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Is dating a competitive sport?

If dating is really a game, then how competitive sport does the dating scene get for single people? When you observe an event with the female-male ratio is 3 to 1, the dynamics are quite interesting. The women kick it up a notch to get the attention of men while the men sit back and wait for the women to do the heavy lifting.

Do you think dating in Atlanta takes on this same dynamic? When we talked about women a approaching a man yesterday, I thought about how competition comes into play. Does competition hurt or help us?

When you want to stand out and compete with other singles for “the most wanted” people, do you think things like paying for dates, offering up strings-free sex, etc. become the new rules of engagement?

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2CPTG©

September 28th, 2010
8:42 am

morning, y’all….

since you’re using a sports analogy, I’ll go along…of course competition is good; it’s your measuring stick, so to speak, to guage where “you” are. As in sports, one can look good in practice, but you don’t know how good you really are until you get out there on the field against worthy competition….and as Ric Flair used to say, “to be the man, you gotta beat the man!” so if you’re dating, and you want the top prize, you gotta be the top dawg!!!

I am whatever you say I am

September 28th, 2010
8:55 am

2C: is the coffee on yet? Oh oh!!!! Can I have some biscuits, turkey sausage,scrambled eggs with cheese, and grits with cheese (made like flying biscuit)

:-)

Simple Man!!!!!

September 28th, 2010
8:55 am

What’s up 2Can???

Let me take this time to correct something……
Just because the ratio often falls in favor of the guys, cna we stop assuming that all a guy has to do is sit back and collect the spoils…
There is lots of competition for us as well!!! Of all of those women that are out herre in the “A”, not all of them are of quality. We compete for the more physically attractive of them. We compete for the more accomplished of them. We compete for the ones that are worthy of a long term investment as opposed to just a quick hit. And speaking as a guy that really wants to find the lady of my dreams, I walk this city with the full knowledge that if I am not on top of mine, She will look me in the eye and keep on stepping because teh fella on the next block is playing for keeps as well. In short If we don’t bring our A game….We will be left behind and noone wants to be the loser…..

Simple Man!!!!!

September 28th, 2010
8:59 am

Good Morning I am….. Hope you are doing well tody. How is little man?

Purple Rain

September 28th, 2010
9:01 am

“while the men sit back and wait for the women to do the heavy lifting” Bias and an excuse all in that statement. I don’t think dating is a competitive sport, some of us are to mature to be playing games and in lieu just tend to make wise decisions based on a methodical approach.

blue - ™

September 28th, 2010
9:03 am

Morning all,

is there coffee, or do i need to send Fred to the store?

@I am – hows the midget? u still tranq-ing him , i mean, is the medicine working?

how does the ratio being off mean the women have to do all the heavy lifting? to me that means the women need to make sure them toez is done and stop assaulting people with jacked up feet!

Kym

September 28th, 2010
9:04 am

Good Morning All,

Yes it is competitive..I am gonna lurk around on this one and see which way the topic flows.

Purple Rain

September 28th, 2010
9:05 am

And let’s be honest do you think you are really going to find the woman or man that you want to settle down with “in the game”? That person who is always at the happening social spots always in the streets? Slim pickings in all of the recyclable areas

Breakingofdawn

September 28th, 2010
9:12 am

I’m competitive in lots of things: getting a raise at work, hightest score on a test, pushing myself in the gym against the chick with the baddest abs ever. However I am to darn grown to be in the midst of a dating game. Life is short and there are to many other variables I have my eye on. Dating is very simple we complicate it and get in our own way.

2CPTG©

September 28th, 2010
9:19 am

what’s up Simple Man, and I am…..btw, lil mama, I don’t do the coffe and donut thingee….bein’ a “charter member” has it priviledges…let Leggs’ newbies handle that….

Purple Rain

September 28th, 2010
9:19 am

Compete with yourself then there is no other competition.

Dig That

September 28th, 2010
9:21 am

wassup erybody

I guess you might as well call dating a game because it sure seems like a sport.

Simple Man!!!!!

September 28th, 2010
9:23 am

Mornig blue…Hows my cool platonic friend doing today???

2CPTG©

September 28th, 2010
9:25 am

back to the topic….

