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First Loves

Facebook has managed to reconnect me with my college boyfriend.  Ahh the memories of all the firsts we shared.  He’s actually still single and living in New Jersey! We exchanged phone numbers and it is cool to see that he is doing well.

There is always a special place in your heart for the first love.  They teach you so much and in some cases, they are the measuring stick by which all future loves are measured.  Do you have a first love that you would like to catch up to?

What would you want to find out?

Do you remember your first love?  Do you think they set the course of your romantic life? If so, in a good way or a bad one?

Happy Friday!

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kimmie

September 24th, 2010
10:13 am

2C – I don’t go to my high school reunions, but I have a few friends that do and they show me pictures. I saw the ones from our 10 year, which would make the ages of errbody about 27 or 28. Dang, most of the folks considered HOT back then looked like they aged at least 20 years instead of 10. There was this one dude that reminded you of Christopher Williams and all the girls liked him. He looked bad, like an overweight prune, with red eyes. They say he was hitting drugs really bad.

Most of those “all that” folks didn’t give me the time of day in high school. I feel bad for them, but have no reason to reconnect with any of them.

AmazonRed™

September 24th, 2010
10:14 am

Must have been a cool dude to have made that kind of impression on you and even luckier to have had teh chance to do so….

Ha. Thanks Simple Man. As far as “first loves” go, I got very lucky. If love were enough, we might have worked. We were just too different and too young to work through the differences maturely.

Leggs

September 24th, 2010
10:18 am

@ARed ~ nothing much. Pretty sure I’m cutting out earlier than 5:00 so would like you to leave the end of the day quote! Thank you, ma’am!

AmazonRed™

September 24th, 2010
10:20 am

Ha ha…ok Leggs.

SexyCool

September 24th, 2010
10:20 am

Simple Man!!!!

September 24th, 2010
10:21 am

AmazonRed™

September 24th, 2010
10:14 am

I feel ya…To this day a part of me aches for my first love… But as it were…She made a choice way back then that shattered me. I have recovered and know that I will able to commit but for along time…I was emotionally worthless…

White man

September 24th, 2010
10:24 am

Isnt this called “stalking” now?

White man

September 24th, 2010
10:27 am

Everyone leave?

AmazonRed™

September 24th, 2010
10:27 am

@Simple Man – I don’t miss or want my first love by any means. I’ve since gone on to have loves that may not have been as intense, but were more closely aligned to who I am. It’s just fond memories of him at his point, no aches.

I’m so sorry about what happened to you and your first love. Stuff like that takes forever to move on from and def sets the tone for the future.

Raqi

September 24th, 2010
10:29 am

I remember my first love very well. I married him. He would be so proud of his son right now. I don’t miss him because I have moved on to a place where I now experience love and commitment on a much deeper and brilliant plane than back then. But I do appreciate him for the beginning that he gave me. May he Rest In Peace.

Delvin

September 24th, 2010
10:29 am

I actually had an opportunity to see my first love after many years. Course, I’m still shell shocked about that online dating deal. I declined fearing she might show up dressed as a bull dyke.

White man

September 24th, 2010
10:31 am

Raqi…..ouch

Raqi

September 24th, 2010
10:33 am

White man, OUCH? Why?

czBrat

September 24th, 2010
10:34 am

HiYas!

not much i can input on today’s topic cuz i’ve never really been one to look back. as far as i know my first crush has had lots of hardship in his life. and of course my first love (ex-hub) is still a bonafide jackazz :mad:

but i’m luvin the warm and tender stories today. keep ‘em comin!

blue - ™

September 24th, 2010
10:34 am

@PR – 948: i know what you mean…we have times where we talk everyday…and times where things have gotten too, lets say questionable, and needed to back off. i guess its all about making sure youkeep your wits about you, lol
@ARed – i think that too young thing contributes to a lot of failed first loves. with us it was something simple i was too young to get. one of the biggest contributors to our split was him saying he couldnt see himself married with kids and me knowing i wanted that. now that im older i see that as simply a young person being just that, young…but then it hurt like he!!

kimmie

September 24th, 2010
10:36 am

I tell you one HS reconnection I made that I am grateful for – my HAIR STYLIST!

I noticed every time my niece came home from college and got her hair done, it always looked so great. I asked her where she went and she gave me the number to the salon and said to ask for “Malinda”. I did and made an appointment. The voice on the phone sounded familiar. Imagine my surprise when “Malinda” turned out to be a lady I went to high school with and she owned the salon! She was always cool and still looks the same.

She hooked a sister UP last night! She always keeps me looking FLY! :)

Sassy Me...Disco Lady :-)

September 24th, 2010
10:36 am

I’ve ran into my first love via fb and nothing major happened…we met up and talked but that’s pretty much where it ended. If it’s over then that’s how I leave it…never back tracked b/c if you’re my ex then you’re that for a reason. Plain and simple.

Sassy Me...Disco Lady :-)

September 24th, 2010
10:39 am

blue…Fred says that young lady from the strip club is stalking him….

Sheryl

September 24th, 2010
10:39 am

First loves are awesome. I had my first love at 16 and he was my first boyfriend at 17. We broke up a year later and were reconnected 13 years later. Now we are married (2 years) and recently had our first child together. We still marvel at the fact that we ended up together! God is Awesome!

Purple Rain

September 24th, 2010
10:39 am

Amazon, you are correct. It was very recent, LOL. The particulars. I told you all I started a FB account against my better judgement and then deleted it. :) (remember that) Well, I also said there was a girl from high school who asked me why I never tried to have sex with her back then etc. She did not say it like a wh0re would but she was asking because we did a lot of fondling and fingering just never had sex. Anyway I deleted my FB account but we had other ways of getting in contact with each other. She came through Atlanta and ummm…….we did not consumate the meeting but I sure felt bad after seeing her. So now I just ignore her.

2CPTG©

September 24th, 2010
10:39 am

Kimmie, I feel ya on the HS reunions…..I thank Mother Nature that I’ve aged gracefully…folks tell me I still look the same…’cept for the salt and pepper in the goatee….no drugs (weed don’t count!), or heavy drinking; stayed in shape, so I’m ghud!!!!

i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)

September 24th, 2010
10:42 am

Purple — See now, that could be a whole day’s topic: A brush with side-pdu$$y. Infidelity Near-Misses. :lol:

AmazonRed™

September 24th, 2010
10:43 am

@Purple Rain – Thanks for answering. We all fall victim to curiousity sometimes, I can’t knock you for that. I’m really happy that you got out before doing something that could derail your marriage. Even if your wife never found out, it’s never good to have those types of secrets in your psyche…

Runda Popo

September 24th, 2010
10:43 am

My first love was a young lady I met while I was in the Army and stationed in the mid west. I was only 17 years old when I joined the service during the Vietnam era. I had a lot to learn and I must say she taught me many things.I haven’t thought about her being a benchmark of future relationships until today but I guess that’s true. Almost 40 years have passed and I am happily married with children but I still think of her. I don’t think we ever forget our first love. Very fond memories.

blue - ™

September 24th, 2010
10:45 am

@Sassy – really..stalker eh…you think he’s telling the truth or is that the RedBull talking?

i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)

September 24th, 2010
10:48 am

kimmie / 2Can — Did you 2 grow up in small towns, by any chance? I have this theory that small town folk age must faster than city folk. People I graduated with now look like they could be my parents. I think it’s because when you stay in a small town, once you graduate HS, all that’s left is just waiting to die… :lol:

White man

September 24th, 2010
10:48 am

Thank God it is Friday!

Sassy Me...Disco Lady :-)

September 24th, 2010
10:49 am

you think he’s telling the truth or is that the RedBull talking?

Probably the Red Bull….he did seem a lil jittery and kept looking from side to side like Pookie n dem…

SexyCool

September 24th, 2010
10:49 am

I never really lost touch with my *first love*. We still talk on the phone at least once every three months or so.

He is still a small time boy at heart, with small dreams and a fairly sheltered life (which there is nothing at all wrong with that because he’s happy) and considering that, I’m glad that friendship is what ended up being in the cards for us.

Melo!

September 24th, 2010
10:50 am

@Ladies?

When Rod Stewart said the first cut(virginity hymen break?) is the deepest does that sound true??

Coz most of u seem to fondly remember that dude!

If so them I’m about to unzip ang give Jnr his props!

No wonder my ear is always ringing! :lol:

Those 3 girls whose DNA I ran with!

ice

September 24th, 2010
10:50 am

@ Dreams ice then what’s the point of it all then. why not just have FWB’s?

Dont do “fwb”, Im sure Im not the only one that feels this way. I have committed relationships, just wont be falling in you

LURKER-1

September 24th, 2010
10:51 am

PR, I though you said your wife reads this blog

SexyCool

September 24th, 2010
10:53 am

Melo – First LOVE and First LOVER aren’t necessarily the same two people.

White man

September 24th, 2010
10:54 am

what is FWB?

White man

September 24th, 2010
10:54 am

SexyCool, very good point.

kimmie

September 24th, 2010
10:55 am

Swiss – Nope, I’m a native ATLian! But the HS I attended was out of my area and a lot of the students came from lower income areas and did not go to college. So alot got caught up in the rougher ATL scene. But I agree with you about the small town mentality. For many that stay there is nothing much to do after work but drink. That lifestyle ages you.

See, my hair stylist didn’t get caught up in all that. She’s active and running a business, stays in good shape, eats well and drives a hot Mercedes convertible. And she got preggers while we were in HS. She raised her son, he’s doing well. She’s done well for herself.

SexyCool

September 24th, 2010
10:57 am

Speaking of high school reunions…my 20th is next week. Since it always coincides with homecoming, I’m going down for the parade and the football game, but am not staying for the party Saturday night.

ALTHOUGH……………….Since half of my high school class is on FB, there is almost no point in going. I already know who’s fat, who’s aged bad, who has kids, who has grandkids, who’s successful, who’s dead, who still looks the same….and so on…

SlimNumeroUno

September 24th, 2010
10:58 am

Question: Have any of you felt as strongly with anyone else since your first love? And do you think that a first love is equivalent to a first high in that after the first high, you’ll spend the rest of your life chasing that initial feeling?…or is it possible to have many great ‘first loves’?

2CPTG©

September 24th, 2010
10:58 am

Swiss, wouldn’t necessarily call it a small town…not Atlanta size, but no Mayberry either…grew up 50 miles south of Tampa, Fl; in Sarasota…

kimmie

September 24th, 2010
10:59 am

Swiss – Why am I now singing that Bruce Springsteen song Small Town in my head? :)

Melo!

September 24th, 2010
11:00 am

@Scool?

I get.
So u don’t care nor think as much for jokker who first boned u and made u ouch,! as u went home with a lil soreness and wide
leggs?
U pine more fore the one who broke your heart?

Purple Rain

September 24th, 2010
11:00 am

Lurker, she has no idea who PR is and I told her what I did anyway, well I told her “guess who I ran into”

Swiss, near misses can make you curious in a bad way. LOL

AmazonRed, you are right, I felt real bad. Live and learned.

SexyCool

September 24th, 2010
11:02 am

SlimGoody – What is the equivalent of the high of the first love is having someone worthy of the love that you know understand the power of and having that person love you on the same level in return.

It’s like John.Legend says “My shoes are scraping the sky.”

kimmie

September 24th, 2010
11:05 am

Slim – That’s a very good question. I’ve talked about this with my friends before.

I feel kinda like Raqi on this. My first IN LOVE experience was a high like no other. When it ended I was heartbroken. The crash was painful. Somehow I knew I would never feel that way again about another man. That made me sort of sad. But now that I’m older I understand better. I don’t go into relationships expecting to feel that same high anymore. The love I have now is a much more mature, sustaining love.

So while it was wonderful, that first love, I don’t know if I would want that deperate, almost-can’t-breathe, out-of-control feeling again. Maybe it’s the control freak in me, I don’t know!LOL!!

Mo (aka Moeisha )

September 24th, 2010
11:05 am

SexyCool – co-signing that 10:53, lol! Major difference!

Leggs

September 24th, 2010
11:06 am

Off topic ~ for those of you I haven’t asked to leave an end of day quote, please let me know so I can give you all a chance. Tks!

@Melo ~ perhaps you’re right, but he didn’t break my heart. The spelling bee guy was a bit miffed when I broke it off with him. Mr. Good Humor was good while it lasted.

i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)

September 24th, 2010
11:06 am

“Why am I now singing that Bruce Springsteen song Small Town in my head?”

Now kimmie, I know we all look alike, but that was John Cougar Mellencamp… Gotta keep your whiteboys straight… :lol:

i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)

September 24th, 2010
11:08 am

Bruce Springsteen had “Glory Days” — another good tune… ;-)

Purple Rain

September 24th, 2010
11:08 am

AmazonRed™

September 24th, 2010
11:09 am

Have any of you felt as strongly with anyone else since your first love?

Absolutely.