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Natural Tapering Off

A caught an episode of the TBS show My Boys recently that addressed a common thing that happens with couples: The natural tapering off  aka The NTO.  You know how it is when the novelty has worn off (no pun intended) and the hot and heavy shifts to “lucky if it’s steady” stage?  Yeah, it creeps up on you pretty fast.

There really is no way to avoid The NTO because, well it’s physically impossible to maintain the same intensity and frequency.   Oh you probably have the very best intentions to!  It’s just that random things such schedule conflicts, varying libidos, work distractions, etc. all conspire against you.

What if it’s not just due to these things though?

If you have hit a tapering off period way too soon, should you be concerned?  What would you do if your desire to rip your date’s clothes off wanes soon after you two have become exclusive?

Do men notice when the natural tapering off stage begins?  I think women don’t realize it as quickly as men do.  What do you guys think?

How do you handle the dreaded NTO?

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It's me....lurker

August 25th, 2010
11:52 am

Elin – As a woman it’s almost next to impossible to not have those gut instincts and I find it next to impossible to believe that she missed EVERYTHING. Now, what’s not surprising is that I have encountered by way of girlfriends, coworkers, cousins, etc. that will believe almost anything. Having had this experience I’m going to opt to believe her. If she says she didn’t know, Imma say I believe her. Now does that show where and how she lacks in EVERY WAY, cause if you’re sleeping with a man EVERY night, after so long a time ya’ll should be synched….this I know from experience. Which leads me to my next warped line of thinking. Nobody can tell me he didn’t think she was a few fries short on that happy meal and a nice ride to getting away with whatever, her being too dumb to recognize and probably the main incentive. He’s been a hoe but hoeing ain’t as fun when you’re free to be. Because he was such a pig about how he conducted himself, she deserves all the money that gets shoveled her way. I hope she spends it well. Next time maybe he’ll think twice about who he marries and who he can get away with what on. Because he’s got away with much crap, he’s having to pay dearly.

MELO

August 25th, 2010
11:52 am

is great but dont want things too happen too soon. Is this a sign he only wants one thing?

@L..put him on the blog,3 month sexual fasting regimen. Then hopefully u can figure him out.

R♥qi

August 25th, 2010
11:53 am

you know some are afraid of the sound the gun makes
Leggs, yeah but you would think for someone that is aiming to take their own life the sounding of the gun would not even be an issue. Hell you are trying to die anyway. What is there to be afraid of? Scaring yourself to death? LOL

Simple Man!!!!

August 25th, 2010
11:53 am

Leggs @ 11:43… if they use it right, they will never hear the sound coming out of that gun…..

Leggs

August 25th, 2010
11:53 am

@YessheIs ~ You sound like a parent and probably have a heads up on the importance of being a parent once you become one. Bet you’ll make a fine mother if and when the time comes.

I always thought your moniker said Yes He Is Cute! These contacts have been playing tricks on me!

2CPTG©

August 25th, 2010
11:54 am

“@L..put him on the blog,3 month sexual fasting regimen. Then hopefully u can figure him out.”

Melo, yousa nut!!!

Leggs

August 25th, 2010
11:55 am

@SimpleMan ~ I know I was being facetious in terms of not using a gun but opt instead for a freaking bottle of aspirin.

Gemini and my name is For Real

August 25th, 2010
11:56 am

Divorce settlement

Chick: I want the right to say he couldn’t satisfy me cause of his lil wang.

Dude: Give me 5 million everytime you say it and get me Extends to be my sponsor we got a deal.

Chick: Cool but I want to be able to call yo mamma a bytch!

Dude: Hold on now!!! You can’t call my mamma a bytch! Unless you add another 3.4 million to that five million and limit your “Yo Mamma is Bytch” to 3 times a year and you can say it on Mother’s Day, Thanksgivings and Christmas.

Gemini and my name is For Real

August 25th, 2010
11:58 am

“if they use it right, they will never hear the sound coming out of that gun…” – The man makes a fine point.

blue - Expecting a Decision Today....