Here’s the thing alotta folks gettin mixed up; the competition ain’t against someone else, the competition is with yourself! You gotta have it, or want it, in you to be the best. Yeah, we can look at someone and have aspirations to get to their “level,” but the real competition oughta be within.

2CPTG©

September 28th, 2010
9:27 am

I see we’re on the same page, Purp….

Purple Rain

September 28th, 2010
9:28 am

2CPTG your 9:25 and my 9:19 is the same…..righteous dude!

Since people consider dating a game is that why some are called “player”?

Purple Rain

September 28th, 2010
9:29 am

2CPTG, yes we are!

I am whatever you say I am

September 28th, 2010
9:29 am

Hello Simple Man,
Little Man is a little better today. Thank you very much for asking.

I wish you a wonderful day today

Blue: LOL!!! I am not druggin the boy! THough, I enjoyed that nap he had yesterday. Gave me opportunity to get financially rapedpay bills, early!

abc

September 28th, 2010
9:30 am

Wow. No wonder so many people have such a hard time finding someone.

Take a deep breath, relax. Imagine what it would be like to find someone with whom you could truly have a great relationship. Now forget all the dating dynamics, sports analogies, male-female ratios, perceptions of competition. It’ll happen when it happens.

Purple Rain

September 28th, 2010
9:32 am

I really want to hear one of the men on here verify that when they go out where there is a high ratio to women that they sit back and watch the women do the heavy lifting. I would think that the woman who is not doing all of the peacocking would be the one to get a mans attention. As in “look at her over there, she is not trying to catch a man” that would be the one to garner my interest.

I am whatever you say I am

September 28th, 2010
9:33 am

I think Simple Man is right on! I have heard from tons of guys say that while there are tons of women here in the A, quality woman are far and few. This gives me hope :-D
If I’m just out for having fun, I don’t care if the venue has more women than men.
If I want to meet guys or just be in thier company, I go to places where you will find quys and the male to female ratio is either even or I am outnumbered by men ;-)
I mean, if you are looking for tires, doesn’t it make sense to go to a spot that mainly carries tires?

blue - ™

September 28th, 2010
9:34 am

@Simple Man – im doing ok..sitting here, not swinging my feet, trying to wake up (yawn) how bout you?

i dont understand this competition thing. who exactly am i competing with and why? seems to me i put my best, or at least good, foot forward and dude likes me or he doesnt. not gonna live my life like one of those dating shows where chicks try to top each others to make dude pick them…to me that comes off more desperate than just about anything else (think maybe the tree ninja is the only thing that tops that). stand out on your own merit not cause your trying to outdo the blond across the room…

I am whatever you say I am

September 28th, 2010
9:36 am

Also, I try not to do many events where you are with a pack of girls.
Girls night out can be fun but not too many guys are going to approach you when you have a football team of girlsc*** blocking
Guys know this. They know how we act judge, ridicule, etc… most sane men don’t want to subject themselves to rejection abuse in front of a bunch of women.
I found that when I am by myself or with no more than one other girl , I get hollered at ;-)

I am whatever you say I am

September 28th, 2010
9:38 am

ALOL! did 2C just call herself a charter member?
Last time I checked ma, you weren’t financial.
Woman, get in the kitchen and COOK!!!!

LMAO!

2CPTG©

September 28th, 2010
9:39 am

“It’ll happen when it happens.”

gotta agree with you on this, abc. Don’t like to throw religion in discussions, but I think it’s appropriate here…..”God saw that Adam was lonely…..and caused a deep sleep to come upon him..” Adam wasn’t looking; but when he woke up one morning he found a bad ass broad lyin’ next to him! As abc said, be patient, it’ll happen….Sexy said it too, three words….Peace, Be still.

Purple Rain

September 28th, 2010
9:40 am

holla, holla, holla, holla LOL

I think saying there is competition and that is why you are single is just an excuse.

Leggs

September 28th, 2010
9:40 am

And let’s be honest do you think you are really going to find the woman or man that you want to settle down with “in the game”? That person who is always at the happening social spots always in the streets? Slim pickings in all of the recyclable areas.

Sweet and to the point. Great post!

