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Online love is a battlefield too?

I have to hand to the single people who are online dating these days. Seriously, you are true soldiers of love! A lot of us go online, create a profile, answer the billion personality questions, load a picture, then actually communicate with potential dates. That takes focus and effort that some people don’t even put into “offline” dating!

I think people are used to doing it now so the rules of engagement, as it were, are easier to determine and perhaps better then it used to be. What kind of things should you always consider when deciding to date online? How do you gauge real interest? It seems that the physical attraction (or lack thereof) is the biggest hurdle to clear in the beginning. What do you think makes it easier to offset that challenge?

Have you tried online dating recently? Do you believe it has lead to good matches? If you had to put a profile up, what sorts of things would get your attention? Humor and wit, racy pictures?

The matchmaker, Paul Brunson who guest blogged for us (aka Real Life “Hitch” ) has taken to Twitter to connect single people from all over!  It’s very interesting to see the questions that people want to ask the bachelor/bachelorette.

If you meet someone online, what are the most important questions to ask to get a feel for how compatible (crazy?) they are?

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Lady-Wednesday Lover!

September 22nd, 2010
12:22 pm

shhhhhhhhh DD and I am studying for my evening quiz…..smh….just one of those days to be away and still present! lol!

you taling veggies I want some lemon pepper wings and sweet potatoe fries with my gg daggit! smh! Friday can’t get here quick enough!

czBrat

September 22nd, 2010
12:22 pm

i’m here Di. IT spies in corporate are trying to drag me kickin ‘n screamin outta the blog room and seal the door shut so i can’t get back in. :mad: but i’m duckin behind melo so they don’t find me.

i’m lunchin on a turkey sandwich. tempted to grab some chips from the machine to go with it, but if you promise to eat a healthy lunch i will say “no” to Lay’s. :)

Leggs, that article puts a bit of a different spin on things don’t you think? :shock:

Sassy Me...I'm ALL in ;-)

September 22nd, 2010
12:24 pm

Luvbug he dated/slept with a close friend of mine and continues to support her if she needs help. He met her on his show when they were discussing autism some years ago. If/whenever she flies into town he makes sure it’s first class…she’s been to his house and described it to me BEFORE pics were ever made public. He’s a walking contradiction….and I think of it whenever he gets on his soapbox.

He’s done ALOT for her in the past years….if only y’all knew…

Leggs

September 22nd, 2010
12:24 pm

@SassyMe ~ I think it was PoppaG who would say how trifling Frank Ski was (infidelity).

@blue ~ we took a vote last week, all newbies will have a 2-wk probation before vests can be issued. Unanimously passed with a vote of 8 Yays! It has the Recorder’s Court seal of approval…

Is Creflo his slave name????

Lady-Wednesday Lover!

September 22nd, 2010
12:24 pm

DD I was thinking the samething as i won’t be in NOLA and I don’t have a game this sat I want to get out sat and sun lol…….

Melo

September 22nd, 2010
12:26 pm

@Luvbug?

There was an announcement about some upcoming event for job seekers or some like that.

I think ur 11.37 was on point too.
I am also wondering if Burrell Ellis was phluccking that assistant he belatedly paid 45k after she left. Either that or that’s another pie dude!

Lol

Dirty Diana ♠ Going Green, 8, 9 AND 1-0

September 22nd, 2010
12:27 pm

you taling veggies I want some lemon pepper wings and sweet potatoe fries with my gg daggit! smh! Friday can’t get here quick enough!

@lady that sounds good, and you can have my gg that stuff is bitter or add some splenda to it :grin:

Dig That

September 22nd, 2010
12:28 pm

@DD- I remember when I got back to GA my mom took me to a little church in college park with me her and about 20 other ppl and I didn’t attend church much at the time, but I was really impressed by the preacher and even tho it was only 20 of us there I felt like he mean’t wat he was preaching and he didn’t care if it was 20 or 5000, he did his thing. I got a chance to talk to him on a personal level often and I liked his style and what he stood for. He loved his wife very much and it was very admirable. That went on for a while and I thanked my mom for taking me. I was always skeptical of preachers and figured this cat had some hustle in him too but I respected his style. That same dude I use to call from time to time to help get my life back on track now has a DOME in College Park and hundreds of THOUSANDSSSSSS of followers and I called on him to bury my mother 5 years ago and he did it personally because he never forgot us 20 in the that little room that showed him love. I got love for Creflo and Taffi.

i'm swiss™

September 22nd, 2010
12:29 pm

Dirty D — What game are you watching? And what part of town?

