Careful with those compliments
I know this won’t support that whole “women aren’t complicated” argument I’ve had going on here but I have to be honest: Women like compliments….however men have to be careful how they lodge those things at us. We tend to dislike when men are not complimentary but we also get turned off when it’s insincere.
Now, in our defense, ladies, we have certainly heard crazy and dumb stuff some men say to women. We generally can tell when a guy is gaming us to get our phone numbers for sport hook ups; we also know when a guy is genuinely impressed with us. There are times when a compliment can go all wrong and you actually feel insulted.
As my friend Damon Young recently noted, “how the compliment is actually received depends primarily on the type of compliment you’re giving and the type of woman you’re complimenting.” I couldn’t agree more. Do men know that the type of compliments they offer can either sink or swim their chances with women?
How do men receive compliments? Do you enjoy it when a woman pays you a compliment? Should women be careful how they compliment you so that you feel flattered instead of ridiculed?
Can you think of the best compliment you ever received from someone?
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Leggs
August 23rd, 2010
1:24 pm
@PR ~ the two 16 year olds may get probation, but I doubt the 19 year old will.
Purple Rain
August 23rd, 2010
1:24 pm
Melo, well I guess some pedigree is lacking in the paths I’ve crossed with certain women who have had both. LOL
kimmie
August 23rd, 2010
1:25 pm
Leggs – I can respect Kym and PR’s points. Whatever you decide, she does need to see what being a “bad” boy represents – the real, not the glamourized version. These are the same dudes that start out “borrowing” money from girl’s mama’s to pay for their dates, like that little boy did! Sorry I went there, but lil Leggs needs to know sometimes all those behaviors have a way of tying together.
Lucinda
August 23rd, 2010
1:26 pm
PR hmmmm
Purple Rain
August 23rd, 2010
1:27 pm
Kym I saw this one case recently where a guy in the middle east caused someone to be paralyzed from an accident or something. So guess what the criminal is having surgery so he can be paralyzed to. Although if it were eye for an eye her in the states i would be dead now.
Leggs, they give adults probabtion here as well. He won’t get anytime. I am sure the legal eagles on here will agree.
MELO
August 23rd, 2010
1:27 pm
Melo you know my man got mad skillz
@Lucinda??
Licking skills!!
even Swiss can testify…
lighter shades are good at licking and blowjs…they can take that crown/ring!
well,sisters have taken bjs to a whole nother level tho..Superhead style.
Purple Rain
August 23rd, 2010
1:30 pm
Lucinda, potrebbe essere necessario a scrivermi i vostri desideri prima che io vada preso il via il blog con la mia risposta.
Leggs
August 23rd, 2010
1:31 pm
Oh my, going back to the Old West immediately made me think of the movie “Gangs of New York.” That was one rough movie!
Leggs
August 23rd, 2010
1:36 pm
@kimmie ~ exactly my point, they all have a way of being tied together. Exactly! EXACTLY! They had to discuss for him to even agree to pay me back, so if a small fry like him doesn’t have any qualms about borrowing money from the mama, there’s no telling what he won’t have qualms about doing as he gets older!!!
Purple Rain
August 23rd, 2010
1:38 pm
Leggs, who borrowed money?
Purple Rain
August 23rd, 2010
1:42 pm
Leggs, how did Old West make you think of New York, which is very far east. LOL
kimmie
August 23rd, 2010
1:42 pm
They had to discuss for him to even agree to pay me back,
SMH Leggs!
MELO
August 23rd, 2010
1:44 pm
same dudes that start out “borrowing” money from girl’s mama’s to pay for their dates, like that little boy did
@Leggs??
that lil boy that wanted to borrow money from u dont have stealing/robbing qualities…dont listen to Kimmie.
what u can read from him are potential playa qualities instead..using future mom-in law’s money to date her daughter,while losing none
Kinda like that “why buy the cow when the milk is free” mentality!
see..u neeed a man sometimes to read these things!
Lucinda
August 23rd, 2010
1:44 pm
Mi fermo. Ho paura di tua moglie!
