 29th, 2010
10:22 am
@M. LOL wow….smh
Simple Man!!!!!
September 29th, 2010
10:23 am
Dirty D…. I do not want to move into a womans house and If she felt the same, I would be open to doing the Joint purchase thing… I don’t demand that a woman match me dollar for dollar and won’t be scared off if I can’t match her money… But there does have to be something coming from both sides…
Beautiful
September 29th, 2010
10:24 am
@Leggs . . . ur welcome! since i’m addicted to fb i don’t miss nutn. LOL! i can’t wait for the noon hour to share with my peeps. they are going to die! we blog’d about this topic last week.
Breakingofdawn
September 29th, 2010
10:25 am
M. she would have been better off just owning up to the situation and letting the chips fall as they may.
Leggs I agree, 40+ seems like a mature age to do it. Although I’m not there yet, I still have alot of selfish ways about me in my mid 30’s that might lessen with age.
I’m glad my family and friends have gotten the picture that I may not be that into marriage as others. A nice big party saying he and I are committed with a nice legal note with the attorney and I think I’m good. But who knows which way the wind may blow.
I have a slight feeling this Teddy Short deal might be like Woods, more and more people might come out. I won’t judge if they are right or wrong for seeking $, but TS should be responsible for his actions. I’m not knowledgeable enough to say if they had a better chance at a civil suit opposed to a criminal one.
Simple Man!!!!!
September 29th, 2010
10:27 am
Morning ARED ( said in my most non-flirty tone)
Leggs
September 29th, 2010
10:29 am
@I am ~ hello. Is little man feeling better today? Hope you don’t catch anything.
@Blackfoote ~ no concessions can be given for time served. Awww, another December baby…what date?
Dan - simply...
September 29th, 2010
10:29 am
@Red
It takes two to tango to make those kids. What kills me is BM 3 suddenly wondering why he won’t get married. Or BM 1 mad at him when he does.
kimmie
September 29th, 2010
10:29 am
Good day All!
I heard the tail end of Sharpton on TJMS this morning and he made a good point. He basically said that this EL thing, the congressmen & women with ethics violations, etc are all learning opportunities. We need to learn that when we are in a leadership position, a mentor, a pastor, counselor, etc, we really need to take that position seriously and watch how we conduct ourselves. He was basically saying that he hopes EL is innocent but the way he handled himself and his position does not bode well for him. I agree.
On topic – Society has different expectations for men. It’s just the way it is. A guy unmarried at 40+ does not raise the eyebrows it does for a 40+ woman. Yes, he might get ribbed a bit and questioned, but does not get the “old maid” label a woman does. My mom used to say a man could go out and get down with a dog and a snake, come home, take a shower and put on a suit and the world will still respect him. That’s just the way it is.
I don’t prejudge such a guy as marriage-material or not until I know his mindset. “Stuff” happens to men in life that might get in the way of marriage just like it does with women. Doesn’t necessarily mean something is wrong with them.
If he just never wants to get married, then he’s not marriage-material to me! He still may be a great person, just one that does not want to marry.
Marriage is not for everyone. Folks need to stop pressing their own values off on other people and let people live their lives as they see fit.
kimmie
September 29th, 2010
10:31 am
Simple – You’ve talked earlier about how you wanted to marry a lady in the past and she turned you down. You said you’ve been afraid to put yourself out there since. Is this still keeping you from marrying?
Dirty Diana ♠ Going Green, one fish, two fish, red fish, blue fish
September 29th, 2010
10:31 am
So one of the EL dudes has committed suicide?
@Melo one of the guys wrote a suicide letter, but he was unable to go through with it…in the letter he mentioned terminating his life and the letter was written about EL.
@Simple Man personally I feel that in this economy I would put pride and tradition aside and do what makes sense financially. There were three houses between me and my ex, when we were discussing marriage. IMO we could have done two things (1) put them all on the market and (a) buy a house together after they all sold or (b) live in the third house left after the other two sold (2) be strategic and sale the most expensive houses and keep the least expensive house and pay it off together in 5 years…look at being debt free.
As long as we have this trial and blog there will be EL talk.
blue™
September 29th, 2010
10:37 am
@Simple Man – glad you recovered, keep your wits about you today, dont think you can take another beat down…
@kimmie – agreed, expectations are different and have been for decades…are in a lot of other cultures as well not just America…back in “olden times” as my kids call it, it was the norm for girls to be promised b4 they hit there teens, married and moved out in their early teens, and already had multiple kids by the time they turn 20…all with a husband 20,30,40+ years her senior…the attitude then becomes men can marry whenever they want, no matter what age, women get older and arent married there must be somethign wrong…
Leggs
September 29th, 2010
10:40 am
Blackfoote
September 29th, 2010
10:41 am
@ Leggs: No concessions? Then I must serve it well. Dec. 18th
@ AamazonRed: Good morning….I’m serving my probationary time Melo put me on backed up by Leggs. Strange Melo gave me no time frame but Leggs came down hard on me with 2 weeks.
Leggs
September 29th, 2010
10:41 am
Ok, that’s wrong!
Leggs
September 29th, 2010
10:44 am
Excellent, another Sag in the house…I’m December 9th. ARed’s a Sag as well
My symbol is wrong, not what you posted Blackfoote (LOL).
LURKER-1
September 29th, 2010
10:46 am
Did anyone see EL sermon last night on channel 2? I believed it was a hidden camera. I went to wsbtv website afterwards but I couldn’t find the video. Alas, but I did find it on youtube. I’m jealous, brotha wearing his muscle t-shirt under his vest with pipes like Adrain Peterson. Not to mention, he’s 57.
abc
September 29th, 2010
10:46 am
The thing with the EL scandal is that is illustrates the hypocrisy surrounding that ministry, another mega-church exposed. In a way I hate to see a church disgraced, but on the other hand, the poseurs need to be exposed for who and what they are.
I start to think that ‘mega’ and ‘church’ shouldn’t go together, but it’s not as if simply being smaller would automatically make one squeaky clean. The amount of money accumulated by a mega-church could perhaps be too much of a temptation, though.
kimmie
September 29th, 2010
10:47 am
Amred – I trip out on folks attitudes about babies & marriage too! I personally think bringing a life into this world is an extremely serious matter and should be given just as much, if not more, consideration as getting married.
I was going to mention this on the blog last week. I was up late watching Wendy Williams. She has this segment on her show where she lets folk from the audience ask her questions about anything. This lady got up and said she frequently goes clubbing with her 31 year old son. She saids people often ask if she is his girlfriend. She also revealed her son is a major recording star – Ne Yo. Folks started clapping and Wendy says she really loves Ne Yo and his music. Mother Ne Yo asked Wendy should she dress more “motherly” when they go out. Wendy said hey as long as you dress in good taste, what’s the worry? Wendy also brought up that she heard Ne Yo & his girlfriend are expecting a baby. Mother was grinning and said she was very excited about becoming a grandmother. Wendy said his girlfriend was lovely and Mother agreed. Then Wendy asked if there were any plans for them to marry. Mother’s facial expression changed and she rolled her eyes and pouted. She said “Well I don’t know about that, I mean he is my only baby and all, my boy”. Wendy said “Oh get over it honey, he’s a grown 31 year old man, you need to let that go!” The audience clapped! I was so glad Wendy shut her down! That’s what’s wrong with some of these mama’s boys now – mama blocking instead of getting her own life! Personally I think she shouldn’t be out “clubbing” with her son and get her own friends to party with too!
Blackfoote
September 29th, 2010
10:48 am
Wow we do have something in common.
White Man
September 29th, 2010
10:50 am
Good morning
White Man
September 29th, 2010
10:50 am
mornin
Leggs
September 29th, 2010
10:51 am
@kimmie ~ I laughed at that entire post esp her expression on Ne-Yo marrying. Ne-Yo probably wants to cut the apron strings, not understanding why they’re still attached to him when he keeps cutting them. He doesn’t seem to understand she’s using velcro and it’s easy for her to reattach the strings (LOL). Heck, I remember seeing Trez Song’s mother. I thought she was his sister at first. If you got it, you got, but wear it respectfully…these are your sons. Please, we don’t need another Janice Combs to look at.
I am whatever you say I am™
September 29th, 2010
10:52 am
Leggs: Little dude is better. THanks
Question for the blog men
or lurking blog menIf you met a chick that had it going on and you could see yourself married to her, would you still marry her if she had her own house or would you be turned off by that?
Melo!
September 29th, 2010
10:53 am
@Kimmie?!!
They have money but their values are wack. Especially that NE Yo mother.
That’s what’s so wrong with people these days. Money somehow makes them change their values!!
Sad!
Lundy
September 29th, 2010
10:54 am
I hate it when I’m at a friend’s wedding and people ask when it will be my turn. People don’t ask that at funerals.
White Man
September 29th, 2010
10:54 am
I am whatever you say I am….I dont think that would make a difference.
Simple Man!!!!!
September 29th, 2010
10:54 am
kimmie, I don’think that holds me back, because I believe I have properly healed from that…
Dirty D…It would hurt to sell my house because it is my DREAM house!!! But I would part with it for my DREAM woman!!! LOL
2CPTG©
September 29th, 2010
10:55 am
“would you still marry her if she had her own house or would you be turned off by that?”
And why would this be a turn-off?
kimmie
September 29th, 2010
10:56 am
Said, not saids – sorry for the poor grammar.
Blackfoote
September 29th, 2010
10:57 am
@ I AM: I would ask her to keep her house separatley from the one I would purchase with her. Couldn’t see living in her house, but would help her with the upkeep.
Leggs
September 29th, 2010
10:57 am
Single vs Married
September 29th, 2010
10:58 am
Do men feel the pressure? I’m not a man so I don’t know but what I do know is that my hubby didn’t feel the pressure but he felt the urgency to lock me down so to speak. I agree with M. (he’s somewhere towards the beginning) who said he felt that men feel the need to lock down a good woman once they find her thinking she is gonna be the BEST he will find in his LIFE for him. I feel that as a married woman I did the same thing. All the while I dated my hubby I was still on the lookout for other guys to make sure he was the one for me in this lifetime. I think I made a pretty good choice. Compared to my single dating life (which was full of losers and crazy men) I’ll take the married life anyday. When it’s good it’s great! But when it’s bad it’s worse!
This is my opinion only so don’t get offended!!! If you want kids then old men that need viagra or other drugs to get it up are not marriage material. Some old men are not good marriage material b/c they are old and set in their ways. But hey there are those that argure money will make an old man marriage material so…kudos to whatever floats your boat!
Dirty Diana ♠ Going Green, one fish, two fish, red fish, blue fish
September 29th, 2010
10:59 am
@Simple man good answer! My goal is being debt free or having something that either of us can afford if one of us are out of work, injured etc. IMO whatever makes sense money wise.
I personally know someone that was affiliated with Ne-Yo and she puts him on EL’s team. She is a very sharp lady and deals with plenty of entertainers (strictly business), and I believe her. However I do love me some Ne-Yo
I am whatever you say I am™
September 29th, 2010
11:00 am
Kimmie: when my son turns 21, I think that will be the one and only time I would desire to club with my son.
Hmmmnnn….now that I think about it, no I don’t want to, lol.
THe last thing I would ever want is for him to be a momma’s boy.
My son is only 2 but already I provide opportunities for him to be independent. We he meets the woman of his dreams, I hope he will marry and if he were to marry, I would stay out of their affairs.
On that note, men also need to learn that when they marry, wife comes first.
I am whatever you say I am™
September 29th, 2010
11:01 am
typo: when
Melo!
September 29th, 2010
11:01 am
@I am?!
go ahead and buy a house!
U can always get a prenuptial before dude puts ring on it. If your house is such a big deal!
kimmie
September 29th, 2010
11:02 am
2C – Your 10:55 – I was wondering the same.
I am – Some people from the past were raised that a proper lady went from her parents house to her husbands. It was not proper for a single woman to be living in her own place. I actually dated a guy whose mother was like that – her own knocking on 40 daughter lives at home instead of her own place. She used to make comments to me about it when I was dating her son, but I wasn’t having it. That was year 2000, not 1950.
Is that what you are talking about? Or do you think if a woman has it going on, with her own home and all, that a dude will think she doesn’t need a man, thus not need him or feel intimidated?
If so, girl this is 2010. He would need to get over it and go about getting his own!
White Man
September 29th, 2010
11:03 am
Single vs. married ….Have you stayed faithful?
Dirty Diana ♠ Going Green, one fish, two fish, red fish, blue fish
September 29th, 2010
11:03 am
@LURKER-1 http://www.wsbtv.com/video/25206797/index.html
I think this is the most you will get…I think you are right about some taking it down
Beautiful
September 29th, 2010
11:03 am
the men that i’m in contact with WANT to be married. i think its because they are lonely. you can hear it in their voice. its sad. i so wish i wasn’t picky, i would be someone’s wifey right now. LOL!
i was thinking just last night . . . at what age will i settle? if i’m not married by 45, would i actually downgrade??? can i grow to love and be happily married to a man who i’m not attracted to or have no chemistry with??? hmmmmm . . . my big thing is i want to be happy! if i’m away from bruh, i want the feeling of *i can’t wait to see his a** tonight!*. and i just left him 2 mins ago.
kimmie
September 29th, 2010
11:04 am
DD – I actually have heard the same about Ne Yo. I love his music too though.
White Man
September 29th, 2010
11:05 am
Beautiful…do not push it. If it will happen it will. But dont force it.
Leggs ~ Smiling
September 29th, 2010
11:06 am
If you’re going to downgrade, why not remain single??
Kimmy
September 29th, 2010
11:07 am
Everyone gets lonely from time to time, therefore there will be that time when you think about those friends that are in a happy relationship and wish you had the same. Usually that moment passes and you move on. A 40 y/o/m is a bachelor and a 40 y/o/f is a spinster. That’s just it unfortunately SMH!
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
11:09 am
I Am, I would not mind a woman who had her own house. Actually I question adults over the age of 35 who have never been a “owner” and has been forever a renter. Unless the come from a major city or something.
Kym
September 29th, 2010
11:09 am
@Kimmie..Ne-Yo ’s momma should let go. Actually she should have let go awhile ago. I love my son..but I am not trying to hold on to him like that. He knows at 18 you go away to college..away..like not around here..away. I thought he could stay instate but even that is too close. All kids need to get out and make their own mistakes..screw ups..whateva..it is how you grow and evolve as a person.
Leggs ~ Smiling
September 29th, 2010
11:10 am
@Kimmy ~ and, along with those thoughts of your friend’s happy relationship, you immediately also think of those who are unhappy and STUCK. I know of more in inhappy marriages than I do in happy, healthy ones. I’m glad to know those who are happy, but man, the scales of justice are definitely unbalanced.
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
11:11 am
There is a difference between Love and Love of our ego/pride. The lines become blurred often. Sometimes we fight and hurt for what we are supposed to others time we do the same just to protect our ego and pride
Leggs ~ Smiling
September 29th, 2010
11:12 am
unhappy…..
Dirty Diana ♠ Going Green, one fish, two fish, red fish, blue fish
September 29th, 2010
11:12 am
It was not proper for a single woman to be living in her own place.
