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Does fashion matter?

Have you ever had a date show up and their entire outfit was inappropriate  or maybe even bizarre?  I think it seems like a silly thing to “deduct” points on when you are checking somebody out.  Does fashion really matter that much, though?

I remember talking to a guy who said he didn’t call for a second date because the woman showed up to the first date looking too conservative.  He said she may as well have worn a “nun habit” considering how little skin she was showing.

What do you think fashion and style says about our personalities and image on the dating scene?

Would you dump someone because you didn’t like the way they dressed?

Is it ever a good idea to give wardrobe  “suggestions” to people you are dating?  What if you were in a relationship, do you think it’s ok to change your significant others’ clothing or style?

When you see people out and about, is it their “style” that catches your eye before their looks?

Happy Friday!

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Darling Nikki (AKA..PrincessNik)

August 20th, 2010
8:31 am

When you see people out and about, is it their “style” that catches your eye before their looks?

I think a combination of the two catches my eye. I love a well dressed, neat man.

Happy Friday !

YESSHEISCUTE

August 20th, 2010
8:45 am

I don’t think this applies to guys so much as women. I’m not too concerned with a man’s sense of fashion. If he is trendy thats ok….but if he is too into being fashionable (i.e. he can dress me better than I can), there will be big question mark over his head. I think that for the guy that said the woman dressed too conservatively is full of ish and was just looking for something to say. had she been showing skin he probably would have had something adverse to say. I think she was appropriately dressed it just didn’t appeal to [i]him[/i]. I know some Christian guys who would have jumped all over it. I have a friend who is very extreme and if a girl is showing any type of skin he will not go on another date with her b/c he feels as a Christian she should not dress worldly or to appeal to his sexual nature.

Bottom line, tomato tomahto. As long as you look neat and clean and you match I think it depends on personal taste.

DreamsMaterialize

August 20th, 2010
8:57 am

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Leggs

August 20th, 2010
8:57 am

Good morning.

Must admit that what he is wearing may catch my eye enough to give consideration, or it may be just enough for me to give a blank stare and remain polite but keep it moving. Hell, what looks nice to me or on me may be a complete mess to another.

blue - They Like Our App!! Waiting.....

August 20th, 2010
9:00 am

GM all,

im not all about fashion necessarily, not looking for you to be up on the latest trends and all. but i do need you to be clean, neat, matching, and presentable. cami pants with a plaid shirt is gonna make me walk on by.

Dan - simply...

August 20th, 2010
9:01 am

I spend all day wearing the mask,

After work is a whole nuther matter – I wear what I wanna.

I expect her to do the same.

‘Sup

Leggs

August 20th, 2010
9:03 am

To me fashion isn’t necessarily about being up on the latest trends, it’s more about wearing your clothing respectively, being neat in your appearance and definitely not mixing polka dots with stripes.

Darling Nikki (AKA..PrincessNik)

August 20th, 2010
9:04 am

but i do need you to be clean, neat, matching, and presentable.

@ blue

Definately agree!

Simple Man!!!!

August 20th, 2010
9:05 am

Good Morning All!!! I have to admit that I am something of a clothes “Hoe”!! Now I don’t do trendy fashions (I don’t own a single piece of sean john, fubu, phat farm ect) but I am aways concious about how I look. I like the ways I feel when I am fly :)

DreamsMaterialize

August 20th, 2010
9:05 am

Morning
What if you were in a relationship, do you think it’s ok to change your significant others’ clothing or style?
I thought all women did this once they snagged the guy. lol

Chick: You’re not wearing that shirt are you?

Dude: Yeah. I look fly right?

Chick: Here, wear this other shirt I bought you.

Dude: What’s wrong with this shirt? I wore this on our first date. You loved it. You said it was original and creative.

Chick: I DID say it was original and creative, but SURE didn’t say I loved it. I love YOU, but I sure as he!! don’t love that shirt.

