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Freaky Friday: Whose fantasy is it?

Have you ever wondered if you were too “vanilla” or inexperienced compared to your date or significant other? Would it bother you if you found out that you were?

I ask because a friend of mine went on a first date with a new guy  recently.  He randomly mentioned his rendezvous with two women during the date.  Yes, you read that right. 

I will pause here so you can react with disbelief like I did.

She became “visibly annoyed” and quickly changed the subject, unfortunately she had already heard too much.  Now she can’t seem to shake off the little details he managed to divulge.

Where do I even begin? First of all, why would you even mention your former hook-ups with someone you are interested in?  How tacky is that?  Secondly,  is that some kind of new   compatibility test some people use now?

Mr. Threesome  rambled on about how he was glad he got it out of his system.  Is this the sort of thing that single people want to do before they settle down?  Does sowing your wild oats mean you get to want to live out some fantasy that you have?

He also argued  “they don’t call it every man’s fantasy for nothin”.  I know, charming guy, right? Do you think this is true?

When you are in a relationship, do you think it matters if one person is more  “vanilla” than the other?

763 comments Add your comment

MELO

August 27th, 2010
11:43 am

My arse still itches when I think about the Super Bowl

@Dj…that Aints side kick did it for them in the super bowl…but uall americans cldnt see how that was voodoo contrived.It takes an african like me,with lots of voddoo experience to have seen that move. :lol:

@2CPTG? im a budding football fan….still learning…i have not graduated to where i know about conferences and stuff yet..still in Pre-K football class.

AmazonRed™ - vanilla with sprinkles!

August 27th, 2010
11:44 am

Not swinging on the blog tho. :lol:

MELO

August 27th, 2010
11:44 am

DJ Sniper??

how about qstion# 2??

Luvbug

August 27th, 2010
11:45 am

blue- Extra man? Woman?

2CPTG©

August 27th, 2010
11:45 am

yeah, Pop, that’s gon pyss alot of “true” Bucs fans off if they don’t give him a legitimate shot at putting his touch on the program.

Purple Rain

August 27th, 2010
11:45 am

Trevor, we are going to be like the Celtics old but effective. LOL

Trevor0529

August 27th, 2010
11:46 am

@2C, the Noles have a big test in Norman, then the ACC schedule. They should win the ACC Atlantic division.

Poppa Grande

August 27th, 2010
11:46 am

It will tough for Brett Farve to repeat the season that he had last year. Especially with Sidney Rice missing at least half of it. Rice is the deep threat.

Plus, I’d just do what New Orleans did. (Panthers did it too). Keep beating the crap out of him. Even taking a penalty or too. Make him feel his age. He can’t be in condition either. Only being in camp for a week, and playing one series in preseason. They open the season in New Orleans….the place where it ended last year. There is no easing into the season for them.

AmazonRed™ - vanilla with sprinkles!

August 27th, 2010
11:48 am

You just ended up in various extra cooch out of nowhere, at a party?? How’d that happen??

Luvbug you read my mind. The other chick must have just been a freak cuz no way I’d be the one that wasn’t going home with dude in the end. :lol:

Kym-I only look sweet and innocent.

August 27th, 2010
11:49 am

@Trevor..now that is where I am having to develop my football love. I think you have to have some kind of connection to the team to spend all day Saturday watching games. Now I love the bowl games but the season..I’m trying. I am surrounded by GA fans in Hen-ray so lawd if I add college ball to the mix..that will be football in afternoon saturdays..football saturday night(cause that is when the boy plays) and then all day football sunday. Wow…I do so love the fall/winter sports season.

blue - Waiting...

August 27th, 2010
11:49 am

@Luvbug – extra woman
@ARed – just paid attention to the moniker, the sprinkles made me chuckle…im late, i know….

DJ Sniper

August 27th, 2010
11:50 am

Aight, I’ll go ahead and give ya’ll the full disclosure: me and my wife used to swing as well. I was into it way before I met her. After we met and I started to get to know her, I found out that she had done some “experimenting” of her own. We talked about it and agreed to give a shot together. We had our fun during that time, but now neither one of us are really involved in it anymore. She pretty much got out of that mindset when she found out she was pregnant last summer.