My mother was raised under that pattern of thinking and she encouraged her daughters to become homeowners, businesswomen etc. She told me as a woman you should be able to take care of yourself. When she was brought up her daddy did not teach the girls to drive, when she came to the city she paid the driving school to teach her. As for the independent arugument it is 2010 and I need to sleep somewhere….why should I make the landlord rich?
As for Ne-yo this lady is behind the camera, but she is very creative, smart and she is not messy at all.
LURKER-1
September 29th, 2010
11:13 am
Thanks DD, the one on youtube was about 7 mins but it didn’t have the part when he felt the “spirit”
Beautiful
September 29th, 2010
11:14 am
@WhiteMan . . . don’t push it? did it read like i was? i’ve been single since 2004. truss me, ain’t no push’n going on. LOL!
@Leggs . . . my question to myself is: *is downgrading really that bad?*
kimmie
September 29th, 2010
11:15 am
DD – My mom used to preach “God bless the child that’s got his own” 24/7. We got a little sick of it, but we appreciate it! LOL!!
I am whatever you say I am™
September 29th, 2010
11:15 am
Thanks for the response white man
2C: I guess it would be a turn off for an insecure guy
Blackfoot: THat sounds reasonable. For me, if I were engaged and the market were better, I would gladly sell the house rather than have 2 mortgages unless dude insisted.
Melo!
September 29th, 2010
11:17 am
NE Yo was on frank ski some months back talking about that baby.
If my memory serves me’ right it’s by artificial insemination. And with a surrogate.
He looks sweet tho, no doubt!
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
11:17 am
I thought Ne-Yo was gay
I am whatever you say I am™
September 29th, 2010
11:17 am
Melo: I already have a house.
I just wanted to know how men think.
i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)
September 29th, 2010
11:19 am
i am… — I’m with 2can & others… Why would owning a house possibly be a turn off? Mrs. Swiss & I both owned houses when we met & because of that, we were able to each sell our respective decent houses & upgrade to a kick-a$$ crib jointly.
Now, if someone is still living at home with mom/dad, that raises some concerns for me. At the very least, she better have a nice nest egg saved up in that situation, otherwise I would seriously question her fiscal responsibility.
White Man
September 29th, 2010
11:19 am
Why do most women want to push the marriage arguement so much?
kimmie
September 29th, 2010
11:19 am
I guess it would be a turn off for an insecure guy
I am – And a guy that insecure should be a turn-off to you. I know for me it would. Especially in 2010.
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
11:21 am
Now a man should not move into a womans house and sell his. If they get married they need to have both names on it. Especially if she gets mad and trying to throw him out whenever she gets mad or if she holds it over his head ever.
Le Siren
September 29th, 2010
11:24 am
Off topic: Come on people, I thought everyone knew that Neyo was gay! I mean, look at EVERY picture of him. He looks the part. Love his music though:)
On topic: My current boyfriend and I have been together two years. He’s 38 and has never been married and has no children. On top of that he’s successful in his career and very attractive. Needless to say, he is an extremely rare find. He’s felt a great deal of pressure from family and friends as to when he’s finally going to get married and have kids. Fortunately, neither one of us feel the pressure to rush into this. We’re enjoying each other too much to change anything right now!
Kym
September 29th, 2010
11:26 am
Well what if I have the better house?
White Man
September 29th, 2010
11:28 am
KYM…I would have no problem with that. I do not see why people on this board think that would be an issue.
kimmie
September 29th, 2010
11:28 am
Purple – I have some friends that got married. They both make mad money and both had houses. They moved into the wifes house because hers was the much nicer one in a nicer neighborhood. I’m sure they have the financials worked out, but like I said, they both had major money going into the marriage.
As for a woman holding something like that over a mans head – why is he married to someone like that again? If she’s like that, he should have gotten an inkling she was that way before they married. He got what he wanted.
Beautiful
September 29th, 2010
11:28 am
http://ellen.warnerbros.com/2010/09/7_year_old_rapper_lil_p_nut_vod_0927.php
SexyCool
September 29th, 2010
11:29 am
An issue that I have with the *Black* church is I don’t understand why there are so many itty-bitty struggling ass congregations in storefront churches and converted office spaces always *THIS* close to being foreclosed on or evicted.
I mean, really, Prophetess DoRight’s 30 member congregation right across the Reverand ShoNuff’s 38 member church just don’t make a lot of sense to me.
Dirty Diana ♠ Going Green, one fish, two fish, red fish, blue fish
September 29th, 2010
11:29 am
@LURKER-1 Between his play on words, the hair toupee, and saying something in his spirit he becoming spooky to me. Not to mention the comparison with David, because a few scholars that are not religious question David’s sexuality and his relationship with Jonathan. Anyhow this mess will still be going on three years from now if he don’t pull out the golden pen and sign his name to four or five checks.
@Kimmie my mother said the same thing.
@White man I see women that are thirsty and phinning for a man always talking about relationships and marriage. I will share this with you I “kick them to the curb.” My female friends are progressive and they are happy with themselves so they are not out here on a massive search for a man.
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
11:29 am
When I got married I added her name to my house her and she added my name to her house back home.
blue™
September 29th, 2010
11:30 am
Couldn’t see living in her house, but would help her with the upkeep.
Now a man should not move into a womans house and sell his
imo, this type of atitude is what gets the feminists all keyed up…why shouldnt he? what if she has the better house? what if hers is closer to being paid than his? seems so many of hte comments are based around mens ego more than anything else…smh
White Man
September 29th, 2010
11:30 am
SexyCool…I have a question. Why do most black female leaders of congregations call themselves “Prophetess”?
Beautiful
September 29th, 2010
11:30 am
i can’t help but SMILE when i view that link.
White Man
September 29th, 2010
11:30 am
SexyCool….I can also answer your question…are you sure you want to hear it?
I am whatever you say I am™
September 29th, 2010
11:32 am
Met Neyo in person back in the day…. he had a baby with him.
He was cool. But, I still think he’s GAY GAY GAY GAY
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
11:33 am
I am not saying a man can or should not move into her house if it’s nicer I am just say both names need to be on the deed, wherever they decide to live. If she moves with him add her to the deed etc
The whole problem with that Church is that there were no checks and balances, someone should have known something was not right and been able to pull the pastor to the side or just stop him from being in a compromising situation.
Single vs Married
September 29th, 2010
11:34 am
@White Man. Yep. Has he? Yep. Just listening to our single friends horrible episodes of the dating scene is enough. And then not to mention out of shape men, no hygiene having men, old men (eww- i just don’t wanna see hanging private parts and gray hair. i’d rather grow old w/my partner and then see it) and why would i want another dude beatn it up or laying it down? I”ve always been selective about who got to see it or even get in it (my daddy’s rules). So being faithful is not hard for me. However, roping in my flirtatiousness and teasing nature is! My hubby and I lived together for 6mths before we were to get married. So I had to come home after my bachlorette party. My hubby said my BFs handed him my one high heel sandal (the other was still on my foot) and pushed me in his hands and ran back to the car giggling. I was sooooo WASTED! He said the whole time this was going on I was saying to him…’Baby I’m sorry, I’m so sorry’ over and over again. He even had to put me in a cold shower! Till this day I do not know what I was apologizing for and my BFs won’t tell me. You gotta love your BFs! I’m a huge party girl…that’s been the hardest for me to pull back on.
I am whatever you say I am™
September 29th, 2010
11:34 am
LOL! I think the lady whom I bought my house from may have had newlewed issues
She was selling her house because she recently got married.
When I went for my viewing, house was empty except for a little bit of furniture.
When I cam back for final walk thru-after inspection- It looked like someone had spent the night.
kimmie
September 29th, 2010
11:35 am
Melo – Your 11:17, that explains alot!
Guess his mama will probably get her wish then, she won’t have to worry about him marrying that young lady!
White Man
September 29th, 2010
11:36 am
Single vs. Married….that is great, most women cannot say the same thing. Especially if they come from a large party scene.
SexyCool
September 29th, 2010
11:36 am
WM –
1130a(1) – I have no idea.
1130a(2) – I have my opinions as to why…most of which I believe are money motivated. And of course, you are more than welcome to offer your thoughts and opinions at any time.
I am whatever you say I am™
September 29th, 2010
11:36 am
Okay ladies and gents.
I need lunch ideas.
STart typing out your suggestions for the perimeter area
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
11:36 am
blue, you think I care what a feminist thinks? LOL nope, besides who listens to feminist except other feminist, lesbians and moist men? I said a man should not move into a womans house without his name on the deed. (that was the purpose of my entry and to follow that up i said she should not move into his without her name on the deed) Now get your panties out of a bunch
I am whatever you say I am™
September 29th, 2010
11:37 am
Kimmie: Yep, I don’t likey insecure dudes
Leggs ~ Smiling
September 29th, 2010
11:39 am
@Beautiful ~ there are many levels of downgrading…you just have to decide which layer is more tolerable than others. It’s only bad if you’re giving up on something that is important to you.
Come on, the man should be proud that his woman has a house, or she proud he has a house. Nothing wrong with renting, but owning your own home should not be a reason for dismissing someone.
@I am ~ the only person I can think of that would have a problem with this is an insecure man that couldn’t help you with the mortgage whic in turn will have you not liking him in the long run!
i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)
September 29th, 2010
11:40 am
“When I cam back for final walk thru-after inspection- It looked like someone had spent the night”
i am… — Maybe she & the new hubby just wanted to have one last romp in her place for old times sake…? Did you do the black-light test on the carpet, showers, kitchen counters, etc.?
kimmie
September 29th, 2010
11:40 am
Purple – Oh, and another thing. Just like you mentioned a woman could throw it up in his face if his name is not on the deed, a man could (and do) throw it up in his wifes face if her name is not on the deed.
BOTH parties need to do due diligence when they tie the knot! Just like you said you and your wife did.
Single vs Married
September 29th, 2010
11:40 am
Oh and the club we went to for my bachlorette party? My BFs and I were banned for 6mths! But the good thing is one of my BFs ended up marrying the police officer on duty that escorted us out of the club. How funny is that!
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
11:40 am
Leggs, people have their own reasons for dismissing someone so you can’t fault their standards. And if a man is living in his home or his womans home he should pay the mortgage no matter who’s home it is. But feminist probably won’t fuss about that one.
Melo!
September 29th, 2010
11:41 am
SexxyCool?
that tells u most of these folks starting churches are motivated by mega bucks and not the Holy Spirit!
Ego runs wild in them.
You can’t loot the church if u didn’t start it! No wonder the desire to go their individual route and not collaborating.
There was a good article on EL on CNN about that hero/ Bishop worshipping in mega churches and the pastor identity syndrome.
Simple Man!!!!!
September 29th, 2010
11:43 am
blue @ 11:30
I will grant you that…. The male ego is in play withthings like this, but its only because so often guys are judged by things like that. And like someone said earlier, What happens the first time she gets made and starts with the its my house… You moved in with me foolishness???
Beautiful
September 29th, 2010
11:43 am
*It’s only bad if you’re giving up on something that is important to you.* <————- mad chemistry is important to me, but can i live w/o it or will it grow between us? something to ponder.
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
11:43 am
kimmie, I just don’t get the arguing with a woman but you brought up a good point. I guess a man could do that. In my world woman are expected to be erratic and emotional sometimes and men have to keep the cool. Yes sometimes we are drawn into the argument but putting your woman on the streets is just not nice. Only reason to do that is if she is cheating on you then if you put her our she can go live with that dude. A man is a man if he has to leave he better be man enough to provide a shelter for his head.
2CPTG©
September 29th, 2010
11:44 am
“a few scholars that are not religious question David’s sexuality and his relationship with Jonathan.”
and Paul, and even Jesus himself….heard all the theories.
Sexy, I think you see all the “lil” churches spring up because you have disgruntled parishioners who wanna do their own thing, as opposed to following the setforth doctrine……wait a second, ain’t that how/why America was founded, to practice religious freedoms; to break from the tyranny of the British Crown.
Come On Son
September 29th, 2010
11:46 am
I do not think the problem is getting married, the challenge is staying married. Plenty of people can find others to date, live with, even get married, but our society has moved to the mindset that longterm relationships have time limits and lifetime (till death do we part) commitments just are not necessary any longer.
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
11:46 am
Being in love our married is no justification for making dumb financial decisions. Using something and paying for it but you are not getting a tax break or receipt or once payments are made no part of the ownership is dumb and dumberer
Dirty Diana ♠ Going Green, one fish, two fish, red fish, blue fish
September 29th, 2010
11:48 am
WM/carlito
We all know this is a power move and each minister have his/her own view on how to run a church. If you look at the Church of God in Christ they have procedures in place where they will combine churches if the membership falls below a certain number. C of God in Christ have white, black, yellow etc. churches. For the record I have seen white churches in a storefront and one I know started with about 8 members and used a hotel conference room as the place of worship. Depending on the organization there are controls in place, some have them and some don’t. EL had power at NB, and that power came from growing the church from 300-25,000.
Beautiful
September 29th, 2010
11:48 am
*the challenge is staying married.* <——– and since i don't believe in divorce, my challenge will be greater imo.
SexyCool
September 29th, 2010
11:49 am
Melo – I agree. I have attended a larger congregation here in Metro Atlanta. And one of the things that dude used to say a LOT was “Don’t let nobody talk bad about your spiritual leader.”
And let me just say, that I do not discount the good that is done by these *movements*. I don’t discount any good that EL himself has done. In fact, I think it is unfortunate that so much of the good that he has done is now being overshadowed by this situation.
But, then too, what some of his followers don’t seem to want to accept is that a person that is doing good can also be doing some foul sht right along beside it. And that doesn’t make the good less good or Un-good or not good. It just means that this individual has some *Bad* and some *Ugly* that come with the total package.
Oh…and I eventually moved away from participating at that larger church. It started feeling less like a genuine religious experience and more like a weekly theatrical production.
And last but not least, I think some folks get being filled with the spirit confused with being overcome with emotion.
kimmie
September 29th, 2010
11:50 am
I guess a man could do that.
Purple – It doesn’t go down in your world, but this stuff happens every day of the week. I heard a woman on the radio just the other day talking about how she really wanted to leave her controlling husband. She said he always talked about how it was HIS house they lived in.
It’s one of the things my mother stressed to me – to make sure both names are on the deed.
White Man
September 29th, 2010
11:50 am
Exactly correct!!!
Melo!
September 29th, 2010
11:51 am
PR?
I second!
I wouldn’t live in my woman’s house.
Either she rents it or sells it.
You live I your romans house and you setting yourself for disaster coz of how they rationalize, especially in arguments.
Let alone your kinsfolk talk. Men is not an Island.
There are better choices and living in your woman’s house is not a manly choice.
It’s moist!
Beautiful
September 29th, 2010
11:51 am
*the challenge is staying married.* <———- and since i don't believe in divorce, my challenge is greater imo.
Mo (aka Moeisha )
September 29th, 2010
11:53 am
Afternoon All! okay so it looks like the discussion is on EL and NB again….anyone hear that he was mentored by Earl Paulk this AM on the radio? Things that make you go hmmmmmm
So what else is good
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
11:53 am
Melo, I agree but I am sure some women will tell us how we are wrong for feeling that way. LOL
Melo!
