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Opposites attract..drama?

We have all heard the  old adage that opposites attract but I don’t know if I can say this is a good thing.  Obviously, the people we meet and date won’t be a carbon copy because  that would be, well creepy. You just have to expect that you will have differences. How much difference is too much, though?

Compatibility can go a very long way when you consider that couples have so much to contend with in a new romance.  Do you think that being polar opposite of the person you are dating has the potential for more drama?

I ask because when you have so much in common, things seem to fall into place a lot easier.  You don’t expect everything to be a walk in the park, but it certainly seems the path of least resistance!

What do you think?  Have you ever dated someone who was your “opposite”?  Do you think it made for a rockier ride because of your conflicts?

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AmazonRed™

September 13th, 2010
8:53 am

Morning all –

Obviously, the people we meet and date won’t be a carbon copy because that would be, well creepy.

How would that be creepy? Boy I wish I could find the male version of me!

Simple Man!!!!

September 13th, 2010
8:58 am

Morning ARed!!!! Hope you had a great weekend :)

I am like you…I would die to find a female me!!! (Think you could be that girl??? LOL)

YESSHEISCUTE

September 13th, 2010
9:00 am

I don’t know on that one. I think it really just depends on your personality and how flexible and adaptable you are to other people’s idiosyncracies….

2CPTG©

September 13th, 2010
9:01 am

g’morning…

I think an opposite would provide balance…yeah, I want someone with similar values and ambitions, but I don’t think I could handle a female version of me…….hell nah!

YESSHEISCUTE

September 13th, 2010
9:05 am

I am a little emotional and dramatic (but not drama). If I met a male version of me I’d think he was gay and I wouldn’t want to deal with him. But a guy with a sense of humor who can deal with me accordingly is appealing.

Leggs

September 13th, 2010
9:05 am

Good morning!

I think opposite personalities brings balance. I’d welcome different gears to the relationship. Don’t relish both of us stuck in gear 2 all the time. Differing outlooks and thought processes spice things up.

Purple Rain

September 13th, 2010
9:06 am

As long as we share Core Values is all that matters, and those for me are Religion, Code of Life (i.e. respect for self, others, money) everything can be different it’s just what makes us unique. I would not want to be with someone just like me, I like the different points of views and opening up to new things that they show me.

Dan - simply...

September 13th, 2010
9:09 am

Morning,

I agree with the “balance” concept, but I also think of it as opportunity.

A chance to see the world in a way that I never thought of. An opportunity to learn something about myself and my (admittedly cynical) worldview.

It’s nice sometimes to witness the hope of someone that hasn’t had my life experiences; nice, inspiring, and reinvigorating.

AmazonRed™

September 13th, 2010
9:10 am

I am like you…I would die to find a female me!!! (Think you could be that girl??? LOL)

Well, I dunno Simple Man. Cuz I’m certainly not a Simple Woman, so we’re already too different! LOL!

blue - ½ -n- ½

September 13th, 2010
9:11 am

GM all, ive got donuts, who brought the coffee?

mr.blue and i are opposite in many ways, and it does prove to be a good balance at times, however there are many times where neither of us can understand the other one or are just plain irritated by the other one. i have met the male version of me, and it went great. things actually flow incredibly easy….

SlimNumeroUno

September 13th, 2010
9:17 am

Gooooooood mawnin!!! Hope yall had a good weekend, because I did ;-)

Anyhoo, I think I pretty much agree with Purple Pleasure. The important things would be to share similar core values. I would not want to date someone just like me, maybe some of my characteristics but I enjoy the back and forth of learning that occurs with those that are opposites. I don’t ever want to stop learning…

Simple Man!!!!

September 13th, 2010
9:19 am

ARed…Simple man referes to the rules I live by…Everything else is is complicated like Ancient Greek mythology!!! 8)

Purple Rain

September 13th, 2010
9:27 am

Faclons, lost. Vick played a good game, the Colts lost but Peytons still got me my Fantasy Football Points :)

Where is Kym? LOL

Go Vikes!!

Leggs

September 13th, 2010
9:42 am

This is an excellent cup of tea with lemon….

Trevor0529

September 13th, 2010
9:45 am

Enter your comments here

Mo (aka Moeisha - sleepy as h3ll)

September 13th, 2010
9:46 am

Morning all and happy monday

Just wanted to pop in early as I try to wake up….WHEW!

blue 1/2-n-1/2 – may I please have one of those donuts?
And where is Dreams with a pepsi when I need it? lol

kimmie

September 13th, 2010
9:51 am

Morning All!

Still a little sleepy as well.

Oh, the topic! I agree with the others – share core values and some interests. Other than that, each bring their different ideas & strengths to the table. Variety is the spice!

Dan, I like how you put it – nice, inspiring, and reinvigorating.

LoveLife

September 13th, 2010
9:53 am

Morning All!

It’s been a while for me, but I agree with @Purple Rain. You can have a successful relationship with a polar opposite or someone similar if core values are the same.

I’m with someone who is definitely opposite from me, and we have plenty of great sparks. Bumps along the road are often smoothed out through communication. If he didn’t value that as much as I do then we would be doomed.

It’s a journey, one that I’m enjoying.

EastsideSweety

September 13th, 2010
9:54 am

Morning Everyone!!!
Sad day in the office, my coworker was killed over the weekend

On topic I think if I ran into someone like me I would definitely run the other way

Trevor0529

September 13th, 2010
9:54 am

Good Morning,

I am not sure if I could date a female version of myself. As PR said, sharing core values are very important. If you differ in other areas, that is where learning and growth comes in to play.

Off Topic: I would like to thank Rashard Mendenhall for helping me win my fantasy league game yesterday.

blue - ½ -n- ½

September 13th, 2010
9:56 am

@Mo – what’ll ya have? im all out of chocolate frosted with sprinkles…

core values – agreed thats the most important part. but someone different from and someone the same can each have their place. different brings new things for you to learn about, broaden your horizons…similar to you, you can share interests and find it easier to understand each other. each has their pros and cons, imo

Mo (aka Moeisha - sleepy as h3ll)

September 13th, 2010
10:01 am

blue – a crueller (sp?)or a regular ole glazed will be fine….just need the sugar rush this AM.

EastsideSweety – thats awful about your co-worker, sorry to hear that.

Simple Man!!!!

September 13th, 2010
10:07 am

So Eastside….Whats is it about you that would make you run the other way?????

Luvbug

September 13th, 2010
10:10 am

Different is good. Same core values are good.

I agree with Dan and Purple.

I enjoy diversity of thinking…even though I’m firm in what I personally believe and don’t mind expressing my beliefs (sometimes with complete disregard for your feelings…I think I’ve covered a tendency towards ‘judgmental’), I like having my mind changed. It can be kind of sexy at times…taking over and being taken over.

SexyCool

September 13th, 2010
10:10 am

JaieNik

September 13th, 2010
10:10 am

Morning All!
New to the blogs and wanted to speak on topic.

Speaking from experience and agreeance with a few of you. I think opposites can work. I feel it can cause balance between a couple and actually has some perks. For example: He is the jokester/social butterfly whereas I am the shy, quiet one. Watching him over time help me to open up and be more social and not scared to speak first.

Speaking of… Leggs can I join the family? Pleaaase! (batting eyes ever so sweetly!)

SexyCool

September 13th, 2010
10:14 am

I would not want to date a male carbon copy of me. Because the same things that I like least about myself and am working to change would be the things that I would like least and want my partner to change.

Like others have said, it’s about core values and similiar interests. I will add in the much bandied about and forever picked apart phrase – equally yoked.

TheDude and I recently passed our one year mark and I can definitely say that all three of the above are traits that exist in our relationship.

Raqi

September 13th, 2010
10:17 am

That fact that he is male and I am female brings about a world of differences undoubtedly. That being said FME I think sharing core values and same interests in many things is important. Yes each person brings an individual flavor to the union, but all in all in we need to stay alike in more ways than not.

Not saying we need to be identical twin souls but we do share some common interests and ideas. Fraternal twins, maybe??

Melo

September 13th, 2010
10:18 am

Good morning folks!!

Opposites?? That could work if u work at understanding each other.

I’m an introvert
She’s an extrovert
Im rather quiet and observant
She’s a loud mouth blabah
She’s nice to a tee and non judgmental
Me, u know already!! :lol:
She likes romantic movies and soaps

I hate them :mrgreen: and more of a realist. Don’t like fantasy and movies for the most part

We both believe in God, to a degree and do share some core values.

Have a good day!!

Leggs

September 13th, 2010
10:19 am

@JaieNik ~ the family welcomes you with open arms. It sounds like you will be a regular so CATCH, here’s your vest. Since you contacted me, I believe you already know the rules (LOL).

@Eastside, so sorry to hear about your coworker. Stay strong!

@SexyC ~ congrats on your one year!

SexyCool

September 13th, 2010
10:19 am

Welcome – J-Nik.

blue - ½ -n- ½

September 13th, 2010
10:20 am

@Mo – slinging a crueller…catch!!
@Simple Man – what is it about you that would make you run the other way – lol, those internal review questions can be brutal….

Hii JaieNik !!

SexyCool

September 13th, 2010
10:21 am

Eastside – A few years back, I had a co-worker that was in the office with a cold on Tuesday, in the hospital with pneumonia on Thursday and dead by Monday. I can relate to how shocking it can be.

My sympathies.

I am whatever you say I am

September 13th, 2010
10:22 am

Do opposites really attract?
The more things seem different, the more they are the same.

SexyCool

September 13th, 2010
10:22 am

Thanks, SexxyLeggs.

Dan - simply...

September 13th, 2010
10:26 am

@SC

Allow me to add my own Congratulations!

EastsideSweety

September 13th, 2010
10:26 am

Because the same things that I like least about myself and am working to change would be the things that I would like least and want my partner to change

I cosign that

SlimNumeroUno

September 13th, 2010
10:26 am

Well i’m the semi-extrovert and he is the introvert….however we BOTH love to drink. Sounds like a match made in heaven if you ask me. j/k

Leggs

September 13th, 2010
10:26 am

I am an extrovert and will need to be with another extrovert. An introvert would only make me feel stifled.

I am whatever you say I am

September 13th, 2010
10:28 am

random: anyone see the new axe commercial?
Hilarious!!!

:-D

Dan - simply...

September 13th, 2010
10:30 am

Off topic

I’d also like to send a shout out to Kanye West for the DM anthem. Clap for the SB’s, DB’s, adn Arsehole; and

Boooo that isht Taylor Swift sang trying to ‘forgive’ a grown man at 18; like she really know anything about [his] life at 18…..Booo that isht

JaieNik

September 13th, 2010
10:30 am

Thanks so much Leggs! I wear it with pride!

@SexyCool Thanks!
@Blue Hiii!

M.(pronouced M dot)

September 13th, 2010
10:31 am

Good day everyone.

“Have you ever dated someone who was your “opposite”? ”

Actually, I went out with a girl who I just met and everything was cool until the waiter came….I didnt know this but she is a vegetarian and she does not drink!

I think I handled it well because we talked about alot of general stuff and watched the games (the bears definately stole that game). I am interested to see where things go with her. She is a nice girl.

Sex, Drugs and Rock n Roll

September 13th, 2010
10:31 am

Lets swing by Krystal on the way home and pickup a 10 bagger w/cheese.

Kym-Dirty Bird can't fly with a broken wing

September 13th, 2010
10:33 am

Good Morning All,

I agree being that we are already opposites to start out..Male/Female. I wouldn’t want to meet my exact replica in male form. Why? Cause with all my positive traits, there are those negatives and really, who would want to look in a mirror at themselves all the time? Plus, I think my opposite would keep me grounded. I have a negative trait of over-thinking and reading more into situations, this has caused me trouble in the past(present too) so having someone there who doesn’t do that would help me to see pass whatever paranoid moments I might be having. Two people being paranoid, jumping the gun could be disaster.

SlimNumeroUno

September 13th, 2010
10:35 am

Dan – I was thinking, now the arseholes of the world have their own theme song. lol

Leggs

September 13th, 2010
10:35 am

@M. ~ if things progress nicely with the two of you, do you see yourself changing some of your eating habits?

I am whatever you say I am

September 13th, 2010
10:35 am

At Carlito Purple
I need a new cheerleading outfit if you expect me to continue cheering for your our team :evil:
Mine has way too much clothing!

blue - ½ -n- ½

September 13th, 2010
10:35 am

thing with opposites – how things change down the road….used to be he was the extrovert, me the introvert. now the opposite is true…i want to go out, he wants to stay home watching tv…i’ll participate on the blog, he may read a specific day if i mention something of interest but wont speak….we have now adopted the others side and still remain opposites, lol

EastsideSweety

September 13th, 2010
10:36 am

@Simple Man- I can be a little emotional sometimes and two overly emotional people can be a disaster. We can’t get through anything with BOTH of us crying……LOL