August 25th, 2010
11:58 am

@Sassy – just d@mn…..is it really that crucial to get out of the chump change? i mean, my order is for 17% of my exs income, and havent changed it in 10 years, so 17% of what he made 10 years ago. that leads to murder? amazing….
@Swiss – there ya go, take my money and hit the Bahamas….woohoo!
@Raqi – “scaring yourself to death” – thats just wrong :lol:

Simple Man!!!!

August 25th, 2010
11:59 am

R♥qi @ 11:38

I know they ladies are gonna kill me for this, but she does not deserve to get the 100 mil thats been reported…. If Tiger had enough time to be putting in work with 20 other women on the regular, their relationship could not have been all that to start with..

Luvbug

August 25th, 2010
11:59 am

I’m not sure about tapering off. Til now, my pattern has been…okay I’m attracted…let’s see what he’s about…yeah, I like him…love ‘em…I’m good.

My affection and attraction usually grows. It usually stops and levels off as has been suggested here, but (til now) it has never started big and worn off.

But…

Since this tapering is the norm, I suppose my past partners have had that tapering experience with me.

They’d call it wearing off…I’d call it wearing on.

Gemini and my name is For Real

August 25th, 2010
12:00 pm

“opt instead for a freaking bottle of aspirin” – She would have had to take 4 bottles of asprin in order to kill herself. Hell it’s not the asprins that would have killed her it’s the diarrhea.

kimmie

August 25th, 2010
12:02 pm

It’s me – Your post about the Elin/Tiger dynamic is interesting because alot of what you wrote I thought about. Tiger might not have much street sense, but book sense he has. The dude went to Stanford, which is the Harvard of the west coast. You don’t get admitted there being a dummy. His girlfriend while he was there is now a big-time attorney. Now how do you go from that to a blond nanny? I don’t see how they had much to talk about or anything in common other than “relations”. I think him messing around was going to be inevitable.

Raqi – Yeah, he got too comfortable and sure of himself.

Gemini and my name is For Real

August 25th, 2010
12:03 pm

Blue: That 17% of his gross and at 5 million a year that’s $850′000/yr. I ain’t saying it’s right, I’m just displaying the figures.

R♥qi

August 25th, 2010
12:05 pm

It’s me, I would go so far as to believe that she allowed him to think she had no suspicion. Her motives for not addressing it could have very well been to let him slip up so she can go hard on him. And for all we know she could have been

And I agree with you about being in sync after being together after a while. You can tell when something is off even if it’s just them having a bad day.

Sometimes we close our eyes to what is right in front of us.

MELO

August 25th, 2010
12:09 pm

Who wld be afraid of the sound of a gun when thy are dying anyway??

Hilarious.. :lol:

blue - Expecting a Decision Today....

August 25th, 2010
12:09 pm

@For Real – i thought Sassy was referring to average Joe type situation. the Tigers of the world, makes a little more sense, not agreeing with it, but that is a decent check to hand over…..

R♥qi

August 25th, 2010
12:11 pm

I tell you we talk about any and everything on here. LOL

But anyhoo, taking a bottle of aspirin is not a sure way to take yourself out. Aspirin is a blood thinner and talking a bottle could cause interal bleeding and/or disrupt the rhythm of your heart but not necessarily to the point of you dying. A person would have to take a whoooooole lot of aspirin to kill themselves and even then they will not die right away giving a chance to be found or call for help.

Kym

August 25th, 2010
12:12 pm

Tiger falls into that group of hoochie daddies I was speaking about yesterday. He was a hoochie daddie..he knew it..she knew it..but he wanted to change..put on the front..what better way to do it than get yourself a pure looking blond haired, blue eyed-woman..We the happy family..he’s still a freak, she dumb..get yourself two kids..boy and girl..front is complete..until some stripper named Cotton Candy ask to his “nine wood”..can’t keep living a lie dude..just can’t.

kimmie

August 25th, 2010
12:12 pm

When folks are debating if Elin deserved the money she got, I think that’s not really the question. The question for me is “Tiger, was all that “stuff” you got on the side worth $100 million and the effect all this might have on your kids”?

If is was, hey more power to ya. Cause I ain’t never run into no man’s stuff that was THAT good!

I really could care less what Elin got. I don’t like or dislike Tiger – I just don’t care.

