Freaky Friday: Whose fantasy is it?
Have you ever wondered if you were too “vanilla” or inexperienced compared to your date or significant other? Would it bother you if you found out that you were?
I ask because a friend of mine went on a first date with a new guy recently. He randomly mentioned his rendezvous with two women during the date. Yes, you read that right.
I will pause here so you can react with disbelief like I did.
She became “visibly annoyed” and quickly changed the subject, unfortunately she had already heard too much. Now she can’t seem to shake off the little details he managed to divulge.
Where do I even begin? First of all, why would you even mention your former hook-ups with someone you are interested in? How tacky is that? Secondly, is that some kind of new compatibility test some people use now?
Mr. Threesome rambled on about how he was glad he got it out of his system. Is this the sort of thing that single people want to do before they settle down? Does sowing your wild oats mean you get to want to live out some fantasy that you have?
He also argued “they don’t call it every man’s fantasy for nothin”. I know, charming guy, right? Do you think this is true?
When you are in a relationship, do you think it matters if one person is more “vanilla” than the other?
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MELO
August 27th, 2010
2:19 pm
@Raqi??
my maternal grandma(partly raised me) turns 94 tomorrow and my young brother in DC organised a surprise birthday present for her..in the village…every kith and kin is going..200 pple strong…and he hired buses and cars to ferry pple there.
she is now borderline dementia but that boy is going to be blessed,no doubt.
Happy birf grandma!
Mo (aka Moeisha)
August 27th, 2010
2:20 pm
Happy Friday All!!
2CPTG – I see you still like calling me out huh!
Whats good err’body?? I saw freaky friday and shouldve known ya’ll would be off da chain!
Im just dropping in from training for a spell
2CPTG©
August 27th, 2010
2:20 pm
“check out the picture in the upper right corner,”
…been there, done that….
Kym-I only look sweet and innocent.
August 27th, 2010
2:20 pm
Picture This..Blogville 2010
Simple Man-short guy about 5′8 glasses..Brooks Brother suit..might play golf on Sundays..about 45 clean shaven..slightly graying..goatee.
2C..young dude..dreads– looks kind of like Kyle from Living Single..short..about 5′6..works in some kind of technology..but might be or could be an accountant. thin dude almost petite.
Purple Rain..olive complexion..although he might pass for a out of place Vin Disel…dark straight hair..curls on the end if wet..says he is a farm boy so muscular..but not steroid looking..may or may not have a rough beard.
Trevor0529
August 27th, 2010
2:20 pm
what do the blog guys really think about all the blog ladies?
I have meet some of you at one of the meet and greets. I think that you are all beautiful women who hold true to your beliefs and values.
2CPTG©
August 27th, 2010
2:21 pm
I sure do, Mo….since Raqi hitched….what say me and you do some’n this weekend…I ain’t but 4 hours away!
2CPTG©
August 27th, 2010
2:23 pm
damn Kym, why I gotta be young?
Mo (aka Moeisha)
August 27th, 2010
2:24 pm
2CPTG – my b-day is coming up, what say you burn the highway up then?
okay why am I just as excited about high school football as I am college/NFL?? Just sayin….lol
Purple Rain
August 27th, 2010
2:25 pm
Kym I keep some stubble I tried the full mustache but it made me look funny, I am tallet than Vin but he is more muscular than me.
Leggs
August 27th, 2010
2:25 pm
My wife and I were watching Who Wants To Be A Millionaire while we were
> in bed.
>
> I turned to her and said, ‘Do you want to have Sx?’
>
> ‘No,’ she answered. I then said,
>
> ‘Is that your final answer?’
>
> She didn’t even look at me this time, simply saying, ‘Yes..
>
> So I said, “Then I’d like to phone a friend.”
>
> And that’s when the fight started…
> ______________________________
Kym-I only look sweet and innocent.
August 27th, 2010
2:25 pm
@2C you are younger than me and some days you type young. So I went with young..fine..you can be old.
2CPTG©
August 27th, 2010
2:25 pm
Mo….I gotchu lil mama!!!
i'm swiss™
August 27th, 2010
2:25 pm
Headline on ajc.com: “Man shot in buttocks, chin.”
2 questions:
1) How’d he get his chin that close to his azz?
2) Why’d he get his chin that close to his azz?
Elijah ( I want some of dat)
August 27th, 2010
2:26 pm
Man it is on an poppin!
@It’s Me….Lurker… So you witness a 3some…. So you gots some freak in ya…. Trying to keep those freak tendacies undercover… YES you ARE….
j/k
What why I likes me some Sassy…. She does not play, keeping it real with the best of em… Yes she does…
AfterNooN ReCap let give out some big-ups…
@DJ Sniper has participated in 3-somes ….. You da man… big-upss
@Blue has participated in 3-somes for her man…. You da Woman Big–UPSS
@DCRose… Wants to have a 2man on her ….Big-Upss don’t be shy get your fantasy on..
