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How much support do men need?

If you have ever watched HBO’s Entourage, you are familiar with the character, Ari Gold, played by Jeremy Piven.  Ari Gold is a foul-mouthed, raging jerk with a temper that makes you wonder how he has managed to get through the day without a black eye.  Since he is a Hollywood agent, this behavior manages to work for him in business.

In a recent episode, Ari’s wife walked out on him after his trademark public tirades embarrasses her.  Apparently he felt abandoned by his own wife.  She tells him that she refuses to sit by when her husband is acting like a classless idiot.  He says that is the exact moment when a wife should be supportive. (Paraphrasing)

I know loyalty and support is pretty high on a man’s mental list of what he needs from a woman.  When a man does not feel supported he is less likely to trust his partner to be there when he needs him.

So what happens when a man is dead wrong but still wants to be supported? How should a woman handle it? Does she keep her opinions to herself and offer him support and comfort?

How much support should a woman be willing to offer and provide when she does not agree with what he is doing or how he is handling it?

Is it fair to ask for the same loyalty and support from men that they need and want?

Guys, have you ever dated a woman who wasn’t accepting and supportive? Did you let her know that is what you thought about her?

Ladies, do you think women have a hard time supporting men in relationships? What have you learned about being supportive in a relationship? How did your mothers handle it?

537 comments Add your comment

kimmie

September 14th, 2010
3:34 pm

Leggs – That’s right, you can’t be giving out vests all willy-nilly!

DreamsMaterialize

September 14th, 2010
3:35 pm

was thinking room service on the balcony…
Simple a little servicing on the balcony ain’t neva hurt nobody. lol

@Raqi & @Dreams Stargazer Lillies are exactly what they were!
Jaie you know I sent you those flowers, stop playing. your man’s just trying to take the credit. Lillies are my steelo. sorry for mispelling your name though. lol

Melo

September 14th, 2010
3:35 pm

2Can is in Panama city but he got such blog credibilty!

That man has some blog #}%^#]?~|# misadventures history!

The Rev Lowery of the blog.

That’s some ooomph!!

:lol:

He is the

Leggs

September 14th, 2010
3:36 pm

An obsession w/boobies at 14…that is funny and sad at the same time!

Poppa Grande

September 14th, 2010
3:37 pm

Hello Kimmie…..have the UGA fan’s started yelling that the sky is falling yet? On one hand, I am glad that South Carolina (Spurrier) has decided to use a running game. On the other hand, I don’t expect it to last, Spurrier loves to throw the ball. He will crack and it will cost us. So, Dawg fans shouldn’t fret. South Carolina has won the September SEC championship before, but we haven’t played in the SEC championship game in Atlanta, yet.

Leggs

September 14th, 2010
3:39 pm

@kimmie ~ I thought about that!

AmazonRed™

September 14th, 2010
3:39 pm

AmazonRed™ @ 3:18 I was thinking room service on the balcony…. But if Waffle House is what you want…. Then who am I to judge…. LOL

Simple Man – Let’s go with your suggestion. You’re the man and all. :D

AmazonRed™

September 14th, 2010
3:39 pm

@ARed I wouldnt mind shedding a few pounds. How many laps would suffice?
I am having Chipotle for dinner, would you like something

Jaie – I like you!!!

blue - ½ -n- ½

September 14th, 2010
3:39 pm

@melo – asking the wrong two am i, lol? working on a house as we speak, and freaking out at the same time….
@Dreams – Genesis: Chapter 1 Verse 2 of the MIA Manuscript – lol, did you all contribute to this document?
@Leggs – this new screening process, it isntretro-active is it…if not then Yay!! lol
@PG – ahhh, the old boobie obsession…im with you tho, they dont need a phone that young, just trouble in the making for the most part imo….

SlimNumeroUno

September 14th, 2010
3:40 pm

Leggs – YAY (even though I think i got hazed for a longer period of time) I suppose it took a while for ya’ll to get used to my sense of humor. :-D

Poppa Grande

September 14th, 2010
3:42 pm

Leggs

That is exactly how I feel. I am happy that he has an interest in them. However, it seems like yesterday that he was more interested in watching Scooby Doo and the Superfriends on Boomerang with me.

Now when mentioning the Wonder Twins, I have to make sure that he is talking about Zan and Jayna. Not something else.

DreamsMaterialize

September 14th, 2010
3:42 pm

kimmie I knew you’d be onto the stargazers. That’s my run-o-the-mill game. I’d have to come with my break-glass-in-case-of-emergency game for you. ;-)

The Rev Lowery of the blog.
melo you a funny dude man. why he gotta be rev. lowery though? lol

Simple Man!!!!