Purple Rain
August 23rd, 2010
1:48 pm
Lei è una piccante uno, divertente flirtare con te.
Leggs
August 23rd, 2010
1:49 pm
@PR ~ Kym said we should go back to the Old West in handling crime. They always had duals at sunset. When I think of meteing out a punishment or severe whoop arse, I think of that movie The Gangs of NY where they fought with machetes. Just brutal.
@PR ~ my child thought nothing of asking to borrow $20 so this boy could take her to the movie and that he would pay me back. Hell No! Probably this same little knucklehead would find the last seat in the left hand corner way at the top to act like they’re watching the movie.
@Melo ~ well he won’t be mastering his playa skills on my dub!
kimmie
August 23rd, 2010
1:50 pm
Melo – You are right too, except note what Leggs said – he & lil Leggs had to have a “discussion” for him to even agree to pay her back! That might not seem tied to future criminal behavior at first glance, but kids being raised to think that kind of stuff is okay only contributes to a slacker, freeloader mentality. The fact that somebody ELSE worked hard to aquire things is of no importance to them.
kimmie
August 23rd, 2010
1:52 pm
Melo – That also would really raise my eyebrows at the type of home-training, if any, he’s recieving.
Dan - simply...
August 23rd, 2010
1:55 pm
@Kimmie/Leggs
That’s junior pimpin right there….that’s all that is…
Why work or even spend my money when she can get it?
Leggs
August 23rd, 2010
1:59 pm
I understand that Dan, and that’s why I sat her down and schooled her on some of the “game”!!!
Leggs
August 23rd, 2010
2:00 pm
@kimmie ~ exactly! Where’s the pride. You shouldn’t be agreeing to borrow money from anyone to take a chick out you like!
Purple Rain
August 23rd, 2010
2:01 pm
LOL, he had her ask you for money so that he could take her to the movie. LOL
Lucinda
August 23rd, 2010
2:01 pm
Si, e caldo
Lucinda
August 23rd, 2010
2:02 pm
Ardente is a better word PR?
blue - Waiting.....
August 23rd, 2010
2:03 pm
so paralyzing criminals, borrowing money for dates, and foreign languages….did i miss anything else while i was gone?
MELO
August 23rd, 2010
2:03 pm
That also would really raise my eyebrows at the type of home-training, if any, he’s recieving.
@Kimmie..but u cld ask the same qstion of what shes being tought about lil Leggs since she saw nothing wrong with it and took that mama and asked.
see,lil kids will be lil kids sometimes..it dont mean they necessarily have it in them..but if left unchecked(that adventerousness) cld do damage later.
I wld prefer a kid with a lil edge and street in them than one thats docile, str8ght and narrow all the dayme time.As long as im there to lead them in the right way.
MELO
August 23rd, 2010
2:04 pm
took that to mama
kimmie
August 23rd, 2010
2:06 pm
That’s junior pimpin
Dan – And “pimpin”, jr or sr, isn’t CUTE! I certainly wouldn’t find it cute if it were MY daughter, much less someone elses.
And no it’s not harmless, because I would seriously question the kind of upbringing that boy is getting. That’s just not something to take lightly.
Leggs
August 23rd, 2010
2:06 pm
@Melo ~ I see your point, but where I stood I took it that my child was greedy, wanted to see this boy come hook or crook!!! Selfishness is something she learned all on her own. I did silently question why she was comfortable in asking me!
Lucinda
August 23rd, 2010
2:07 pm
Melo stop thinking one kind of man has the market on skills. I sure the ladies here cantell you stories od men with skillz and those without a clue… And if they’ve been with different types, they can also tell you the stereotypes have plenty of exceptions.
Just get tired of the same old assmptjons
kimmie
August 23rd, 2010
2:08 pm
but if left unchecked(that adventerousness) cld do damage later.
Melo – That’s all I’m saying!
And yes kids will be kids, but you gotta check um!
Purple Rain
August 23rd, 2010
2:08 pm
Lucinda, what are you describing with “ardente” or “caldo”
kimmie
August 23rd, 2010
2:10 pm
Melo – Would you have given that lil boy DAP if the shoe was on the other foot and that was YOUR daughter he was practicing that cheap pimp move on?
Don’t bother to answer – I’m sure you’ll find a way to justify it. All u men stick together!
MELO
August 23rd, 2010
2:11 pm
kimmie??
if a kid does not do anything wrong,then there is no need for a parent in their lyfe.Kids learn by making mistakes….so do adutlts anyway.
@Leggs..lil legs is 16 and her hormones are raging and will test u this way and that way..innocently..even when she may have a percuniary interest in the whole thing.
my 16 yr old does the same…
Thats why u and I are there to guide them..say no or yes and expalin stuff sometimes etc.
MELO
August 23rd, 2010
2:11 pm
@Kimmie..read 2.10
Purple Rain
August 23rd, 2010
2:12 pm
kimmie, to easy I see the trap you laid out there. LOL
2CPTG©
August 23rd, 2010
2:14 pm
“Beautiful”….come back, I wanna ask you some’n…..where’s Raqi…
Lucinda
August 23rd, 2010
2:16 pm
PR hot, as in enticing…
what you are
Purple Rain
August 23rd, 2010
2:19 pm
Lucinda ardente is better
caldo is more “luke warm”
kimmie
August 23rd, 2010
2:19 pm
Melo I’m not stupid, I get we all learn from mistakes and kids are going to make them. They are human. Some jr pimp just wouldn’t be making them at the expense of my kid, that’s all. Lil Leggs made a mistake too, by bringing that to her mom. It was actually a good thing because it became a learning experience. She’ll remember this years from now – what she decides to do with what she learned will be up to her when she becomes an adult.
Those kids that broke into Leggs house didn’t just become “bad” kids overnight. It started with small stuff they got away with, including slacking off. I notice everything about a person’s behavior and usually it all ends up adding up in the end.
Dan - simply...
August 23rd, 2010
2:21 pm
@Kimmie
Never said it was “cute” (because I only use that word when referring to myself).
As Major Colvin said “They are not training for our world, they’re training for there’s. They know exactly what the world expects them to be. And this here, this is practice.”
blue - Waiting.....
August 23rd, 2010
2:22 pm
@kimmie – lol.
@PR – just drop me like a hot potatoe soon as Lucinda shows up, huh? lol.
@Leggs – lil leggs isnt still talking about that same kid is she? i was hoping she’d give it up when you schooled her on the loan..
Purple Rain
August 23rd, 2010
2:24 pm
blue, sorry…I’m easy. LOL
Purple Rain
August 23rd, 2010
2:26 pm
elbows on neck or foot on throat during intimacy….anyone ever done that or had it done to them?
MELO
August 23rd, 2010
2:26 pm
Those kids that broke into Leggs house didn’t just become “bad” kids
@Kimmie…i wasnt talking about those..I was specifically commenting on u tying the borrowing kid to the stealing kids.. and u excalating his borrowing to potential thief…
the borrowing kid did nothing wrong,broke no law..his request was just lame and pimpish….
even when u counsel a kid,the counseling has to be tempered by and measured with the offense..Really.
Lucinda
August 23rd, 2010
2:27 pm
Blue. You gotta learn some language! LOL
Simple Man!!!!
August 23rd, 2010
2:27 pm
Dan – simply… @ 2:21
Nice way to work in that quote from “Bunny Colvin”!!! All ways down with references to The Wire!!!
Purple Rain
August 23rd, 2010
2:29 pm
Ok, so I am the weird one. LOL
Dan - simply...
August 23rd, 2010
2:29 pm
@PR
Forearm across the back of the neck when she tries to “raise up with dignity”.
kimmie
August 23rd, 2010
2:31 pm
even when u counsel a kid,the counseling has to be tempered by and measured with the offense..Really.
Melo – Again, I’m no dummy. I’m not saying treat the jr pimp like the jr theives! I’m saying raise your eyebrows, be watchful and don’t be surprised if that lame move doesn’t grow into bigger moves, if not checked. Really…