Careful with those compliments
I know this won’t support that whole “women aren’t complicated” argument I’ve had going on here but I have to be honest: Women like compliments….however men have to be careful how they lodge those things at us. We tend to dislike when men are not complimentary but we also get turned off when it’s insincere.
Now, in our defense, ladies, we have certainly heard crazy and dumb stuff some men say to women. We generally can tell when a guy is gaming us to get our phone numbers for sport hook ups; we also know when a guy is genuinely impressed with us. There are times when a compliment can go all wrong and you actually feel insulted.
As my friend Damon Young recently noted, “how the compliment is actually received depends primarily on the type of compliment you’re giving and the type of woman you’re complimenting.” I couldn’t agree more. Do men know that the type of compliments they offer can either sink or swim their chances with women?
How do men receive compliments? Do you enjoy it when a woman pays you a compliment? Should women be careful how they compliment you so that you feel flattered instead of ridiculed?
Can you think of the best compliment you ever received from someone?
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It's me....lurker
August 23rd, 2010
4:30 pm
I can’t imagine a grown man saying “dada” my nephew says that…lol
papa, dad, daddy…daa daa
It's me....lurker
August 23rd, 2010
4:30 pm
daa daa?
Purple Rain
August 23rd, 2010
4:31 pm
See the problem started when they allowed women to start voting……..now they really think their opinion matters
kimmie
August 23rd, 2010
4:31 pm
Ohh, this is the best I’ve ever had”
Amatuer!
Leggs
August 23rd, 2010
4:31 pm
@PR ~ don’t mean to burst your bubble, but most women know you’re lying through your teef or merely got caught up in the “stroke.” And, women know men don’t believe that crap either unless “it’s really the first time” doing something. In most cases you’ll know what’s what.
blue - Waiting.....
August 23rd, 2010
4:31 pm
@PR – the salon lady said it was becuase the chairs cost $2500 to replace…but really, what is $5 gonna do to a repair/replace bill thats $2500. makes no sense to me…gotta overcharge a lot of people for that to come out even..
“Oh this is the best i’ve ever had?” no, doesnt work on all women…
Purple Rain
August 23rd, 2010
4:32 pm
It;s me, I think it is cultural. It’s weird to me to hear someone call their father “dad” souns so impersonal
2CPTG©
August 23rd, 2010
4:32 pm
good one, Slim….didn’t know if anyone would catch that…but as always, you’re swift on your feet….
SlimUno
August 23rd, 2010
4:33 pm
Heeeyyy… Yaaaaaaa.. (Don’t want to meet your daddy, OHH OH)
Heeyy Yaaaaaaaa.. (Just want you in my Caddy OHH OH)
Heeeyyy… Yaaaaaaa.. (OHH OH, don’t want to meet yo’ mama OHH OH)
Heeyy Yaaaaaaaa.. (Just wan’t to make you cumma OHH OH)
Heeeyyy… Yaaaaaaa.. (I’m, OHH OH I’m, OHH OH)
Heeyy Yaaaaaaaa.. (I’m just being honest OHH OH, I’m just being honest)
kimmie
August 23rd, 2010
4:33 pm
Purple – I saw that story. Maybe they did that to get attention? She was a nice-looking lady in the face.
Purple Rain
August 23rd, 2010
4:35 pm
You thikn we care what comes out of our mouths, women are usually done by then and since we don’t give parting gifts we just say something. LOL, better than saying “don’t let the door hit you with the good Lord split you” See I am a refined man.
And you know the woman you are dealing with is a pro when she gives you a wipe off with just hot water and a rag. No soap at all because she knows that leaves evidence
It's me....lurker
August 23rd, 2010
4:35 pm
PR – yeah, I agree…cultural that is. We always called my father daddy until the grandkids started coming and calling him papa. I’d say by the time the oldest grandkid(cause he started it) was five, everybody was calling him papa. Every now and then before he died I may have reverted back but mainly papa.
Purple Rain
August 23rd, 2010
4:35 pm
kimmie, she should have sat on that little asian lady
kimmie
August 23rd, 2010
4:36 pm
It’s me – Dah dah, said quickly. Didn’t sound funny when my cousins said it. I guess we were used to hearing them say it.
Purple Rain
August 23rd, 2010
4:37 pm
Does anyone else get nervous when you are on a flight and there is more than one obese person on the same side of an airplane?
MELO
August 23rd, 2010
4:37 pm
And you know the woman you are dealing with is a pro when she gives you a wipe off with just hot water and a rag.
@PR….now u killed me with that!
MELO
August 23rd, 2010
4:38 pm
@blue..comement on that 4.37 please
Purple Rain
August 23rd, 2010
4:39 pm
Melo, you know what I am talking about. LOL, all the players do. LOL
Leggs
August 23rd, 2010
4:40 pm
Dad rings impersonal to my ears as well. Much like caucasians saying “Mother”
SlimUno
August 23rd, 2010
4:41 pm
‘And you know the woman you are dealing with is a pro when she gives you a wipe off with just hot water and a rag’
Purp – so if you noticed that she did use some loud smelling soap, what do you do in that case?…BC afterall, it’s hard to get rid of a smell such as Irish Spring. lol
Purple Rain
August 23rd, 2010
4:42 pm
Slim, if that were the case I would get up and go wash myself off, with water only and then check my hair, my body and my clothes to make sure none of her hair was on me. Or, i would have the usual soap that I use at home at her house. LOL
Leggs
August 23rd, 2010
4:43 pm
It’s hard to get rid of the smell of spillt semen!
(Yes, I know that’s not a word)!
blue - Waiting.....
August 23rd, 2010
4:46 pm
@Melo – hey, lol, why’d i get singled out?
SlimUno
August 23rd, 2010
4:46 pm
Purple Rain
August 23rd, 2010
4:47 pm
Leggs, that is why you dont let her spill or spit it back on you. Paint her or make her have a gulp. just hit her on the top of the head and she will gasp causing her to swallow.
MELO
August 23rd, 2010
4:48 pm
spillt semen!
LOL
@PR..im thinking the woman is in on the game. U trying to hide the smell??
I have a different take..a woman that uses warm water to wipe him off knows how to take care of him..PERIOD!…u can leave dna on the pillow there 4 the nite…its warranted
MELO
August 23rd, 2010
4:50 pm
@PR??
u think like a black man.
Purple Rain
August 23rd, 2010
4:50 pm
Melo, that is a given. The woman is supposed to wipe the man down, your wife can use soap and hot water with a rag. The side check is just supposed to use a rag and hot water so that the wife does not smell new soap when you get home. Or you can just roll up the windows and turn on the heat on blast so that your “boys” will be sweat by the time you get home.
Leggs
August 23rd, 2010
4:51 pm
Had to laugh at hit her on the top of the head. Meaning once ejaculated and it’s not all swallowed, you can probably easily find a few spots on the pants or draws. From the stories I’ve been told not all pull their pants all the way down. It’s not always done in a bed
Purple Rain
August 23rd, 2010
4:51 pm
Melo, I do not konw how to take that. I think like a man. LOL
Purple Rain
August 23rd, 2010
4:52 pm
Leggs a proper lady does not spit. LOL
Purple Rain
August 23rd, 2010
4:52 pm
I met this awesome Creole woman.
Purple Rain
August 23rd, 2010
4:54 pm
Melo check this site out, I would love to go on vacation to this resort
http://www.owk.cz/
MELO
August 23rd, 2010
4:54 pm
Leggs a proper lady does not spit.
@PR…I second that!
Leggs
August 23rd, 2010
4:55 pm
LOL
Purple Rain
August 23rd, 2010
4:55 pm
Spitting is unlady like.
SlimUno
August 23rd, 2010
4:56 pm
I think i’m going to dip out on yall right about………….NOW! Yuck!
MELO
August 23rd, 2010
4:57 pm
PR..u contributing to the deliquency of singles in the A
blue - Waiting.....
August 23rd, 2010
4:57 pm
just hit her on the top of the head – well alrightee then….
just saying if shes the side chick anyway, why is she wiping you down? you know where the bathroom is…isnt that written in the side chick by-laws somewhere…
It's me....lurker
August 23rd, 2010
4:58 pm
Kimmie – DahDah said quickly does sound cultural and like a part of a person’s rearing. Guess it just depends on where you’re from and how you’re raised.
Purple Rain
August 23rd, 2010
4:59 pm
blue, man is King wherever he does his do. Besides, why risk it if you are not getting king treatment
Melo, it got quiet. I may be telling to many secrets. LOL
Purple Rain
August 23rd, 2010
5:00 pm
Why do adults call thier SO mama and daddy? That is kind of weird.
Leggs
August 23rd, 2010
5:00 pm
I couldn’t find anything about BJ’s so when I came across this I liked it.
<strongRaising teenagers is like nailing jelly to a tree.
Good night and takes for talking with me through this craziness!
Leggs
August 23rd, 2010
5:01 pm
that should read and thanks….
MELO
August 23rd, 2010
5:03 pm
@PR…some of ur pronouncements tho wld be a quick way for a chic to get to ring status….swallowing,throat numbing,good warm water wipe down,tongue ring,vejay ring,throat tying etc….
just saying…
Good nite all!
It's me....lurker
August 23rd, 2010
5:03 pm
Why do adults call thier SO mama and daddy? That is kind of weird.
What else do you suggest
It's me....lurker
August 23rd, 2010
5:04 pm
My bad PR, you said SO’s mama and/or daddy
blue - Waiting.....
August 23rd, 2010
5:04 pm
why risk it if you are not getting king treatment – interesting…i say just paint it and call it a day…
It's me....lurker
August 23rd, 2010
5:04 pm
I say Mrs/Mr. so and so
Purple Rain
August 23rd, 2010
5:09 pm
it’s me if you consider the SO a parent…lol
Melo, true indeed. LOL