Freaky Friday: Whose fantasy is it?
Have you ever wondered if you were too “vanilla” or inexperienced compared to your date or significant other? Would it bother you if you found out that you were?
I ask because a friend of mine went on a first date with a new guy recently. He randomly mentioned his rendezvous with two women during the date. Yes, you read that right.
I will pause here so you can react with disbelief like I did.
She became “visibly annoyed” and quickly changed the subject, unfortunately she had already heard too much. Now she can’t seem to shake off the little details he managed to divulge.
Where do I even begin? First of all, why would you even mention your former hook-ups with someone you are interested in? How tacky is that? Secondly, is that some kind of new compatibility test some people use now?
Mr. Threesome rambled on about how he was glad he got it out of his system. Is this the sort of thing that single people want to do before they settle down? Does sowing your wild oats mean you get to want to live out some fantasy that you have?
He also argued “they don’t call it every man’s fantasy for nothin”. I know, charming guy, right? Do you think this is true?
When you are in a relationship, do you think it matters if one person is more “vanilla” than the other?
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blue - Waiting...
August 27th, 2010
12:43 pm
@Melo – did i miss the answer to this one – if she swings with a woman without u knowing,do u consier it cheating??
mr.blue has told me b4 he wouldnt consider it cheating, would be more upset at the thouht he’d missd out…
2CPTG©
August 27th, 2010
12:43 pm
yeah, Sassy….hell, I don’ got laid damn near every place possible…but I’ve calmed down a lot. Trynna save some juice for my next wifey…
Page1908
August 27th, 2010
12:44 pm
LOL DJ! Dang, handicap bathroom? What if a handicap person needed to drain the main vein? Lmao omg. Ok, this sounds like something out of a Zane book now. smh.
Sassy Me...Fire n Ice :-)
August 27th, 2010
12:44 pm
Thirsty,jealous and immature men Trevor..
MELO
August 27th, 2010
12:44 pm
anybody ever got laid at work?
@2CPTG..i thing somebody here(female) once said that but they aint here today, i think.
2CPTG©
August 27th, 2010
12:45 pm
DJ, ain’t that a major turn on with ya girl talks dirty to ya, while you’re on your way over….tombout, you bricked up soon as you walk in the door!!!!
DJ Sniper
August 27th, 2010
12:45 pm
Blue, now that I think about it, I’m inclined to agree with your husband about being with another woman and not telling him
Simple Man!!!!
August 27th, 2010
12:45 pm
Note Note to self… Apply at the same company as Leggs…..
Melo, Come on Bru!!!! There was a SUPA DUPA fine lady that was that had on nothing but some knee pads and a back brace standing in the room!!! I was not giving a DAMN what dude looked like!! My goal at that time was just make sure he stayed on his end of the feild and to make sure that I was not the first person to run out of gas!!!!
Sassy Me...Fire n Ice :-)
August 27th, 2010
12:46 pm
Trynna save some juice for my next wifey…
Men replenish their “juice” all the time….women are born with all the eggs they’re ever going to have.
Leggs
August 27th, 2010
12:46 pm
That is very interesting to me…if she swung with another woman w/o his knowledge it may not be cheating. But, if he swung with another woman w/o her knowledge it would be cheating.
Why is this? Is it because his pipe went into her that makes it cheating, or is that only her tongue went into her that doesn’t make it cheating? This is fascinating on what is considered cheating when a person doesn’t crept!!!
Luvbug
August 27th, 2010
12:47 pm
LOL@ and a back brace
PR – Why you puzzled??
Purple Rain
August 27th, 2010
12:47 pm
Eyes wide open
Dirty Diana ♠ Maybe, maybe not
August 27th, 2010
12:47 pm
Dirty D- Don’t tell blue but Fred has a thing for energy drinks. They make him run really fast.
@DC I will buy him a case!!! Thanks for the update.
i'm swiss™
August 27th, 2010
12:48 pm
Apparently, this is what can happen when you have a 3-way with 2 dudes / 1 chic…
Purple Rain
August 27th, 2010
12:48 pm
Luvbug, I am just reading the conversation and people sharing the past and their ideas. It is interesting reading.
2CPTG©
August 27th, 2010
12:49 pm
nah, Sassy…that was a cruel joke GOD played on the fellas…when y’all get in y’all prime, we’re on the decline; that’s why I listen at all these young cats talkin bout the lil blue pill and shyt, and just shake my head….cause when it’s tiem to really need that shyt, ya azz gon’ be immune to it, and it ain’t gon’ do you no good….
MELO
August 27th, 2010
12:49 pm
Serious as in…he’s not jumping to catch every women in here and it’s just my turn.
