Why aren’t more women approaching men?
I hope your weekend was wonderful and fun! I was in the Big Easy hanging out and mingling with cool people. I saw a lot of interesting things this weekend while hanging out in New Orleans. I love the energy of the city and the people are so much fun.
I noticed that women seem to approach men a lot more than in Atlanta! I have to say there were a couple of guys that caught my eye and approaching them didn’t seem like a bad idea. What is it about going to a different city and meeting people that seems easier than at home?
When men get approached by women, it seems to be a huge ego boost and I believe it is rare when a guy flat out turns her down. I am sure it happens but once a lady gives an inkling that she is interested, she opens the door for the man to reciprocate interest.
What is the best way to approach a guy, though? I have seen some women come on way too strong and when they sense the guy is turned off, they keep pursuing. Are women slow to notice that a man isn’t really feeling her?
Guys when you are approached by a woman, do you know right away? What happens when you decide that she isn’t your type? How do you let her down?
I think women are always encouraged to ask guys out or at least approach men more, but it seems that many of us prefer to let the men make the first move. Do you think this will ever change? If we are modern women who abandon a lot of the traditional courting, should we get used to approaching men?
Ladies, what are your fears about approaching men? What is the worst that can happen?
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Simple Man!!!!!
September 27th, 2010
8:30 am
Biiiiiiig yawn……Damn its Monday already??? I need somthing to drink…I wish a woman would approach me and offer to buy me a bottled water………
2CPTG©
September 27th, 2010
8:33 am
g’morning….
“What is the worst that can happen?”
ummm, he can be honest, and let you know if he’s feeling you, or not; or whether or not he’s available….same scenario when a dude approaches a female.
AmazonRed™
September 27th, 2010
8:33 am
The worst that could happen? The world will tilt off it’s axis and bounce aimlessly around the atmosphere.
Still not keen on approaching men. One of my girlfriends told a guy she’d been “hanging” with that she was interested in him. Thought that still didn’t change the perameters of their relationship because he’s still hung up on his ex *side eye* I did appreciate her directness. And he did too.
Anywhoo…I’m thinking of being direct like this to a guy I know. He expressed interest a while back and I didn’t really take it seriously. Now he’s single again and there’s the subtle flirtation but it hasn’t really gone anywhere, so maybe I’ll do something about it. Or not.
Happy Monday Morning all! Hope everyone got it in this weekend!
Sweet Pea
September 27th, 2010
8:35 am
Good Morning,
I feel that the traditional way of courting is the right way of allowing a guy to approach you. My fear of approaching a guy is rejection. This is not to say that I have low self-esteem or lack of confidence. However, it’s just that I feel that it is proper to allow the guy to make the first move. Of course, with the views of the world some may feel that you can be waiting forever for some ship to finally come. As for the worth thing to happen is for the guy to say he isn’t interested which you will need to be prepared for if you approach him.
I am whatever you say I am
September 27th, 2010
8:37 am
Who left the lights on Friday?
As a reminder, last one to leave the blog is responsible for turning off the coffee machine, washing the coffee pots, turning out the lights, and lastly locking up.
Failure to comply with these rules will result in consequences and reprecussions.
I now return you to your scheduled program……
Simple Man!!!!!
September 27th, 2010
8:38 am
Morning ARed…Hope You had a great weekend…. Hope that guy you are thinking is a me….LOL
AmazonRed™
September 27th, 2010
8:41 am
Ha ha…good morning Simple Man.
Simple Man!!!!!
September 27th, 2010
8:53 am
OK Ared…gonna stand down I know I am not the man
LOL
AmazonRed™
September 27th, 2010
8:55 am
LOL. I don’t date off this website. Nothing personal. Besides, I’m sure you’re only playing around anyway.
PrincessNik...CAM'S # 1 FAN
September 27th, 2010
8:59 am
Good Morning All,
Hope everyone had a Great Weekend.
I’m going over here and drink my cappuccino and lurk a while…..
Breakingofdawn
September 27th, 2010
9:09 am
I’m open to stepping up to the plate and making the first move. However only after I’ve been watching from a distance how he is handling/presenting himself. And it depends on what I want at the moment: someone to dance with, a chat while watching the game, a little coffee at the waffle house after the spot closes, or maybe a general date? I don’t approach often can’t say I’ve done it in the last year, but I’m not opposed to it at all. Actually in the past if I’ve made the first move it worked out in my favor. Lately in Atlanta I’ve observed how “thirsty” some ladies come off therefore I think I would prefer the man make the first move.
AmazonRed™
September 27th, 2010
9:13 am
Actually in the past if I’ve made the first move it worked out in my favor. Lately in Atlanta I’ve observed how “thirsty” some ladies come off therefore I think I would prefer the man make the first move
blue - ™
September 27th, 2010
9:15 am
Morning All,
coffee…please….
on topic: approaching guys, seems like the equal opportunity thing to do, but dont think i, quite ready for that step…i think for myself and for a lot of women its some form of fear, fear of rejection, fear that you approaching them (what with being outside the box and all) will come off desperate, fear of missing the hint when he tries to let you down easy….
Guys when you are approached by a woman, do you know right away? ime, NOO..not unless she hands over her panties, and even then sometimes no…lol…leads to a bad spiral…shes trying not to be overbearing or desperate, he doesnt get the softpedal shes doing so she gets more aggresive, then she’s pegged as an overconfident biotch…lmao
2CPTG©
September 27th, 2010
9:15 am
right about now, “thirsty” ain’t such a bad thing…….
Breakingofdawn
September 27th, 2010
9:21 am
ARed, I think men stopped trying a long time ago and I don’t think it started with women making the first move. But when women lowered their expectations and quality of standards. We can shift the blame, but the circle comes around when we all(women and men) get back to being true to ourself and wanting more out of relationships and life.
I don’t believe a closed mouth gets feed. If I see someone worth chatting up or to danceing with then off I go. I’m not going to be in the corner dancing with my girls or standing off in the cut with my arms folded and lip poked out.
LeeH1
September 27th, 2010
9:25 am
Sorry, Ladies! Someone shredded the “Book of Etiquette Between Men and women” back in the mid-1960s. You are as free as men are to be turned dwn, embarrassed, dismissed, and have your pick-up lines repeated and laughed at.
You attempts to open conversations with strange men can be seen as an invitation, just as men are when they try to strike up a conversation with women. You are free to approach one man in a group of men, just as men are free to approach one woman in a group of women. And have the same results.
You are now in a problem. You can wait to be approached, which may mean you go home alone. Or you can appproach a stanger, and be rebuffed. You won’t die- men and boys have been going through this relationship ritual for generations, and we haven’t faded away yet. Now it is your opportunity to put the mantle of responsibility and equality on yourself. See what it is like to be equal.
Your protections in the past have protected you more than you realize.
Go get ‘em, Cougar!
IndigoLuv
September 27th, 2010
9:28 am
I’m new to this, but wanted to add my opinion. My girlfriend and I were just speaking on this subject on Friday. I think it’s ok for women to approach men. Yes, you have to deal with the possible rejection, but so do men. It’s not like you will probably see the person who rejected you ever again. There are some men out here that are just as shy as women are, so they will not approach you. OR whom have been in relationships for so long and are now back on the scene, but do not know how to approach women. If you find someone attractive and/or interesting, I say approach them regardless male or female.
Have a wonderful Monday everyone!
Simple Man!!!!!
September 27th, 2010
9:32 am
“Men don’t even have to try anymore.”
I doubt that we will here a statement that is less true the rest of the day….Everytime I guy approaches a women he is risking getting blown up and as we all know woman are as subjective as all out of doors!!! We have grown up knowing that at best, its gonna be 50/50> Just because we have accepted the odds and learned to work with the system does not mean we don’t have to try….ladies on teh other hand can simply show up…..
NickInAtl
September 27th, 2010
9:37 am
Well, I am up for it– to an extent. Men always balk at “Why are you single”. So irritating!! Why- cuz men don’t approach me! They smile, stare, etc.. And I know it’s becuz I’m out looking mean, busy, uninterested, even self-involved (OMG!) So, I think I will be more outgoing–just a little more. For example, I will not out and out approach out the clear blue sky, BUT if a man has ALREADY given me eye contact, a longer than usual look, and maybe even a smile, then I think I will try to muster up the courage to at LEAST smile back, and maybe even say “Hi, how are you”. I think that will be enough for him to respond, if he is indeed interested. I’ve done that maybe twice before, and it has worked wonders!!
SexyCool
September 27th, 2010
9:43 am
Three Words Daily – Life is short.
Kym
September 27th, 2010
9:46 am
Good Morning All,
I think it is okay for women to approach men..just I am not one to do that. Sorry but I am just not gonna do it. I am willing to try a few things..but this is not one of them. Like ARed pointed out men don’t have to try..there are plenty of ladies chasing them down.
Off-Topic..3-0 without Big Ben..Steelers prove it’s teamwork that makes all the difference!
SexyCool
September 27th, 2010
9:47 am
I have approached guys in the past. When I was a lot younger, I didn’t see it as any big deal.
As I got older, I would still initiate a conversation with a guy, but wouldn’t ask for his number or offer mine. My preference became for him to *take the lead* on that.
However, there are exceptions to every rule. While TheDude did initiate our first ever conversation, I am the one that made the first *move* when I gave him my card. (Well, I had to…the date that I was waiting on was going to be there at any moment. LOL!)
abc
September 27th, 2010
9:49 am
I don’t like to be approached by women. I might make friends with a woman in that way, but she’ll never be a potential relationship. Perhaps my upbringing plays a part in that; I find it too forward. My first reaction is, she brings it on with me, she’d bring it on with anyone else who interested her, too. Right or wrong, that’s my reaction. I don’t like it.
SexyCool
September 27th, 2010
9:50 am
As to the New Orleans of it all…N.O. is a party city and it was a festive party weekend. I’m sure there were those who were just out having fun and letting it all hang out.
Approaching ANYone is a whole lot easier when you are just having fun with it because you are taking it less seriously….or…when it’s fueled by *liquid courage*. LOL!
Mo (aka Moeisha )
September 27th, 2010
9:50 am
Morning All!
Approaching men….havent done it often but I have done it. No lasting results though…I say its up to the individual.
So how was everyone’s weekend?
Patrick
September 27th, 2010
9:54 am
I think the rules of dating have and should change. If you like someone, let them know!
AmazonRed™
September 27th, 2010
9:55 am
Simple Man – As long as there are thirsty desperate broads in this world, men don’t have to try. That is those who don’t mind going for the low hanging fruit. There are several men on here that go for that.
Wiser
September 27th, 2010
9:55 am
A co-worker and me flirted all the time. He worked in the field and when he visited the main office, we enjoyed the flirting. He seemed to be a bit shy, so I told my best friend that I would suggest to him that we hang out sometime. She cautioned me against it, saying it was man’s role to ask a woman out…yada,yada,yada. I eventually did say to him that we should go out some time and he agreed. He did seem surprised that I asked. We eventually went to dinner, and really enjoyed our meal, wine, and the conversation of getting to know one another. We both had real funny anecdotes about growing up, and even the waiter was laughing as we interacted with him. We never went out again. The next phone conversation I had with him, he was calling me asking when we could “get busy”. I was so surprised. I tried to steer the conversation towards getting together to maybe go to a play, or movie or something, but he was not hearing it. My best friend said I should never have made the first move, that it’s just not the way to do things, and his ego was probably inflated exponentially. Obviously, I did not go out with him again and it was awkward at work. I don’t think I will ever again approach another man.
Melo!
September 27th, 2010
9:55 am
Happy Monday folks!
The rules have not changed. But if you are contemplating it, that means you are in desperate/ thirsty territory.
Any sane man will treat you as such, me’ included.
You approach me’,I may like you but I will play you like you are a thirsty heiffer and perch you accordingly!
AmazonRed™
September 27th, 2010
9:56 am
I don’t like to be approached by women. I might make friends with a woman in that way, but she’ll never be a potential relationship. Perhaps my upbringing plays a part in that; I find it too forward. My first reaction is, she brings it on with me, she’d bring it on with anyone else who interested her, too. Right or wrong, that’s my reaction. I don’t like it.
I love this attitude.
Delvin
September 27th, 2010
9:58 am
I don’t have to go to The Big Easy to be approached by females. There are many places here in The Big “A” that many women approach me. “Course, they all ask for $20.00 too.
I am whatever you say I am
September 27th, 2010
9:58 am
I’m old school- I like to be approached!
I will give a guy a compliment, flirt with him etc….but I’m not about to ask him out.
Been there done that- results don’t fan well.
kimmie
September 27th, 2010
9:59 am
Morning Gang! THAT’S WHAT I’M TALKIN BOUT, FALCONS!!! CONGRATS!!!
This is one of those times I am happy for the rain. I’m so tired of this heat and dryness. I’m ready for fall!
Wise, it seems we let our guard down and are less inhibited when we are in a different place and environment. Nothing wrong with that.
I approached a guy once in a club in my younger days and he turned me down flat. I ran into him a few times after that and those times he tried to approach me. I turned him down flat in return.
I don’t approach men but I do make myself open to being approached if indeed I am open to being approached. Otherwise, I just don’t. But I really haven’t had to. Anytime a dude was interested they approached me. I’ve also had those that seemed to want to approach me but for whatever reason did not. Oh well, can’t miss what you never had. Not really a big deal for me. Even if I wasn’t in a relationship, I don’t think my life would come to an end or I’d have trouble meeting men if I did not do the approaching. For me, the more important thing is making the right choice whomever does the approaching.
Leggs
September 27th, 2010
10:00 am
Good morning everyone!
Although it’s very flattering for a man to approach a woman, I see nothing wrong with the woman flattering the man and approach first. No need to be aggressive, but a simple hello, may I buy your next drink/soda to break the ice seems fine to me. If he’s not feeling me, he will decline my offer. My feelings wouldn’t be hurt because everyone is not going to find me their type upon that first encounter. I won’t slink back to my seat nor hold my head down with embarrassment. You simply K.I.M….
@ARed ~ you left the blog hanging with no end of the day quote and that’s why the lights were left on for so long.
AmazonRed™
September 27th, 2010
10:03 am
Sorry Leggs, ended up getting my weekend started early.
doug
September 27th, 2010
10:04 am
Life is too short and death is too certain to go through life hoping and a wishing. Be you man or woman, if you see what you like go for it! Be polite and tactful but by all means speak up. Don’t want to go biblical but we have not because we ask not!
Leggs
September 27th, 2010
10:06 am
Let me back up…he may not decline my offer, even if he isn’t feeling me (LOL).
DJ Sniper
September 27th, 2010
10:06 am
I will never understand why women are so afraid of possibly being rejected by a man. The world is not going to stop spinning just because a man turns you down. lol If you’ve dealt with being rejected in any other phase of life (not getting the job you wanted, not getting the A on the test in class, etc), then a man telling you that he’s not interested will not kill you.
Also, despite what some of you may think, a man is not going to think that you’re some easy piece of a** just because you approached him. A man who has that mentality is going to think that regardless of who made the first move.
Leggs
September 27th, 2010
10:06 am
No sweat, ARed ~ I left early and got my weekend started early as well.
PrincessNik...CAM'S # 1 FAN
September 27th, 2010
10:08 am
Let me back up…he may not decline my offer, even if he isn’t feeling me
Leggs,
in this economy plenty of folks won’t be turning down drinks even it they are not feeling you
blue - ™
September 27th, 2010
10:11 am
@Wiser – The next phone conversation I had with him, he was calling me asking when we could “get busy”. ive seen this happen a few times…seems many men seem to equate that initiative with being easy…i guess something along the lines of what abc said, it being too forward…for most women (i hope, lol) them approaching you and taking that first step isnt simply them advertising that their available for conjugal visits at your earliest convenience, but when a woman steps out of her comfort zone, takes the first step, and is treated that way, it does not inspire her to try it again….
SexyCool
September 27th, 2010
10:12 am
DJS – “a man is not going to think that you’re some easy piece of a** just because you approached him. A man who has that mentality is going to think that regardless of who made the first move.”
^THAT was worth reposting.
Lil' Big Bum
September 27th, 2010
10:15 am
No more. I approached a guy in a bar last month. He was nice and we seemed to hit it off. I thought things were going pretty well til another guy walked up- handed him a drink and proceded to kiss him right in the mouth (Deep and repeatedly). I almost puked. To add insult to injury, after the lenghy show of affection, the guy cursed at me for talking to his date. I would not totally rule it out but some research may be warranted before the approach occurs.
