Careful with those compliments
I know this won’t support that whole “women aren’t complicated” argument I’ve had going on here but I have to be honest: Women like compliments….however men have to be careful how they lodge those things at us. We tend to dislike when men are not complimentary but we also get turned off when it’s insincere.
Now, in our defense, ladies, we have certainly heard crazy and dumb stuff some men say to women. We generally can tell when a guy is gaming us to get our phone numbers for sport hook ups; we also know when a guy is genuinely impressed with us. There are times when a compliment can go all wrong and you actually feel insulted.
As my friend Damon Young recently noted, “how the compliment is actually received depends primarily on the type of compliment you’re giving and the type of woman you’re complimenting.” I couldn’t agree more. Do men know that the type of compliments they offer can either sink or swim their chances with women?
How do men receive compliments? Do you enjoy it when a woman pays you a compliment? Should women be careful how they compliment you so that you feel flattered instead of ridiculed?
Can you think of the best compliment you ever received from someone?
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blue - Waiting.....
August 23rd, 2010
3:30 pm
I want to spend the rest of my life with you…tonight…just got the oxymorons flowing today dont we…
@PR – yes, women try bribing yall with sex…and yes, good portion of the time it works
and for the men out there, dont yall try the same thing at times?
For Real
August 23rd, 2010
3:30 pm
Leggs: Sorry to hear about your house. You should have shot his azz. I can’t stand a theif!!! If I was you I would put a picture of his stakin azz on my garage with these words written under “NO HOME TRAINING AZZ (INSERT NAME) SON OF (INSERT NAME) ROBBED MY GOT DAYUM HOUSE”
Slimy-slim: Sorry to hear about you and ole boy. Let me know if you want to hit town with me and backpack.
MELO
August 23rd, 2010
3:31 pm
@Leggs..3.27 for 3 motnhs is longterm for some.
Purple Rain
August 23rd, 2010
3:33 pm
For Real, LOL
blue, no we men never try and bribe. We just do it because that is what it’s made for.
MELO, don’t let her still your power. ..tonight. LOL
MELO
August 23rd, 2010
3:34 pm
Let her ask you while phlucking you
@Swiss..as long as i recognize thatim being gamed..there is no erection.
Unless she wants to shove my hand down there….
kimmie
August 23rd, 2010
3:35 pm
….dada always said you have to know how to run a functioning household because you can’t be sure that you will find and woman that will do it like our mom did…
Your parents sound EXACTLY like mine, especially my mother! My brothers can do everything!
George Howard – I LOVE him!
SlimUno
August 23rd, 2010
3:36 pm
2TCPTG – Yep it’s me Slim1
i'm swiss™
August 23rd, 2010
3:39 pm
Melo — I’m rooting for you, my friend. Hold out long enough to force queen to bring in her sister for added persuasion…
Leggs
August 23rd, 2010
3:41 pm
@For Real ~ I am so sorry, but I love that sign and I definitely can see me doing it!!!!
Just received a call from his mother asking what time I would be home because she wants to bring him over to sit and talk with me. One thing I do know, you won’t be coming inside myself to sit and talk with me. If I do talk to you it will be in the street in the middle of the cul-de-sac (where this wannabe crook belongs).
Sure wish I had one of those posts where you put your head and arms through the holes while people threw rocks at you. Can’t think of what that is to safe my life!!!
blue - Waiting.....
August 23rd, 2010
3:42 pm
LMAO – how did this seem like a good idea:
Man Throws Pine Cone At Deputy’s Head: charged with battery upon a peace officer after he threw a pine cone at the deputy, striking him in the head
http://www.kfoxtv.com/news/24721026/detail.html?cxntlid=cmg_cntnt_rss
Simple Man!!!!
August 23rd, 2010
3:43 pm
kimmie, George Howard is one of my favorites!!! Even though his greatest hits is 10+ years old, It stays in the rotation at my house!
Leggs
August 23rd, 2010
3:43 pm
@SimpleMan ~ where you from that you call your father Dada?
MELO
August 23rd, 2010
3:45 pm
queen to bring in her sister for added persuasion
@Swiss..that wld be a winner!
Now,what they do ‘tween and among themselves,2 of them, as they enjoy ME,thats on them..they arent my daddy’s kids,SO I wont care!
Simple Man!!!!
August 23rd, 2010
3:45 pm
Leggs
August 23rd, 2010
3:41 pm
Damn Leggs!!! Thats straight out of Medieval Times!!! LOL
SlimUno
August 23rd, 2010
3:45 pm
For Real – duly noted
Purple Rain
August 23rd, 2010
3:47 pm
$5 extra for being fat?
http://www.wsbtv.com/news/24708583/detail.html?cxntlid=cmg_cntnt_rss
For Real
August 23rd, 2010
3:47 pm
Slim: http://news.yahoo.com/nphotos/Trapped-dolphins-rescued-Bolivia-river/ss/events/sc/082310boliviadolphin
I know the whereabouts of a trapped African American Dolphin do you want to help with the rescue efforts?
MELO
August 23rd, 2010
3:47 pm
Leggs??
how about if u ask a police officer to escort u to their house so u can hear what they have to say.
That way,they know u mean bizz.
They want to water u down so u accept a neighborhood deal!
blue - Waiting.....
August 23rd, 2010
3:48 pm
@Leggs – mr.blue has a plaque for he keeps out in the garage
“Posted: Trespassers Will Be Shot, Survivors Will Be Shot Again”
kimmie
August 23rd, 2010
3:48 pm
Simple – I have a former church member that used to play in his band until George passed away back in 1998. He was only 41 – I know he would have put out a lot more hits! RIP
For Real
August 23rd, 2010
3:48 pm
Leggs: Or get a big azz neon sign that flashes “THEIF NEXT DOOR” with a big fanga pointing at their house.
Simple Man!!!!
August 23rd, 2010
3:49 pm
Leggs, I was born here…I know its odd, but called the old fella that up until the day he died… For the record, we called our mother “mommy” as well!! ( Yeah its off center… three grown as black men running around saying mommy, mommy, mommy!)
kimmie
August 23rd, 2010
3:51 pm
My cousins up in DC used to call their dad Dada.
Purple Rain
August 23rd, 2010
3:54 pm
Leggs, the smartest thing for you to do is to decline to meet with them.
MELO
August 23rd, 2010
3:55 pm
Tiger Woods and his wife are officially divorced.
thats good news indeed…cnbc.com
At least now he can get on with his game,get agood team of stress relievers and right his ship.
Go Tiger!
Purple Rain
August 23rd, 2010
3:55 pm
We call my father PaPa
SlimUno
August 23rd, 2010
3:55 pm
‘do you want to help with the rescue efforts?’
Yes but only if I get to swim with it afterwards…I just bought a crotchless 8 piece turtle neck bikini
‘Or get a big azz neon sign that flashes “THEIF NEXT DOOR” with a big fanga pointing at their house’
DOn’t forget the huge industrial sized spotlight….the one they use to call Batman in for reinforcement
MELO
August 23rd, 2010
3:57 pm
Altho on Tiger, I dont understand how/why a woman can divorce a husband for this.
Leggs
August 23rd, 2010
3:57 pm
I love the word “mommy!”
@Melo ~ there are 3 cops in our subdivision. I should knock on one of their doors to futher scare this young punk. One thing I cannot stand is lack of eye contact. He won’t be able to look at me therefore I won’t be able to believe a damn thing he says!
SlimUno
August 23rd, 2010
3:58 pm
Simple Man & kimmie – for whatever reason, I imagine you all saying that in an British accent so now I’m going to speak like that for the rest of the day
Leggs
August 23rd, 2010
4:00 pm
@PR ~ I’m thinking along the same lines. I’m beginning to think it’s useless to meet. There really isn’t anything he can say to me.
2CPTG©
August 23rd, 2010
4:01 pm
“I just bought a crotchless 8 piece turtle neck bikini”
yep, that’s the Slim I know…..speakin of which, how’s that “CT” holdin up? ain’t heard ’bout it in awhile…
blue - Waiting.....
August 23rd, 2010
4:03 pm
@Leggs/PR – agreed, best resist the temptation to smack the shyt out of him, next thing you know the mom will be trying to press charges against you. just tell them stay off your property, parents and child included. they can mail you the check…
Simple Man!!!!
August 23rd, 2010
4:05 pm
Note to self…Leggs loves the word “mommy”… File that away for use at a time that is more suted for a grown man to utter “mommmmy..OHHHHH mommmmy”….:D
For Real
August 23rd, 2010
4:07 pm
Things Leggs theif can say to her:
It wasn’t me!
It ain’t my fault!
My father makes me call him Memaw!
I’m dyslexic!
It was the African American Dolphin and em!
I’m homeless!
Obama did it!
My mamma make me sleep on Glen Beck sheets!
I got restless leg syndrome!
Cocain is a helluva drug!
We ain’t have no tissua at the house!
kimmie
August 23rd, 2010
4:07 pm
Slim –
SlimUno
August 23rd, 2010
4:09 pm
‘how’s that “CT” holdin up? ain’t heard ’bout it in awhile…’
@2CPTG – that statement is hilarious in itself… ain’t heard bout it in a while—>
The CT is skrait pimpin’ 
Leggs
August 23rd, 2010
4:11 pm
@For Real ~ the restless leg syndrome was funny. Glad you put “it wasn’t me at the top of the list” because that’s what he’ll probably say.
I’m not going to meet because I know I might just put my hand in his face and push his face backwards. Then his mother will be on me pressing charges on me. I haven’t had a fight since the 9th grade and I’ll be damned if I get into one now!
For Real
August 23rd, 2010
4:11 pm
April Fools!
I said SWEAT!
Red light, green light!
Rock, paper, scissors!
Gooney, Goo-Goo!
I was PMSing!
I was trying to kill that fly on your window!
DreamsMaterialize
August 23rd, 2010
4:12 pm
Hey Everyone
I’ll give compliments whenever I feel, and I don’t allow any chick’s reaction (positive or negative) to dictate whether I will give compliments in the future. A man’s principles are established by him; they aren’t dictated by how people respond to them.
just because some dude says something stupid to you it doesn’t mean it “worked” on someone else
Sorry kimmie but it’s most likely true. I can think of a particular example that I’m sure every guy knows of.
blue - Waiting.....
August 23rd, 2010
4:16 pm
@Leggs/For Real – lol, maybe he takes Ambien, you know they say that stuff has you doing all kinds of things in your sleep…
Leggs
August 23rd, 2010
4:20 pm
LOL, the Ambien Defense!
kimmie
August 23rd, 2010
4:21 pm
Dreams – That “it worked on someone else” is one of your favorites, that’s why I put it out there!
But “worked” is relative and I really think alot of it is for shock value!
kimmie
August 23rd, 2010
4:23 pm
A man’s principles are established by him; they aren’t dictated by how people respond to them.
I like that.
2CPTG©
August 23rd, 2010
4:23 pm
“The CT is skrait pimpin’”
I see……”juicy got ‘em crazy!”
DreamsMaterialize
August 23rd, 2010
4:26 pm
Awwww kimmie you put that bait out there just for me? How sweet of you.
Sometimes it is for shock value though.
SlimUno
August 23rd, 2010
4:27 pm
2CPTG – on no you didn’t pull out 357 B Angie B…lol (Slim not trying to find an old lepard skin cat suit, some long lee press on fanga nails, some hazel eye contacts and the herr gel to put some fanga waves in for a bomb azz herr do)
Ladies, can I borrow one of yallz booty pads…can’t really rock a saggy cat suit
Purple Rain
August 23rd, 2010
4:28 pm
Nobody commented on the fat girl being charged $5 extra for a pedicure because she was fat? It happened here in Atlanta.
What works on all women” Ohh, this is the best I’ve ever had”
What women thinks work on al men “I don’t usually do this”
kimmie
August 23rd, 2010
4:28 pm
You know you my buddy, Dreamboat!
MELO
August 23rd, 2010
4:29 pm
@Kimmie?
u put the crazy comments out there to test her category..u may not be very sure, and u cant ask her st8 up, thats lame…….if she bites, that means u were right.
u get the “Phuckk off!” hot air..?
no sweat..keep it moving.