September 29th, 2010
11:54 am
U live in your woman’s house……
SexyCool
September 29th, 2010
11:55 am
A few observations of the video.
1. The muscle shirt is back.
2. The curly kit is still in place.
3. That hand on the hip, stomping his foot thing….well, er, um…….
blue™
September 29th, 2010
11:57 am
@PR – view on who listens to feminists – lol, interesting and i’ll leave that there…as far as both names on the house, i can see that point, but the first sentence was “Now a man should not move into a womans house and sell his”….feminist, nonfeminist whatever…as was said earlier its 2010 not 1950…
@kimmie – a man could (and do) throw it up in his wifes face if her name is not on the deed, seen it many times, but still see guys who want her to leave her house and move into his with no precautions whatsoever…she wants her name on the deed it becomes a fight over why is she encroaching on what he earned himself. there are many good guys out there who dont care about these things, or who take what is considered to be the reasonable stance, but for everyone good one theres a crazy one out there….
@Simple Man – i can see the point of putting both names on the deed to prevent just this type of thing, but as was mentioned earlier, he had to have had some indication that she was that type of person, whyd he stay with her till it blew up that big? cause really, it doesnt have to be “its my house, im on the deed”…it can be we’re both on the deed, but i pay the mortgage…a chick who has that personality will find anything to harass over, your name on the deed wont save you….
White Man
September 29th, 2010
11:57 am
beautiful….I completely understand.
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
11:59 am
Mo I read that and we all know Earl Paulks troubles. I also read that Eddie Long was distanced from his father, because Eddie showed homosexual tendencies at a young age. The reason this was odd was because Eddie Longs Father was straight but his father (EL’s Granddad) was gay and EL’s Father was constantly ridiculed about it. Now do I believe that or do I think it’s true….I have no opinion. I just like to read. LOL and we all know we can’t believe everything that we hear or read. I think whatever road that Church takes that it will come back stronger than ever. People should just be still and pray that God’s will be done, I really believe nothing is ever random and God’s will shall be done whether we agree with it or not.
2CPTG©
September 29th, 2010
12:00 pm
“your name on the deed wont save you…”
Damn sho….cause if them folks ever have to come visit, they don’t give a damn who’s name is on the deed…somebody going to the show, and nine times outta ten, it’s gon be him!
Simple Man!!!!!
September 29th, 2010
12:00 pm
I am… What about Chequers….Great food!!!!
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
12:00 pm
blue, there was more than one sentence. But that’s what you feminist do. Just pick and choose. LOL
Beautiful
September 29th, 2010
12:01 pm
i wouldn’t have a problem with my husband wanting me to sell my home. i know his ego is important and i would support him and make sure that he feels like he is King & HOH.
looking for another home TOGETHER would make our bond even better. imo.
abc
September 29th, 2010
12:01 pm
I wouldn’t move into a woman’s house unless I was homeless or something.
I’d think the optimal course of action would be to sell both his and her houses, and get a house together, that’s their house.
If a woman would take issue with feeling like she’s contributing more to the new house’s purchase than the man, that’s the reason why I wouldn’t move into her house in the first place.
kimmie
September 29th, 2010
12:03 pm
there are many good guys out there who dont care about these things, or who take what is considered to be the reasonable stance, but for everyone good one theres a crazy one out there….
blue – That was my whole point really. Each couple does what’s best for their situation. A lot of people misuse their “power”, women included. They throw up in the others face that “this is mine, I made this money,etc” which is wrong in a marriage. But Purple acted this type of thing doesn’t go on with men, and it surely does, all the time, every day. He can’t identify with it and that’s a good thing, but don’t say it doesn’t go down!
Melo!
September 29th, 2010
12:05 pm
Blue?
the most appropriate and savvy thing to do is rent or sell your individual houses and buy a matrimonial house with both names on the deed.
When you arrange your stuff good going in,you know houses good when going out in case you have to parachute.
Marriage don’t have to be a financial death sentence.
Now a man living in her house after selling his is setting himself up for homelessness in case he gets thrown out.
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
12:06 pm
Green acres is the place for me.
Farm livin’ is the life for me.
Land spreadin’ out so far and wide
Keep **Atlanta**, just give me that countryside.
SexyCool
September 29th, 2010
12:07 pm
Were I ever to find myself in the whose house situation, I would hope that I would be involved with a man that, together, we would make the best financial decision as it is what has the potential to have the greater long range impact.
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
12:07 pm
Don’t be LoveDumb
Beautiful
September 29th, 2010
12:07 pm
@Kimmie . . . i wouldn’t blame him for wanting to jus keep my home, which would now be OUR home, cause things would be easier/more simple. BUT!!! i would question his manhood if he didn’t raise one concern about it. i would need him to make one remark, jus one!
Dan - simply...
September 29th, 2010
12:08 pm
@Beautiful/Angie
If you’re still of the opinion that you need to assauge a man’s “ego”, I need you to deal with some different type of dudes. A man’s “ego”, like his self esteem, can’t be affected by you or anyone else.
Light
September 29th, 2010
12:12 pm
Let God will be done thru this blog http://lightoftheearth.blogspot.com/
kimmie
September 29th, 2010
12:13 pm
I do agree that it is wonderful to purchase a home together. But again, everyone has to do what is best for their situation.
I know of some instances where the couple tried to purchase a home, but one parties credit was so bad, the only way they could qualify is to have one name on the deed. 2 cases that immediately come to mind, it was the husband that had the messed up credit. I know because I had to pull the credit reports. I bet they didn’t go bragging to their boys about that.
So each couple does what’s in their best interest.
Beautiful
September 29th, 2010
12:15 pm
@Dan . . . LOL! whatevr.
kimmie
September 29th, 2010
12:16 pm
Beautiful – Read SCool’s 12:07. That’s the type of man and situation I want. A real partnership.
Not a situation where I constantly have to build up his ego. I’m with Dan on this.
Beautiful
September 29th, 2010
12:18 pm
@Kimmie . . . i didn’t say anything about building up his ego! supporting it, yes.
Melo!
September 29th, 2010
12:19 pm
Kimmie?
U can buy a home using one party’s financial info then amend the deed later to include the other party. I hope those parties/dudes did that.
Otherwise there would be nothing in therefor them even if they contributed financially.
That’s like an America black chic saying she’s married but with no ring!
Beautiful
September 29th, 2010
12:19 pm
SC & I said the exact same thing. LOL!
blue™
September 29th, 2010
12:20 pm
not picking and choosing, him not selling his house and moving into hers, as far as i read the language, has nothing to do with putting both names on the deed.they came across as 2 seperate ideas, and thats how i treated.as far as what feminists do or dont, several in my family,and the majority will not admit womans fault in anything or defend or advise a man…he!!, most ive known wont even admit that there are good men out there at all lol….
@kimmie – 1203: exactly…
@melo – the most appropriate and savvy thing to do is rent or sell your individual houses and buy a matrimonial house with both names on the deed…i could see that, if all are agreed…if im already in my dream house tho, there may be some issues, lol…
Blackfoote
September 29th, 2010
12:22 pm
@ blue: Since you took one sentence of mine and made me it anti-feminist. My actual point was if she has her own house and I have mine I would prefer we buy one together and she could keep hers, rent, or sell it. Maybe ego or not but I would feel very uncomfortable with living in her house and I would suspect she would living in mine.
I am whatever you say I am™
September 29th, 2010
12:23 pm
I’m swiss: at your 11:40 : I hired a cleaning service before I moved in
I am whatever you say I am™
September 29th, 2010
12:25 pm
Simple dude: hmnnnn…..nope
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
12:27 pm
It takes two to tango to make those kids.
Please no Captain Obvious statements today Dan.
kimmie
September 29th, 2010
12:27 pm
Melo – Isn’t Queen married but with no ring?
I know you said American, but it’s not a rule in America that one must have a ring to be married, just a common custom.
I’ve heard of what you said, about later getting the name on the deed though.
We are all looking at home ownership as an asset. Most of the time it is. But times have changed. A home can be a big liability too. Be careful what you sign your name to, people.
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
12:28 pm
blue is feeling blue today and I am going to bother her feminist womanhood all day long. I used to be able to pick on kimmie but now it’s blue. LOL
Simple Man!!!!!
September 29th, 2010
12:29 pm
blue @ 12:20
“im already in my dream house tho, there may be some issues, lol…”
Thats the position I am in…. I now live in a house that was everything i ever dreamed of wanting…Like I said, for the right woman, I would part with it but She better be as right as rain!!! LOL
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
12:29 pm
Afternoon Mr. Simple Man (keeping it all business, I guess
)
Blackfoote – Probation will go by quickly. I’ve seen no troll like behavior from you. And you’re a Sag too?! You might be perfection!!! LOL
Kym
September 29th, 2010
12:29 pm
Well I’m not moving..I like my house. LOL!!
Speaking of EL..I know we will come around to that joker again..this is one of the best interviews I have seen on the situation. Before Eddie..Before TD Jakes..there was this man..Carlton Pearson
http://www.cnn.com/video/#/video/us/2010/09/27/nr.pearson.homosexuality.cnn?iref=allsearch
Dirty Diana ♠ Going Green, one fish, two fish, red fish, blue fish
September 29th, 2010
12:31 pm
I will say this in this housing market both parties need to be flexible. For the renters and apartment dwellers they should just box up there things and go with the flow if the other person is a homeowner. If you are in a starter home and the other person’s home is larger and it makes sense pack up and go. IMO
Simple Man!!!!!
September 29th, 2010
12:31 pm
Ared…I am trying but its taking alot to resist the urge “Peacock” for you!!!
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
12:32 pm
Georgia and the metro housing market is crazy. Like Warren Buffer states don’t invest in something that you would not want to keep forever.
Melo!
September 29th, 2010
12:33 pm
Blue??
see, that’s Ur dream house and not a matrimonial Dream house!!
Kimmie?
A house is not an asset if u have not made a good financiL decision. It’s true of all things financial.
And why would a real man want his wife to be the only one holding that note??
I said American exactly for the reason you mention. She is excused!
I am whatever you say I am™
September 29th, 2010
12:33 pm
Think your house is small?
kimmie
September 29th, 2010
12:34 pm
A house is not an asset if u have not made a good financiL decision. It’s true of all things financial.
And why would a real man want his wife to be the only one holding that note??
Melo – I totally agree with you on this.
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
12:34 pm
Simple Man, let her come to you sometimes. LOL Or you will end up in the guy who just makes me feel even better than I already do about myself guy.
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
12:36 pm
and since i don’t believe in divorce, my challenge is greater imo.
But you do believe in shacking up and having children by men you aren’t married too?
See what I mean about backwards attitudes?
Blackfoote
September 29th, 2010
12:38 pm
@ ARed: Hello my fellow Sag, I duly promise to behave. Not only am I still probate now I’m getting dirt kicked my eyes by (blue), but it’s all good fun though. Where’s the hell is (Melo) he started all of this.
i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)
September 29th, 2010
12:39 pm
“I will say this in this housing market both parties need to be flexible.”
You can say that again, Dirty D. We put both of our houses on the market, but we weren’t buying a new place until both were sold. So, we were ultimately going to live in one or the other (no matter whose it was) until it was sold. We got really lucky though — both houses ended up closing within a week of one another, right after we returned from our honeymoon.
Beautiful
September 29th, 2010
12:40 pm
*And why would a real man want his wife to be the only one holding that note??* <——— the point i was making when i stated jus want one concern about the house being in my name only! ^5.
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
12:41 pm
Well that is one sure fire way to not get divorced, never get married. LOL
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
12:43 pm
Ared…I am trying but its taking alot to resist the urge “Peacock” for you!!!
Simple Man – Please be you! Don’t worry about what the peanut gallery has to say!
Maybe you’ll be like Urkel: “I’m wearing you down baby, I’m wearing you dooooowwwwnnnn!!!
blue™
September 29th, 2010
12:43 pm
@Blackfoote – not intended to make you personally an anitfeminist, the comment seemd off to me, as do many of the guys statement about how they wouldnt do this, that, or whatever because of the woman taking the lead. i can understand wanting to buy a house together, but i dont understand the discomfort of living in hers…i mean isnt part of marriage supposed to be about bringing your assets (financial and otherwise) to the table? oh, and here’s some eyedrops… your eyes feel better?
, lol
@PR –
@Simple Man – i gotcha, still building in my head what my dream house will include, so dont have that issue just yet, lol….i know i want an island in the kitchen and a garden tub in the master…still pondering the rest, lol…..
@melo – matrimonial dream house – things could get touchy there if i want a nursery and he wants an S&M dungeon, just saying…..
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
12:45 pm
Simple Man she is already calling you Urkle LOL
i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)
September 29th, 2010
12:50 pm
“things could get touchy there if i want a nursery and he wants an S&M dungeon”
What’s the problem? Seems like the latter could lead to the former. Heck, streamline — put them right next door to each other. It would be like an assembly line…
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
12:52 pm
Swiss, you know and I know that blue would love to have that dungeon.
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
12:52 pm
Simple Man she is already calling you Urkle LOL
Such an instigator you are! I actually found Urkel kinda sexy, and I really loved me some “Stephan Urkel”
Kym
September 29th, 2010
12:52 pm
Now Mr. Goodnight you are not right!!! LMAO..that’s a bit crazy..screams in the night..is it the baby or dude with the ball gag..
Melo!
September 29th, 2010
12:53 pm
Ared 12:36??
I think by now Beautiful has learnt that dangling the pudsy carrot and popping kids ain’t enough to entice some man to marry!
Head nod to the tight legged ones out there!!
blue™
September 29th, 2010
12:54 pm
@swiss – lmao, wow…parents worried about the kid hearing the normal noises, wait till someones screaming “banana! monkey! airplane!” cause their getting spanked too hard and cant remember the safe word…talk about a kid with issues
Beautiful
September 29th, 2010
12:54 pm
i’m into MAN CAVES myself! gives me somewhere to send his butt to. LOL! keep him from being all up under me.
Simple Man!!!!!
September 29th, 2010
12:55 pm
PR….I think Ared and I have come to an understanding….You say steve urkle, She says Stephon Er’kel!!!! LOL
blue™
September 29th, 2010
12:55 pm
@PR/swiss – who needs a dungeon
wish i had a Spud Au’Broc from Jasons Deli for lunch…will make do with my freezer food…..lunch
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
12:55 pm
Well, remember melo…she’s the one who didn’t want to marry apparently. She could live with him, buy a house with him and have multiple kids by him…but marriage was not appealing.
kimmie
September 29th, 2010
12:55 pm
I dated a dude that wanted to live waaaayyyyy out in the woods, near this farmland he owned. The house he was staying in was in a nice suburb. If we had married, I know that would have been an issue because he was set on living in those woods, which was very far from any neighbors. Like a serial killer. Makes me shudder to think about it!
I’m sorry, I don’t have to live downtown, but I need to be near civilization!
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
1:04 pm
I’m sorry, I don’t have to live downtown, but I need to be near civilization!
I’ma kinda need to live in a city too. I was crestfallen when I heard Fayetteville recently. And his house is probably 100x the size of mine.
Melo!
