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How much support do men need?

If you have ever watched HBO’s Entourage, you are familiar with the character, Ari Gold, played by Jeremy Piven.  Ari Gold is a foul-mouthed, raging jerk with a temper that makes you wonder how he has managed to get through the day without a black eye.  Since he is a Hollywood agent, this behavior manages to work for him in business.

In a recent episode, Ari’s wife walked out on him after his trademark public tirades embarrasses her.  Apparently he felt abandoned by his own wife.  She tells him that she refuses to sit by when her husband is acting like a classless idiot.  He says that is the exact moment when a wife should be supportive. (Paraphrasing)

I know loyalty and support is pretty high on a man’s mental list of what he needs from a woman.  When a man does not feel supported he is less likely to trust his partner to be there when he needs him.

So what happens when a man is dead wrong but still wants to be supported? How should a woman handle it? Does she keep her opinions to herself and offer him support and comfort?

How much support should a woman be willing to offer and provide when she does not agree with what he is doing or how he is handling it?

Is it fair to ask for the same loyalty and support from men that they need and want?

Guys, have you ever dated a woman who wasn’t accepting and supportive? Did you let her know that is what you thought about her?

Ladies, do you think women have a hard time supporting men in relationships? What have you learned about being supportive in a relationship? How did your mothers handle it?

537 comments Add your comment

Beautiful

September 14th, 2010
1:19 pm

@Simple Man . . . it’s still outta control! ugh. she has a mind of her own.

Simple Man!!!!

September 14th, 2010
1:20 pm

Slim…it really is nice outside….What you wanna do???? :P

Simple Man!!!!

September 14th, 2010
1:21 pm

Beautiful, so how are you handling that??? I gotta believe the fun meter is off the charts at the Casa de la Beautiful….

Leggs

September 14th, 2010
1:22 pm

@Luvug ~ thanks. I’ll take the test this evening.

Melo

September 14th, 2010
1:22 pm

@Daamn Simpleman! U keeping a tab of all the oversexed 40+ club females! :lol: :lol:

I don’t know if u can handle Beau tho! :lol:

Beautiful

September 14th, 2010
1:24 pm

@Simple Man . . . my 2 will prolly be back in a minute, so i can’t go into details right now. hehe…

Simple Man!!!!

September 14th, 2010
1:24 pm

Melo…Hyper-Sexed 40+ year old women are The Best thing EVER!!!!

DatinVet

September 14th, 2010
1:24 pm

What do you mean, “When a man is dead wrong”? Since when has a women ever admitted a man was right? Therefore the question should be “How much support does a man need?”

Simple Man!!!!

September 14th, 2010
1:26 pm

Note to self…..have Beautiful e-mail me so that I can get all of the really NASTY details and either meet for for drinks or really get to know myself!!!!

Leggs

September 14th, 2010
1:28 pm

@SimpleMan ~ hope you have lots of frequent flyer miles to get with Beautiful.

2CPTG©

September 14th, 2010
1:28 pm

Hey Beautiful; how have you been, lil mama…..

ummm, holla at Simple Man……..He pays!!!

Melo

September 14th, 2010
1:29 pm

@Simple??

can’t wait for Queen to reach that milestone..2 more years to go.
My fridge will be stoked with all the exclusive energy dranks u can think of.

Better pound that thang a lot for a few more years be4 it goes
kaput!

Than maybe bench her for a younger one! :lol:

Simple Man!!!!

September 14th, 2010
1:31 pm

Beautiful is on fire, but you are my number!!! :oops:

Luvbug

September 14th, 2010
1:31 pm

Than maybe bench her for a younger one!

Don’t play like that Melo.

Beautiful

September 14th, 2010
1:32 pm

@2 . . . oh its like that??? you pimp’n me now? lmbo.

Beautiful

September 14th, 2010
1:34 pm

@SimpleMan . . . smh. you don’t know what you’re saying. you must not like it here! lol.

2CPTG©

September 14th, 2010
1:35 pm

“@2 . . . oh its like that??? you pimp’n me now?”

Nooooo, lil mama; but dig this…….he likes to treat; so what I’m thinkin’ is, go ahead and go out with him….get all nice and full, then call Daddy as soon as he drops you off….

Beautiful

September 14th, 2010
1:36 pm

@2 . . . make sure you go back and look at your hits on my page, k. :)

Melo

September 14th, 2010
1:38 pm

@Luvbug?

