When dates disappear
I have this theory that explains why many of us either experience “the disappearing act” or are the ones pulling that trick. There is something that is best left unsaid or unrevealed. The disappearance is a gift from the dating gods that we should be thankful for.
A lot of times you have dodged a bullet or avoided some catastrophe. Is it classy to just “get ghost” on people? Absolutely not. It is, however, necessary and sometimes unavoidable. A lot of people (ok, mostly women) say they want closure. I think they say this until they get the so called closure.
Take it from me, ladies. You do not want closure. Ignorance is bliss.
When dates disappear on you, how do you handle it?
Have you ever “faded out” of someone’s life and never told them why you checked out?
Here is your chance to get it out if you feel like confessing your romantic crime of disappearing or fading out.
I’ll go first. Dear Xavier: I am sorry I never called you back. After our first date, you creeped me out talking about your earlobe fetish. I am sure you were a very nice guy. I hope you find the love and the earlobes you deserve. I feel better already!
Now see? I couldn’t say to his face that he was giving me the creepies. In this situation, I think a disappearing act was the unclassy, cowardly way out, but at least his feelings were spared, right?
When dates disappear, is it really a bad thing?
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Melo!
September 23rd, 2010
3:53 pm
Who else is quiet in here Swiss??
czBrat
September 23rd, 2010
3:54 pm
All of these homo’s in this city are probably lining up since they know the good Bishop might be a baller in their field of play
PR, don’t you think they probably knew that before the rest of us?
oh, and my s/o would heartily agree with your 3:44
Michael Baisden’s show is about the DL men….
hmmmmm, leggs. i wonder why?
i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)
September 23rd, 2010
3:56 pm
I’m not at liberty to divulge that information, Melo… I must protect my sources…
blue - ™
September 23rd, 2010
3:57 pm
not even gonna try to catch up..but did somebody refer to EL as Bishop Spanx
…ive got a bad mental picture now…
Purple Rain
September 23rd, 2010
3:57 pm
Melo, quiet is quiet. The quiet one’s who are well reserved on the blog as well as in real life, probably are the freakiest. You know, the one’s who never make a sexual innuendo or just leave the blog when things get freaky or of a sexual tone. LOL
Melo!
September 23rd, 2010
3:59 pm
Check 3:54!
Cz is,so is Kimmie!
It's me....lurker
September 23rd, 2010
3:59 pm
The quiet one’s who are well reserved on the blog as well as in real life, probably are the freakiest. You know, the one’s who never make a sexual innuendo or just leave the blog when things get freaky or of a sexual tone
Purple Rain
September 23rd, 2010
3:59 pm
CanalZone, I betcha. LOL
i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)
September 23rd, 2010
3:59 pm
“You know, the one’s who never make a sexual innuendo or just leave the blog when things get freaky or of a sexual tone. LOL”
Purp — Exactly… Well, with the possible exception of blue… She can hang with the dirty talk in here, but I’ve got a feeling she can sling that pdu$$y in real life, too…
Leggs
September 23rd, 2010
4:01 pm
@czB ~ I said, MBaisden, you ain’t slick all the while professing he’s not passing judgment until all the facts come out! Otay….
Melo!
September 23rd, 2010
4:03 pm
I suspect Blue likes the thriller in manolis type of sexual ruckus!
U know the one where a lil more than 2 is involved.
Just my gut feeling! Lol
Leggs
September 23rd, 2010
4:04 pm
MBaisden just asked the women who think their man is on the DL to call in. Then, he plays Teddy Pendagrass, Close the Door…I’m cracking up!
Purple Rain
September 23rd, 2010
4:04 pm
Swiss, I know for a fact that blue slings it so hard that she breaks furniture. LOL
It’s me….I read you well.
Melo!
September 23rd, 2010
4:04 pm
Thriller in manilla!
Melo!
September 23rd, 2010
4:06 pm
@Leggs?
What number station is he on?
Leggs
September 23rd, 2010
4:09 pm
107.5
czBrat
September 23rd, 2010
4:10 pm
LMAO @ Leggs. i can’t take him, but george cracks me up. i bet they are going WILD on that show today.
blue - ™
September 23rd, 2010
4:11 pm
@swiss – i married a Marine…get a bunch of them together bowling and drinking…they talk worse than yall do….oh, and i try my best
, that was an accident…see what had happened was….