Sassy Me...I'm ALL in ;-)

September 22nd, 2010
12:29 pm

Dianaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa I’ve heard that at Cashflo’s chuuch they want copies of pay stubs and such. It’s like they sequester the new folk after the service and they can be a bit intimidating in their approach to get you to join.

Lady-Wednesday Lover!

September 22nd, 2010
12:30 pm

lmbao! you so funny just had a flashback! if you put suggar in my gg i am going to act a fool lmbao! a splash of juice! lol

listen how about i will be doing the game sunday here with morehouse ironically smh boy i tell ya!

czBrat

September 22nd, 2010
12:33 pm

great story Dig. that type of genuine connection with pastors of mega churches seems hard to come by. i’m glad yours has been a strengthening, faith-based experience.

blue - ™

September 22nd, 2010
12:33 pm

@Leggs – yeah there was that…thought the coffee might help her out…naw, purely selfish…she’s sending me pumpkin pie, dont need anything to happen to her b4 i get it…
@Sassy – ive heard that too…seems crazy to me to put up with that…if im not purchasing something or applying for credit you dont need my financials…that just stresses to me its a business, its not about the word and the people…its about supply and demand..they’ll pay for it so we’ll supply it…

Luvbug

September 22nd, 2010
12:34 pm

Melo – Wow, that is insensative. Why yeen bring no tilapia for the blog? I’m hUnGry!! LOL

Sassy – SMH. I’m not even shocked. I wonder if his wife meets the other folks on the side or just pretends not to know.

Dirty Diana ♠ Going Green, 8, 9 AND 1-0

September 22nd, 2010
12:34 pm

@Dig thanks for that 12:28

@SassssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssY I heard the same thing…I just hope it ain’t true. I cant see turning over my checkstubs.

@Lady email me. Yes I am going to put a pack on splenda in your gg don’t hurt me I am trying to help you out that stuff is bitter.

Dirty Diana ♠ Going Green, 8, 9 AND 1-0

September 22nd, 2010
12:35 pm

@swiss the falcons vs ‘aints game. Any part of town is good for me I am mobile I just want to go somewhere fun.

Dirty Diana ♠ Going Green, 8, 9 AND 1-0

September 22nd, 2010
12:36 pm

@czBrat since you are in the building I meant blog I will have veggies for lunch, I was going to cheat if you had stepped out. Yep, you messed me up…LOL

Sassy Me...I'm ALL in ;-)

September 22nd, 2010
12:37 pm

I think it was PoppaG who would say how trifling Frank Ski was (infidelity).

He was/is so obvious with it. When “Visions” was open, I saw him several nights leaving with someone who clearly wasn’t his wife….then saw the same thing at Esso,too.

Lady-Wednesday Lover!

September 22nd, 2010
12:41 pm

now all you coffee drinkers why in the heezy is my lunch just that DD daggit 4 splenda’s and 2 creams! somebody rescue me! gheesh! i need some good music for this hump day!

Dirty Diana ♠ Going Green, 8, 9 AND 1-0

September 22nd, 2010
12:42 pm

@sasssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssy one of my gf’s complained about Ski always leaving and hitting on various women. Apparently Ski –skeeted in her girl and did her girl wrong so she did not have much respect for him.

blue - ™

September 22nd, 2010
12:42 pm

need food…Sassy – can you watch Fred?

czBrat

September 22nd, 2010
12:43 pm

you’ll thank me later, DD. when you finally decide to venture into the world of online dating and don’t have to lie about your weight. :lol: :lol:

Melo

September 22nd, 2010
12:44 pm

@Sassy??

That church aggressive gouging for money is why I hate some churches.
I prefer they preach then let people take personal responsibility with their lives!
Why dabble the illusion of ten fold return on one’s tithe as if you
are God?
This is where they hoodwink weak people fir personal gain.
Why not just preach and let your good works speak fir themselves? If people want to give more they do it on their own volition!

