Do you come with references?
Happy Monday everyone!
I’m hanging out in south Florida this week so our good friend and commenter Mr. M. is stepping in to kick things up… from a man’s perspective:
At one time in all of our careers, someone (employer or potential client) has requested a reference. They want to know not only to get an idea of all the good reasons for explaining their experiences with you, but also for any bad experiences of working with you.
What if we used this practice in dating? What affect could this have on the dating
landscape?
What if you met someone and they asked to speak to people from your most recent
relationships? Would you provide their number? If not, what makes you fearful to provide information?
Wow, Mr. M. is suggesting that we actual provide dating references? I don’t know about this one, I shutter at the thought of the things my ex before last would say about how things went. If you end things on a good note, are you certain the person would give you a good reference to your new potential romance? Would you trust them to tell the truth, as they saw it?
I can’t wait to see what you guys think about this one. Discuss! Oh and I will be checking in during the day, hopefully from a beach chair with a fruity drink in hand!
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Luvbug
September 20th, 2010
12:21 pm
Blue – You’re in a serious relationship, so a proper response is outside of my capabilities…but I would like more details at least for the professionals who are good at delivering great answers on the blog.
What was his reason for not telling you when he introduced her? Was this just a HS thing…when had they stopped being together before you two got together?
2CPTG©
September 20th, 2010
12:21 pm
“2Can – That happens in a perfect world. In reality people miss opportunities everyday from being shy, intimidated, nervous, etc.”
Is that why you haven’t “poked” me on FB, yet?
AmazonRed™
September 20th, 2010
12:23 pm
Is that why you haven’t “poked” me on FB, yet?
First of all…I don’t poke on FB
2nd of all…I don’t know who you are on FB.
Melo
September 20th, 2010
12:24 pm
@Luvbug?
I tended to seriously date chics who were kinda green. But I have slept with experienced chics!
Like what?
Too numerous to go there and I know u are asking me’ a fair question coz u have said your experience is lil.
Some females carry themselves like that.(dress,walk and talk) so a guy can easily place them.
And if u happen to lay, u are presented with another layer.
See?
Luvbug
September 20th, 2010
12:28 pm
Melo – I thought your answer would be the big p thing. I don’t know if that’s a tell tell sign though…or how a woman carries herself. I know a few loose women who look all but loose. LOL
I am whatever you say I am
September 20th, 2010
12:37 pm
random:
When would be teh best time for me to go to lernch so I can look at eye candy
Sucks, the position I applied for is now filled
When should I go on vaycay
What’s my dermatologist phone number again?
:eyerolling:
I am whatever you say I am
September 20th, 2010
12:37 pm
blue - ™
September 20th, 2010
12:37 pm
@Luvbug – his reason for not telling you when he introduced her – “aww, it wasnt that serious….” Was this just a HS thing…when had they stopped being together before you two got together – apparently was just a HS thing, but when she called my house, oh 4 or 5x in one day, im going oh he!! no…but waited to see what happens next…phone call at 1 in the morning…he!! no again….and finally he says we’ve been invited to come spend a few days down her way and hang out….WTF…i should put the disclaimer that we’ve worked thru most of it, but since i cant quite shake it out of my head, guess it aint a done deal….
blue - ™
September 20th, 2010
12:38 pm
@i am – your randoms crack me up……lol
Melo
September 20th, 2010
12:39 pm
@Luvbug?
I’m feeling the first before I even check the big p.
that’s a pro move! 
And I’m not expecting a green to wipe me’ with a warm towel!
Melo
September 20th, 2010
12:41 pm
@Luv?
I’m feeling the tatas first before I scope the big p!
I am whatever you say I am
September 20th, 2010
12:48 pm
LOL @ blue
I am whatever you say I am
September 20th, 2010
12:49 pm
Hold up Blue!
did you just add a trademark to your name!>?!
LOL
blue - ™
September 20th, 2010
12:50 pm
@i am – thats right, i did! lol
alright – food – be back….
