Does attraction ever make sense?
Do you ever wonder why you are drawn to the people that you appeal to you the most? The fact that many of us singles think we have a type makes me wonder if we think about why. Why does the person with the sense of humor seem to appeal to you more?
If we think about what gets our attention, does it matter why? I ask because figuring out what is behind our attraction may explain other mysteries. Such as, if this type attracts me, why doesn’t it seem to work out?
Reflect on the type of people you have dated and remember what made them stand out to you. When do you know that your attraction goes beyond the “nice to look it” phase?
Why do you think some relationships end when the attraction seems to fade or wane?
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czBrat
September 17th, 2010
2:20 pm
HA! BW… i was just hummin ‘open arms’. one of my faves!!
how bout the ever-present elements …
For awhile to love was all we could do
we were young and we knew
and our eyes were alive
Deep inside we knew our love was true
For awhile we paid no mind to the past
we knew love would last
Ev’ry night somethin’ right
would invite us to begin the dance
Somethin’ happened along the way
what used to be happy was sad
Somethin’ happened along the way
and yesterday was all we had
And oh after the love has gone
how could you lead me on
and not let me stay around
Oh oh oh afterthe love has gone
what used to be right is wrong
Can love that’s lost be found
Sassy Me..Disco Lady :-)
September 17th, 2010
2:21 pm
Yes m’aam Kim….the one and only. Okay well somebody forgot to mention Marvin Sease….I know some of y’all just closed your eyes in remembrance…I KNOW it
Ballwood
September 17th, 2010
2:22 pm
PG/Kym: I hear you but look at how smoove Al is about hitting it just one mo time but makes it a point to her that they ain’t ever getting back together. I mean just look at these lines:
Don’t look so sad I know its over
There is no need to watch the bridges that were burning
There will be time enough for severence when you need me
Sassy Me..Disco Lady :-)
September 17th, 2010
2:23 pm
Making love to you is all I wanna do.
la la la la la…la la la la la
Poppa Grande
September 17th, 2010
2:23 pm
Journey is indeed well played sir!
Melo
September 17th, 2010
2:27 pm
Not on topic??
That Rashan Ali chic on Ryan Cameron show? She laughs easily,actually a lot!!, is that contrived, or is she just playing the perfect side kick, laugh and agree to every Ryan joke or point!
now don’t get me’ wrong, that laugh is sexy, and would luv it if we were in bed and she’s laughing like that and I’m inside!
What uall think of that laugh in particular, Ryan fans?
i'm swiss™
September 17th, 2010
2:28 pm
A little Ben Folds, perhaps…?
“Gonna get on the microphone down at Wal Mart
And talk about some sh!t that’s been on my mind
Talk about the state of this great nation of ours
People, look to your left
Yeah, and look to your right
They give no f@#k, they buy as much as they want
They give no f@#k, just as long as there’s enough for them…”
Leggs
September 17th, 2010
2:31 pm
How about the best permission love song out there…EW&F Lover’s Holiday
<em?Would you mind, if I touch, if I kiss, if I held you tight in the morning light….
kimmie-ninja very soon!
September 17th, 2010
2:31 pm
Melo – I like Rashan okay, but I can’t stand Ryan! Never have. He’s goofy & silly – not funny.
kimmie-ninja very soon!
September 17th, 2010
2:32 pm
Leggs – I think that is my favorite EW&F song, along with September!
Dan - simply...
September 17th, 2010
2:32 pm
While we talking lyrics, please don’t sleep on Maxwell’s discography…
Ballwood
September 17th, 2010
2:33 pm
Brat: The elements are the best band ever PERIOD! Hows-n-ever I would like to peak your ears as I spit a little Curtis Mayfield:
A little sugar, honey suckle lamb
Great expression of happiness
Boy, you could not miss with a dozen roses
Such would astound you
The joy of children laughing around you
These are the makings of you
It is true, the makings of you, oh
It’s been a miracle for what you’ve done
Please stay right by my side
Two can be one for the righteous way to go
Anyone would know
I believe I thought I told you so
You’re second to none
Love of all mankind should reflect some sign
Of the words I’m trying to recite
They’re close, but not quite
Almost impossible to do
Describing the makings of you
Poppa Grande
September 17th, 2010
2:35 pm
I see your point..I just think the fact that Teddy is just taking it for granted that he is gonna hit it. He is saying in essence…”Quit Fronting…you know you want this” ..
He doesn’t even mention a relationship. Its all about the here and now. There is no mention of tomorrow.
PrincessNik
September 17th, 2010
2:35 pm
Can I get some O’jays in here
Stairway to Heaven anyone?
