Dating in the Facebook nation
I watch my teenage nieces and their dramatic Facebook status updates and can’t help but feel relieved. I am so thankful that I never had Facebook in my teen years. I should send Zuckerman a thank you card.
You wonder how much of ourselves start to take shape online. We share on Twitter, Facebook, blogs, and many other slightly narcissistic social media outlets. Do you think people who want to date us could read or observe something and get turned off?
In a recent Forbes article, Are You Revealing Too Much On Facebook, the author makes a pretty interesting point. Your “profile” can be raised or lowered in the eyes of a potential. Since it isn’t a typical dating website, Facebook becomes a way people discover your personality. This isn’t necessarily a good thing for everyone.
I can admit that I lost my excitement over a guy after watching a little of his social media existence. Is it fair? Probably not. At the same time, I couldn’t totally ignore how he “looked” on Facebook and Twitter. It’s not your Mama’s dating scene, people. If compatibility clues are there to reveal things to you, does it matter if they are e-clues?
What do you think? Is this a totally new way we are unfairly judging each other? Is it smart to look at all sides of a person? IRL vs e-life, what’s the best way to determine if the person is a good catch?
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czBrat
August 30th, 2010
2:36 pm
i’m really going to have to get my hands on a comprehensive list of the blog goblin’s favorite words so i can get my posts past him
Dirty Diana
August 30th, 2010
2:36 pm
Melo give us a story on real people not some missing wang bull LOL.
blue - Waiting...
August 30th, 2010
2:39 pm
@DD – no, still waiting. good news tho:the hold up was my landlord went on vacation last week, so while the agent is trying to reach him for a reference, hes out of office. but hes back today, spoke to him this morning, hes waiting for the agents call. caught the agent up so they should be talking sometime today early tomorrow!
@Melo – lol, poor guy, that problem isnt restricted to the animal world is it tho?
@Simple Man – lmao, i sense a parent teacher conference coming….
MELO
August 30th, 2010
2:41 pm
@DD..i dont think today is a good day coz the crowd is pretty thin..once we start that route,u know we gon lose Kimmie..so that nakes the crowd even thinner..
and 2Can aint even here…
lets wait a lil bit…
why dont somebody provoke an argument with abc??
Purple Rain
August 30th, 2010
2:42 pm
It’s me..lurker, you know you don’t have to lick stamps anymore they just stick right to the letter. LOL, I am just messing with you now.
LURKER-1
August 30th, 2010
2:44 pm
Not about FB, but there was an article last week that states AA use cell phones twice the rate of whites and AA females use more than AA males. AA also text more. A similiar article was in Essence a few months ago but my wife doesn’t believe either. Neither article gave the reasons why but I have felt this way for awhile. I thought it was because I circulate in a predominately AA environment therefore I saw more usage. I’m sure the people who do these type studies have a much deeper reason.
MELO
August 30th, 2010
2:44 pm
czBrat??
I didnt know u that foul mouthed!
Purple Rain
August 30th, 2010
2:46 pm
Leggs, what is to loaded?
czBrat
August 30th, 2010
2:47 pm
you’re not supposed to know, melo. the blog goblin must be bilingual
Dirty Diana
August 30th, 2010
2:47 pm
LURKER-1 not that it matters why AA uses the cell phone more, if t
hey pay the cell bill let them use it, but the research I read stated that AA folks use their cell phones to logon to social networks more.
@Melo LOL
kimmie
August 30th, 2010
2:50 pm
Melo –
Dilemma – What swimsuit should I take on my cruise later this week – the orange one or the blue & white one? I’m already taking a black one too. Also, should I take the purple dress for the formal dinner or a LBD? Decisions, decisions! LOL!!!
MELO
August 30th, 2010
2:52 pm
that problem isnt restricted to the animal world is it tho?