Luvbug

August 25th, 2010
12:14 pm

hoochie daddie

LOL. That’s a new one.

kimmie

August 25th, 2010
12:14 pm

some stripper named Cotton Candy

Kym – That whole post was priceless! :lol:

blue - Expecting a Decision Today....

August 25th, 2010
12:18 pm

100 million, last count i heard on side pieces was 23…so that works out to roughly 4.5 mil each side piece…think hes looking back now sorting out which ones were worth 4.5 mil and which were really only worth a 1 mil?

Dan - simply...

August 25th, 2010
12:18 pm

Elin called Juanita the minute this story hit the news…

A neither of ‘em were ultimately worth it.

Leggs

August 25th, 2010
12:19 pm

That’t my point…the chick wasn’t trying to kill herself with a freaking bottle of aspirin and few sleeping pills.

Kym

August 25th, 2010
12:21 pm

Well..after this all came out I had a little pitty for Tiger..he looks like he could be the little bro I never had..he was getting kicked around by all these self-righteous jokers(like they not creepying and peeping) and it is just not right. Now I am not saying he wasn’t wrong..cause he was..but hell if Elliot Spitzer, the Gov of South Carolina, can come back and get a pass..dang it so can Tiger.

Sassy Me...Fire n Ice :-)

August 25th, 2010
12:22 pm

i thought Sassy was referring to average Joe type situation. the Tigers of the world,

No I was talking about the Carruth dude who put a hit on his then expecting girlfriend…

MELO

August 25th, 2010
12:23 pm

Tiger will be aaaight!

Kym

August 25th, 2010
12:24 pm

OH and Elin is taking night classes because she is 40 credits short of a bachelor’s degree in psychology..what school where?

It's me....lurker

August 25th, 2010
12:25 pm

Kimmie – I agree with you, the question should be to Tiger…was it all really worth it? I guess I just cannot wrap my mind around a man’s psyche that will risk EVERYTHING for a little feel good on the side. I have yet to have someone explain to me what they’re thinking when their in the throws of trashing a marriage, family, reputation, friends, etc., all for what?

Raqi – She could have very well played dumb. Sometimes although it’s not a good show it’s a smart move for a woman that’s feels she’s been wronged. Especially for Tiger, just all over the place.

kimmie

August 25th, 2010
12:25 pm

Simple – Your 11:59 doesn’t upset me at all. You just make a lot of assumptions. He’s away from home alot without her & the kids. He could have a different chick every night – easy. Your post also implys any time a dude cheats it’s because the wife doesn’t have him swinging from the chandeliers every night. That’s just not going to happen – thus our topic today – NTO. Plus, she could be bringing it every night, but some are going to cheat regardless. I truly believe with Tiger it was not a question of if he’d cheat, but when.

DreamsMaterialize

August 25th, 2010
12:25 pm

Morning
I’ll just stay single for now so I don’t have to worry about NTO. ;-)

her being a mother was not enough for her to ride out the bumps and the bruises of life as we all do.
Leggs, Raqi, YESSHEIS, kimmie
Suicidal people usually believe they have nothing to offer the world. Most people who are suicidal have rationalized to themselves that the world and everyone in it would be BETTER off if they just weren’t around anymore. So a suicidal person actually believes they are doing their child a FAVOR by killing themselves.

Now in terms of Tiger…
First the 20+ women are only the women who have been vocal, and they seem to be the types who had nothing to lose (everything to gain) by being vocal…bartenders, waitresses, etc. I’m betting there are way more who haven’t said anything because they have too much to lose. Now the chic who’s a marketing exec for a big company is keeping her mouth shut…too much to lose. Now, I believe the kids should live the same lifestyle as their dad, but Elin doesn’t deserve shyte more than what she came in with. That’s the game though…Tiger should have known better. He just shouldn’t have been married.

R♥qi

August 25th, 2010
12:27 pm

Tiger may have a Stanford education but it or any other obviously was not enough to teach him not to be a douchebag.

blue - Expecting a Decision Today....

August 25th, 2010
12:28 pm

@Sassy – ooohhh…oops, lol. ok so maybe disappearing them seemed more advantagous

It's me....lurker

August 25th, 2010
12:28 pm

Well I had comments, not sure what I said that got me sensored.

Kimmie – I’m agreeing with what question should be asked….Tiger, what it really worth it?