Simple Man!!!!!
September 27th, 2010
10:16 am
“My first reaction is, she brings it on with me, she’d bring it on with anyone else who interested her, too. Right or wrong, that’s my reaction.”
WOW……. So speaking first makes her a hoe??????
K-Diddy
September 27th, 2010
10:17 am
I’ve found that when I approach men, no matter how coy, demure, or conversational my approach, they always treat me like I’m just trying to hook up with them and not date them. I don’t think I’m coming across like I’m super-easy, but their conversations always steer towards the “so when can I come over” realm. After having had this occur on more than one occasion, I decided to just allow guys to approach me instead. I think it takes a mature man to accept a woman approaching them, and as a woman, you never know whether that particular guy is among the mature.
abc
September 27th, 2010
10:18 am
Right or wrong, that’s my reaction. I don’t like a forward woman.
blue - ™
September 27th, 2010
10:19 am
random: whos been stealing my lotion off my desk? bottles near empty….not happy…
even more reandom: went to Benihanas last night for my gf bday…place was full of trannies with baadd wigs
SexyCool
September 27th, 2010
10:19 am
Oh…and let me go ahead and get my EL jokes out of the way early.
1. What was up with the curly kit?
2. How he gone just start talking about throwing rocks at folks?
3. Why did BKS have me hollering talking about he just dropped the mike and exited the stage like Randy Watson and Sexual Chocolate?
4. I don’t think I would have been satisfied with anything less than a Samuel Jackson style, “Yeah. I did it. And I hope they burn in HELL.”
(I could go on. I’ll stop here.)
Kym
September 27th, 2010
10:20 am
@kimmie..With all this Bishop Spanx’s talk..politics has gotten put on the back burner.. will give me a updated on what I missed last week? I am trying to catch up on Politico..Thank ya!
SlimNumeroUno
September 27th, 2010
10:22 am
Good morning blogville and welcome blog visitors…
We discussed this not too long ago and I think the men stated that when a woman approaches them first that they automatically assume she wants to do the nasty with them. I would guess that it depended on what type of approach she took but I can’t say that I’ve ever really made the first move on a dude. If I did it came off as hey let’s just hang out for a drink or something, but still not under the pretense to hook up.
A little sad that my sister and niece left me yesterday after visiting all last week…got my belly dance on Saturday for a friends birthday and had a blast.
Kym
September 27th, 2010
10:25 am
@SexyCool..J Anthony called his hairpiece an abomination and said it looked like a greasy yamuke(sp)…Dude has a helicopter, huge house, black diamonds, and preaches from a ipad, and he is the David in this fight? Yeah okay joker. All they hype and he said nada.
PrincessNik...CAM'S # 1 FAN
September 27th, 2010
10:27 am
whos been stealing my lotion off my desk? bottles near empty….not happy
Blue, LOL before i moved to this department, i’d put the stinky lotion on my desk for “borrowers”, now that I’m in a male dominated dept I can put the VS on my desk and not worry cause heaven forbid they go home smelling sweet
SexyCool
September 27th, 2010
10:28 am
And one more….Why doesn’t dude employ an image consultant/stylist?
Breakingofdawn
September 27th, 2010
10:29 am
That’s ABC’s approach and thoughts he’s entitled to them. We all do what works for us. What’s good for the geese isn’t for the bear. For the men I’ve approached one I was engaged to, and the others I dated long term. They all took me making the first step as a welcome outside of the norm back in the day(over 10 years ago).
2CPTG©
September 27th, 2010
10:29 am
Kym….gotta hand it to ya Steelers…they did the damn thing!
Sexy Cool, gal, I laughed so hard when I seen EL with that wig on….all I could think about was that scene in the movie, “Meet the Browns” when they were at the funeral, and Mr. Brown had on that toupe’….both of ‘em looked a hot mess…and that suit!!! dude looked like Bruce Leroy in “The Last Dragon”!!!!
M. (pronouced M dot)
September 27th, 2010
10:30 am
Good day and Go Bears tonight!
“What is it about going to a different city and meeting people that seems easier than at home?
What makes it easier is that every city has a different vibe and you really have nothing to lose. Like yesterday, I met this very attractive woman from Indiana and she looked at me twice and we started talking.
Some Atlanta women have an entitlement element in which they would never put their pride out or themselves out to approach a guy.
“What is the best way to approach a guy, though?”
I think the best way to approach us is to keep everything light hearted.
“What happens when you decide that she isn’t your type? How do you let her down?”
I would just be real cordial and laid back and if she asks if we should hang out, I would just be honest. If I am not interested, I can say you seem cool but this situation probably would not be a good fit for me.
Kym
September 27th, 2010
10:31 am
Why doesn’t dude employ an image consultant/stylist?
Then he needs to sue him/her..cause they owe him some money back.
SlimNumeroUno
September 27th, 2010
10:31 am
SexyCool – GUrrrrl my sister and cousin were on EL hard about that hairdo…my cousin was said it looked like a bad tupee and that his barber ought to have his barbers license taken away because he didn’t look blended in in the back. lol
Also, for fun we drove by NB Saturday night to see if any news crews were staked out there….around 10:30 there was already a news van posted up outside.
And folks on fb are going hard on EL…somebody said they were going to give out free tight shirts to the first few folks who showed up. LOL
DJ Sniper
September 27th, 2010
10:33 am
To all women who have had crazy experiences when approaching men, all I can say is this: welcome to our world. lol When we approach women, we have no idea what’s going to happen. We always run the risk of coming onto a woman that may be with someone else (opposite or same sex), or she may come out of her mouth with something crazy. Bottom line, don’t let the bad experiences outweigh the good.
Abc, what is it about your upbringing that makes you think that a woman who approaches you is an easy lay or that she does it with everybody?
Mo (aka Moeisha )
September 27th, 2010
10:33 am
SCool – LMBAO!!! Oh you are a mess!!! I was very disturbed by the Curly Kit and I too thought about Sexual Chocolate after he dropped the mike! Too funny!
PrincessNik...CAM'S # 1 FAN
September 27th, 2010
10:33 am
all I could think about was that scene in the movie, “Meet the Browns” when they were at the funeral, and Mr. Brown had on that toupe’
@ 2CPTG now that just cracked me all the way up!!!
Breakingofdawn
September 27th, 2010
10:33 am
Teddy Short was full of comedy on Sunday from the “hairoutfit” to not out right saying he did not do it. Saying “I’m not a perfect man” leaves the back door open to he did something.
M. (pronouced M dot)
September 27th, 2010
10:38 am
@Breaking
@Amazon
“Men don’t even have to try anymore.”
Oh we have to try still. Real guys have to contend with all the Captain Save Her’s, Tricks, Simps, etc that are putting these women on a pedestal for no reason.
M. (pronouced M dot)
September 27th, 2010
10:40 am
@SlimNumeroUno
That hairdo was crazy! It looked like he had on a Leather Jeri Curl!
Kym
September 27th, 2010
10:41 am
LMAO @ Dropping the mike like Sexual Chocolate!!! ….Oh the jokes!..you have to laugh to keep from crying…at the sickness of it all.
Leggs
September 27th, 2010
10:42 am
Where is it written that men are suppose to approach a woman first. And by approach I mean offer a compliment or ask the man to dance. Things are too screwy and too many rules that makes dating insanely weird. A woman is too forward if she approaches first, may be deemed slutty, thirsty or pray tell, w/o morals. So, when men do this, they’re MAN all the way with no ulterior motives. Ok!
PrincessNik...CAM'S # 1 FAN
September 27th, 2010
10:42 am
Leather Jeri Curl!
*officially flatlined*
AmazonRed™
September 27th, 2010
10:42 am
abc
September 27th, 2010
10:42 am
Being forward isn’t just an indication of being loose, in fact, it may not be an indication of that. It’s more an indication of an aggressive nature. But, that can lend itself to being loose, too. It’s the way my parents, grandparents and great-grandparents thought about it, and I agree with them, hence part of my upbringing.
Right or wrong! It’s not so much the way I think about it, but the way I feel about it. One can change the way they think (with significant effort), but not so much the way they feel. Changes in feelings have to just somehow happen.
CoolShadow
September 27th, 2010
10:44 am
For me, the more important thing is making the right choice whomever does the approaching.
A very understated yet critical component in the early stages of dating someone.
I believe the main reasons women are afraid to approach men are the 1) morbid fear of rejection and 2) the passive mindset that men are to approach women. Most women were probably raised and trained not to approach men but to let men come to them and simply accept or reject advances based on her criteria. Sometimes that fear of rejection women have is justified through their beliefs about women approaching men being improper or unnatural in the order of things.
But just because women make the initial move doesn’t mean that the man won’t court you. Fact is, if the guy is decent, he’ll still be decent guy regardless of who approached first; conversely, if he’s a knucklehead he’ll still be one no matter what. If you’re a woman who has no trouble attracting men then maybe there’s no reason for you to approach; however, if you’re a woman who is dissatisfied with the quality or lack of men approaching you then maybe making the first move should be a consideration. I’m flattered when a woman approaches me because it’s likely she had to step out of her comfort zone to do that.
Melo!
September 27th, 2010
10:44 am
On EL, I actually found the parishioners to be gullible and stupid,cheering at him for every little thing.
After seeing him live,I am actually more respectful and sorry(for) of him and his explanation. This is a legal case which needs to be handled in a legal way. So no detailed explanations required.
I would hate for him to be found guilty but I have to pray for those NB worshippers.
Downright stupid and gullible!
M. (pronouced M dot)
September 27th, 2010
10:46 am
@K-Diddy
I agree with you but I think thats a big misconception that alot of women have is all guys really want is the cookies. An AVERAGE guy just wants the cookies. So make sure you aim above average!
Simple Man!!!!!
September 27th, 2010
10:49 am
blue @ 10:19….
Speaking of bad wigs…..Did you see you boy yesterday????
SexyCool
September 27th, 2010
10:51 am
MDot – “An AVERAGE guy just wants the cookies.”
I will take that even further to stay that ALL guys want the cookies. It’s really a matter of finding a guy who wants what comes along with your cookies as well.
And usually, what determines whether or not a guy wants more than the cookies is in how you present yourself, carry yourself, your level of intelligence, ability to communicate, level of crazy, sense of humor, level of drama…and so on…
Or in short…how much extra bllsht is he going to have to deal with to get the cookies.
SexyCool
September 27th, 2010
10:54 am
Melo – I don’t think EVERYbody was cheering. I saw some of the interviews afterwards and everybody didn’t drink the koolaid.
But here’s the thing…when you’ve got an auditorium that seats 10,000 people…rumored to be 8,000 in attendance…and only 1 out of every 2 people cheer and clap. Then you’ve still got 4,000 people rooting on the madness and it could very well *seem* like *EVERY*body had a cup of the *red* flavor.
blue - ™
September 27th, 2010
10:56 am
@Simple Man – i saw it…looked like he was wearing a hair hat…not even a toupee, but an actual hair hat….i hear he still hasnt come out even to his congregation to say whether the allegations are true or false?
DJ Sniper
September 27th, 2010
10:57 am
CoolShadow, you speak the truth. If a woman is having trouble meeting quality guys, changing her tactics may do her a world of good. No sense just sitting on the sidelines, adhering to old school methods if they aren’t getting you the desired results.
SexyCool, you are right in that all guys do want the cookie, but as a woman, you want to find the one who wants everything else along with it.
NY2GA
September 27th, 2010
10:59 am
Cool Shadow – amen to your 10:44 … You and IndigoLuv said it best …
kimmie
September 27th, 2010
11:01 am
Kym – I’m kinda taking a little break from politics. I stick my head in here & there, but folks have just lost their minds. I was getting too mad, so I will just early vote & keep it moving!
Melo!
September 27th, 2010
11:01 am
@Leggs?
Where are societal mores written?
Is morality, for exame, legislated?
Same thing with women approaching or not. It’s not written anywhere. It’s what most societies believe or don’t believe based on what has worked to maintain certain mores.
Not many chics in their early twenties are lamenting on not approaching men. It’s mostly those who haven’t found success and are afraid of the approaching twilight.
Ain’t that telling?
PrincessNik...CAM'S # 1 FAN
September 27th, 2010
11:03 am
i hear he still hasnt come out even to his congregation to say whether the allegations are true or false?
@ Blue, all i got out of the speech was he is going to fight it. It being the claims of coersion and abuse of fiduciary duty, didn’t say he didn’t have any dealings with the men, so to me that could mean yea i did it but i didn’t force em or coerce them to do it……
jus sayin….
kingster
September 27th, 2010
11:04 am
Very interesting subject, I feel its a good idea for most women to approach men, so many of us have wanted to approach a woman and either she’s nice to say she is not interested or she is rude and ugly, I have had both. Guys are expected to do it all, basicly its a interview of sort. I am in my 40’s, not married anymore and no kids, so I have been down a couple of roads of dating, some good, some bad. Ladies are more independent than in the pass, sure why not take the lead sometimes and approach a man, I for one would very much like that. Again the reason why I say this, a lot of people miss out for not stepping up (guys).
Melo!
September 27th, 2010
11:07 am
SCool?
I agree!
I saw some interviews on tele of some who were not satisfied.
But the cheering ones had me’
coz of all that isle hollering at his every word!
M. (pronouced M dot)
September 27th, 2010
11:08 am
@SC
Exactly. Some guys value cookies over everything! Thats a huge problem to me.
Leggs
September 27th, 2010
11:09 am
@Melo ~ I realize it’s not written anywhere. Point was although it’s the acceptable norm for a man to approach a woman first, we’re not dating like our mothers and fathers did. “Courting” is a wonderful thing and needs to be front and center. However, when striking up a conversation, extending a compliment, asking for a dance, offering to buy a drink, lunch or even dinner, it doesn’t have to exclusively fall on the shoulders of the man. Sure, it’s the preferred approach, but it’s not the only approach!
2CPTG©
September 27th, 2010
11:11 am
Melo….you said, “Where are societal mores written?
Is morality, for exame, legislated?
yes it is! that’s why prostitution, and drug possession is illegal….legislation of morality.
Kym
September 27th, 2010
11:11 am
@kimmie..Madness is right. I am going to the Rally for Sanity(Atlanta version) on October 30th with John Stewart..I know it is satire..but sanity is really needed right now in politics for sure. I am making a sign and everything. OUR RALLY TASTES GREAT AND IS LESS FILLING.
Kym
September 27th, 2010
11:17 am
That’s jon stewart…
SexyCool
September 27th, 2010
11:18 am
Toucan – I thought about your comment last week when I caught The EL Show yesterday (which strangely reminded me of the LBJ Announcement hype.)
I kept expecting a flat out denial. And now, please believe that I understand that not denying is not admission of guilt…but still…..
blue - ™
September 27th, 2010
11:18 am
@Princess – yeah, that sounds very noncommittal to me…as a congregant i would want some word from him as to the validity of the charges b4 i started cheering and rallying my support…i mean what exactly am i supporting if you wont say anything about what you did or didnt do?
Kym
September 27th, 2010
11:23 am
@blue..he said he is not that man portrayed in the media.. He put on his humble..victim wig yesterday.
kimmie
September 27th, 2010
11:24 am
I have to agree with Melo some on this topic though – the dating game has really not changed much in a lot of ways. A lot of men, even some young ones, still think the same way he & abc do about women who make the first move. For them and a lot of others, that’s just not the natural order of things. And we still expect the man to decide how far the relationship is going to go and for him to do the proposing of marriage.
It’s tough to have it both ways. Men talk a lot on here about how they want to lead. I remember one of my exes talking about how he was a leader and the head of everything. Me Man, Me Rule. I told him that was all great. But I told him he really couldn’t pick and choose when he wanted to lead. I told him with power comes responsibility and he needed to be up to the task to be the head of household. He got quiet.
Leggs
September 27th, 2010
11:26 am
WOO HOO, WOO HOO, I won again, but this time I’m keeping the tickets…Mary J Blige, Jasmine Sullivan and El DeBarge @ Chastain!!
kimmie
September 27th, 2010
11:26 am
I expected nothing from the EL circus yesterday, and the whole thing pretty much lived up to my expectations. I mean, what really did everyone think he was going to be able to say and still comply with his lawyer’s advice?