Simple Man!!!!
September 20th, 2010
12:53 pm
AmazonRed™ @ 11:24
So you would be OK with a person you just met in passing sending you a Facebook friend request??
SlimNumeroUno
September 20th, 2010
1:03 pm
Melo – being that all chicks are h0es in your book, does that mean Queen falls into that category in your eyes as well? A married h0e? Just asking if your blanket statement covers all bases/females…
Simple Man!!!!
September 20th, 2010
1:07 pm
Catching up today has made for great lunch reading….
Melo, I don’t care how rough the ladies handle you for being a horn dog, You are alright with me!! LOL
AmazonRed™
September 20th, 2010
1:12 pm
So you would be OK with a person you just met in passing sending you a Facebook friend request??
Happens all the time. Heck people I don’t even know from a can of paint do it. It’s my choice to accept or deny.
Simple Man!!!!
September 20th, 2010
1:14 pm
Note to self…..Search AmazonRed™ on Facebook…..
Melo
September 20th, 2010
1:15 pm
@Slim?
If she’s with me’ that means she’s redeemed.
Did u not read my 12.04 carefully?
i'm swiss™
September 20th, 2010
1:18 pm
Off topic: Items confiscated by customs at JFK airport… WTF? My personal favorite is “cow dung toothpaste” from India. Seriously?
“Dude, your breath smells like azz!”
“Cow’s azz, actually. Thanks for noticing!”
Luvbug
September 20th, 2010
1:18 pm
If she’s with me’ that means she’s redeemed.
LOL I think a lot of guys feel that way. That’s why I asked if you would want to know if you had the chance. Many guys wouldn’t. They’d rather not know her past. The older I get the more I am convinced that sex means almost everything to men…not almost everything…but it seem to be a huuuuuuge deal.
Dan - simply...
September 20th, 2010
1:21 pm
And the foolishness continues.
Y’all are a constant source of entertainment.
i'm swiss™
September 20th, 2010
1:21 pm
Luvbug / Melo — Melo’s totally on point. That’s why I call my wang The Redeemer.
Simple Man!!!!
September 20th, 2010
1:22 pm
Luvbug
September 20th, 2010
1:18 pm
Funny you should say that…When I get married, I would not mind if she at one point was buck azz wild,and MEGA FREAKY… as long as it was in another city, in another region of the country!!! LOl
LURKS
September 20th, 2010
1:23 pm
YA’LLS MEN SUM’ ELSE. SIMPLE MAN WENT FROM LEGGS TO AMAZON? SMH
Luvbug
September 20th, 2010
1:24 pm
Simple Man – I believe it!! I think a few guys on here have been pretty open about not wanting a green woman. They’d rather she hit the ground running.
Swiss –
Melo
September 20th, 2010
1:25 pm
@Slim?
unless u think our vows went this way:
Presiding church minister:(to melo) do u take this h03,Queen, as ur wedded wife?
Melo:(with a wide happy grin) yes your honor!
Simple Man!!!!
September 20th, 2010
1:27 pm
LURKS
September 20th, 2010
1:23 pm
Lurks….I am just getting to know my blog mates…..
SlimNumeroUno
September 20th, 2010
1:28 pm
Melo – yous a nutt in a hut
Luvbug
September 20th, 2010
1:31 pm
Simple Man – Regarding your future wife with the sketchy sexual history…would she offend you if she initiated the freaky or does that not bother you either??
For Real
September 20th, 2010
1:33 pm
A nutt in a hut?
Some tongue on da nutts?
Some azz in da cut?
Luvbug
September 20th, 2010
1:33 pm
Simple Man- Regarding your future Mrs with the interesting sex history…would you be turned off if she initiated the freaky most of the time or are you fine with that too??
For Real
September 20th, 2010
1:34 pm
Blue: Question for you, Can a dude and a chick be friends if they sex each other?
Simple Man!!!!
