When dates disappear
I have this theory that explains why many of us either experience “the disappearing act” or are the ones pulling that trick. There is something that is best left unsaid or unrevealed. The disappearance is a gift from the dating gods that we should be thankful for.
A lot of times you have dodged a bullet or avoided some catastrophe. Is it classy to just “get ghost” on people? Absolutely not. It is, however, necessary and sometimes unavoidable. A lot of people (ok, mostly women) say they want closure. I think they say this until they get the so called closure.
Take it from me, ladies. You do not want closure. Ignorance is bliss.
When dates disappear on you, how do you handle it?
Have you ever “faded out” of someone’s life and never told them why you checked out?
Here is your chance to get it out if you feel like confessing your romantic crime of disappearing or fading out.
I’ll go first. Dear Xavier: I am sorry I never called you back. After our first date, you creeped me out talking about your earlobe fetish. I am sure you were a very nice guy. I hope you find the love and the earlobes you deserve. I feel better already!
Now see? I couldn’t say to his face that he was giving me the creepies. In this situation, I think a disappearing act was the unclassy, cowardly way out, but at least his feelings were spared, right?
When dates disappear, is it really a bad thing?
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Purple Rain
September 23rd, 2010
4:36 pm
Diana, where did the oral sex come into play? I’m sorry if you get foreplay on with a guy or get turned on by a guy in anyway you are gay. If there are empty urinals and you come stand right next to me while im urinating…you are gay. If you look down in the shower at the gym you are gay. LOL If you take pics of yourself in the mirror and send them to any man you are gay
Melo!
September 23rd, 2010
4:36 pm
Dreamz??
Ain’t that crazy?
That the interstate commerce clauses be invoked coz of interstate men booteey??
LMAO
Purple Rain
September 23rd, 2010
4:36 pm
Mo, I am going to introduce you to my Longfellow.
blue - ™
September 23rd, 2010
4:38 pm
@swiss – lol…mrs.swiss, are your eyes green? i luv green eyes
…a stripper pole in the bedroom…hmmm…
@DD – 57, are you serious…the whole thing gives new meaning to “creepy old dude”…
@PR – blue, I thought you were, but I was scared to ask. LOL – lol, why?
im biracial, but somehow still ended up like 85% Irish…guess that counts for the freckles and wicked tendancies…
@Slim – rofl!
i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)
September 23rd, 2010
4:38 pm
Dreams — Yes, we are talkin’ ’bout freaks. Go ahead & name names, my friend…
Purple Rain
September 23rd, 2010
4:40 pm
blue, when I saw you I wasn’t sure and I didn’t know the protocol, I didn’t want you to read me wrong. LOL
SlimNumeroUno
September 23rd, 2010
4:40 pm
swiss – I was waiting for the smoke to clear and all I saw left standing was this little mule with what appears to be mens clothes on….you might want to take a look in this hear mirror. You…don’t…seem to look the same. lol
Leggs – I keep folks around me laughing…am I making money…nope. But how much are you willing to pay me?
Elijah ( I want some of dat)
September 23rd, 2010
4:41 pm
I’ve heard rumors that EL and the deacons get their share of the NB’s puddy?
A question for the ladies…Why some women give up the puddy to men of power with-out even receiving nothing but a word, then expect an average guy to take her on a cruise to get the puddy?
i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)
September 23rd, 2010
4:42 pm
“I was waiting for the smoke to clear and all I saw left standing was this little mule with what appears to be mens clothes on”
Slim — WTF??? He turned me into Fred???
Purple Rain
September 23rd, 2010
4:42 pm
Elijah, women like powerful men, even if it’s percieved power. LOL
Dirty Diana ♠ Going Green, one fish, two fish, red fish, blue fish
September 23rd, 2010
4:43 pm
@czBrat he is 57 wearing a onesie with a blinged out bow-tie. LOL
@Purp I don’t understand your question, but the oral was part of the 4-play he gets all hot and bothered with dudes and master—bate or kick it with his wife, shoot I don’t know.
@DreamsM/Melo yeah the other states can go after him, but I think those men-pies want plenty of loot and they don’t want LongFellow in jail…they just want some money for all of this.