2CPTG©
September 27th, 2010
11:31 am
Leggs, you think you hit a lick…dig this, my kinfolk in NC hit me up this weekend ’bout an old school concert on Oct 8th…Salt N Peppa, Slick Rick, Dougie Fresh, Whodini, Rob Base, Kid N Play, & Naughty Nature….bout to pull out my parachute pants, and old B-Boy outfits…
blue - ™
September 27th, 2010
11:34 am
@Kym – not the man portrayed in the media…hmmmm…that again seems to me very much open to interpretation. but as was mentioned, his lawyer prob wont let him say a whole lot…but as a parishioner, i think id need a lot more to go on b4 i started camping outside the church to lend my support…
Leggs
September 27th, 2010
11:36 am
@2C ~ dang, that’s gonna be an excellent concert. My kind of music! Enjoy!
DreamsMaterialize
September 27th, 2010
11:36 am
Morning
This again huh? A real man will treat you based on his principles. Approaching him won’t change that. I think many women use that rationale as a disguise for:
1) fear of rejection
2) not having a real justification for not approaching
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
11:44 am
A longtime ago woman initially made her self known to me first…..I ended up marrying her. Glad she made me notice her.
Bishop Long can’t deny the work he has done for the Body of Christ, he can deny all of the allegations with those men,whether they are true or not. God is the author of all things so my concern is not with the EL situation but my prayers are for the Body of Christ because it hurts. We are one Body with one God. I am in no position to judge anyone nor will I ever be. His time as Bishop of his congregation may be over or this may serve to put other “leaders” on notice, in the end God’s will shall be done. Now, I wil refrain from anymore jokes about the Bishop, or I will try really really hard not to. I did not say I would not laugh at them though. LOL
Blackfoote
September 27th, 2010
11:44 am
Good morning everyone
Hey Leggs I have to take your position on your 10:42 because no one is the authority on why a women can’t ask first. And to the brothers who take that as being to forward for a woman, you may miss out on a great opportunity.
blue - ™
September 27th, 2010
11:51 am
news flash:
Segway boss dies after falling off river cliff, while riding Segway…whoa..killed by his own product….thats just not right…
http://www.ajc.com/business/segway-owner-dies-after-639773.html?cxntlid=thbz_hm
evy
September 27th, 2010
11:52 am
gm, peoples (yes it’s still morning). sorry i missed out on all the witty repartee the last coupla days, but me and my computer were taking turns having issues. now that that’s all sorted out, and we both know who’s boss, i am pleased to join the fray…
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
11:52 am
I don;t think there should be any rules on how people meet, if a woman places herself in positon to get noticed, that can be considered making the first move. It’s not like she is puttin an all out assualt on a guy. She could just say hello first and the guy takes it from there. I would rather a woman with a take charge attitude in lieu of a timid one, I am still a man no matter who made the first move. That’s just my POV
kimmie
September 27th, 2010
11:53 am
Dreams – I totally agree that a real man will treat you based on his principles.
As for fear of rejection, yeah that’s true for either party in the initial approach. While I would be hurt if I mustered up the courage to approach a guy and he rejected me, I’m a big girl, I’d get over it. But what hurts more is to be rejected later after feelings are formed for a person.
As for lack of justification for not approaching first – I don’t need justification. I’m just not gonna do it anymore.
evy
September 27th, 2010
11:53 am
who should go first?
and what is the worst
thing that could happen, you ask?
i don’t think i should,
and, i fear, nothing good…
i’ll admit, i’m not up to the task
i’ve tried (with some urging,)
and ended up purging
more than one guy from my list
seems more often than not
they read “hot to trot” and
and the race is on to the “tryst”
so, is it all about cookies?
i’ll bet that the bookies
would give you good odds that it is;
think i’ll maintain my reserve
(but i grade on a curve)
and let the first move be his
blue - ™
September 27th, 2010
11:54 am
ime, and granted this probably wont apply to all men, just saying what ive seen so far…men seem to work harder when they come after you than they do if you come to them…its like they have the attitude that the hard part is over, they’ve already caught your eye or you wouldnt be talking to them, and if you wer willing to go against the norm and talk to them first, you must think their really hot stuff! it seems to go downhill from there…now if htey come to you, they seem to try harder to actually be presentable and mind their p’s and q’s…
M. (pronouced M dot)
September 27th, 2010
11:55 am
@Blog
Also regarding approaching, Ladies what are your thoughts on phone calls? Are you ladies picking up the phone or waiting on him to call?
I think in any encounter if the guy is calling more, that is a problem because she really isnt interested. If she likes you, she should call.
This goes both ways ladies.
Thoughts?
Simple Man!!!!!
September 27th, 2010
11:55 am
2Can @ 11:30…LOL
Can’t do that show without pulling out the Kangol and the Addidas sweatsuit!!!
Black Magic Woman
September 27th, 2010
11:55 am
What’s up people? Just checking in on you. This topic is quite funny.
I am with Leggs…where is it written that women don’t approach men? Girl I guess it is in some Southern Belle handbook that us Yankees can read!
If I think a guy is hot….I will crack a joke or something to break the ice. But the funny thing is…I am so over the men of ATL so now I don’t approach them and I am kind of stand offish when they approach me. I am so done with the since of entitlement they have. Not to mention they are so used to the women that wear Desperation like a stink perfume, so that when they meet a woman who will call them on their BS…”Houston we have a problem”!
I had to go home to NY for 2 months for knee surgery this summer and it made me want to move back….so I may be blowing this popsicle stand! I’m homesick!
Leggs
September 27th, 2010
11:57 am
@Blackfoote ~ Exactly. The “alpha dog” mantra is deeply etched and a woman needs to know her place and not tilt the norm. Well, apparently, it’s not working like it use to. Some men have decided not to subscribe to the notion that they should lead. Therefore, I see nothing wrong with a woman walking up to a man and initiating a possible connection. Don’t necessarily look at as being rejected (such a strong word), but more toward he wasn’t interested. So what! No need to get bummed out and want to myself in the stomach for have the nerve to approach a man. As previously stated, not all will like that person who introduces themself. Plain and simple.
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
11:57 am
M., I agree. It’s stupid to wait on someone to call or the three day rule. If you want to talk to someone call them and if you want to walk up and speak to someone just do it. No time for games and silly rules.
Simple Man!!!!!
September 27th, 2010
12:00 pm
So ladies answer me this….. If. generally speaking, you are not down with approaching a guy, how many times should a guy initiate contact before he should assume that you are not interested??? At what point should he expect you to e-mail or call first???
evy
September 27th, 2010
12:00 pm
was talking to a friend a while back, saying it irks me how quick guys are to jump to it; told him ‘it’s like ‘hey, you’re cute. i like your watch. care to step into the closet for a bit of heavy breathing?” and later that day, doncha know, i’m seeing some fella for the first time – in barnes and noble, mind you, and he says to me ‘i like your watch’. i said ty. he says ‘you’re really cute’. ty again…then he asks me (with attitutde, like i’ve kept him waiting too long as it is) ’so, you coming home with me?’
evy
September 27th, 2010
12:00 pm
wasn’t sure whether i wanted to laugh in his face or kick him under the table…
kimmie
September 27th, 2010
12:01 pm
blue – Your 11:54, I agree. Like it or not, a whole lot has not changed out here.
White man
September 27th, 2010
12:01 pm
Hello all!
Leggs
September 27th, 2010
12:02 pm
@blue ~ I started to post that Segway death, but couldn’t get past him dying the way he did….just surreal!
@BMW ~ hey there! We damn Yankees!
blue - ™
September 27th, 2010
12:04 pm
@evy – i was gonna give you a lmao at your prose..but then i thought “that carrier pigeon of hers never go there…”….where my pumpkin pie?
AmazonRed™
September 27th, 2010
12:04 pm
“Getting yourself noticed” is not the same thing as approaching or asking a guy out.
blue - ™
September 27th, 2010
12:05 pm
@BMW – im with you, i say we all go home…i miss real pizza and pretzels…
Black Magic Woman
September 27th, 2010
12:06 pm
“wasn’t sure whether i wanted to laugh in his face or kick him under the table…”
Evy…..I would have kicked him!
Like I said…that since of entitlement is disgusting!
DreamsMaterialize
September 27th, 2010
12:07 pm
men seem to work harder when they come after you than they do if you come to them
blue What kind of man though? A man worth his salt knows that there’s as much work in the development and maintanence as there is in the initiation. If a great job opportunity happened to land in my lap, I’d still have to work hard to realize that opportunity, and I’d probably have to work even harder to prove that I’m worth the effort they put forth in finding me. Same is true for a woman approaching.
Leggs
September 27th, 2010
12:07 pm
@BMW ~ WOW, you want to go back. Awww, the nightlife/sounds of NY got back in your bloodstream like a junkie on crack…:lol:
Black Magic Woman
September 27th, 2010
12:07 pm
“wasn’t sure whether i wanted to laugh in his face or kick him under the table…”
Evy…I would have kicked him!
Like I said…that sense of entitlement disgusts me.
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
12:08 pm
AmazonRed, I have no problem with it. But getting yourself noticed could be considered making the first move…because without her initially getting herelf noticed nothing takes place…if he has no idea she’s there.
kimmie
September 27th, 2010
12:10 pm
Simple – Do you really not know this or are you just asking for conversation-sake? Just curious.
I’m sure we all get tired of the games though. Like is this person really not interested or just playing hard to get?
M dot – Me personally, and from others I’ve observed, if there is a true connection made, there is just an easy give and take from the very beginning. No need to keep a tally of who is calling more. When stuff has worked out – meaning I began a relationship with a guy, we were both anxious to get to know each other. On the other hand, when I was dealing with a guy that was not that into me, I found myself wondering where I stood – trying to figure out when he was going to call and wondering if I should call or should I be taking a hint from him. When things are right, everything falls into place. You don’t have to question.
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
12:10 pm
A man recognizes a “gem” and it’s worht no matter how it’s brought to him and will treat it as such. just like a woman can recognize a quality man or one who is just playing games.
evy
September 27th, 2010
12:10 pm
@ blue: oh, my dear – i AM sorry; it seems there was a little mix-up in the kitchen, and the pie went out IN the carrier pigeon instead of with him…well, needless to say, he wasn’t used to flying full, and suffered a terrible end when he attempted to take off from our roof as usual and instead plunge-dived into the sycamore in front of our place…in lieu of flowers please send new pigeon…
Blackfoote
September 27th, 2010
12:12 pm
“Leggs”: well said and with strong convictions.
“Purple Rain: “no time for silly games and rules” could’nt have said it any better this is why life so short dealing with made up rules made by person’s that considers themselves to be the righteous one.
Black Magic Woman
September 27th, 2010
12:13 pm
Blue….the reasons I left NY now seem so trivial. Just being there…even in a cast and crutches made me think about why the heck I am still in ATL. The only thing I thought about was the cost of living. That is NOT a good “only” reason to live here. So…we shall see! This Manhattan Mami can live outside of the burroughs! Yikes! Not to mention…the men…the diversity…it’s like Baskin Robbins! So many to choose from….without the ATL Man Syndrome!
AmazonRed™
September 27th, 2010
12:14 pm
AmazonRed, I have no problem with it. But getting yourself noticed could be considered making the first move…because without her initially getting herelf noticed nothing takes place…if he has no idea she’s there.
Not to me. It’s indirect and not forward. It’s subtle. If the guy has to put the work in after she’s noticed, he’s stilldoing the heavy lifting.
Melo!
September 27th, 2010
12:14 pm
It’s not that men are not prepared to lead and pursue. Men are not deep sea fishing coz the fish is coming to the shore. Do why bother?
So if men are not looking at I that much, u prepared to bring yourselves into the lion’s den?
Good luck with that!
No matter the guys are having some of uall for dinner. You bring that on yourselves!
Melo!
September 27th, 2010
12:18 pm
So why bother?
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
12:18 pm
AmazonRed, nothing can get started without some sort of catalyst. If it’s indirect and not forward there is still something taking place that would not have happened if that indirect/not forward action did not initially happen. The man should do the heavy lifting but there is nothing wrong with a woman “getting noticed” IMO An investment will jump out at a person but that person has to do the work to make it grow. LOL I am utterly confused so you win I lose, and we both tied all at the same time.
blue - ™
September 27th, 2010
12:18 pm
@kimmie – makes me scared of being out there in that world again, my mouth would get me in trouble, lol
hmmm, id check your staff if i were you, who feeds pumpkin pie to a pigeon?
@Leggs – surreal is a good word…i just looked at the headline for a minute and said naw, that aint what it says…lol…i wonder what their stock looks like now…
@Dreams – blue What kind of man though? i would agree that kind of behavior does not indicate a man worth his metal, but you dont know that till you try. repeated attempts at breaking out of the box only to be repeatedly confronted with metal-less men imo goes a long way to why women dont make the first move
@evy –
Black Magic Woman
September 27th, 2010
12:18 pm
Melo….lead and pursue????
OutofSight
September 27th, 2010
12:19 pm
May women need to read this study and change their mind about approaching men more often…be less depressed women. HA
http://blogs.ajc.com/momania/2010/09/27/depressed-have-some-unprotected-sex/?cxntfid=blogs_momania
Simple Man!!!!!
September 27th, 2010
12:20 pm
kimmie @ 12:10
I know what my answer is…and I know how I handle this type of situation, but I am always interested in what women think and why…
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
12:23 pm
OutofSight, I read that article this morning about women who have unprotected sex are happier.
evy
September 27th, 2010
12:24 pm
awhile back i met a guy i fancied (was a group thing, friend of a friend, 5 or 6 of us in a coffee shop) and, over several such conversations, picked up that he was a tinkerer and the type who becomes more convinced that he can do a thing the more he’s told he can’t. i mentioned some trouble with an appliance at home, and he offered to stop by after work to fix it for me. ‘awww, that’s sweet, but i wouldn’t want you to go to the trouble…besides, i’ve already had a look at it and i really don’t think you can fix it.’ well, that was all he had to hear; he insisted, i relented; i let him in at the appointed time, showed him to the offending machine, and had a seat to watch. he removed the necessary nutznbolts, lifted the top, and stared down, several expressions playing over his face in quick succession, then said tightly “evy. evy, there’s no motor in this thing.” i replied, just barely containing my laughter, “i told you you couldn’t fix it.”
kimmie
September 27th, 2010
12:24 pm
Simple – Okay, gotcha. I guess with me, I just go with my instincts. If it feels right, it usually is. I listen to my inner voice and it usually doesn’t lead me wrong. Like I said above to M dot, when it’s right, stuff usually falls into place. When I have to do too much analyzing of a situation, that’s my inner voice telling me it’s wrong from the get-go.
Melo!
September 27th, 2010
12:26 pm
BMW?
A man who leads pursues coz he knows his purpose.
A man who waits on you the woman to pursue him is investing very little in it, most likely for just sex. And he knows some thirsty heifer will make a move.
All he needs to do is look good, put his manself on show by the bar and sure enough, some completive thirsty heifer, trying to ward off all others will approach.
Game over!!
Now I do understand the man shortage and angst on the part of most females. All I’m saying is ‘ know the risk’ coz most men will take your advances fir exactly what they are.
Desperation!
Leggs
September 27th, 2010
12:26 pm
@blue ~ I too looked at the headline a couple of times saying this isn’t typed right (LOLOL).
evy
September 27th, 2010
12:28 pm
too forward? hmmm…we got married, and are still best friends.
Melo!
September 27th, 2010
12:28 pm
Competitive thirsty heifer
AmazonRed™
September 27th, 2010
12:29 pm
Purple Rain – In heels I’m 6′2″ inches tall. I usually get noticed, so it’s kind of a moot point on my end. However, that’s not to say men bear 100% of the burden in approach. A woman has to be willing to get herself noticed, I still wouldn’t construe that as she the one who put in the work.
You can throw the bait out there, but if the fish ain’t biting, ain’t much you can do. If a man isn’t interested in approaching once he notices her, whether she did it purposely or not, makes the difference.
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
12:33 pm
If the fish ain’t biting..you never know until you cast your line. LOL
Melo, some men pursue just for the sake of sex and not a relationship.