September 29th, 2010
1:04 pm
Ared?
I doubt the ‘not wanting to marry’ story was true. I suspect it was a’ goose bump’ defensive statement seeing she was whacking and popped kids but dude went AWOL!
Some things are said just to make oneself feel better! Lol
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
1:05 pm
AmazonRed, you are the cat with cheese and he is the mouse. LOL
kimmie, I was taught at a young age and reminded in college by my father. Every man should own a truck and some land. Just in case all else fails you will always have a way to provide a living.
Simple Man!!!!!
September 29th, 2010
1:06 pm
Note to self….Measure distance between the house and Downtown…..
Simple Man!!!!!
September 29th, 2010
1:07 pm
PR, Does an SUV count????
Beautiful
September 29th, 2010
1:08 pm
@Melo, ARed . . . you can talk about me all day every day, but leave my two straight A students out of this!!! thank you.
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
1:08 pm
Simple Man – Where do you live?
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
1:09 pm
No one is talking bout your kids, Angie.
Beautiful
September 29th, 2010
1:09 pm
*Measure distance between the house and Downtown…..* cute!
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
1:10 pm
Simple Man as long as you can haul it counts
Simple Man!!!!!
September 29th, 2010
1:12 pm
**Another Check mark for me**
Kym
September 29th, 2010
1:14 pm
alright blog guys..time out. I normally don’t bring up sex on the blog and I can assure you I will most likely regret this but for men..does having sex without a condom mean the guy has feelings for the woman? I am in a debate right now with a few cohorts and I figure wanna know ask a guy.
Simple Man!!!!!
September 29th, 2010
1:14 pm
Ared, I live Tucker…..
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
1:14 pm
As long as the SUV ain’t some environmentally murdering “look at me” type vehicle like a Hummer! Pointless trucks. So glad they are being discontinued!
For Real
September 29th, 2010
1:15 pm
What up Blog Fam….
I would never move into a chick’s house. I don’t care what kimmie or blue said or might have since I haven’t read the comments but pretty sure they brought up the “men do it everyday” arguement and I know when someone stated the reason why a man should not move into a chick’s crib Kimmie asked “why would he married a chick like that without knowing she was like that” to which I will respond, CHICKS ARE IRRATIONAL!! That’s why a man should never move into her crib.
On EL: I DON’T GIVE A FLYING FUGG ABOUT WHAT GAY MEN DO IN THEIR OWN TIME. WHY WASTE SO MUCH TIME ON A SCORNED DUDE? DAYUM DEM GAY DUDES AND GO VOTE!!!
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
1:15 pm
Ared, I live Tucker…..
OTP…
But not the complete boonies. I can work with it.
Kym
September 29th, 2010
1:17 pm
@For Real..Nathan Deal has a lead in the polls.
i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)
September 29th, 2010
1:17 pm
“does having sex without a condom mean the guy has feelings for the woman?”
No. It means either:
1) He just saw her lab results.
or
2) He’s feeling lucky.
or
3) She’s so hot, it’s worth the herp.
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
1:17 pm
I would never move into a chick’s house.
Couple’s could stack so much chips and build for their future if men could put their egos aside in instances such as this. If her house is bigger and it just makes more practical sense, I’d hope my man would be on board.
For Real
September 29th, 2010
1:18 pm
“does having sex without a condom mean the guy has feelings for the woman?” – Yes it means I feel that I can trust her with my life.
Simple Man!!!!!
September 29th, 2010
1:18 pm
Kym….in a word, No!!! All that means is he likes it Raw!!!
Simple Man!!!!!
September 29th, 2010
1:20 pm
AmazonRed™ LOL…8000 sqft!!!
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
1:20 pm
AmazonRed, I disagree during the winter a Hummer get ‘er done. Where other 4×4’s cant hang the advantage is more rear wheel tracking and the can forge up to 4ft of water with no engine damage unlike pickup and other SUV’s. The majority of the year is slush deep mud and snow they are excellent people movers. Now why people put rims on them and never take them off road I don’t know. They can also tow a laden trailer through all of the elements no problem. Thing is when people but a truck at home they tend to keep it forever. Tons of farmers started buying them up once the price dropped. If your tractor or grainer gets stuck a Hummer will pull it out without even sneezing. LOL
i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)
September 29th, 2010
1:20 pm
Seriously, Kym… No, I don’t think you can assume that. Dude could just be irresponsible…
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
1:21 pm
8000 sqft!!!
Seriously?
Who cleans all that?
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
1:21 pm
Seriously, Kym… No, I don’t think you can assume that. Dude could just be irresponsible…
But yeah, I guess it means the trust is there….
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
1:22 pm
Now why people put rims on them and never take them off road I don’t know
I would say that’s a majority of Hummer owners.
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
1:22 pm
Kym, no rubber does not mean he has feelings for her. He just decided to take the risk.
SexyCool
September 29th, 2010
1:22 pm
NEWSFLASH!!!
DUDES ARE IRRATIONAL!!! (Using For Real’s above broadstroking statement as a template.)
For Real – you and I get along, but…you have this maddening habit of coming in making blanket, sexist statements. Just stop it!
It's me....lurker
September 29th, 2010
1:22 pm
I think Kym’s question is a good one. I want to know the answer to the condom question as well…..all you blog men, lurkers alike chime in on that one. We’ll go with the general consensus. While I feel it depends on the individual, as Swiss stated it could just be a matter of being carelss, someone else said they feel that level of trust.
Simple Man!!!!!
September 29th, 2010
1:23 pm
AmazonRed™
LMAO….Cleaning lady comes on Tuesday and Friday..But its just me so its never really messy….
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
1:24 pm
Simple Man…if you were to uh…take on a wife…would she have to clean that big ole house with no help?
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
1:24 pm
AmazonRed, yes here in the city. I know that you are well traveled but if you ever venture into God’s country you will some some real 4×4’s being used the way they are supposed to be used. LOL I can’t remember the last time I washed my truck. I keep the inside clean because I have to wear suits to work sometimes. The outside probably still has farm dirt on it. FORD TOUGH!!
Kym
September 29th, 2010
1:25 pm
Okay that is two..No he is irresponsible and likes it raw and one yes cause he trust her. I was leaning more toward For Real’s answer..because I would think in this day and time the guy would be more willing to wrap up..but he could just be so happy to get some. Depends on the dude will be my final answer.
Simple Man!!!!!
September 29th, 2010
1:25 pm
Kym, and he is a Damn Fool!!! LOL
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
1:26 pm
AmazonRed, yes here in the city. I know that you are well traveled but if you ever venture into God’s country you will some some real 4×4’s being used the way they are supposed to be used.
Right…I don’t have a problem with that. However, I do live in the city…and have to see these worthless vehicles in the city. That’s the problem.
Simple Man!!!!!
September 29th, 2010
1:26 pm
AmazonRed™
Nooooo, Gleaning lady comes on Tuesday and Friday!!! Thats not gonna change
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
1:27 pm
SexyCool, it balances out, The ladies have blue and kimmie making their blanket male statements and the men have For Real, Melo and myself. So its fair. LOL
I think another reason families have problems is because everyone wants to move into a bigger house. You work all day then come home and have all of that space to be seprated That is not always good, to much space. A home needs to be nice a cozy IMO
kimmie
September 29th, 2010
1:27 pm
4Real –
My arguement actually was that each couple should do what works for their situation.
And for the record, my “men do it everyday” comment was not about a man moving into his wifes house, though it does happen quite a bit. It was about how SOME men throw it up in their wives faces that it’s HIS house, so she basically has to put up with whatever he decides to dish out. If both names are on the deed, or they buy a home together, that eliminates that arguement.
But I guess that’s a little too RATIONAL, coming from a female, isn’t it 4Realster?
Kym
September 29th, 2010
1:28 pm
@Purple..its all God’s country..
For Real
September 29th, 2010
1:29 pm
Ared: Ego has nothing to do with it. It’s a man’s character and accepting responsibility of taking care of the women he married. Like I said women are irrational and are prone to make dcision based on emotions period. You may not like it but it is the truth. Every women on this planet that has a little of something is bound to have bouts of I.N.D.E.P.E.N.D.E.N.T and SELFISHNESS. Thus, causing strife in the home of any man that’s living in his woman’s house (even if his name is on the deed). As for stacking chips and building for the future I hope you will signoff on ole boys investment plan before marrying him cause quiet as it is kept a house is not an asset.
Melo!
September 29th, 2010
1:30 pm
SexxyCool/Kym/It’s me’?!!
Condom less??
Depends on the man.
If u want too see a man at his most irrational moment Sexxycool, that’s when the pudssy is right front of him.
Going raw maybe the most expedient for him at that point.
Don’t put too much into it and certainly nothing necessarily related to luv.
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
1:30 pm
AmazonRed, going green? Some of these people need big SUV’s to haul their fat arse and their fat arse kids around. No regular car can handle all of that lard without voiding the warranty LOL
SexyCool
September 29th, 2010
1:30 pm
I read recently that the McMansion era was dying out and giving way to more manageable living spaces.
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
1:31 pm
Kym, God’s Country is a term that means unmolested land not over developed.
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
1:31 pm
I think another reason families have problems is because everyone wants to move into a bigger house. You work all day then come home and have all of that space to be seprated That is not always good, to much space. A home needs to be nice a cozy IMO
Purple Rain – I totally agree. I grew up in a house that was probably 1000 square feet. There were 5 of us. We had to be close.
I live in twice that size now. I listen to my single neighbors complain that they’ll have to move if they marry because our homes are not big enough for two people.
kimmie
September 29th, 2010
1:31 pm
Purple – I agree with you about cozy. I need my home to have ample storage space and room to move about, but I also need for it to be cozy. I don’t want to live in an office building, big, cold & wide!
For Real
September 29th, 2010
1:32 pm
Kym: For Deal to lead in any poll tells you the mindset of these whack jobs running for office and nutts voting for them. They want there country back to pre-slave days and that doesn’t play well for minorities, women, and immgrants. So, I will say it again, FUGG EL AND GO FUGGING VOTE!!! AND I AM NOT TALKING ABOUT AMERICAN IDOL!!!
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
1:33 pm
Unprotected is the undefeated heavy weight champ and has knocked down many a man and gave him brain damage to the point that he makes irrational decisions. Alas, the fight must go on.
kimmie
September 29th, 2010
1:35 pm
4Real – Your 1:32 is the truth!
It would be a sad state of affairs if Let’s Make a Deal is our next guv!
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
1:35 pm
As for stacking chips and building for the future I hope you will signoff on ole boys investment plan before marrying him cause quiet as it is kept a house is not an asset.
A house is a place to live. Asset or not. If you have a home that’s easily affordable by ONE, it make sense to stay in it and get to live more comfortably. Travel more, stay home with the kids. Not be crippled by a mortgage payment (or two payments cuz her house cant sell) to make a man feel better about not living a home she had before she met him.
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
1:36 pm
AmazonRed, Kimmie, I understand the house I am in now is way to big but I love the land I would never get another house this big. I did not realize how big it was until my wife moved here and had to actually yell or wonder where she was at times. LOL
Leggs ~ Smiling
September 29th, 2010
1:37 pm
If you’re still on names on deeds, remember, the placement of your name on the deed matters….Borrower vs. Co-Borrower!!!
LURKER-1
September 29th, 2010
1:37 pm
That’s impressive SIMPLE MAN, you can have 4 or 5 females in your house at once and they’ll never cross path
Melo!
September 29th, 2010
1:39 pm
But some of the houses up north like Philly etc for ordinary folks are cramped up quarters!
Damn they look like chicken fowls.I would not want to live like that!
Welcome to the south PR!!
Raqi
September 29th, 2010
1:41 pm
SexyCool, yeah definitely for inner city living. Everything is going way of Green Building/LEED these days, i.e. Atlantic Station and the like. You have living space, work, shopping and dining all within walking or bicycle riding distance.
Those living spaces are really small too. Mase and I looked at a couple that he wanted to buy as investments when the market hit bottom. The units we looked are were less than 1,000sqft.
Loft living is being encouraged now and the younger generations are buying into it. Most larger houses after a while will only be found on the outskirts of big cities.
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
1:41 pm
Melo that’s another reason I am moving back LOL
Simple Man!!!!!
September 29th, 2010
1:41 pm
I guess i am the odd man out on this, because I LOVE my house and all the space / things that come with it!!! I bought it thinking that whatever the future held for me, this home would accomadate it. Yeah its a hella lot of space for just me, but I work hard to make it feel like a home and not just a house….
kimmie
September 29th, 2010
1:42 pm
Purple – The first thing my SO said on his initial visit to my house was that he liked it because it was cozy. I do love it. It is a small starter house, but perfect for me.
His house is quite large, but still has a coziness factor to it. Good use of most of the space in it and it is “liveable”, not one of those fancy places where you are scared to sit on the furniture. With 2 active kids and pets, it’s practical yet attractive.
Kym
September 29th, 2010
1:43 pm
@Kimmie and For Real.. I don’t get it either..I mean the man has finance..and ethic issues..yet he is pulling in the money and votes.
Raqi
September 29th, 2010
1:43 pm
kimmie, comfortable and cozy is the ideal description of part of what makes a house a home for me.
Raqi
September 29th, 2010
1:45 pm
not one of those fancy places where you are scared to sit on the furniture
Exactly. Those places are very uninviting.
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
1:45 pm
I am working on buying my own tractor a combine harvester and getting two silos erected. All that cost more than this darn house, but they are real investments that make money. LOL
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
1:45 pm
I bought it thinking that whatever the future held for me, this home would accomadate it.
Simple Man – I agree. I did the same. I wanted a place where if I had to live in it the rest of my days, I’d be okay. Of course, on a smaller scale than you.
A lot of my friends had that “upgrade in 5″ plan and now wishing they had more room. But they are also underwater and can’t sell.
I feel no pressure in my current home at all.
For Real
September 29th, 2010
1:46 pm
Scoo: “NEWSFLASH!!! DUDES ARE IRRATIONAL!!! (Using For Real’s above broadstroking statement as a template.)” – I never said dudes are not irrational some are but comparing one irrational dude out of 1 million dude to every single chick on the face of the planet being irrational is well…. irrational. And no it’s not a broad stroke either. There are three things that will get a consensus from every single man on this planet (i) Sports is great (ii) Beer/Alcohol is great and (iii) Women are irrational. And yes we are cool and no I’m a sexist.
Kimmie: I didn’t actually read your post I just made an assumption that would say that and you did. Putting her name on the deed does not eliminate the arguement if it’s his funds that keeps the bank’s name off the deed.
LURKER-1
September 29th, 2010
1:46 pm
FOR REAL, I don’t like the choices for governor but just damn!! It seems the more dirt they discover about Deal, his lead increases. I thought Predue, was a waste but this guy scares the sh!! out of me. One last thing, Barnes supported Edwards, not Obama and in all this guy’s ads, he trying to tie Barnes w/ Obama. Unfortunately, its going to work.
For Real
September 29th, 2010
1:49 pm
Ared: “to make a man feel better about not living a home she had before she met him.” – He has to deal with your mamma I think the moving to another home is an even exchange.
kimmie
September 29th, 2010
1:50 pm
Kym – I totally get it! He’s a hick, the “anti-Obama”! And yeah, some would love to take us “back” and he’s the one to do it! Some of yall just don got too uppity and big-fer-yer-britches and don’t know yer place!
