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Do single men feel pressure to marry?

I was lamenting with a friend of mine about no longer being eligible to donate my eggs to infertile couples.   For some random reason this bummed me out!  Normal single women have biological clocks that inch them towards marriage.  Yours truly? I want to cling to the option of donating eggs. I know, I’ve always been a little strange, but I digress.

My friend consoled me by saying I may not be the perfect candidate to donate eggs but I would still make a great wife.  He said that as a man, even with the option to have children at a later age, he has felt pressure to become a husband.

Awesome compliment aside (thanks Greg!),  what he said me wonder about pressure single men have about relationships and  marriage.   Is it the same kind of pressure society places on women (and our ovaries!) and how do men handle it?

When men see their friends and peers getting married, do they get the feeling as if they are being left behind?

Ladies, do you think that a man past a certain age that has remain unmarried is still marriage material?

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i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)

September 29th, 2010
1:17 pm

“does having sex without a condom mean the guy has feelings for the woman?”

:lol:

No. It means either:

1) He just saw her lab results.

or

2) He’s feeling lucky.

or

3) She’s so hot, it’s worth the herp.

:lol:

AmazonRed™

September 29th, 2010
1:17 pm

I would never move into a chick’s house.

Couple’s could stack so much chips and build for their future if men could put their egos aside in instances such as this. If her house is bigger and it just makes more practical sense, I’d hope my man would be on board.

For Real

September 29th, 2010
1:18 pm

“does having sex without a condom mean the guy has feelings for the woman?” – Yes it means I feel that I can trust her with my life.

Simple Man!!!!!

September 29th, 2010
1:18 pm

Kym….in a word, No!!! All that means is he likes it Raw!!!

Simple Man!!!!!

September 29th, 2010
1:20 pm

AmazonRed™ LOL…8000 sqft!!! :D :D :D

Purple Rain

September 29th, 2010
1:20 pm

AmazonRed, I disagree during the winter a Hummer get ‘er done. Where other 4×4’s cant hang the advantage is more rear wheel tracking and the can forge up to 4ft of water with no engine damage unlike pickup and other SUV’s. The majority of the year is slush deep mud and snow they are excellent people movers. Now why people put rims on them and never take them off road I don’t know. They can also tow a laden trailer through all of the elements no problem. Thing is when people but a truck at home they tend to keep it forever. Tons of farmers started buying them up once the price dropped. If your tractor or grainer gets stuck a Hummer will pull it out without even sneezing. LOL

i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)

September 29th, 2010
1:20 pm

Seriously, Kym… No, I don’t think you can assume that. Dude could just be irresponsible…

AmazonRed™

September 29th, 2010
1:21 pm

8000 sqft!!!

:shock:

Seriously? :D

Who cleans all that? :oops: :lol:

AmazonRed™

September 29th, 2010
1:21 pm

Seriously, Kym… No, I don’t think you can assume that. Dude could just be irresponsible…

:idea: I was gonna say lazy.

But yeah, I guess it means the trust is there…. :arrow:

AmazonRed™

September 29th, 2010
1:22 pm

Now why people put rims on them and never take them off road I don’t know

I would say that’s a majority of Hummer owners.

Purple Rain

September 29th, 2010
1:22 pm

Kym, no rubber does not mean he has feelings for her. He just decided to take the risk.

SexyCool

September 29th, 2010
1:22 pm

NEWSFLASH!!!

DUDES ARE IRRATIONAL!!! (Using For Real’s above broadstroking statement as a template.)

For Real – you and I get along, but…you have this maddening habit of coming in making blanket, sexist statements. Just stop it!

It's me....lurker

September 29th, 2010
1:22 pm

I think Kym’s question is a good one. I want to know the answer to the condom question as well…..all you blog men, lurkers alike chime in on that one. We’ll go with the general consensus. While I feel it depends on the individual, as Swiss stated it could just be a matter of being carelss, someone else said they feel that level of trust.

Simple Man!!!!!

September 29th, 2010
1:23 pm

AmazonRed™

LMAO….Cleaning lady comes on Tuesday and Friday..But its just me so its never really messy….

AmazonRed™

September 29th, 2010
1:24 pm

Simple Man…if you were to uh…take on a wife…would she have to clean that big ole house with no help?

Purple Rain

September 29th, 2010
1:24 pm

AmazonRed, yes here in the city. I know that you are well traveled but if you ever venture into God’s country you will some some real 4×4’s being used the way they are supposed to be used. LOL I can’t remember the last time I washed my truck. I keep the inside clean because I have to wear suits to work sometimes. The outside probably still has farm dirt on it. FORD TOUGH!!

Kym

September 29th, 2010
1:25 pm

Okay that is two..No he is irresponsible and likes it raw and one yes cause he trust her. I was leaning more toward For Real’s answer..because I would think in this day and time the guy would be more willing to wrap up..but he could just be so happy to get some. Depends on the dude will be my final answer.