@Luvbug??
take it from me,next time a guy approaches u and u are in a group,he has scouted u already and chose u..
so be honored to just make a grown move and say,”excuse me ladies:..to ur friends and move to a different area with dude…! he wont bite u in a public area anyway.
if it were me, i wld come in with ur fav drink in hand..that shld tell u ive put in some homework be4 getting there already.
Simple Man!!!!
August 27th, 2010
12:50 pm
Sassy: “And what are “right circumstances”?..”
Cruise to Aruba, A few fruity drinks with extra rum, Middle of the night on deck under a million stars, sexy people with no chance of the people in your real world finding out?????
Page1908
August 27th, 2010
12:51 pm
@ Swiss- lmao @ the movie Office Space! One of my all time faves. In fact, I’m working on some tps reports right now. LOL
DJ Sniper
August 27th, 2010
12:54 pm
2CP, I agree with you about these young dudes resorting to the blue pill and such at their age. Reality is gonna be cruel to them when they get older.
MELO
August 27th, 2010
12:55 pm
Simple Man!!!!??
so who hit her first??(i assume its u)
then u were on the couch watchiung as it was ur buddy’s turn.. and she was blowing ur wang meanwhile….how many rotations each way….was the chic chemically induced some way??
and who licked on her puddsy after it got hit by the other dude??
I wld luv to know what kind of mouth wash uall use! Listerine??
blue - Waiting...
August 27th, 2010
12:55 pm
@DJ – yep, asked him once, just to stir the waters (you know us women can be), what if he came home to another woman at the house, he’s like “no worries, looks like i woulda got home just in time”…seems there isnt much in the realm of females that will phase him..
@Leggs – that is precisely the explanation he gave me. Penetration = Cheating
@DD – what are you trying to do to poor Fred….
Dirty Diana ♠ Maybe, maybe not
August 27th, 2010
12:56 pm
@Blue I know one guy who said he would get a divorce if his wife messed around with another woman, but he is very religious. He said it is cheating, but I thought most guys would take the Mr. Blue approach.
As for showing up to a blog mixer, I would say be careful, but I think I cleared the riff-raff so you should be ok-tay.
@DJ, do you consider your wife bi? I mean how do you feel about it I saw you posted her definition, but I was curious of yours.
@purp close your eyes grown folks talking.
@melo are you going to tell your story today, you slithered out of it the other day.
@Sasssssssssssssssssssssssy were these friends that approached you? It is amazing what some people will ask.
It's me....lurker
August 27th, 2010
12:58 pm
Thanks for being open DJ….
Sassy – I couldn’t either
Trevor0529
August 27th, 2010
12:58 pm
what are you trying to do to poor Fred
I predict that Fred will be dead before December.
Purple Rain
August 27th, 2010
12:58 pm
Dirty Diana, I would divorce my wife also. I consider anyone other than me, male or female cheating. She and I have a history of being exhibtionist or out in publice places where we may be seen but that is as far as we go with other people.
It's me....lurker
August 27th, 2010
12:59 pm
WHO IN DA HECK IS FRED?????
DJ Sniper
August 27th, 2010
1:03 pm
Diana, I think I would describe her as bi-experienced. lol
blue - Waiting...
August 27th, 2010
1:04 pm
@DD – yeah, most guys ive talked to have taken the mr.blue approach…PR seems to be the exception, lol. clearing the riff-raff, cool beans,but y the warning on the blog mixer?
@DD@Melo – thought i was the only one noticed how he squirreled out of that yesterday…
@Trevor –
@DD@its me – DD, i’ll let you explain Fred this time, i caught swiss up yesterday….
It's me....lurker
August 27th, 2010
1:05 pm
My first thought is saftey…..In the day and age of rampant diseases that kind of play just don’t see safe. Do you stop to change condoms before you switch? I don’t think you will stop. If you don’t stop or use safety that’s…..all those different body fluids mixed. Not good people
blue - Waiting...
August 27th, 2010
1:05 pm
@DJ – i like that, mr.blue calls it bi-tendancies
Lady-How can something so familiar be so strange...hmmmmm
August 27th, 2010
1:05 pm
hey gang….how is it going!?!
MELO
August 27th, 2010
1:07 pm
BLOG 3 SOME RECRUITMENT DAY!
I have told my Queen about a 3 some be4 but we aint gon there….yet!
maybe today is a good day for recruitment…..coz the subject has hit blog mainstream now.
please send ur fancy pics to the usual address so that a selection can be made. Clsaing day is Monday 5 pm by end of bizzness day.
I reserve to the right the accept all of u and playing time is guaranteed.
strict confidentiality and no pic swapping will be entertained by me or Queen.