Melo!
September 29th, 2010
1:50 pm
I dint think the McMansions are dying!
Only the financially able will buy them this time around.
Not the posers who bought them in the last round but lived on noodles and slept in there on the floors and sometimes with no furnishings to complement.
The era of easy money and no money down is gone
Kym
September 29th, 2010
1:51 pm
Well I love my home..it has plenty of space for me and the boy.. we had to give our dog away..(she apparently likes the taste of drywall) and since we lived in close quarters before..this works. plus I like having family and friends over..and I wanted a place for all to come and relax.
kimmie
September 29th, 2010
1:52 pm
4Real – Well whatever makes you feel better, Dear!
Blackfoote
September 29th, 2010
1:52 pm
@ blue: Thanks for eye drops feel better now.
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
1:53 pm
Kym was it an indoor dog? Should have caged it at night.
blue™
September 29th, 2010
1:53 pm
@kimmie – I dated a dude that wanted to live waaaayyyyy out in the woods, near this farmland he owned…Like a serial killer – whoa…yeah, i need to be somewhere that folks will notice i havent left the house in a month….
@PR – I think another reason families have problems is because everyone wants to move into a bigger house. You work all day then come home and have all of that space to be seprated – yeah, i agree with you there…between the space and tech-toys around the house, your all in the same house and have no interaction….on that note, for family day this past Saturday, traded the video gaes and kid movies for an old fashioned, low tech, game of Spoons, followed by Scrabble Slam and Jenga – tv OFF, lol. kids were confused by the no-tech aspect, but had a ball anyway!
For Real
September 29th, 2010
1:54 pm
The size of a house does not determine whether it’s cozy, it’s person or people living in it.
LURKER-1: “Unfortunately, its going to work.” – Only if you do not vote.
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
1:54 pm
He has to deal with your mamma I think the moving to another home is an even exchange.
He doesn’t have to deal with anyone but me. My parents are very hands off. They raised us, now roll with those lessons. They don’t meddle unless asked. Love it.
Leggs ~ Smiling
September 29th, 2010
1:54 pm
Sorry you had to give your dog away, but I understand the importance of drywall…
Kym
September 29th, 2010
1:55 pm
@Purple she was and she slept in my son’s room at night..her drywall eating happened while we were gone during the day..in the garage.
Beautiful
September 29th, 2010
1:55 pm
its been fun! thanks bloggers. gonna go join my group on fb now. we’re discussing light skin vs. dark skin. should be interesting.
Chink
September 29th, 2010
1:56 pm
If men feel pressure it won’t be from me!
While there are marriages that work there are plenty that don’t work…lots of people get married for the wrong reasons.
Some get the best out of a marriage and or relationship which is their kids.
Simple Man!!!!!
September 29th, 2010
1:56 pm
Ared @1:45… Thats the other thing…I bought my house with Very favorable terms…I purchased it from a family that was being relocated 8 years ago and even by todays standards, it was a great deal.
kimmie
September 29th, 2010
1:57 pm
Amred – My parents were the same way.
For Real
September 29th, 2010
1:58 pm
Ared: “They don’t meddle unless asked.” – That’s because your sister is crazy and they just glad somebody took her but wait till lil blackfoote get married. Daddy Jankins gon be flying to the ATL every month strolling thru the airport with his shirt tail coming out of his zipper.
i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)
September 29th, 2010
1:58 pm
Simple — I’m with you, bro… space is a good thing. Especially when there’s a woman in the house.
Mrs. Swiss’s main closet (yes, I said main closet) in our new place is bigger than the master bedroom in my old place… 
For Real
September 29th, 2010
1:59 pm
Kym: “she apparently likes the taste of drywall” – See I told you not to buy a dog off the internet. That wasn’t a dog it was a playful rat.
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
1:59 pm
I don’t see how a 6 bedroom house can be cozy for two people.
i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)
September 29th, 2010
2:01 pm
“I dint think the McMansions are dying!
Only the financially able will buy them this time around.”
Melo — Yeah… Although, you can find some surprisingly affordable, never-lived-in, bank-owned McMansions these days…
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
2:02 pm
Kym sounds like your dog had separation anxiety and did not like being alone. To dependent on being around people. Yes cant have the dog messing up the house.
kimmie
September 29th, 2010
2:02 pm
Although, cluttered and tripping every other step is not “cozy” either. It’s called “too small” or “messy”!
For Real
September 29th, 2010
2:02 pm
“I don’t see how a 6 bedroom house can be cozy for two people.” – Six bedroom, hid-n-go-get comes to mind.
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
2:03 pm
Ared @1:45… Thats the other thing…I bought my house with Very favorable terms…I purchased it from a family that was being relocated 8 years ago and even by todays standards, it was a great deal.
That is such a blessing. And yes, I doubt you’d ever have to give up your home upon marrying.
As long as the wife can come in and redecorate a bit…
Simple Man!!!!!
September 29th, 2010
2:03 pm
Swiss….Bru!!! I have closets for dayz!!! and since I am a bit of a clothes “Hoe” I need it!!!
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
2:03 pm
For Real, LOL
Simple Man!!!!!
September 29th, 2010
2:04 pm
AmazonRed™ We can discuss your taste after you have had a chance to see the place!!
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
2:05 pm
That’s because your sister is crazy and they just glad somebody took her but wait till lil blackfoote get married. Daddy Jankins gon be flying to the ATL every month strolling thru the airport with his shirt tail coming out of his zipper.
Shut up!
And my sisters and I have already worked it out. I’m definitely the least patient. So when it’s time for mom and dad to move in with family…BABY SISTER GETS EM and I’ll cut a check to make sure they are comfy (and out of my hair).
blue™
September 29th, 2010
2:05 pm
@Kym – sorry ’bout your dog…we had to get rid of a dog that ate our screen door…crazy…
@Blackfoote – @ blue: Thanks for eye drops feel better now. cool beans!
kimmie
September 29th, 2010
2:05 pm
Simple – That’s the only thing my house lacks more of – closets! For most average people, the closets in this 3 bedroom, 2 bath home would be plenty for ONE person. But for a shoe & clothes freak like me, well…..
Kym
September 29th, 2010
2:05 pm
She was not a rat For Real..yeah Purple..she had it bad..she would whine if we went out the door..if I left to go to the car she would watch from the window..if my son left to go to the mail box or mow the grass she would whine and jump on the window sill looking out.
THE iNFAMOUS DK
September 29th, 2010
2:06 pm
Before being married I felt the need to get married. I thought it was the right thing to do. The natural progression. Marrige, Kids, Retirement, Travel, Blah Balh blah. Now after having been married. I dont think its necessary. Honestly I felt trapped when I got married. I felt like a part of me had died.. Dont get me wrong I loved my Ex and I wanted to marry her more than anything but I felt like my free spirited self had gone away as I became the family man. Now its not that I wanted to be out there chasing skirts or jumping every babe I met, it was more of the alone time I loved while being single is what I missed. I missed going to the fortress of solitude and shutting the world out if I wanted to.. I missed not being able to jump a flight and go anywhere I wanted without the obligatory explanation of why I wanted to be alone. I know it sounds incredibly selfish but I like being free to do whatever I want when I want.. Now I cant be that free because I have a son but it shows on my face now.. Im not the caged animal I used to be in the marriage. I have long came tot he conclusion that I dont want to be married I would do much better with a companion, so her and I can keep our relationship fresh and when she doesnt wanna see me I can go home and likewise. And no I dont want a whole bunch of different girlfriends.. I just want to be in a committed with one nice lady to grow old with.. And dont worry if anything happens to me… The will will take care of everything.. And her..
Kym
September 29th, 2010
2:08 pm
She is in a better place..back in the place where she was born. big yard..to run in.
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
2:08 pm
The only part of the house that did not change we she moved here was the garage. There are all sorts of plants and stuff hanging on the patio, brighter colors in living room and kitchen. Appliances that I do not know how to use. I am a grown man and do not know how to use the electric can opener. Whatever you call those scarfs you put on tables(every table has one of those on it…just for decoration) Plants all over the place, I just told her to stay out of the garage. The one thing that I do love is that she made the bathrooms all have themes and in the main hallway she has overloaded with pictures on both sides from both of our families. I just stand there and look at them tons.
i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)
September 29th, 2010
2:09 pm
“I don’t see how a 6 bedroom house can be cozy for two people.”
Well, we have 5 finished bedrooms at the moment (with a 6th stubbed out, but unfinished in the basement) for 2 of us & it’s full:
→ master (1)
→ bedroom on main, used as office for now (2)
→ 2 upstairs bedrooms commandeered by Mrs. Swiss for the extra closet and bathroom accessory space (3 & 4)
leaving…
→ 1 guest bedroom upstairs (5)…
Simple Man!!!!!
September 29th, 2010
2:12 pm
“I don’t see how a 6 bedroom house can be cozy for two people.”
Gonna plead the 5th on that one…
Melo!
September 29th, 2010
2:12 pm
@Swiss?
U got a monster crib!
u def need some rugrats running wild in there!
SexyCool
September 29th, 2010
2:13 pm
Cool beans, FR.
As to the governor’s race, the tv ads make me gag. Sheesh!
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
2:13 pm
Define Cozy?
Dan - simply...
September 29th, 2010
2:14 pm
@Red
It’s not about stating the obvious per se, but once a woman knows she’s pregnant, she has more options than the man(from that point on). So if she’s popping out kid after kid, it’s really more on her.
i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)
September 29th, 2010
2:14 pm
“But for a shoe & clothes freak like me, well…..”
kimmie — We have a 3 car garage & the entire area above that garage is the master closets. It’s split right down the middle — one side is Mrs. Swiss’s closet, the other is 1/2 my closet, 1/2 exercise room. And Mrs. Swiss still had to take over a 2nd walk-in closet in another bedroom for “work” clothes and a 3rd closet for assorted other clothes. You are not alone…
THE iNFAMOUS DK
September 29th, 2010
2:19 pm
Youre a sucker if you move into your girls home.. Stack Ya chips and present her with the option to move into a bigger one.. Sell the two and buy one.. BUT.. Dont move until one sells and if push come to shove rent the other ad alwyas make sure you can afford the other one until it sells.. If that means you gotta roll a bucket for minute.. The so be it.. But dont move into a babes home.. Its the quickest way to get chumped off..
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
2:19 pm
Swiss what is your guilty pleasure when your wife is not home? Mine used to be drinking out of the bottle but one day while I am sitting down she just walks in drinks out of the bottle and puts it back in the ice box. I guess it’s just us two here and we hardly ever have company. So now it’s just taking a squat and leaving the door open and sleeping with the tv on all night. Oh yeah if she is not here on the weekend I will go all day saturday without showering or doing my hair and just stay in my underwear. LOL
kimmie
September 29th, 2010
2:22 pm
Swiss – Those hoarding shows have really been disturbing me. So much so that I made a mid-year resolution to “simplify” my home and get rid of a lot of the stuff I’m holding onto.
I haven’t made the time to really go thru everything, but alot of the stuff just sitting in front of my face that I was trying to MAKE room for, I parted with. I’m trying to develop the discipline, however, to not go BUY things in place of the stuff I’ve let go. So far, I’m doing quite well, I must say.
i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)
September 29th, 2010
2:23 pm
“Swiss what is your guilty pleasure when your wife is not home?”
Two words: football & p0rn.
Simple Man!!!!!
September 29th, 2010
2:26 pm
i’m swiss™ LOL!! I have a porn / Freak room in my Basement!!!
SexyCool
September 29th, 2010
2:26 pm
Melo – 150p – good point.
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
2:26 pm
It’s not about stating the obvious per se, but once a woman knows she’s pregnant, she has more options than the man(from that point on). So if she’s popping out kid after kid, it’s really more on her.
Yet another duh statement.
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
2:26 pm
Swiss, LOL
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
2:28 pm
But dont move into a babes home.. Its the quickest way to get chumped off
What kind of chicks are you dudes dealing with. Seriously?
Or better yet, wha kind of chicks have you DEALT with for the level of trust to be so low that you couldn’t deal with this by a chick you MARRIED. This is no random broad, it’s your wife.
Really.
i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)
September 29th, 2010
2:28 pm
kimmie — The easiest way to jump start that “simplification” (for me, anyway): move. It’s a d@mn sight easier to throw sh!t away when your other option is packing it up & humping it up/down stairs onto & off of moving trucks, up/down more stairs, etc…
Of course, the move didn’t carry that same motivation for Mrs. Swiss, as it was my a$$ lugging her sh!t…
Funny how that works… 
Kym
September 29th, 2010
2:28 pm
@Simple Man..dude now you just scary..if you the only one there..why you need a porn cellar?
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
2:29 pm
I have my mancave setup and I will say that internet ready flat screens. Although I was a bit shocked watching p0rn in blue ray on a 65 inch screen. Felt like an anatomy class, until some guys sack is flopping back and forth in larger than life HD. have to fast forward to the next scene.
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
2:30 pm
Kym, “it rubs the lotion on it skin” LOL
Melo!
September 29th, 2010
2:30 pm
Now me’ I do porn when she there. More often than not she knows Iam taking that angst upstairs when done!
So she’s pantyless when I slide in later!
For Real,Sexxycool says this a good point!
i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)
September 29th, 2010
2:31 pm
“I have a porn / Freak room in my Basement!!!”
Note to self: Never sit on the furniture in Simple’s basement…
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
2:32 pm
I have a porn / Freak room in my Basement!!!
Trevor0529
September 29th, 2010
2:34 pm
Although I was a bit shocked watching p0rn in blue ray on a 65 inch screen. Felt like an anatomy class, until some guys sack is flopping back and forth in larger than life HD. have to fast forward to the next scene
Nothing says mancave than watching p0rn in blue ray on a 65 inch screen.
LMAO!!
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
2:34 pm
My wife considers me cheating on her if I watch porn or wack off without her there.
When I am alone though I can just get it done real quick. LOL the problem is when you dont have enough napkins or paper towels(napkins tend to get to sticky anyway)an it just shoots way farther than expected.
It's me....lurker
September 29th, 2010
2:35 pm
2CPTG©
September 29th, 2010
2:36 pm
note to self:
casually lurk when bloggers start talkin bout what they got, and ain’t got…..cause some of ‘em don’ damn near spit out their addresses; then, wonder to yourself, “are they lyin….are they trynna garner “points” by puttin their business out there?…..hmmmm…..as I sit here in the thinking man pose….
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
2:36 pm
Simple Man, the three exclamation points you used may have been a bit much for the ladies. LOL
i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)
September 29th, 2010
2:36 pm
“Nothing says mancave than watching p0rn in blue ray on a 65 inch screen.”
No doubt. At those dimensions, the pdu$$ies actually do look like “man caves…”
And then, there’s the “man canyons” (some of the “veteran” @n@l chicks)…
I am whatever you say I am™
September 29th, 2010
2:36 pm
Kym: at you 1:15 question…there is a yiddish saying that says when the cock get hard the brain get soft, so basically what that means is that he goes au natural because he A) just isn’t thinking or B) he is in a committed relationship.
Most would agree, he’s just not thinking.
It's me....lurker
September 29th, 2010
2:37 pm
casually lurk when bloggers start talkin bout what they got, and ain’t got…..cause some of ‘em don’ damn near spit out their addresses; then, wonder to yourself, “are they lyin….are they trynna garner “points” by puttin their business out there?…..hmmmm…..as I sit here in the thinking man pose….
thus the blank face….well some of that
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
2:37 pm
PS3 connected to your tv can get you to all of the free porn sites. LOL
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
2:37 pm
@Simple Man..dude now you just scary..if you the only one there..why you need a porn cellar?
Kym – He doesn’t want to scare off the lady visitors.
Raqi
September 29th, 2010
2:38 pm
2CPTG
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:The_Thinker,_Rodin.jpg
blue™
September 29th, 2010
2:39 pm
@swiss – Of course, the move didn’t carry that same motivation for Mrs. Swiss, as it was my a$$ lugging her sh!t – lmao
@Simple Man – I have a porn / Freak room in my Basement!!! – well, alrightee then, heard of a mancave b4, but ok…
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
2:39 pm
Swiss, I will say that some of those women never have to worry about ever being constipated and say no more.
Simple Man!!!!!
September 29th, 2010
2:40 pm
Kym / ARED ..LOL I have 9 nephews and during the summer they like to come to my house and swim. Like most dudes I have a porn collection and since the boys are all between the ages of 1 and 17, I nned to make sure that they dont stumble across anything that inapproriate for them. But its not a dungen or anything like that, more like a well appointed adult library….. LOL
Lord Velonese
September 29th, 2010
2:40 pm
Do men feel pressure to marry?
Your Black mailing skills would have to be God like………
I am whatever you say I am™
September 29th, 2010
2:40 pm
random: ignorant is spelling someone’s name wrong where it is spelled correctly on the email that you are replying to.
Happens at my job every day
Breakingofdawn
September 29th, 2010
2:41 pm
I will be honest. I was not the too smart one when it came to “house” in the overall skeem of things. It takes a hard lesson to do it right the next time. We bought a great dream home, but the bank did lean on me more, I had more income, savings and in a higher tax bracket. He was on his way up with government job, so I did the I got my man’s back thing. Long story way short(details not needed). We ended he got the place up east and I got the home down south. Now who knew the market and job loss would tear this country apart. I did not plan for that part, esp since I was the more sound financial mind. But while going through relationship he!! the job world was ever more the pits. So here I sit with way more house, land and mortgage than needed on a very new meager salary. So to the say the least I’m learning alot, and hopefully agents will stop coming to me with these crazy way to below the pocket bids. If not I will do what’s necessary. I’m not going to be to proud and hold onto something I can not handle.
Now saying all of that. Once I’ve pulled myself out of this mess I’m buying my retirement home in the islands. Set up my funds up down there, and prepare not to work past 65. Now this is all hinged on my single minded, I’m okay with it just being me and my dog in older years. If a man comes along that I allow to be in my space and he can tolerate me liking my own space the plan can slightly be changed.
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
2:41 pm
Ladies you all are probably on camera as soon as you enter into Simple Man’s domain…I mean house.
Melo!
September 29th, 2010
2:41 pm
Ared?
What kind of chick?
These are chicks with pudsyies!
As long as she’s a chick that’s the best decision a man should make!
I wishall men were this wise. A lot are not.
Hindsight bring 20/20 will teach them tho.
Blackfoote
September 29th, 2010
2:41 pm
@ 2CPTG: I’m doing the same thing man. “WHOA”
Kym
September 29th, 2010
2:41 pm
My wife considers me cheating on her if I watch porn or wack off without her there.
@ Purple..you and the wife are seriously Catholic..I have never heard such a thang.
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
2:42 pm
But its not a dungen or anything like that, more like a well appointed adult library….. LOL
How often do you “visit.”
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
2:44 pm
Simple Man, you can take an old desktop CPU and just make it your movie box. Store all of your titles digitally on there and password protect it. You can hook it right up to your TV
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
2:46 pm
Kym, thats probably why the Eddie Long story is not that serious to me. Catholics have gotten used to that kind of news. LOL
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
2:46 pm
melo – Several married women I know, and on this very blog, had their husbands move in to the house they owned. They’re still very much married, their husbands are not henpecked and it was the best decision for their family at the time.
Nuff said.
I am whatever you say I am™
September 29th, 2010
2:47 pm
Purple, Swiss, and Simple.
Well this is more directed at Purple
If you want Adult television for free
for lack of better word-don’t know who’s watchinjust go to http://www.xtube.com
Leggs ~ Smiling
September 29th, 2010
2:49 pm
@BOD ~ with the bank leaning more on you, were you listed as the “Borrower?”
Simple Man!!!!!
September 29th, 2010
2:49 pm
Purple Rain ..No Cameras except as part of security system LOL
AmazonRed™ @ 2:42 Not that often…In fact it stared out as a big boy play room and running joke among my buddies, but now when I go in there, Its almost never to partake…..maybe a month or two since I have “shown” it to anyone….
Melo!
September 29th, 2010
2:50 pm
Break?
Good point. Emotions not reason.
Ared?
Those women are the men.
nuff said!
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
2:51 pm
Simple Man – You have 9 nephews huh? Any nieces? Do you have any desire to have your own kids even in your 40s? I also have no kids, but I really don’t have a desire to start at 40+.
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
2:51 pm
I am try keezmovies it works on the blackberry also
I am whatever you say I am™
September 29th, 2010
2:51 pm
when I get a bigger house by means of upgrade or marrying someone with a bigger house please believe I will make sure that a stripper pole is installedAmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
2:52 pm
Really melo? Tazzee is the man? Raqi is the man? Really?
I am whatever you say I am™
September 29th, 2010
2:52 pm
but Purple, wouldn’t the download time just dappen the mood?
I am whatever you say I am™
September 29th, 2010
2:52 pm
I am whatever you say I am™
September 29th, 2010
2:53 pm
Oh crap! can’t do it.Left ear buds at home.
Last thing I need is for my boss to hear OOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!
Melo!
September 29th, 2010
2:54 pm
Ared what I mean by that is that there are some men out there we men don’t consider as men.
And we are not jealous when they get props from some women.
We despise them!
Melo!
September 29th, 2010
2:56 pm
I won’t hazard a comment there coz I don’t the details if their unions.
It’s unfair u even cite them!
THE iNFAMOUS DK
September 29th, 2010
2:57 pm
ARED – Its just natural tendancies for someone to say this is my house when theyre mad.. I say when ya’ll get married sell both and move into the new one.. That way its ya’lls home and no hers or mines.. I hate when people say mines I say start off completely fresh and leave all the singledom behind.. Besides you know youre getting married, sell them homes during the engagement theres no reason to have to move into a babes house.. I dont know, maybe I feel like its a chump move.
And for the record Ive dated lve dated the gambit from your Garden variety super fine “I might shake my rump somewhere” Hood Babe to your 5 star uber doctorate degreed bougie model type babe.. And of course I dont discriminate with this here.. I prolly dated you if you cute or giving up some cash..
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
2:57 pm
I Am, you can go to the site and there is no download time it plays in about a second, hit your mute button
Simple Man!!!!!
September 29th, 2010
2:58 pm
ARED @ 2:51
If I were ever blessed to have a child it would be great, But I refuse to allow my parental staus to define me. I am happy being a great Uncle to all of the “boys”. And yeah, no neices….
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
2:58 pm
Infamous, LOL
kimmie
September 29th, 2010
2:59 pm
I have some friends that married and moved into the womans home because of the schools. The woman had kids that were in a much better school district that she did not want them to have to leave. When the guy purchased his house, he didn’t have kids so he didn’t care about the school district he moved in – it was just him.
People do what is best for their families.
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
3:02 pm
I won’t hazard a comment there coz I don’t the details if their unions.
OH PLEASE. You had soooo much to say when no names were named.
Melo!
September 29th, 2010
3:02 pm
Kimmie @2:59?
Lol u are even complicating things coz Big baby daddy is in the decision too!
Lol
kimmie
September 29th, 2010
3:02 pm
DK – Suppose there is little or no “engagement” or “layaway” time?
I agree, it is nice when you can start fresh with someone, but life just doesn’t always work out like that sometimes.
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
3:03 pm
Its just natural tendancies for someone to say this is my house when theyre mad..
Okay so what? You deal with that dumbass statement as you would any other dumbass statement your partner will make over the course of your lifetime.
And newsflash, homes aren’t selling so easy these days.
Melo!
September 29th, 2010
3:05 pm
Ared?
Ofcourse that don’t mean I don’t have an opinion.
I made my point, example or no example!
2CPTG©
September 29th, 2010
3:05 pm
noticed while casually lurking:
wonder why ain’t no chics talkin bout what they got, and ain’t got? then wondering, maybe cause they’on give a damn?? hmmmmmm……back to the pose…
I am whatever you say I am™
September 29th, 2010
3:05 pm
Purple : I’ll have to go somewhere to play it. My blackberry starts before you are able to hit mute.
Don’t want to risk my boss getting turned on
kimmie
September 29th, 2010
3:06 pm
Melo – Not complicating things at all, just putting out something else that could come up that would have to be considered. Everything is not always black and white. Didn’t say Big Daddy wouldn’t be part of the equation either. But in the case I cited, the kids bio Dad lived in another state.
blue™
September 29th, 2010
3:06 pm
@i am – If you want Adult television for free tyr p0rnhub.com…
p0rn on the blackberry…well d@mn, think i’ll wait till i get home, lol
2CPTG©
September 29th, 2010
3:07 pm
“And newsflash, homes aren’t selling so easy these days.”
so you’re tellin me I ordered this Carlton Sheets, “no down payment” shyt for nuthin???? damn!
Breakingofdawn
September 29th, 2010
3:07 pm
I agree with you Simple, I love being an Auntie. I have enough thru blood and love to have a football team. I love every minute of it, esp when the parents get told, “I’m calling Autie”. As far as having any of my own is up to the universe. I will not be defined by having or not having children.
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
3:07 pm
I made my point, example or no example!
Not really…
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
3:08 pm
wonder why ain’t no chics talkin bout what they got, and ain’t got?
I ain’t got nothing…that’s why.
2CPTG©
September 29th, 2010
3:09 pm
“I ain’t got nothing…that’s why.”
don’t feel bad, me either…..
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
3:09 pm
As far as having any of my own is up to the universe. I will not be defined by having or not having children.
I’m thinking of getting my tubes tied as a 35th birthday present to myself.
(if I’m not married by that time, of course).
But I also agree…AUNTIEHOOD ROCKS
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
3:10 pm
don’t feel bad
Oh I don’t.
Cuz I do have abundant blessings.
Simple Man!!!!!
September 29th, 2010
3:10 pm
BOD…that whats up…. My two oldest nephews especially…They are 17 and 16 and in their eyes, I am the coolest dude on earth!! LOL
Simple Man!!!!!
September 29th, 2010
3:12 pm
ARED,,Can I ask how old are you?
It's me....lurker
September 29th, 2010
3:12 pm
How ya’ll know Simple Man ain’t Elijah reincarnated
Raqi
September 29th, 2010
3:12 pm
2CPTG I will tell you what I got. I got the best treatment at the spa this morning. Damn I feel good. LOL
It's me....lurker
September 29th, 2010
3:13 pm
Elijah I need to see a post from you and Simple Man happening at the same time.
Melo!
September 29th, 2010
3:13 pm
How classless would that be discussing 2 peoples marriages when they are not here to volunteer info about their marriages?
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
3:14 pm
Well it still works on my blackberry, whew!
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
3:14 pm
How classless would that be discussing 2 peoples marriages when they are not here to volunteer info about their marriages?
Now you’re worried about class? Really?
You make a blanket statement. And you’ve read about two of these people for YEARS. And now you want to have some class?
Boy bye.
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
3:15 pm
I am hungry now
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
3:15 pm
Simple Man – I’m 32. And will be 33 in December.
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
3:17 pm
AmazonRed, you are still young and fertile. LOL
For Real
September 29th, 2010
3:17 pm
“2CPTG I will tell you what I got. I got the best treatment at the spa this morning. Damn I feel good.” – Um hey Raqi, you um forgot your stroller. See ya Thursday at 2?
For Real
September 29th, 2010
3:18 pm
Ared: May I ask if you have baby making hips?
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
3:18 pm
PR – The women in my family are all very fertile. No one’s ever had trouble getting pregnant. That’s why I might go for a preemptive strike.
Breakingofdawn
September 29th, 2010
3:18 pm
I have them ranging from 2 weeks old to 26 years old right now. My advise goes along way with them. One of the 3 year old’s is off the hook though. He tells his mom everytime she cures in Spanish, he says in French he is calling me. It boils her blood. Laughing just thinking about it. My favorite aunt just passed at a young 45YO, I think about how much of an influence and sound ear she was to me. I hope I’m giving that to my neices and nephews.
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
3:19 pm
For Real – Affirmative.
THE iNFAMOUS DK
September 29th, 2010
3:19 pm
Kimmie – Whats the rush?? Why people gotta run to the alter??? I think the engagement process is vital.. It gives you time to get your single affairs in order.
ARED – You avoid issues when you can.. So if you stick you hand on the stove and burn youself.. I guess you can deal with it after you get to the hospital.. Theres no need to get 3rd degree burns if you dont have to.. Its like clearing up as much debt as you can before getting married.. Why go into the relationship with a ton of debt.. Because as we all know finances cause divorces.. And overtime something as small as this is my house festers into something bigger.. Something as small as he always leaves the seat up on the toilet can lead to something bigger.. Babe you gotta get married first to realize things change when the names go on the paper.. If it were that easy Im sure the divorce rate wouldnt be over 50%..
Melo!
September 29th, 2010
3:19 pm
Ared?
Yeah Tazz just got married and I won’t discuss Raqi, all outa respect.
Unless with their tacit 2 way convo!
That’s class!
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
3:21 pm
I Am, where are you? LOL
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
3:21 pm
Whatever melo – I’ll answer for you. They aren’t the men in their relationships no matter what you think.
For Real
September 29th, 2010
3:22 pm
Ared: “The women in my family are all very fertile.” – Um, Ared, Simple, Simple Ared.
For Real now spitting out the glass of water Ared gave him.
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
3:22 pm
And overtime something as small as this is my house festers into something bigger..
My point is that that argument is not a guarantee. You’re worried about something that could never happen all for the sake of your EGO. No more, no less.
Raqi
September 29th, 2010
3:23 pm
It gives you time to get your single affairs in order.
Infamous, which affairs would that be? Mental? Financial?
If two people are even at the stage of him asking and her accepting I would think those affairs that can be worked out would already be. Mentally both should be marriage minded before asking and accepting. Financially, well outside of merging households those affairs are something that probably can be dealt with after the nuptials.
For Real
September 29th, 2010
3:23 pm
“Affirmative.” – Oh my dayum, well maybe I overreacted. We try and make it work with two condoms.
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
3:23 pm
Um, Ared, Simple, Simple Ared.