Simple Man!!!!!

September 29th, 2010
1:25 pm

Kym, and he is a Damn Fool!!! LOL

AmazonRed™

September 29th, 2010
1:26 pm

AmazonRed, yes here in the city. I know that you are well traveled but if you ever venture into God’s country you will some some real 4×4’s being used the way they are supposed to be used.

Right…I don’t have a problem with that. However, I do live in the city…and have to see these worthless vehicles in the city. That’s the problem.

Simple Man!!!!!

September 29th, 2010
1:26 pm

AmazonRed™

Nooooo, Gleaning lady comes on Tuesday and Friday!!! Thats not gonna change :)

Purple Rain

September 29th, 2010
1:27 pm

SexyCool, it balances out, The ladies have blue and kimmie making their blanket male statements and the men have For Real, Melo and myself. So its fair. LOL

I think another reason families have problems is because everyone wants to move into a bigger house. You work all day then come home and have all of that space to be seprated That is not always good, to much space. A home needs to be nice a cozy IMO

kimmie

September 29th, 2010
1:27 pm

4Real – :lol: :lol: My arguement actually was that each couple should do what works for their situation.

And for the record, my “men do it everyday” comment was not about a man moving into his wifes house, though it does happen quite a bit. It was about how SOME men throw it up in their wives faces that it’s HIS house, so she basically has to put up with whatever he decides to dish out. If both names are on the deed, or they buy a home together, that eliminates that arguement.

But I guess that’s a little too RATIONAL, coming from a female, isn’t it 4Realster? :lol:

Kym

September 29th, 2010
1:28 pm

@Purple..its all God’s country..

For Real

September 29th, 2010
1:29 pm

Ared: Ego has nothing to do with it. It’s a man’s character and accepting responsibility of taking care of the women he married. Like I said women are irrational and are prone to make dcision based on emotions period. You may not like it but it is the truth. Every women on this planet that has a little of something is bound to have bouts of I.N.D.E.P.E.N.D.E.N.T and SELFISHNESS. Thus, causing strife in the home of any man that’s living in his woman’s house (even if his name is on the deed). As for stacking chips and building for the future I hope you will signoff on ole boys investment plan before marrying him cause quiet as it is kept a house is not an asset.

Melo!

September 29th, 2010
1:30 pm

SexxyCool/Kym/It’s me’?!!

Condom less??

Depends on the man.

If u want too see a man at his most irrational moment Sexxycool, that’s when the pudssy is right front of him.

Going raw maybe the most expedient for him at that point.

Don’t put too much into it and certainly nothing necessarily related to luv.

Purple Rain

September 29th, 2010
1:30 pm

AmazonRed, going green? Some of these people need big SUV’s to haul their fat arse and their fat arse kids around. No regular car can handle all of that lard without voiding the warranty LOL

SexyCool

September 29th, 2010
1:30 pm

I read recently that the McMansion era was dying out and giving way to more manageable living spaces.

Purple Rain

September 29th, 2010
1:31 pm

Kym, God’s Country is a term that means unmolested land not over developed.

AmazonRed™

September 29th, 2010
1:31 pm

I think another reason families have problems is because everyone wants to move into a bigger house. You work all day then come home and have all of that space to be seprated That is not always good, to much space. A home needs to be nice a cozy IMO

Purple Rain – I totally agree. I grew up in a house that was probably 1000 square feet. There were 5 of us. We had to be close. :lol:

I live in twice that size now. I listen to my single neighbors complain that they’ll have to move if they marry because our homes are not big enough for two people. :roll: :? :arrow:

kimmie

September 29th, 2010
1:31 pm

Purple – I agree with you about cozy. I need my home to have ample storage space and room to move about, but I also need for it to be cozy. I don’t want to live in an office building, big, cold & wide!

For Real

September 29th, 2010
1:32 pm

Kym: For Deal to lead in any poll tells you the mindset of these whack jobs running for office and nutts voting for them. They want there country back to pre-slave days and that doesn’t play well for minorities, women, and immgrants. So, I will say it again, FUGG EL AND GO FUGGING VOTE!!! AND I AM NOT TALKING ABOUT AMERICAN IDOL!!!

Purple Rain

September 29th, 2010
1:33 pm

Unprotected is the undefeated heavy weight champ and has knocked down many a man and gave him brain damage to the point that he makes irrational decisions. Alas, the fight must go on.

kimmie

September 29th, 2010
1:35 pm

4Real – Your 1:32 is the truth!

It would be a sad state of affairs if Let’s Make a Deal is our next guv!

AmazonRed™

September 29th, 2010
1:35 pm

As for stacking chips and building for the future I hope you will signoff on ole boys investment plan before marrying him cause quiet as it is kept a house is not an asset.

A house is a place to live. Asset or not. If you have a home that’s easily affordable by ONE, it make sense to stay in it and get to live more comfortably. Travel more, stay home with the kids. Not be crippled by a mortgage payment (or two payments cuz her house cant sell) to make a man feel better about not living a home she had before she met him.

Purple Rain

September 29th, 2010
1:36 pm

AmazonRed, Kimmie, I understand the house I am in now is way to big but I love the land I would never get another house this big. I did not realize how big it was until my wife moved here and had to actually yell or wonder where she was at times. LOL

Leggs ~ Smiling

September 29th, 2010
1:37 pm

If you’re still on names on deeds, remember, the placement of your name on the deed matters….Borrower vs. Co-Borrower!!!

LURKER-1

September 29th, 2010
1:37 pm

That’s impressive SIMPLE MAN, you can have 4 or 5 females in your house at once and they’ll never cross path :-)

Melo!

September 29th, 2010
1:39 pm

But some of the houses up north like Philly etc for ordinary folks are cramped up quarters!
Damn they look like chicken fowls.I would not want to live like that!

Welcome to the south PR!!

Raqi

September 29th, 2010
1:41 pm

SexyCool, yeah definitely for inner city living. Everything is going way of Green Building/LEED these days, i.e. Atlantic Station and the like. You have living space, work, shopping and dining all within walking or bicycle riding distance.

Those living spaces are really small too. Mase and I looked at a couple that he wanted to buy as investments when the market hit bottom. The units we looked are were less than 1,000sqft.

Loft living is being encouraged now and the younger generations are buying into it. Most larger houses after a while will only be found on the outskirts of big cities.

Purple Rain

September 29th, 2010
1:41 pm

Melo that’s another reason I am moving back LOL

Simple Man!!!!!

September 29th, 2010
1:41 pm

I guess i am the odd man out on this, because I LOVE my house and all the space / things that come with it!!! I bought it thinking that whatever the future held for me, this home would accomadate it. Yeah its a hella lot of space for just me, but I work hard to make it feel like a home and not just a house….

kimmie

September 29th, 2010
1:42 pm

Purple – The first thing my SO said on his initial visit to my house was that he liked it because it was cozy. I do love it. It is a small starter house, but perfect for me.

His house is quite large, but still has a coziness factor to it. Good use of most of the space in it and it is “liveable”, not one of those fancy places where you are scared to sit on the furniture. With 2 active kids and pets, it’s practical yet attractive.

Kym

September 29th, 2010
1:43 pm

@Kimmie and For Real.. I don’t get it either..I mean the man has finance..and ethic issues..yet he is pulling in the money and votes.

Raqi

September 29th, 2010
1:43 pm

kimmie, comfortable and cozy is the ideal description of part of what makes a house a home for me.

Raqi

September 29th, 2010
1:45 pm

not one of those fancy places where you are scared to sit on the furniture

Exactly. Those places are very uninviting.

Purple Rain

September 29th, 2010
1:45 pm

I am working on buying my own tractor a combine harvester and getting two silos erected. All that cost more than this darn house, but they are real investments that make money. LOL

AmazonRed™

September 29th, 2010
1:45 pm

I bought it thinking that whatever the future held for me, this home would accomadate it.

Simple Man – I agree. I did the same. I wanted a place where if I had to live in it the rest of my days, I’d be okay. Of course, on a smaller scale than you. :lol:

A lot of my friends had that “upgrade in 5″ plan and now wishing they had more room. But they are also underwater and can’t sell.

I feel no pressure in my current home at all.

For Real

September 29th, 2010
1:46 pm

Scoo: “NEWSFLASH!!! DUDES ARE IRRATIONAL!!! (Using For Real’s above broadstroking statement as a template.)” – I never said dudes are not irrational some are but comparing one irrational dude out of 1 million dude to every single chick on the face of the planet being irrational is well…. irrational. And no it’s not a broad stroke either. There are three things that will get a consensus from every single man on this planet (i) Sports is great (ii) Beer/Alcohol is great and (iii) Women are irrational. And yes we are cool and no I’m a sexist.

Kimmie: I didn’t actually read your post I just made an assumption that would say that and you did. Putting her name on the deed does not eliminate the arguement if it’s his funds that keeps the bank’s name off the deed.

LURKER-1

September 29th, 2010
1:46 pm

FOR REAL, I don’t like the choices for governor but just damn!! It seems the more dirt they discover about Deal, his lead increases. I thought Predue, was a waste but this guy scares the sh!! out of me. One last thing, Barnes supported Edwards, not Obama and in all this guy’s ads, he trying to tie Barnes w/ Obama. Unfortunately, its going to work.

For Real

September 29th, 2010
1:49 pm

Ared: “to make a man feel better about not living a home she had before she met him.” – He has to deal with your mamma I think the moving to another home is an even exchange.