I’m giving that thang a luge of proly 12 more years. After that, not many females at 50 are still naturally well oiled in there and throbe in return when throbe.

Where as myself, at say 63, I may look grey in my hairs but my waist is fiya!!!

SlimNumeroUno

September 14th, 2010
1:38 pm

‘relax a little’

Purple – I AM relaxed, that’s the problem because my ITIS is kicking in big time. I sure could go for a good book, a hammock and a margarita.

‘it really is nice outside….What you wanna do????’

@SimplemMan – Normally certain breeds don’t go into heat until the spring time. You are an anomaly it seems. lol However, I need about $400 to get my 30,000mile service done on my car. Whatchu got on my $20 homie?

Beautiful

September 14th, 2010
1:38 pm

LOL! see, das why i love me some 2. mmmmmmmuah! LOL!

2CPTG©

September 14th, 2010
1:39 pm

“@2 . . . make sure you go back and look at your hits on my page, k”

like Dee Jay from “Hustle and Flow”…..now that’s a bottom bytch for ya!!!!

White man

September 14th, 2010
1:40 pm

DreamsMaterialize

September 14th, 2010
1:45 pm

Im gonna heed your three daily words and stay over here in the cut, laughing!
Mo I think that’s how I blog-met you, sitting in the cut with popcorn. I didn’t even have a blog vest then…come to think of it, I think I still don’t have one. lol

I swear, this “intake process” ain’t hittin on shyt!!! we need to get back to hazing and what not….these newbies got it easy…
2C don’t think I ever crossed. wait, have I unknowingly been on line all these years? lol

blue - ½ -n- ½

September 14th, 2010
1:47 pm

playing catch up..
@Leggs – She is tolerating him now…no one likes to be tolerated!! – yeah, thats what im thinking, but this stuff hes telling me has me like ???? hes coming up with scenarios talking ’bout how he wouldnt put it past her…im wondering why would you stay with someone you suspect of being so conniving?
@Luvbug – We (the women in our unit) can spare a day or two a week, but everyday between 8-9 and 1-2 is waaay to much to ask… LMAO…. what do you come back with when someone says that to you??!!

2CPTG©

September 14th, 2010
1:48 pm

Naw Dreams, you crossed, my brother!!! But we got some folks on here who went underground, now flossin’ like there shyt is legit….don’t e’eem must know the grip (handshake)!

SlimNumeroUno

September 14th, 2010
1:49 pm

‘wait, have I unknowingly been on line all these years?’ :lol: :lol:

DreamsMaterialize

September 14th, 2010
1:51 pm

Naw Dreams, you crossed, my brother!!! But we got some folks on here who went underground, now flossin’ like there shyt is legit….don’t e’eem must know the grip (handshake)!
2C lol sound like them Morehouse “alphas” from around ‘95.

White man

September 14th, 2010
1:52 pm

Is it better to give or receive?

Leggs

September 14th, 2010
1:53 pm

@blue ~ when someone is in pain, they will justify events around them to make it a little better in their mind. The heart is still heavy. Anyone can rationalize until it becomes Truth in their mind!

He doesn’t want to leave his family without truly working throught things. But, it takes 2 to make a marriage!

Melo

September 14th, 2010
1:59 pm

@Blue?

How close are u to dude to tell u bedroom stuff like that?
If he’s telling u means he’s got a real problem and nine months or more for a married man is waay too long.
How about u hook him up?

Does the wife and itself talk?
If not,even better! Shove it and just give dude an assist.

He’s gon thank you!!! Stress kills.. Let him release some.

blue - ½ -n- ½

September 14th, 2010
1:59 pm

@Leggs – yeah, some merit there. im thinking best do the split while the midget is tiny, not wait till hes bigger…..trying not to overstep what i say with him cause even tho we’ve been friends for years, im sure at some point if i say what im thinking, if i were a dude he’d be punching me in the head, lol….

Leggs

September 14th, 2010
1:59 pm

You are giving horrible advice today, Melo!

White man

September 14th, 2010
2:00 pm

There is NO way he waited 9 months

Simple Man!!!!

September 14th, 2010
2:01 pm

Sooo Slim…Why you gonna handle me like that??? I might be down to drop you off at the office in the morning after after an unbelievable night of rabbit dancing…Hell If I am still breathing hard I might set you up with a ride to the shop to get the ride when its done, But as far as paying for te service you gots to get that other buster to take care of that :D :D :D But You are down with me regardless!!! LOL

Melo

September 14th, 2010
2:03 pm

@Leggs!??

If it were a woman dying slowly like that for a year, being sexually marinated for nine months coz of the man’s trifling and still no pipe, u wld advise otherwise and advise she just stay, talking talking talking to no end???

DreamsMaterialize

September 14th, 2010
2:06 pm

But as far as paying for te service you gots to get that other buster to take care of that
Didn’t you promise Slim the world to be on your squad? You can’t renege now. lol Pay up homie.

Leggs

September 14th, 2010
2:06 pm

I wouldn’t advise her best male friend jump her bones for a quick lube job in the hopes of relieving stress.

Jaie

September 14th, 2010
2:07 pm

Off topic: I received flowers from an “secret admirer” on Thursday, the note read “Please know that I’m overwhelmed everyday by your presence. I dont mean to be rude or intrusive, I only wish to pay you a compliment and thought you should know that you lighten up someone’s day … everyday.”
My name was spelled incorrectly so I automatically threw out the possibility of it being “Daddy.” I work in a 18 floor building so ‘figured’ it maybe someone from there whom has passed me coming and going.
Anyhow, I left the flowers at work and never spoke of it to him to avoid argument or interrogation in which I had no answers too.
Today I found out the flowers were from him. Now he is disappointed that I never spoke of receiving them, and stated that had I asked he would have told me that they were from him.
Would any of you have taken the flowers home not sure if they were from your SO? Would you have told him/her of the flowers? If so, what if you had told them about the flowers and they were not from them?

Am I the only one who thinks this was a loss-loss situation? Lol.

Mo (aka Moeisha )

September 14th, 2010
2:08 pm

Dreams – and Im still holding it down over here. I dont know if its the weather or what but err now and then, you have to peek in before you start blogging. Never know whats poppin off. lol

DreamsMaterialize

September 14th, 2010
2:09 pm

There is NO way he waited 9 months
white man you’re right about that.

blue why is your boy still in that marriage? do you think he hasn’t gotten any from ANYwhere for 9 months?

Purple Rain

September 14th, 2010
2:09 pm

Jaie, I woulod have taken them home and been honest, you did not provoke anyone into sending you flowers

Slim, you off the roster?

AmazonRed™

September 14th, 2010
2:11 pm

@2C ~ ARed suggested I at least give her a 24 hr probation period. Next time, it will be longer for all others!

Leggs – You decided on 24 hours! I would have suggested at least a week! :lol:

I am whatever you say I am

September 14th, 2010
2:11 pm

*yawn* :shock:
I’m awake

SlimNumeroUno

September 14th, 2010
2:12 pm

‘Didn’t you promise Slim the world to be on your squad? You can’t renege now. lol Pay up homie’

Dreams – you keep that up and I just might have to do some serious consideration for hiring you to lead me….something like a manager of sorts. ;-)

Jaie – I surely hope this “Daddy” person isn’t trying to holla at a friend of mine. She got flowers sent to her job today that basically says the same thing. lol

Melo

September 14th, 2010
2:13 pm

@Jaie??

Ur So thinks u cheating, no wonder he spelled ur name wrong to plant it nicely like that!

What SO sends flowers incognito to somebody they truly expressing their luv to??

AmazonRed™

September 14th, 2010
2:14 pm

Simple Man – What did I tell you about those hoes! Angie Beautiful is not on the approve list of women you can converse with!

I turn my back for one second… :lol:

White man

September 14th, 2010
2:15 pm

Any other white people online?

blue - ½ -n- ½

September 14th, 2010
2:16 pm

@Melo – ive known him since freshman yr of high school, more than half our lives, so we tend to talk about a lot of different things…
@Leggs@Melo – yeah Melo, advice is a no go for me there, tho i will admit i have asked the Q of why he is staying faithful at this point…not ladylike i know, but d@mn….
@Dreams – not sure why the holding on…i have the feeling that may be one of the “gets a dude punched” questions so havent asked it to the point yet…doubt he’s stepped, he aint a good liar, lol
@Jaie – i woulda taken them home, like PR said u didnt make anyone send you flowers, and besides if he hadnt sent them it’ll remind him others are watching so he better act right, lol

SlimNumeroUno

September 14th, 2010
2:16 pm

Purp – naw, i’m still a part of the squad. But don’t let Simple Man hear us because I’m trying to swing a deal in my favor…a $400 deal. :evil: lol