Dirty Diana ♠ Going Green, 8, 9 AND 1-0

September 22nd, 2010
12:45 pm

Play some EL not in Eddie Long but EL Debarge Lady, save those splenda’s for me I need a box or I might have to pick up a few in QT until I can get to the store…I kid I kid. ‘

I am getting reading to play some EL, Sade, Phyllis Hyman and Jermaine Jackson “why don’t you do what you did when you did what you did to meeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee.” I will add some Michael Bolton, phil collins and Billy Ocean to round things out.

Dirty Diana ♠ Going Green, 8, 9 AND 1-0

September 22nd, 2010
12:47 pm

need food…Sassy – can you watch Fred?

@sassssssssssssssssssssssssssy say yes and let me hold fred the lunch crowd is popping at the pink pony I am sure fred can make at lease 3K in an hour. I will give you a cut.

you’ll thank me later, DD. when you finally decide to venture into the world of online dating and don’t have to lie about your weight.

@brat that was a good one….LOL

Dig That

September 22nd, 2010
12:48 pm

@czbrat- I really don’t attend any church at this time, however you can believe no matter what they say that pretty much all of them wish they had a mega church so they are all pretty much the same. Some people are only runners that sell sacks and some of us are built to push pounds and kilos. But who doesn’t want a bigger trap? The more that show up the more u get paid. Can’t knock the hustle.

MsBulldawg84

September 22nd, 2010
12:48 pm

Have been doing the online dating thing for almost 3 years now. One serious (1-year) relationship that ended last year. Lots of interesting characters including a guy I swear was mafia (he drove a ferrari and a rolls), guys who are looking for a one night stand (sorry, not me), guys looking for a sugar momma (once again, sorry, not me) and tons of much younger guys looking for a cougar (strike 3….sorry again). But it has been a heck of a journey for this almost 50-year old woman. I’ll keep looking, but my hopes for finding Mr. Right online are dimming.

Sassy Me...I'm ALL in ;-)

September 22nd, 2010
12:48 pm

I wonder if his wife meets the other folks on the side or just pretends not to know.

Tanya ain’t stupid…she HAS to know. But I’m sure that she’s secure and taken care of…her and the children. Tanya knows that if she leaves him she’s gonna be knee deep in his $$$$$$$$$….and ski knows that,too.

blue/Dianaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa that’s what I don’t understand..if I wanna join why do I have to show pay stubs? Whatever happened to when the pastor would say “And the doors of the church are now open”, and whomever wanted to join simply went up to the altar? What happened to giving if you can?…

Lady-Wednesday Lover!

September 22nd, 2010
12:48 pm

dd I had to find me some real sugar honey that mess was nasty! lololol my coffee is sweet as all get up now! YAY! :)

hmmmm I want some Pil Collins, Regina Belle, Alex O’neal, L.T.D., and KEM!!!!!!!!!

cjamesatl

September 22nd, 2010
12:49 pm

This month my partner and I celebrate our 7th anniversary, and we met online. So, it does work. The only hindrance that I experienced with dating people I’ve met online is that many of them misrepresent themselves with the photos they post, or they inflate and sometimes outright lie about who they are and what their interests are.

Dirty Diana ♠ Going Green, 8, 9 AND 1-0

September 22nd, 2010
12:53 pm

@lady alexander o’neal sounds good, and Kem is good anytime. Save that splenda I take my coffee with one pack of splenda and a nice amount of cream. If I had to chose cream is a must, but I don’t have to have sugar.

@cjamesatl…congrats on finding your partner of 7 years…

Lady-Wednesday Lover!

September 22nd, 2010
12:53 pm

meant phil collins

Sassy Me...I'm ALL in ;-)

September 22nd, 2010
12:54 pm

Ski –skeeted in her girl and did her girl wrong so she did not have much respect for him.

:shock:

can you watch Fred?

Okay blue….

say yes and let me hold fred the lunch crowd is popping at the pink pony I am sure fred can make at lease 3K in an hour. I will give you a cut.

shhhh Dianaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa here’s his leash…

DreamsMaterialize

September 22nd, 2010
12:54 pm

after all that, how much of a leap is it, really, to throw in a BJ?
swiss that has to be the funniest thought of the day. I don’t want to jynx you, but you seemed to walk away from that one unscathed. I’d still keep the vest on though. lol

Lady-Wednesday Lover!