@melo – thrilla in manilla, lol…cant go out like that all the time, 2 is just fine…i figure its like any other toy, it has its place…you dont always wanna share anymore than you always wanna be handcuffed….
@PR –
Mo (aka Moeisha )
September 23rd, 2010
4:11 pm
okay so whats good party people!
What’d I miss while I was out to lunch
Leggs
September 23rd, 2010
4:12 pm
@czB ~ love George…that man’s wit is quick!
Purple Rain
September 23rd, 2010
4:15 pm
Mo I am still laughing at the world right now, a few months ago on the blog I asked who the Preacher was on the billboard by the Braves Stadium. Bloggers told me, I said way back then that he looked “moist” and got ridiculed. LOL@ them now. LOL
Melo!
September 23rd, 2010
4:17 pm
@Leggs?
Thanx quiet one!
(let she who dispute that say Ahem!) lol
Purple Rain
September 23rd, 2010
4:18 pm
I’m worse at what I do best, and for this gift I feel blessed…..Our little group has always been and will be until the end.
With the lights out it’s less dangerous, here we are now entertain us!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Purple Rain
September 23rd, 2010
4:20 pm
blue, are you biracial?
Purple Rain
September 23rd, 2010
4:21 pm
Swiss, you leaving me out in the cold with my 4:18? LOL
SlimNumeroUno
September 23rd, 2010
4:22 pm
‘Cos if there was, my a$$ would have been struck down a loooooooooooong time ago’
swiss – that’s why i’m standing waaayyyyyyyyyy over here. lol
i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)
September 23rd, 2010
4:22 pm
blue — Thrilla in Manilla… Oh yeah, I forgot that you’ve rolled like that…
Hmm… I thought Dirty D had shattered my dreams with her pdu$$y allergy, but maybe there’s hope yet… Mrs. Swiss, this is blue. blue, Mrs. Swiss. Now you two just get acquainted while I install the stripper pole & get my video camera…
Mo (aka Moeisha )
September 23rd, 2010
4:22 pm
PR – lol! okay so we still talkin about EL. Those pics (as I see have been discussed) are
ing to say the least. C’mon Bishop….whats with the voguing in the cellphone?!?!
Dirty Diana ♠ Going Green, one fish, two fish, red fish, blue fish
September 23rd, 2010
4:23 pm
….stepping in.
2CPTG©
September 23rd, 2010
4:24 pm
Hey Mo!!!!!
blue - ™
September 23rd, 2010
4:24 pm
@PR – yes indeedy..biracial am i…AA and Caucasian…
Elijah ( I want some of dat)
September 23rd, 2010
4:24 pm
Look purpleR and Melo….Do not name Kimmie and It’s me….Lurker in that nerdy but freaky group…I have already peg them as sweet intelligent, classy ladies..with an indoor freaky side. hehehehe
EL has big bank, this lawyer is trying to get paid, this has been going on for over 3 months she had to go public in order to apply pressure to EL group in order to get dat money…..
i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)
September 23rd, 2010
4:25 pm
Purple — Not leaving you out in the cold, bro. I just couldn’t type while in the mosh pit….
Purple Rain
September 23rd, 2010
4:26 pm
Mo, this is the first time that I have given a gay dude any respect, because in my research of the Bishop, he has done tons of good for a lot of people. If he did what he did, that’s wrong but you can’t deny the work he has done for God’s Kingdom and the people he has helped. It is more funny to me than anything. If i went to his church maybe I would see things differently, but his good out weighs the bad IMO. I don’t want to hang out with him nor do I understand the wang desire, but he seems like a good guy.
Dirty Diana ♠ Going Green, one fish, two fish, red fish, blue fish
September 23rd, 2010
4:28 pm
Bishop is 57, Mo you know when he snapped the buttons on that black onesie he was thinking about how he wanted it…I bet some “pac was playing “how do you want it.”
@swiss I see you replaced me with blue blue, do your thing.
@purp you did ask about LongFELLOW I remember that…
Mo (aka Moeisha )
September 23rd, 2010
4:28 pm
heeeeeey 2CPTG! How are you?