@blue? it shld not take but just about 3 seconds to put it in once she is open legged and u have pivoited ur strongest kneee on the bed and ur tool box is out,primed and ready to rumble..to get him inside.
i must admit tho,it has been more than 20 yrs since i hit a fat woman but its also easy to take a good 5 minutes or so,just looking for the hole..esp if u hitting from the dog style…if u not didligent in making sure u inside..u run the risk of nutting on mere thigh flesh
confusing it for the warm hole. 
i remeber this one time,big girl went doggie and aske me to hit..i cldnt find the hole..meanwhile shes asking me,”what u waiting for?” and im telling her,”i cant find it”…biug girl says,”what u mean u cant find it?”" we were both upset…..she was upset coz u know how they do..they flip it and assume u calling them fat..making them mad….
was not pretty at all!
Leggs ♦
August 30th, 2010
2:53 pm
“u know how animals do when they are on heat..but the bull is missing terribly……”
whats up with that??”
@PR ~ that statement is too loaded to touch. I see laughter in the statement.
2CPTG©
August 30th, 2010
2:53 pm
Melo, I’m here bruh……shiiid, I still wanna the know the female blogger you’re hidin from us….
Kym-Thank Goodness it was only Pre-season
August 30th, 2010
2:54 pm
Are we still on technology Or have we moved on the greener pastures? I will note that technology has done wonders for the court system. Makes processing and filing faster for sure. Still mountains of paperwork..but still being able to track stuff without going to the court all the time..works for me.
Simple Man!!!!
August 30th, 2010
2:56 pm
kimmie….The LBD is always good!!! When done right, It sets off any occcasion! Which swim suite??? The bikini, of course!!!
blue - Waiting...
August 30th, 2010
2:56 pm
@Melo – LMAO, you are a special character, thats for sure. i meant the “so excited takes a min to get it in” thing, fat now thats a different story, cant find it is different from too excited to be coordinated, lol
blue - Waiting...
August 30th, 2010
2:57 pm
@kimmie – blue and white one!
Leggs ♦
August 30th, 2010
2:57 pm
@PR ~ Melo spoke up (2:52) on the funny part in terms of a man before I could. That’s the laughter I was talking about.
kimmie
August 30th, 2010
2:58 pm
The bikini, of course!!!
Simple – And you know this! I’m gonna rock it while I can!
Yeah, the LBD it is!
kimmie
August 30th, 2010
2:59 pm
blue – Blue is actually my favorite color, so it wins!
abc
August 30th, 2010
3:01 pm
I’m not a technophobe, I’ve worked in technology for over 20 years, and have been into computers, programming and connectivity since 1984. The difference between me an most other people is that I understand how all that stuff actually works, and the business models that support their existence. Technophobe… I swear.
MELO
August 30th, 2010
3:02 pm
@Kimmie
LBD?
whats that??
i think u shld ask ur guy which one(swimwear) he likes to see u in most.
u know if it were me, i wld ask my girl to model the swim suit and then i will pay her a visit just to see her in it,the nite be4 departure…
maybe a good time,after the modeling,to get one for the road be4 uall go on the cruise.
(if u knowwhatimean?)
Simple Man!!!!
August 30th, 2010
3:02 pm
kimmie, where are you cruising to??
It's me....lurker
August 30th, 2010
3:03 pm
PR – ya lil stamp joke was funny…LOL
Luvbug
August 30th, 2010
3:03 pm
Uh-oh abc has reloaded (Dick Cheney style)
Simple Man!!!!
August 30th, 2010
3:05 pm
abc, the conversation has moved on….Now we are working on kimmie in a LBD then switching to a blue two piece!!!
Leggs ♦
August 30th, 2010
3:06 pm
“The difference between me an most other people is that I understand how all that stuff actually works,”
@abc ~ truly I’m not trying to be negative, but do you realize you always speak negative on most not knowing as much as you, no matter what the topic is. If you know so much more than most people why are you constantly telling us. We should be able to figure that out by now.
Farai
August 30th, 2010
3:06 pm
Im sorry for being so rude…Ive been a long time viewer of the blog, but never able to participate….but always good to read up on all y’all….i feel like i know all of you so well…anyway…keep on talking and entertaining me
czBrat
August 30th, 2010
3:07 pm
Shooting reported at Delta’s maintenance hangar next to airport wth?!?!?
MELO
August 30th, 2010
3:07 pm
2CPTG©??