September 20th, 2010
1:35 pm
Luvbug…. truthfully, I have been with both experienced and novice women and on all that I own, I would take the vet over the rookie, everyday of the week!!! As long as she does not have spots on her booty or her mug on the Marque at Starship, ……. Now I am game for a women to initiate the freaky RIGHT NOW! She can kick off whether she wins the coin toss or not!!!
i'm swiss™
September 20th, 2010
1:36 pm
“The older I get the more I am convinced that sex means almost everything to men…not almost everything…but it seem to be a huuuuuuge deal.”
Um, Luvbug… I’m glad you came to that realization and all… and I don’t mean to be rude or anything, but… no shyt, Sherlock!
(Just messing w/ ya — well, sort of…)
blue - ™
September 20th, 2010
1:38 pm
alright, rying to catch up and got held up on “cow dung toothpaste” – just ewwwwww….ok, what are we doing now?
Luvbug
September 20th, 2010
1:38 pm
Simple Man – To be honest, I think most guys would…but many of those same guys don’t feel comfortable with a woman being a lot better or aggressive than them.
Luvbug
September 20th, 2010
1:39 pm
swiss – You’re right. I knew it, but didn’t know how much. Seems everything else is secondary…hey, I was slow on that one. Knowing is half the battle right? LOL
SlimNumeroUno
September 20th, 2010
1:40 pm
A nutt in a hut?
Some tongue on da nutts?
Some azz in da cut?
For Real is that you or is that melo wearing a For Real costume?
blue - ™
September 20th, 2010
1:40 pm
@For Real – (feel like im walking into a setup, hmmm…) yes, they can be friends….
, smdh….
@Simple Man – As long as she does not have spots on her booty or her mug on the Marque at Starship, …
For Real
September 20th, 2010
1:42 pm
“The older I get the more I am convinced that sex means almost everything to men…not almost everything…but it seem to be a huuuuuuge deal.”
WHAT TOOK YOU SO LONG?????????
In case there are some other chicks out there that don’t know men here you go:
1. WE LIKE SEX
2. WE WANT YOUR SEX
3. WE LIKE MONEY
4. WE LIKE SPORTS
5. WE LIKE FOOD
6. WE LIKE BEER
7. WE LIKE QUIET
8. A PERFECT DAY INVOLVES ALL OF THE ABOVE
Luvbug
September 20th, 2010
1:43 pm
Shoot me already then… I didn’t know how much. I thought maybe 30%, 40%, 45%…not 98%.
Dang!!!! LOL
For Real
September 20th, 2010
1:43 pm
Slim: It’s me I’m a sucker for Cat in the hat.
Blue: Then what’s your problem?
Purple Rain
September 20th, 2010
1:46 pm
Is this a rash? LOL
Melo
September 20th, 2010
1:46 pm
@Luv?
Don’t be too quick to impress when u dating. Reserve some tricks unti the ring is on the finger.
Then after that all gloves are off, literally ang figuratively.
U always want something in ur arsenal and tank to remind ur Hubby to come home for dinner!
i'm swiss™
September 20th, 2010
1:47 pm
“It’s me I’m a sucker for Cat in the hat.”
4 Real —
My ex got a tattoo of The Cat in the Hat’s hat — just the hat — above her “cat.” I suppose is seemed like a good idea to her at the time, but it sure looked funny when I was f@#king her… 
For Real
September 20th, 2010
1:49 pm
Melo: “Reserve some tricks unti the ring is on the finger.” – Um yeah lookie here bruh, I know you are in the big leagues (aka married) and all but can let the chicks play until they are called up? Afterall, tricks are taught.
Luvbug
September 20th, 2010
1:50 pm
Don’t be too quick to impress when u dating.
Melo- This has never been a problem. Apparently, I missed the freak boat. Oh well, they’re always paraplegics.
For Real
September 20th, 2010
1:51 pm
Swiss: “but it sure looked funny when I was f@#king her” – Um, I’m going to let that one pass but you know next time I’m swinging for the fences if you keep serving them up like that.