@PurpleR… Is in a daze and speechless for the first time in his life.
@LuvBug…. Is getting that feeling
I know some women will not admit it, but quite a few have either participated in a 3-some or have thought about participating in a 3-some…. Go ahead don’t be shy….
YES do it to you satisfied…… Come and do it, do it, do it till you satisfied…
Cheating it depends on your own definition which should be discussed upfront….
Simple Man!!!!
August 27th, 2010
2:26 pm
Kym…..5′8″???? Well damn! I remember when I was 5′8….( The I turned 15!!!)
2CPTG©
August 27th, 2010
2:26 pm
“some days you type young”
well damn.
Kym-I only look sweet and innocent.
August 27th, 2010
2:31 pm
Mayor Swiss Cheese..white(duh) brown hair..has that goofy Cali surfer..hippie..vibe soooo I would say about 5′9..slight beer pooch..pasty..white hairy toes..(you mention something about flip flops one day..from then on you had pasty white hairy toes)
Poppa G..all I see is a taller Mike Singletary.
Willie D..all I see is Uncle Charlie Wilson
Melo..homeless dude in a dark trenchcoat at the public library downtown..flashes women walking thru Woodruff park and at the Marta 5 point station.
MELO
August 27th, 2010
2:31 pm
I met one blog female friend one time( i wont name,she aint here)…i was with a male friend..and for very innocent personal business.
she looked so so so fly is shorts….my male friend was so angst at the sight of her..he cldnt keep his zipper in check..played havoc on him
as we drove home,chatting my friend was like,”where did u meet this lady, i wanna holla at her,gimme her number”
I said “naw bro,u are a h0e,besides,she got a boyfriend” ..he was so upset and thoght i was cut-blocking for myself.
I told him if u going to h0e, u aint h0eing with my h0e assist nor with my lady friends but on urs and ur terms.
blue - Waiting...
August 27th, 2010
2:31 pm
@Simple – ok, got sidetracked, and about to head outa here but: if you ladies are as easy to converse with in person – for me – yep! dont got time to catch up, will check on yall from the homestead!
adios all, taking Fred away from some rest and relaxation…
Kym-I only look sweet and innocent.
August 27th, 2010
2:33 pm
@2C..sigh man..just **sigh**
@Simple..fine you can be 6 feet..
Leggs
August 27th, 2010
2:34 pm
OMG ~ you put Melo as a homeless dude in a trenchcoat flashing in the library….Hill Larry US!!!
Elijah ( I want some of dat)
August 27th, 2010
2:36 pm
The blog ladies and that includes every last one of them bring a unique flavor, plus some good intellect… I am positive each one would vibe easy in person.
Purple Rain
August 27th, 2010
2:37 pm
Kym, LOL
Melo, who was the blog lady? You live on info but don’t give any share the name and how did she look in those shorts?
MELO
August 27th, 2010
2:39 pm
@PR..cant tell u that confidential…she looked,uggghhh,stuuunner…baaad sister. All ima say…!
Luvbug
August 27th, 2010
2:43 pm
It sure got quiet in here…LOL
Raqi
August 27th, 2010
2:43 pm
I know 2CPTG is about average height because he said once on here. I take him to have a somewhat smug demeanor however quite friendly once you get to know him. He also reads to be a man that takes his woman seriously.
The Alphabet Man – Older gentlemen. Just reading him reminds me of my homeroom teacher in high school. Doesn’t smile that often but is a softy once you get in his good graces.
PoppaG. – A linebacker
that is afraid of a little ole mini poppaForReal – Kinda seems like the type that is to himself alot. The life of the party yet reserved.
Infamous – INFAMOUS. Period.
Gouda – Wigger. LOL j/k but not all that much.
Lady-How can something so familiar be so strange...hmmmmm
August 27th, 2010
2:43 pm
Trevor and Elijah ( I want some of dat) yall ROCK too!
i'm swiss™
August 27th, 2010
2:44 pm
“Mayor Swiss Cheese..white(duh) brown hair..has that goofy Cali surfer..hippie..vibe soooo I would say about 5′9..slight beer pooch..pasty..white hairy toes..(you mention something about flip flops one day..from then on you had pasty white hairy toes)”
Well d@mn, Kym… I’m 5-11, thank you very much — don’t cheat me out of those extra 2 inches…. (that’s what she said) Slight beer pooch? D@mn! Also, I’m not that pasty…
Oh, and my toes are neither hairy nor white — I wear flip-flops, so they get sun… 
2CPTG©
August 27th, 2010
2:44 pm
yeah, Melo, how you gon ask me ’bout blog relations and you won’t say who you saw in person….
Elijah ( I want some of dat)
August 27th, 2010
2:45 pm
@PurpleOne…..BMW is a stunner, that is one good looking sistas… Yes She is FINNNNEEEEEEEE!
DC Rose
August 27th, 2010
2:46 pm
Elijah – Proud to say – HAD a 3-some.
2CPTG©
August 27th, 2010
2:47 pm
Raqi, I’m cut too, with a salt and pepper goatee, and been told I was quite sexy….(if that helps my chances at you gettin a divorce)
MELO
August 27th, 2010
2:47 pm
you won’t say who you saw in person….
@2CPTG© Ive met Staceye,Leggs and SexxyCool..and the one im talking about.
Raqi
August 27th, 2010
2:48 pm
M.dot – I imagine him to be possibly high average but sad.
DreamsMat – I think about my brother every time I read him. Tall, fair skinned, laid back…
Trevor – I have read him enough to have a feel for him.
Okay who am I missing?
i'm swiss™
August 27th, 2010
2:48 pm
“Gouda – Wigger.”
Simple Man!!!!
August 27th, 2010
2:52 pm
So when is the next meet and greet????
Lady-How can something so familiar be so strange...hmmmmm
August 27th, 2010
2:52 pm
swiss Go SC State on the 4th! don’t foget to watch us beat ga tech hahahahaha! lol
Kym-I only look sweet and innocent.
August 27th, 2010
2:53 pm
@Swiss you strike me as one of those dudes that drinks those fancy beers.. but might open a pabst blue ribbon now and then. Heck you might have your home brewery for all I know. Fine you wear flip flops so you have tanned toes with a pasty white.streak from the flip flop band.
Let see
Eli-chunky..bald..medium complexion..glasses..maybe 6 feet was thinking might be mid-30’s..he is too silly to be past 40.
Abc..actually I think Harvard professor..jazz musican..soo he has a touch of soul..practical..but might have a tattoo from younger days. Full beard.
For Real..that joker..younger looking DL Hughley..with dreads..some how I picture you with dreads..its funnier that way.
Trevor..shy..wears sweaters like Billy Cosby. practical..tall but thin..glasses..undetermine age..but I will go with between 28 and 35.
Page1908
August 27th, 2010
2:53 pm
LOL Leggs!
Purple Rain
August 27th, 2010
2:53 pm
Elijah, who is BMW?
Melo, well is the one you are not naming and why wont you name her? Tall, short? Long hair, short hair? Bodacious or toned? Details details…lol
Leggs
August 27th, 2010
2:54 pm
My wife was hinting about what she wanted for our upcoming anniversary.
>
> She said, “I want something shiny that goes from 0 to 160 in about 3
> seconds.”
>
> I bought her a bathroom scale.
>
> And then the fight started……
> ________________________________
Leggs
August 27th, 2010
2:55 pm
@PR ~ BMW is Black Magic Woman a/k/a Staceye.
Raqi
August 27th, 2010
2:56 pm
2CPTG, That salt and pepper whisker thought is nice but it’s impossible to think about divorce when the man is so just the one I love. Not to mention I’ve got about 4mil of his tadpoles swarming in the babybaker at this very moment. They ain’t gon find what they are looking for but they are there searching. LOL
i'm swiss™
August 27th, 2010
2:56 pm
Actually, come to think of it, Kym — I think you actually described “The Dude” from The Big Lebowski. In which case, I’ll accept that characterization…
Lady — You’d better handle those bumble bees. BTW… I’ve got my ice maker back up & running, so the wet bar is back to fully functional & the bridge between the 2 decks off the back of the house is being completed as I type. I’m officially ready for football!!!!
Trevor0529
August 27th, 2010
2:56 pm
shy.I would say reserved.wears sweaters like Billy Cosby. practical. OH HELL NO!!.tall but thin. tall..yes, thin..not really.glasses. not all of the time .undetermine age..but I will go with between 28 and 35. age 42
Elijah ( I want some of dat)
August 27th, 2010
2:56 pm
Thanks lady-J you are extra special!
Blog ladies…. I think some have exagerated their sexual prowess.
Sassy… Cute, intelligent, caring and will break yo break with the sassy spin…I’m doing back exercisizing to strengthen my back…
Raqi… attractive, dedicated to keeping dat man happy, excellent insight on marriage and very guarded when it comes to a cheating man…
DC rose….. Ummmmm, Ummmmm ,Ummmmm Which way was the 3-some?…Might I ask,you have peeked my interest ….
Page1908
August 27th, 2010
2:57 pm
@ Leggs- yep, and she will put some serious black magic on someone in a heartbeat. LOl Gotta love my girl!!
Purple Rain
August 27th, 2010
2:57 pm
Leggs, LOL oh yeah. Where has she been?
Leggs
August 27th, 2010
2:57 pm
@Elijah ~ btw, that was a nice compliment you gave to the WLBs.
i'm swiss™
August 27th, 2010
2:58 pm
The Dude abides… The Dude abides…