I aint never rating on my extra curricula,whether str8 innocent(in this case) or guitly(at some unknown point in future)….
Puts MLB in disrepute and me personally.
Juveniles and amateaurs do that.
kimmie
August 30th, 2010
3:10 pm
Melo – LBD = Little Black Dress
A basic in any womans wardrobe – you can dress it up or down and usually works for just about any occasion.
Yeah, you are right we probably need to “get one for the road” because the wee ones will be with us, bunking in the same stateroom! LOL!! A slumber party on the seas!
Simple – The Bahamas, just a little 3-day cruise.
Leggs ♦
August 30th, 2010
3:11 pm
Welcome to Blogsville, Farai!
It's me....lurker
August 30th, 2010
3:15 pm
I wouldn’t say ABC speaks negatively. I think he’s a realist in the world of folks being and speaking politically correct.
2CPTG©
August 30th, 2010
3:15 pm
can’t help but respect that, Melo…..
MELO
August 30th, 2010
3:15 pm
@Kimmie..im so scared of the ocean i dont think i can survive a cruise..i wld rather fly over water,then fall in the ocean accidentally than willingly go in there by myself and solicit danger.
how did the Titanic sink..where there pple in it..how many??
its amazing that they can make a whole ship float in the ocean water…unthinkable really!
blue - Waiting...
August 30th, 2010
3:15 pm
im confused people, why would you bring your dog to a baseball game?
http://projects.accessatlanta.com/gallery/view/entertainment/bark-park-turner-2010/
LURKER-1
August 30th, 2010
3:19 pm
Melo, a couple of times in my marriage before we take a little trip, out of the blue my wife asked, let’s do one for the road. Totally, unexpected…..sure why not
As you have stated before, sometimes I just feel used 
Purple Rain
August 30th, 2010
3:19 pm
2CPTG, yes I want to know who Melo is keeping for himself, he is selfish now. lol
Leggs, LOL
It’s me..lurker,
Purple Rain
August 30th, 2010
3:20 pm
Melo, LOL it is just funny that you are keeping it tight to your chest
LURKER-1
August 30th, 2010
3:21 pm
Blue, I was watching the game yesterday and asked WHY, WHY??? I love my dog, chile plz
Kym-Thank Goodness it was only Pre-season
August 30th, 2010
3:23 pm
@blue..they have pet day at Braves games. People bring in their dogs. Not sure if they bring cats but they do dogs.
blue - Waiting...
August 30th, 2010
3:24 pm
@Lurker – i cant get my dog to wear a simple witch hat on Halloween, how do these people get htem into whole outfits? and why? their dogs, not miniature people…
MELO
August 30th, 2010
3:25 pm
@PR…u dont even know the lady tho…it is just being respectful.
but i will solicit for blog scandal,blog extra curicula phuckology etc in a heart beat..just to see if pple are busy..thats all…
MELO
August 30th, 2010
3:26 pm
As you have stated before, sometimes I just feel used
@LURKER-1..u blessed men…!
Purple Rain
August 30th, 2010
3:26 pm
my dogs wear bandanna’s around their neck when I take them to the parks or lakes.
kimmie
August 30th, 2010
3:27 pm
Melo – I didn’t know you were scared of the ocean! You are kinda like me and heights! I get worse as I get older. I feel like I have a chance on a ship, but falling from somewhere high – it’s over. I have a love/hate relationship with planes – I love getting to my destination fast, but I am afraid of crashing. Usually I am toasted before I get on any plane and try to remain that way until I land!
Purple Rain
August 30th, 2010
3:27 pm
Melo, no hate it is just funny for that reason. LOL
Kym-Thank Goodness it was only Pre-season
August 30th, 2010
3:28 pm
@blue..the other night I saw a Steeler jersey that would fit my dog..but know her..she would rip it off. Pets and their stuff its a billion dollar plus industry. My dog’s pet insurance was about 325.00 a year.
SlimNumeroUno
August 30th, 2010
3:29 pm
It’s almost 4 o’clock and yall have only made it to page 2…I’ll be right back…going to grab a pool filled with baby oil & cat nip to wake everyone up. This ought to be fun.