PR – Im not judging but whats on the table right now is pretty heavy….the pics didnt help! LOL! They are funny as hell though
i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)
September 23rd, 2010
4:28 pm
“swiss – that’s why i’m standing waaayyyyyyyyyy over here. lol”
Aw, c’mon now, Slim, there’s nothing to fear. Watch this. Big guy, if you’re up there, I double-dog-dare you to strike my a$$ down right n
Purple Rain
September 23rd, 2010
4:29 pm
blue, I thought you were, but I was scared to ask. LOL
Swiss, yes I finally slid a song in here, that someone else knew. It just came on in my play list and I have it on repeat. LOL
Elijah, kimmie, it’s me, kym. LOL
Melo!
September 23rd, 2010
4:30 pm
PR?
Most gay dudes are really nice and generous. They can be dirty too.
But EL ain’t proclaimed gay yet?
That’s the problem!
Leggs
September 23rd, 2010
4:31 pm
@Melo ~ ssssshhhhh!! You are truly crazy!
SlimNumeroUno
September 23rd, 2010
4:31 pm
My question is how do you, from that platform of a servant of God, begin to groom the unsuspecting boy into your sexual whipping board…Does it start off innocently with gifts to build the boys confidence, then one day you just try him.
EL: Hey son. I just want to say that i really feel you’ve been making great process since i’ve taken you up under my wing.
Boy: Oh Bishop, I am very greatful and appreciative of all you’ve done. I can’t believe you bought me that Jag. All my friends are jealous.
EL: Well son, you do know that to whom much is given, much is expected?
Boy: Yes sir I know. I mean, look at you with this huge mansion, nice clothes, trips all over the world all from people believing in you and what you stand for.
EL: Yes son. Be also mindful that you may need to step up soon.
Boy: Sure. After all you’ve done for me, I’d be ready and willing to help anyway I can.
EL: Well son, I’m so glad to hear your devotion. Um…I sort of need you to help me out.
Boy: No problem…anything…what’s up Pastor?
EL: Well I just came from the gym and I sort of hurt my hand.
Boy: You need ice or something Pastor? I can run down to get you some right now!
EL: Ah, no son. Not exactly. Well I hurt my hand and I need a little help….um…you mind helping me unsnap my leotard?
Boy: Oh sure. (Boy goes behind bishop looking for zipper or button) Um, I don’t see where the fastener is.
EL: Um…son…it sort of unsnaps at the cro tch.
czBrat
September 23rd, 2010
4:31 pm
D, as soon as you posted his age i immediately flashed back to his pics and thought of that cenegenics commercial. LMAO!!!
Purple Rain
September 23rd, 2010
4:32 pm
Diana, it is to easy for me to make jokes. I am trying not to, I consider preachers off limits I dont want to incur wrath for clowning the man. That’s why I am so tied down, I am trying not to joke. LOL….Longfellow!!!! Oh, this is going otbe hard for me not to joke about. I have already slipped. LOL
DreamsMaterialize
September 23rd, 2010
4:32 pm
Actually EL may be guilty of actual crimes. The boys met the legal age of consent in GA, but since he took them on trips to other states where the legal age of consent could be different, he may have to contend with that.
Now are we talkin’ ’bout freaks…
Leggs
September 23rd, 2010
4:32 pm
Not the leotard {{cough}}…LMBAO!
Elijah ( I want some of dat)
September 23rd, 2010
4:33 pm
Hey folks this topic has some comedic opportunities…
Dating a slimone with a Fatty Catty.
Shaneca (Slimone)…. Why do you want to break up?
Look Shaneca (SLimeone)…. I luv me some fatty catty and I do mind swimming for a few days, but I cannot take yo crazy azz family…Pookie and Ray, Ray always trying to bum a dollar and asking for to hit this blunt…. Yes it’s time…
Dirty Diana ♠ Going Green, one fish, two fish, red fish, blue fish
September 23rd, 2010
4:33 pm
Purp EL is not gay he never penatrated he just got his 4-play on.
i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)
September 23rd, 2010
4:34 pm
PSYCH! I’m still here. You thought he got me this time, didn’t you, Slim?
Mo (aka Moeisha )
September 23rd, 2010
4:34 pm
DD – not the onesie!!! OMG!!! Chica that was CLASSIC!!
PR – I dont even want to go in on LONGFELLOWS….c’mon now….for REAL?!?!?! smdh
Leggs
September 23rd, 2010
4:35 pm
@Slim ~ I am convinced you’re not letting your talent go to waste. These skits are too natural for your quick mind. Sure hope you’re working in the field of creative writing somewhere.