Darling Nikki (AKA..PrincessNik)

August 20th, 2010
9:06 am

I DID say it was original and creative, but SURE didn’t say I loved it. I love YOU, but I sure as he!! don’t love that shirt.

Dreams

That was funny!

Run4life

August 20th, 2010
9:16 am

I like to wear trendy, alluring clothes that show off my best assets in the appropriate manner (dress sexy but conservatively in the office) and trendy, hot style when I’m off work.

So, if a guy is wearing something nerdy, he is probably 100% geeky. And sorry guys but that is boring (for me). I like the conservative khakis, polo shirt, jeans, button down shirt, Ed Hardy type combinations on a guy. But phat farm, fubu, etc gotta go if you are going to continue to hang with me. If you are taking me out to dinner on a first date, put on khakis or casual slacks. Sometimes it is just how the clothes hang on you.

I am guilty of giving up on a guy if he doesn’t know how to dress.

blue - They Like Our App!! Waiting.....

August 20th, 2010
9:18 am

@Dreams – lol. yeah, can see a woman doing that.

my biggest thing is please dont embarass me in public. i, not a big fan of orange, but you like orange fine. not gonna try to change your shirt with the orang color and sleeves, or pockets or whatever. but if you expect to step out with me in a bright orange sweat suit, i may stand back a bit. and if under that bright orange jump suit, the top zipping up, your wearing a zebra stripe polo, we got issues.
we dont necessarily have to agree on everything, but please dont embarass me :lol:

kimmie

August 20th, 2010
9:19 am

Happy Friday Blog Gang!

I absolutely LOVE fashion! I can’t afford to dress like I really would like, but I do okay with what I have and can find bargains on quality clothing. I dress appropriate with my own unique flare. For dates, I like to dress fun & cute, not skanky or nunish.

As for men, I absolutely love a well-dressed man! Fortunately my SO knows how to dress, in fact of all my boyfriends he wins the best-dressed award. He’s classic with a bit of edge, which is what I like. He is a rarity though. I find that most men, especially straight men, don’t know how to dress. They cover the basics, but that’s about it. And it doesn’t matter where they are from either – still the same. But this is MY opinion.

As far as men and first impressions, don’t roll up looking like a rapper or a pimp, raggedy or like you just crawled out of bed. Be neat, clean and appropriate for the occasion.

kimmie

August 20th, 2010
9:22 am

Also, please be age-appropriate. Dress like a man.

kimmie

August 20th, 2010
9:27 am

Run – See geeky preppy would totally work for me because I like nerds. I’ll take a boring outfit over rapper attire with pants dragging any day of the week!

Oooh, and a guy that has a nice buff chest and arms wearing a taylored, fitted dress shirt, smelling good – now that’s hot to me! :)

Simple Man!!!!

August 20th, 2010
9:27 am

Ladies, when you say men dont’ know how to dress, do you men they don’t have an eye for color ( like blue said) or that they / we do not know fabrics or patterns or what?? What is that you think guys are missing??

Darling Nikki (AKA..PrincessNik)

August 20th, 2010
9:33 am

Blue_ be easy on the orange, that’s my favorite color :)

Kimmie_please be age-appropriate. Dress like a man.
See geeky preppy would totally work for me because I like nerds. I’ll take a boring outfit over rapper attire with pants dragging any day of the week!

Oooh, and a guy that has a nice buff chest and arms wearing a taylored, fitted dress shirt, smelling good – now that’s hot to me!

we are >>>here<<<

Leggs

August 20th, 2010
9:36 am

Fashion is NOT seeing grown men with their shorts below the crack of their behinds. I’m not really a fan of those long shorts nearly touching a man’s ankles. Put some pants on, a belt at your waist and a nice pair of shoes.

2CPTG©

August 20th, 2010
9:38 am

“but if he is too into being fashionable (i.e. he can dress me better than I can), there will be big question mark over his head.”

ummm, why?

