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Online love is a battlefield too?

I have to hand to the single people who are online dating these days. Seriously, you are true soldiers of love! A lot of us go online, create a profile, answer the billion personality questions, load a picture, then actually communicate with potential dates. That takes focus and effort that some people don’t even put into “offline” dating!

I think people are used to doing it now so the rules of engagement, as it were, are easier to determine and perhaps better then it used to be. What kind of things should you always consider when deciding to date online? How do you gauge real interest? It seems that the physical attraction (or lack thereof) is the biggest hurdle to clear in the beginning. What do you think makes it easier to offset that challenge?

Have you tried online dating recently? Do you believe it has lead to good matches? If you had to put a profile up, what sorts of things would get your attention? Humor and wit, racy pictures?

The matchmaker, Paul Brunson who guest blogged for us (aka Real Life “Hitch” ) has taken to Twitter to connect single people from all over!  It’s very interesting to see the questions that people want to ask the bachelor/bachelorette.

If you meet someone online, what are the most important questions to ask to get a feel for how compatible (crazy?) they are?

529 comments Add your comment

czBrat

September 22nd, 2010
10:20 am

LOL @ swiss. i have a feeling you’re gonna wake me up this morning dude.

Kym

September 22nd, 2010
10:23 am

I wonder if Bishop is that famous Pastor..E.Lynn Harris use to write about? Ohhh Bishop you one crazyy freak..but why all the ceremony stuff..you already got them brainwashed..Frank Ski sounded like he was gonna cry this morning.

Simple Man!!!!

September 22nd, 2010
10:24 am

Morning evy…. Welcome to the party….

Tight t-shirts and lace fronts….Well damn…And I was hung on the headband that made him look like a solid gold dancer….

Dirty Diana ♠ Going Green, 8, 9 AND THE 1

September 22nd, 2010
10:25 am

@swiss “pie” is a term I use to describe moist, lady-like men. It is not a main stream term or it is my own little colliquial (sp) term that I use. No rhyme or reason behind it I just like using the word in that manner.

@ Dan ?

Lady-Wednesday Lover!

September 22nd, 2010
10:25 am

Kym I think so always thought that reading those novels………it goes back 20 years even the 1st church before the mega church…..

Dirty Diana ♠ Going Green, 8, 9 AND THE 1

September 22nd, 2010
10:25 am

@swiss I forgot your :grin:

Simple Man!!!!

September 22nd, 2010
10:26 am

Kym, Frank was just pissed cause Eddie got a whole team of “boys” and he is stuck kissing Bubby!!!

2CPTG©

September 22nd, 2010
10:27 am

y’all really think I give a damn about making some of his followers mad??? really? Alot of these so-called preachers ain’t nuttin but pulpit pimps, anyway!!! As far as following the message, Jesus was/is the message!!! The Good News!

And the firsthand account came from one of his ex-henchmen who apparently fell out with him, and got fired. dude didn’t go public, he just let it be known what the good bishop was doing….

Melo

September 22nd, 2010
10:27 am

@Dan??

Why is it hitting you close?

molested when young?

i'm swiss™

September 22nd, 2010
10:28 am

Dirty D — Ah, okay… Thanks for clearing that up. But, you know, it does kind of make sense, since pie is fruity, etc. Although, cobbler is even more fruity than pie… Hmm… Feel free to use that one for extreme pie-ness, if you want… :lol:

2CPTG©

September 22nd, 2010
10:29 am

LuvBug, you asked about pictures not aligning….they call that bait-n-switch…..if sparks fly from the initial attraction, and conversation is warranted, then it goes to the web-camming….that way, y’all can see one another in the present, not what you looked like before you had them 5 kids and let ya’self go to hell…..

2CPTG©

September 22nd, 2010
10:30 am

DD…..”pie” isn’t a term known just to you…..lotta folks use that term as well….very popular here in Florida….

evy

September 22nd, 2010
10:30 am

@ simple: nice bucker list…hee hee hee…i like to end (or start) my workday with such ‘tasks’, too…i consider it a public service, as who knows what might happen if i let myself get bored…

@ swiss: “methinks thou dost protest too much…” still a good line

@ blue: ohhh, sorry, dah-ling…the boston cremes are still cooling…hafta put the chocolate on…but, (they say) good things come to those who wait…

@ lady weds. & melo: agreed; the appearance of impropriety will hang a person just as dead as the actual thing…i know this from personal experience, being frequently at the end of my rope…wait a minute…that didn’t come out right…

@ diana: ‘the blog ate your post’…lol…mind that, now, lest it eat your lunch – at a 4 (!), you miss a meal, someone might have to resuscitate (sp?) you…ty 4 the welcom – twiggy pumpkin comin up!

@ luvbug: i had a co-worker who was straight psycho and to whom, one day when she was fetchingly (gag) attired in a monstrous purple suit, another c-w referred as “a crazed grimace” – y’know, from the old mc’d’s commercials…could never see her any other way after that…which was alright, ‘cuz it made it impossible for me not to smile when talking to or about her, thus resulting in an improvement in office morale and general productivity, and a nice bonus…see – the universe works!

@ swiss (again): re: 10:05 #2 – yeah, what is that about?! how exactly does one play that off?

Luvbug

September 22nd, 2010
10:32 am

2C- Webcam? Good one.

Luvbug

September 22nd, 2010
10:34 am

Kym

September 22nd, 2010
10:34 am

@2C I know you don’t..I am just waiting on the followers to show up..cause you know they are all just outdone…then Dale Russell broke the story too..man..when you see Dale coming with the camera you know he already got you by the short hairs just run..

i'm swiss™

September 22nd, 2010
10:35 am

2Can — Yeah, webcam is definitely a good call. And, who knows… if the web-cam convo gets rolling & you open up the cyber-bar, you might just end up with a little web cam peep show… :lol:

Dan - simply...

September 22nd, 2010
10:35 am

@DD

Like 2C said, I know the term. My point is gay or not, attacking an minor physically, mentally or emotionally is low. There’s a special place in Hell for folks like that (and special treatment in jail too).

@Melo

No, I was not. But I’ve dated/known quite a few women that were. Chances are you know a few too.

Latest stats have 33% of girls, and 18% of boys, (that’s reported) being molested before 18.

Sensationalism aside, this is no laughing matter.

Lady-Wednesday Lover!

September 22nd, 2010
10:35 am

DD what is poppin’ chica!?!

Look @ 2CPTG…..lol I am not against the Bishop, his lifestyle, New Birth or the victims my concern is who and how we allow folks in our space….just be careful and informed consent is blurred most of the times with personal bonds and it gets ugly when its over……..

DC Rose

September 22nd, 2010
10:35 am

Cobbler = extreme pie-ness. priceless

Dirty Diana ♠ Going Green, 8, 9 AND THE 1

September 22nd, 2010
10:35 am

@Swiss I will use “cobbler” depending on the pics

@2C I spend a lot of time in FL maybe they caught on… shrugs

@evy…LOL that is funny about the blog eating my lunch…too funny

@Melo exactly on your 10:27

Mo (aka Moeisha )

September 22nd, 2010
10:36 am

DD – on your 10:19….GTFOH!!! Are you serious?!?! Oh now thats just…EEEWWWWW!

Simple Man!!!!

September 22nd, 2010
10:36 am

Has anyone said if the Bishop was pitching or catching????

czBrat

September 22nd, 2010
10:37 am

attired in a monstrous purple suit, another c-w referred as “a crazed grimace” – y’know, from the old mc’d’s commercials… :shock:
on that note, this casual attire office has been cool for the past couple of years, but i’m missing my power suits :( i think i’ll put one on to run my errands this weekend.

i'm swiss™

September 22nd, 2010
10:38 am

“Has anyone said if the Bishop was pitching or catching????”

I don’t know all the details, but apparently he was throwing spit balls… :lol:

blue - ™

September 22nd, 2010
10:39 am

@evy – :( , well…ok..sniff sniff…really wanted that donut….
@swiss – pie:fruity, cobbler:extreme fruity, hilarious….
@Dan – wow on those stats…the numbers are amazing just how many people have been victims….and having been a victim often explains at least some of your behaviour in your own relationships…..

kimmie

September 22nd, 2010
10:41 am

Good day mates! (Said in my best English accent)

That’s why I can’t do mega-churchs. I go to my nice little humble and classy church I grew up in. All that “flamboyance” was always suspect to me. No way can I respect a pastor in a muscle shirt, vest and jheri curl. Just not gonna happen.

Kym – Yeah, Ski did sound like he wanted to cry! He mentioned how folks turned on his other hanging buddy, Bill Campbell. Well, birds of a feather….

Melo – I agree, perception can be everything. Even if he gets off, he’s done. That lawyer has all the texts he used to send those dudes all day like a love-sick teenager. Just that alone is not a good look.

On topic – I know quite a few people that have met online and gotten married. It’s just another way to meet people and since everyone is online now, it’s something that was bound to happen. It does not have the stigma that personal ads in the newspaper used to have and it’s way more reliable. I wouldn’t be opposed to it.

AmazonRed™

September 22nd, 2010
10:43 am

Morning all –

Havent tried online dating in a minute. It’s hard for me because you can’t judge chemistry, and when it’s time to meet, I am always gun shy.

Many of my friends who have found online dating successful have met their mates on social networking sites like Facebook. More often though, it’s someone they already knew, and reconnnected with when they found each other on a social networking site.

Lady-Wednesday Lover!

September 22nd, 2010
10:43 am

DCRose LMBAO!

Commercial Break: I just read in today’s USA Today that SC State is ranked as the number #1 HBCU football team in the country. Get up SC! Get up!!!!!

Dirty Diana ♠ Going Green, 8, 9 AND THE 1

September 22nd, 2010
10:44 am

@DD

Like 2C said, I know the term. My point is gay or not, attacking an minor physically, mentally or emotionally is low. There’s a special place in Hell for folks like that (and special treatment in jail too).

Dan-boy, first off please advise me if I lost the Freedom of Speech that the “Bill of Rights” say I have. Next, I asked for a picture, because I wanted to see how the claimants looked. I get sick and tired or your can’t read, and comprehend azz putting words in my mouth. If some grown man took you when you was small I hope you can get over it, but do not come at me for asking a question. I do not talk to you on this blog, and I have kindly asked of you to do the same. Now will you please go away and stop sniffing around me. As for the term PIE you should know the word on an intimate level, because you went from PIE to COBBLER this morning with your :cry: tail.

I am whatever you say I am

September 22nd, 2010
10:44 am

Blue: THe confetti is from Simple’s Man’s strip party.
I have pictures to prove it

Dirty Diana ♠ Going Green, 8, 9 AND THE 1

September 22nd, 2010
10:46 am

@Swiss and Mo I just finish reading well going over both complaints there was no penatration mentioned, however both claim that oral was exchanged, but it appears EL or Longfellow gave the oral. The alleged victims are suing EL, NB and the Longfellow Academy.

Melo

September 22nd, 2010
10:46 am

@Mo/DD?

I first heard of this on CNN at 8 last nite and Rick Sanchez was reading from the highlighted deposition. That PSH on the NZ trip was mentioned and how the boy was being treated for his 18 th birthday!

Now uall blind females and thumpers, who takes a stranger kid on a celebration trip to an exotic destination like that unless they have an ulterior motive?
Daaamn!

evy

September 22nd, 2010
10:46 am

@lady weds.: ho, ho, ho – good ta know! ty

@ blue: please to make up yer mind, missy – i am a simple soul, and easily confused by too much input…btw, pumpkin pie is a special order and will have to be delivered by carrier pigeon after 11 am

@ simple: gm 2 u 2, & ty

@ dan: well said.

@ diana: :D

Simple Man!!!!

September 22nd, 2010
10:47 am

Morning Ared…. Do I need to change my approach??? I was juuust about to hit you up for an online date…. :D :D

Dirty Diana ♠ Going Green, 8, 9 AND THE 1

September 22nd, 2010
10:47 am

@lady nothing much just reading this EL scandal…but I need to do some work, because EL don’t pay my bills LOL

Kym

September 22nd, 2010
10:47 am

@kimmie..I was listening and smh..talking about he still has faith..Faith in who? Bishop..dude get a grip..

Dan - simply...

September 22nd, 2010
10:48 am

@DD

Must you take everything personally.

Freedom of speech Deese.

The fact of the matter is, people casually toss about words and don’t think of the impact. I wasn’t attacking you personally, just that line of jokes.

As to you comment and joking or referring to me being molested, that speaks volumes to your character. I hope you find some peace.

AmazonRed™

September 22nd, 2010
10:48 am

LOL. Morning Simple Man. You can’t be serious. This site would be the last place I’d accept a date. Not only can you be anyone on here with no accountability, you could show up looking like a real life Grape Ape. :lol:

Simple Man!!!!

September 22nd, 2010
10:48 am

Morning I am… Let me talk to you about those pictures….

Dirty Diana ♠ Going Green, 8, 9 AND THE 1

September 22nd, 2010
10:51 am

Melo I missed the cnn report last night, I was out but I started getting text messages on my phone. I received as many text messages about EL as I did when MJ died. So I started reading then, and catching up. Yeah, it is my understanding that the PSH was like a BD gift that went along with the trip. The complaint names several Elders and advisors that allegedly knew what was going on. I do not listen to v103, but I hear frank ski played a lot of gospel music this morning. Apparently EL’s atty went on the Gospel station, but the claimants atty made her rounds on morning radio starting with the Rickey Smiley morning show.

DreamsMaterialize

September 22nd, 2010
10:53 am

Morning
Will comment on the topic in a minute.

Did anyone check out Jupiter under the harvest moon last night? You could see it clear and bright. Tomorrow night you should be able to see the harvest moon, Jupiter, and Uranus all aligned.

Lady-Wednesday Lover!

September 22nd, 2010
10:54 am

DD you are a mess! lol!

Melo

September 22nd, 2010
10:54 am

@Dan?

I don’t think anybody us making jokes at the molested, maybe rather at EL, guilty or innocent.

You know a lot of us have had prior doubts about him. Now this seems like validation.

Molestation in itself is no small matter.
But I cannot personally say I feel sorry for Eddie. His flaunting of wealth makes me’ sick.

A preacher, my ideal preacher gotta be humbler and poorer than that!

i'm swiss™

September 22nd, 2010
10:54 am

“..who takes a stranger kid on a celebration trip to an exotic destination like that unless they have an ulterior motive?”

Melo / Lady — Yeah, even if the allegations are false (and in this case, I’d bet good $$ ol’ EL sucked on some young ding-a-ling), what kind of moron would put themselves in that position with a young kid? The year that I taught high school, I never put myself in a situation where I was in a room alone with one of the kids (girl or guy). I always made sure someone else was around, or that we were speaking in an open, public area. No way I was getting caught up in any of that kind of mess…

Dirty Diana ♠ Going Green, 8, 9 AND THE 1

September 22nd, 2010
10:56 am

@Dan, you took it personal when I asked how these alleged victims looked. Think about it, (you claim to be a smart man). Folks on here started early talking about Bishop’s hair, clothing, nails, etc., but I cannot ask about the alleged claimants. GTFOOH :arrow: go sit your tired-two-faced-bandwagon-riding-tail down.

This complaint is public knowledge, and I have the right to ask questions.

Luvbug

September 22nd, 2010
10:56 am

Melo – For whatever reason, I’m not riled up by the accusation yet. It’s only the first stage. Once I get more info and evidence that leans alarming, I will gladly be angry.

Right now it’s just news heading and words on paper.

And no…I don’t belong to anyone’s church or religious institution. I’m already going to hell.

i'm swiss™

September 22nd, 2010
10:58 am

How old were the boys when all this went down? 17? 18?

Lady-Wednesday Lover!

September 22nd, 2010
10:58 am

DreamsM Grey Goose Please sir! :)

Swiss I have been in it for eight years and again I don’t embrace students on a personal level at all! I see others that do though but i digress! :)

blue - ™

September 22nd, 2010
10:59 am

@i am – pics, you dont say? hmmm….
@evy – oh, sorry…well seeing as it is almost 11, i guess i can wait for the pigeon….
@DD – so basically everyone in a postion to make him act right new and just turned their heads….thats why i cant do church….lol
@Dreams – hadnt heard about it, but cool. gotta see about showing teh little blues…