I wonder how dating will play out for them in the future being known as LongFellow’ s dudes.
Purple Rain
September 23rd, 2010
4:44 pm
I could never be in a position of power, I am not strong enough to tell all of those women no. That’s how I stay faithful I just stay away from the temptation. LOL
Dirty Diana ♠ Going Green, one fish, two fish, red fish, blue fish
September 23rd, 2010
4:44 pm
@blue I am serious he is 57, he looks good for 57 don’t you think?
Leggs
September 23rd, 2010
4:44 pm
@Elijah ~ simple, some women are delusional.
blue - ™
September 23rd, 2010
4:44 pm
@PR – no problemo…forgot i put a pic on there…gotta find a better one….
@swiss – lmao…and Fred is a pony not a mule…
SlimNumeroUno
September 23rd, 2010
4:45 pm
Elijah – I think it has something to do with getting into a mind of a woman. You get her mind and everything else will follow. Now get your dayum hands outta my face trying to hypnotize me!! Ewww, yo fanga stank!!! lol
Dirty Diana ♠ Going Green, one fish, two fish, red fish, blue fish
September 23rd, 2010
4:46 pm
@Elijah now you know the trick act like you have some power and get that cat. She you can say you are of the GBI, FBI or tell them you can perform a MRI…just make a power move.,
2CPTG©
September 23rd, 2010
4:47 pm
Slim, you are hilarious……gal, you got me over here dyin’!!!!
blue - ™
September 23rd, 2010
4:47 pm
@DD – couldnt quite put a finger on the age, couldnt eally get past how greasy his hair seemed to be…ewww…havent looked at these pics…im a’scared
Purple Rain
September 23rd, 2010
4:48 pm
Diana, I did not know that oral was considered foreplay, LOL
Melo!
September 23rd, 2010
4:48 pm
@DD?
Soon after they get paid like all other females scorned, they skip town!
@Elijah??
only amateur biaatches get nothing? Pros get something, positions in church,trinkets, u name it!
Dirty Diana ♠ Going Green, one fish, two fish, red fish, blue fish
September 23rd, 2010
4:50 pm
@blue please look at the pics I love the one where his slippers are laying on a towel and he is all greasy with baby oil and curl activator, his S-curl is fresh out the kit and he makes a muscle and take a pic in a baby’s onesie size 6months up to 254 pounds. He mumbled, “get er done.”
Dirty Diana ♠ Going Green, one fish, two fish, red fish, blue fish
September 23rd, 2010
4:52 pm
Purp after I get my oral we still have more work to do, so maybe it is the last chapter in your book, but in mind it is the table of contents.
@Melo yep they will skip town and slither back here for pride week
Purple Rain
September 23rd, 2010
4:52 pm
I was thinking if somehow this guy is found innocent, how do you esplain the pictures?
Dirty Diana ♠ Going Green, one fish, two fish, red fish, blue fish
September 23rd, 2010
4:52 pm
~mine~
blue - ™
September 23rd, 2010
4:53 pm
@DD – making me want to gouge out my minds eye….and i thought nothing could top Flava Flav making out with those chicks on his show….
Dirty Diana ♠ Going Green, one fish, two fish, red fish, blue fish
September 23rd, 2010
4:53 pm
@purp as for the pics I really thought he sent them just to show he was working out really hard. The pics did not make him guilty on my end…I feel he can explain those. Really I do.
SlimNumeroUno
September 23rd, 2010
4:53 pm
I wonder why the dudes are coming out now….were they beginning to stick their hands too deep down in EL’s pockets or did he start showing more attenion to the new boys on the block and the old heads began to get jealous….
Leggs
September 23rd, 2010
4:53 pm
@SlimNU ~ paying another person is not in my budget, but I’ll keep my eye open in case I hear about something that needs your writing style (LOL).
Melo!
September 23rd, 2010
4:54 pm
DD/Blue??
At 57 dude is near retirement.
I can’t imagine a dude that age and apreacher, taking time to stand in the bathroom, all exposed taking pics for lil boys!
