Do single men feel pressure to marry?
I was lamenting with a friend of mine about no longer being eligible to donate my eggs to infertile couples. For some random reason this bummed me out! Normal single women have biological clocks that inch them towards marriage. Yours truly? I want to cling to the option of donating eggs. I know, I’ve always been a little strange, but I digress.
My friend consoled me by saying I may not be the perfect candidate to donate eggs but I would still make a great wife. He said that as a man, even with the option to have children at a later age, he has felt pressure to become a husband.
Awesome compliment aside (thanks Greg!), what he said me wonder about pressure single men have about relationships and marriage. Is it the same kind of pressure society places on women (and our ovaries!) and how do men handle it?
When men see their friends and peers getting married, do they get the feeling as if they are being left behind?
Ladies, do you think that a man past a certain age that has remain unmarried is still marriage material?
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AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
3:30 pm
but I’m still willing to try with the two condoms tho.
I can not stand you!
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
3:31 pm
Send Birthday wish to Ared everyday in December to insure that I get the right day….
My birthday is on a Sunday. The blog is closed.
It's me....lurker
September 29th, 2010
3:32 pm
Simple Man, I did wonder though. Just saying, you never know.
Raqi
September 29th, 2010
3:32 pm
Infamous I truly think that if a person is going to play the “it’s my house” cards there is a character flaw already embedded there. You best believe a person that would make that statement will be harping on something else if pre-homeownership was not even the case.
Just like the ones that bark at the spouses about who makes the most money. If it’s part of their character it is going to rear it’s ugly head in some way.
blue™
September 29th, 2010
3:33 pm
@Simple Man – Send Birthday wish to Ared everyday in December to insure that I get the right day – lol, dude sssshhhh…you got to pull it off like your just being sweet
THE iNFAMOUS DK
September 29th, 2010
3:33 pm
ARED – Im just saying.. Marriage is hard enough so before you go in, try to eliminate as many obstacles you can. Im telling you. I had all the answers before I got married and you couldnt tell me I would be divorced. It wasnt any problem we wasnt going to be able to work out.. Lo and behold.. Life has a way of showing you things you didnt know..
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
3:34 pm
If two people are even at the stage of him asking and her accepting I would think those affairs that can be worked out would already be. Mentally both should be marriage minded before asking and accepting. Financially, well outside of merging households those affairs are something that probably can be dealt with after the nuptials
Thank you Raqi – Now I may not have ever been married, but I know too many friends that are knocking on TONS on debt in student loans alone (even $100,000). They’d be old men and women before all their affairs are in order. You deal. You stay in the house you have. You don’t throw it in the other party’s face. *shrugs*
I am whatever you say I am™
September 29th, 2010
3:34 pm
Sorry Purple. I was in the latrine
Raqi
September 29th, 2010
3:34 pm
and her 2:00 appt on Thursday
ForReal, Imma kick you in your throat. LOL (I am now imaging 1000 responses to that statement LOL)
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
3:35 pm
I truly think that if a person is going to play the “it’s my house” cards there is a character flaw already embedded there.
Simple Man!!!!!
September 29th, 2010
3:35 pm
AmazonRed™ Hmmmmmm…….
So do I postdate every Friday or backdate every Monday???
Simple Man!!!!!
September 29th, 2010
3:36 pm
blue™ @ 3:33
LOL She has not seen being sweet yet!!! LOL
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
3:36 pm
So do I postdate every Friday or backdate every Monday???
You are FUNNY!
THE iNFAMOUS DK
September 29th, 2010
3:37 pm
Kimmie – Yeah I know how folks try to act like they got it all together but are busting loose at the seams.. Ish so raggedy they cant do nothing but look for the bad in everybody else.. And contradicts themselves faster than Eddie Long..
LURKS
September 29th, 2010
3:37 pm
YAAAAWWWWWNNN
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
3:38 pm
LOL She has not seen being sweet yet!!! LOL
You do have no clue as to what I look like right?
LURKS
September 29th, 2010
3:38 pm
IF 8000 SQ FT DON’T DO IT, BEGGIN WON’T EITHER
LURKS
September 29th, 2010
3:39 pm
WHERE IS UGMO?
kimmie
September 29th, 2010
3:39 pm
Raqi – Agree with your 3:32 totally! Amen! There is a character flaw in there somewhere, and guess what? That flaw more likely than not reared it’s ugly head before yall jumped the broom! You just chose to overlook it. Cause folks just don’t blurt out of the blue “it’s my house” all out-of-character all the time. They’ve said some equally shytty stuff before, so you should not be surprised. But yet, you still chose to marry them, so deal with it.
THE iNFAMOUS DK
September 29th, 2010
3:40 pm
Raqi – Everyone doesnt have the perfect marriage you have.. You know how relationships can go bad “Scorned” and things happen that you never thought would. Nor would you ever allow them to happen again.. For instance.. The next chick that I love is gonna have a good man cause Ive learned from my mistakes.
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
3:41 pm
They’ve said some equally shytty stuff before, so you should not be surprised. But yet, you still chose to marry them, so deal with it.
LURKS
September 29th, 2010
3:41 pm
AWWWW SNAP NOW
2CPTG©
September 29th, 2010
3:43 pm
“LOL She has not seen being a simp sweet yet!!! LOL”
2CPTG©
September 29th, 2010
3:44 pm
that don’t look right ^^^^
Melo!
September 29th, 2010
3:44 pm
Raqi 3.32?
People are people! They all have flaws.
Nobody is perfect.
Some things you can preempt without being blinded by love.
Raqi
September 29th, 2010
3:44 pm
Amazon, some people that want to are truly never going to get married hanging on to the “I need to work this out first” mindset ‘cause if it’s not one thing it will be another.
Hell I think some folks are better off getting married and working things out together. Working and building together can actually create greater bonds than not for some. And actually being willing to accept someone into your life who still carries a bit of a “something” speaks to the level of love and commitment you have for them.
But I will say this is all stuff that should be discussed before getting married. Even one does have a loan or what not and they don’t seem to be even trying to work on it, you probably should be asking some questions to them and yourself.
Simple Man!!!!!
September 29th, 2010
3:44 pm
AmazonRed™ ….No clue…
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
3:45 pm
Have you gotten your blog date secured yet?
THE iNFAMOUS DK
September 29th, 2010
3:45 pm
2 – Man Im telling you..
For Real
September 29th, 2010
3:46 pm
“ForReal, Imma kick you in your throat.” – For Real’s the man I got her legs up and it ain’t even Thursday.
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
3:47 pm
Hell I think some folks are better off getting married and working things out together. Working and building together can actually create greater bonds than not for some
Raqi – I agree. If you take all the hard stuff out up front, what’s to work on? Besides, I’m over diggin myself out of life holes solo.
My parents have been through a lot in their 33 years of marriage, but I like how they worked on it together all these years.
I used to state I’d rather not date a man whose “established” cuz I wanted to look back on our golden years and marvel on how we built our kingdom TOGETHER.
I’m kinda over that now.
Raqi
September 29th, 2010
3:48 pm
That flaw more likely than not reared it’s ugly head before yall jumped the broom!…and…They’ve said some equally shytty stuff before
kimmie, yes there is a 105% chance it already played itself out in some way before the nups.
kimmie
September 29th, 2010
3:48 pm
You know how relationships can go bad “Scorned” and things happen that you never thought would.
DK – I agree with this too! Folks can pull some fast ones on you!
2CPTG©
September 29th, 2010
3:51 pm
DK…..cuz, he may as well just flat out say, “Look ARED, what’s its gon’ take?” I’m talkin’ bout dude goin all out, ain’t he????
For Real
September 29th, 2010
3:51 pm
Dayum funny as hell 2C
Melo!
September 29th, 2010
3:51 pm
Ared 3:47?
Most women settle when they get older.
You over that now?
Yep,the alarm bell starting to ring!
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
3:52 pm
AmazonRed™ ….No clue…
Would you still flirt with me if I told you I looked like Broom Hilda?
Raqi
September 29th, 2010
3:52 pm
Infamous, my marriage is not perfect not even the least bit. We both have our “bads” but we are both trying our best to do this thing for the longterm.
We disagree just like the next couple but we didn’t see the reason to put our life together on-hold just for something we have before and are now working out together.
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
3:53 pm
Most women settle when they get older.
You over that now?
Yep,the alarm bell starting to ring!
Actually melo, it’s kind of the opposite. I’m saying I’m over broke men, and could now date established ones.
Sounds like standards are getting stricter.
2CPTG©
September 29th, 2010
3:54 pm
For Real…..I know you got something up ya sleeve….can we get a skit with Simple Man and Ared….
SexyCool
September 29th, 2010
3:55 pm
Simple – just chunk an email addy up (if you haven’t already) and…if…A wants to reach out, she can/will….or not.
And we can stay out of grown folks’ biz….and you can look less obvious.
THE iNFAMOUS DK
September 29th, 2010
3:55 pm
2 – And dudes wonder why chicks always got their hands out.. You give em the keys to the city on the first date so quite naturally they want the keys to the vault.. How you go in is how its gonna be… I cant believe cats even lead with those lines anymore.. The old fake bank statement trick..
For Real
September 29th, 2010
3:56 pm
Kimmie: “That flaw more likely than not reared it’s ugly head before yall jumped the broom!…and…They’ve said some equally shytty stuff before” – Not necessary false because you do realize folks lie and they will stick with that lie. Kinda like how you lie about us sharing the most spectacular mind blowing sex for 12 seconds.
I am whatever you say I am™
September 29th, 2010
3:56 pm
simple man, what if you do get blessed with the opportunity to meet Ared and she looks like this: http://media.photobucket.com/image/ugly%20chick/popcicles09/ugly-girl.jpg
would you still holla?
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
3:56 pm
SexyCool – He did that already.
THE iNFAMOUS DK
September 29th, 2010
3:57 pm
Raqi – I know but Im saying dont act like things cant get ugly between people and things are said that wouldnt normally be said.. Remember I know The scorned u… And Im proud to say Ive been there to witness the change..
THE iNFAMOUS DK
September 29th, 2010
3:59 pm
And for the most part people can hold onto their Representative until they get you down the aisle then they feel like they dont have to keep up the oasis anymore..
AmazonRed™
September 29th, 2010
4:00 pm
And for the most part people can hold onto their Representative until they get you down the aisle then they feel like they dont have to keep up the oasis anymore..
I mean…who doesn’t know this? The difference is if you believe this is the exception or the rule.
It's me....lurker
September 29th, 2010
4:00 pm
just chunk an email addy up (if you haven’t already) and…if…A wants to reach out, she can/will….or not.
And we can stay out of grown folks’ biz….and you can look less obvious.
SexyCool – He did that already.
Well can we get a flat yes or no?
For Real
September 29th, 2010
4:01 pm
Ared: You finally got your wish. Simple is really working. I think he bout to cry if house, compliments and begging doesn’t work. And I’m not talking about that snubbing ish chicks do when they found out that DeCraig stole their bank card and they are about to turn off your water and you on your cycle. I’m talking about that 5y.o crying complete with snot and that one long azz slob that refuses to break crying while sing Lenny Williams backwards.