September 14th, 2010
3:43 pm

Ared @ 3:39 Since you are taking all of my suggestions…. I got this list over here…..

Raqi

September 14th, 2010
3:43 pm

Poppa, your nephew sounds like my oldest. LOL I have to remind him at least once every other month that I am not sending him to school to major in women nor partying. Thankfully my brother is up there with him and keeps him in line for me.

And my 15 yr old? Well let’s just say the boy needs his own phone line.

SlimNumeroUno

September 14th, 2010
3:45 pm

Someone I know works in the school system and you’ll be surprised how many nasty pic issues they end up having at school. When I was that age, the sight of anything below the belt was just gross to me…now it’s more like you go into a hypnotic trans when you see a good one…be like, oooooohhhh this is niiiiiiice :lol:

Leggs

September 14th, 2010
3:46 pm

This new law is NOT retroactive….I now have 3 Yays!

@PoppaG ~ gave a new meaning to Wonder Twins. Dang, for a meeting to be called it must be pretty bad. That’s too young to be that obssessed. Hope he reels it in very soon because he’s going to be bulldozed as he gets older….

Raqi

September 14th, 2010
3:46 pm

your man’s just trying to take the credit

LOL DreamsM, how many men have really actually taken credit when he knows it wasn’t him? Your lady be all happy and whatnot and you reaping the benefits on someone else’s dime. LOL

Melo

September 14th, 2010
3:48 pm

@Dreamz??

U know other than the Rev there aren’t many with credible knowledge like that of the civil era, much like our blog.
All we got is Willie D( John Lewis) and 2Can( Rev lowery)

:lol:

U know Jesse was busted for padding/embellishing his civil rights resume. :lol:

Poppa Grande

September 14th, 2010
3:48 pm

My nephew just went on his first date during Labor Day weekend. My sister and the girl’s mom both accompanied them and sat with them. Movie and Ci Ci’s pizza….. The girl just turn 15 that weekend.

I wasn’t sure that I agreed with it, but I guess that it might be better than them sneaking around. They both know that the parents know each other and will call each other.

DreamsMaterialize

September 14th, 2010
3:49 pm

lol, did you all contribute to this document?
blue no, my writings weren’t cannonized at the ecumenical Atlantan Council. My work is considered a part of the gnostic writings. lol

Alias Moniker 1

September 14th, 2010
3:50 pm

Poppa Grande

September 14th, 2010
3:50 pm

Dang, for a meeting to be called it must be pretty bad.

My sister and mother asked me to talk to him. It was one test, but we wanted to get the point across early.

Alias Moniker 2

September 14th, 2010
3:51 pm

Melo

September 14th, 2010
3:52 pm

@Dreamz??

I think PR can safely take the Jesse blog equivalent.
Not dark not white… Much like Jesse who needs to be asked, dude did u have martins blood on u or not?

:lol:

SlimNumeroUno

September 14th, 2010
3:52 pm

I wasn’t allowed to date until 16 and even then it had restrictions on it.

2CPTG©

September 14th, 2010
3:53 pm

Melo, I lived in Atlanta up until ‘07…my mom passed away, and I moved back here to handle the homestead….so my blog credibility is in tact…

blog started in March ‘04….

and yes Ared, I live in Panama City; the city where you come on vacation, and leave on probation!

Leggs

September 14th, 2010
3:53 pm

:lol: @ Alias 1 and 2 ~ thanks…that makes 5.

2CPTG©

September 14th, 2010
3:53 pm

wait, ‘03 the blog started…..shoot, I’on know, I was smokin’ back then!

DreamsMaterialize

September 14th, 2010
3:54 pm

Your lady be all happy and whatnot and you reaping the benefits on someone else’s dime. LOL
Raqi shey MY woman, so I get the privilege of taking credit for all works/deeds contributing to her overall happiness. It’s in the contract! lol

All we got is Willie D( John Lewis) and 2Can( Rev lowery)
melo are they the only ones left? dang, I hope the blog doesn’t end up like the SCLC once they’re gone. lol

kimmie

September 14th, 2010
3:54 pm

Dreamboat – You know me well! :lol:

Poppa – I’m acting like football or any other sport did not take place this past weekend, because EVERYBODY lost! Even both of SO’s kids soccer teams lost! Misery love company!LOL!!

The only winner this weekend was my SO – he tested for and recieved his black belt.

AmazonRed™

September 14th, 2010
3:55 pm

Tony Gonzalez day (yay Cal!) is this Sunday. They’re selling his jersey on Falcons 365 for 50% off. They don’t have jerseys in small. But they do have youth sizes. Would a youth size look crazy on a grown woman? Even a flat chested one? :lol:

Raqi

September 14th, 2010
3:56 pm

LOL DreamsM.

AmazonRed™

September 14th, 2010
3:56 pm

I live in Panama City; the city where you come on vacation, and leave on probation!

There were a lot of mullets there! The beach was nice tho. Florida beaches have Cali beaches beat. I hate to admit that.

2CPTG©

September 14th, 2010
3:56 pm

Melo, you forgot about Coretta Scott, aka SexyCool….

Leggs

September 14th, 2010
3:58 pm

@kimmie ~ congratulations to Mr. Kimmie. A 2 hr test. Glad he passed…now he can break things with authority (and a certificate showcasing his accomplishment).

DreamsMaterialize

September 14th, 2010
3:58 pm

Florida beaches have Cali beaches beat. I hate to admit that.
ARed hard to beat that pacific sunset though.

kimmie

September 14th, 2010
3:59 pm

Amred – That shirt will work. Flat or not, they’ll still know a lady is wearing it!

I used to love Ralph Lauren polos, but the shirts in the boys dept were cheaper than the womens shirts when I was in high school, so that’s where I got my shirts!

Willie Dynamite

September 14th, 2010
3:59 pm

Melo – dayum not John Lewis. C’mon man

Raqi

September 14th, 2010
3:59 pm

Poppa, my son had his first non-chaperone date just recently. We let him go to the movies with the girl he likes. Before that she either came along with us when we went out to dinner or lunch on a Saturday or he tagged along with her and her family.

We allowed him that one alone date but I let him know that he will be 16 before it happens again. LOL

Poppa Grande

September 14th, 2010
3:59 pm

Kimmie….Morehouse was the only metro Atlanta football team to win. Get your affairs in order because the world is nearing its end when Morehouse is the only team to hang your hat on.

Congrats to your SO. I wished that I kept up my martial arts. I actually liked Aikido, but my schedule was just too busy. I felt like I was half-azzing, and I don’t believe in half-azzing at all.

kimmie

September 14th, 2010
4:00 pm

Leggs – Good thing he’s a nice guy, cause to hear him hit those practice sheilds, he could kill somebody!

AmazonRed™

September 14th, 2010
4:01 pm

Thanks Kimmie – I’m concerned about fit. I’ve ordered kid sizes before, and while they fit in the torso, the opening where the head goes is smaller, and the sleeves are shorter. I don’t want to be walking around in an awkward looking jersey. LOL

blue - ½ -n- ½

September 14th, 2010
4:01 pm

@Dreams – lol, im sorry you were shunned
@2CPTG – wait, ‘03 the blog started…..shoot, I’on know, I was smokin’ back then! lol, k so i’ll go with ‘03-04…
@kimmie – congrats to the SO!

Raqi

September 14th, 2010
4:01 pm

kimmie, blackbelt? That’s great.

However you know I am deathly afraid of men that have been trained to kill. LOL

Poppa Grande

September 14th, 2010
4:01 pm

ARed

There were a lot of mullets there!

They don’t call it the Redneck Riviera for nothing…:lol:

DreamsMaterialize

September 14th, 2010
4:02 pm

Get your affairs in order because the world is nearing its end when Morehouse is the only team to hang your hat on.
PG sad, funny, and true all at the same time. lol Now, if the weather stays warm for homecoming, AND we win, then you’ll know the stars are in alignment. Partying will be off the chain.

Poppa Grande

September 14th, 2010
4:03 pm

Raqi

Well, I guess that was exciting for him.

czBrat

September 14th, 2010
4:03 pm

hey leggs, take that “yay” on Ared’s 3:55.

Florida beaches have Cali beaches beat. I hate to admit that.
ARed hard to beat that pacific sunset though.

ditto on all those statements.

2CPTG©

September 14th, 2010
4:04 pm

Melo, what’s even more ironic, is my company is HQ’ed in Atl, so I’m always in and out….

ARed, you gettin’ this???? We can do lunch in midtown, and be back in Fl in time to do dinner on the beach!!!

kimmie

September 14th, 2010
4:04 pm

Leggs/Poppa – I will send along your congrats.

Me & the kids will be testing for the black in March. After that, I’m going to give it a rest and pursue some other interests. But I intend to keep up my skills though. Like you with Aikido, I let my piano skills go and I regret it. Years of lessons.