September 22nd, 2010
12:55 pm

don’t make one of your gifts be a idustrial size box of splenda! smh hone yuck! but ok I will save you some! i just added raw sugar to that splenda and it is good now….coffee makes me sleepy………lol

Dirty Diana ♠ Going Green, 8, 9 AND 1-0

September 22nd, 2010
12:59 pm

@sasssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssy thanks here is the hush money

@lady hold on to that splenda, that’ s good stuff.

@Dreams, Sir may I have a drink if the bar is open? pretty please

Dirty Diana ♠ Going Green, 8, 9 AND 1-0

September 22nd, 2010
1:01 pm

@lady yes please make that one of my gifts and add the game as well you know the game I am talking about LMBAO…laughing really hard

Lady-Wednesday Lover!

September 22nd, 2010
1:07 pm

you got it chica!!!!! you are checked off and cleared through santa even though you showed OWT this year! LMBAO @ you!!!!!!!!!!

I Feel

September 22nd, 2010
1:08 pm

eddie long, damn, he wrong. very wrong, so wrong. i have been here only a few years and atl seems to gets more homosexual every year. it’s definitely a coming out city and a lot of folks think it’s the new ‘fad’ to be gay or even down low gay; dressing like women, hair extensions like women, wearing make up like women, is that not a deep mental issue? and with folks like eddie long, an apparent ring leader (frank ski too, art franklin, ludacris) involved, it adds fuel to the fire. question is, what can we honestly do to help folks from getting hurt and abused? we couldn’t be too late…GOD help us all please

i'm swiss™

September 22nd, 2010
1:11 pm

“…that has to be the funniest thought of the day”

Dreams — It’s funny ‘cos it’s true… ;-) :lol: Yeah, so far so good. Haven’t caught any shrapnel yet. I’m sure I’ve got some folks praying for me, though… ;-) :lol:

Sassy Me...I'm ALL in ;-)

September 22nd, 2010
1:14 pm

thanks here is the hush money

Thanks Dianaaaaaaaaaa…tell Fred he betta shake his money maker :)

I am whatever you say I am

September 22nd, 2010
1:14 pm

ALOL @ Blue’s 12:04

i'm swiss™

September 22nd, 2010
1:14 pm

Luda? Huh… Hadn’t heard that one…

Kym

September 22nd, 2010
1:15 pm

@Swiss Luda and Usher and other celebs in the Atl go to New Birth.

i'm swiss™

September 22nd, 2010
1:17 pm

Kym — Ah, gotcha.

Melo

September 22nd, 2010
1:21 pm

@Swiss!?

that means Atl is really shaken to the core today and henceforth.
Channel 2 just reported a tremor whose center is near 12 street midtown Atl. LOL

NB membership must have dropped 10% today!

Lady-Wednesday Lover!

September 22nd, 2010
1:23 pm

melo you stoopid lmbao! a tremor! too funny!

I am whatever you say I am

September 22nd, 2010
1:25 pm

Random:
Frank Ski talks so much…how could any real women find him attractive and want to sleep with him?

Girl: yeah yeah daddy right there!

Frank: so yeah what is this experience to you? Do you like it when it is done this way and that way.
How bout we try this. When I was in Baltimore, back in my djing days, girls would come up to the booth with new ways I should try.
They would hit on me and I would just do my thing in the booth.
I’m going to put this track in so that we can go back, way back back in to time.
Where is my 30 and up crew???? All my heads from New York? This one is for you too. Go on head…. Dim the lights a bit…. If you were spinning on your head and pop locking in the 80’s….MAKE SOME NOOOOIIISEEEE!!!

Girl: yawn.

Leggs

September 22nd, 2010
1:25 pm

@czB~ yes it does, yes it does. The first picture you clicked on immediately made me think “Mommi, look what they’re saying about me…I cain’t hide no mo!”

Seriously, I hope it’s not true!

DreamsMaterialize

September 22nd, 2010
1:30 pm

I’m starting a church this weekend everyone. Not one penny will be required from the congregation. All of the church’s income will be generated by business ventures initiated by the church. Who’s with me?

Dreams, Sir may I have a drink if the bar is open? pretty please
Double D’s you got it. what’ll it be? btw, I expect to see you at my new church this weekend. lol