Do single men feel pressure to marry?
I was lamenting with a friend of mine about no longer being eligible to donate my eggs to infertile couples. For some random reason this bummed me out! Normal single women have biological clocks that inch them towards marriage. Yours truly? I want to cling to the option of donating eggs. I know, I’ve always been a little strange, but I digress.
My friend consoled me by saying I may not be the perfect candidate to donate eggs but I would still make a great wife. He said that as a man, even with the option to have children at a later age, he has felt pressure to become a husband.
Awesome compliment aside (thanks Greg!), what he said me wonder about pressure single men have about relationships and marriage. Is it the same kind of pressure society places on women (and our ovaries!) and how do men handle it?
When men see their friends and peers getting married, do they get the feeling as if they are being left behind?
Ladies, do you think that a man past a certain age that has remain unmarried is still marriage material?
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AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
3:02 pm
I won’t hazard a comment there coz I don’t the details if their unions.
OH PLEASE. You had soooo much to say when no names were named.
Melo!
September 29th, 2010
3:02 pm
Kimmie @2:59?
Lol u are even complicating things coz Big baby daddy is in the decision too!
Lol
kimmie
September 29th, 2010
3:02 pm
DK – Suppose there is little or no “engagement” or “layaway” time?
I agree, it is nice when you can start fresh with someone, but life just doesn’t always work out like that sometimes.
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
3:03 pm
Its just natural tendancies for someone to say this is my house when theyre mad..
Okay so what? You deal with that dumbass statement as you would any other dumbass statement your partner will make over the course of your lifetime.
And newsflash, homes aren’t selling so easy these days.
Melo!
September 29th, 2010
3:05 pm
Ared?
Ofcourse that don’t mean I don’t have an opinion.
I made my point, example or no example!
2CPTG©
September 29th, 2010
3:05 pm
noticed while casually lurking:
wonder why ain’t no chics talkin bout what they got, and ain’t got? then wondering, maybe cause they’on give a damn?? hmmmmmm……back to the pose…
I am whatever you say I am™
September 29th, 2010
3:05 pm
Purple : I’ll have to go somewhere to play it. My blackberry starts before you are able to hit mute.
Don’t want to risk my boss getting turned on
kimmie
September 29th, 2010
3:06 pm
Melo – Not complicating things at all, just putting out something else that could come up that would have to be considered. Everything is not always black and white. Didn’t say Big Daddy wouldn’t be part of the equation either. But in the case I cited, the kids bio Dad lived in another state.
blue™
September 29th, 2010
3:06 pm
@i am – If you want Adult television for free tyr p0rnhub.com…
p0rn on the blackberry…well d@mn, think i’ll wait till i get home, lol
2CPTG©
September 29th, 2010
3:07 pm
“And newsflash, homes aren’t selling so easy these days.”
so you’re tellin me I ordered this Carlton Sheets, “no down payment” shyt for nuthin???? damn!
Breakingofdawn
September 29th, 2010
3:07 pm
I agree with you Simple, I love being an Auntie. I have enough thru blood and love to have a football team. I love every minute of it, esp when the parents get told, “I’m calling Autie”. As far as having any of my own is up to the universe. I will not be defined by having or not having children.
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
3:07 pm
I made my point, example or no example!
Not really…
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
3:08 pm
wonder why ain’t no chics talkin bout what they got, and ain’t got?
I ain’t got nothing…that’s why.
2CPTG©
September 29th, 2010
3:09 pm
“I ain’t got nothing…that’s why.”
don’t feel bad, me either…..
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
3:09 pm
As far as having any of my own is up to the universe. I will not be defined by having or not having children.
I’m thinking of getting my tubes tied as a 35th birthday present to myself.
(if I’m not married by that time, of course).
But I also agree…AUNTIEHOOD ROCKS
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
3:10 pm
don’t feel bad
Oh I don’t.
Cuz I do have abundant blessings.
Simple Man!!!!!
September 29th, 2010
3:10 pm
BOD…that whats up…. My two oldest nephews especially…They are 17 and 16 and in their eyes, I am the coolest dude on earth!! LOL
Simple Man!!!!!
September 29th, 2010
3:12 pm
ARED,,Can I ask how old are you?
It's me....lurker
September 29th, 2010
3:12 pm
How ya’ll know Simple Man ain’t Elijah reincarnated
Raqi
September 29th, 2010
3:12 pm
2CPTG I will tell you what I got. I got the best treatment at the spa this morning. Damn I feel good. LOL
It's me....lurker
September 29th, 2010
3:13 pm
Elijah I need to see a post from you and Simple Man happening at the same time.
Melo!
September 29th, 2010
3:13 pm
How classless would that be discussing 2 peoples marriages when they are not here to volunteer info about their marriages?
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
3:14 pm
Well it still works on my blackberry, whew!
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
3:14 pm
How classless would that be discussing 2 peoples marriages when they are not here to volunteer info about their marriages?
Now you’re worried about class? Really?
You make a blanket statement. And you’ve read about two of these people for YEARS. And now you want to have some class?
Boy bye.
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
3:15 pm
I am hungry now
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
3:15 pm
Simple Man – I’m 32. And will be 33 in December.