IMO, there is no tried and true proven method to initiating a relationship. You just have to do what works, if yo uare single and keep doing the same thing change it up a little bit.
evy
September 27th, 2010
12:34 pm
so, i think there’s no “men are just..”, or “all women are..” whatever; as has been said this morning, it depends on the character of the person approaching/being approached…a guy who’s a jerk is not gonna transform into a prince because you wait for him to make the first move, and a solid man is not gonna morph into a monster because the woman approaches him.
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
12:35 pm
evy, your name makes me think of my momma. My dad calls her “evy” LOL
DreamsMaterialize
September 27th, 2010
12:36 pm
repeated attempts at breaking out of the box only to be repeatedly confronted with metal-less men imo goes a long way to why women dont make the first move
blue I think most women are meeting these mettle-less men regardless of approach. Since most women don’t have “repeated attempts” at approaching, then they’re more than likely meeting most of these men when those men approached them, and not the other way around. That isn’t counterintuitive though. You’re more likely to get what you want when you proactively pursue it. Otherwise you’re limited to choosing what’s presented to you.
AmazonRed™
September 27th, 2010
12:37 pm
You just have to do what works
Yup. And I’ve never had a problem getting men to approach. But like I said, I don’t go places to hide out in a corner either.
It's me....lurker
September 27th, 2010
12:37 pm
Okay, I was reading the comments but got distracted by the EL jokes. Here’s my white flag. I ain’t go lie, I thought about what 2Can said last week. If you didn’t do it why not just state that? After listening live yesterday, what can I say? I did think too along the lines of what Melo said, now after all that cheering and hooping and hollering what will they do if he eventually straight out confess? And I’m dying at —>What was up with the curly kit?” I don’t like being a turn coat but that was funny as heck. I looked and thought, wayment now he was balding in some of the other pics now a black rug perched on his head? What I found strange was his quote “I never said I was a perfect man……..” an almost admission of guilt IMO. Okay let me go back and finish reading today’s topic. Oh, I skimmed over Friday’s topic and some of ya’ll got me feeling a bit nostalgic.
Melo!
September 27th, 2010
12:39 pm
PR?
That’s given.
If u single and men are not approaching you so the problem is you!
Look in the mirror.
blue - ™
September 27th, 2010
12:42 pm
@BMW – made me think about why the heck I am still in ATL – i ask myself that Q all the time, lol
@evy – “evy. evy, there’s no motor in this thing.” lmao, thats a good one. but now who gets the credit for initiation, you or him?
@Leggs – lmao…seems he had a productive life tho “Heselden made his fortune through his firm Hesco Bastion Ltd., which developed the “Hesco” blast wall system that replaced the sand bags used to protect troops in Afghanistan and Iraq”. think the military will send a rep to the service?
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
12:44 pm
AmazonRed, are you a big 6′2 or a slim 6′2? Either way I imagine it would be hard for you to go unnoticed. LOL
AmazonRed™
September 27th, 2010
12:46 pm
I am a slim 5′11.” I only weigh 130 pounds.
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
12:49 pm
AmazonRed, you are a sexy tall woman not one of those Defensive Lineman type of tall women.
blue - ™
September 27th, 2010
12:50 pm
@Dreams – That isn’t counterintuitive though. You’re more likely to get what you want when you proactively pursue it. Otherwise you’re limited to choosing what’s presented to you.
i see some validity there, kind of if the norm isnt working for you try something different…isnt that how a lot of women go lesbian? lol j/k…well no, not really…ive got a cousin who switched teams that way…
It's me....lurker
September 27th, 2010
12:51 pm
Today’s topic, I was raised in the mindset that fast girls make the first move so I understand ABC and his beliefs. I’m still somewhat of that mindset however I do realized and have moved away somewhat from that. I won’t toss it all in the wind because I believe there’s some value to what my parent instilled. I do understand though there’s a fine line of giving off the wrong impression and giving a man a nudge and opening to approach. I don’t necessarily think the green light is needed for giving a man an opening to approach however I don’t think anything is wrong with a bit of friendly spoken or unspoken banter would should be indicative that I’m interested. I do feel though if a man approaches and puts forth the effort (not put through changes..just a bit of effort) then you can at least feel good or comfortable throwing it back….because he made the first move and show of interest. Now whether or not it’s sincere or about anything other than getting to know you, that’s a horse of another color. I do feel though if a woman is always approaching you’re bound to roll up on somebody that’s not truly interested but will go along, just because you approached first. How will you gauge the true intention if you never allow it to flow your way sometimes?
Simple Man!!!!!
September 27th, 2010
12:51 pm
Note to self….. Remind everyone how “PERFECT” 5′11 and 130lbs can be….:D
evy
September 27th, 2010
12:53 pm
@blue: hmmm, i dunno – i baited and cast the line, but he didn’t struggle too hard – who knows? maybe i fell into his net…
AmazonRed™
September 27th, 2010
12:53 pm
AmazonRed, you are a sexy tall woman not one of those Defensive Lineman type of tall women.
I hear this a lot. Apparently there are a lot of lumberjack built women running around here.
White man
September 27th, 2010
12:54 pm
Damn! 5′11″ NICE…
AmazonRed™
September 27th, 2010
12:54 pm
Simple Man – You are too much!
blue - ™
September 27th, 2010
12:55 pm
time to find lunch – Simple Man, my cool platonic friend…keep an eye on Fred please?
Simple Man!!!!!
September 27th, 2010
12:56 pm
“As I do my happy dance”…..I think she likes me, I think she likes me!!! LOL LOL LOL
White man
September 27th, 2010
12:58 pm
I am 6′4″ so the taller the better for me…unless you are the linebacker type haha.
Simple Man!!!!!
September 27th, 2010
1:00 pm
Blue…I got him….OK Fred….I got some rules over here…..
Blackfoote
September 27th, 2010
1:01 pm
@ AmazonRed at your size I would’nt wait for an approach by you, I’d make that the first step
AmazonRed™
September 27th, 2010
1:03 pm
@Simple Man – You are definitely a boost for the ego. I could look like Jabba the Hut’s sister in real life.
@White Man – There are a lot of 6′4″ guys out there dating women way too short for them!
CoolShadow
September 27th, 2010
1:04 pm
Yup. And I’ve never had a problem getting men to approach. But like I said, I don’t go places to hide out in a corner either.
@AmazonRed – If that’s the case then there’s no need for you to approach a man. But not all women are noticed or are getting approached and in some cases are unapproachable, though they might think they are.
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
1:04 pm
White Man and AmazonRed, some of these Linebackers are bigger than farm girls, the farm girls work the farm and are big and toned. I have yet to see a Farm in the Atlanta Metro Area, so maybe that is why they are not toned. LOL
White man
September 27th, 2010
1:04 pm
Amazon you are right. I dated a girl that was 5′1″. I dont mind shorter women but I prefer the taller ones.
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
1:06 pm
To short for them? Im 6′6 my wife is 5′7 on a good day. Her height is only an issue in only one certain instance/position other than that everything else is perfect. LOL
Grace
September 27th, 2010
1:07 pm
Hello Everyone! I have no problem approaching a guy. I made the first move with my first husband and we weathered just fine. If you see someone you like, make a move, you’s be surprised by the end results.
Simple Man!!!!!
September 27th, 2010
1:08 pm
Ared, even if you were butt ugly…Your flavor would still be off the charts!!!
White man
September 27th, 2010
1:10 pm
PurpleRain…>Good point.
White man
September 27th, 2010
1:11 pm
I always say “just say what is on your mind to the woman or man”. IF you want to date, ask her/him…if you want a booty call, tell her/him. You never know if you dont ask.
AmazonRed™
September 27th, 2010
1:11 pm
@ AmazonRed at your size I would’nt wait for an approach by you, I’d make that the first step
Well hey now! But I wouldn’t make it difficult for you either.
i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)
September 27th, 2010
1:12 pm
“There are a lot of 6′4″ guys out there dating women way too short for them!”
ARed — What you see as too short, these dudes probably see as just right (i.e. right at wang level)…
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
1:13 pm
White Man, I agree. No smoke screens just speak your mind
White man
September 27th, 2010
1:13 pm
Some men are intimidated by taller women…..
evy
September 27th, 2010
1:13 pm
i’m out, folks – enjoy the rest of your day!
AmazonRed™
September 27th, 2010
1:14 pm
To short for them? Im 6′6 my wife is 5′7 on a good day.
5′7″ is still pretty tall, besides, it’s not too common to find women 5′10″ plus so you have to go a little shorter.
What I mean is if you’re 6′6″ and go for the 5′4″s….
PoppaGrande has a shorty wife, but it wasn’t intentional!
White man
September 27th, 2010
1:14 pm
PURPLERAIN….yep, and it is GREAT when a womans starts the conversation and just speaks her mind. It has happened with me a few times and it is wonderful.
White man
September 27th, 2010
1:14 pm
Amazon….it could be a good think if her mouth is at waist level haha.
Grace
September 27th, 2010
1:15 pm
I’ve never waited 3 days to call a guy. What the heck is that about anyway?
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
1:15 pm
Swiss, the short high is only a problem when both are standing and hitting her from behind. It is crazy to have to squat down push forward then enter and then stand up. You are lifting her off the floor with your wang when you stand up straight..and high heels don’t always do the trick. LOL
AmazonRed™
September 27th, 2010
1:15 pm
swiss – I hear that one too. Naughty boys.
White man
September 27th, 2010
1:15 pm
The truth is that being a taller man and having a much shorter woman DOES make some positions much more difficult to pull off.
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
1:16 pm
Amazon, I said 5′7 on a good day..that’s when she is in her come get me heels. She is 5′4 5′5 LOL
White man
September 27th, 2010
1:16 pm
Purplerain….put a stool by the bed and have her stand on it. That is what I do.
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
1:17 pm
She hates climbing up in my truck also.
AmazonRed™
September 27th, 2010
1:18 pm
Oh..well then you get a demerit then, PR!
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
1:18 pm
White Man, I would need a bunch of stools all over the house. and Keep one in both cars and just have a portable one on call.
White man
September 27th, 2010
1:20 pm
Hahah, I hear ya.
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
1:20 pm
My TMI for the day. We were driving home in her car Saturday and she decided to give me some “attention” at the stop light a cop pulls up right beside us. I tel her do not lift your head up there is a cop right beside us. I wonder what would have happened if the cop saw her. Then when I tell her it’s okay to come up she asks me. “Was there really a cop in the other lane?” LOL
Grace
September 27th, 2010
1:21 pm
@ Purple Rain some men pursue just for the sake of sex and not a relationship. And so do some women, so what’s your point?
Simple Man!!!!!
September 27th, 2010
1:21 pm
I am 5′11 and I have a “long term understanding” with a lady thats about 4′10!!! She is super short but way confident and having a 1 foot height difference is off teh chain for me!!! I can (and often do) pick her up and carry her from place to place surface to surface without detaching!!!!
AmazonRed™
September 27th, 2010
1:21 pm
I feel so at home being surrounded by all these tall trees.
White man
September 27th, 2010
1:22 pm
Grace….I would be willing to say it is almost 50/50 men and women.
Blackfoote
September 27th, 2010
1:22 pm
I’m 6′4″ and have dated women as short as 5′4″ but in the back of my mind I wished they were taller. I’ts nothing like having a preference that we all want,approach me or I’ll approach you it’s about whats in your heart and mind.
i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)
September 27th, 2010
1:23 pm
Anybody ever had relations with a midget?
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
1:23 pm
Grace, if you follow my whole conversation from this morning you will know my point and it has been stated in my previous post that my tones are not gender specific. Hell of a way to introduce yourself to me.
AmazonRed™
September 27th, 2010
1:25 pm
Simple Man – Glad you have a confident shorty. Most folks 5 feet are under are rather annoying to me. They’re always loud or do the most to get attention cuz no one sees em or always pats them on the head.
I know this girl who is 4′8…she’s just so tiny it gives me the heebie jeebies.
Nice girl tho.
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
1:25 pm
Swiss, I bet a midget would work a man over real good. It will be like a spider crawling on a wall, to see a midget with a tall dude. LOL
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
1:27 pm
Why do short men always have a chip on their shoulder, other men don’t care how tall you are as long as you can dribble, pass and shoot the three when I dish the ball out to you. It’s funny to me, little guys.
White man
September 27th, 2010
1:27 pm
I have no interest in being with a midget….just my preference.
White man
September 27th, 2010
1:28 pm
Never been with a black woman either.
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
1:28 pm
Arent midgets really heavy? Like the person can be 4′2 and still weigh 180lbs?
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
1:29 pm
LOL@White Man with the ad lib.
White man
September 27th, 2010
1:29 pm
Well it is true.
Sassy Me...I'm ALL in ;-)
September 27th, 2010
1:29 pm
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
1:30 pm
White Man, I hope you have a blog vest because you are about to get it from a few of these ladies.
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
1:31 pm
It’s a blog double standard for some
Blackfoote
September 27th, 2010
1:32 pm
@ White man have been hit on by white girls but never dated one I just can’t get over the brown sugar.
White man
September 27th, 2010
1:33 pm
Blackfoote – I guess each to his own preference.
Chevygal
September 27th, 2010
1:33 pm
Hi All…new on the scene here but have been reading along with y’all for awhile. FUN Reading! I’m just getting back on the dating scene and am very friendly and outgoing with everyone but seems I have a knack for attracitng the married men who pretend they’re not!….what’s up with all you married guys???
@ARed – I think you should give Simple Man a second thought….just saying.
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
1:33 pm
Women are just women to me regardless of race.
AmazonRed™
September 27th, 2010
1:33 pm
Blackfoote – Where’d you come from? Is this your first day?
*radar engaged*
CoolShadow
September 27th, 2010
1:33 pm
I do feel though if a woman is always approaching you’re bound to roll up on somebody that’s not truly interested but will go along, just because you approached first.
@It’s me… – I don’t think men are suggesting that there be a complete role reversal in regards to whom makes the first move. There may be occasions when a man may intrigue you, so why don’t you initiate contact? We men go through all the things you ladies have mentioned and then some, but that’s just how things are structured. And I noticed that women after one less than successful attempt of approaching a man you deem it an utter failure, never to be tried again. Contrary to popular belief by women, men don’t have a genetic immunity to rejection. Sometimes it hurts us too…
SlimNumeroUno
September 27th, 2010
1:34 pm
Purple – I know in some states oral favors are illegal. lol If anything, I would think yall would get some sort of citation for public indecency unless of course you were willing to share a little of what you were getting with your fellow man in blue.
White man
September 27th, 2010
1:34 pm
Chevygal – email me lee.smith@chartercom.com
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
1:36 pm
Slim, I do not share. LOL
Blackfoote
September 27th, 2010
1:36 pm
@ A Red been humming along for quite some time now just figured I would start using my 2 cents worth.
I am whatever you say I am
September 27th, 2010
1:38 pm
ARED!!!! It was YOU that left the lights on Friday
consequences and repercussions are in order. Your punishment: you will mop the mens room
and clean the urinalsdaily before the blog closes every night. Breakfast will be made by you and served piping hot to the blog members each morning. NOW GET TO STEPPIN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!Chevygal
September 27th, 2010
1:39 pm
@White Man….Come on now….You’re not another one of those married beasts in disguise are ya?
Grace
September 27th, 2010
1:39 pm
My bad PR I didn’t read your earlier posts. I wasn’t taking any jabs at you, btw Hi, I’m Grace! I’m not new here.
White man
September 27th, 2010
1:39 pm
married yes, but thought you brought up a very interesting point.
White man
September 27th, 2010
1:40 pm
Ok, I have a question….How many of you have been with someone of the opposite race?
AmazonRed™
September 27th, 2010
1:42 pm
I am – You must have bumped your head girl! I’ll get my checkbook and pay for the extra usage but I ain’t gonna Molly Maid for anyone.
SlimNumeroUno
September 27th, 2010
1:42 pm
Purp – I don’t blame you. I recall when I was home on a break from school, me and my then bf went to a park somewhere with the intent to get it on. We didn’t get very far at all when we were blinded by a cop rolling up on us with flashlight in hand knocking on the window. We were over the age of 18 so he told us to get out of there, get a room before he decided on something more harsh of a punishment to give us. I think I saw my heart beat out of my chest that day.
Kym
September 27th, 2010
1:45 pm
Will this day never end? What are you talking about in here?
AmazonRed™
September 27th, 2010
1:45 pm
Chevygal – You can’t roll up in here making demands and stuff…:lol: But welcome. But why are you on team Simple Man anyway?
