I used to believe that reasons people got married today seem to differ from the reasons our parents and grandparents got married. Now, I am wondering if the reasons are the same.
My parents say they married because they wanted to build a life together and have children. After over 43 years of marriage (44th anniversary is next month!) my parents are still together and adorably smitten with one another.
In their case, their motivation for marriage probably centered more around love and family. It is also what held them together. I know a lot of young couples that wanted to marry because they “fell in love” and couldn’t imagine life without the person. A lot of them aren’t together anymore. When that intense feeling subsided, some of them thought it was all over.
Marriage isn’t always about all that passion, some people don’t expect that! Do you think that our reasons to marry today differs from our parents and grandparents?
If so, how? Do you think this is a good thing or a bad thing?
To take it a bit further, hen you look at the reasons men marry, it probably doesn’t align exactly with women. I don’t necessarily think that it should, though. Women and men view marriage quite differently, because we see things differently.
Do you think it is important for a couple to have the same reasons and motivation for marriage? Would that help marriages last longer?