Freaky Friday: Whose fantasy is it?
Have you ever wondered if you were too “vanilla” or inexperienced compared to your date or significant other? Would it bother you if you found out that you were?
I ask because a friend of mine went on a first date with a new guy recently. He randomly mentioned his rendezvous with two women during the date. Yes, you read that right.
I will pause here so you can react with disbelief like I did.
She became “visibly annoyed” and quickly changed the subject, unfortunately she had already heard too much. Now she can’t seem to shake off the little details he managed to divulge.
Where do I even begin? First of all, why would you even mention your former hook-ups with someone you are interested in? How tacky is that? Secondly, is that some kind of new compatibility test some people use now?
Mr. Threesome rambled on about how he was glad he got it out of his system. Is this the sort of thing that single people want to do before they settle down? Does sowing your wild oats mean you get to want to live out some fantasy that you have?
He also argued “they don’t call it every man’s fantasy for nothin”. I know, charming guy, right? Do you think this is true?
When you are in a relationship, do you think it matters if one person is more “vanilla” than the other?
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AmazonRed™ - vanilla with sprinkles!
August 27th, 2010
12:10 pm
HEEEEY PAGE!!!! You know it’s freaky football friday up in here! Ha!!!
Luvbug
August 27th, 2010
12:10 pm
DJ- Ohhh, I see. That seems straight out of a movie.
blue – I aint gonna fib…I wanted to include you on the questions with DJ, but it’s seems rude to ask a female that kind of stuff. I don’t know why though.
MELO
August 27th, 2010
12:10 pm
especially since so many seemed turn off by the guy in Diva’s example
@Luvbug?? so many as in females??
thats the issue we(guys) have with most of uall females…..when u in a group, u have no originality or inviduality about u..head mentality….no wonder its harder to approach u when ur’e with a group of friends.
once we sequestrate u from the rest,we can strip u off quite easily and with ur most cooperation…
whats up with that..maybe u(i trust u most) can provide an answer….
blue - Waiting...
August 27th, 2010
12:10 pm
@DC – two men, 1 woman – interesting…how that come about?
energy drinks…that explains all this Monster sitting here…i thought he wsa just trying to look tough or something….
Poppa Grande
August 27th, 2010
12:11 pm
I mentioned the Arizona cards & San Diego Chargers, so I guess I should have figured that Page would pop in.
Simple Man!!!!
August 27th, 2010
12:13 pm
Luvbug @ 12:10 If you don’t wanna ask blue a question, whisper it to me and I will ask…
AmazonRed™ - vanilla with sprinkles!
August 27th, 2010
12:14 pm
Yep he was married, hence a lot of his issues…IMO
MELO
August 27th, 2010
12:14 pm
@DJ…??
With most females firing qstions at u,at this rate, i see u organizing a 3 some orientation for some of them sometime next week. Looks like All hell is breaking loose!
blue - Waiting...
August 27th, 2010
12:15 pm
@Luvbug – lol, probably nothing folks havent asked me b4. i figure either i’ll answer or i wont…be interesting to see what kind of looks i get if i go to one of these meet and greets yall talk about, lol
@Melo – sequestrate, lmao. thats a new one for me…
@Simple Man – lol
DJ Sniper
August 27th, 2010
12:16 pm
Lurker, I had met the other lady earlier that evening and we exchanged a few words here and there. When I walked into the room, the two of them were just relaxing and getting along pretty well, so I jumped at the opportunity.
My wife really doesn’t classify herself as bi, but she has gotten down with women before. Strange huh? lol
Luvbug
August 27th, 2010
12:17 pm
Melo – I doubt you trust me the most. LOL
Are guys any different with a group than alone when it comes to the topic of sex??
Simple Man – Okay den…who suggested it?? Had you fool around with women before the 3some? What were you doing when they were doing what they were doing??
AmazonRed™ - vanilla with sprinkles!
August 27th, 2010
12:17 pm
I mentioned the Arizona cards & San Diego Chargers, so I guess I should have figured that Page would pop in.
You can’t take credit for that PG! We were talking on FB and I told her she should pop in one day. Didn’t think it’d happen so fast.
Page1908
August 27th, 2010
12:17 pm
Ohhhhhhh ok football! Yep, PG, gotta love my Arizona Cardinals and San Diego Chargers! I’m gonna be in Phoenix on Christmas Day to see the Cardinals beat the Cowboys, can’t wait!!! I am forgoing my usual Laker game this year for football. LOL *shrugs* I saw Reggie Bush when I was home last time. He is totally pumped for this year. I guess we will see.
AmazonRed™ - vanilla with sprinkles!
