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How much support do men need?

If you have ever watched HBO’s Entourage, you are familiar with the character, Ari Gold, played by Jeremy Piven.  Ari Gold is a foul-mouthed, raging jerk with a temper that makes you wonder how he has managed to get through the day without a black eye.  Since he is a Hollywood agent, this behavior manages to work for him in business.

In a recent episode, Ari’s wife walked out on him after his trademark public tirades embarrasses her.  Apparently he felt abandoned by his own wife.  She tells him that she refuses to sit by when her husband is acting like a classless idiot.  He says that is the exact moment when a wife should be supportive. (Paraphrasing)

I know loyalty and support is pretty high on a man’s mental list of what he needs from a woman.  When a man does not feel supported he is less likely to trust his partner to be there when he needs him.

So what happens when a man is dead wrong but still wants to be supported? How should a woman handle it? Does she keep her opinions to herself and offer him support and comfort?

How much support should a woman be willing to offer and provide when she does not agree with what he is doing or how he is handling it?

Is it fair to ask for the same loyalty and support from men that they need and want?

Guys, have you ever dated a woman who wasn’t accepting and supportive? Did you let her know that is what you thought about her?

Ladies, do you think women have a hard time supporting men in relationships? What have you learned about being supportive in a relationship? How did your mothers handle it?

537 comments Add your comment

Purple Rain

September 14th, 2010
10:47 am

Can I ask a candid question and get some real responses from real alias’?

White man

September 14th, 2010
10:47 am

Nice day outside.

Jucee

September 14th, 2010
10:48 am

When the Man is ‘dead wrong’ you tell him and keep it moving.

White man

September 14th, 2010
10:48 am

czBrat

September 14th, 2010
10:51 am

yes please, reign. make me smile! and exactly what is a “real alias”???

Purple Rain

September 14th, 2010
10:52 am

Is it wrong to have an oral fixation. I am not talking about with everyone but if you are in a solid relationship or married. Is there something wrong with that?

Dirty Diana ♠

September 14th, 2010
10:52 am

You have the floor.

abc

September 14th, 2010
10:52 am

Yes, Dan, that’s what I think. Support is nice to have, but not essential. It amounts to not much more than a pat on the back or a sympathetic ear, anyway. More important is not to do things that hinder a man. In fact, I’d call lack of hindrance being supportive, in its own way.

czBrat

September 14th, 2010
10:53 am

WM, it’s supposed to be BE.U.TEE.FUL out today (and the rest of the week i think).

White man

September 14th, 2010
10:53 am

Purple Rain….I see nothing wrong with that at all.

Dan - simply...

September 14th, 2010
10:54 am

@abc

Thank you for responding, that’s an interesting response to say the least.

Kym-Dirty Bird can't fly with a broken wing

September 14th, 2010
10:55 am

@abc..so other than nagging.. how else could a woman hinder a man?

Leggs

September 14th, 2010
10:55 am

As a woman, I see nothing wrong with your fixation! Nothing at all.

White man

September 14th, 2010
10:57 am

Most women see the oral fixation as a way to have control of her man. Most of the women that I know love it.

czBrat

September 14th, 2010
10:58 am

lmao @ leggs!! good morning sunshine!

the strangest things go on in the ladies room on this floor. just say 3 feet under a stall. all three appeared to be wearing the very same shoe. and not a sound came out of that stall the whole time i was in there. wtf?

Purple Rain

September 14th, 2010
10:58 am

czBrat, LOL I did not think that one all the way out. A real alias, I guess the alias that everyone knows you as. LOL Here is the first joke:

Why is a woman like a bucket of KFC? Because once you get past the tender breast and the juicy thighs all you have left is a greasy wet box to put your bone in.

blue - ½ -n- ½

September 14th, 2010
10:59 am

@DD – naw, i geuss im not really that invested in anyone to know for sure whether its an alias or not

just wonder, and not trying to start a fued with anyone, but donning my blogvest just in case, why bother taking the time to check…i figured it must be something simple that is on the page somewhere already and im just missing it…

@cz – hey lady, other than the window washers (lol) its pretty peaceful here today. come on sit by me…

White man

September 14th, 2010
11:01 am

Purple – That is great.

Dirty Diana ♠

September 14th, 2010
11:01 am

@blue LOL leave that blog vest off, Fred chewed a hole in it so you are not protected at all.

Purple Rain

September 14th, 2010
11:01 am

czBrat it’s not hard to figure out what is going on in that bathroom. LOL

White Man and Leggs, :) lol

Diana, you have to resend your email to my other addy. I think you already had my Yahoo address from that yahoo group thingy

SexyCool

September 14th, 2010
11:02 am

As long as satisfaction of that fixation takes into account your SO’s desires and wishes, it should be no issue.

I have a friend whose husband is in love with her @ss. He used to just walk by and grab it when and wherever he wanted to until it was to the point that she got tired of it. She finally had to communicate with him that even though they are married, she still has some boundaries when it comes to her person. (She also had to break him from the habit of reaching down and cupping her vajayjay while she was sleeping.)

As I read back on this, I am once again LMAO.

JetBlue

September 14th, 2010
11:02 am

Yep…..most dating “advice” for women is about addressing men’s shortcomings……..whereas dating advice for men is about ways to make women feel special (or MORE special).

Purple Rain

September 14th, 2010
11:02 am

Want another joke?

White man

September 14th, 2010
11:03 am

SexyCool- are you male or female?

White man

September 14th, 2010
11:03 am

Dirty Diana ♠

September 14th, 2010
11:05 am

Diana, you have to resend your email to my other addy.

@purp that is too much work. :grin: I was actually responding to your email

I am whatever you say I am

September 14th, 2010
11:05 am

Purple: Right now I’m wearing nothing considering you still haven’t come correct on my cheerleading uniform! :-D

Purple Rain

September 14th, 2010
11:06 am

SexyCool, sometimes I just wake up wanting to. SOmetimes I wake her up other times I let her sleep. I am like your friends husband. Somtimes I will just grab it and massage it, if we are laying down, in the car, or if she is just walking by me. She always wears a swim suit or sexy bra and panty set whenever we are home what are we supposed to do. Or if we are on the way back home she will just say she is hot and slide her bra and panties off if she is wearing a dress. She has not told me that my actions bother her but last night while I decided to let her sleep I was wondering if something were wrong with me. LOL

abc

September 14th, 2010
11:06 am

Ways I’ve been hindered in the past are being forced to make career and life changes to accommodate her career; being restricted from activities that I needed or wanted to do in order to satisfy her demands; necessity of figuring out where all the money goes because the books she keeps don’t tally; generally getting hassled up because she would invent a bunch of needless drama. Thank you, God, that my girl in nothing like all of that! She is a gift and blessing. Actually, I’d say her presence is supportive just because she’s so good. But I think it boils down to never being a hindrance, really; I never talk about work anyway, or things that are going awry for me personally. I tend to not think about those things when I’m around her and at home. That could be supportive in itself, too: the home she makes is like a shelter from stress.

JetBlue

September 14th, 2010
11:06 am

122 comments……….mostly a bunch of “hellos” and “hi-ya” doing’s………can you say ADHD? LOL! Stick to the subject people……………this ain’t facebook!

White man

September 14th, 2010
11:06 am

does anyone work in the Gwinnett area?

czBrat

September 14th, 2010
11:07 am

i should have known what was coming, reign, but yeah .. go for it.

Dana

September 14th, 2010
11:07 am

I still stick to my opinion ….Childish at best!!!!
DD, please believe there are more people who read this blog daily than that actually post. I have posted only a couple of times, but felt the need to address your childish antics. I know I am not alone, because slowly others have started to address it, too, and there seems to be a consensus. You are the only one who comes in here DAILY looking for a catfight. Yes, this is a blog, and yes, it is for entertainment, but some days you can just come in looking to start going in on people just because you don’t like something they admitted to on the blog. I am sure most people don’t lose no sleep over anonymous comments made on a blog and be prepared the next morning with a quick come-back to get back at somebody…but you obviously do!

You take other’s people shared experiences and what they choose to reveal on the blog and then you try to make snide remarks as if you scooped some dirt on them and can use it against them. If someone decides to share their personal experiences, they obviously felt comfortable enough to do so. Not knowing that some childish person is going to come back later and act like …Ooooh, I got some dirt on this person….she used to sleep with married men, or she had a one-night stand. You seem to want to fixate on people’s indiscretions, as if you have none of your own. NEWSFLASH—–You got some indiscretions, too!!! Now, if you are really content with your life and have never done anything wrong, then more power to you. Keep living long enough, and all those “ I have never done this or that”, will possibly happen. You may be smart and wise to say “No, that will never happen to me”, then just keep it moving and be the best Diana you can be. Just don’t be quick to look down your nose at others, just cause you “ aint never done it”. That is all.

Purple Rain

September 14th, 2010
11:07 am

I am, keep waiting I am enjoying the nothing. LOL

Purple Rain

September 14th, 2010
11:08 am

Here is my next joke:

Mirrors can’t talk, and lucky for some, they can’t laugh either.

White man

September 14th, 2010
11:09 am

LETS START A NEW TOPIC……

blue - ½ -n- ½

September 14th, 2010
11:10 am

@DD – Ha HA!! What Fred doesnt know is that was a bait vest, cause i knew he’d do that!! i even had it Bedazzled, cause he’s distracted by shiny things….now hes got the old Bedazzled one and i am sporting me brand new blog vest, un-Fred tainted!!
@Sexy – agreed…fixation is cool as long as your SO is on board…if at some point you sleeping with your hand on her boobs gets old for her, then you may have an issue but till then your all good!

Dirty Diana ♠

September 14th, 2010
11:11 am

Dana, you sound angry early this morning. We all agree it is a beautiful day. Now calm down, and change your moniker back afterall we know who you are, and what you do.

Now let me ask you this, are you gay or something? Why do you keep sniffing around my feet like you are trying to lick my toes or eat me?

Sorry in advance if you answered these questions, your rant was much too long to read. I am glad you know my importance writing all that ish just for me, TRICK!!!!! :cool:

Purple Rain

September 14th, 2010
11:11 am

Be nice to your neighbors. They are the only ones who will know the difference between your good screams and your bad screams!

I am whatever you say I am

September 14th, 2010
11:11 am

Purple , you ain’t gonna have me out here trying to cheer with nothing but some pom poms on
LOL!

Melo

September 14th, 2010
11:11 am

@SexxyCool?

does he grab it in public or at home?

does he go there in bed with the mouf or with Johnny?
For a moment I thought by being in love wit her zzz u meant phuckinh the dudu hole!

CzBrat
what three people in the stall are u talking about? Treason over there by the job?

Purple? Oral fixation? What’s that
I thought, like in ur situation and mine oral is part of the tab?

Lemme know coz I’m actually considering to upgrade to gold standard!

Purple Rain

September 14th, 2010
11:12 am

Tube of Vaseline: $3….Box of Condoms: $12….Three Gay Porn magazines: $11. Make your parents think your brother is gay: Priceless!!

White man

September 14th, 2010
11:12 am

DD…WOW, nice post “lick my toes or eat me?”

Dirty Diana ♠

September 14th, 2010
11:12 am

LETS START A NEW TOPIC……

Ok, go for it! Tell us something good.

SexyCool

September 14th, 2010
11:13 am

P-Lito – Sounds like she is a bit encouraging to me.

WhiteDude….really?

Purple Rain

September 14th, 2010
11:13 am

Melo, go ahead an upgrade LOL

White man

September 14th, 2010
11:15 am

LETS DISCUSS ORAL FIXATIONS….

Dirty Diana ♠

September 14th, 2010
11:15 am

@White Man, thanks!

Purple Rain

September 14th, 2010
11:15 am

SexyCool, survey says you are right. :)

And to all of you selfish women who just agreed you need to be fixated on your man more stop being takers. LOL

SexyCool

September 14th, 2010
11:18 am

Melo – LOL!
It was happening mostly at home. And in bed, he would just cup her up and leave his hand there – all night if she let him. He wasn’t trying to caress her or excite her or anything – just hold her….there.

And whereas I have no issue with TheDude *worshipping* certain of my lady parts at random times, I could sympathize with her plight.

Because, quite frankly, there are times when I am not feeling sexy or touchable and just want to be to myself and my partner should be able to recognize and respect that.