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First Loves

Facebook has managed to reconnect me with my college boyfriend.  Ahh the memories of all the firsts we shared.  He’s actually still single and living in New Jersey! We exchanged phone numbers and it is cool to see that he is doing well.

There is always a special place in your heart for the first love.  They teach you so much and in some cases, they are the measuring stick by which all future loves are measured.  Do you have a first love that you would like to catch up to?

What would you want to find out?

Do you remember your first love?  Do you think they set the course of your romantic life? If so, in a good way or a bad one?

Happy Friday!

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I am whatever you say I am

September 24th, 2010
8:08 am

<—-turns on lights…looks around……
Dang it!!! Simple Man you left the coffee machine on!!! Ugh!!
<—-proceeds to make new pot
um….why are there boxer shorts in the cabinet where there is supposed to be coffee???

I am whatever you say I am

September 24th, 2010
8:11 am

I have a first love that will alsways have a special place in my heart.
I would love to hear from him, I saw him on facebook…he deleted his account and his brother and I are friends on facebook.
I’m not a homewrecker-he’s married, but I would just like to say hi and see how he’s doing since I found out he lives in the “A”. I haven’t seen him in person since I was 18.
We are both from up north.
I heard he’s been thru some rough times and I wish him the best and just want him to keep his head up.

Simple Man!!!!

September 24th, 2010
8:19 am

Morning Dear…. At work early today, huh????

Simple Man!!!!

September 24th, 2010
8:23 am

On topic..Its been about 25 years and since when have some of the same friends, on those occasions when we happen to share the same space, my heart still skips a beat….In a perfect world, I would be able to act on that , but its not and I can’t ……

Kym

September 24th, 2010
8:29 am

Good Morning All,

Thanks to Facebook I was able to reconnect with my first crush., high school boyfriend, I am also connected to two of the men who were loves of my life and I was able to view the profile of the guy I lost my virginity too..(yeah I am not trying to see him). I think out of all of the guys only one I would love to spend more time reconnecting. Because I felt we always clicked not just as friends but as lovers as well…but alas..it is not meant to be.

Simple Man!!!!

September 24th, 2010
8:32 am

Morning Kym….How are you today???

2CPTG©

September 24th, 2010
8:34 am

g’morning….

I’ve reconnected with all of my old flames….ain’t trynna re-connect, though…however, I do look at some of ‘em, and be like damn, she still got it! Others, it’s more like, damn, you don’ blew up!

I tell you what, FaceBook wreckin alotta homes; some folks out there reconnectin for real.

Dirty Diana ♠ Going Green, one fish, two fish, red fish, blue fish

September 24th, 2010
8:37 am

Hola!

This topic makes me think of that Vivian Green song:


“Sweet Memory (Beautifully Young)”

It such a sweet memory
Baby of you and me
And how we used to beautifully young
Sometimes I just sit and smile
Thinkin about ya for a while
Wondering how ya doin now
It such a sweet memory
Baby of you and me
And how we used to beautifully young
Sometimes I just sit and smile
Thinkin about ya for a while
Wondering how ya doin now

I heard you were married
Had a few babies
Put on on a few pounds, that grown man weight
But heard you looked real good
Makin six figures
Well I could of figured you were always ambitious
You went to college, I did my singing thing
Moving around it’s hard to stay in touch
But I’ve missed you so much over the years
Just wanted to give you a hollar say hey
How you doin these days

Simple Man!!!!

September 24th, 2010
8:37 am

2can….On point with your 8:34!!! Facebook must be sent form the Devil!!!I have married friend that fight more about their facebook friends and messages than anything else….

Miss Moni

September 24th, 2010
8:38 am

Good Morning Blog Fam! Hope everyone is having a FABULOUS Friday!!!

I haven’t seen my 1st love in person since 2002! He is married now with at least 1 child and lives in ATL! His 1st cousin and her hubby are the godparents of my firstborn. However, I don’t ask them questions about him, every now & then she’ll volunteer info. The thing is so many other ppl have crossed my path over the years but for WHATEVER reason he & I have NOT. . .

blue - ™

September 24th, 2010
8:39 am

GM all,

@I am – cup of coffee please, ligth and sweet…boxers this time? should we check with Simple Man?

on topic: first love…i had actually been wondering for years what had happend to him, actually thought for a while about doing one of those love lost things on teh Bert show…always wondered if he was married, kids…happy not happy…that kind of thing…and it turns out in prep for my ten year HS reunion, the reunion committe started a website for us and he was on there. i emailed and said hey, hope all is well…that was about 2 years ago and we talk all the time now…he’s actually the one i told yall about with the crazy wife…i learned a lot from that relationship and did turn out to be a measuring stick for me. turns out now that we are good friends, but also have become that sounding board for what men do/what women do…

ain't it funny

September 24th, 2010
8:41 am

how the bitter breakups, nasty fights, and rough times nearly always fade… while the smiles, laughs, and warmth sticks with you?

I have reconnected with most of my exes from HS and College on FB, and I am so pleased to see their success, their families, and their happiness. Selfishly, I like to think I helped them find it!

the ones that hurt me, well they made me stronger and made me learn about myself – so to them I actually owe the most!

Dirty Diana ♠ Going Green, one fish, two fish, red fish, blue fish

September 24th, 2010
8:42 am

Ahhhhhhhh I will say this I still talk to my HS, and we are wonderful friends. He always check-in on me, and even before FB we always had a connection. Through some of the worst periods of my life he was my shoulder to cry on. Even last year when I had my surgery he was there. However, we are post-high school now, and the requirements I had back then are different now and he is not the man I want. Simply put I can not take him as a whole person. So I cherish the memories, and I love the friendship. IMO that is the best of both worlds.

As for my college sweetheart. He was simply beautiful and I have spoke of him on the blog. So there is no reason to get all tender hearted today over him, but I would love to chat with him if I had the opportunity.

:grin:

Off topic: I have a nice breakfast spread: lemonade, hashbrowns and an egg and cheese sam’mich.

2CPTG©

September 24th, 2010
8:42 am

yeah, Simple Man, some folks takin FB too far….Don’t get me wrong now, when I see some bitties I used to adore, I reminisce, and wonder “what that be like” these days; and get quite a few proposistions. But if I see they’re married, no haps!

Simple Man!!!!

September 24th, 2010
8:43 am

My Cool Azz platonic friend is in the building!!!

Kym

September 24th, 2010
8:55 am

@Simple Man..morning! You still singing over there in the Bishop’s catsuit? LOL

Breakingofdawn

September 24th, 2010
8:56 am

First love, he taught me alot about being true friends and having a good base to build up to a relationship. We waited awhile for a physical relationship which back in the day, was so different than what all our friends were doing. He was a military brat, his family was moved to Germany but he remained in the States to finish college. We lost touch after the first year, not sure why/how to long ago to recall. Well he got in with the wrong crowd, and is now serving a very long sentence.

Now my first “Man” he set the standard on how to this day how I measure a true gentleman. He was an arrogant son of a cow, but he knew how to treat a lady. He would have me oiled up and ready to go like a 54 Chevy from the start to end of a date. He was one slick kat. For the last year we have been in touch, he is still a son of a cow, and we hang here and there. But for sure no love connection, just good old friends and will probably be for life.

Simple Man!!!!

September 24th, 2010
8:58 am

Kym…LOL :D Went home last night and looked around to see if I had a lycra onepiiece in my closet…glad to say I do not!!! But I heard they are now the hottest seller at the NewBirth store!!!

Kimmy

September 24th, 2010
8:58 am

Hi,
Me and my first love are still very great friends. We live in different states, but talk every once in a while. Every once in a while he’ll mention that I was a great girlfriend, which shows that it really does set the tone for future relationships. I continue to date now and run into all kind of crazy men, but I can say that knowing that he exists makes me continue to believe that there are good guys out there.

blue - ™

September 24th, 2010
9:03 am

Simple Man!!! How Are Ya? having coffee with me this morning?

Breakingofdawn

September 24th, 2010
9:04 am

Teddy Short is headline news everywhere from North America to Africa. He is turned on the light for mega churches. I wonder if I’m really missing out on things not being on FB. I doubt it people I did not like back then I’m sure I would not like today.

reconnectamundo

September 24th, 2010
9:07 am

reconnected with two so far….banged ‘em both while their husbands were out of town. does that make me a bad guy?

PrincessNik

September 24th, 2010
9:08 am

I remember my first love, we had a great relationship, we ended up growin apart as we got older. We were inseperable for 3 years, deeply embedded into each others families. Great guy, the girlfriend after me left him jaded though, not the same guy at all now…..

Kym

September 24th, 2010
9:10 am

@BreakingD..His name is Dick..Dick Tracey Long..that’s his code name when he has a private meeting in the hotel room.

2CPTG©

September 24th, 2010
9:10 am

“reconnected with two so far….banged ‘em both while their husbands were out of town. does that make me a bad guy?”

If you ain’t got no problems sleepin at night, who am I to judge?

Mo (aka Moeisha )

September 24th, 2010
9:15 am

Morning All! TGIF!

My first love and I still talk on a somewhat regular basis. I wouldnt say he set the course for my romantic life but there has definitely been no one else like him.

2CPTG – FB is what you make it and unfortunately some people have made it quite a ‘playground’.

BRB – need a pepsi already

someone

September 24th, 2010
9:21 am

I actually reconnected with my first love from High School on MySpace several years ago. We are now married with a child.

ChimingIn

September 24th, 2010
9:29 am

My sister met up with her childhood sweetheart on FB after 36 years…they are married now. Me on the other hand…I connected with both my high school sweetheart (we dated firve years, 20 years ago) and a college boyfriend (we dated about a year) on FB, and after some back and forth banter, they both tried to get me to call them on their cells, and both made it clear they didn’t want their wives to know. I made it clear to both of them really quickly to go soak their heads. It was disappointing, as I truly just wanted to chat, but they both made it pretty clear they were in miserable marriages. hmmm….oh well, I’m not looking to wreck a home, so I ran the other direction. Sometimes past is best left in the past.

i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)

September 24th, 2010
9:29 am

On topic: My first “love” turned out to be a ho. Last I heard she was doing electrolysis & bikini waxes in Arizona. No need for any reconnecting there…

“I doubt it people I did not like back then I’m sure I would not like today.”

Break — I can’t tell you how many sh!t-kicking redneck f@#ks from high school have tried to “friend” me on FB. :? We hated each others guts back then, so what do they think has changed?

SlimNumeroUno

September 24th, 2010
9:33 am

Happy Hippety Hop Friday!

My first love is on my friends list on fb….we chat every now and then but there isn’t any residual attraction there on my part. I think I sort of broke his heart after I left to go to school because I felt we had outgrown each other. We’ve hung out before years later just to go dancing or something like that…but now all he dates are Caucasians.

DreamsMaterialize

September 24th, 2010
9:35 am

Morning
I’ve reconnected with a few, but not in a relationship kind of way. I like to keep looking forward, not backward. Couple of ‘em I just have to stay away from because even though we weren’t good together, the sexual tension is always there…not tryna ruin any marriages.

Leggs

September 24th, 2010
9:37 am

Good morning, everyone! T.G.I.F.!!!

I would very much like to see my first crush in junior high school. We were in the same class; he won the boy’s spelling bee, and I won the girl’s spelling bee. The guy I lost my virginity too is probably dead or in jail. Everytime MJ’s “Dancing Machine” comes on, I think of him and those dance moves. But, when he showed up at Mama’s house looking like the Good Humor Ice Cream Man, Mama told me right then and there “that boy ain’t right!” I can laugh now, but all that white had me blinded and I couldn’t see straight! :lol: :lol:

Leggs

September 24th, 2010
9:39 am

@ARed ~ are you in the bldg yet?

Breakingofdawn

September 24th, 2010
9:42 am

Swiss your too funny. I’m sure in some utopia type of world, people do grow up, change and you let the past be the past. In more true ways you are who you are. If we didn’t mix batter to make biscuits in 1988 we for sure are not in the cupcake business now. I was on FB for a few months, it’s just a mess of foolishness.
Kym, I will only assume he has a credit card with that name on it, since he uses the name to check into hotels, etc. I like Teddy Short though, has a ring to it as I’m expecting him to loose some funds over this situation and come up short on some ends.

Melo!

September 24th, 2010
9:47 am

First Bang or First Love?!

Coz they were all very sweet!!

My first Bang was in high school. Nice, short and sweet!!

First luv was in college.

But there have been no connections on FB.

However I do have exes on my FB. All married now. Nice chics. One had very good sex and the other was just banal.

Well, one man’s poison is another ’s dinner!

Wonderful kids and families tho!

Happy Friday folks!

blue - ™

September 24th, 2010
9:47 am

@swiss – On topic: My first “love” turned out to be a ho. Last I heard she was doing electrolysis & bikini waxes in Arizona. No need for any reconnecting there – lmao…

i ran into one ex (not a love, just an ex) who went completely goth, black nail polish,studded dog collar and eyeliner – crazyy…i just had to back away slowly….

Purple Rain

September 24th, 2010
9:48 am

I connected with my first love as an adult in the not to distant past. It was very fun she is married with problems I am married and happy. We got a little to close for comfort. I have purposefully distanced myself rom her and she is still trying to reach out. In the end my point is if you are happy in a relationship now it’s best to leave those first loves alone wherever they are.

Willie Dynamite

September 24th, 2010
9:50 am

Morning All,

My very first true love is no longer with us. The other “loves” I’ve had we cross paths every so often with the exception of one. I’m pretty sure I’d rather not run into her as there will undoubtedly be some sexual tension that I just rather not experience.

Lately I’ve run across quite a few of my old “buddies” from HS/College. I am amazed at how some of them turned out. Use to be is a mutha.

kimmie

September 24th, 2010
9:50 am

Good Friday Morning lovely people!

My first boyfriend, ahh, both good & bad memories. Last I heard about him, which was about 15 years ago, he was living in Japan with his wife and about 4 kids. He graduated from the Air Force Academy. I lost my virginity to him. Everything was great until that last year. He started treating me like dirt and telling me no other man would want me. So no, on top of the fact that he’s married, I have no desire to reconnect. For awhile I judged others based on him, but years later now, he does not have that power.

Dreams- Again we are thinking alike. I like to look forward, not back, especially when it comes to romantic relationships. My friends for life I am already in touch with. I like to stay connected to my family. I am sentimental and cherish my photographs and trickets from familiy and friends. I love my old prom pictures and pictures from college.

But old boyfriends, no they stay in the past. The thought of some bring a sweet smile, others not so much. But they are a part of my life story so they’ll always be bittersweet.

Kym

September 24th, 2010
9:52 am

@Breaking..Gotcha!

TGIF..this has been one long week..

abc

September 24th, 2010
9:52 am

I don’t facebook, nor tweet, nor any of that junk. But a little over 5 years ago I contacted and reconnected with my first and greatest love. We’ll celebrate our 2nd anniversary in a few months.

AmazonRed™

September 24th, 2010
9:57 am

Happy Friday All –

Aw…first loves. It definitely set the tone. He adored me. He respected and cheriched me.

I guess it was from him I learned I need to be more alike to my mate than different. I did well in school, he didn’t know if he was gonna graduate until a few days before (a struggle to the very end). I went off to a top 25 ranked school…he went off to community college. He grew up on the roughest side of town. I didn’t. At the very core, he was a good person with good character, but our differences were too much. Especially when I went off to college and a whole new life and he was stuck at home with his old one.

Simple Man!!!!

September 24th, 2010
10:04 am

AmazonRed™ , Must have been a cool dude to have made that kind of impression on you and even luckier to have had teh chance to do so….

BTW…Good Morning :D :D

i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)

September 24th, 2010
10:04 am

Congrats, abc! Just curious, how did you two reconnect? Was it by chance, or did one of you make an effort to find the other?

ice

September 24th, 2010
10:05 am

My HS sweetheart(first love) is the reason I have a “icebox” where my heart use to be. Im actually thankful for that, that I went thru that then, because now I can take a guy or leave him, its no biggie, after a while Im ready to move on. We did get back together a couple of times after that first break up but the damage was done. No one will ever have me like that again. I can “love” but I wont fall “in love”.

2CPTG©

September 24th, 2010
10:07 am

“Use to be is a mutha.”

ain’t that the truth….alotta cats/gals who had it goin’ on back in the days, now they ain’t hittin on shyt!

AmazonRed™

September 24th, 2010
10:07 am

I actually reconnected with my first love from High School on MySpace several years ago. We are now married with a child

Change HS to college and this is my sister’s story with her hubby!!!

DreamsMaterialize

September 24th, 2010
10:08 am

I can “love” but I wont fall “in love”.
ice then what’s the point of it all then. why not just have FWB’s?

AmazonRed™

September 24th, 2010
10:10 am

@Leggs – I’m here now. What’s crackin?

AmazonRed™

September 24th, 2010
10:12 am

I connected with my first love as an adult in the not to distant past. It was very fun she is married with problems I am married and happy. We got a little to close for comfort.

Purple Rain – I’m calling a flag on the play. You HAVE only been married for 2.5 seconds. :lol: When did you have time to even connect with anyone else, especially a past love???

Ooooh. :lol: