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Online love is a battlefield too?

I have to hand to the single people who are online dating these days. Seriously, you are true soldiers of love! A lot of us go online, create a profile, answer the billion personality questions, load a picture, then actually communicate with potential dates. That takes focus and effort that some people don’t even put into “offline” dating!

I think people are used to doing it now so the rules of engagement, as it were, are easier to determine and perhaps better then it used to be. What kind of things should you always consider when deciding to date online? How do you gauge real interest? It seems that the physical attraction (or lack thereof) is the biggest hurdle to clear in the beginning. What do you think makes it easier to offset that challenge?

Have you tried online dating recently? Do you believe it has lead to good matches? If you had to put a profile up, what sorts of things would get your attention? Humor and wit, racy pictures?

The matchmaker, Paul Brunson who guest blogged for us (aka Real Life “Hitch” ) has taken to Twitter to connect single people from all over!  It’s very interesting to see the questions that people want to ask the bachelor/bachelorette.

If you meet someone online, what are the most important questions to ask to get a feel for how compatible (crazy?) they are?

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Mo (aka Moeisha )

September 22nd, 2010
4:07 pm

Dig That – between the screens flipping infomercials, the HUGE pic of Bishop in the lobby along with the line to the store to purchase his book/sermon/etc, the ATM and just the lack of order (yes Im old school)….it was just waaay too much for me. I wont even talk about how out of 6 sundays I may have heard him preach 1. Always off speaking somewhere else….so I could never understand….ok nevermind…

2CPTG©

September 22nd, 2010
4:07 pm

Dang, Dana….now you don’t wanna respond??? You know I can get on Hwy 20, and be there in 90 minutes!!!

czBrat

September 22nd, 2010
4:08 pm

ditto leggs. my daughter was 13 and had taken the necessary courses before i allowed her to be responsible for another child. AND i popped in every now and again to check on things and help her out!

Melo

September 22nd, 2010
4:10 pm

U can’t feel but sadness for the King daughter who has had a fair share of scandal with that Scl thang! Now this.

Wait a minute, she ain’t married either so is that another can of worms here?

Leggs

September 22nd, 2010
4:11 pm

Kudos, czB! Glad to hear that. Good for you!

@Mo ~ that’s another point, the man is so busy he’s rarely there on Sunday. WOW!

Poppa Grande

September 22nd, 2010
4:11 pm

Oh yeah…..as far as the topic goes (in respect for Wise Diva)

Yes, online love is a battlefield, too! :grin:

I only had one experience before I got married. That female didn’t quite look like her picture.

Elijah ( I want some of dat)

September 22nd, 2010
4:16 pm

A fire is burning in Deklab County!!!!!!!!!

What’s up people?

Online dating don’t need it, would not try it… I enjoy meeting the ladies in personal. I like to watch body movement or see a smile which always give me an indication I can get those digits…

Hello its me…Lurker…. How are thou? :evil:

@Dana are you nominate to be the blog detective…. You are too funny…..

Poppa Grande

September 22nd, 2010
4:16 pm

Melo…Bernice is a big girl. She has lived her whole life in public. Her dad is one of most influential people of the 20th century. Her mom had a pretty nice resume herself.

Caroline Kennedy would probably be the only person to understand how Bernice King’s life is. Both have seen there share of tragedy and scandal.

blue - ™

September 22nd, 2010
4:18 pm

been distracted…but yall have a good evening!!

Leggs

September 22nd, 2010
4:18 pm

@Elijah, you’re not actually dating online, just met the person online…you’re still free “to watch body movement or see a smile which always give me an indication I can get those digits” once you two go out on a date.

Dig That

September 22nd, 2010
4:20 pm

@Leggs- that is the only logical answer.

@Mo- Lol. I started going to another church a couple years ago because it had that down to earth feeling. I could find a parking space IN FRONT OF THE CHURCH and the pastor was a good ol boy from Alabama and he seemed to be against mega churches. That lasted about a good 8 months and the next thing you know we getting bombarded with extra offerings and such because he now out the blue GAWD told him to go big. So all of a sudden he needed a dome too and I did pledge about $200 but went out of town for a month when I got back do you know that fool sent me what felt like a collection letter. I was like WTF. Back to worshipping in the living room.

Melo

September 22nd, 2010
4:20 pm

Poppa?

I know. I kinda have a bad feel for EL now that dome say Tyler’s name has been thrown in there.

The A ain’t looking spruced up right now!
@Leggs?

U ran away from the ATM? Funny indeed but wise!

i'm swiss™

September 22nd, 2010
4:20 pm

Hey, Dirty D — You settled on viewing plans for the game yet? The game will be on the big screen at Chateau Swiss and you know how we white boys like to get our drank on… Admittance is only fighdollaz, and there’s no cover for ladies who flash their pom-poms… :lol:

Dirty Diana ♠ Going Green, 8, 9 AND 1-0

September 22nd, 2010
4:21 pm

Wait a minute, she ain’t married either so is that another can of worms here?

@Melo, you’ve heard the rumors regarding Bernice and her bro Dexter so you already know. The thing is I love me some Bernice and she is an excellent speaker. Dexter is a pretty boy and I love looking at him as well. So don’t you talk about King’s children some things are off limits in the AA community MLK and Obama. :grin:

kimmie

September 22nd, 2010
4:22 pm

Melo, you got any more recipes?

Luvbug

September 22nd, 2010
4:22 pm

Where are we? Eddie Long still?

I visited his church a few times, but I missed the ATM. LOL

I liked some parts of the short sermon. Over all, I felt uncomfortable and suspicious of the grandness…I chucked my feelings up to not being very churchy or religious. Oh well.

What a day?

Dreams- I’ll have an ummm…never mind.

Leggs

September 22nd, 2010
4:23 pm

@Melo ~ actually, I stared at that ATM machine for quite sometime. I was actually stuck, just staring in disbelief…

Dirty Diana ♠ Going Green, 8, 9 AND 1-0

September 22nd, 2010
4:24 pm

@Swiss no I do not have viewing plans yet, but don’t make me drive up there…I will give you my fighdollaz and bring a bottle and some wings. shoot I would flash my pom poms, but I tend to do my strip tease in slow motion so I don’t want mrs. swiss kicking both of our azzes…LOL

Dirty Diana ♠ Going Green, 8, 9 AND 1-0

September 22nd, 2010
4:25 pm

Luvbug I’ve been there several times, and I have missed the ATM too, so don’t feel bad

Dig That

September 22nd, 2010
4:26 pm

Flash them pom poms girl

Leggs

September 22nd, 2010
4:26 pm

What is the other megachurch here in Atlanta? New Birth and ___________?

i'm swiss™

September 22nd, 2010
4:27 pm

“but I tend to do my strip tease in slow motion so I don’t want mrs. swiss kicking both of our azzes”

That’s not a problem, Dirty D… just invite Mrs. Swiss to do the striptease with you. But don’t start yet, let me go get my camera… :lol:

Luvbug

September 22nd, 2010
4:28 pm

Diana – LOL

Leggs – I can only think of Long and Dollar.

Elijah ( I want some of dat)

September 22nd, 2010
4:28 pm

@Leggs…. I like to interact personally…I work with a Laptop computer the majority of the day and I really do not want to continue to straining my eyes looking at a someone thru a computer. Besides just being out and about will get you all the action you need… I like to be outside… :wink:

What-ups DirtyD you are correct their will be no bashing of The president nor the King family… :smile:

Their is a whole lot going on in the

LURKER-1

September 22nd, 2010
4:29 pm

Now Barnes has cancelled a fundraiser with EL. Reality tv could not come up with a story this hot. When it’s all said and done, maybe Spike will do a documentary:-)

Melo

September 22nd, 2010
4:30 pm

DD 4.21!

I’m hushed right now!

Where u watch ur football at? I need a football watching place fir this weekend other my big screen.
Suggestions people?

@Kimmie?

not right now but when I cook some next I will share.

Poppa Grande

September 22nd, 2010
4:30 pm

Leggs

How did you forget Creflo Dollar and World Changers?

My church isn’t small but it isn’t the size of those two either. Antioch Baptist North is where I am a member, but I don’t go as often as I should. I worry that some members worship our pastor as well. He is not a fan Eddie Long or Creflo Dollar. Rev. Alexander often refers to EL as the man who preaches in muscles shirts.

Dig That

September 22nd, 2010
4:32 pm

as the man who preaches in muscles shirts.

@Poppa- yep and now we know why

Elijah ( I want some of dat)

September 22nd, 2010
4:33 pm

@Melo…. I think Luvbug wants some of that Talapia…. You should hook her up this weekend…

Dr Staney Church is considered a mega church… So is Andy Stanley church.. I think they both have over 15,000 members…

Elijah ( I want some of dat)

September 22nd, 2010
4:34 pm

That’s Tilapia….

Jesse Jr….. Do not call on the Government to come with it….. They came with it….

Poppa Grande

September 22nd, 2010
4:34 pm

There are a number of megachurces. Ebeneezer isn’t exactly a small church either. Especially since they have moved across the street from the historical church building.

kimmie

September 22nd, 2010
4:35 pm

There was an article in the ajc recently about a swiss megachurch here in the A. They had a control room and everything – it looked like the cnn newsroom up in there. Leggs, an ATM is nothing – they even had a Starbucks! No lie!

My church has maybe 400 members. My church was there for my family thru the good and the bad times. I like it’s size just fine.

What actually counts as a megachurch anyway?

Leggs

September 22nd, 2010
4:35 pm

@PoppaG ~ I almost typed not Creflo Dollars…I know it’s not World Changes. When I went to New Birth (now wondering if I in fact was there), the lobby was painted a kind of lavender and the ATM machine was in one of the nooks in the corner. The lobby area was hugh and very pretty. I don’t remember it looking church like though, I remember the ATM and the colored walls.

Leggs

September 22nd, 2010
4:37 pm

@Melo ~ I made cajun talapia last night, but couldn’t eat it. Too dang spicy for me. Brought it to work for a coworker who loves spicy food and then would add hotsauce.

Poppa Grande

September 22nd, 2010
4:39 pm

Kimmie

I went to Elizabeth Baptist once and notice the timer on wall. Pastor Oliver has to have his sermon done within that time frame. I guess that it is done for television, but it was different.

i'm swiss™

September 22nd, 2010
4:39 pm

These “mega-churches” have nothing on the catholic church. Now that operation has got r@ping & pillaging down to a science. Ever seen how lavishly those cathedrals are decked out? And on the “f@#king little boys” front, nobody can touch this outfit. Priest catching too much heat? Just shuffle him off to some faraway (and unsuspecting) parish…

Melo

September 22nd, 2010
4:41 pm

I think after this most people will have a relook at attending mega churches.

There are there for the money rat race and big egos!
Eddie earned 1$mil in 1999. Wonder what he earns now?

I bet that Poppa pastor is proly envious too, why call another man of god like that?

It’s all about money, nothing for members!

kimmie

September 22nd, 2010
4:41 pm

Poppa – I go to a Presbyterian church. We wouldn’t have a timer, but you can best believe that sermon is not going over 20 minutes tops. We do not believe in staying in church all day!LOL!!

czBrat

September 22nd, 2010
4:42 pm

kimmie, do you like eggplant? i printed a new recipe just this morning that i can’t wait to try out.

leggs, you must have been looking at the atm like ’surely this is here for my convenience, right? cuz i KNOW they don’t mean for me to draw on my funds and hand it straight over to them!’ :shock:

Elijah ( I want some of dat)

September 22nd, 2010
4:43 pm

Hello Ms. Kimmie….Ummmm Black belt SO…..I guess I will not be sending you anymore compliments! :wink:

I went to Elizabeth Baptist once and the guest speaker spoke about how much money different individuals contributed to the video program…. I was like not gonna see me again….

Dirty Diana ♠ Going Green, 8, 9 AND 1-0

September 22nd, 2010
4:44 pm

@Dig that…are you looking too?

@Swiss no cameras please I might run for office one day

@Elijah you dayum right the King family and the Obamas are off limits.

@melo thanks for respecting my AA law :grin: As for the game…I am not sure I am thinking taco mac or something like that I will know for sure tomorrow.

Luvbug

September 22nd, 2010
4:44 pm

Elijah – That Me & Melo joke was only good the first time around. You’re in over kill now. LOL

Melo

September 22nd, 2010
4:44 pm

@Leggs!

I mixed my spices and just a pinch of each, not much.

U need just a whiff for it to taste good, in my opinion.

I dont like too much of anything

kimmie

September 22nd, 2010
4:45 pm

Brat – I love eggplant parmesean. I personally have never prepared eggplant, I always have eaten it in restaraunts. Let me know how it turns out!

Elijah ( I want some of dat)

September 22nd, 2010
4:45 pm

@CzBRat…. Go and hand over the funds and also leave me your paystubs so I can make sure you are tithing the correct amount….. :smile:

i'm swiss™

September 22nd, 2010
4:46 pm

“no cameras please I might run for office one day”

Dirty D — Okay, fine… Now, you two move closer & go slow so I can take some mental pictures:lol:

Mo (aka Moeisha )

September 22nd, 2010
4:47 pm

Dig That – on ya 4:20…GTFOH! Oh thats crazy! I woulda been a permanent member of Bedside Baptist after that!! Dayum!!

czBrat

September 22nd, 2010
4:47 pm

kimmie, my sister says no matter what is said or proven of the catholic church she will never attend any other service because they adhere strictly to the 45-minutes-and-you’re-out-the-door rule. LOL

here ya go http://www.kraftrecipes.com/recipes/eggplant-rollatini-118235.aspx?cm_mmc=eml-_-rbe-_-20100921-_-1015

and i’ll let you know when i get s/o to make it. :wink:

Poppa Grande

September 22nd, 2010
4:48 pm

Melo…

I will say that I joined Antioch for what it is doing, not for the pastor.

The church bought an old hotel downtown and houses the homeless.

The church owns a house for battered women and children.

The church has its own substance abuse program. Helps to find people homes and jobs.

So, that is what I like to support. We have to support ourselves before asking for government to help us.

As for the pastor, he has been there since 1969. So, I am sure that he get paid nicely.

He just thinks that EL forsakes his congregation for his own popularity.

As for Creflo Dollar, Rev. Alexander just isn’t a fan of prosperity gospel, and think that he’s leading his congregation astray.

Dirty Diana ♠ Going Green, 8, 9 AND 1-0

September 22nd, 2010
4:49 pm

I bet that Poppa pastor is proly envious too, why call another man of god like that?

LOL I was thinking the same thing.