Freaky Friday: Whose fantasy is it?
Have you ever wondered if you were too “vanilla” or inexperienced compared to your date or significant other? Would it bother you if you found out that you were?
I ask because a friend of mine went on a first date with a new guy recently. He randomly mentioned his rendezvous with two women during the date. Yes, you read that right.
I will pause here so you can react with disbelief like I did.
She became “visibly annoyed” and quickly changed the subject, unfortunately she had already heard too much. Now she can’t seem to shake off the little details he managed to divulge.
Where do I even begin? First of all, why would you even mention your former hook-ups with someone you are interested in? How tacky is that? Secondly, is that some kind of new compatibility test some people use now?
Mr. Threesome rambled on about how he was glad he got it out of his system. Is this the sort of thing that single people want to do before they settle down? Does sowing your wild oats mean you get to want to live out some fantasy that you have?
He also argued “they don’t call it every man’s fantasy for nothin”. I know, charming guy, right? Do you think this is true?
When you are in a relationship, do you think it matters if one person is more “vanilla” than the other?
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AmazonRed™ - vanilla with sprinkles!
August 27th, 2010
10:39 am
They took the 22 in flat screen in our bedroom, but left the GPS that was sitting next to it. They had no idea or need for it.
Yeah, the folks who have been breaking into our subdivision are teens. Newer construction = cheap doors that are easy to kick in. But most of my neighbors who have been broken in have been stupid. They refuse to reinforce their doors (I have) and will leave blinds open or flat screen tv boxes on the curb on trash day. Duh.
Simple Man!!!!
August 27th, 2010
10:39 am
It seems like the three way action is not getting the love and respect that it should…. Not that I know this for sure, but three way / gorup sex can be good for the soul!!! ( So I hear….)
2CPTG©
August 27th, 2010
10:40 am
Kym…..them Bengals gon’ surprise a lotta folks this year….watch and see….Bout like my Seminoles!!!!!
Poppa Grande
August 27th, 2010
10:40 am
Leggs
When someone broke into my best friend’s home, the theives took his brand new box of Eggos Waffles and brand new pint of Ben & Jerry’s Chunky Monkey ice cream (which was really his wife’s favorite).
Purple Rain
August 27th, 2010
10:41 am
abc, made a joke. LOL
AmazonRed™ - vanilla with sprinkles!
August 27th, 2010
10:42 am
abc makes jokes all the time people!
Kym-I only look sweet and innocent.
August 27th, 2010
10:42 am
@Leggs..what gets me is where were the jokers going to put the stuff? Over in her house..was she going to ask her good boy where he got it? She just don’t want her son to go to the pokey…I say let him go hang with the real juvie thugs. My son read Monster..by Walter Dean Myers and then he had to read Life in Prison by Tookie Williams..yeah he is not trying to go there. Tookie gave it to them with the real.
Leggs
August 27th, 2010
10:43 am
@PoppaG ~
That is crazy!!!
@ARed ~ when I purchased the tv, I called my ex to come pick up the boxes and take back to the garbage cans in his complex. Yep, that’s what I did.
Elijah ( I want some of dat)
August 27th, 2010
10:44 am
Good Morning blogging superstars!
On Topic: The topic was brought because ole girl provided and opening and thus she got hey I’m into threesome you want to discuss the possibilities… Yes he did
Ole girl was damm I better get my eat and drink right now..
@Leggs….I am a track and field fan how about a date at a track meet then dinner at my house?
refer to yesterday comment for clarification…
@AmazonRed… Since you like PoppaG idea about different continent loving and you are a world traveler how are you coming with the total? Yes Eli did ask Red that?
@ABC…Surprises me everyday….
kimmie
August 27th, 2010
10:44 am
flat screen tv boxes on the curb on trash day.
Amred – That reminds me of that episode of Martin, when someone had taken his cd player. He was trying to lure them back to his apartment so he could catch them, so he put a big screen tv box on the curb, even though he didn’t actually have such a tv. Of course, nobody stole his cd player – Bro Man had climbed thru the window and “borrowed” it!LOL!!
Poppa Grande
August 27th, 2010
10:44 am
ARed</strong.
That is bad, However, what is worse when your neighbors by the hot stuff at the beauty shop or barber shop or on the corner. If there was no market for it, break in wouldn't be profitable.
Luckily we got our stuff back….thanks to the wifey for keep a record of the serial numbers. The same person that had the laptop, also had the TV. All we had to do was match serial numbers.
Poppa Grande
August 27th, 2010
10:46 am
I cut up all of my boxes with box cutters and make them fit in the herbie curbie.
AmazonRed™ - vanilla with sprinkles!
August 27th, 2010
10:47 am
Since you like PoppaG idea about different continent loving and you are a world traveler how are you coming with the total? Yes Eli did ask Red that?
Elijah – I wish I was a world traveler. I’ve only been to islands and then to Paris. I need to get my weight up. I think I’ll have to marry well…and then I can have my sexual encounter with the same person on each continent. It’s a win win.
Kym-I only look sweet and innocent.
August 27th, 2010
10:47 am
Poppa G..do ya’ll not have Pac Man Jones? He is a walking legal problem. Ya’ll gonna leave Ben alone..the boy is just not bright that’s all. We just need to get someone else on program in the QB position..but Ben knows he is on thin ice with Mike T and the Rooney’s..Steel Nation don’t play that. Just ask Santonio..weed head Holmes. Either way I do believe we are due for that 7th trophy.
AmazonRed™ - vanilla with sprinkles!
August 27th, 2010
10:48 am
I cut up all of my boxes with box cutters and make them fit in the herbie curbie.
I just put the box in my attic. I figure if I ever move or get rid of the TV, the box will come in handy.
Leggs
August 27th, 2010
10:48 am
@Elijah ~ not necessarily. Some guys will jump in, head first, with no provocation. Just start running off at the mouth about past sexual escapades.
2CPTG©
August 27th, 2010
10:49 am
nah Kym, cause y’all gon’ start the season off 0-4 with Leftwich in there!!! Offensive coordinator better come up with some schemes to use Dennis Dixon….
Poppa Grande
August 27th, 2010
10:50 am
Truth
Poppa, not to sound stupid but I thought criminal and trial law were the same. Expound or explain please.
They aren’t the same. There are trial in civil law too. Think about OJ. He had a criminal trial in which he was acquitted, but a Civil trial in which he was found guilty.
Civil trial is about damages and usually money. (Sometimes equitable relief is granted like injunctions.)
MELO
August 27th, 2010
10:51 am
It’s wonderful at my SO’s house on the weekend, though! He just had to get TWO new units that he’s trying to get paid up, otherwise he’d have gotten me one
@Kimmie!
Im really hating on ur S/O right now..here.take this face
and shove it in his gutt! 
for not sacrificing or upgrading on ur AC.
I wld have run by ur house this weekend and made it cooler for u so u dont have to go to his house to cool up. But i aint doing that for no return unless u can work some magic on the sly…(Truth and Simple, dont read this or ur get blind)
It shld be so nice meeting ya!
i guess im doing my turn today, whistling that tune..are u fancy huh? as i await ur response.
Purple Rain
August 27th, 2010
10:51 am
I take all of my garbage to the landfill. It is so much cooler here than it is in Georgia. I might extend my stay home. LOL
Elijah ( I want some of dat)
August 27th, 2010
10:52 am
On topic….Hey you can be vanilla and green, if I like you I will most definitely work with you Wisa Diva… j/k//// j/kkkkk
@AmazonRed…. I would never do a 3some in real life……YEAAAAAAA Right…. You think it, you can do it…. Mixed in some drinks with some Mexican gold and you will be good to go… YeS you CaN…
@ The GreenBay Packers offense looks explosive…
Kym-I only look sweet and innocent.
August 27th, 2010
10:53 am
Now 2C if you think we are going to go 0-4 you are really crazy. Leftwich is injury prone but he is not that bad..Dennis is young but he is capable of great things..but seriously 0-4..you out your Bungal mind!
THE INFAMOUS DK
August 27th, 2010
10:54 am
Sex is best when your mind is more into than your body is because the mind will allow you to explore more dimensions.. When you have mind sex the boundaries are limitless and your guard goes down.. There is along with that a level of trust that you have for each other because you know the other person will never hurt you and is only there to please you..
As far as 3somes are concerned.. For a time there thats all I was running into was Girls who liked Girls.. Was I putting it out there.. Yep cause for my own selfish reasons I enjoyed waking up with 2 women. It was also a defense mechanism for not letting anyone get to close.. After a while it becomes easy to pick out the women that roll like that even if they arent broadcasting.. Its almost like being a vampire.. You know your own..
Poppa Grande
August 27th, 2010
10:55 am
Kym
As much as hate to say it, I actually like Baltimore to win our division this year. A lot depends on whether or not Ed Reed makes it back by the end of the season. Ray Lewis should be able to roam and cause havoc since he has his big nose tackle to keep the linemen occupied and off of him. Former DL Terrence Cody is a huge man. Almost Tony Siragusa size.
Pac-man hasn’t had any problems lately. He just sucked in Dallas…..
BTW, don’t y’all Byron Leftwich? He is the death knell for a team for some reason. In Atlanta, In Jacksonville…etc.
2CPTG©
August 27th, 2010
10:55 am
“The GreenBay Packers offense looks explosive…”
damn sho did!!!
AmazonRed™ - vanilla with sprinkles!
August 27th, 2010
10:56 am
You think it, you can do it…. Mixed in some drinks with some Mexican gold and you will be good to go… YeS you CaN…
I’m good.
Kym-I only look sweet and innocent.
August 27th, 2010
10:58 am
By the way..offense scores points..but Defense wins games!!
kimmie
August 27th, 2010
10:58 am
Melo – Thanks for your offer! That’s mighty sweet of you. But my AC was cooling just fine when SO’s broke down and he does have 2 little ones to keep cool too. Ya know, gotta make sacrifices for the chirens!LOL!!
Poppa Grande
August 27th, 2010
10:58 am
Steelers aren’t going 0-4. However, they will have to find a running game. They’ve gone away from Steeler football during the last couple of years. Steelers usually run the ball. But, under Tomlin, they have been more of a passing team.
Leggs
August 27th, 2010
10:59 am
WOW, El Debarge is in concert with MaryJ on 10/2 @ Chastain. His performance at the Grammy awards was spectacular (IMO).
Elijah ( I want some of dat)
August 27th, 2010
10:59 am
@AmazonRed….. Good answers… Only doing island men right now…. Get your sex on!
@Kimmie…You can stop by my house Monday thru Thursday, What temperature do you like?
Also this comes with dinner…….
@Note to self…… get Simple recipe for Lobster Bisque Kimmie likes that….
I am having too much fun today…..
Poppa Grande
August 27th, 2010
10:59 am
Baltimore has its triplets…. QB Joe Flacco, RB Ray Rice, WR Anquan Bolden. Their defense will still be fairly good.
Purple Rain
August 27th, 2010
11:02 am
Football! My Vikes will prevail!
Elijah ( I want some of dat)
August 27th, 2010
11:02 am
@PoppaG….. What do you think about the NFL possibly adding to more regular season games to the schedule? Will the players go for it?
@AmazonRed…. You know I am just having fun wit you sexy self…. You are good I do believe that….
THE INFAMOUS DK
August 27th, 2010
11:03 am
Go Falcons.. I say that lightly because Im still not sold on their defense.. And at this point they way they keep throwing to Tony G Im not sold on our Wide recievers either..
Lord please, I know you are a good and just God and since you let the Aints win you just gotta let the Falcons win a Super Bowl.. Please I have been suffering like Job for many moons and I would love to see them hoist the trophy up for the A..
Kym-I only look sweet and innocent.
August 27th, 2010
11:04 am
@Poppa G we have Mendenhall(took Fast Willie P’s spot) and Logan to run I think for these first four games for sure it will be all about the run game. And seriously the only two games I worry about with defense are Tennesse..(who have the good games and bad) and of course the Ravens.
Ohhhh Owwww Love when we play the Ravens!!! Great Defenses on both sides..!!!
Poppa Grande
August 27th, 2010
11:04 am
The GreenBay Packers offense looks explosive
They sure did…
Minnesota has a lot going on. Farve just getting there. Sidney Rice having hip surgery this week. Signing old azz Jevon Walker. Viking fans better hope that Adrian Peterson can hold on the the football.
Poppa Grande
August 27th, 2010
11:06 am
Reshard is gonna be okay, but defenses will stack the box to make the QB show that he can throw the ball first.
Leggs
August 27th, 2010
11:11 am
See, that’s why some wives don’t like football…it’s takes too much attention away from them. I’m cracking up over here!
Poppa Grande
August 27th, 2010
11:12 am
DK
You should like the Falcons defense. It is deeper than I can ever remember. Shoot, just getting rid of Chris Houston should make the Falcons defense better. Dunta Robinson is very good. Remember in Houston, he practiced against Andre Johnson, who is a beast.
He has been held out of the practice games as has Brent Grimes (who is a little guy with a lot of fight. A better secondary will make a better line. Sean Weatherspoon is a linebacker that can cover. Curtis Loftin is on the verge of becoming a star.
I actually like Falcons team this year.
My heart is still in Oakland. Losing JaMarcus Russell give folks hope this year. San Diego is dealing with some major holdouts still.
Kym-I only look sweet and innocent.
August 27th, 2010
11:12 am
@Dk bless your heart..maybe God will throw ya’ll a crumb and ya’ll will win the NFC South or something.
DJ Sniper
August 27th, 2010
11:13 am
There are two possibilities. One, the guy may have just been tacky enough to bring up the threesome convo on the first date just out of the blue. Two, the woman may have said something that made him think she might be down for it, so he decided to test the waters. Something tells me he’s probably had the three way tango go down on the first date before.
As for me, I’ve done the 3 way thing myself. It was fun, and if the opportunity came about again, I’d definitely do it.
Can football season hurry up and get here? I’m anxious to see my Falcons open up at the Steelers. Even though Big Ben won’t be playing, I’m not counting out the Steelers at all. Their defense will still be tough as always. I like our chances better with Leftwich under center for them. He’s not very mobile and he takes dang near 10 seconds to wind up and throw the ball. Dixon gives them another dimension with his running ability, but I’ve heard they haven’t been giving him a lot of reps with the first teamers. We will see what happens on 9/12.
Poppa Grande
August 27th, 2010
11:14 am
Leggs
Blame Kym…started the smack talking….
The Truth-Playing in the sand again :(
August 27th, 2010
11:15 am
Ok ev1, take care and be safe.
Two words: Oakland Raiders
Kym-I only look sweet and innocent.
August 27th, 2010
11:15 am
Dear Ladies who don’t like football,..just like guys took home ec to meet girls..learning football is a pretty decent way to meet guys. Plus you get to see big guys in tight pants run up and down smacking the hell out each..it sounds fruity on the surface..but it is quite exciting. And if you quick you can get your freak on during half-time and commercials.
blue - Waiting...
August 27th, 2010
11:16 am
@Leggs – Football as replaced Freaky Friday – has me amazed to. i like football and all but cant quote stats or anything to save my life, just like to watch the game…but doubt football would top freaky….
Poppa Grande
August 27th, 2010
11:16 am
He’s not very mobile and he takes dang near 10 seconds to wind up and throw the ball.
yeah, that is the reason that he get ran out everywhere. He takes too long, and 10 seconds is a long time to ask an O-line to hold off d-linemen.
Poppa Grande
August 27th, 2010
11:17 am
Kym…
Getting your freak on during commercials…that may be a little too quick.
Simple Man!!!!
August 27th, 2010
11:17 am
Elijah ( I want some of dat) @ 10:59
Good looking out, but my Kitchen skills are only surpassed by my skills in the… You know the drill!!!
Leggs @ 11:11 I am down with football as much as the next guy but I promise to never let it get in the way of Freaky Friday or any other Freaky day for that matter!!!!
THE INFAMOUS DK
August 27th, 2010
11:18 am
PG – Yeah I like Dunta and Brent.. Especially Brent cause he gets after it, but we still aint stopping nobody on 3rd downs. The thing is nobody fears our defense.. Nobody fears getting hit by anyone on our D.. Man at this point put Old a$$ Scott Case back on the field, at least he would hit a MF..