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Do single men feel pressure to marry?

I was lamenting with a friend of mine about no longer being eligible to donate my eggs to infertile couples.   For some random reason this bummed me out!  Normal single women have biological clocks that inch them towards marriage.  Yours truly? I want to cling to the option of donating eggs. I know, I’ve always been a little strange, but I digress.

My friend consoled me by saying I may not be the perfect candidate to donate eggs but I would still make a great wife.  He said that as a man, even with the option to have children at a later age, he has felt pressure to become a husband.

Awesome compliment aside (thanks Greg!),  what he said me wonder about pressure single men have about relationships and  marriage.   Is it the same kind of pressure society places on women (and our ovaries!) and how do men handle it?

When men see their friends and peers getting married, do they get the feeling as if they are being left behind?

Ladies, do you think that a man past a certain age that has remain unmarried is still marriage material?

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YESSHEISCUTE

September 29th, 2010
8:09 am

YESSHEISCUTE

September 29th, 2010
8:10 am

but now that that’s out the way the only men I think may not be suitable for marriage are men that have been married more than 2x, immature men, men who don’t have their priorities straight, men who act inhuman, etc. Other than that there can be hope for all :)

DC Rose

September 29th, 2010
8:41 am

Good morning blog folks!

do you think that a man past a certain age that has remain unmarried is still marriage material? – I don’t think age is the criteria for whether or not a man or woman is marriage material. Some people just don’t have what it takes to think and be a couple. When you’re only capable of putting your needs first – IMO you’re not good marriage material.

Beautiful

September 29th, 2010
8:44 am

I am whatever you say I am

September 29th, 2010
8:54 am

Egg donation has often been linked to the rapid increase of cancer cells so I do not feel bad one bit about not being able to donate (I pondered that idea before)
I don’t think single men feel pressure to marry but what do I know, I’m not a man.
I will say this though, if a man can get just about everything he wants without having to marry, what’s the incentive for him to marry?

Big Brother AL-MI-TEE

September 29th, 2010
8:56 am

no mans feels pressure to marry….period

I am whatever you say I am

September 29th, 2010
8:57 am

Random: the trick that sits next to me is so immature.
She basically tried to pull my card for “interrupting” her but how is it interrupting when no one was speaking?
I wish someone would walk by and just yank her weave off.

blue™

September 29th, 2010
9:00 am

Morning All,

@i am – lmao….too early in the morning…but still, lmao

on topic:do you think that a man past a certain age that has remain unmarried is still marriage material? no, i do think it would make me ask the question tho why he hadnt married already. my opinion of whether or not he was still marriage material would depend on how he answered the question, not on his age..

Dirty Diana ♠ Going Green, one fish, two fish, red fish, blue fish

September 29th, 2010
9:03 am

Hola!

Ladies, do you think that a man past a certain age that has remain unmarried is still marriage material?

I go back and forth on this one. Part of me believes that a man past a certain age with certain accomplishments that has remain unmarried does not want to be married, or there is some kind of barrier there. My thinking on this is traditional, because the man is in “charge” of the relationship, (per se) as it relates to popping the question, and finding a wife.

Dirty Diana ♠ Going Green, one fish, two fish, red fish, blue fish

September 29th, 2010
9:04 am

Off topic: I see one of EL’s accusers came out and spoke with the media.

I am whatever you say I am

September 29th, 2010
9:07 am

Do I think a man past a certain age unmarried in not marriage material?
No.
Do I think a man past a certain age unmarried in not marriage material?
Only if he is still living at his momma’s house
*Swan Dive*!

I am whatever you say I am

September 29th, 2010
9:07 am

If people file a lawsuit for a certain dollar amount how is it now about the money when they are seeking a certain dollar amount :shock:

I am whatever you say I am

September 29th, 2010
9:08 am

I am whatever you say I am

September 29th, 2010
9:09 am

you know, I could post this trick’s number online if she continue to act like an arse
mwahahahahah!!!!! :evil:

Plate of Fresh Booger Sandwiches for Everyone

September 29th, 2010
9:10 am

In a word…No.

Eddie The Longshanks

September 29th, 2010
9:12 am

Eddie is goin down. The ConnedGregation will probably still back him because they are blind, ignorant or their arrogance will not allow them to admit they were hoodwinked.

