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When dates disappear

I have this theory that explains why many of us either experience “the disappearing act” or are the ones pulling that trick.  There is something that is best left unsaid or unrevealed.  The disappearance is a gift from the dating gods that we should  be thankful for.

A lot of times you have dodged a bullet or avoided some catastrophe.  Is it classy to just “get ghost” on people? Absolutely not.  It is, however, necessary and sometimes unavoidable.  A lot of people (ok, mostly women) say they want closure.  I think they say this until they get the so called closure.

Take it from me, ladies.  You do  not want closure.  Ignorance is bliss.

When dates disappear on you, how do you handle it?

Have you ever “faded out” of someone’s life and never told them why you checked out?

Here is your chance to get it out if you feel like confessing your romantic crime of disappearing or fading out.

I’ll go first.  Dear Xavier: I am sorry I never called you back.  After our first date, you creeped me out talking about your earlobe fetish.  I am sure you were a very nice guy.  I hope you find the love and the earlobes you deserve.  I feel better already!

Now see? I couldn’t say to his face that he was giving me the creepies.  In this situation, I think a disappearing act was the unclassy, cowardly way out, but at least his feelings were spared, right?

When dates disappear, is it really a bad thing?

478 comments Add your comment

Leggs

September 23rd, 2010
5:08 pm

Let’s rephrase, even if I didn’t like her I couldn’t sin with you since you are her other half (LOL).

Purple Rain

September 23rd, 2010
5:09 pm

Leggs, okay I will watch you and her sin together. LOL

Elijah, we are eye to eye on that. No Patoral Sex for me, now I have seen a few Hostess………………

Simple Man!!!!

September 23rd, 2010
5:10 pm

Pop Back in and what do I get…… More jokes about EL and his “onesie” LOL!!! All jokes aside… All three of the lil boys might need to go get checked because I heard you can get a yeast infection from wearing shyt to tight and That cat suit fits that bill perfectly… Now if he asked to the touch his “yeasty” parts……

Purple Rain

September 23rd, 2010
5:10 pm

Leggs, I thought you preferred her rather than me. LOL

Leggs

September 23rd, 2010
5:10 pm

I’m on the floor, excellent comeback, PR!!

Purple Rain

September 23rd, 2010
5:10 pm

Simple Man, how can balls get a yeast infection? LOL

Mo (aka Moeisha )

September 23rd, 2010
5:13 pm

PR – Simple Man is right, men get yeasties too!

Leggs

September 23rd, 2010
5:13 pm

@PR ~ Can’t something get in the eye at the top of your shaft??? :lol:

Kym

September 23rd, 2010
5:14 pm

All I know is BJ better not post anymore pics..I was up all night laughing and making jokes with my friend. Her tagline for the Spanx pic..”Wait til you see my Awwww!” LOLOL!!!

Purple Rain

September 23rd, 2010
5:15 pm

So you all are telling me a man can get a yeast infection? Seriously. LOL

Purple Rain

September 23rd, 2010
5:15 pm

LOL, Sir your urethra has yeast in it. LOL

i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)

September 23rd, 2010
5:18 pm

“Wait til you see my Awwww!”

:lol: @ Kym — That pic does look a little Cameo-ish, circa 1986… :lol:

Purple Rain

September 23rd, 2010
5:20 pm

Please don’t tell me the group Cameo is gay

Simple Man!!!!

September 23rd, 2010
5:20 pm

Too tight lycra suit + sweaty balls + Bathroom humidity = more yeast than a truck full of wonder bread!!!

Simple Man!!!!

September 23rd, 2010
5:21 pm

So swiss…you telling me that EL was in the mirror singing “Alligator Woman”??? Now that would be some funny shyt!!!

Mo (aka Moeisha )

September 23rd, 2010
5:21 pm

PR – yes, men can get them. The difference is men dont show symptoms like women.

Mo (aka Moeisha )

September 23rd, 2010
5:22 pm

LMAO!! No he was singing “Flirt” by Cameo! Or maybe even “candy”!! LMBAO!!!

Purple Rain

September 23rd, 2010
5:22 pm

Well I am glad I have never had a yeast infection on my balls

Purple Rain

September 23rd, 2010
5:24 pm

well I googled it and you all are correct.:

What are the symptoms? The following are some of the penile yeast infection symptom in man to look for:

o Irritation and soreness present in the head of the penis, often accompanied by itchiness.

o The head of the penis may appear red and develop small blisters

o Presence of discharge that appears thick and white

o Little red itchy bumps may appear on the penis shaft or surrounding genital area if a yeast infection is left untreated.

Kym

September 23rd, 2010
5:27 pm

I didn’t say Cameo was gay….I think its his preview of coming attractions look.

Taking pics in a hotel bathroom..lame as hell.. and that black Kango offends me. What is that about?

Simple Man!!!!

September 23rd, 2010
5:28 pm

Kym…EVERYTHING about those pics is offensive to me!!!!

Kym

September 23rd, 2010
5:31 pm

LOL @ Simple Man

Simple Man!!!!

September 23rd, 2010
5:35 pm

How about I am sitting in my office listening to Michael Baisden and the guy that cleans the our office is in the hall singing ” Best of my Love” LOUD AS HELL!!! I think he thinks everyone is gone…. TO FUNNY!!!!

Kym

September 23rd, 2010
5:47 pm

Simple Man you know that’s you singing!

Simple Man!!!!

September 23rd, 2010
5:52 pm

Kym, after the stunt that Eddie Long pulled with that cat suit, I have to be supa carful about what I sing!!! LOL

Purple Rain

September 23rd, 2010
5:55 pm

Blane Bachelor

September 28th, 2010
1:16 pm

Very intersting timing on this, Wise Diva. I’ve been writing about the Disappearing Act for a while, and the day after a story runs with me quoted about it runs in a story by Jennifer Leslie on WXIA.com, you run a blog post talking about “the disappearing act.” Huh!

Blane Bachelor

September 28th, 2010
2:29 pm

Oops, posted before I meant to. :) I repeat: very interesting timing on this, Wise Diva. I’ve been writing about the Disappearing Act for a while, and the day after a story runs with me quoted about it in a story by Jennifer Leslie on WXIA.com, your blog run a blog post talking about “the disappearing act.” Huh!