Leggs

August 27th, 2010
11:51 am

@ARed ~ if you got paid to be the 3rd person, you wouldn’t mind going home alone.

I have the answer to the Cold Cuts question on 107.5 and I can’t get through….my first two answers were wrong, but I got through then, but not now. The answer is Midnight Starr!

Kym-I only look sweet and innocent.

August 27th, 2010
11:51 am

Amazon Dushawn is divorce?? ..he was the only swinger I knew of on the blog..dang..I had him and Willie D as the old pimps working with the young blog bros..dang. See this is what happens when I actually work at work..I miss everythang.

Simple Man!!!!

August 27th, 2010
11:52 am

Had a friend that wanted to do the two guys thing… laid down the rules ahead of time and insisted that she keep at least one sword burried somewhere at all time and it turned out cool!!! Miss thing was crazy creative and supa turned on and it made for a top five experience…Would not do it agin though….

Trevor0529

August 27th, 2010
11:53 am

@Kym, you are right. You should have a connection but not a deep one. I am die hard Miami Hurricane fan but I also get into other conference games as well. I enjoy college football more than I do the pros but to me football is football. It is the best time of the year!!

@2C, we will talk in October when the Canes and Noles fight. :)

Leggs

August 27th, 2010
11:53 am

Awww suck, got through just now, but they have a winner!!

Purple Rain

August 27th, 2010
11:54 am

I might do it with a girlfriend, I would not do it with a wife. I am to selfish. LOL

David Granger

August 27th, 2010
11:54 am

I’m really curious to know exactly what your friend did next.
If she said “God, you must really be a sad-ass loser” and left, then it shows she has a little gumption and self-respect.
On the other hand, if she felt…way down deep, where you can’t lie to yourself…that it made the guy somehow even more attractive in some perverse way, then we know exactly why some guys act like that.

Luvbug

August 27th, 2010
11:54 am

DJ – So you knew the extra or approached her?? How did it come to be??

Leggs

August 27th, 2010
11:55 am

Rell was a swinger!

MELO

August 27th, 2010
11:55 am

@Luvbug??

u thinking of doing it….there are some tutors on the blog..i can give u a reference! :lol:
I can pen a reference(referal) letter for u when u ready! That way, u get introduced to some of the baddest and sluttest side pieces in the bizness.

Purple Rain

August 27th, 2010
11:56 am

I have never been a fan of college football this will be my first season paying attention.

Kym-I only look sweet and innocent.

August 27th, 2010
11:56 am

I need more Steeler stuff at my house..like a banner for the porch. Yeah or one of those Fatheads..naw that is to much..but the banner..that would be cool.

DJ Sniper

August 27th, 2010
11:57 am

I love college football as well, but I don’t really have a connection to any particular team. I’m from Arkansas, so I like to root for the Razorbacks, but it’s not life or death if they lose. My alma mater (Arkansas State) sucks, and they always have, so no biggie there. Lol

MELO

August 27th, 2010
11:57 am

3some,69,swinging,Rell and dushawn…..

Its about to get real hot now! :lol:

freaky friday for sho!

Poppa Grande

August 27th, 2010
11:57 am

I enjoy college football more than I do the pros but to me football is football.

Ditto…Go USC (South Carolina). At least, we are tied for first now.

Georgia State starts next week (Thursday, I think)…I may have to “find” a ticket. I like Bill Curry.

I will feel sorry for GSU on November 20. They travel to Tuscaloosa to face the Alabama Crimson Tide….However, they will get paid handsomely to do it.

It's me....lurker

August 27th, 2010
11:57 am

but both of my 3 ways were with my wife (we weren’t married at the time though).

DJ, just looking straight, no sideways here….the more things change the more they remain the same. I’m ain’t surprised at nothing no more. NADA…LOL I can’t remember any other male admittingly having 3somes with wife except Dushawn.

Poppa Grande

August 27th, 2010
11:58 am

Those fatheads cost too much for me. I am not paying that much for a poster.

