Freaky Friday: Whose fantasy is it?
Have you ever wondered if you were too “vanilla” or inexperienced compared to your date or significant other? Would it bother you if you found out that you were?
I ask because a friend of mine went on a first date with a new guy recently. He randomly mentioned his rendezvous with two women during the date. Yes, you read that right.
I will pause here so you can react with disbelief like I did.
She became “visibly annoyed” and quickly changed the subject, unfortunately she had already heard too much. Now she can’t seem to shake off the little details he managed to divulge.
Where do I even begin? First of all, why would you even mention your former hook-ups with someone you are interested in? How tacky is that? Secondly, is that some kind of new compatibility test some people use now?
Mr. Threesome rambled on about how he was glad he got it out of his system. Is this the sort of thing that single people want to do before they settle down? Does sowing your wild oats mean you get to want to live out some fantasy that you have?
He also argued “they don’t call it every man’s fantasy for nothin”. I know, charming guy, right? Do you think this is true?
When you are in a relationship, do you think it matters if one person is more “vanilla” than the other?
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Poppa Grande
August 27th, 2010
11:19 am
Mrs. PG has a freaky Bills jersey (she is from upstate NY)…that combines football and freaky freaky.
Kym-I only look sweet and innocent.
August 27th, 2010
11:19 am
@DJ Sniper you over there bleeding the Black N Gold? Hmmm how you look in football pants..but I digress… Tomlin just announced on the site today that he was giving Dixon some time with the first team..he is working for that shot at the big time…and I bet he will get it too in one of our first four games. Tampa Bay would be a good one for him to cut his teeth on.
Casey
August 27th, 2010
11:19 am
Being too vanilla can sometimes be a bad thing in my scene (http://www.examiner.com/underground-club-scene-in-atlanta/casey-morris), but I think even then that guy would have been out of line! No matter what you’re into, you shouldn’t talk about past sexual encounters on a first date.
DJ Sniper
August 27th, 2010
11:19 am
Poppa, I agree with your assessment of our defense. We finally have the players that can run the type of defense the coaching staff wants. We have a deep rotation on the D-line, a nice young trio of LB’s, and a much improved secondary. You were so right about Chris “I Can’t Turn My Head To Look For The Ball” Houston. I was very happy when he got traded. I’m looking forward to seeing how Dunta Robinson matches up with teams’s #1 receivers. Also, remember that we have a new secondary coach, so that’s another change to watch out for.
THE INFAMOUS DK
August 27th, 2010
11:21 am
DJ- Im more afraid of Dixon than Leftwich because he was a beast at Orgeon.. Until he hurt his knee he was gonna win the Heisman.. I honestly hopes he gets a chance to start somewhere..
Poppa Grande
August 27th, 2010
11:21 am
DK
Dunta hasn’t played yet in the preseason…
You had second and third stringers against Randy Moss last week. In a real game…Dunta would have been out there. Changing one guy made everyone else adjust. Plus I think that Van Gorder wanted them to play vanilla offense. 9 players did not dress out last week against the Patriots.
AmazonRed™ - vanilla with sprinkles!
August 27th, 2010
11:21 am
My heart is still in Oakland. Losing JaMarcus Russell give folks hope this year
Indeed. Bye bye fatty!
2CPTG©
August 27th, 2010
11:22 am
win the NFC South???? da hell you been smokin….not long as Tampa Bay still there! yeah, I said it….Tampa Bay all the way baby!
Poppa Grande
August 27th, 2010
11:22 am
I mean …Van Gorder wanted vanilla defense…Don’t get tape of your tendencies in preseasons especially when you open up in Pittsburgh. Steelers would love that.
Poppa Grande
August 27th, 2010
11:23 am
Tampa Bay is going all the way…..to Ybor City to watch the Superbowl.
DJ Sniper
August 27th, 2010
11:24 am
Kym, I’m not a Steelers fan, per se, but I do like and respect the organization. They have run a very classy squad for a number of years now. I was checking out Dixon when he was in college. Had he not torn his ACL late in his senior season, he probably would have been drafted a lot higher than he did. I figured he might have been on the Falcons radar, since we were definitely in the market for a QB, but that injury cut that short. I do hope he gets a chance to succeed in the NFL, regardless of what team he’s with
I’ve been doing P90X, so I may look fairly decent in football pants. I’m cornerback size, if that helps any. lol
SlimNumeroUno
August 27th, 2010
11:25 am
‘Sex is best when your mind is more into than your body is because the mind will allow you to explore more dimensions.. When you have mind sex the boundaries are limitless and your guard goes down.. There is along with that a level of trust that you have for each other because you know the other person will never hurt you and is only there to please you.. ‘
Worth repeating
(yea, yea, yea…i’m late…who cares)
Purple Rain
August 27th, 2010
11:26 am
Tampa Bay? LOL,
Bradford looked better than expected also
Trevor0529
August 27th, 2010
11:26 am
Tampa Bay will always have something that Atlanta does not have
A SUPER BOWL CHAMPIONSHIP!!! HA HA HA
Good Morning.
Poppa Grande
August 27th, 2010
11:27 am
DJ…John Parker Wilson will probably get the back up spot. He did not look bad last week. He seems to have command of the huddle, and the team listens to him.
On the other hand, I am really disappointed in Matt Leinhart. He looked horrible. Midnight has struck on them. Back to being cellar dwellers.
Purple Rain
August 27th, 2010
11:27 am
The Colts or the Packers will be in the Super Bowl
It's me....lurker
August 27th, 2010
11:28 am
As for me, I’ve done the 3 way thing myself. It was fun, and if the opportunity came about again, I’d definitely do it.
I thought DJ Sniper said in times past he was married.
Poppa Grande
August 27th, 2010
11:29 am
Tampa does have a trophy, and you can’t take that away. They won’t get one this year, though. I do wish Raheem well though.
Kym-I only look sweet and innocent.
August 27th, 2010
11:29 am
Awww DJ Sniper..oh well respect is good.
DJ Sniper
August 27th, 2010
11:29 am
I like JPW as well. I think he’ll develop into a nice backup QB for us.
Leinart is looking more and more like a bust. He’s had 5 years to develop now. He did not look good at all against the Titans earlier this week. I did see that Derek Anderson will start in their next preseason game. That does not bode well for Leinart.
Poppa Grande
August 27th, 2010
11:30 am
Purple Rain
I agree..
I think that it will be Green Bay and Baltimore, though. I really like the Ravens this year. A good defense and their offense should come around too.
Luvbug
August 27th, 2010
11:30 am
It’s me – Before I realized you had copy/pasted Sniper’s comment, I almost passed out. LOL
2CPTG©
August 27th, 2010
11:30 am
Tell ‘em again Trevor!!! were 1-0 in the big game….while, when Atl went, the players were so excited just to be in the big game, they wanted to go out and get some hoes!!! shiiid, do that after you win!
MELO
August 27th, 2010
11:30 am
The Colts or the Packers will be in the Super Bowl
@PR…
Colts and Falcons.. …wait? is that possible..theyre in same bracket?
death to the Saints!
Trevor0529
August 27th, 2010
11:32 am
The Bucs are a major work in progress with a second year QB. The fight in the NFC South will be between the Saints and Falcons. The Vikes will make the playoffs as a wild card. I am giving Green Bay the division after what I saw last night. Sheesh!!
Poppa Grande
August 27th, 2010
11:33 am
Colts and Falcons are indeed possible. I think that it is possible for the Falcons, but Green Bay finally has a good O-line which is what they didn’t have last year.
Kym-I only look sweet and innocent.
August 27th, 2010
11:33 am
Some how I just feel the urge to shout..AFC! AFC! AFC!
THE INFAMOUS DK
August 27th, 2010
11:34 am
2Can – Hey Patna… Tampa back to their Ernge Jersey days.. Their varsity Ernge Slushy Jerseys.. Its over for them…
DJ Sniper
August 27th, 2010
11:35 am
Lurker, I am married. Some of ya’ll may look at me sidways for saying this, but both of my 3 ways were with my wife (we weren’t married at the time though).
Poppa Grande
August 27th, 2010
11:35 am
The Bucs also have to deal with an aging defense. They are trying to replenish it. Gerald McCoy will have it younger and better. He will fit in as the replacement of Warren Sapp that they’ve been looking for. However, Ronde Barber is on the backside of his career. Sooner or later, age will catch him.