2CPTG©

September 28th, 2010
9:41 am

I am…..you think I’m a female???? da hell….and gal, don’t you know charter members automatically get lifetime benefits.

Leggs

September 28th, 2010
9:42 am

@blue ~ thanks for posting for me yesterday…my computer decided to act a fool at the end of the day!

Purple Rain

September 28th, 2010
9:42 am

2CPTG, thank you for clearing that up. I was sitting here thinking all of this time I thought 2CPTG was a cool GUY. Then she goes and types that. LOL

Purple Rain

September 28th, 2010
9:43 am

Leggs, I think it was you and not the computer. LOL

Leggs

September 28th, 2010
9:45 am

Too funny, 2C has never sounded like a woman! Hilarious!

Purple Rain

September 28th, 2010
9:47 am

Leggs, I Am must have had some of that Hot Tottite that she is giving her son. LOL

Dirty Diana ♠ Going Green, one fish, two fish, red fish, blue fish

September 28th, 2010
9:49 am

Hola!

On topic: Competition is good, even the government think so. Look at what they do to a monoply.

As for Peace. Be still. Jesus was the first to say it in the book of Matt.

Dan - simply...

September 28th, 2010
9:49 am

Of course dating is a competitive sport,

But I only compete with me.

If I’m the best me there is, then I don’t have to vie for the attention, compete for a prize, or scheme to get anyone; I win anyway.

Better stated, Money never competed against any other person, any other team; they were there to make him the best player he could be.

I subscribe to that theory.

I am whatever you say I am

September 28th, 2010
9:49 am

Timeless

September 28th, 2010
9:50 am

I am whatever you say I am: @ 9:33 am

I agree that while there are tons of women here in the A, quality woman are far and few. Many (but not all) are just looking for a meal ticket.

I am whatever you say I am

September 28th, 2010
9:51 am

“… As abc said, be patient, it’ll happen…”

More and more each day I am starting to believe it.
All we have is time so what’s the rush.

2CPTG©

September 28th, 2010
9:51 am

DD….I know Jesus said it first…when he was talking to the wind!!! Just sayin she POSTED it….

I am whatever you say I am

September 28th, 2010
9:52 am

Dirty Diana ♠ Going Green, one fish, two fish, red fish, blue fish

September 28th, 2010
9:53 am

@blue will you please have Fred to bring me back some salmon and cheese grits along with the coffee?

I am whatever you say I am

September 28th, 2010
9:53 am

Oh My! 2C is not female? :shock:

Dirty Diana ♠ Going Green, one fish, two fish, red fish, blue fish

September 28th, 2010
9:55 am

@2can, I am glad you know that, but it appears you like to know orgins and orginators of terms and saying I thought I might add that footnote today. :grin:

I am whatever you say I am

September 28th, 2010
9:56 am

Timeless: the thing that baffles me the most is that why do some quality men chase after women that are not quality?

I guess the same could be said for quality women that let themselves chase or be chased by non quality men

Dirty Diana ♠ Going Green, one fish, two fish, red fish, blue fish

September 28th, 2010
9:56 am

LOL I am not going to even say why that fe/male mix up occurred LOL

Kym

September 28th, 2010
9:56 am

@I am why did you think 2C was a woman..he has never typed across like a chick.

Blackfoote

September 28th, 2010
9:57 am

Good Morning Folks,

Dating has and will always be competitive: Everywhere we men are sticking out our chest to attract the most desirable ladies, while here in the ATL there are more of them than us which gives men more chances at having mulitple choices. Now there are savy ladies who know how to circumvent the odds that tips in their favor by being ultra attractive.

Purple Rain

September 28th, 2010
9:57 am

I Am, that is what I was talking about. LOL that guy is funny. “Hey brother, let me holla at you. Are you gay? I know a mexican that would love to have you holla holla holla he’s paying big bucks BIG BUCKS”

Then at the end. “Holla holla holla, bytch di dyou hear me? Holla holla holla” LOL

Leggs

September 28th, 2010
9:57 am

@PR ~ internet was stuck. I could only email.

2CPTG©

September 28th, 2010
9:58 am

it’s cool, DD….

I am….you get the gas face for today! All this damn time you ain’t gon tell me you thought I sound like a female….nah, I ain’t buying that one….