Clean out the wax in your ears. I’d prefer NOT to have kids.
kimmie
September 29th, 2010
3:24 pm
DK – I really was referring to a blog topic about a month or so ago, about long engagements! I was just tripping really, because I don’t see the harm in an engagement period, especially if you are planning a wedding and bringing two households together. But alot came back with criticism of that, saying it was like putting someone on layaway, with no real intention of marrying them. Or that they really were not ready to marry them, but them wanted to put the person on lock until they got ready.
You know how stuff gets twisted on here!
Raqi
September 29th, 2010
3:25 pm
They aren’t the men in their relationships no matter what you think.
You damn right Amazon. My husband pants are too big and heavy for me to wear. I just make sure they are perfectly washed and pressed each and every day for him. (I think you get what I am saying here. LOL)
Melo!
September 29th, 2010
3:26 pm
Ared?
It’s not uncommon if ask me’!
(based on what we men see out there)
There are exceptions to every rule tho
Simple Man!!!!!
September 29th, 2010
3:27 pm
Its me…Lurker…. Whats up with that????
For Real
September 29th, 2010
3:28 pm
“Clean out the wax in your ears. I’d prefer NOT to have kids.” – My ear are clean the operative words are “perfer NOT” and “The women in my family are all very fertile” these two statements are diametrically apposed but I’m still willing to try with the two condoms tho.
It's me....lurker
September 29th, 2010
3:29 pm
I kid I kid Simple Man…just having fun. Sometimes it gets waaay serious in here.
Simple Man!!!!!
September 29th, 2010
3:29 pm
Note to self… Send Birthday wish to Ared everyday in December to insure that I get the right day….
Simple Man!!!!!
September 29th, 2010
3:30 pm
Its me…. Just checking….
For Real
September 29th, 2010
3:30 pm
“You damn right Amazon. My husband pants are too big and heavy for me to wear. I just make sure they are perfectly washed and pressed each and every day for him.” – I have said it before and I will say it again, Raqi is one quirky chick but she knows how to keep her man and her 2:00 appt on Thursday.
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
3:30 pm
but I’m still willing to try with the two condoms tho.
I can not stand you!
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
3:31 pm
Send Birthday wish to Ared everyday in December to insure that I get the right day….
My birthday is on a Sunday. The blog is closed.
It's me....lurker
September 29th, 2010
3:32 pm
Simple Man, I did wonder though. Just saying, you never know.
Raqi
September 29th, 2010
3:32 pm
Infamous I truly think that if a person is going to play the “it’s my house” cards there is a character flaw already embedded there. You best believe a person that would make that statement will be harping on something else if pre-homeownership was not even the case.
Just like the ones that bark at the spouses about who makes the most money. If it’s part of their character it is going to rear it’s ugly head in some way.
blue™
September 29th, 2010
3:33 pm
@Simple Man – Send Birthday wish to Ared everyday in December to insure that I get the right day – lol, dude sssshhhh…you got to pull it off like your just being sweet
THE iNFAMOUS DK
September 29th, 2010
3:33 pm
ARED – Im just saying.. Marriage is hard enough so before you go in, try to eliminate as many obstacles you can. Im telling you. I had all the answers before I got married and you couldnt tell me I would be divorced. It wasnt any problem we wasnt going to be able to work out.. Lo and behold.. Life has a way of showing you things you didnt know..
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
3:34 pm
If two people are even at the stage of him asking and her accepting I would think those affairs that can be worked out would already be. Mentally both should be marriage minded before asking and accepting. Financially, well outside of merging households those affairs are something that probably can be dealt with after the nuptials
Thank you Raqi – Now I may not have ever been married, but I know too many friends that are knocking on TONS on debt in student loans alone (even $100,000). They’d be old men and women before all their affairs are in order. You deal. You stay in the house you have. You don’t throw it in the other party’s face. *shrugs*
I am whatever you say I am™
September 29th, 2010
3:34 pm
Sorry Purple. I was in the latrine
Raqi
September 29th, 2010
3:34 pm
and her 2:00 appt on Thursday
ForReal, Imma kick you in your throat. LOL (I am now imaging 1000 responses to that statement LOL)
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
3:35 pm
I truly think that if a person is going to play the “it’s my house” cards there is a character flaw already embedded there.
Simple Man!!!!!
September 29th, 2010
3:35 pm
AmazonRed™ Hmmmmmm…….
So do I postdate every Friday or backdate every Monday???
Simple Man!!!!!
September 29th, 2010
3:36 pm
blue™ @ 3:33
LOL She has not seen being sweet yet!!! LOL
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
3:36 pm
So do I postdate every Friday or backdate every Monday???
You are FUNNY!
THE iNFAMOUS DK
September 29th, 2010
3:37 pm
Kimmie – Yeah I know how folks try to act like they got it all together but are busting loose at the seams.. Ish so raggedy they cant do nothing but look for the bad in everybody else.. And contradicts themselves faster than Eddie Long..
LURKS
September 29th, 2010
3:37 pm
YAAAAWWWWWNNN
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
3:38 pm
LOL She has not seen being sweet yet!!! LOL
You do have no clue as to what I look like right?
LURKS
September 29th, 2010
3:38 pm
IF 8000 SQ FT DON’T DO IT, BEGGIN WON’T EITHER
LURKS
September 29th, 2010
3:39 pm
WHERE IS UGMO?
kimmie
September 29th, 2010
3:39 pm
Raqi – Agree with your 3:32 totally! Amen! There is a character flaw in there somewhere, and guess what? That flaw more likely than not reared it’s ugly head before yall jumped the broom! You just chose to overlook it. Cause folks just don’t blurt out of the blue “it’s my house” all out-of-character all the time. They’ve said some equally shytty stuff before, so you should not be surprised. But yet, you still chose to marry them, so deal with it.
THE iNFAMOUS DK
September 29th, 2010
3:40 pm
Raqi – Everyone doesnt have the perfect marriage you have.. You know how relationships can go bad “Scorned” and things happen that you never thought would. Nor would you ever allow them to happen again.. For instance.. The next chick that I love is gonna have a good man cause Ive learned from my mistakes.
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
3:41 pm
They’ve said some equally shytty stuff before, so you should not be surprised. But yet, you still chose to marry them, so deal with it.
LURKS
September 29th, 2010
3:41 pm
AWWWW SNAP NOW
2CPTG©
September 29th, 2010
3:43 pm
“LOL She has not seen being a simp sweet yet!!! LOL”
2CPTG©
September 29th, 2010
3:44 pm
that don’t look right ^^^^
Melo!
September 29th, 2010
3:44 pm
Raqi 3.32?
People are people! They all have flaws.
Nobody is perfect.
Some things you can preempt without being blinded by love.
Raqi
September 29th, 2010
3:44 pm
Amazon, some people that want to are truly never going to get married hanging on to the “I need to work this out first” mindset ‘cause if it’s not one thing it will be another.
Hell I think some folks are better off getting married and working things out together. Working and building together can actually create greater bonds than not for some. And actually being willing to accept someone into your life who still carries a bit of a “something” speaks to the level of love and commitment you have for them.
But I will say this is all stuff that should be discussed before getting married. Even one does have a loan or what not and they don’t seem to be even trying to work on it, you probably should be asking some questions to them and yourself.
Simple Man!!!!!
September 29th, 2010
3:44 pm
AmazonRed™ ….No clue…
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
3:45 pm
Have you gotten your blog date secured yet?
THE iNFAMOUS DK
September 29th, 2010
3:45 pm
2 – Man Im telling you..
For Real
September 29th, 2010
3:46 pm
“ForReal, Imma kick you in your throat.” – For Real’s the man I got her legs up and it ain’t even Thursday.
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
3:47 pm
Hell I think some folks are better off getting married and working things out together. Working and building together can actually create greater bonds than not for some
Raqi – I agree. If you take all the hard stuff out up front, what’s to work on? Besides, I’m over diggin myself out of life holes solo.
My parents have been through a lot in their 33 years of marriage, but I like how they worked on it together all these years.
I used to state I’d rather not date a man whose “established” cuz I wanted to look back on our golden years and marvel on how we built our kingdom TOGETHER.
I’m kinda over that now.
Raqi
September 29th, 2010
3:48 pm
That flaw more likely than not reared it’s ugly head before yall jumped the broom!…and…They’ve said some equally shytty stuff before
kimmie, yes there is a 105% chance it already played itself out in some way before the nups.
kimmie
September 29th, 2010
3:48 pm
You know how relationships can go bad “Scorned” and things happen that you never thought would.
DK – I agree with this too! Folks can pull some fast ones on you!
2CPTG©
September 29th, 2010
3:51 pm
DK…..cuz, he may as well just flat out say, “Look ARED, what’s its gon’ take?” I’m talkin’ bout dude goin all out, ain’t he????
For Real
September 29th, 2010
3:51 pm
Dayum funny as hell 2C
Melo!
September 29th, 2010
3:51 pm
Ared 3:47?
Most women settle when they get older.
You over that now?
Yep,the alarm bell starting to ring!
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
3:52 pm
AmazonRed™ ….No clue…
Would you still flirt with me if I told you I looked like Broom Hilda?
Raqi
September 29th, 2010
3:52 pm
Infamous, my marriage is not perfect not even the least bit. We both have our “bads” but we are both trying our best to do this thing for the longterm.
We disagree just like the next couple but we didn’t see the reason to put our life together on-hold just for something we have before and are now working out together.
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
3:53 pm
Most women settle when they get older.
You over that now?
Yep,the alarm bell starting to ring!
Actually melo, it’s kind of the opposite. I’m saying I’m over broke men, and could now date established ones.
Sounds like standards are getting stricter.
2CPTG©
September 29th, 2010
3:54 pm
For Real…..I know you got something up ya sleeve….can we get a skit with Simple Man and Ared….
SexyCool
September 29th, 2010
3:55 pm
Simple – just chunk an email addy up (if you haven’t already) and…if…A wants to reach out, she can/will….or not.
And we can stay out of grown folks’ biz….and you can look less obvious.
THE iNFAMOUS DK
September 29th, 2010
3:55 pm
2 – And dudes wonder why chicks always got their hands out.. You give em the keys to the city on the first date so quite naturally they want the keys to the vault.. How you go in is how its gonna be… I cant believe cats even lead with those lines anymore.. The old fake bank statement trick..
For Real
September 29th, 2010
3:56 pm
Kimmie: “That flaw more likely than not reared it’s ugly head before yall jumped the broom!…and…They’ve said some equally shytty stuff before” – Not necessary false because you do realize folks lie and they will stick with that lie. Kinda like how you lie about us sharing the most spectacular mind blowing sex for 12 seconds.
I am whatever you say I am™
September 29th, 2010
3:56 pm
simple man, what if you do get blessed with the opportunity to meet Ared and she looks like this: http://media.photobucket.com/image/ugly%20chick/popcicles09/ugly-girl.jpg
would you still holla?
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
3:56 pm
SexyCool – He did that already.
THE iNFAMOUS DK
September 29th, 2010
3:57 pm
Raqi – I know but Im saying dont act like things cant get ugly between people and things are said that wouldnt normally be said.. Remember I know The scorned u… And Im proud to say Ive been there to witness the change..
THE iNFAMOUS DK
September 29th, 2010
3:59 pm
And for the most part people can hold onto their Representative until they get you down the aisle then they feel like they dont have to keep up the oasis anymore..
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
4:00 pm
And for the most part people can hold onto their Representative until they get you down the aisle then they feel like they dont have to keep up the oasis anymore..
I mean…who doesn’t know this? The difference is if you believe this is the exception or the rule.
It's me....lurker
September 29th, 2010
4:00 pm
just chunk an email addy up (if you haven’t already) and…if…A wants to reach out, she can/will….or not.
And we can stay out of grown folks’ biz….and you can look less obvious.
SexyCool – He did that already.
Well can we get a flat yes or no?
For Real
September 29th, 2010
4:01 pm
Ared: You finally got your wish. Simple is really working. I think he bout to cry if house, compliments and begging doesn’t work. And I’m not talking about that snubbing ish chicks do when they found out that DeCraig stole their bank card and they are about to turn off your water and you on your cycle. I’m talking about that 5y.o crying complete with snot and that one long azz slob that refuses to break crying while sing Lenny Williams backwards.
kimmie
September 29th, 2010
4:02 pm
4Real – Go sit down, you have showed out enough 2day!LOL!!
Raqita – I get what you are saying about waiting for this, that and the other to get married. Go on and do the dang thang. There will always be something. What I see more of, though, is not long engagements, but folks putting off engaging. I haven’t paid this 50K student loan off, or I want to have my Ph.D and I don’t even have my bachelors yet, before I can even consider getting engaged. Those were just excuses because the person really didn’t want to get married to begin with. They are not even trying the layaway plan!LOL!!
Melo!
September 29th, 2010
4:03 pm
DK?
Yeah I thought u said ‘ perfect marriage’ as in sarcastic perfect!
That’s what these chics need to know. It ain’t a bed of roses after the honeymoon.
It’s rubber on iron
Raqi
September 29th, 2010
4:03 pm
Oh Infamous, things can and do get ugly. LOL And yes I have been Scorned before.
But what I am saying is it is not always necessary to have a pure slate before getting married. Somethings can be worked on together. That’s all I’m saying.
My dad says all the time this thing called love and marriage is not rocket science, we just make it harder than it really is.
He should know, he is a retired aerospace engineer and he was married to my mother for many, many years. LOL
Leggs ~ Smiling
September 29th, 2010
4:03 pm
@LURKS ~ looking left and right…what’s going on!
Raqi
September 29th, 2010
4:04 pm
One other thing Infamous having experienced being scorned gave me the up on what to look for.
Simple Man!!!!!
September 29th, 2010
4:06 pm
Ared…In this setting it does not matter….I have never seen you and other than what can be derived from you handle, I know nothing of what you look like. There is a playful banter and I enjoy it… Now since I smell some hate in the house like Eddie Longs colonge, maybe I should just…..Well lets just say its fun and as long as I am not being offensive to you or any of the other laides…We will roll with it…how about that???
I am whatever you say I am™
September 29th, 2010
4:07 pm
This is the final week of Hunger Action Month, so time is running out on this deal from the Cheesecake Factory. If you donate $5 to the Feeding America campaign by registering here, you will get a thank you in the form of a free slice of cheesecake.
Raqi
September 29th, 2010
4:08 pm
I want to have my Ph.D
kimmie, LOL you are right because what bearing does not having a Ph.D yet going to put on a marriage. All excuses. Once they get the Ph.D then they have to pay off the student loans. Do the damn thing together. You will appreciate each more for it.
Leggs ~ Smiling
September 29th, 2010
4:09 pm
@SimpleMan ~ ignore whatever hate you might smell…keep on keeping on! But, I will have to auction of 1,000 sq feet of your home. Code violations for this area of town….houses cannot surpass 7500 sq. ft. See Code 136, Sec. 6(a)(iv)!!
Simple Man!!!!!
September 29th, 2010
4:09 pm
I am @ 3:56 …Oh Damn!!!!
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
4:09 pm
Simple is really working
For Real – This is still a message board right? Just text on a screen right?
Work, really?
Boy please.