Nonetheless Eddie is guilty. GUIILTY I SAY!

It's me....lurker

September 29th, 2010
9:12 am

I guess my question is what’s considered marriage material?

Dirty Diana ♠ Going Green, one fish, two fish, red fish, blue fish

September 29th, 2010
9:15 am

I mentioned this when we had this discussion the last time. In my family, they ask the men and the women that same dreadful question, “When are you getting married…what are you waiting on…are you dating seriously?” I guess you can say the men in my family are feeling the heat as well.

V103 did an excellent job with fox 5 this morning discussing the EL’s case…this thing is going to be like the Paulk scandal.

Purple Rain

September 29th, 2010
9:22 am

Women take offense when they are a certain age and asked why they are not married so why apply that standard to men? I don’t think men feel pressure to get married, if they want to marry they marry if they don’t they don’t. Some people love being single and the freedom that comes with it. There will always be someone of the opposite sex to supply whatever level of companionship you need.

Eddie The Longshanks

September 29th, 2010
9:27 am

Baked beans and tater salad!!

Dirty Diana ♠ Going Green, one fish, two fish, red fish, blue fish

September 29th, 2010
9:28 am

**I meant questions….**

SexyCool

September 29th, 2010
9:32 am

Breakingofdawn

September 29th, 2010
9:33 am

I feel that sometimes if the mom and dad want to be grandparents the pressure might be there. Esp if its been a few long term relationships introduced with no output.
I think people are ready when they are ready it has nothing to do with age more so a person’s mindset.

2CPTG©

September 29th, 2010
9:33 am

g’morning….

as one that has been married before, here’s my take on it…and true, I may sound kinda jaded, but oh well….yeah, when I see my peers married and what not, and I do get that “left out” feeling SOMETIMES, because we all want someone to call our own; but for someone like me, who felt he had the “midas touch,” when you fail at something it fvcks with your ego…and that’s how it is/was for me…Am I hubby material? Damn right I am….

Kym

September 29th, 2010
9:36 am

Good Morning All,

Hmmm I am gonna say yes..I think if a person no matter the age is still willing to get married then yes he is marriage material. I am learning age is all about your state of mind. Now having kids..yeah that’s a whole other Oprah.

Blackfoote

September 29th, 2010
9:36 am

Good Morning Beautiful People: Since I have walked that walk before I now feel no pressure to do again, but I will never say never. Believe me it is blisfull to know someone has your back for how ever long it last.

SexyCool

September 29th, 2010
9:37 am

Donating eggs?!?! Hilarious. I have never fir the demographics for any ad that I’ve ever seen about egg donation. (However, I’m not particularly relishing the thought of my eggs turning to dust or having eggs that are so old that I have an *old* baby. LOL!)

Are men past a certain age marriage material? Depends on that man. (And that is at any age.)

With my sister’s wedding having occurred just ten short days ago and with TheDude and I having passed the one year mark, it seems as if I can barely get through a conversation with friends and family without the words “ring, broom, or invitation” or a host of other wedding/marriage related words coming up. (No pressure.)

Beautiful

September 29th, 2010
9:37 am

do you think that a man past a certain age that has remain unmarried is still marriage material? SURE!

When men see their friends and peers getting married, do they get the feeling as if they are being left behind? UH, NO! *chuckles*

TAKE A LISTEN. VERY NICE! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JRVicpXxv_c

Kym

September 29th, 2010
9:40 am

@I am no dollar amount was mention in the complaint..I know they asked for lawyer fees..but I don’t remember seeing specfic amounts.

Purple Rain

September 29th, 2010
9:45 am

I am trying to stay away from this but do they just want to punish that pastor for hurting their feelings and coercion? Seriously the single mothers of those kids need to be brought up on charges of neglect or something similar. Plenty of single mom’s out there who have taught their sons what a good touch and a bad touch is and that love is between the opposite sex.

blue™

September 29th, 2010
9:46 am

did kim zolciak(sp?) really do a song called “google me”?? alrightee then…..

Purple Rain

September 29th, 2010
9:46 am

If someone other than a parent has a larger influence over your child than you do…….

