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How much support do men need?

If you have ever watched HBO’s Entourage, you are familiar with the character, Ari Gold, played by Jeremy Piven.  Ari Gold is a foul-mouthed, raging jerk with a temper that makes you wonder how he has managed to get through the day without a black eye.  Since he is a Hollywood agent, this behavior manages to work for him in business.

In a recent episode, Ari’s wife walked out on him after his trademark public tirades embarrasses her.  Apparently he felt abandoned by his own wife.  She tells him that she refuses to sit by when her husband is acting like a classless idiot.  He says that is the exact moment when a wife should be supportive. (Paraphrasing)

I know loyalty and support is pretty high on a man’s mental list of what he needs from a woman.  When a man does not feel supported he is less likely to trust his partner to be there when he needs him.

So what happens when a man is dead wrong but still wants to be supported? How should a woman handle it? Does she keep her opinions to herself and offer him support and comfort?

How much support should a woman be willing to offer and provide when she does not agree with what he is doing or how he is handling it?

Is it fair to ask for the same loyalty and support from men that they need and want?

Guys, have you ever dated a woman who wasn’t accepting and supportive? Did you let her know that is what you thought about her?

Ladies, do you think women have a hard time supporting men in relationships? What have you learned about being supportive in a relationship? How did your mothers handle it?

537 comments Add your comment

Purple Rain

September 14th, 2010
11:19 am

Knock Knock
Who’s there?
Tamara!
Tamara who?
Tamara the world!

tamara…tomorrow…get it?

White man

September 14th, 2010
11:20 am

SexyCool – see that may be the difference. Men are usually either always feeling sexy or touchable. I am the same way. I love to just carress or hold her. It may not be to excite her or anything, it just feels nice.

Purple Rain

September 14th, 2010
11:21 am

Bedroom Golf

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Course played on must be approved by the owner of the hole.
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Course owners reserve the right to restrict the length of the club to avoid damage to the hole.
The object of the game is to take as many strokes as necessary until the course owner is satisfied that the play is complete. Failure to do so may result in being denied permission to play the course again!
It is considered bad form to begin playing the hole immediately upon arrival at the course. The experienced player will normally take time to admire the entire course, with special attention to well formed bunkers.
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Slow play is encouraged; however, players should be prepared to proceed at a quicker pace, at least temporarily, at the course owners request.
It is considered outstanding performance, time permitting, to play the same hole several times in one match.
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ddfan

September 14th, 2010
11:21 am

@Dirty Diana ♠
8:49 am comment to Dan. tell him :)

Purple Rain

September 14th, 2010
11:22 am

SexyCool, recognize that we men don’t care. LOL

Dirty Diana ♠

September 14th, 2010
11:23 am

Purp when you have to issue a get it? Let’s just say hmmmmmm nothing. Give us another one so that I can keep your record going.

Dirty Diana ♠

September 14th, 2010
11:26 am

ddfan…LOL

I don’t mind these fakers and haters, and h0es ridin’ on that 1978 Gremlin-stationbandwagon, but I have to check them at some point. :cool:

SexyCool

September 14th, 2010
11:27 am

WhiteDude – I see where you’re coming from. In fact, I rather enjoy just holding TheDude.

However, females most often have a bit more going on body-wise. After a workout or a day of sitting on it when Aunt Flow is in town or when I’m just feeling in need of a shower, or tired from dealing with @ssholes at work all day, don’t just walk up to me and start touching on me in certain places.

In fact, just last week, I’d come in from my softball game and when TheDude went to hug me, I said to him, “I’m stinky.” Which he now knows is my cue for….”No hugs right now, Dude.”

White man

September 14th, 2010
11:31 am

SexyCool – To which my answer would have been “go take a shower and come to bed naked. We can hold each other then”. ha

Purple Rain

September 14th, 2010
11:31 am

Q. How do men get excersize at the beach?
A. By sucking in their stomachs every time they see a bikini.

Q. What’s a man’s idea of helpin with the housework?
A. Lifting his legs so you can vacuum.

Q. How do men define a 50/50 relationship?
A. The cook/we eat; They clean/we dirty; They iron/ we wrinkle.

SexyCool

September 14th, 2010
11:32 am

Which is exactly what I did.

blue - ½ -n- ½

September 14th, 2010
11:34 am

@PR – lol, you just on a roll today?

Melo

September 14th, 2010
11:35 am

@Sexxy?

I can sympathize coz most days, a hand on my body feels heavy when I just want to lay down.

I hope uall are feeling as good as myself coz I got a 3.00 am and my bedroom was breezy chill so I’m really stressfree.

Pudsy at a mere arms length is real cool.
:cool: :cool:

:lol:

Dirty Diana ♠

September 14th, 2010
11:35 am

Purp Purp you must have stolen my copy of 101 jokes. :grin:

White man

September 14th, 2010
11:36 am

Men love a womans body….of all shapes and sizes. We love to touch and look. That is just a mans way.

SexyCool

September 14th, 2010
11:37 am

“most days, a hand on my body feels heavy when I just want to lay down.”

That’s a very good way of putting it.

Purple Rain

September 14th, 2010
11:37 am

Ok a few of you may get this one.

A dyslexic man walks into a bra.

LOL

Purple Rain

September 14th, 2010
11:39 am

Diana, I love that site

SexyCool, a womans body out our disposal is one of the reason men stay faithful and or get married. LOL not the only reason but a major factor.

blue - ½ -n- ½

September 14th, 2010
11:42 am

@melo – most days, a hand on my body feels heavy when I just want to lay down – i feel ya…
@PR – no cracking jokes on the dyslexics man…sniff sniff…lol

Purple Rain

September 14th, 2010
11:45 am

Q: Did you hear about the dyslexic Satanist?
A: He sold his soul to Santa.

Kym

September 14th, 2010
11:46 am

Okay Diana/Professor/ or whatever other psycho moniker you plan to come up with this week to feed your need for attention..lets get something straight. I have no need to change my moniker on this blog..Why should I? Those who know me..know me..those who don’t.. don’t really care so really the I did of changing my moniker to get into a typing battle with some low-rent hoochie on a blog..requires energy I don’t have and time I am not gonna waste.

If I have learned one thing in my 38 years is that if I make a mistake I own up to it..if I fall short or have short comings they are my own. If I can share something with others..that is my testimony and I make no apologies what so ever for anything done in the past. Because that has no determination of my future. So why you think the mere words you type on a screen would cause me or anyone else on this blog such angst only you know. Everyone else is doing just fine. If anything they laughing at you and not with you. Because here you sit trolling and strolling for attention under a false name, on an anonymous blog..really? You think by calling me or anyone else out on their past is some how shaming us? Please..The only shame I feel is for you really..shame, and pity cause this blog is really the only place you have in your sad little existence to stand out. You wanna stand out..then in order to stand out you got to be willing to stand down…drop the chip on your shoulder..the false bravado that you carry to cover your insecurities, and instead of using spite to cover your obvious envy..start counting your own blessings instead of worrying about how others got so blessed. Then maybe just maybe you wouldn’t need a virtual pat on the back to stand out.

Purple Rain

September 14th, 2010
11:47 am

English is very strange
Did you know that “verb” is a noun? How can you look up words in a dictionary if you can’t spell them? If a word is misspelled in a dictionary, how would we ever know? If two mouses are mice and two louses are lice, why aren’t two houses hice? If Webster wrote the first dictionary, where did he find the words? If you wrote a letter, perhaps you bote your tongue? If you’ve read a book, you can reread it. But wouldn’t this also mean that you would have to “member” somebody in order to remember them? In Chinese, why are the words for crisis and opportunity the same? Is it a coincidence that the only 15 letter word that can be spelled without repeating a letter is uncopyrightable? Is there another word for a synonym? Shouldn’t there be a shorter word for “monosyllabic”? What is another word for “thesaurus”? Where do swear words come from? Why can’t you make another word using all the letters in “anagram”? Why do fat chance and slim chance mean the same thing? Why do overlook and oversee mean opposite things? Why do people use the word “irregardless”? Why do some people type “cool” as “kewl?” Why do we say something is out of whack? What is a whack? Why do we say something’s out of order when its broken but we never say in of order when it works? Why does “cleave” mean both split apart and stick together? Why does “slow down” and “slow up” mean the same thing? Why does flammable and inflammable mean the same thing? Why does the Chinese ideogram for trouble symbolize two women living under one roof? Why does X stand for a kiss and O stand for a hug? Why doesn’t “onomatopoeia” sound like what it is? Why don’t we say “why” instead of “how come”? Why is “crazy man” an insult, while to insert a comma and say “Crazy, man!” is a compliment? Why are a wise man and wise guy opposites? Why is abbreviation such a long word? Why is dyslexic so hard to spell? Why is it so hard to remember how to spell MNEMONIC? Why is it that no word in the English language rhymes with month, orange, silver, or purple? Why is it that the word “gullible” isn’t in the dictionary? Why is it that we recite at a play and play at a recital? Why is it that writers write but fingers don’t fing, grocers don’t groce and hammers don’t ham? Why is the alphabet in that order? Is it because of that song? Why is the plural of goose-geese, and not the plural of moose-meese? Why isn’t “palindrome” spelled the same way backwards? Why isn’t phonetic spelled the way it sounds?

For Real

September 14th, 2010
11:53 am

“Yes, Dan, that’s what I think. Support is nice to have, but not essential. It amounts to not much more than a pat on the back or a sympathetic ear, anyway. More important is not to do things that hinder a man. In fact, I’d call lack of hindrance being supportive, in its own way.” – Dayum I find myself agreeing with abc….. What’s happening to me?

Slim: Why didn’t you hit me up on the blog flight? Dayum!!! I missed a good one.

blue - ½ -n- ½

September 14th, 2010
11:54 am

@PR – You would put that out there just when myboss comes in..now im sitting at my desk with this “What in the He!! is wrong with him, ROFL” look on my face and shes looking at my like ive lost my mind…..granted she didnt read that last entry of yours, rofl….

Leggs

September 14th, 2010
11:55 am

@PR ~ that wasn’t nice. I have never been with a white man!

@Dana ~ interesting post, and you didn’t sound angry at all. You were merely stating your opinion!

Melo

September 14th, 2010
11:56 am

Purple??

Where did u copy and paste that 11.47 from??

:lol:

DC Rose

September 14th, 2010
11:56 am

Hi everyone!

Purp I like your style. Peace keeper instead of people eater.

White man

September 14th, 2010
11:59 am

Leggs – you have never been with a white man?

blue - ½ -n- ½

September 14th, 2010
12:02 pm

Ok, so for those who were here yesterday and saw my scenario with my friend and his wife…update today is they’ve had the talk…he says she acknowledges that she has been “neglectful” lets say but tells he cant seek relief specifically with “strippers and the like”, but beyond that really has nothing else to say….his opinion is that she is setting a trap? im at a loss for words there…opinions?

Leggs

September 14th, 2010
12:03 pm

Nope, but now that PR has planted us in the bathroom together, whatcha got to show and tell!

Purple Rain

September 14th, 2010
12:04 pm

DC Rose, thank you :)

Melo, I don’t remember I was just browsing the web and saw it then pasted it here. LOL

Leggs, Did I say you had been with a white man? It’s not like you will start liking mayonaisse if you do. LOL

White man

September 14th, 2010
12:04 pm

Who is PR? I was just wondering.

Raqi

September 14th, 2010
12:04 pm

SexyCool and White, yeah sometimes the touching while appreciated is unwanted and sometimes inappropriate. Like just a mere few minutes ago I was making copies at the copier and the boss man walked up and patted my hinny. I reminded him that I work for him on Tuesdays that is sexual harassment. LOL He laughed and asked who is going to fire him. I am, sucka, I own half of this company. LOL

But seriously, there are times when you just want to be not touched. And getting touched while asleep can be bothersome some days.

Leggs

September 14th, 2010
12:07 pm

@blue ~ that’s horrible. She acknowledges her neglectful way and tells him he is not to relieve himself with “strippers and the like” and women wonder why men run into the arms of other women. She is delusional and trapping herself for a lot of grief down the road when he does stray. The male appendage is like a boomerang, it’s going to find something to circle around sooner or later!

Dirty Diana ♠ Who let the dogs out? woof woof

September 14th, 2010
12:07 pm

:cool: a hit dogbytch will holla! I guess we all know from your 11:46 Developmental Studies class that KYM is DANA. :wink:

Now go find that woman’s husband and lay under him another 5 years and stop sniffing around me. You little monkey-reject. He chose his wife now you are mad that you spent five years of your life chasing a dream either wet or dry. Sweetie you can’t get time back, so stop wasting it with folks hubby’s and these long azz essays to me on the blog.

Ciao :wink:

White man

September 14th, 2010
12:08 pm

I have never been with a black woman either.

White man

September 14th, 2010
12:08 pm

I have never been with a black woman, so I guess we are even.

Purple Rain

September 14th, 2010
12:08 pm

I am PR and not Puerto Rican

Dirty Diana ♠ Who let the dogs out? woof woof

September 14th, 2010
12:09 pm

The longer the lines
The more I am on these h0es mind!
And, it is all the time
:grin:

Sassy Me...built for comfort not for speed :-)

September 14th, 2010
12:10 pm

:shock:

what is really happening?…….

Tookie

September 14th, 2010
12:11 pm

Kym you seem mad at DD for not being a fool’s fool

For Real

September 14th, 2010
12:12 pm

Blue: Tell your friend to try his best to fix the issue include counseling and if that doesn’t work, he should be prepared to leave the relationship.

Dirty Diana ♠ Who let the dogs out? woof woof

September 14th, 2010
12:14 pm

Sasssssssssssssssssssssssssssssy

Did you go to FSO? I missed it, although I really didn’t want to go anyway.

Melo

September 14th, 2010
12:16 pm

@PR??!

I’m going take a dump and I hope by the time I come back my renewal and re-invogaration will fuse thru the blog!

:lol: :lol:

Let us all quash the beef unless u females know something we menfolk don’t know.

2CPTG©

September 14th, 2010
12:18 pm

Sexy….you still in here?

Da hell goin on in here? Do we need to go “old school” on ‘em????

White man

September 14th, 2010
12:19 pm

Heading to lunch, be back in a while…

Luvbug

September 14th, 2010
12:20 pm

Leggs – Here you go!!

http://www.testcafe.com/sex/

http://www.allthetests.com/quiz13/quizpu.php?testid=1112764441

Blue – Did the guy say it casually or seriously let her know that she is on the outs if she keeps that up?? As in, this is not an option.

Dirty Diana ♠ Who let the dogs out? woof woof

September 14th, 2010
12:21 pm

Let us all quash the beef unless u females know something we menfolk don’t know.

@MELO I don’t know anything about this h0e name KYM, she jumped off ol’ girl’s husband and tried to do a “jump” on me. We’ve never had a conversation or met in person. It seems to me she is still uptight about munching on that woman’s husband’s dingle ling. That is not my problem, because what I say about mistresses shouldn’t bother a secure woman that got it together. :cool:

Hell maybe I remind this monkey-h0e of the wife? :???: I don’t know.

All is well on my end, how are you?

Leggs

September 14th, 2010
12:22 pm

@PR ~ I said I have NEVER been….

@WMan ~ PR and Purple Rain are one and the same.

Sassy Me...built for comfort not for speed :-)

September 14th, 2010
12:22 pm

Did you go to FSO?

No I never made it Dianaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa..my mom and aunt had me hemmed up on the southside chauffering them around….aint nuthin like family..