For Real
September 29th, 2010
4:11 pm
Look here folks marriage ain’t no joke. It is the hardest thing two people will ever do in their life. It’s harder than raising children. So, the last thing you need is a person that hold on to fairy tales. I quicker you can get that chick out of LaLa land and into reality the better the chance you have at staying married. So, get rid of as much of the small ish you can before getting married and a solid plan to get rid of the big stuff within 2yrs.
Melo!
September 29th, 2010
4:13 pm
Simple?
Don’t worry about the hate from dudes or chicks. I got your back!
We were talking about competition yesterday so u already know this.
Who won’t want to slide Ared panties here given a choice!
Just don’t show all your spades coz Ared may burn you.
And don’t move in with her either!
Right on bro!
I am whatever you say I am™
September 29th, 2010
4:13 pm
I second the notion that For REal do a simple dude and Ared skit
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
4:14 pm
Now since I smell some hate in the house like Eddie Longs colonge,
Simple Man – No offense on my part. I can handle the spotlight if you can.
Don’t mind my throwing myself a Blackfoote either…just gotta hedge my bets you know… in case I find some midget p0rn in that library.
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
4:15 pm
Who won’t want to slide Ared panties here given a choice!
melo – I hate it when you “help.”
I am whatever you say I am™
September 29th, 2010
4:16 pm
do I predict a Simple dude and Ared union in the near future
I am whatever you say I am™
September 29th, 2010
4:17 pm
♥
Simple Man!!!!!
September 29th, 2010
4:17 pm
Note to self…destroy all of the midget porn…..
I am whatever you say I am™
September 29th, 2010
4:17 pm
don’t judge me
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
4:18 pm
I am whatever you say I am™
September 29th, 2010
4:19 pm
Where’s Purple?
blue™
September 29th, 2010
4:21 pm
@i am – lol. i was just saying to myself…hmmm, never watched midget p0rn…
I am whatever you say I am™
September 29th, 2010
4:22 pm
<—-feeling like chuck wullably from let's make a deal
Simple Man: will you find a suitable candlight restaurant to take Ared to
Ared: Will you please go on a date with
thirstySimple dude?I am whatever you say I am™
September 29th, 2010
4:22 pm
we there blue!
LOL!
Raqi
September 29th, 2010
4:23 pm
Alright good people I am out of here. (I don’t think I have waved goodbye to all in a while LOL)
The marido will be home is a couple of hours and I have big birthday dinner I want to have ready when he walks thru door.
You all be good and be blessed. G’night.
I am whatever you say I am™
September 29th, 2010
4:23 pm
why is the blog
fat arse wise divaeating my blog comments?DAMN DAMN DAMN JAMES!!!
2CPTG©
September 29th, 2010
4:26 pm
testing….
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
4:27 pm
I am…why you name calling?
Melo!
September 29th, 2010
4:28 pm
Here is an assist for my man Simpleman, just in case ‘I am’ or any other chics want some play too!
Simpleman010245@yahoo.com
The man has 8000sq feet space to play with!
This is a dating blog!
Come now ladies?
Simple Man!!!!!
September 29th, 2010
4:29 pm
LOL
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
4:31 pm
I Am, I am here I had to go “handle” something
BBqSunflwr
September 29th, 2010
4:33 pm
@Infamous – congrats to the next woman you chhose. Some wl end up being a better person after the least little thing sets in motion the ball of inevitability resulting in a commited-to marriage failure
Some wl end up being a better person after their inflated opinion of self pops, or slowly deflates in the media or in they mind by exacting reality whose first and only rule is ‘we are all human’ aka ‘it could happen’
Others wl briefly experience life as a better person on their deathbed whn the life thy sincerely contrive in their heads thy are living is not wht exacting reality reveals whn the curtain is removed for the blinding light of death
Others wl never knw wht it means to live better. those who never commit,who never find ‘the one’, and those who obsess wit tightening the shoe strings on anothers foot. You are living better and I applaud tht.
I am whatever you say I am™
September 29th, 2010
4:35 pm
random: six foot seven foot eight foot punch!
I am whatever you say I am™
September 29th, 2010
4:36 pm
Amazon: because I can
I am whatever you say I am™
September 29th, 2010
4:37 pm
I handled the latrine while purple handled his wang
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
4:38 pm
I Am, did you have something to drink for lunch?
Leggs ~ Smiling
September 29th, 2010
4:38 pm
@Melo ~ your whole post reeks of materalism and not connecting with the person. Anyone can have an 8000 sq. ft home and not be right upstairs. The house doesn’t make the man!!!
Leggs ~ Smiling
September 29th, 2010
4:39 pm
LOL, I am, are you ok…you going off the deep end. But thanks for the laugh!!
I am whatever you say I am™
September 29th, 2010
4:41 pm
nope
More sober than a nun on a Sunday getting it on with EL
blue™
September 29th, 2010
4:41 pm
@i am – need to refocus my brain, cause now im wondering about this midget stuff…is it a midget and an average height person, two midgets, a group of midgets…
@Leggs – Anyone can have an 8000 sq. ft home and not be right upstairs – lmao
Melo!
September 29th, 2010
4:41 pm
Leggs?
I know!
I was repeating what he said about his trappings not about him, the person.
Some of the chics are coming for the trappings tooabd the jacuzzi and not for him!
U dig?!
I am whatever you say I am™
September 29th, 2010
4:42 pm
do migets ever have arguments over who’s taller?
Isn’t it a sick fetish where a 6′4 dude gets it on with a midget
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
4:43 pm
I Am, lol okay. What are you doing right now?
I am whatever you say I am™
September 29th, 2010
4:43 pm
are migets that give birth to normal sized children somewhat terried of the terrible twos?
Melo!
September 29th, 2010
4:44 pm
And the jacuzzi
Don’t u remember the guy who had the Benz on here Leggs?
Leggs ~ Smiling
September 29th, 2010
4:44 pm
@blue ~ thanks for pointing that out “right upstairs”! Good catch! The ceilings too high making one woozy when looking up.
I am whatever you say I am™
September 29th, 2010
4:44 pm
I’m thinking mind evoking thoughts
Leggs ~ Smiling
September 29th, 2010
4:45 pm
@Melo ~ yeah, man, I dig. Too funny. Yes, I remember the Benz. Why?
I am whatever you say I am™
September 29th, 2010
4:45 pm
my dream boat
http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_6-WJXYHXf0o/SKRwxD12LwI/AAAAAAAAA7k/Mzl5CgbXD74/s400/partyboat.jpg
kimmie
September 29th, 2010
4:46 pm
I am not meant to be alone
Turn this house
Into a home
When I climb the stairs
And turn the key, please be there
Sayin that you’re
Still
In
Love
Still in love
Wiiith
Meeee
Leggs ~ Smiling
September 29th, 2010
4:47 pm
@I am ~ as long as you haven’t hypnotized anyone to do harm to another, your thoughts are safe (somewhat).
Melo!
September 29th, 2010
4:48 pm
Why?
Come on Leggs !
Who wants to waste time on rhymes when a yu can do is flash and Baasam. Bootey!
Trappings buy bootey!
Leggs ~ Smiling
September 29th, 2010
4:48 pm
@kimmie ~ as much as I love that song, I hated it when I would walk home from my college classes and turn that key….
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
4:48 pm
I Am, has reached her breaking point. LOL
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
4:49 pm
This is a dating blog!
No melo it’s not a dating blog…it’s a blog about dating.
If this were a “dating” (matchmaking) blog, your ass does not need to be here.
I am whatever you say I am™
September 29th, 2010
4:49 pm
random: some folks got more water on the brain than they do sugar on a candy cane
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
4:51 pm
I can feel it coming in the air tonight……………..
I am whatever you say I am™
September 29th, 2010
4:52 pm
question: do married people get more back if they file a joint return than single people?
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
4:52 pm
I don’t know
I am whatever you say I am™
September 29th, 2010
4:52 pm
or is the same when that single person is a parent and a home owner?
Melo!
September 29th, 2010
4:53 pm
When I say I’m a polygamist you obviously don’t believe me’.
I got vacancies Ared!
Forward that note to your friends.
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
4:54 pm
Go home melo!!!!
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
4:54 pm
A woman tells her husband that she wants something that goes from 0 to 200 in seconds parked in her driveway.Next day he goes to get the present and leaves it in the driveway.She looks outside with excitement and asks in shock,”How did you get a car in that box?” he says ,” it is not a car,its a scale!”
Dirty Diana ♠ Going Green, one fish, two fish, red fish, blue fish
September 29th, 2010
4:54 pm
blue™
September 29th, 2010
4:54 pm
@i am – your gonna have my head all tied up with midgets now, d@mn you…
@Leggs – some of my most interesting friends aint right upstairs, lol
@PR – air drums …….
Leggs ~ Smiling
September 29th, 2010
4:55 pm
@I am ~ this isn’t the real I am….
Dirty Diana ♠ Going Green, one fish, two fish, red fish, blue fish
September 29th, 2010
4:55 pm
Melo did you see the man and his sis-wives they are investigating in Utah? They were on GMA this morning…I think it is something like 16 children between all of the women.
blue™
September 29th, 2010
4:56 pm
printing a 460 page document…will be here all night, argghhh
Melo!
September 29th, 2010
4:56 pm
PR?
LOL
i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)
September 29th, 2010
4:56 pm
“question: do married people get more back if they file a joint return than single people?”
Depends on the particular situation, but in many cases, you would get more combined refunds if you did not get married than your refund for married, filing jointly. Now, if you are married, it is almost always better to file jointly than separately — but in many cases, you are penalized for being married (particularly if both of you earn around the same level of income).
Leggs ~ Smiling
September 29th, 2010
4:57 pm
@BBq ~ you have time to leave the end of day quote? Thank you.
I am whatever you say I am™
September 29th, 2010
4:57 pm
FOUR MORE MINUTES!!!!!
yelling that like I’m the chick that does the intro for the Electric Company
Melo!
September 29th, 2010
4:57 pm
Enter your comments hereDD?
I did
Here in USA
Leggs ~ Smiling
September 29th, 2010
4:57 pm
@blue ~ save paper, print it 2-sided!
Leggs ~ Smiling
September 29th, 2010
4:58 pm
Somebody has the real “I am” stashed in a broom closet somewhere! The pod people are in the house!
blue™
September 29th, 2010
4:59 pm
@Leggs – would love to, but my boss would spazzz….
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
5:00 pm
I am getting confused again. LOL
I am whatever you say I am™
September 29th, 2010
5:00 pm
oh ok swiss
and I’m that note, I’m out!:arrow:
Leggs ~ Smiling
September 29th, 2010
5:01 pm
I’m cracking up…she can’t type now either!
Melo!
September 29th, 2010
5:03 pm
I am?
U loud!
Do u holla and wail in bed?
I bet u do.
Good nite all
Leggs ~ Smiling
September 29th, 2010
5:03 pm
“But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind straining toward what is ahead…”
Good night, enjoy your evening and your dinner!
Kym
September 29th, 2010
5:19 pm
I am really gonna need ya’ll to have all this wonderful dialogue..before 3:00pm..some of us have to go home early.
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
5:21 pm
Yes maam Kym
Simple Man!!!!!
September 29th, 2010
5:23 pm
Is it safe to come out now???? LOL
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
5:24 pm
Sure come out out as long as you werent in the closet
Kym
September 29th, 2010
5:27 pm
Why are ya’ll two in here alone? Did I walk in on a Eddie moment…I am joking..lawd I am joking..no one get offended.
Simple Man!!!!!
September 29th, 2010
5:28 pm
Never that!!!!
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
5:28 pm
No Kym we are here for you.
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
5:29 pm
Kym I am taking you to Simple Man’s house to watch some movies. LOL Movie Night
Kym
September 29th, 2010
5:31 pm
LOL yeah ok…. suree lets go with that.. Simple Man in the closet.. which could have a secret door like Batman leading to his porn cellar.
Kym
September 29th, 2010
5:33 pm
@Purple naww I am good..Simple Man sounds like he has some other stuff going on down there..I am not trying to wind up missing with my face on a bottle of KY..have you seen this woman.
Simple Man!!!!!
September 29th, 2010
5:33 pm
Yeah Kym….wanna come over and hang out…I can make dinner and we can watch this new “docu-drama” about midgets….
Kym
September 29th, 2010
5:34 pm
Seriously what is it with you guys and midgets?..excuse me the PC term is little people.
Simple Man!!!!!
September 29th, 2010
5:34 pm
The Physics intrigue me……
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
5:36 pm
Midgets don’t bother me and Kym I am not going to his house by myself. LOL
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
5:36 pm
Kym did you read this?
http://jacksonville.com/news/crime/2010-09-29/story/gunman-attacks-woman-and-friend-monday-arlington-home
Simple Man!!!!!
September 29th, 2010
5:37 pm
Kym @ 5:31….Why I gotta be a serial killer???? I am just a nice guy that happens to be ok with admitting to having a porn collection…I am sure there are women here with a greater collectin than I do…
SexyCool
September 29th, 2010
5:38 pm
Kym – when have folk around here *ever* cared about PC-ness? LOL!
Simple Man!!!!!
September 29th, 2010
5:40 pm
Anyone know of a good happy hour place near Duluth???
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
5:41 pm
SexyCool, I did not think PC mattered here.
Kym
September 29th, 2010
5:42 pm
@Sexy I know right..I am trying..to get better.
@ Purple that is crazy..
@Simple Man its cool I joke..I think it is healthy for men to watch porn
Kym
September 29th, 2010
5:44 pm
Let me re-phase that..I think men should watch a reasonable amount of porn..if you got porn on your laptop and playing 24/7 and cant sleep without watching Jenna or Pinky..then you might have problem.
Simple Man!!!!!
September 29th, 2010
5:46 pm
Kym, Do you watch Porn??
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
5:47 pm
Pinky
Simple Man!!!!!
September 29th, 2010
5:49 pm
Purp…Pinky is the one that trying to rap right???
Kym
September 29th, 2010
5:50 pm
@Simple I have watched porn from time to time.
Simple Man!!!!!
September 29th, 2010
5:51 pm
Hmmmmm. Define from time to time…:)
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
5:53 pm
I don’t know if she is trying to rap or not, but I know who she is. LOL
Kym
we can watch football and Porn. LOL
Kym
September 29th, 2010
6:03 pm
Time to time is more than once but less than a million.
Simple Man!!!!!
September 29th, 2010
6:13 pm
Good answer Kym….
Simple Man!!!!!
September 29th, 2010
6:42 pm
Turning off the lights…..
Jones Bradley
September 30th, 2010
3:58 am
Getting married is very hard nowadays! Certain points to be considered are the stable job as the main reason why family are fighting for. Its not so easy to find the one who can handle the situations. As recession continues then I don’t care about the peer pressures.
If you are happy for a being single man just like me, then no worries. Now if you feel like getting married is now in the right time, then go. Life is too short and you are the one who will make the vital decision.
In every country, there are traditions, cultures and religion engaged in getting married. Asian are mostly on prearranged marriage. And that refusing is not so easy since it may be putting your parents ashamed if you’re not following the rules.
Overall, it is always your decision. A perfect time in the right place will be more favorable.