Purple Rain

September 29th, 2010
9:48 am

How do I trademark or copyright my alias? Nevermind the real Purple One may sue me.

Kym

September 29th, 2010
9:48 am

“do they just want to punish that pastor for hurting their feelings and coercion?”

Yep that is what the complaint is all about.

Leggs

September 29th, 2010
9:49 am

Good morning.

@Blackfoote, FYI, your 2 week probation period started 9/28/10!

Ladies, do you think that a man past a certain age that has remain unmarried is still marriage material? Sure, but being “set in your ways” may prove problematic given the age when that man decides to get married.

Simple Man!!!!!

September 29th, 2010
9:50 am

Morning All…..

It seems as if Ms. Diva has been reading my mind lately???? I can’t speak for all men, but I am 41 years old, have achieved a nice amount of my professional goals, Don’t have children, own a home and am not married…I am surprised at how often In the course of conversation I get told, that there because has to be a problem and that i can’t be trusted because I am post 40 and not married. It seems as if the later it gets, the less the likely hood I will ever find teh person to share my life with….

Dirty Diana ♠ Going Green, one fish, two fish, red fish, blue fish

September 29th, 2010
9:51 am

It is amazing to me that Parrish admitted that he went to EL first before taking the lawsuit public. No matter how you slice it these ~boys~ are mad that they got played and they want money. At this time, they are suing for a brokenheart. If they really wanted justice they would have tried to do a criminal case. All of claimants are saying they thought they were the only one.

M. (pronouced M dot)

September 29th, 2010
9:54 am

Good day all

“When men see their friends and peers getting married, do they get the feeling as if they are being left behind?”

This is interesting because in the last year, I have been invited, a member of the bridal party, or heard of ALOT of my friends being engaged.
I honestly don’t feel left behind, inferior, or that I am not a good candidate for marriage. I feel like the timing is different for everybody.

I think a lot of guys meet women they like and they think this is the best woman they will get in their entire LIFE so they lock her down. I think a lot of it is guys not wanting to feel like they are missing out on a potentially good woman so they go all in and lock her down.

I do believe there is a lot of pressure on guys for marriage but I also think we put a lot of the pressure on ourselves because we allow society to do this to us.

My goal is to stay balanced and if I want to pursue marriage, I want to do it when I am ready, not because her clock is ticking, or her dad HIGHLY RECOMMENDED that I marry his daughter. If I am not feeling it, I wont do it. Simple & Plain!

i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)

September 29th, 2010
9:55 am

Purple™ — See this cheat-sheet. Scroll down a bit to find the copyright and/or trademark codes.

I am whatever you say I am

September 29th, 2010
9:56 am

The part that seems to be a red flag to me is how that boy (on TV about the EL lawsuit) said that man turned his back on him in time of need.
Sounds to me more like a scorned lover.

Purple Rain

September 29th, 2010
9:56 am

How are you to file a lawsuit against someone for talking you out of the booty?

Simple Man!!!!!

September 29th, 2010
9:56 am

Good morning I Am…. How are You today??
blue…how is my cool PLATONIC friend this morning????

I am whatever you say I am

September 29th, 2010
9:56 am

THANKS SWISS!

I am whatever you say I am

September 29th, 2010
9:57 am

THat looks more like a cross than a dagger
Forgive me LORD

Leggs

September 29th, 2010
9:57 am

@SimpleMan ~ you’ll probably find your “wife.” Personally, I think you’re at a great age to marry. Most of your “wild oats” have died off (LOL), you respect life and woman much more than you did in your 20’s, and you probably understands reciprocity more than you use to. Hell, I don’t know, but 41 seems to be a good age to marry for the first time.

I am whatever you say I am

September 29th, 2010
9:58 am

Shout outs to Swiss, Kym, Simple Man, M., Carlito

I am whatever you say I am

September 29th, 2010
9:58 am

Purple Rain

September 29th, 2010
9:59 am

Swiss, Thank You.

I am whatever you say I am

September 29th, 2010
9:59 am

Simple dude: I think you’ll get married one day if you want it.
Find one woman and focus on her versus throwing out a net and trying to catch as many fish as you can.

Purple Rain

September 29th, 2010
10:00 am