White man
September 27th, 2010
1:46 pm
Kym….taller men and shorter women..the advantages and disadvantages of both. Sex with the opposite race…..etc…
AmazonRed™
September 27th, 2010
1:46 pm
Blackfoote – Well welcome. How tall is you?
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
1:49 pm
Hello Grace
, I guess I am still the new guy. LOL
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
1:50 pm
I think a shallow but interesting topic that we should speak about are physicall preferences in the opposite sex.
Kym
September 27th, 2010
1:51 pm
<<does not date short men.
Melo!
September 27th, 2010
1:51 pm
PR?
Are u back home and anywhere near those floods?
Blackfoote
September 27th, 2010
1:51 pm
@ AmazonRed thank you for your hospitality……..I’m 6′4″ and I’m not married or on the down low (been married once though).
White man
September 27th, 2010
1:51 pm
PurpleRain….I agree. That is fine.
i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)
September 27th, 2010
1:51 pm
“How many of you have been with someone of the opposite race?”
White Man — I’m white & I’ve been with black (American & Haitian), Brazilian, Cuban, Japanese and Filipina chicks. Now, which of those would be considered “opposite?”
AmazonRed™
September 27th, 2010
1:52 pm
Ok, I have a question….How many of you have been with someone of the opposite race?
Why do you always care about this race stuff?
White man
September 27th, 2010
1:53 pm
why not? Why do you pretend that it doesnt exist? It is just a topic dont get so defensive.
Chevygal
September 27th, 2010
1:53 pm
@ARed…no demands…no team yet…just sideline observations..think there’s a little sumpum, sumpum between your banter…Who knows.
@White Man…my interesting point was spot on…right?
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
1:54 pm
Melo, I am still in Dawsonville, those floods are hitting south of the city…about an hours as the crow flies. Our land is way north of the city
White man
September 27th, 2010
1:54 pm
Chevygal – It could be, I guess it depends on the situation.
Breakingofdawn
September 27th, 2010
1:55 pm
There only four races defined of the human species: Africoid, from Sub Saharan Africa. Mongoloid, from East Asia.Caucasoid, mostly Europe, but also into Pakistan, India and North Africa. Australoid, Australia and some islands, and Southern India.
Simple Man!!!!!
September 27th, 2010
1:56 pm
I am…. Whats up….You been hiding out today??? I miss you
Kym
September 27th, 2010
1:56 pm
sigh..here we go..
AmazonRed™
September 27th, 2010
1:56 pm
@ AmazonRed thank you for your hospitality……..I’m 6′4″ and I’m not married or on the down low (been married once though).
You got any kiddies?
Oh and feel free to ignore me. I like tag all tall men for migration purposes.
AmazonRed™
September 27th, 2010
1:57 pm
think there’s a little sumpum, sumpum between your banter…Who knows.
Yes, he overtly flirts and I accept the flattery.
Leggs
September 27th, 2010
1:58 pm
@I am ~ you should have know to put ARed on the cleanup crew!
@Chevygal ~ I met a guy this past weekend who looked like Idris Elba’s twin, just a tad bit lighter. We talked for a little while but when I asked if he’s married, he said yes, but he’s free to go and do as he please. Well, so I am so I pleased my away from his fine arse!
AmazonRed™
September 27th, 2010
1:58 pm
@White Man – I’m not defensive. I just wonder why in the hell it matters? And because you commonly are the one that brings it up. There are no pics on here, so this should be the one place where race doesn’t matter.
I am whatever you say I am
September 27th, 2010
1:59 pm
Ared: ” I’ll get out the checkbook………….” Okay Ma,you talkin, I’m listenin’! How much bread you hold? Simple Man: had to take little dude to the docs. He’s not feelin so good
White man
September 27th, 2010
1:59 pm
Flirting is great…it makes the day go by faster.
It's me....lurker
September 27th, 2010
1:59 pm
@Cool Shadow – There may be occasions when a man may intrigue you, so why don’t you initiate contact?
I don’t see anything wrong with making your interest known but I was really speaking more so to a woman confident to do direct approach as often as she sees a man of interest. IMO, sometimes a man could very well be interested and sometimes not but will take an opportunistic approach. IMO, a woman always making the first move raises her chances of getting rotten dudes and really it’s just nice to have a man approach. If an opportunity is there, I see nothing wrong with stepping it up. Maybe in line at the store or getting lunch or on the elevator or something of that nature. To just walk up to somebody though because he’s cute or sexy, probably not happening. That’s due to my rearrage. Oh and if I did approach and got shot down yeah that would be it for me. No way would I go back for more. That’s a glutton for punishment IMO.
blue - ™
September 27th, 2010
1:59 pm
alright, to all you tall people, and you tall lovers –
. im 5′2″, and am starting to think im the shortest one on here! the stepstool thing was funny tho, mr.blue is 6′2″ and i tell him all the time i need a stool to get a kiss…
@white man – no AA women for you, have you been with any other races?
I am whatever you say I am
September 27th, 2010
2:00 pm
white man: answer to your question. I’ve dated more flavors than Baskin Robbins
SlimNumeroUno
September 27th, 2010
2:00 pm
Simple Man – so Ared wasn’t giving you the attention you wanted, now you’re ‘missing I am’? lol (wanna go hump on her leg a bit huh?)
White man
September 27th, 2010
2:00 pm
Just curious.
Grace
September 27th, 2010
2:00 pm
PR, Imma let you slide on that one
I am whatever you say I am
September 27th, 2010
2:00 pm
blue: when you sit on the toilet, do your feet dangle
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
2:01 pm
Do short women prefer tall men or short men?
Melo!
September 27th, 2010
2:01 pm
Ared?
Last week or week before you mentioned a budiness establishment as being black owned.
Also kinda wondered at the relevance and how Swiss folks here would take it.
I am whatever you say I am
September 27th, 2010
2:01 pm
Simple man: you cool and aw, but you a little thirsty (I thinks) <——saying all this in my Kanye voice
AmazonRed™
September 27th, 2010
2:01 pm
It's me....lurker
September 27th, 2010
2:02 pm
PR – Tall….I dropped a dude once cause we were shoulder to shoulder and everytime he tried to put his arm around my shoulder it caused a lift for him….TOOO SHORT
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
2:02 pm
Grace, thank you
I Am, that was funny. LOL I can see blue jumping down from the toiler after she is done doing her business.
White man
September 27th, 2010
2:04 pm
Lurker that is funny.
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
2:04 pm
Simple Man, Leave I Am alone she is mine. It is mostly a mental relationship though.
White man
September 27th, 2010
2:04 pm
Most women prefer taller men….correct?
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
2:05 pm
It’s me, I could not imagine a woman feeling safe with a man the same height or shorter than she is.
Simple Man!!!!!
September 27th, 2010
2:05 pm
I am… Hit me up…
kimmie
September 27th, 2010
2:05 pm
It is mostly a mental relationship though.
Purple Olive – Oh, so I’m not your “Weezie” anymore?
PrincessNik...CAM'S # 1 FAN
September 27th, 2010
2:06 pm
Do short women prefer tall men or short men?
Carlito
I’m 5′6 which i guess is average and i love a tall man
White man
September 27th, 2010
2:07 pm
PrincessNik – How tall do you prefer?
blue - ™
September 27th, 2010
2:08 pm
@I am – naw, most toilets are built for normal sized people..not giants!! lol…but i do like the bar stools when we go out…and the big round table at Borders…Vortex on Peachtree has some tall chairs…i can swing my feet
, just got to make sure not to lose a shoe once the tequila starts flowing….
@PR – Do short women prefer tall men or short men? Tall Men..never dated anyone my height or shorter, only ever dated one guy under 6′ and that was the crazy Grease guy…and (just for White Man) tried several races, always found the tall ones…
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
2:09 pm
Princess stop using my real name, LOL
kimmie, you are my dominatrix for when I am being a bad you set me straight
Oh you brought a whip this time…I submit to your authority now whip me. LOL
White man
September 27th, 2010
2:09 pm
Blue—haha thanks.
I am whatever you say I am
September 27th, 2010
2:10 pm
LOL Purple! Blue probably carry a ladder in her back pocket just in case. White Man: I prefer to date tall men but if any man that approaches me comes equipped with an adam’s apple and a third leg that he acquired at birth, then I will still give them the time of day.
Chevygal
September 27th, 2010
2:10 pm
@LEGGS: I made a U Turn as well but unfortunately had already fallen for him….told him off an exited….don’t know if I’m more hurt or angry. Guess an equal mixture.
Simple Man!!!!!
September 27th, 2010
2:10 pm
Why I gotta be thirsty???? Our blog is filled with wonderful and interesting ladies and I am always down for the ladies…..
Purp…Don’t wanna step on no toes…..
PrincessNik...CAM'S # 1 FAN
September 27th, 2010
2:10 pm
White Man,
at 5′6 it doesn’t take much for a guy to be taller than me so maybe 5′11 or better, why do you ask
Blackfoote
September 27th, 2010
2:11 pm
@ AmazonRed I can hardly ignore anyone who’s giving good computer love that I’m getting. In my marriage we were blessed with one son. Although I lived around the curve from Bishop Long never met him.
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
2:11 pm
I Am, as soon as kimmie stops kicking my butt, set the time of day. LOL
SlimNumeroUno
September 27th, 2010
2:11 pm
‘Get him Slim!’
(Slim now rolling up and old PlayGirl magazine)
Down boy, down I say!
PrincessNik...CAM'S # 1 FAN
September 27th, 2010
2:11 pm
Purple Rain
Dig That
September 27th, 2010
2:11 pm
Wassup good people…. I skimmed thru and I see we are everywhere today. I never mind women approaching me, tall or short. I love the confidence and If I’m not interested I don’t play them. I may still buy them a drink and talk a lil bit. Hate for her to lose that confidence by me acting a jerk.
kimmie
September 27th, 2010
2:12 pm
Purple Olive – You were supposed to keep that just between us, on the low-low! I prefer you be the assertive one in public!
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
2:12 pm
Simple Man, have your way. There are enough to go around. LOL
I am whatever you say I am
September 27th, 2010
2:12 pm
I once dated a real real short dude (I’m 5′9) but he carried the confidence of a giant! I loved how he approached me, struck up good conversation and from there we dated. Bonus: he was a biker dude that had a gsxr . Damn I miss that dude!
White man
September 27th, 2010
2:12 pm
PrincesNik – just wondering. I am 6′4″ and just doing some research I guess.
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
2:13 pm
Princess, yes you can call me anything you desire except for the real name. LOL
kimmie, yes master!
blue - ™
September 27th, 2010
2:14 pm
@I am – no ladder, but if we talked about all the stiletto shoes/boots i own, we’d be here all day! went out last night wearing 4 inch heels, so that makes me an even 5′6″ lol
PrincessNik...CAM'S # 1 FAN
September 27th, 2010
2:14 pm
Okay Cee-lo, just don’t forget the many nicknames you have acquired
White man
September 27th, 2010
2:14 pm
Blue – Damn 4″ heels…that has got to hurt.
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
2:14 pm
I Am, a biker dude? Psshh, I can hunt and live off the land, Paul fricken Bunyan in the flesh!!
It's me....lurker
September 27th, 2010
2:15 pm
White Man/PR, honestly, he was a pretty decent dude. I couldn’t get past the height thing. Of course I was 27 and he was 10 years older and trying to get serious real quick…LOL He wasn’t a mama’s boy but he would go through hell and high water for her which was impressive but again, the height thing. Too, he was moving into the “set in his ways” stage and would get grouchy with me when I would do what he wanted so I didn’t want hassle with that either. Probably if he was younger and a bit more open-minded it might would have worked. It took him a long time to let go.
AmazonRed™
September 27th, 2010
2:16 pm
Blackfoote – Thanks for answering. I like the way you answered too. *bats eyelashes at you*
SlimNumeroUno
September 27th, 2010
2:16 pm
I’m 5′6 and haven’t dated that many really tall men…a lot of them were only a few inches taller than me…saw eye to eye more often than not.
DJ Sniper
September 27th, 2010
2:16 pm
What is it about being rejected by a man that has so many women hesitant about approaching? Like someone said earlier, men aren’t predisposed to being rejected by women. We don’t like it anymore than you do, but we deal with it out of necessity. Somebody tell me why some women feel like being rejected by a man is the end of the world?
Also, somebody said something about a woman’s chances of attracting losers goes up if she does the approaching. Well, talk to any woman out there who has had her share of losers and I bet most of them will tell you that the man approached them, so I just don’t buy the whole notion of approaching a man=an increased chance of dealing with losers.
Mo (aka Moeisha )
September 27th, 2010
2:17 pm
Now ya’ll leave my folk blue alone!!
blue – I am with you, as the resident 5 footah of the blog (yes, 5′ even) Im with you!
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
2:17 pm
Princess, I think they all are: Olive, Italian Studmuffin, ito, PR, Rain, Reign, Purp,Cee-lo, Heman master of the universe, the italian Denzil Washington, Mr Golden Tongue, Captain Wang and “Mr Make You have to change your panties at first sight from wetness of looking at me, the ultimate specimen of a man.”
I am whatever you say I am
September 27th, 2010
2:18 pm
Random: I hope the cough medicine the doc prescribed for my son has him taking a longer than normal nap. Evil? he he he he he, why yes
Okay, I can tell the little dude has been messing with my comp. The enter button won’t work :evil; Lawd have mercy! Dear Lawd if you could answer just one prayer for me today please have it be the prayer where when I go to check the lotto numbers, I win the lotto!
Chevygal
September 27th, 2010
2:19 pm
What height is considered short? I’m 5′5″ and thought that was tall???
I am whatever you say I am
September 27th, 2010
2:19 pm
LOL! Mo probably carry a crane in her back pocket just in case
PrincessNik...CAM'S # 1 FAN
September 27th, 2010
2:20 pm
Well Cee-lo you may as well add …..Mr steal yo girl…..
Elijah ( Patience is a virtue)
September 27th, 2010
2:21 pm
Good Afternoon folks!
On topic…. It is absolutely o.k. for a woman to approach a guy…Their are times a man may catch your eye but is too busy to notice you. So you need to take the next step in order to get seen…
Only Immature boys would considered a woman easy if se approaches them.. First, you want to think all women are easy because of the clothes she wears. Her her cleavage is showinf she is easy!! She has on a slit dress with 3 in plus heels she is easy! She has on a body fitting dress/pants she is easy!! She approaches you she’s easy… If she is too aggressive the woman is easy… When boys grow-up they will know the difference between a woman who is easy and woman who are not easy…
Does Mike Tomlin coach of the Pittsburgh Steelers favor Bishop Eddie Long?
Look at AmazonRed handling all the blog men, this woman has mad game….
Kym
September 27th, 2010
2:21 pm
Midgets as far as the eye can see..It’s like Munckin land in here.
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
2:21 pm
I Am, LOL Mo and Blue have to DRIVE with booster seats.
AmazonRed™
September 27th, 2010
2:22 pm
I’m 5′6 and haven’t dated that many really tall men…a lot of them were only a few inches taller than me…saw eye to eye more often than not.
I appreciate this about you Slim.
Your slim stature makes you look a little taller than you are. I would have pegged you at 5′8″ or so.
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
2:23 pm
Princess if that is a hint I will change my name to “Mr Steal Your Girl but Will have You home before he noticed you were gone, just tell him your cycle started so he will not know I was there”
AmazonRed™
September 27th, 2010
2:23 pm
What height is considered short? I’m 5′5″ and thought that was tall???
Um no. That’s average. Tall for a women is 5′7″ and above.
Mo (aka Moeisha )
September 27th, 2010
2:24 pm
I am – I just keep tall folks around cause it dayum sure is an abundance of ya’ll! LOL!
I am whatever you say I am
September 27th, 2010
2:24 pm
Blue: you in stilleto equals little girl sneaking into closet to try on Momma’s shoes
j/k Purple: It is mostly a mental relationship though.- we there papi! keep it real with me I keep it real with eye you may be Paul fricken Bunyan but can you swan dive? (saying in my old spice guy voice)
Dig That
September 27th, 2010
2:24 pm
just tell him your cycle started so he will not know I was there”
@PR- Sounds like you got it all planned out.