Leggs
August 27th, 2010
11:35 am
Not that I don’t like football. I never use to understand it. I’m better now, but no way can I quote any stats!
Luvbug
August 27th, 2010
11:36 am
DJ – Who suggested it, you or your wife??
DJ Sniper
August 27th, 2010
11:36 am
Melo, the Colts and Falcons are in different conferences, so they could meet in the Super Bowl. And I am so with you on the “death to the Saints” comments. My arse still itches when I think about the Super Bowl. Now you got Saints fans talking smack like the team has been good for the past 20 years or something. lol
2CPTG©
August 27th, 2010
11:37 am
Colts and Falcons???? and here I thought I was conversing with real football folks….lawd hammercy….
y’all musta forgot about the Patriots….Brady is back, ya know! saw that pass where he fell, got back up and hit Alge Crumpler down the sideline….
DJ Sniper
August 27th, 2010
11:38 am
Neither one of us suggested it, per se. It was one of those situations where we were at a party and we went along with the flow and it just happened.
Trevor0529
August 27th, 2010
11:38 am
Do Saints fan know a new season starts in less than two weeks and they can quit celebrating the Super Bowl victory?
The Saints will suffer from Super Bowl hangover for a while this season.
Poppa Grande
August 27th, 2010
11:38 am
Not to mention that the Glazers are in serious financial problems. They own Tampa and are trying to sell the team. However, in this economy, it might not be easy. Glazers also own a lot of Manchester United. They are denying it, but indications are that they are having problems like everyone else.
DJ Sniper
August 27th, 2010
11:39 am
2CPTG, my comment was toward Melo, who was wondering if it was possible for the Colts and Falcons to meet in the SB. He may have thought that they were both in the same conference.
MELO
August 27th, 2010
11:39 am
but both of my 3 ways were with my wife
@DJ Sniper?? U brought in another dude?? wait..girl, right?
if girl..sooooo,i take it u going to afford ur wife her turn….bring in a dude this time…..
Men…we so selfish!!
Trevor0529
August 27th, 2010
11:40 am
And to my college football fans, there are some HUGE college games in September particularly on Sept. 11.
DJ Sniper
August 27th, 2010
11:40 am
The Bucs should be better than last season, but they are definitely in the middle of a youth movement with Freeman, McCoy, Price, and a few others. It will take them another 2-3 years for them to grow together, but when they do, they should be ready.
Purple Rain
August 27th, 2010
11:41 am
Vikes!
Poppa Grande
August 27th, 2010
11:41 am
Patriots will be good, but the division will be better too. Jets are still pretty good without Revis (much, much better with him, though), Dolphins are better, Bills will be the whipping boy of the division.
DJ Sniper
August 27th, 2010
11:41 am
Melo, it was another chick both times.
Luvbug
August 27th, 2010
11:42 am
Ummm DJ, now you know imma need more details than that. LOL
You just ended up in various extra cooch out of nowhere, at a party?? How’d that happen??
Well, I’m guessing it was extra cooch and not the other stuff…
Trevor0529
August 27th, 2010
11:42 am
PR, the Vikes may feel their age this season.
Poppa Grande
August 27th, 2010
11:42 am
DJ Sniper
It will take them another 2-3 years for them to grow together, but when they do, they should be ready.
My question is whether Tampa will give Raheem that much time.
2CPTG©
August 27th, 2010
11:43 am
yeah, Trevor, college football gon be cool to watch this year….granted, I ain’t no ‘Bama fan, but them cats gon be hard to knock off….
Jimbo got them Noles lookin good!!!!
blue - Waiting...
August 27th, 2010
11:43 am
@DJ – not looking at you sideways, i think that type of thing happens more often than folks think. mr.blue and i have tried that since being married…
@Leggs – Im with you, all the stats and whos on what team bores me, lets just watch the game, talk shyt while its on and move on, guess the die hard fans cant stand those like us, lmao
AmazonRed™ - vanilla with sprinkles!
August 27th, 2010
11:43 am
Some of ya’ll may look at me sidways for saying this, but both of my 3 ways were with my wife (we weren’t married at the time though).
Hey whatever works.
We had a guy who’d swing with his wife on here. They’re divorced now tho.