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
3:17 pm
AmazonRed, you are still young and fertile. LOL
For Real
September 29th, 2010
3:17 pm
“2CPTG I will tell you what I got. I got the best treatment at the spa this morning. Damn I feel good.” – Um hey Raqi, you um forgot your stroller. See ya Thursday at 2?
For Real
September 29th, 2010
3:18 pm
Ared: May I ask if you have baby making hips?
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
3:18 pm
PR – The women in my family are all very fertile. No one’s ever had trouble getting pregnant. That’s why I might go for a preemptive strike.
Breakingofdawn
September 29th, 2010
3:18 pm
I have them ranging from 2 weeks old to 26 years old right now. My advise goes along way with them. One of the 3 year old’s is off the hook though. He tells his mom everytime she cures in Spanish, he says in French he is calling me. It boils her blood. Laughing just thinking about it. My favorite aunt just passed at a young 45YO, I think about how much of an influence and sound ear she was to me. I hope I’m giving that to my neices and nephews.
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
3:19 pm
For Real – Affirmative.
THE iNFAMOUS DK
September 29th, 2010
3:19 pm
Kimmie – Whats the rush?? Why people gotta run to the alter??? I think the engagement process is vital.. It gives you time to get your single affairs in order.
ARED – You avoid issues when you can.. So if you stick you hand on the stove and burn youself.. I guess you can deal with it after you get to the hospital.. Theres no need to get 3rd degree burns if you dont have to.. Its like clearing up as much debt as you can before getting married.. Why go into the relationship with a ton of debt.. Because as we all know finances cause divorces.. And overtime something as small as this is my house festers into something bigger.. Something as small as he always leaves the seat up on the toilet can lead to something bigger.. Babe you gotta get married first to realize things change when the names go on the paper.. If it were that easy Im sure the divorce rate wouldnt be over 50%..
Melo!
September 29th, 2010
3:19 pm
Ared?
Yeah Tazz just got married and I won’t discuss Raqi, all outa respect.
Unless with their tacit 2 way convo!
That’s class!
Purple Rain
September 29th, 2010
3:21 pm
I Am, where are you? LOL
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
3:21 pm
Whatever melo – I’ll answer for you. They aren’t the men in their relationships no matter what you think.
For Real
September 29th, 2010
3:22 pm
Ared: “The women in my family are all very fertile.” – Um, Ared, Simple, Simple Ared.
For Real now spitting out the glass of water Ared gave him.
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
3:22 pm
And overtime something as small as this is my house festers into something bigger..
My point is that that argument is not a guarantee. You’re worried about something that could never happen all for the sake of your EGO. No more, no less.
Raqi
September 29th, 2010
3:23 pm
It gives you time to get your single affairs in order.
Infamous, which affairs would that be? Mental? Financial?
If two people are even at the stage of him asking and her accepting I would think those affairs that can be worked out would already be. Mentally both should be marriage minded before asking and accepting. Financially, well outside of merging households those affairs are something that probably can be dealt with after the nuptials.
For Real
September 29th, 2010
3:23 pm
“Affirmative.” – Oh my dayum, well maybe I overreacted. We try and make it work with two condoms.
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
3:23 pm
Um, Ared, Simple, Simple Ared.
Clean out the wax in your ears. I’d prefer NOT to have kids.
kimmie
September 29th, 2010
3:24 pm
DK – I really was referring to a blog topic about a month or so ago, about long engagements! I was just tripping really, because I don’t see the harm in an engagement period, especially if you are planning a wedding and bringing two households together. But alot came back with criticism of that, saying it was like putting someone on layaway, with no real intention of marrying them. Or that they really were not ready to marry them, but them wanted to put the person on lock until they got ready.
You know how stuff gets twisted on here!
Raqi
September 29th, 2010
3:25 pm
They aren’t the men in their relationships no matter what you think.
You damn right Amazon. My husband pants are too big and heavy for me to wear. I just make sure they are perfectly washed and pressed each and every day for him. (I think you get what I am saying here. LOL)
Melo!
September 29th, 2010
3:26 pm
Ared?
It’s not uncommon if ask me’!
(based on what we men see out there)
There are exceptions to every rule tho
Simple Man!!!!!
September 29th, 2010
3:27 pm
Its me…Lurker…. Whats up with that????
For Real
September 29th, 2010
3:28 pm
“Clean out the wax in your ears. I’d prefer NOT to have kids.” – My ear are clean the operative words are “perfer NOT” and “The women in my family are all very fertile” these two statements are diametrically apposed but I’m still willing to try with the two condoms tho.
It's me....lurker
September 29th, 2010
3:29 pm
I kid I kid Simple Man…just having fun. Sometimes it gets waaay serious in here.
Simple Man!!!!!
September 29th, 2010
3:29 pm
Note to self… Send Birthday wish to Ared everyday in December to insure that I get the right day….
Simple Man!!!!!
September 29th, 2010
3:30 pm
Its me…. Just checking….
For Real
September 29th, 2010
3:30 pm
“You damn right Amazon. My husband pants are too big and heavy for me to wear. I just make sure they are perfectly washed and pressed each and every day for him.” – I have said it before and I will say it again, Raqi is one quirky chick but she knows how to keep her man and her 2:00 appt on Thursday.