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Careful with those compliments

I know this won’t support that whole “women aren’t complicated” argument I’ve had going on here but I have to be honest: Women like compliments….however men have to be careful how they lodge those things at us.  We tend to dislike when men are not complimentary but we also get turned off when it’s insincere.

Now, in our defense, ladies, we have certainly heard crazy and dumb stuff some men say to women.  We generally can tell when a guy is gaming us to get our phone numbers for sport hook ups; we also know when a guy is genuinely impressed with us.  There are times when a compliment can go all wrong and you actually feel insulted.

As my friend Damon Young recently noted,  “how the compliment is actually received depends primarily on the type of compliment you’re giving and the type of woman you’re complimenting.”  I couldn’t agree more.  Do men know that the type of compliments they offer can either sink or swim their chances with women?

How do men receive compliments?  Do you enjoy it when a woman pays you a compliment?  Should women be careful how they compliment you so that you feel flattered instead of ridiculed?

Can you think of the best compliment you ever received from someone?

402 comments Add your comment

Purple Rain

August 23rd, 2010
2:31 pm

Thanks Dan, :)

I’ve found my foot on a throat while scissoring. I was just given that some thought on if it were normal or not. LOL

Dan - simply...

August 23rd, 2010
2:34 pm

@PR

Try using the top leg as a fulcrum pulling her closer to you, saves wear and tear on the hip(s)

blue - Waiting.....

August 23rd, 2010
2:34 pm

@PR – well alright this time…dont make me use the cuffs….and no, havent tried the elbow or foot to the throat…little too far for me…tho a scarf around the throat does give a little leverage…..
@Melo – agreed. counseling has to be tempered by and measured with the offense. too easy to lose their attention already, even more so if they feel you are lumping them in a group that has nothing to do with them. i dont quite see broke boy on hte same level as B&E boy….
@Lucinda – i think you’re right, i’ll let ou be my Rosetta Stone, lol

Purple Rain

August 23rd, 2010
2:36 pm

Dan, thank you, i will do that.

blue, did you and yours buy a new table yet?

Leggs

August 23rd, 2010
2:36 pm

@blue ~ no, she’s not. I told her it’s not a good look so early in her dating experience. Never borrow money for a dude so he can take you out. If he can’t afford to date you then you don’t date him.

@kimmie ~ yes, she too made a mistake!

blue - Waiting.....

August 23rd, 2010
2:39 pm

@PR- decided since my house is full of boxes at the moment, to put the table off till we move. one less thing to move. looking forward to christening the new house tho ;)

Purple Rain

August 23rd, 2010
2:39 pm

you should tell that story in here, it is a riot. LOL

Lucinda

August 23rd, 2010
2:40 pm

Some say the throat press enhances sensitivity

blue - Waiting.....

August 23rd, 2010
2:40 pm

@Leggs – good deal. thought from comments she was sticking with him. thinking of the mistakes i made getting my dating legs, afraid to see what my girls do…and if they go for a dude like their dad, aww he!!, not everyone can handle those like him :lol:

Leggs

August 23rd, 2010
2:40 pm

I had to look up “fulcrum”

Purple Rain

August 23rd, 2010
2:41 pm

Lucinda, pressure needs to be applied to the sides of the neck and not the front

MELO

August 23rd, 2010
2:42 pm

Anybody with info on this school..how good is it?

http://www.ivyprepacademy.org/

@blue..I dont even see correlation really.Lil pimp boy is proly a budding entrepeneur,if those skills are harnnesed and chanelled prperly… :lol:

Purple Rain

August 23rd, 2010
2:42 pm

If I had a daughter i would put her up for adoption

SlimSeeker

August 23rd, 2010
2:42 pm

So my fellow blogMEN….how do you all WOO your woman?

MELO

August 23rd, 2010
2:43 pm

tho a scarf around the throat does give a little leverage…..

@blue.u bad!

Purple Rain

August 23rd, 2010
2:43 pm

Melo, it would be funny if he didn’t even ask and Lil Leggs just wanted to take HIM out on a date. Just joking Leggs, don’t go home and corner lil leggs

Sassy Me :-)

August 23rd, 2010
2:45 pm

Never borrow money for a dude so he can take you out. If he can’t afford to date you then you don’t date him.

Worth repeating….

Leggs

August 23rd, 2010
2:46 pm

@PR ~ you would not put that child up for adoption just so you wouldn’t have to kill a young man wanting to date her an mistreating her.

Dan - simply...

August 23rd, 2010
2:47 pm

Woo(ing) is a natural by-product of your feelings for her.

If think about her and send a text, flowers, or fight the urge to go and see her, it’s not necessarily ‘wooing’ in that sense. I think it’s more expressing how you feel about her in the way you treat/speak to her.

Leggs

August 23rd, 2010
2:47 pm

@PR ~ what these kids are missing is how the heck you going to ask money to go on a date to the movie and you don’t even have a learner’s permit nor car!!!

blue - Waiting.....

August 23rd, 2010
2:48 pm

@PR – it aint been that funny trying to pick a new table. he wants a glass one like we had waaayy back when we first got hitched. you tell me, how well is a glass table gonna fare in that scenario?
@melo – me? nope, but i do have several scarves at the house….. ;)

SlimSeeker

August 23rd, 2010
2:48 pm

‘If I had a daughter i would put her up for adoption’

Purp – reminds me of something I heard of back in the day…not sure which country it was but something to the effect of if a mother had a baby girl, they would swing the child up against a tree. If she made it she was deemed worthy to live and if not…then that was the end of the child because male babies were thought of as more valuable.

Anyone ever heard of this?

MELO

August 23rd, 2010
2:49 pm

Some say the throat press enhances sensitivity

@Lucinda??

who are these “some”,so lib with their opinions about it,but not enticing nor convincing u to partake of same “enhanced sensitivity”? :lol:

Lucinda

August 23rd, 2010
2:50 pm

PR. This I have recently learned.
Blue already knew. She’s badazz

Purple Rain

August 23rd, 2010
2:50 pm

Slim, I walk in and pull all of my clothes off in one fell swoop. That’s how I woo her.

To your question, I woo her by making her breakfast sometimes or just buying her cards randomnly, sending flowers to her job. Always speaking life into her, tell her how wonderful she is to me, smack her on the butt or if she is sitting beside me and I am hard i put her hand on it and just show her what she does to me whenever I am around her. I dont let her carry anything mentally or physically except her purse and car keys. I care for her more than I care for myself…and that is a small example of how I woo Mrs G. I will just scream “I love you” from the basement or wherever I am when I feel.

SlimSeeker

August 23rd, 2010
2:52 pm

Woo, woo(ing), woo(ed)….showing how you feel about her….yadda yadda yadda —–> how you fellas do dat? lol And how spontaneous do yall get?

Simple Man!!!!

August 23rd, 2010
2:55 pm

SlimSeeker @ 2:42

How do I WOO a woman????

Simple man: So Leggs, would you like ro come by my house so I can make you dinner this weekend???
Leggs: I don’t know….can you cook??
Simple man: Why don’t you come over and taste this Lobster bisque and see for yourself???
Leggs: Shall I bring the wine??
Simple man: You bring the wine…We can work on desert when you get there!!! :)

That is a classic Simple Man!!! Woo …. LOL

2CPTG©

August 23rd, 2010
2:55 pm

Slim, ‘fore I answer that, are you the slim I think you are (and just added to your moniker?)…ya know I’ve absent for a minute….

kimmie

August 23rd, 2010
2:58 pm

Leggs – Last thing I’m going to say on the subject cause look like you got it all handled well. I speak from experience because my SO dealt with with this same exact type of situation with his oldest daughter, who is now almost 20 and her child’s father. The signs were all there when she started messing with him. He stays in run-ins with the law.

Lucinda

August 23rd, 2010
2:58 pm

Care about her more than I care about myself
Don’t let her carry anything emotionally or physically

PR nice!!!!! You are very cool :)

Melo. recent discovery..

Dan - simply...

August 23rd, 2010
2:59 pm

It’s all spontaneous, Slim. That’s why ya do it.

It’s different for each man/woman combo.

MELO

August 23rd, 2010
3:01 pm

And how spontaneous do yall get?

@Slim??

my Queen called me a few mins ago and asked me(pertaining to a prior issue i gave her a negative) “If i phlucck u tonite, will u change ur mind??”

I said NO..the facts i gave u are good enough..no phlcukking necessary to convince me otherwise.

Beautiful

August 23rd, 2010
3:04 pm

@2 . . . you smell nice 2day! its been a minute. whatchu wear’n?

blue - Waiting.....

August 23rd, 2010
3:05 pm

@PR – you should just copy and paste it. cant remember how i worded it b4….
@Dan- cosigning on spontaneity….dont need prepackaged woo-ing, put some thought and feeling into, and roll with it as it moves you….

kimmie

August 23rd, 2010
3:05 pm

Simple Man – You really gotta be able to cook to make lobster bisque! Did YOU really make it? :lol:

If you did, I’m impressed!

Leggs

August 23rd, 2010
3:07 pm

And, I like Lobster bisque!

Purple Rain

August 23rd, 2010
3:08 pm

Melo, your wife is trying to bribe you into a yes with sex?

LURKER-1

August 23rd, 2010
3:10 pm

Beautiful

August 23rd, 2010
3:11 pm

lmbo!!! i’m over here waiting for my notifications. rotf.

Leggs

August 23rd, 2010
3:11 pm

@PR ~ wives do that all the time!

MELO

August 23rd, 2010
3:13 pm

That is a classic Simple Man!!! Woo ….

@Simple Man??

are u wooing to get cherrie on that day/nite or just so u can roll with Leggs on a permananet basis for a minute??

i know u said u max rotation cycle runs about 3 months! :lol: :lol:

i'm swiss™

August 23rd, 2010
3:13 pm

“I said NO..the facts i gave u are good enough..no phlcukking necessary to convince me otherwise.”

Yeah, but Melo… Let her ask you while phlucking you…. Then what will your answer be? ;-) :lol:

2CPTG©

August 23rd, 2010
3:14 pm

Why thank you, Beautiful, and I mean that literally!

MELO

August 23rd, 2010
3:16 pm

your wife is trying to bribe you into a yes with sex?

@PR…yes, unfortuantely….

Im so hip to the sex games that the only way she can proly get me is if im sleeping and i wake up to find my wang deep in her mouf and down her larynx,throbbing….

or if im confused by completely new new and fresh bootey….

Leggs

August 23rd, 2010
3:17 pm

so u can roll with Leggs on a permananet basis for a minute?? Does this sound funny to you as much as does to me :arrow: a permanent basis for a min! WOW!

For Real

August 23rd, 2010
3:21 pm

“How do you WOO a woman” – Put on some Jeffery Osborne

“And how spontaneous do yall get?” – Pull out a butcher’s knife, scream like a mad man and chase her azz around the house until she faints with ecstasy.

Simple Man!!!!

August 23rd, 2010
3:23 pm

kimmie

August 23rd, 2010
3:05 pm

My parents raised 3 boys….dada always said you have to know how to run a functioning household because you can’t be sure that you will find and woman that will do it like our mom did… Now I go out two or three nights a week but when its time to really impress the softer sex, I always fall back on my kitchen skills, Gret seafood and rich deserts are a great way to impress a date..especially when she comes over before that meal is done and just sits in the kitchen and lisens to George Howard and Tasting as I prepare dinner…

Simple Man!!!!

August 23rd, 2010
3:27 pm

MELO @ 3:13

Quote from “Mo betta blues”..” I want to spend the rest of my life with you…tonight….” :D :D

Leggs

August 23rd, 2010
3:28 pm

Tasting what as you prepare dinner…mental pic of you hopping around kitchen while she’s crouched down on a pallet zooming around as you move around. Sorry, sorry! Just being bad (LOLOLO)! Words are not my friends today!

MELO

August 23rd, 2010
3:29 pm

I want to spend the rest of my life with you…tonight

:lol: :lol: