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Do single men feel pressure to marry?

I was lamenting with a friend of mine about no longer being eligible to donate my eggs to infertile couples.   For some random reason this bummed me out!  Normal single women have biological clocks that inch them towards marriage.  Yours truly? I want to cling to the option of donating eggs. I know, I’ve always been a little strange, but I digress.

My friend consoled me by saying I may not be the perfect candidate to donate eggs but I would still make a great wife.  He said that as a man, even with the option to have children at a later age, he has felt pressure to become a husband.

Awesome compliment aside (thanks Greg!),  what he said me wonder about pressure single men have about relationships and  marriage.   Is it the same kind of pressure society places on women (and our ovaries!) and how do men handle it?

When men see their friends and peers getting married, do they get the feeling as if they are being left behind?

Ladies, do you think that a man past a certain age that has remain unmarried is still marriage material?

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kimmie

September 29th, 2010
4:02 pm

4Real – Go sit down, you have showed out enough 2day!LOL!!

Raqita – I get what you are saying about waiting for this, that and the other to get married. Go on and do the dang thang. There will always be something. What I see more of, though, is not long engagements, but folks putting off engaging. I haven’t paid this 50K student loan off, or I want to have my Ph.D and I don’t even have my bachelors yet, before I can even consider getting engaged. Those were just excuses because the person really didn’t want to get married to begin with. They are not even trying the layaway plan!LOL!!

Melo!

September 29th, 2010
4:03 pm

DK?

Yeah I thought u said ‘ perfect marriage’ as in sarcastic perfect!

That’s what these chics need to know. It ain’t a bed of roses after the honeymoon.
It’s rubber on iron

Raqi

September 29th, 2010
4:03 pm

Oh Infamous, things can and do get ugly. LOL And yes I have been Scorned before.

But what I am saying is it is not always necessary to have a pure slate before getting married. Somethings can be worked on together. That’s all I’m saying.

My dad says all the time this thing called love and marriage is not rocket science, we just make it harder than it really is.

He should know, he is a retired aerospace engineer and he was married to my mother for many, many years. LOL

Leggs ~ Smiling

September 29th, 2010
4:03 pm

@LURKS ~ looking left and right…what’s going on!

Raqi

September 29th, 2010
4:04 pm

One other thing Infamous having experienced being scorned gave me the up on what to look for.

Simple Man!!!!!

September 29th, 2010
4:06 pm

Ared…In this setting it does not matter….I have never seen you and other than what can be derived from you handle, I know nothing of what you look like. There is a playful banter and I enjoy it… Now since I smell some hate in the house like Eddie Longs colonge, maybe I should just…..Well lets just say its fun and as long as I am not being offensive to you or any of the other laides…We will roll with it…how about that??? :)

I am whatever you say I am™

September 29th, 2010
4:07 pm

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Raqi

September 29th, 2010
4:08 pm

I want to have my Ph.D

kimmie, LOL you are right because what bearing does not having a Ph.D yet going to put on a marriage. All excuses. Once they get the Ph.D then they have to pay off the student loans. Do the damn thing together. You will appreciate each more for it.

Leggs ~ Smiling

September 29th, 2010
4:09 pm

@SimpleMan ~ ignore whatever hate you might smell…keep on keeping on! But, I will have to auction of 1,000 sq feet of your home. Code violations for this area of town….houses cannot surpass 7500 sq. ft. See Code 136, Sec. 6(a)(iv)!!

Simple Man!!!!!

September 29th, 2010
4:09 pm

I am @ 3:56 …Oh Damn!!!!

AmazonRed™

September 29th, 2010
4:09 pm

Simple is really working

For Real – This is still a message board right? Just text on a screen right?

Work, really?

Boy please.

For Real

September 29th, 2010
4:11 pm

Look here folks marriage ain’t no joke. It is the hardest thing two people will ever do in their life. It’s harder than raising children. So, the last thing you need is a person that hold on to fairy tales. I quicker you can get that chick out of LaLa land and into reality the better the chance you have at staying married. So, get rid of as much of the small ish you can before getting married and a solid plan to get rid of the big stuff within 2yrs.

Melo!

September 29th, 2010
4:13 pm

Simple?

Don’t worry about the hate from dudes or chicks. I got your back!

We were talking about competition yesterday so u already know this.

Who won’t want to slide Ared panties here given a choice!

Just don’t show all your spades coz Ared may burn you.
And don’t move in with her either!

Right on bro!

I am whatever you say I am™

September 29th, 2010
4:13 pm

I second the notion that For REal do a simple dude and Ared skit
:lol:

AmazonRed™

September 29th, 2010
4:14 pm

Now since I smell some hate in the house like Eddie Longs colonge,

:lol:

Simple Man – No offense on my part. I can handle the spotlight if you can.

Don’t mind my throwing myself a Blackfoote either…just gotta hedge my bets you know… in case I find some midget p0rn in that library. :lol:

AmazonRed™

September 29th, 2010
4:15 pm

Who won’t want to slide Ared panties here given a choice!

melo – I hate it when you “help.” :lol:

I am whatever you say I am™

September 29th, 2010
4:16 pm

do I predict a Simple dude and Ared union in the near future :roll:

I am whatever you say I am™

September 29th, 2010
4:17 pm

Simple Man!!!!!

September 29th, 2010
4:17 pm

Note to self…destroy all of the midget porn…..

I am whatever you say I am™

September 29th, 2010
4:17 pm

:idea: I’ll take the midget porn
don’t judge me

AmazonRed™

September 29th, 2010
4:18 pm

I am whatever you say I am™

September 29th, 2010
4:19 pm

Where’s Purple? :?:

blue™

September 29th, 2010
4:21 pm

@i am – lol. i was just saying to myself…hmmm, never watched midget p0rn…

I am whatever you say I am™

September 29th, 2010
4:22 pm

<—-feeling like chuck wullably from let's make a deal

Simple Man: will you find a suitable candlight restaurant to take Ared to
Ared: Will you please go on a date with thirsty Simple dude?

:lol: :twisted: :lol:

I am whatever you say I am™

September 29th, 2010
4:22 pm

we there blue!
LOL!

Raqi

September 29th, 2010
4:23 pm

Alright good people I am out of here. (I don’t think I have waved goodbye to all in a while LOL)

The marido will be home is a couple of hours and I have big birthday dinner I want to have ready when he walks thru door.

You all be good and be blessed. G’night.

I am whatever you say I am™

September 29th, 2010
4:23 pm

why is the blog fat arse wise diva eating my blog comments?
DAMN DAMN DAMN JAMES!!!

2CPTG©

September 29th, 2010
4:26 pm

AmazonRed™

September 29th, 2010
4:27 pm

I am…why you name calling? :-o

Melo!

September 29th, 2010
4:28 pm

Here is an assist for my man Simpleman, just in case ‘I am’ or any other chics want some play too!

Simpleman010245@yahoo.com

The man has 8000sq feet space to play with!

This is a dating blog!

Come now ladies?

Simple Man!!!!!

September 29th, 2010
4:29 pm

Purple Rain

September 29th, 2010
4:31 pm

I Am, I am here I had to go “handle” something

BBqSunflwr

September 29th, 2010
4:33 pm

@Infamous – congrats to the next woman you chhose. Some wl end up being a better person after the least little thing sets in motion the ball of inevitability resulting in a commited-to marriage failure

Some wl end up being a better person after their inflated opinion of self pops, or slowly deflates in the media or in they mind by exacting reality whose first and only rule is ‘we are all human’ aka ‘it could happen’

Others wl briefly experience life as a better person on their deathbed whn the life thy sincerely contrive in their heads thy are living is not wht exacting reality reveals whn the curtain is removed for the blinding light of death

Others wl never knw wht it means to live better. those who never commit,who never find ‘the one’, and those who obsess wit tightening the shoe strings on anothers foot. You are living better and I applaud tht.

I am whatever you say I am™

September 29th, 2010
4:35 pm

random: six foot seven foot eight foot punch!

I am whatever you say I am™

September 29th, 2010
4:36 pm

Amazon: because I can
:evil:

I am whatever you say I am™

September 29th, 2010
4:37 pm

I handled the latrine while purple handled his wang
:twisted:

Purple Rain

September 29th, 2010
4:38 pm

I Am, did you have something to drink for lunch?

Leggs ~ Smiling

September 29th, 2010
4:38 pm

@Melo ~ your whole post reeks of materalism and not connecting with the person. Anyone can have an 8000 sq. ft home and not be right upstairs. The house doesn’t make the man!!!

Leggs ~ Smiling

September 29th, 2010
4:39 pm

LOL, I am, are you ok…you going off the deep end. But thanks for the laugh!!

I am whatever you say I am™

September 29th, 2010
4:41 pm

nope
More sober than a nun on a Sunday getting it on with EL

blue™

September 29th, 2010
4:41 pm

@i am – need to refocus my brain, cause now im wondering about this midget stuff…is it a midget and an average height person, two midgets, a group of midgets…
@Leggs – Anyone can have an 8000 sq. ft home and not be right upstairs – lmao

Melo!

September 29th, 2010
4:41 pm

Leggs?

I know!

I was repeating what he said about his trappings not about him, the person.

Some of the chics are coming for the trappings tooabd the jacuzzi and not for him!

U dig?!

I am whatever you say I am™

September 29th, 2010
4:42 pm

do migets ever have arguments over who’s taller?
Isn’t it a sick fetish where a 6′4 dude gets it on with a midget

Purple Rain

September 29th, 2010
4:43 pm

I Am, lol okay. What are you doing right now?

I am whatever you say I am™

September 29th, 2010
4:43 pm

are migets that give birth to normal sized children somewhat terried of the terrible twos?

Melo!

September 29th, 2010
4:44 pm

And the jacuzzi

Don’t u remember the guy who had the Benz on here Leggs?

Leggs ~ Smiling

September 29th, 2010
4:44 pm

@blue ~ thanks for pointing that out “right upstairs”! Good catch! The ceilings too high making one woozy when looking up.

I am whatever you say I am™

September 29th, 2010
4:44 pm

I’m thinking mind evoking thoughts

Leggs ~ Smiling

September 29th, 2010
4:45 pm

@Melo ~ yeah, man, I dig. Too funny. Yes, I remember the Benz. Why?

I am whatever you say I am™

September 29th, 2010
4:45 pm