Raqi – Sometimes playing dumb is about the smartest move a woman assumed dumb can make. You think me to be, okay then I am.

kimmie

August 25th, 2010
12:31 pm

Dreams – What you said about suicide is true, that’s why I really can’t judge. Because while on the outside it is a selfish act, I’ve never been THERE, so I don’t pretend to understand it completely. They are just not thinking “rationally”.

It's me....lurker

August 25th, 2010
12:31 pm

I don’t think Elin deserves $100 mil per se but I think she deserves whatever actions Tiger brought on himself. So if that means writing a check for his azz, then so be it. He’s a pig.

MELO

August 25th, 2010
12:32 pm

uall feeling pity/sorry or happy that Tiger is paying that much..whichever side u on..as if Tiger is complaining.

He aint. Trust me..

Last time i checked when he played the pga championship,he looked normal,his face has no angst nor contortion,no ache..his swing is off a lil but thats golf and thats all hes worried about.

And shes only(??) getting 75 mil$..Tiger is worth 1 bill$…i said 1 bill$..

So!

kimmie

August 25th, 2010
12:32 pm

Raqi – That’s what I say – book sense only, nothing more.

It's me....lurker

August 25th, 2010
12:32 pm

OH and Elin is taking night classes because she is 40 credits short of a bachelor’s degree in psychology..what school where?

That’s funny. She should just take that 100 million and buy a certificate….frame and all

blue - Expecting a Decision Today....

August 25th, 2010
12:32 pm

dang it, Fred ate my lunch…now i have no choice but to get the BLT with cheese im craving….

kimmie

August 25th, 2010
12:34 pm

Melo – Yeah, Tiger, Elin & them kids will be just fine. So! – absolutely!

Luvbug

August 25th, 2010
12:34 pm

I can buy that she may have tried to kill herself. I’m not saying she’s stupid, but I wouldn’t assume she knew that aspirin wouldn’t do the trick. Or maybe she was looking for attention. Who knows?? It’s all sad really. She’s been thrown in the world with a shotty upbringing and some stuff she just may not know.

Like many with similar upbringings, they can’t asked questions (about anything good in life)…when they are hurt, they just take the pain, go to church and keep a smile on their faces because they can’t afford the help or folks don’t have the time or know how to help them or ‘everybody goes through it’ so shut up and keep it moving. People live that everyday. Her situation may have actually been worse because she may have thought it would be better because of the money, but all that was added to the situation were more problems…people using her every chance they could.

I’m not condoning her affairs or suicide attempt, but I don’t see a viable outlet for her to grow in a different direction…unless she disconnects from everybody she knows…and that would take a whole lot of courage…hell, she hardly has self esteem…let alone courage.

i'm swiss™

August 25th, 2010
12:41 pm

blue — Okay, I’m out of the loop… who is Fred??? :lol:

R♥qi

August 25th, 2010
1:04 pm

LOL Melo, yeah $75mil when compared to what he is worth and has is nothing. It just sounds like a hellavuh lot to us common folks because it’s more than any of us will ever have in this or any other lifetime.

Simple Man!!!!

August 25th, 2010
1:04 pm

Off topic….Does anyone here have any contacts in the govenors office??? Trying to close a deal to move my office into a new building and the red tape is a B**CH!!!

R♥qi

August 25th, 2010
1:05 pm

The way I see things is, if your significant other/spouse/mate/partner is never ever eva concerned with where you go when you leave the house and/or who you spend time with, NEVA EVA, you may want to start inquiring about their whereabouts. Don’t be fooled ‘cause folks care. Those that don’t it’s usually because they are occupied in other happenings.

DreamsMaterialize

August 25th, 2010
1:13 pm

Elin was getting her groove on too. She maybe even participated in some of Tiger’s sessions with the other chics. I’m not buying the “woe is me” imagery. In the end, they just didn’t need to be married.

MELO

August 25th, 2010
1:16 pm

if your significant other/spouse/mate/partner is never ever eva concerned

@R♥qi??

give them the manual for boyfriends/girlfriends and not SO who dont live with them in the house anyway.

whats the trick for boyfriend castration (aka) nutt_potency_reducer if she’s got a boyfriend and she dont want him to be looking, looking??