August 27th, 2010
12:19 pm
My wife really doesn’t classify herself as bi, but she has gotten down with women before. Strange huh? lol
Now if I guy told me he’s gotten down with a man before but didn’t classify as gay or bi, I’d call him a liar and run the other way. Funny how women can get away with this.
She hasn’t felt the need to be with a woman since she’s gotten married though, right?
Luvbug
August 27th, 2010
12:19 pm
Melo – The truth? My first reason for asking was to swing the topic away from football…DJ gave me quite the opening (hehehe)
Page1908
August 27th, 2010
12:19 pm
LOL ARed, I am on my laptop otherwise, this is usually blocked.
It's me....lurker
August 27th, 2010
12:20 pm
Yep AmazonRed, he had some serious issues.
DJ, only strange if you have bisexual tendencies or encounters but say you’re straight. I just wondered because I would think there had to have been signs, experiences or an opening to make such a move. You met the other lady first….do you have an open marriage? Last question. Just asking.
Luvbug
August 27th, 2010
12:23 pm
Now if I guy told me he’s gotten down with a man before but didn’t classify as gay or bi, I’d call him a liar and run the other way. Funny how women can get away with this.
LOL. I know right?! Maybe it’s the submission part…once you’ve agreed to submit, that is your category. Women are shaped to receive, so we are born submitters. But when a man submits, he’s lost his position.
Sassy Me...Fire n Ice :-)
August 27th, 2010
12:23 pm
Now if I guy told me he’s gotten down with a man before but didn’t classify as gay or bi, I’d call him a liar and run the other way
Me too…..
MELO
August 27th, 2010
12:23 pm
wife really doesn’t classify herself as bi, but she has gotten down with women before. Strange huh?
@DJ..if she swings with a woman without u knowing,do u consier it cheating??
DC Rose
August 27th, 2010
12:24 pm
@Blue – it started out as a joke and evolved!
Poppa Grande
August 27th, 2010
12:25 pm
Arizona gotta find them a QB… San Diego needs to sign Marcus McNeil so that Rivers doesn’t get his necked broken
It's me....lurker
August 27th, 2010
12:26 pm
I’m sort of looking at Simple Man sideways a bit with his man man woman session. I can’t see any man on woman on man action period. Too much testosterone in one room. What if one dude took a stab at switching up all the way around….can’t be offended you’re a willing participant. If it’s 3 and 2 are men how to you keep things unraveled? Well I guess like he said she was skillful and could keep both entertained and separated.
blue - Waiting...
August 27th, 2010
12:26 pm
@Luvbug/Simple Man – who suggested it? me. he’d already done it b4 me.. Had you fool around with women before the 3some? No.. What were you doing when they were doing what they were doing? um, theres plenty of things to do, lol. 3 people, infinite possibilities….
@DC – I know, told mr.blue Fred has taken on a life of his own, starting to think he’s like a blog mascot or something….he needs a picture…lol
Simple Man!!!!
August 27th, 2010
12:27 pm
Luvbug @ 12:17
Well, because we were just FWB to start with it was nothing for us to have some pretty graphic conversations to start with and when she said she wanted to catch up with two dudes at the same time i was initially like nawwwww!!!Can’t be down with that much outside plumbing in the room!! But then she pointed out to me that we had done the group thing before and I said ok but there has to be some hadr and fast rules..Tuns out there was another guy that waskinda in our circle that she had approach before and she made it happen…
“What were you doing when they were doing what they were doing??”
one works one upstairs and the other works downstairs….
Page1908
August 27th, 2010
12:28 pm
OMG PG, I agree. I am still making a *sad face* that LT is not with San Diego anymore.
MELO
August 27th, 2010
12:28 pm
Are guys any different with a group than alone when it comes to the topic of sex
@Luvbug.. men will always give it to u whether in a group or not..and if u approached one of them while they are sitting tgether,men dont do no cut blocking or jealouses….
u females will start pulling ur friend the other way or making funny faces….just to spike the potential deal and disuade ur friend.
no wonder most of u fancy ones in the know always move around in twos(2) but with an ugly(uglier) friend.
Now look around females..u know im talking about u and u…..
DJ Sniper
August 27th, 2010
12:30 pm
Amazon, this is one of those situations where I’m proud to admit my double standard. Lol Women definitely don’t get looked at too crazy if they admit to getting down with another woman, whereas most women will run like hell from a guy who admits that he’s played butt pirate with another dude. Lol Both of our 3-ways were before marriage. I don’t think she’s really had a desire to get with another chick.