Hey everyone
i'm swiss™
September 17th, 2010
2:37 pm
“I’d work 24 hours, 7 days a week
Just so I could come home and kiss your cheek
I’d love you in the morning
And I’d love you at noon
I’d love in the night and take you to the moon…”
Poppa Grande
September 17th, 2010
2:37 pm
The elements are the best band ever PERIOD!
I concur. They seemed to actually enjoy their music and it come out in the product.
Sassy Me..Disco Lady :-)
September 17th, 2010
2:37 pm
I just think the fact that Teddy is just taking it for granted that he is gonna hit it. He is saying in essence…”Quit Fronting…you know you want this” ..
OkAY?!
Close the door…let me give you what you’ve been waitin for….
I like it when a man gets assertive….
Kym
September 17th, 2010
2:38 pm
@Ballwood and PoppaG Did ya’ll mention Marvin..He didn’t even seem to try to hide the pimp..just asked out right
I’ve been really tryin’, baby
Tryin’ to hold back this feelin’ for so long
And if you feel like I feel, baby
Then come on, oh, come on
Whoo, let’s get it on
Ah, babe, let’s get it on
Let’s love, baby
Let’s get it on, sugar
Let’s get it on
Whoo-ooh-ooh
We’re all sensitive people
With so much to give
Understand me, sugar
Since we got to be
Let’s live
I love you
There’s nothin’ wrong
With me lovin’ you
Baby, no, no
And givin’ yourself to me can never be wrong
If the love is true
Oh, babe, ooh, ooh
Kym
September 17th, 2010
2:40 pm
Oh and these lines..How is this not pushing??
ain’t gonna worry, no, I ain’t gonna push
I won’t push you, baby, whoo
Come on, come on, come on, come on, come on, darlin’
Stop beatin’ ’round the bush, hey
Gonna get it on
Beggin’ you, baby, I want to get it on
You don’t have to worry that it’s wrong
If the spirit moves you, let me groove you good
Let your love come down
Oh, get it on, come on, baby
Do you know I mean it?
I’ve been sanctified
Hey, hey
Girl, you give me good feelings, so good
Leggs
September 17th, 2010
2:40 pm
Oh no, not Let’s Get in On…always backed up with Distant Lover and You Sure Know How to Ball…..whew!!!
Sassy Me..Disco Lady :-)
September 17th, 2010
2:40 pm
Can I get some O’jays in here
OOOOOHHHHHH!!!!
We cried together and My girl are two of my favs but they straight killt it….
Poppa Grande
September 17th, 2010
2:41 pm
I love the O’jays, too. Stairway to Heaven is nice.
But You Body’s Here With Me (But Your Mind’s On Other Side of Town) sticks with more more.
Even, “Brandy” and “We Cried Together” come into mind more than Stairway to Heaven.
I’ve done a “special” dance for my wife to “Darlin’ Darlin’ Baby”….So I definitely love the O’Jays.
Leggs
September 17th, 2010
2:41 pm
You sure love to ball…
Purple Rain
September 17th, 2010
2:42 pm
Dropping in to the “Soul Fest” to say hello
and you fellas better hide you girls when I start moving and grooving to some of my favorite old school R&B..just call me “Mr. Take Your Lady”. LOL
The Closer I get to You (dont know who sings it)
and
Baby Come to me – Patty Austin
and
You are all I need to get by- Marvin Gaye and Tammy Terrell
Sassy Me..Disco Lady :-)
September 17th, 2010
2:43 pm
Stairway to Heaven anyone?
Step by step…ooooooohhhhhh(said in my Eddie LeVert bass)…
PrincessNik
September 17th, 2010
2:44 pm
Poppa G/Sassy
I LOOOOOVE me some O’jays, and have for as long as I can remember. We Cried together is actually one of my favorites also.
Poppa Grande
September 17th, 2010
2:44 pm
Kym
Marvin is cool….I’ve used the lyrics to “Got to Give It Up” to my advantage on more than one occasion.
PrincessNik
September 17th, 2010
2:45 pm
Marvin Gaye and Tammy Terrell
..if you need me call me no matter where you are no matter how far
don’t worry baby, just call my name i’ll be there in a hurry
cause baby their aint no mountain high enough
aint no valley low enough
aint no river wide enough
to keep me from getting to you baby….
Sassy Me..Disco Lady :-)
September 17th, 2010
2:46 pm
“Darlin’ Darlin’ Baby”….
you’re my sweet and tender loooove…you’re a VERY special laaadddy
Lawd I’m glad I’m gettin off soon…you guys got me all antsy..
Poppa Grande
September 17th, 2010
2:46 pm
Look at Purple Rain…is using Notorious B.I.G. tactics…
I don’t chase ‘em, I replace ‘em
Purple Rain
September 17th, 2010
2:46 pm
Like sweet morning dew, I took one look at you..