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
2:24 pm
Elijam I agree with your whole entry except for the AmazonRed thing. LOL
blue - ™
September 27th, 2010
2:24 pm
@White Man – see thats why you wear your flip flops in the car
@Mo – Thanx Mo!! as my daughter says, we’re not short, we’re fun size…wait..gotta be careful what i say on here…back to “altitudinally challenged”
AmazonRed™
September 27th, 2010
2:24 pm
Look at AmazonRed handling all the blog men, this woman has mad game….
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
2:25 pm
Dig That, I don’t need her getting caught and having to come live with me.
AmazonRed™
September 27th, 2010
2:25 pm
Elijam I agree with your whole entry except for the AmazonRed thing. LOL
Another demerit!
I am whatever you say I am
September 27th, 2010
2:26 pm
LMAO At purple’s 2:20
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
2:26 pm
Swan dive into a hot tub with a motorcycle in it.
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
2:27 pm
AmazonRed,
I think I have two demirts now. LOL
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
2:28 pm
Honestly I think women of all heights are attractive
AmazonRed™
September 27th, 2010
2:29 pm
Random FB email:
“I would like to be ur FB friend. So, I nd u to send me a request. Thx U”
Seriously dude? This is exactly why I keep my page on lock down.
Besides, I’ma need you to NOT be close to my daddy’s age!
blue - ™
September 27th, 2010
2:29 pm
@PR – when i had my Saturn, i did need a pillow lmao. i hated that car….
@Mo – lmao ^5
kimmie
September 27th, 2010
2:29 pm
DJ – When it happened to me, it was not the end of the world. Especially since I ran into the dude several times after that and he tried to get with me. With him, he seemed to have a cockiness about him when I approached him and that turned me off. He had this smirk on his face. Like some of the women some of the guys on here speak about that shoot them down with an attitude. I observe dudes that are used to women sweating them and they are a complete turnoff to me.
For me, it was just not the natural order of things. I have no problem being “approachable”. I will laugh and make small talk. Break the ice. Usually that opens the door for a guy to make the real approach – suggest we exchange numbers and go out sometimes.
There were times that I really wanted to go ahead and approach a guy of interest, but something held me back. Good thing I did because in each of those times I found out dude was spoken for already.
I went for a time where yeah, I was not meeting the kinds of men I wanted. I needed to change things up and I did. I put myself in the kinds of situations to meet those men, yet I remained true to myself. The men still made the first move.
White man
September 27th, 2010
2:30 pm
No Chevygal that is not tall.
AmazonRed™
September 27th, 2010
2:30 pm
AmazonRed, I think I have two demirts now. LOL
That’s RIGHT!
I am whatever you say I am
September 27th, 2010
2:30 pm
Bowing down to Purple’s 2:26!
SlimNumeroUno
September 27th, 2010
2:30 pm
‘Your slim stature makes you look a little taller than you are. I would have pegged you at 5′8″’
Ared – wow, I didn’t realize I appeared to be taller than I was…must be my long torso
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
2:31 pm
LOL, AmazonRed what if he was tall?
Short people smoke weed so that they can feel “high”
AmazonRed™
September 27th, 2010
2:32 pm
i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)
September 27th, 2010
2:32 pm
Interesting game plan: Stave off execution by attempting to kill yourself. And oddly enough, it seems to be working…
AmazonRed™
September 27th, 2010
2:32 pm
LOL, AmazonRed what if he was tall?
Who?
i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)
September 27th, 2010
2:33 pm
“Your slim stature makes you look a little taller than you are. I would have pegged you at 5′8″
Slim / ARed — Slim is only 5′6” but her CT is 5′8”
I am whatever you say I am
September 27th, 2010
2:33 pm
your game might be weak if after i meet you all you ever do is text and when you finally get the nerve to call
your girl isn’t homeyou have nothing to say. Seriously dude: most women know you have a girl if all you do is text. Your game might also be weak if after weeks of no contact you call, still have nothing of substance to talk about, and are clueless over the fact that when you ask do you know who this is and I respond no I do notdeleted your number a long time ago fool!Lord Velonese
September 27th, 2010
2:34 pm
“Why aren’t more women approaching men?”
Good question, considering all the power women have, especially the ability to send a Man’s life to the toilet in a heart beat. I pretty sure it has something to do with the spoiled BRAT Syndrome.
Dig That
September 27th, 2010
2:34 pm
@PR- I know thats right.
@kimmie- That is what trips me out sometimes. Women want a man to approach them but they sit there looking totally unapproachable. The other part that kills me is when they are about to leave and want to say something slick to me on the way on the door like she been checking me out but everytime I look her way she look like the patron shot was too strong or she just sucked $10 worth of lemons. What’s the stank look for? LMAO!!!
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
2:34 pm
I Am are you ready for my ultimate short people joke? LOL
Elevators always smell “different” to short people. LOL
Simple Man!!!!!
September 27th, 2010
2:34 pm
Does my tie not match my suit today????? Ared has put me down and batting her eyes at Blackfoote, I am called me thirsty and kicked me to the curbfor the biker boy (Even though I ride too) …. Slim1…I think you started this….Do you mind if I come and talk to you for a minute?????
Dig That
September 27th, 2010
2:35 pm
@I am- If all he wanted was the booty there isn’t much to discuss other than if you down, then when and where.
kimmie
September 27th, 2010
2:35 pm
I am – Yeah, real weak & wack!
AmazonRed™
September 27th, 2010
2:35 pm
considering all the power women have, especially the ability to send a Man’s life to the toilet in a heart beat.
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
2:36 pm
AmazonRed, the guy on FB who needed a friend. LOL
I Am, let’s sext
AmazonRed™
September 27th, 2010
2:36 pm
Simple Man – I’m sorry. It’s the power of the force of 6′4″ …. kryponite!
I still wuv you.
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
2:37 pm
Simple Man, you know us men are no stranger to rejection. Just keep trying until something sticks. LOL
Melo!
September 27th, 2010
2:37 pm
Elijah 2.21??
That’s a Metrpolitan pkwy h03 you describing there?
So what’s the difference between a ho3 and a thirsty heifer if they’re dressed the same?
One takes a consideration in $$$$ terms,the other in kind.
Elijah ( Patience is a virtue)
September 27th, 2010
2:37 pm
Hello Ms. Kimmie…. How was Wall Street?
Hello It’s me…. Lurker …. How was your weekend?
@PurpleR…. Trust me, AmazonRed is the shiznizzle!
@PurpleR… I find women of all heights very attractive totally agree….Although I am really finding the 5ft0 to 5ft4in ladies extremely attractive recently… My last few relationships were with shorties and they were off the chain…
@Kym….. Mike Tomlin lost brother of the Bishop Eddie Long…. Your favorite pastor…
AmazonRed™
September 27th, 2010
2:38 pm
AmazonRed, the guy on FB who needed a friend. LOL
Oh right. I forgot about him just that quickly.
His page is open he probably is tall.
But he’s old!
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
2:38 pm
Simple Man she dropped you like a hot potato…LOL Blue and Mo are really short so you will look like you are 7″ to them
Dig That
September 27th, 2010
2:38 pm
Ared- I read you earlier and you say you are pretty tall. Does that automatically make taller guys attractive to you?
Blackfoote
September 27th, 2010
2:39 pm
@ AmazonRed: Looks like you are amazing with all this attention! Close to quitting time seems I will check back in tomorrow, nice to have acquinted yourself to me ARed. See we were right on topic because you called me out of the woodwork.
kimmie
September 27th, 2010
2:39 pm
Elijah – Wall Street 2 was good, but I think the first one was better! Both on my list of all-time favorites though!
CoolShadow
September 27th, 2010
2:39 pm
IMO, a woman always making the first move raises her chances of getting rotten dudes and really it’s just nice to have a man approach.
@It’s me… – I think you improve your chances by going after what intrigues you rather than waiting and hoping that it comes your way. And what women do you know that always approach when it comes to potential encounters? No matter who initiates there’ll still be the screening process to determine if the person’s worth your time.
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
2:40 pm
AmazonRed, that is even better. Maybe he will leave you some money
then you will have a nest egg while you look for your other dude. LOL
Melo, LOL you don’t think to highly of women except yours and that one lady in which the name you will not mention.
Elijah, LOL
It's me....lurker
September 27th, 2010
2:41 pm
Hello Elijah, my weekend was so so. How are you? How was your weekend?
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
2:42 pm
kimmie, is Wall Steer 2 good enough to go see or should I wait for Blu Ray?
AmazonRed™
September 27th, 2010
2:42 pm
Ared- I read you earlier and you say you are pretty tall. Does that automatically make taller guys attractive to you?
Absolutely. My challenge when I go out is to garner the attention of the tallest (non married) guy in the room. But the funny thing is…look at all the short or average women who say they love a tall man. Really, why do they need a man a whole FOOT taller? I’ve done it, it’s tough.
AmazonRed™
September 27th, 2010
2:43 pm
Simple Man she dropped you like a hot potato…LOL
That’s THREE!
AmazonRed™
September 27th, 2010
2:44 pm
@ AmazonRed: Looks like you are amazing with all this attention! Close to quitting time seems I will check back in tomorrow, nice to have acquinted yourself to me ARed. See we were right on topic because you called me out of the woodwork.
I’ll be here waiting!
Simple Man!!!!!
September 27th, 2010
2:44 pm
Damn Purp…I am hurt….The blog ladies got broken down and sad like an Anthony Hamilton CD ( as I wipe away my tears…) Anybody know the web address to thirsty-lonely singles.com?????
kimmie
September 27th, 2010
2:44 pm
Dig – I have mad skills at just being a people person. I laugh and strike up conversations with anyone, in line at the grocery store, walking down the street, whereever. I meet some cool people that way. I also give compliments to everyone. That includes fine men!
I also know when I’m giving off an “I don’t want to be bothered” vibe. Usually that’s when I’m preoccupied. But a club or a party is no place for that. I stay at home during those times and handle my business!
AmazonRed™
September 27th, 2010
2:44 pm
AmazonRed, that is even better. Maybe he will leave you some money then you will have a nest egg while you look for your other dude. LOL
He looks like one of those dogs with all the wrinkles.
SlimNumeroUno
September 27th, 2010
2:45 pm
‘Slim is only 5′6” but her CT is 5′8”’
Swiss – well I think due to my age, it is beginning to shrink. So now it’s actually 5′7.5″
White man
September 27th, 2010
2:45 pm
I LOVE taller women…However I am not opposed to shorter women either. Each has positives.
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
2:45 pm
Georgia has some strange laws, so the in order for the guy not to get executed he just tries and fails at killing himself? Save the tax payers some omeny and let the guy kill himself.
PrincessNik...CAM'S # 1 FAN
September 27th, 2010
2:46 pm
Really, why do they need a man a whole FOOT taller? I’ve done it, it’s tough
but Ared isn’t there just something about having a dude you look up to, literally
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
2:47 pm
kimmie, yes you handle your business well
AmazonRed, well you should pull a reverse “David Blaine” on him, that will work.
Kym
September 27th, 2010
2:47 pm
@Elijah..you out your damn mind that..joke is not even close to funny..Now Mike looks like Omar Epps brother..he looks nothing like the Curly Q…back up..back up..
AmazonRed™
September 27th, 2010
2:48 pm
but Ared isn’t there just something about having a dude you look up to, literally
Not a damn foot taller. Whiplash hurts.
Melo!
September 27th, 2010
2:48 pm
PR?
U right, don’t upgrade a woman. Let her actions upgrade her!
How you gon meet a woman/stranger and think/assume she is of
upright morals??
Only u, the man reserves the right to call her what you perceive. The same way they may call you a player or an upstanding dude.
2CPTG©
September 27th, 2010
2:48 pm
<~~~~ is shawt!!!!
kimmie
September 27th, 2010
2:49 pm
Purple – Put it this way – if you are one that goes to the movies alot, I say go see it. If you don’t or you could just take it or leave it, wait for blu-ray.
Wall Street 1 is one of my all-time favs and I’ve been looking forward to 2 ever since I heard Oliver Stone was working on it. Also, Michael Douglas is one of my favorite actors. I’m also into business-related stuff too.
PrincessNik...CAM'S # 1 FAN
September 27th, 2010
2:49 pm
Not a damn foot taller. Whiplash hurts
2CPTG©
September 27th, 2010
2:49 pm
<~~~~ and don't giv'a damn!!!!
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
2:51 pm
kimmie, thanks as long as it’s a good and not bad.
White man
September 27th, 2010
2:51 pm
PrincessNik – yeah but it hurts our neck to look down all of the time.
It's me....lurker
September 27th, 2010
2:51 pm
@Cool Shadow It’s me… – I think you improve your chances by going after what intrigues you rather than waiting and hoping that it comes your way. And what women do you know that always approach when it comes to potential encounters? No matter who initiates there’ll still be the screening process to determine if the person’s worth your time.
Maybe I’m wrong but I think we’re saying the same thing. What intrigues me is what causes me to strike up a conversation or make my interest known. Because I may be intrigued, I’m just one for poking and feeling around for reciprocated interest rather than walking up to you while you’re pumping gas and asking for you number.
And what women do you know that always approach when it comes to potential encounters? PLENTY
No matter who initiates there’ll still be the screening process to determine if the person’s worth your time.
Agreed, that’s a given. So I ask, what will men do if the women are doing it all?
Simple Man!!!!!
September 27th, 2010
2:51 pm
How the hell does this happen???? I know I took a shower this morning?? Blackfoote and I am’s mystery Biker Boy have my sitting on the bench like a scrub!!!! I know I am a first round draft pick!!!! Damnit!!! I want a recount! (or an Absolute martini)
SexyCool
September 27th, 2010
2:52 pm
But TOUCAN…you stand tall as a man, dude. You stand TALL!
For Real
September 27th, 2010
2:53 pm
What up blog fam….
I haven’t read any of the post but I will not let that stop me from speaking from a position of knowledge.
1. Men don’t try no mo – I’m calling BS on this one, cause chicks main reason for stating this is the actions of other chicks. So, if a chick is active she thirsty but if a chick sits back and waits she’s classy.
2. Women don’t like rejection – DUH! Who does? Stop being such a punk. If you see something you like do something about it. No dude is expecting a chick to hit them with some line like do you like dolphins.
3. Men are use to rejection – Since when?
AmazonRed™
September 27th, 2010
2:53 pm
*fixes Simple Man a martini*
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
2:54 pm
Simple Man, know your worth. Don;t let these women define you. Okay that sounded gay LOL
It's me....lurker
September 27th, 2010
2:54 pm
I have mad skills at just being a people person. I laugh and strike up conversations with anyone, in line at the grocery store, walking down the street, whereever. I meet some cool people that way. I also give compliments to everyone. That includes fine men!
Exactly…this is a much better approach. If you have people skills I think your chances are greater. If there’s some interest there it will happen in the natural flow of things. My daughter tells me mama you will strike a conversation with anybody.
Blackfoote
September 27th, 2010
2:54 pm
@ AmazonRed: Forgive me I spelleed acquainted wrong. My second grade teacher would tell me to hold my hand out for three good lashes.
kimmie
September 27th, 2010
2:54 pm
Purple – Yes, I enjoyed it! And seeing those shots of NYC and the traders looking at their computer monitors and other shots made it very compelling on the big screen.
In fact, it’s wild looking at the first one versus the sequel. Seeing how stuff like computer monitors and cell phones have changed since the late 80’s!
White man
September 27th, 2010
2:55 pm
So what does “thirsty” mean?
blue - ™
September 27th, 2010
2:55 pm
@Simple Man – while you sip on that martini, howd Fred do?
It's me....lurker
September 27th, 2010
2:56 pm
You know what thirsty means
White man
September 27th, 2010
2:56 pm
No i dont.
White man
September 27th, 2010
2:56 pm
No i dont.
Elijah ( Patience is a virtue)
September 27th, 2010
2:56 pm
@I am my I am doing very good and I had a good weekend….
You ladies are too funny willing to endure neck pain in order to date a taller guy…. Too funny!
@Melo all women who dress sexy are not H0es…Dude I have been to some social functions and seen some very sexy outfits I would not deem those women are loose just getting their dress on…
@Kym…. You know its true….Who’s your daddy The Bishop EL…..
White man
September 27th, 2010
2:56 pm
sounds like there is a underlying meaning.
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
2:56 pm
White Man, good question.