MELO
August 27th, 2010
1:10 pm
@DD/Blue…??
on second thoghts,that story can only be shared among men..
MLB rules!
lernch.
Sassy Me...Fire n Ice :-)
August 27th, 2010
1:12 pm
A few fruity drinks with extra rum, Middle of the night on deck under a million stars, sexy people with no chance of the people in your real world finding out?????
Simple when I go…I go H.A.A.M(hard as a muhf***a) and I don’t/won’t go all out like I would really want to with some strangers…..who knows where their junk has been. Let’s not forget that my profession has made me kinda neurotic about germs,viruses and such.
were these friends that approached you?
Dianaaaaaaaaaaaaa yes they were friends. One of my bffs wanted us to do her boyfriend as a Christmas gift…not!! Another time I was approached by a married couple I went to school with….turned them down,too.
2CP the younguns are taking “that Niagra”(my granny calls it that) cause they wanna stay super brick for hours n hours but it’s not cool to do.
Dirty Diana ♠ Maybe, maybe not
August 27th, 2010
1:13 pm
Melo your 12:55 is crazy!!! You got simple man over there brushing his teeth and scrubbing his wang. Oh yea, and the story please.
@Blue let’s just say you have good mixers and bad mixers.
@lady wassup chick!
Dirty Diana ♠ Maybe, maybe not
August 27th, 2010
1:15 pm
@Sasssssssssssssssssssssssssssssy not your bff. Are you still cool with her, and is she still with dude?
Dirty Diana ♠ Maybe, maybe not
August 27th, 2010
1:17 pm
@purp- I would divorce my hubby if he did a romp with a man, so I understand. lol
Sassy Me...Fire n Ice :-)
August 27th, 2010
1:17 pm
Are you still cool with her, and is she still with dude?
Yeah we’re still tight and no she’s not with dude anymore….she lives with her girlfriend.
Dirty Diana ♠ Maybe, maybe not
August 27th, 2010
1:18 pm
@Sasssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssy
This made me think of boy-toy. LOL
Luvbug
August 27th, 2010
1:19 pm
Sassy – You think she was trying to make you her girlfriend on the sly??
Lady-How can something so familiar be so strange...hmmmmm
August 27th, 2010
1:19 pm
@DD nothin’ much just waiting on 3:10 and the rest is HER-story! lol
Purple Rain
August 27th, 2010
1:20 pm
We did two fields in a day and a half all to the sounds of Ozzy blaring from the tractor. Nothing feels better than doing some hard physical labor.
I am interested in the answer, do you use condomds in a 3some and do you change condoms when going back and forth bewteen partners? I have seen some of the men admit to having threesome, did I miss any of the women saying that they have had two guys? Wise Diva has Freaky in the topic and I have nothing Freaky to add today. LOL
Dirty Diana ♠ Maybe, maybe not
August 27th, 2010
1:21 pm
Sasssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssy, it is like she was “eyeing” you the whole time or something, and it is cool you were able to be tight with her. See I would have been thinking since you asked me about doing it with her and dude, she wanted me the whole time. It would be different if she never wanted to see my birthday suit and came out we could be friends, but asking to get the bizness on and you come out. I am kicking you to the curb, but you know how I am.
blue - Waiting...
August 27th, 2010
1:22 pm
@Melo – 107 lmao, 110 thats just wrong, get folks all curious, didnt Leggs warn you about blog shrapnel?
@Diana – ooohhh, some of you dont behave well with others?
Dirty Diana ♠ Maybe, maybe not
August 27th, 2010
1:22 pm
@Lady I hear you I need a nap for sure!
Luvbug
August 27th, 2010
1:23 pm
Diana – Yeah, ole girl was tryin to be slick with it. LOL
Kym-I only look sweet and innocent.
August 27th, 2010
1:25 pm
Okay back from lunch..any more surprise come out in this place?
Leggs
August 27th, 2010
1:26 pm
@blue ~ thanks for explaining the concept of cheating…I figured as much.
@it’s me…if no one has answered you, Fred is a minature pony who is being led astray by pepperment, sweettarts and energy drinks.
Sassy Me...Fire n Ice :-)
August 27th, 2010
1:26 pm
Dianaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa you know you ain’t right….that’s why Fred’s gonna nip at your heel from all that sugar you’ve got him hooked on…lol.
Luvbug I used to wonder the same thing. We’ve been friends for 20+ years and she’s alluded to the fact that I need to “just try it” but I told her I don’t do p***y….and if she ever tried me that I was gonna bust her phckn a$$…down to the white meat. I was known for a$$ kickin so she got the point.