I like to tell people, I’m the type of guy that’ll get his nails done, but ain’t scared to get ‘em dirty, either! Nor, am I afraid to wear pink….

i'm swiss™

August 20th, 2010
9:42 am

I like to bust out my glow-in-the-dark banana man-thong on a first date. Is that wrong?

DreamsMaterialize

August 20th, 2010
9:43 am

I remember picking up a chic for a date once in college. I had on jeans, an untucked polo, and a pair of nice crispy clean classic tims (my MO back then). When I got to her house, she was dressed super grown woman fly. When she saw me she was like “are you going like that or do you need to change?” I admit she was so fly it threw me off for a sec, and I was about to cave, but instead I just said “yep I’m good. let’s go.” we actually ended up having a good time.

Darling Nikki (AKA..PrincessNik)

August 20th, 2010
9:43 am

Put some pants on, a belt at your waist and a nice pair of shoes.

Leggs, how about own some shoes besides sneakers :lol:

Luvbug

August 20th, 2010
9:44 am

My opinion has been covered here already…be clean and age appropriate.

2CPTG – Do you know the name of your nail lady??

blue - They Like Our App!! Waiting.....

August 20th, 2010
9:45 am

@kimmie – a guy that has a nice buff chest and arms wearing a taylored, fitted dress shirt, smelling good – how do i make smily face drool on here? like Niki said, we are >>>here<<< :lol:
@Simple Man – ime, its a little bit of everything. its color and patterns and fabric – yeah, black technically goes with everything, but black track pants with a tan, yellow, and white striped silky type shirt: not always your best option.
ime, guys tend to build their outfits around a particular favorite, a fav shirt that they put with everything regardless of how it looks, a fav color that leads to some bad matches, its just kinda all over the place.
@swiss – 8O , :LOL:

Dan - simply...

August 20th, 2010
9:46 am

Why would wear some khaki’s to the movies?

Have y’all seen them seats before the lights go off? Who’s paying for the dry cleaning/stain removal?

Shoot, on a first date, it’s fortunate that I have on a full shirt and not a Westside wifebeaz….

Leggs

August 20th, 2010
9:48 am

@DNikki ~ I’ve said here many times, yes, please own some shoes.

2CPTG©

August 20th, 2010
9:48 am

of course I know the names….however, I’ll do ‘em myself at times….yep, I know how to push/cut my own cuticles, and I’m pretty proficient with an emery board! what!

kimmie

August 20th, 2010
9:49 am

Simple – The reasons I say men don’t know how to dress run the gamut, including what you said. Too many to list. Choice of fabric and poor to no tayloring. Bad fit. Not knowing what patterns or colors to put together. 40 years old and still dressing like a teenager. 40 years old and don’t own at least one suit or a sport jacket. No real sense of style. The list goes on. Some are worse offenders than others.

As long as a guy doesn’t embarass me, I’m cool though. I am a little bougie, I admit it, but as long as he is neat, clean and appropriate I can deal with him. Just too often though, clothes and appearance can cause people to make snap judgements that may or may not be true. He could be a really nice, smart guy but if he rolls up looking like a thug, he may get treated as such. That would be unfortunate, but that’s life.

Darling Nikki (AKA..PrincessNik)

August 20th, 2010
9:49 am

it’s fortunate that I have on a full shirt and not a Westside wifebeaz

Dan, this image doesn’t match your vocabulary :lol:

Luvbug

August 20th, 2010
9:49 am

2CPTG- Umm Huh…yeah okay.

AmazonRed™

August 20th, 2010
9:50 am

I hope fashion doesn’t matter…if so I’ve already LOST! :lol:

Said as I’m wearing my Target brand sandals, jeans and baby tee (ie my uniform)

kimmie

August 20th, 2010
9:52 am

Amred – Girl, I love Tar-jay! That’s not a bad thing at all!