AmazonRed™
September 27th, 2010
2:57 pm
@ AmazonRed: Forgive me I spelleed acquainted wrong. My second grade teacher would tell me to hold my hand out for three good lashes.
I happen to have a whip over here….
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
2:57 pm
Thirsty means desperate from my interpretation
Blackfoote
September 27th, 2010
2:57 pm
@ Simple Man: Sup bro were’re on the same team my friend my tie matches with my suit today too.
2CPTG©
September 27th, 2010
2:58 pm
why thank you, Sexy!!!! ‘yeen just trynna stroke my ego, are you?
Simple Man!!!!!
September 27th, 2010
2:58 pm
blue…Me and Fred were cool till all of the blog ladies put me down and he started giving me that little “horsey” laugh…. I am glad he finds my misery funny…
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
2:58 pm
kimmie, even though AmazonRed has a whip you are the only women who can ever whip me.
White man
September 27th, 2010
2:58 pm
ok, i guess that makes sense.
kimmie
September 27th, 2010
2:58 pm
do you like dolphins?
4Real – So do you, like dolphins? I love them, they are so cute! But I bet you’re more a shark-man, aren’t you?
It's me....lurker
September 27th, 2010
2:58 pm
Elijah, you asked “It’s me….” not “I am…” but I can see getting the two mixed up
Blackfoote
September 27th, 2010
2:59 pm
OOOH Amazon: didn’t think i’d make you go out and get the whip, I will start mispelling everything from now on.
White man
September 27th, 2010
3:00 pm
Kimmie – I swam with the Dolphins about three weeks ago in Mexico.
White man
September 27th, 2010
3:00 pm
Kimmie – I swam with the Dolphins about three weeks ago in Mexico.
White man
September 27th, 2010
3:00 pm
Do any women out here actually like using whips? and things like that?
kimmie
September 27th, 2010
3:00 pm
Purple – Cool, as long as we understand each other!
Now, go sit down ova there!
AmazonRed™
September 27th, 2010
3:00 pm
OOOH Amazon: didn’t think i’d make you go out and get the whip, I will start mispelling everything from now on.
Melo!
September 27th, 2010
3:01 pm
A well dressed short. 5 foot woman is sexxy to look at.
They look sorry tho, when heavy with 6 to 8 months pregnancy. Kinda feel sad for them.
Simple Man!!!!!
September 27th, 2010
3:01 pm
White man …Hope you did not swim with THAT Dolphin…..
kimmie
September 27th, 2010
3:01 pm
White – I adore dolphins! I know that was an awesome experience. I hear they are very smart animals.
White man
September 27th, 2010
3:03 pm
I did….hahah
White man
September 27th, 2010
3:03 pm
Kimmie – they are very nice but their teeth are HUGE!
I am whatever you say I am
September 27th, 2010
3:03 pm
Dig that: Bootie calls are so 1990ish
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
3:04 pm
It’s me I Am blue from a SexyCool AmazonRed. The White Man ruined my CoolShadow now my Princess kimmie has changed her name to Kym and left this SimpleMan alone with nothing but a Slim chance. Who am I kidding, I am just going to use my Leggs and Melo out while acting like Elijah and Lurk…Pruple Rain…Purple Rain!
LOL
White man
September 27th, 2010
3:04 pm
Bootie calls are not 1990ish. They still happen very often.
Kym
September 27th, 2010
3:04 pm
@Elijiah..you know I am trying my best not to cuss a *((*() out..but if Bishop Drip Drop Jeri Curl is anybody Daddy..he is yours..I am sure your sugar britches would make him very happy.
For Real
September 27th, 2010
3:04 pm
Kimmie: “4Real – So do you, like dolphins? I love them, they are so cute!” – Welllllll that’s good to hear I just happen to own a dolphin. Would you like to see him and yes he is cute?
White man: I’m going to need you to be more specific about the dolphins you swim with before you start a riot.
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
3:05 pm
kimmie yes maam
2CPTG©
September 27th, 2010
3:06 pm
ain’t it sad when someone asks you what dept. do you work in, and you say I.T., they’re like,”huh”…..then you end up saying, the computer department……damn.
kimmie
September 27th, 2010
3:06 pm
4Real –
SlimNumeroUno
September 27th, 2010
3:06 pm
For Real – You didn’t tell us you went to Mexico about 3 weeks ago..? lol
White man
September 27th, 2010
3:07 pm
I have no idea what you are talking about. They are dolphins….you know the mammal.
White man
September 27th, 2010
3:08 pm
Slim – I was in Mexico about three weeks ago. not For real.
For Real
September 27th, 2010
3:08 pm
Dayum Elijiah must have said something about Kym’s son or the Steelers cause those are the only two things she cares about well those two things and black cake, and maybe not dating shawt men,
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
3:09 pm
I made that story up with everyone’s names and you all are talking about swimming with dolphins? LOL
I am whatever you say I am
September 27th, 2010
3:10 pm
LOL at 2C Simple Man: you were cool but hollering at all the blog women makes you look thirsty and you are one page away from being on Melo’s level. Not trying to be mean but I call it like I see it. It’s kinda like you having spinach between your teeth. Would you rather me ignore it and say you look good or hand you a napkin and say dude, you got spinach between your teeth.
Melo!
September 27th, 2010
3:10 pm
Elijah?
Not all women who dress sexy are hoes??
I agree.
Hoes don’t dress sexxy! They dress provocatively.
That’s a big difference.
A hoe dresses sparingly.it don’t have to be on Metropolitan. It could well be at the bar you hang out on the regular.
Kym
September 27th, 2010
3:10 pm
@For Real..LOL shut up!
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
3:11 pm
2CPTG, I bet it was a woman that said that. Was she tall or short?
I am whatever you say I am
September 27th, 2010
3:12 pm
random: I pay entirely too much for basic phone service
SexyCool
September 27th, 2010
3:12 pm
Toucan – naw, dude, just truth.
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
3:12 pm
I Am, let’s go “mental” you feel that? LOL
Melo!
September 27th, 2010
3:13 pm
@I am?
Me’ thirsty?
At least I don’t come to work with no draws! And in winter at that??
Now a woman doing that is not thirsty.
She needs a garden hose to cool those cobwebs!
SlimNumeroUno
September 27th, 2010
3:14 pm
White Man – I know you said YOU went to Mexico 3 weeks ago….but you also said you swam with the Dolphins…did they happen to be AA Dolphins by chance? (AA-African American)
Dig That
September 27th, 2010
3:14 pm
@I am- Booty calls never go out of style. Stay thirsty my friends. Lol
@Kym- Guess it’s clear that Steelers don’t even need old raping azz Ben.
2CPTG©
September 27th, 2010
3:14 pm
Purp, I get that from alotta folks….if I told ‘em what I did within the IT field….they’d shyt! so I keep it plain and simple.
blue - ™
September 27th, 2010
3:14 pm
@Simple Man – he does have an odd sense of humor….
@PR – I made that story up with everyone’s names and you all are talking about swimming with dolphins? lol, your story was def chuckle worthy, lol
White man
September 27th, 2010
3:15 pm
Slim….hahah no. Honestly I dont know what you are talking about.
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
3:16 pm
blue, thank you
White man
September 27th, 2010
3:17 pm
Ok guys I am out. Have a good night and talk to you all tomorrow.
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
3:17 pm
White Man, I don’t either but I am acting like I do with the whole dolphin thing.
2CPTG©
September 27th, 2010
3:18 pm
real talk, ‘preshate that Sexy….it’s one thing for a dude to beat to his own chest and elicit a response; but when someone else sees something, that’s what’s up!!!!
Leggs
September 27th, 2010
3:19 pm
@PR ~ great combination of blog names.
You guys better watch out for the dolphin…you might find yourself swimming with the wrong one!
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
3:21 pm
I Am if it’s winter and you do not have on any panties I will personally make sure that you do not get cold. LOL
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
3:21 pm
Leggs are you tall or short?
Breakingofdawn
September 27th, 2010
3:22 pm
Melo in GA if it’s 90 degress in November I think a skirt with no undies are allowed.
For Real
September 27th, 2010
3:22 pm
Slim: Don’t start none wont be none. You good and well that the AAD don’t swim up stream.
White man: Let it go…
Melo!
September 27th, 2010
3:24 pm
@2Can?
What SexxyCool talking about and your handling skills?
What does she know about how you handle business?
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
3:24 pm
Dolphin is his penis name. LOL
For Real
September 27th, 2010
3:24 pm
I am does wear panties in the winter time. For Real likes a cold cudda kat.
Dig That
September 27th, 2010
3:25 pm
I think a skirt with no undies are allowed.
@Breaking- no doubt.
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
3:25 pm
For Real and “Flipper” LOL flipper….flip her…LOL
For Real
September 27th, 2010
3:25 pm
PR: It ain’t right for you to be talking about another dudes wang and it dayum sho ain’t right to call it a penis.
I am whatever you say I am
September 27th, 2010
3:26 pm
okay let me clarify: texting about nothing and calling about nothing is the lamest way to initiate a booty call. not that I partake in booty calls (I prefer long term relationships that have substance) but if I were to partake , I would prefer a man not a preschooler like some of these dudes be acting and to come with it! Dude: Look I’m trying to hook up- you down? I’m attracted to the simplistic
2CPTG©
September 27th, 2010
3:26 pm
speakin of that’s what’s up…..
few weeks ago my babygirl, who’s only 13, came outside while I was chillin, and said, Da( that’s how she pronounces it!) I know what kinda car I want…I said, mama, you’re only 13, how do you know what kinda car you want? You’ll change your mind a million times before you turn 16…she said, no Da, I’m serious…I know what kind…I said, yeah? she said yep! I said, well, baby, if you already know what kind you want, then you know Daddy gon’ get it for you!!! She said, for real??? I mean excited like it was about to happen right then…she had this big ol smile on her face, and gave me a huge hug!
my point is, my babygirl displayed the faith we oughta have…you know that mustard seed and all…cause she was genuinely excited about her car…cause she knows if Daddy said it’s gon happen, it’s gon happen….
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
3:27 pm
As long as she is not on her monthly I would prefer no panties ever. Well maybe you should wear panties to church. LOL
Leggs
September 27th, 2010
3:27 pm
@PR ~ I’m average 5′6″
i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)
September 27th, 2010
3:27 pm
For Real
September 27th, 2010
3:28 pm
“Melo in GA if it’s 90 degress in November I think a skirt with no undies are allowed.” – For Real now turn Breaking’s thermostat to 90.
I am whatever you say I am
September 27th, 2010
3:28 pm
Random: Damn I pay a lot of bills!
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
3:29 pm
For Real, if at anytime I cross that line again please feel free to strike me in the chest with whatever you can reach to throw at me.
I Am, is that why I have not recieved a Sext from you?
Leggs
September 27th, 2010
3:30 pm
@2C ~ lil leggs would like you to adopt her!
Seriously, I had a similar convo but she looked at me sideways cuz although I said I’ll get her one, she knows it won’t be for another year (LOL).
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
3:31 pm
I Am, see it was supposed to be just a booty call now you are tying to get me to pay bills. LOL
SlimNumeroUno
September 27th, 2010
3:32 pm
swiss 3:27—->
You’re always clownin boyeeee. lol
Melo!
September 27th, 2010
3:32 pm
Breakofdawn??
3.22
As long as your squirt droppings don’t make a loud thud on your shoes when they drop!
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
3:34 pm
Is breakingofdawn a man or woman?
SlimNumeroUno
September 27th, 2010
3:35 pm
PRain – If 4Real can check you about his pet Dolphin, you should check him about using some of that Organic Facial Cream you gave me the other day.
Simple Man!!!!!
September 27th, 2010
3:35 pm
I am….I thought you knew….It was all about the blog fun until its wasn’t..I did not mean to step out of my lane
For Real
September 27th, 2010
3:35 pm
“I would prefer a man not a preschooler like some of these dudes be acting and to come with it!” – For Real now standing on I am’s desk bucket nekked with an eyepatch, a toe ring, some hot sauce, shelled pecans, and a plastic red bat. Lets Do This!!!
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
3:35 pm
So since my wife has been gone I have been watching shows that I do not normally view. I have been watching the ones on repossessing cars. If a car is in your garage they can’t come in their and repossess it?
For Real
September 27th, 2010
3:37 pm
Swiss: Funny as hell but you right that why you see so many big nose kids running scream eek, eek, ack, ack
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
3:37 pm
Slim, I tried to forget that. LOL He did indeed mess with your stash of my Organic Facial Cream I left you. LOL
For Real
September 27th, 2010
3:39 pm
For Real now cancelling Slim 8:20 earmuffintechtomy. Now Slim will never know the herbal effects of Earl Grey tea leaves on her CT.
blue - ™
September 27th, 2010
3:40 pm
For Real now standing on I am’s desk bucket nekked with an eyepatch, a toe ring, some hot sauce, shelled pecans, and a plastic red bat. Lets Do This!!!
priceless….lmao
For Real
September 27th, 2010
3:40 pm
Enter your comments here
Simple Man!!!!!
September 27th, 2010
3:41 pm
I am @ 3:28
“Damn I pay a lot of bills!”
Me too…..LOL
Breakingofdawn
September 27th, 2010
3:42 pm
I’m very much woman..
SlimNumeroUno
September 27th, 2010
3:42 pm
Slim now putting out a fresh ‘tester’ bottle of Organic Facial Cream by Purp Enterprises on her desk. Muuha ha ha ha (evil laugh)
I am whatever you say I am
September 27th, 2010
3:43 pm
PR: I sent you text
sextext. explicit ones if thatbut Melo, simple man, Leggs, and everyone else on the blog intercepted themAmazonRed™
September 27th, 2010
3:43 pm
Confusious says: “Better to pay bills, then to have garnished wages.”
I am whatever you say I am
September 27th, 2010
3:45 pm
Random: happy little dude is still napping so i can pay these bills and maybe get a work out in but I am sad he’s still coughing. Hopefully his cough medicine will
keep him knocked out a little longerhelp him get better in no time!I am whatever you say I am
September 27th, 2010
3:45 pm
True dat Ared!
Leggs
September 27th, 2010
3:45 pm
Why aren’t more women approaching men? This is funny, esp. after reading the many comments of the men!
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
3:46 pm
AmazonRed, LOL
breakingofdawn, that is fine with me. I think you should ont wear pantied in anything warmer than 35 degrees celsius
I Am, just go ahead and email them to me next time.
Slim let me know if you need refills, I am pretty backed up.
SexyCool
September 27th, 2010
3:46 pm
Melo – Me and Toucan are like family. We go way back, down like fo’ flats.
I am whatever you say I am
September 27th, 2010
3:46 pm
Blue: you lost me with your 3:40
Dig That
September 27th, 2010
3:46 pm
@blue- Now that was funny
DreamsMaterialize
September 27th, 2010
3:47 pm
So, booty calls are out of style? I think 98% of guys missed this memo. lol Guess it’s time to re-brand…start calling them Twilight Solicitations.
I am whatever you say I am
September 27th, 2010
3:47 pm
My son is up
dammit!Leggs
September 27th, 2010
3:47 pm
@PR, if it’s in your driveway with a garbage can in front of it they can’t come get it.
Melo!
September 27th, 2010
3:48 pm
PR?
Reading breakofdawn’s 3.22, you thought she could be a panty wearing transvestite?
U funny!
Breakingofdawn
September 27th, 2010
3:48 pm
PR, I am due to be in Mpls,MN in Nov or Dec as I’m sure it will be very very cold. I will try to see if I can go without undies.
I am whatever you say I am
September 27th, 2010
3:48 pm
I like that! Twilight solicitations.
PrincessNik...CAM'S # 1 FAN
September 27th, 2010
3:48 pm
Twilight Solicitations
DreamsM something about “Solicitations” makes it sound illegal
i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)
September 27th, 2010
3:48 pm
“Guess it’s time to re-brand…start calling them Twilight Solicitations.”
Or Afternoon Delight, depending on the timing…
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
3:49 pm
Leggs, I think this show is scripted. The antics are hilarious.
Dig That
September 27th, 2010
3:50 pm
@Dreams- Let’s go back to booty calls. Twilight Solicitations sounds like somebody bout to get in trouble.
PrincessNik...CAM'S # 1 FAN
September 27th, 2010
3:50 pm
Cee-lo
are you watching operation repo?
i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)
September 27th, 2010
3:50 pm
Now I’ve got that song in my head…
Skyyyyyyyyrockets in flight…
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
3:51 pm
Melo, LOL
breakingofdawn. I will be living back there by then
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
3:51 pm
Princess, yes. This show is crazy.
i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)
September 27th, 2010
3:52 pm
AAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHH Afternoon Delight
Leggs
September 27th, 2010
3:52 pm
And “Twilight Solicitations” definitely lets you know you’re an afterthought….
PrincessNik...CAM'S # 1 FAN
September 27th, 2010
3:53 pm
Cee-lo i think they are re-enacting cases that actually happened but this isn’t the “original” if that makes sense check out the credits they say something to that effect…….
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
3:53 pm
skkky rockets in flight…afternoon delight afternoon delight
Melo!
September 27th, 2010
3:53 pm
SexxyCl?
Ok!
Leggs
September 27th, 2010
3:54 pm
no more pretending…twilight solicitations….the writing is on the wall! If you care not to see due to all the skeeting, it’s on you like donkey kong!!!
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
3:54 pm
Princess I have switched to Man v Food. I think I am about to head out soon to catch a movie and eat some sushi
I am whatever you say I am
September 27th, 2010
3:54 pm
Swiss! I was thinking of the same song!!!!!
SlimNumeroUno
September 27th, 2010
3:55 pm
Is the term Night Cap equivalent to Twilight Solicitations?
I am whatever you say I am
September 27th, 2010
3:56 pm
“……Princess I have switched to Man v Food. I think I am about to head out soon to catch a movie and eat some sushi……………..” uh Purple: you saying you are about to eat some sushi somehow does not sound right to me in this sentence
It's me....lurker
September 27th, 2010
3:56 pm
Why aren’t more women approaching men? This is funny, esp. after reading the many comments of the men!
My point exactly. People will say one thing and have you heading to hell but then turn around and look at you sideways for doing what they suggested. Always go with whatever folks actions consistantly show…not what they say. Too, there’s less of an “idiot” factor when you ain’t walking around picking up dudes cause they cute or fine.
i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)
September 27th, 2010
3:56 pm
“Is the term Night Cap equivalent to Twilight Solicitations?”
I thought it was “night tap“
blue - ™
September 27th, 2010
3:58 pm
when did hostess start making lemon fruit pies? i wanted an apple pie and all they have is lemon???
Simple Man!!!!!
September 27th, 2010
3:58 pm
“I thought it was “night tap“”
LOL…That gets my vote!!!
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
3:59 pm
I Am, LOL. How about I am about to head into the city to hang out and eat some sushi?
Breakingofdawn
September 27th, 2010
3:59 pm
PR, I was thinking of going there for a little while. But I’m over winter, I love to visit and shop though. I will be staying at the….in Edina.
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
4:00 pm
Night Tap
For Real
September 27th, 2010
4:02 pm
It’s me: “Too, there’s less of an “idiot” factor when you ain’t walking around picking up dudes cause they cute or fine.” – So are you saying the women men pick up cause they are cute or fine are “idiots”?
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
4:02 pm
Breaking off of Wayzata in Golden Valley?
Melo!
September 27th, 2010
4:02 pm
Swiss?
Night tap?
I prefer morning desire or breakofdawn!
It's me....lurker
September 27th, 2010
4:04 pm
So are you saying the women men pick up cause they are cute or fine are “idiots”?
Know you know I had to laugh at you putting a spin on what I said right? No.
blue - ™
September 27th, 2010
4:04 pm
d@mn whoever brought up afternoon delight…got the d@mn song stuck in my head now….
DreamsMaterialize
September 27th, 2010
4:05 pm
I like that! Twilight solicitations.
I am Glad I could be of assistance. See how I come through in a clutch? lol
DreamsM something about “Solicitations” makes it sound illegal
Princess Awww cmon now, it HAS to sound a lil bit naughty. Otherwise we might as well just call it Consensual Sex. See, that sounds real boring right? lol
Or Afternoon Delight, depending on the timing…
swiss hey whatever makes is more palatable for the women. haha
slim Night Cap works for me. Casual Cut, Impromptu Indulgences, Itch Scratching Session, Therapy…whatever. lol
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
4:07 pm
There should be a Sushi delivery place
Breakingofdawn
September 27th, 2010
4:08 pm
PR closer to the Gallaria. I thought GV was north of the city, maybe?
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
4:09 pm
night cap, afternoon delight etc.
I am calling my booty calls “Randomn Nut” or “Making Cream Pies”
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
4:10 pm
Breakingofdawn, yo uare right I was thinking from home and not the city
Simple Man!!!!!
September 27th, 2010
4:13 pm
Purple Rain “There should be a Sushi delivery place”
I know of one…you want her number????
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
4:14 pm
Simple Man, NO! (slide me her number) I am watching the game at a stip club downtown tonight with some friends
Leggs
September 27th, 2010
4:15 pm
@SimpleMan ~ sorry, but had to laugh at your comeback on Sushi delivery….that was funny!
SlimNumeroUno
September 27th, 2010
4:15 pm
Booty Exchanges
Nasty Nites
Me licky you, You licky me
Late Lustin & Bustin
Purp – do you REALLY think you’d want delivered sushi?
Gives me the BG’s just thinking about it (bubble guts)
Melo!
September 27th, 2010
4:16 pm
Why do I have a headache when I’m horny?
Why do my leggs turn red?
And why is it that when I am horny every woman seems beautiful and sexxy?
Why do females like to cuddle after sex?
Breakingofdawn
September 27th, 2010
4:16 pm
I like sushi train places. I haven’t visited a city in the States that has one. They are the best. You pay by the color of plate, each color plate has something different on it ranging from 1 to 4 pieces of sushi. It’s always fresh and you never know what’s coming around the corner you want to try.
SlimNumeroUno
September 27th, 2010
4:18 pm
Late Night Lower Loving
I am whatever you say I am
September 27th, 2010
4:18 pm
I’m potty training my son and everytime he goes in the pot, I give him a sticker. My child is smart. LOL: he makes himself go so that he can cash in on extra stickers, LOL!
Breakingofdawn
September 27th, 2010
4:19 pm
Melo sex cures headaches..proven. Legs turning red? Your horny that’s why they ALL look good. I want no part in cuddling. You’ve done your job now let me lay on my stomach and go to sleep.
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
4:20 pm
Sushi Train, that sounds good
Slim, the place would have to be reputable. I am just being a bum and pouty today. I am sick of having to fend for myself she needs to come back home, LOL I have been spoiled since I have been married. She was gone for a week came home for the weekend and is gone until thursday morning. LOL
DreamsMaterialize
September 27th, 2010
4:20 pm
Booty Exchanges
Nasty Nites
Me licky you, You licky me
Late Lustin & Bustin
Slim the idea was to make booty calls seem innocuous. you went the other direction. lol
Simple Man!!!!!
September 27th, 2010
4:21 pm
Breakingofdawn
September 27th, 2010
4:16 pm
WOW…There are soooooo many ways to go on this one, I just don’t know where to start!!!
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
4:21 pm
breaking, laying on your stomach will get another round started
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
4:22 pm
I have typed the same message three times no luck
Breakingofdawn
September 27th, 2010
4:23 pm
Exactly!
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
4:23 pm
Sushi Train
Melo!
September 27th, 2010
4:23 pm
PR?
Cudlling is a possessive move!
You agree!
Most women want to cuddle you/ claim you all because you lay!
They want reassurance. LOL
Simple Man!!!!!
September 27th, 2010
4:23 pm
Breakingofdawn @ 4:19
“let me lay on my stomach and go to sleep.”
Dude is laying next to you, still semi-hard….
Are you REALLY sure you want to lay on you stomach, Bare azz naked and drift off to sleep??????
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
4:24 pm
breaking, lol got it. If you are laying there on your stomach I will start kissing and nibbling on the back of her thighs and butt
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
4:26 pm
Melo, LOL everyone does not get the cuddle. If she does a job well done, I will cuddle with her. If I had a sweatfest she needs to go fix me something to eat and drink then lay her head on my thigh and just play with “me” and marvel at “it” as an act of apreciation for the joy I just gave her
blue - ™
September 27th, 2010
4:26 pm
@melo – i think that whole cuddling thing depends on where yall are in your relationship….just like everything has its ups and downs…
things are still new – lets cuddle
not so new or we’re not getting along – cuddle, maybe, but keep it brief
and been together a long while – as BOD said “You’ve done your job now let me lay on my stomach and go to sleep” (BOD – LMAO)
SlimNumeroUno
September 27th, 2010
4:29 pm
‘the idea was to make booty calls seem innocuous. you went the other direction’
Dreams – Oh
How about Comehereiwannalayya?
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
4:29 pm
I honestly dont sleep well unless I am cuddled up with my wife, she literally just lays completely on top of me and thats how we sleep. I hug the heck out of my pillow when she is not here
Breakingofdawn
September 27th, 2010
4:31 pm
I don’t care it’s impossible to find the right nook on a man’s body to sleep on my stomach. And if at all he put in some good work, he should put me to sleep right away. If I get woke up on then that’s on me. If he lets me get a good nap, the coming rounds might last a lot longer for him. It’s all about give and take(snatch).
Ok let me get of this office so I can prepare for the game tonight. I’m so thankful for Monday Night Football.
Elijah ( Patience is a virtue)
September 27th, 2010
4:33 pm
@Kym ….Stanley Steamer might have peg you right….You may want to order those cats right now…You must be in the words of Melo full of angst….. In the words of For Real here’s something to dream about tonight just think of me as Dennis Dixon Zipppppppp
Simple Man!!!!!
September 27th, 2010
4:33 pm
Breakingofdawn
September 27th, 2010
4:31 pm
Where are you watching the game at tonight???
blue - ™
September 27th, 2010
4:34 pm
@PR – i remember those days, sigh, lol…that was back when we slept so tied together that sharing a twin for a nite or two was fine…now im siding with my aunt who claims the king size bed she and my uncle bought saved their marriage: you can cuddle when you want, and on nights when his stubble/beard is just too ichy on the back of your neck you can roll away easy…lol
I am whatever you say I am
September 27th, 2010
4:34 pm
I am done paying my bills. I am broooooooooooooooookkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkeeeeeeeeeeeee!
Melo!
September 27th, 2010
4:34 pm
Blue/PR/Dawn?
I’m with PR.
If I’m feeling the sweetness of the luv and also want an encore, Iam cuddling.
If I was just fulfilling a horny angst to nut, I’m turning ang giving you my back to go to sleep.
Don’t bother me’!!!
I am whatever you say I am
September 27th, 2010
4:35 pm
Purple talking about his girl: *sniff* i miss being in a relationship
SlimNumeroUno
September 27th, 2010
4:36 pm
I think I heard somewhere that sex releases some sort of ‘bonding’ chemical, probably more so in females than males….hence the pillow talk afterwards basking in the euphoric state of bliss. But I could also just be making that up. lol
Somebody done went and burnt the hell out of a bag of popcorn. BLECH!
Grace
September 27th, 2010
4:37 pm
she literally just lays completely on top of me and thats how we sleep. —-that has to be so uncomfortable @ PR
Simple Man!!!!!
September 27th, 2010
4:38 pm
I am @ 4:35
*sniff, sniff, sniff……. You trying to settle down???
Melo!
September 27th, 2010
4:39 pm
I have also felt guilty after nutting on her
using herI had to leave quickly in those circumstances!
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
4:40 pm
Grace it’s uncomfortable when she is not. It’s very comfortable,I’m a big guy she is a little lady we fit. and she has some nice cushions on her chest
I Am, she was gone last week came home for the weekend and is gone again until midweek. LOL so I just hold onto the pillow.
I am whatever you say I am
September 27th, 2010
4:41 pm
i just paid a bill before it hit my mailbox. Can I get a $20 off
I am whatever you say I am
September 27th, 2010
4:42 pm
Simple MAn: Why wouldn’t I be?
blue - ™
September 27th, 2010
4:43 pm
@melo – dont get me wrong, i love to cuddle…sometimes tho, i do still need some space to sleep unimpeded, lol…idk most couples i know who have been together extended periods say its the same, the need to be on top of each other like that wanes with time…
Melo!
September 27th, 2010
4:47 pm
Blue?
When Mr blue comes home after an extended absence do you ride each other real bad,adnoseaum?
SlimNumeroUno
September 27th, 2010
4:48 pm
It’s nice to cuddle but not necessarily all night for me…bc eventually i’m going to roll over on my stomach and face whichever side of the bed i’m on. However, I do tend to tuck my hand closes to person i’m with, up under them or just have my hand on them period. I’m known to tuck my hands just inside the elastic of their boxer briefs if they are wearing any.
Simple Man!!!!!
September 27th, 2010
4:48 pm
I am, I have learned to never assume anything…..Now you are all the way on top of your game and most likly have guys lining up to try and win your favor. I am sure that with the siple stroke of your blackberry of a touch of your Iphone you could have a gaggle of dudes standing out front, in single file line ready to go half on those bills if you desired…
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
4:49 pm
a presto
blue - ™
September 27th, 2010
4:50 pm
@melo – he!! yeah, riding till the break of dawn…we’ve been together for forever, but we aint DEAD…lmao
Melo!
September 27th, 2010
4:54 pm
Slim?
U so possessive?!
never known a chic to hold it all nite like that!
Jesus!
Purple Rain
September 27th, 2010
4:58 pm
It is raining to hard I am not going anywhere, this city living is making me soft..not going out in the rain and stuff LOL
blue - ™
September 27th, 2010
4:59 pm
from Leggs:
Life is short, Break the rules, Forgive quickly, Kiss slowly, Love truly, Laugh uncontrollably, And never regret anything that made you smile…
SlimNumeroUno
September 27th, 2010
5:01 pm
‘never known a chic to hold it all nite like that!’
Melo – maybe you’ve never known of that bc obviously it isn’t standing at attention throughout the night. So if your lil debbie still isn’t of significant size, there wouldn’t be anything to hold onto.
GOOD NIGHT ALL
It's me....lurker
September 27th, 2010
5:02 pm
It’s very comfortable,I’m a big guy she is a little lady we fit. and she has some nice cushions on her chest
Ummm, what happens if you want to flip over on your back and just change up. I would imagine if you’re 6′6 that it gets heavy laying in one position all night. Sometimes I flip a hundred times before the sun rises..
It's me....lurker
September 27th, 2010
5:02 pm
Life is short, Break the rules, Forgive quickly, Kiss slowly, Love truly, Laugh uncontrollably, And never regret anything that made you smile…
I have a copy of this on my wall
Melo!
September 27th, 2010
5:06 pm
Slim dissing mine?
U very flexible, I see!
I am whatever you say I am
September 27th, 2010
5:18 pm
Simple Man: it’s nice you feel that way. thank you. Guys lined up at more door -true. Guys lined up my door that want a relationship: not so much true. Guys lined up at my door that want to get married: very much untrue. Any women can find any guy but not any woman can readily find the right guy to settle down with.
I am whatever you say I am
September 27th, 2010
5:18 pm
typo: too many typos and grammatical errors to correct
Simple Man!!!!!
September 27th, 2010
5:21 pm
I am *** Hit me up…..
Simple Man!!!!!
September 27th, 2010
6:15 pm
Hmmmmm….10 after six and everyone is gone…..Its about to rain like hell and I am still sitting in the office thinking about the days blog comments….Maybe it would be nice to have someone to go home to….A wife, a couple of children, maybe a dog…..But she has to be cute so my kids won’t be ugly..LOL and fine…..and can cook like me…..and is not afraid to put her hand in the waiste band of my boxer briefs…
One day…..Maybe….. But today….Tonight….She just needs to be game…
and mobile …
and flexible……
?????
September 27th, 2010
7:45 pm
check out this ‘Alabama Black Snake’ in my speedo’s !!!!!!!!!!!!
Bren Herrera
September 28th, 2010
9:35 am
my best friend and i were just having this conversation on Sunday night! He thinkd we ladies are missing out by NOT taking initiative and asking by; hence allowing the men to choose us. We’re going out with the men that approach us. I kind of agree with him. There are plenty of men I’ve seen that I would not mind getting to know at least his name, and I’d never know his potential if I didn’t at least introduce myself. If he’s not interested, then hey, keep it moving… they do it all the time. Why should we keep sleeping on ourselves!