It's me....lurker

August 27th, 2010
11:58 am

Oh, forgot about him.

Luvbug

August 27th, 2010
11:59 am

Kym-I only look sweet and innocent.

August 27th, 2010
11:59 am

@Leggs..wait wait..Rell was married?! Where have I been all these years? He was always so down on women folks all the time..are you sure he was married. Let me back out and come in the blog room again maybe I stepped into some kind of alternate blog universe or something.

DJ Sniper

August 27th, 2010
11:59 am

Luvbug, we were at a “lifestyle” party one night. Wife and the other chick were off in another room just chilling. I had been off doing my thing, and I was looking for her and I went in the room where they were. We were all talking and chilling, and then I made my move, and things took off from there.

Poppa Grande

August 27th, 2010
11:59 am

South Carolina’s mascot sorta fits with the topic…. Go ‘Co#ks!!”

It's me....lurker

August 27th, 2010
12:00 pm

Yep he was married, hence a lot of his issues…IMO

It's me....lurker

August 27th, 2010
12:01 pm

DJ – Your wife is bi?

i'm swiss™

August 27th, 2010
12:01 pm

I had 3-ways w/ my ex… noticing a trend? :lol: My best friend & his ex-wife were big-time swingers, too… I don’t know of anyone personally who’s gone that route and managed to stay together long term…

DC Rose

August 27th, 2010
12:01 pm

Happy Friday!

I don’t think experience on in-experience matters. It’s all about attraction and desire. Makes you a little bolder and willing to cross lines. AND 3-somes are not just 2 women/1 man. It can be 2 men/1 woman! (me). Big fun.

Dirty D- Don’t tell blue but Fred has a thing for energy drinks. They make him run really fast.

It's me....lurker

August 27th, 2010
12:02 pm

DJ – You had to walk in on some vibing for you to approach right? Did you know or was that the first time you picked up on it?

blue - Waiting...

August 27th, 2010
12:03 pm

@DJ – i feel ya, pretty much my story too…those “lifestyle” parties can be interesting…
@Melo – referral letter? now thats funny…attach to the app for tutoring services, lol

DC Rose

August 27th, 2010
12:03 pm

Hail to the Redskins!

I know, I know – but I’m Redskins’ forever.

Luvbug

August 27th, 2010
12:03 pm

Kym – Hold up now?! Willie D used to be wild? Say it aint so!! First abc bust out with flying cooch coming at him everywhichaway, now this?

Melo – No, I’m not interested. Just want to know how it happens…especially since so many seemed turn off by the guy in Diva’s example. I wonder if that’s the norm…just ask everybody til someone agrees.

Leggs

August 27th, 2010
12:04 pm

@Kym ~ yes, Rell was married. He came across as bitter after the divorce. He partial blame for the divorce.

It's me....lurker

August 27th, 2010
12:05 pm

Oh wait, “Lifestyle” party is probably a given that that’s an opening for that kind of activity

Page1908

August 27th, 2010
12:08 pm

Ok ARed, what did I just walk in on?? LOL *looks around*

Kym-I only look sweet and innocent.

August 27th, 2010
12:08 pm

@Luvbug..don’t ask me nothing no mo..I am not even sure who I am in this piece today. Rell was married..and a swinger..I think I remember that part..but the married. Who’d a thunk it? I’m going to lunch..maybe when I come back things will be clearer.

East Point's Own

August 27th, 2010
12:08 pm

The blog today reminds me of being in a club/bar full of ladies and all the guys are crowded around a TV showing a game, not payinh the ladies any attention…
http://hispointofview.com

AmazonRed™ - vanilla with sprinkles!

August 27th, 2010
12:08 pm

Yeah Kym – I was talking about Rell.

AmazonRed™ - vanilla with sprinkles!

August 27th, 2010
12:09 pm

@ARed ~ if you got paid to be the 3rd person, you wouldn’t mind going home alone.

Yeah I’d mind, I’d mind that was my way of having to make money in the first place. :lol:

It's me....lurker

August 27th, 2010
12:09 pm

I had questions for DJ, guess he ain’t answering.