Dirty Diana ♠ Going Green, one fish, two fish, red fish, blue fish
September 23rd, 2010
4:55 pm
@blue please take a look and let me know your thoughts tomorrow.
The bigger question is why is he still wearing all of these biking shorts and muscle shirts?????
Purple Rain
September 23rd, 2010
4:56 pm
Diana, on some days it is. But I just considered the kissing and touch foreplay but once you start touching shafts and beavers you are all in. I don’t my placing my face in the “chin rest” before other activities I just never thought of it as foreplay. LOL
blue - ™
September 23rd, 2010
4:56 pm
@melo – im with you, dudes cheese has definitely slid off his cracker…
alrightee folks, off to find ice cream adn tackle GOW3 from my couch…just beat Hercules, time to see whats next….Night!
Mo (aka Moeisha )
September 23rd, 2010
4:57 pm
DD – I’on know chica….I am not feeling dude (I dont care WHO he is), getting his VOGUE on with the phone in the bathroom. Im jus sayin….and he’s POSING!!!
GTFOH!!!
SlimOne – “..did he start showing more attenion to the new boys on the block and the old heads began to get jealous…” Im thinking this AND that once the old heads compared who got what, its was some jealousy there too. “You mean you got a trip to NZ?!?! Hell all I got was a gold chain”
Dirty Diana ♠ Going Green, one fish, two fish, red fish, blue fish
September 23rd, 2010
4:57 pm
@Melo I was thinking the same thing at 57 he is using the Soul-Glo and the color me beautiful by Ms. Clariol.
Purple Rain
September 23rd, 2010
4:58 pm
Diana, I am part of a runners group and mountain biking group. I am not sending any pics of my well toned body to the guys. LOL
Leggs
September 23rd, 2010
4:58 pm
Good night….Grey’s Anatomy season opener tonight!!!
Remember this at all times, if it has tires or testicles it’s gonna give you trouble.
Peace!
Elijah ( I want some of dat)
September 23rd, 2010
4:59 pm
@Leggs …You are correct…Simple…. I know of a church in Carrollton where the leader was affiliate with Creflo Dollar…. The pastor and the deacon team was phlucking half the church women. Orgies, drugs the whole nine.plus keeping the loot…. Creflo found out tried to kick the pastor out, but dude was like I aint going no where…. Creflo sent the poo-poo in to close the church down…
No dude and his gang have started and church….
I am the power He-MAN…..
Purple Rain
September 23rd, 2010
4:59 pm
There is something slightly narcissitic about taking a picture of yourself in abathroom mirror anway. LOL
SlimNumeroUno
September 23rd, 2010
5:00 pm
Leggs – You’ve just nominated yourself as my Comedy Mgr…lol
2CPTG – my bad….I’m just a nut I suppose
Purple Rain
September 23rd, 2010
5:01 pm
Elijah, I wonder why women like the Pastors and the Deacons and do sin with them?
Dirty Diana ♠ Going Green, one fish, two fish, red fish, blue fish
September 23rd, 2010
5:01 pm
Well gang I am out like s-curls and biking shorts onesie…
Leggs
September 23rd, 2010
5:01 pm
LOL…I sure did, SlimNU!
Purple Rain
September 23rd, 2010
5:02 pm
I don’t think I would want to have sex with a preacher, she may be able to see into my soul or something while she and I are sinning. I like to keep my sins with other less accountable sinners.
Leggs
September 23rd, 2010
5:03 pm
Time for the air drums….
It's me....lurker
September 23rd, 2010
5:04 pm
he makes a muscle and take a pic in a baby’s onesie size 6months up to 254 pounds
now that was funny
Purple Rain
September 23rd, 2010
5:04 pm
“Everyone kneeling is not praying”
‘a presto’
Purple Rain
September 23rd, 2010
5:04 pm
Leggs, want to sin with me?
Elijah ( I want some of dat)
September 23rd, 2010
5:06 pm
Yea purpleR… It just comes down to I want some of dat….. This has been going on for a very long time…. But I do not want to play with women pastors……
Leggs
September 23rd, 2010
5:06 pm
Sorry, I like Julia…