PrincessNik
September 17th, 2010
2:47 pm
….and it was plain to see you were my destiny
Dirty Diana ♠ Going Green II
September 17th, 2010
2:48 pm
I can see it is still slow in here….folks singing and humming off key
Sassy Me..Disco Lady :-)
September 17th, 2010
2:48 pm
We Cried together is actually one of my favorites also.
!!!!!!!!!!
Chile they don’t make songs like that anymore..you know with the intro and talking n stuff….hammercy and Eddie was always so passionate and soulful when he sang…ooohh!!
PrincessNik
September 17th, 2010
2:49 pm
Dirty D
Just consider it Karoke Friday
Purple Rain
September 17th, 2010
2:49 pm
Poppa Grande, just walking through and grocery shopping for a a lady or two on the blog and walking right back out of the blog door. (points at the two girls with my pinky and snaps my fingers with my other hand) “C’mon Ladies”
Have a great weekend
Ballwood
September 17th, 2010
2:50 pm
Princess: I’m with on the O’Jays, I think PG named my favorite songs.
Kym: Yes Marvin is a pimp but check these player lyrics of his:
I want you the right way
I want you
But I want you to want me too
Want you to want me, baby
Just like I want you
I give you all the love I want in return sweet darlin’
But half a love is all I feel
It’s too bad, It’s just too sad
You don’t want me now
But I’m gonna change your mind
Someway,somehow,oh baby
Poppa Grande
September 17th, 2010
2:50 pm
Last night, I cooked steak and skrimps for the Mrs.
When we done with dinner, I reached way down in the crate of CDs and put on some Atlantic Star and played “Let’s Get Closer”
Closer than Close…..
czBrat
September 17th, 2010
2:50 pm
how far back ya’ll wanna go?
Many guys have come to you
With a line that wasn’t true
And you passed them by
Now you’re in the center ring
And their lines don’t mean a thing
Why don’t you let me try
Now I don’t wear a diamond ring
I don’t even have a song to sing
All I know is
La la la la la la la la la means
I love you
ugh. now i wanna be on a blanket under a shady tree with my head in s/o lap looking up at the clouds!
PrincessNik
September 17th, 2010
2:50 pm
Sassy
Girl Eddie Levert is the man, and Gerald was da bomb also, I even have the CD they did together……I went to an O’jays concert a few years back and I was swooning like the “older” ladies LOL it was one of the last things we did as a family before my dad passed away.
Leggs
September 17th, 2010
2:51 pm
What about Major Harris “Love Won’t Let Me Wait”
I need to have you next to me in more ways than one
And I refuse to leave till I see the mornin’ sun
The time is right, you hold me tight
And love’s got me high
Please tell me, ‘Yes’ and don’t say, ‘No’
Honey, not tonight
Move a little close to me, you owe it to yourself
And I will selfishly take a little for myself
And it’s because of you
That love won’t let me wait….
Poppa Grande
September 17th, 2010
2:52 pm
Purple Rain
Have a great weekend, too.
Speaking of Prince…I’ve always loved “International Lover” and “Insatiable” for setting the mood.
czBrat
September 17th, 2010
2:52 pm
duets? billy preston & syreeta “with you i’m born again”.
ya’ll gone make me sext this man!!!! :blush:
Lady
September 17th, 2010
2:53 pm
I Love Music, any kind of music!
Have a good weekend folks!
Go Falcons!
Dirty Diana ♠ Going Green II
September 17th, 2010
2:53 pm
@PK LOL
@Carlitooooooooooooooooooooooooo sing some Phil Collins
Purple Rain
September 17th, 2010
2:54 pm
I aint playing with yall, I have to go for real but I will leave you with the one pimp song since Poppa call me the Notorious B.I.G.
You must be used to me spending
And all that sweet wine’n and dine’n
………………………………..Well I’m phuuuuuckin you tonight!!!
Poppa Grande
September 17th, 2010
2:55 pm
At this point…Adina Howard’s “Do You Wanna Ride” is old school.
Sassy Me..Disco Lady :-)
September 17th, 2010
2:58 pm
ya’ll gone make me sext this man!!!!
DO IT cz!!
Princess gurl Eddie and Gerald sounded alot alike and I thought that was sooo HAWT. The one thing with Eddie is even though the rest of guys would be all calm and whatnot….Eddie’s jacket is already off,shirt unbuttoned down to the navel and he is giving you his all and errthang…
czBrat
September 17th, 2010
2:59 pm
wow Poppa. now that’s a one-hit-wonder that really left her mark! that song was as
to me as ginuwine’s ‘pony’
Kym
September 17th, 2010
3:00 pm
@Poppa G..dont say that man..My son was laughing at the dance off with kid n play..speaking of the Full Force..Force MD’s era..
Your love is house..your love is a house.