Lurker, I wouldn’t say that we have an open marriage. It’s true that we have attended separate events in the past. However, we don’t really attend any events anymore.
Melo, I don’t know how I would really answer that question.
Leggs
August 27th, 2010
12:33 pm
Hello, Page1908. Whatcha been up to?
I sure hope it would be considered cheating…if not, something is wrong with that picture.
Sassy Me...Fire n Ice :-)
August 27th, 2010
12:35 pm
Well I guess like he said she was skillful and could keep both entertained and separated.
I’ve seen that on some special movies and you’ve gotta have ummm…..talent to do that. I’ve been approached for the threesome thingy from both angles(two men/me and two women/one man) but I’ve yet to do it….don’t think I ever will.
Leggs
August 27th, 2010
12:35 pm
Note to self…Simple Man is not as simple as he claims!
Purple Rain
August 27th, 2010
12:36 pm
For this first time since I joined the blog I really do not know what to say. I am just reading, maybe squaring these bales the last two days haas my brain fried.
Simple Man!!!!
August 27th, 2010
12:36 pm
Soooo Sassy, You said you don’t think you ever will, does that mean that you would consider it under the right circumstances???
AmazonRed™ - vanilla with sprinkles!
August 27th, 2010
12:37 pm
DJ Sniper – thanks for your answers by the way. Appreciate you sharing with us. Sometimes folks feel attacked when we’re really just trying to get more info.
2CPTG©
August 27th, 2010
12:37 pm
anybody ever got laid at work?
Leggs
August 27th, 2010
12:37 pm
I think quite a few have been left with their hand under their chin stroking much like Sigmund Freud would have done!!!
Sassy Me...Fire n Ice :-)
August 27th, 2010
12:37 pm
men dont do no cut blocking or jealouses….
Chile puhleaze…men c**k block each other…maybe not the ones you know but it happens.
Luvbug
August 27th, 2010
12:37 pm
Melo – There’s truth to that. Guys jump out and separate themselves to be noticed. I thought women did that in groups too. Now the one that jumps out may not be the one you want, but she may just be the most outgoing. The initial assumption that many (I) may make of a guy approaching is that I don’t know him and will not be completely open until I am sure he’s serious and that I am comfortable.
Serious as in…he’s not jumping to catch every women in here and it’s just my turn.
DJ Sniper
August 27th, 2010
12:38 pm
I’ve done the tag team on a chick before and it’s not as difficult as you think. It’s fairly easy to do what you need to do and still maintain a good distance from the other guy. I don’t do the whole DP thing though. My proximity warning would be going haywire. LOL!!
Leggs
August 27th, 2010
12:38 pm
@2C ~ I have and it was fun.
MELO
August 27th, 2010
12:38 pm
Melo, I don’t know how I would really answer that question
@DJ….??
Come on man..if u like ur wife to enjoy in that a lil ..thats cool..i aint judging u…cheating or not.
Its an easy call…say it!
@Simple Man…so seeing the other dude butt naked in same room,albeit u both were doing girl..so how does looking at another naked man in same room feel..strange,weird,normal..whaat??
and when she was blowing his pipe,what were u doing……???
Sassy Me...Fire n Ice :-)
August 27th, 2010
12:39 pm
Simple I’ve already been approached in several scenarios….regardless if all the stars and the moon aligned I still wouldn’t.
And what are “right circumstances”?..
2CPTG©
August 27th, 2010
12:40 pm
yeah, Leggs….guess it’s the thrill of trying not to get caught……
Leggs
August 27th, 2010
12:40 pm
“Chile puhleaze…men c**k block each other” – You damn skippy they do!
Leggs
August 27th, 2010
12:41 pm
Being bad most times is a fabulous aphrodisiac (sp>)!
Sassy Me...Fire n Ice :-)
August 27th, 2010
12:41 pm
2CP yes….have you??
DJ Sniper
August 27th, 2010
12:41 pm
Amazon, it’s no problem. I know I’m no choir boy, so how can I get mad at people for asking these questions when I’m the one who put it out there in the first place? lol
2P, I’ve had sex at work; just not at my job. I was fooling around with this chick several years ago. I called her at work on my day off and she was like, “so you gonna come to my job and f**k me?” I thought she was joking, but she wasn’t. I drove up there, she met me downstairs and took me upstairs to the handicapped bathroom and it was on.
Page1908
August 27th, 2010
12:42 pm
Hi Leggs!
Trevor0529
August 27th, 2010
12:42 pm
men c**k block each other
Thirsty men c**k block each other.
Sassy Me...Fire n Ice :-)
August 27th, 2010
12:42 pm
Yes it is Leggs…yes it is.