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How much support do men need?

If you have ever watched HBO’s Entourage, you are familiar with the character, Ari Gold, played by Jeremy Piven.  Ari Gold is a foul-mouthed, raging jerk with a temper that makes you wonder how he has managed to get through the day without a black eye.  Since he is a Hollywood agent, this behavior manages to work for him in business.

In a recent episode, Ari’s wife walked out on him after his trademark public tirades embarrasses her.  Apparently he felt abandoned by his own wife.  She tells him that she refuses to sit by when her husband is acting like a classless idiot.  He says that is the exact moment when a wife should be supportive. (Paraphrasing)

I know loyalty and support is pretty high on a man’s mental list of what he needs from a woman.  When a man does not feel supported he is less likely to trust his partner to be there when he needs him.

So what happens when a man is dead wrong but still wants to be supported? How should a woman handle it? Does she keep her opinions to herself and offer him support and comfort?

How much support should a woman be willing to offer and provide when she does not agree with what he is doing or how he is handling it?

Is it fair to ask for the same loyalty and support from men that they need and want?

Guys, have you ever dated a woman who wasn’t accepting and supportive? Did you let her know that is what you thought about her?

Ladies, do you think women have a hard time supporting men in relationships? What have you learned about being supportive in a relationship? How did your mothers handle it?

537 comments Add your comment

Dirty Diana

September 14th, 2010
2:16 pm

Would any of you have taken the flowers home not sure if they were from your SO? Would you have told him/her of the flowers?

@Jaie, I’ve had that happen before twice I took the flowers home and once I sold them to my brother and he gave them to his GF.

Purple Rain

September 14th, 2010
2:18 pm

I finally remembered my password, I had to go through the security questions I set up

SlimNumeroUno

September 14th, 2010
2:19 pm

White man – Please explain your constant desire to seek out other “white folk” that live in Gwinnett. Are you feeling outnumbered? Uncomfortable? Matter of fact, have you visited our blog tanning salon yet? lol

Purple Rain

September 14th, 2010
2:19 pm

$400, you are worth way more than that

AmazonRed™

September 14th, 2010
2:20 pm

Thank you Slim. I don’t understand the obsession of seeking other white people or why the name “White Man” was chosen out of the billions of choices available in this world. I mean really.

kimmie

September 14th, 2010
2:20 pm

Jaie – My first thought was like Purple Rain said, took them home. But you and only you know what the situation is at home. I may have taken them home and said “Thank you baby” and ran up and gave him a kiss. When he asked how I knew they were from him, I would have replied “who else could have sent them?”.

I had a friend who’s husband is very jealous. She was at Home Depot buying some plants for her garden. A guy started talking to her and told her about a sale they were having on the same flowers at a nursery down the street. He offered to show her where the place was and she followed him in her car. She said he offered to pay for them but she declined. She bought the plants and excitedly took them home. She told her husband the whole scenario.

He made her take them back to the nursery. Even though the man didn’t buy them for her, he made her take them back.

:shock:

Leggs

September 14th, 2010
2:21 pm

@Jaie ~ I wouldn’t have taken the flowers home, and knowing me, probably would have told him about my secret admirer. I say that cuz when I was married, I would tell him about the bldg flirts (that what I called them). But to be honest, I think I did that so he would know others admired me even though he did his best to make me beleive no would want me other than him. (He thought I was one of those weaklings that fell for bullcrap like that.)

@ARed

Purple Rain

September 14th, 2010
2:21 pm

We have had the “n” word today, a white movement trying to get started and a few more cat fights. I can skip over the cat fights, no problem. The other stuff is just ignorant.

Jaie

September 14th, 2010
2:22 pm

@Slim I would ‘hope’ Daddy knows what a good catch he has and wouldn’t do anything to jeopardize that.

@Melo I asked him why he would do that. He stated that he assumed that I would automatically know whom they were from being that they were my favorite flower. It crossed my mind, but at the same time the incorrect spelling of my name had me unsure.

White man

September 14th, 2010
2:22 pm

Why do black men pretend that they do not like to give oral?

AmazonRed™

September 14th, 2010
2:23 pm

PRain – I am also suprised that the n word made it through the blog filter. I am not surprised at the person who stated it though. *shrugs*

SlimNumeroUno

September 14th, 2010
2:24 pm

Purple – I know I am worth more than $400 but i’m currently exercising the Nickle & Dime method. Mama ain’t gotta get it all at one time lol

Ared – Yeah, it’s like every 30 minutes he’s sending out smoke signals for another familiar ‘face’. lol This is a melting pot blended blog…we can’t help what color the soup ends up being once all the ingredients are thrown in the mix. ;-) I wonder if he’ll feel better if we all change our monikers to the colors that we are. :lol: that would be funny actually. No one would know who the next person was, unless of course they started another blog fight. lol

Purple Rain

September 14th, 2010
2:25 pm

I would probably want my wife to bring them home, if she did not and I was the one who sent them I would think she was sneaky. Or if she did not tell me about them and I was not the one who sent them I would wonder what else is she hiding. So Jaie I do understand your lose lose. When in doubt just be totally honest next time, then he can’t be mad at you.

Kimmie, that is a tad bit overboard, he made her take the flowers back?

kimmie

September 14th, 2010
2:26 pm

Jaie – If he ordered the flowers over the phone, the person taking the order could have misspelled your name.

My first and last names are very common, yet folks misspell them all the time.

kimmie

September 14th, 2010
2:28 pm

Purple – Yeah, he was a bit irrational like that. But I don’t know what goes on in their house and in their personal relationship. I got a feeling either he has a guilty conscience or she has done something to make him suspicious. Or both.

Purple Rain

September 14th, 2010
2:30 pm

AmazonRed, she called me one when I first joined also. Oh well.

White Man, why do you seem to make your blogging experience about race?

Melo

September 14th, 2010
2:31 pm

@2.20 Kimmie??

I think ur friend was wrong on more than one level.
First, don’t she know her husband? She married him she must know he’s jealous but loves Jim all the same.
She should have simply gotten the address and Kim.

Secondly, if u know ur Hubby is this way some thangs that come her way uninvited by her adobe be openly disclosed coz she will be put under interrogation if she does. Don’t tell ur man that some random dude passed a sexy comment on u :shock: for example or asked to pay? Coz he knows when guys ask to pay they are looking for an opening!

Lawd have mercy!!

Ur stories are hilarious sometimes.

SlimNumeroUno

September 14th, 2010
2:32 pm

Jaie – I’m sure it’s just a coinky dink…enjoy your flowers. But did you ask him why he spelled your name wrong? Seems like he was testing you.

Purp and Ared – yeah I saw that word posted and was surprised to see it made it through.

White man – maybe you should try a more color conscious blog forum. I have not met a black man that denied eatin it before they beat it.

czBrat

September 14th, 2010
2:33 pm

out of meetings for a bit.

saw your post, jaie, and i agree with PR’s 2:25 exactly. if i didnt mention something like that to s/o (and he’s the actual ‘admirer’) he would immediately know that i am capable of hiding attention or advances from another man. not cool.

but, as kimmie said, that’s all based on how things work between you and yours.

now what’s all this about whites and ‘n’s and color markers on the blog????

Purple Rain

September 14th, 2010
2:33 pm

kimmie, good perspective on the relationship and mispelled name.

DreamsMaterialize

September 14th, 2010
2:33 pm

>em>Why do black men pretend that they do not like to give oral?
white man It’s 2010…doesn’t everyone give oral? I thought women who didn’t give psychiatric evaluations went the way of muzzle-loading rifles, and I thought dudes who didn’t pleasure their woman went the way of the betamax! You’re telling me their still around?!? lol

I am also suprised that the n word made it through the blog filter.
ARed but you can’t write r.i.d.i.cu.l.o.us or other seemingly innocuous words.

AmazonRed™

September 14th, 2010
2:33 pm

AmazonRed, she called me one when I first joined also. Oh well.

:lol: :? :lol:

Clearly she is not my favorite person.

White man

September 14th, 2010
2:33 pm

Just trying to make conversation…dont be so sensative.

Jaie

September 14th, 2010
2:34 pm

@DD, LOL at taking them home and selling them to your brother who then gave them to his girlfriend! Love it! LOL.

@Leggs I agree that I maybe should have said something about receiving them.

@Kimmie True. That didn’t cross my mind.

AmazonRed™

September 14th, 2010
2:35 pm

Slim/Dreams – Don’t even entertain such statements. Why would he even care?

@Dreams – The damn AJC. That really should be one of the first words blocked. I’m scared to even test the “er” version. I don’t want to get my feelings hurt. :arrow:

Raqi

September 14th, 2010
2:35 pm

Jaie, I would not have taken the flowers home however, I would have told my husband them. I would have said something like, “You know the strangest thing happened to me today. An admirer sent me flowers”. And left it at that.

But let me ask you, did he send them to try to entrap you or just being an admirer? If it was just to express his admiration I would think he would want you to know they were from him. Most women love to receive just because gifts from the SO, so I would think most men knowing that would want it to be known the gift is from him. But that’s just MO.

Purple Rain

September 14th, 2010
2:36 pm

Are there any other Italians on this blog?

Purple Rain

September 14th, 2010
2:38 pm

Melo, Melo are you around?

DreamsMaterialize

September 14th, 2010
2:38 pm

Slim I told you we could get that money. We can do it big…but you gotta trust me Slimmy baby. ;-)

Melo

September 14th, 2010
2:38 pm

@Jaie?
Do as PR suggested next time when u don’t know!!

‘honey I like ur flowers, mwaaaaa’

Honey:’it wasn’t me’! Who gave u this??’

‘Ooghhh’ :lol:

He may sulk at the attn but will love the honesty.

kimmie

September 14th, 2010
2:38 pm

Ur stories are hilarious sometimes.

Melo – Hillarious and true! LOL!! And yes, I agree with you. She knows she got a fool. I think she does that ish to get him riled up. I’ve seen her in action.

I had to stop inviting her out to things. I would invite them both and he would decline. Then the day of the event he would sulk and call her every 5 minutes. Got on my nerves.

blue - ½ -n- ½

September 14th, 2010
2:41 pm

@Raqi – Most women love to receive just because gifts from the SO – say it again Sam…

now the question that ive never been quite sure on, are guys the same way? cause if not i could be saving myself a lot of cash…….

Melo

September 14th, 2010
2:43 pm

Here PR, here!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

DreamsMaterialize

September 14th, 2010
2:43 pm

I’m scared to even test the “er” version. I don’t want to get my feelings hurt.
ARed lol I feel you. I guess we’ll just stay in the don’t-ask-a-question-you-don’t-want-to-know-the-answer-to camp together.

Raqi

September 14th, 2010
2:44 pm

czBrat, I agree that not mentioning it may make a SO feel that you are willing to conceal such events. However, I also think that when it means very little to you, i.e. receiving anonymous flowers, we tend to dismiss those events from our mind. Usually a few seconds after we hear the thump of the that thing hit the bottom of the trash can.

Now if it happened again coming from a “secret admirer” that would be cause for concern. That would alert me to stalker behavior.

Simple Man!!!!

September 14th, 2010
2:45 pm

Purp…. I I know I made some offers, but I don’t think Car repairs are on the list…

ARed….I’m sorry…Your aura overwelms me and when you are not around, I fail to think clearly….Please forgive my shortcomings… I am going to Destin to play golf the 30th thru the 3rd…Why don’t you let me take you with as a means to make it up to You????

SlimNumeroUno

September 14th, 2010
2:47 pm

Are there any other folks with two eyes, two hands, two ears, and two left feet out there?

Are there any other folks with stanky farts out there?

Are there any other chicks with phatty catty’s out there?

Purple Rain

September 14th, 2010
2:48 pm

Melo, check your email now. LOL

Are there any reformed weed smokers on this blog? LOL

czBrat

September 14th, 2010
2:49 pm

anyone out there with split ends?

anyone out there with hammer toes?

anyone out there driving a black, japanese suv …. newer than 1999 but older than 2006?

AmazonRed™

September 14th, 2010
2:50 pm

I am going to Destin to play golf the 30th thru the 3rd…Why don’t you let me take you with as a means to make it up to You????

Simple Man – Are you treating me to the spa while you play golf?

If so, I’ll think about it! :lol:

Purple Rain

September 14th, 2010
2:50 pm

Are there any people with a negative bank account balance?

Anyone on here with change for a dollar?

Anyone here that forgets to flush sometimes?

SlimNumeroUno

September 14th, 2010
2:51 pm

’cause if not i could be saving myself a lot of cash’

@blue – a just because gift doesn’t have to be expensive. I once bought an SO shot glasses engraved with his initials on them, just because. Or stopped and picked up an SO’s fav sushi with a bottle of wine…sent a just because card with a nice lovers coupon inside :mrgreen:

White man

September 14th, 2010
2:52 pm

Simple…what course are you playing in Destin?

Raqi

September 14th, 2010
2:53 pm

Blue, I think they do when it is something that they could actually use. Or better yet something they like.

My husband would probably find it cute if I sent him flowers, but he would really appreciate it and more than likely thank me if I sent him two tickets to [insert event of interest here] just because. Or maybe one of those edible arrangements which he does like and I have sent before.

Other than that I know my husband would prefer I not spend the money on something that he doesn’t want or like. Heck saving money is a gift as far as he is concerned. LOL

2CPTG©

September 14th, 2010
2:54 pm

“Are there any reformed weed smokers on this blog?”

Hunh? somebody called me?

ARed, while he’s playin golf, holla at me….I’m right ’round the corner!!!

White man

September 14th, 2010
2:54 pm

Raqi….I am sure he would much rather you spend the money on some nice lingerie.

kimmie

September 14th, 2010
2:54 pm

Purple – I have change for a dollar. 1 nickel, a dime and the rest pennies. The pennies are brand new, not the old, dirty ones.

AmazonRed™

September 14th, 2010
2:55 pm

ARed, while he’s playin golf, holla at me….I’m right ’round the corner!!!

2Can…how are you right around the corner?

And are you trynna pimp me too? :lol:

blue - ½ -n- ½

September 14th, 2010
2:55 pm

@Slim – oh yeah, i know doesnt have to be expensive, but if thats just a chick thing i can stop all together. i like the engraved shto glasses :) .mr.blue collects shot glasses too, tho they always have something retarded on them, lol

czBrat

September 14th, 2010
2:57 pm

LOL @ Ared. caught in a tug of war and feeling pimped. :lol: it’s good to be desired by many but had by only a select few.