DreamsMaterialize

August 20th, 2010
9:52 am

Ladies
So you all telling me you would pass over Boris Kodjoe (or insert the name of guy who gives you that tingle) if he had on polka dots and stripes, or had his pants hanging off his a$$, or had a nerdy/geeky style? you would dismiss him without even a second thought?

Leggs

August 20th, 2010
9:53 am

@Dan ~ fortunate for who? The lady who doesn’t have to see the flab under your arm, or fortunate for you that you gave up being comfy in an overstated fashion statement such as a wife beater (is that one or 2 words)? (J/K).

kimmie

August 20th, 2010
9:54 am

Dan – Do you have an ascot, pocket watch or monicle?

blue - They Like Our App!! Waiting.....

August 20th, 2010
9:55 am

@kimmie – Bad fit. 40 years old and still dressing like a teenager. – good ones. the baggy jeans, pants falling, shirt hanging sloppy is a big turn off for me. act like you know your size and wear it. and please, ime men wanna preach about being being grown men, then dress like one. stop dressing like any minute someones gonna break out a basketball and start dribbling (not saying basketball doesnt have its place, just not when we are going for dinner and a movie). im grown, your grown, can we look like it?

Simple Man!!!!

August 20th, 2010
9:55 am

Damn….Fellas getting KILLED today! Slacky pants, beatup sweatsuits, turned over sneakers…the ladies are crushing dudes for everything except ” now & later gators” :) :) :)

Darling Nikki (AKA..PrincessNik)

August 20th, 2010
9:55 am

you would dismiss him without even a second thought?

Dreams, Heck no, the potential is larger than the immediate disdain for his “tacky” outfit. ;)

Luvbug

August 20th, 2010
9:56 am

Not the monicle wifebeater combo…I’m bout to pass out. LOL

Darling Nikki (AKA..PrincessNik)

August 20th, 2010
9:58 am

stop dressing like any minute someones gonna break out a basketball and start dribbling (not saying basketball doesnt have its place, just not when we are going for dinner and a movie). im grown, your grown, can we look like it?

BLUE you hit it dead on with that! Please dress appropriately for the activity

blue - They Like Our App!! Waiting.....

August 20th, 2010
9:59 am

how exactly would you arrange the ascot with the wife beater?…and a monicle….wow….mental pic…special LOL

SexyCool

August 20th, 2010
10:01 am

Ill fitting, sloppy, wrinkled clothes are a turn off. If you show up looking like you just started putting on clothes until you were covered, yeah…I’m not going to be feeling you.

And I shan’t start on the shoes.

Dan - simply...

August 20th, 2010
10:01 am

@Kimmie – no monicle

@Leggs – Flab? Clearly you’ve not seen the D in a minute.

@ARed – Did we just agree on something? (that feels weird)

MELO

August 20th, 2010
10:02 am

Dressing shldnt matterlater on coz u accpetd the dude/chic the way he/she is anyway!

@Kimmie..somebody’s dressing shldnt matter to anybody else except the person they are dating. If they cant get dates coz of their dressing, then thats a different matter.

Ive seen grown men wearing jeans and sneakers,with fly women but at events that i thoght were dress up proffessional. Their men are happy with it.

People get attracted to who they are attracted to in the beginning and some times it may be becoz of those baggy,bootey jeans hes rocking,his Airforce one…with his numerous tats on display.

Hello folks!

DreamsMaterialize

August 20th, 2010
10:02 am

Damn….Fellas getting KILLED today!
Simple this is why I dress how I want.

Dan - simply...

August 20th, 2010
10:02 am

@SC – really?

Shant?

MELO

August 20th, 2010
10:03 am

Their women are happy with it..meant to say!

SexyCool

August 20th, 2010
10:03 am

Yeah…too many dudes out here dressing like big little boys.

Leggs

August 20th, 2010
10:04 am

@Dan ~ I remember the last time I saw you. I know you’ve lost weight. I was just trying to get a rise out of you. :wink: